April 15, 2025 • 31 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
What would you how would you define your perfect day?
What's your perfect day? Can keep tell me right now,
because because there's a scientific formula for the perfect day.
According to the University of British Columbia, they have cracked
the formula for the so called best day ever using
data from the American Time Use Survey. But before I
(00:21):
tell you what they said the perfect day? You wake
up what time you wake up about? Nine am? Okay? Okay,
all right, okay, I'm awake now it to nine am.
And you eat a good breakfast. Okay did I make
it or did somebody else make it for me? On
a good day? Somebody ordered it for Okay, you're delivered right, Okay.
So I'm in my house m hm.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
And you eat a good breakfast, and then you put
on some clothes that are easy to wear, like leggings
or jogging pants, sweatpants, and like my fur boots.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
So I got my leggings and my fur boots on. Okay,
good that would. And then I am going to like TJ.
Speaker 2 (00:59):
Mac Martials somewhere mindless bathroom body works, like I just
go in and it's all about the vibes. I'm just
buying what I want not like I don't have a list.
I'm not looking for anything in particular, but it's just
what I want.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
You're walking through every aisles.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
And slow, like the make Ultra, like the makeup store.
I'm just vibing, right, and I spend a bunch a
bunch of money. Then I leave there and I hear
somebody's drive through. Now you might go to like Starbucks,
or you might see like Raisin Cane. You know, like
you just whatever the vibe is. Okay, you get you
a snack, yes, okay, we this day for me. Then
(01:38):
you go and get a facial. Oh my god, okay, and.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
You get a facial.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
And then after you leave your facial, you go home
and you take everything you bought from the store and
lay it out on your counter and just admire it,
you know what I'm saying. And then you cuddle with
your dog or your man or your kid, whatever you like.
And for me, it's a dog. And so you cud
it with your dog and you watch some reality TV. Okay,
but at the same time you scroll on TikTok, so
(02:08):
you never really saw what was happening on the TV.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
That's right, it's just there. I've noticed I have to
turn the TV off for proper TikTok scrolling. I can't
do both if the TV's going and TikTok. It's too much.
It's too much. It's too much, okay, overstimulated.
Speaker 2 (02:23):
So then after you realize that you have watched all
your shows but you didn't really watch them. Now it's
time to put your phone on a charger and actually
watch your shows. But by this time you're hungry again,
so you order a good meal for the.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
Nights, okay, which would be how about you to the house? Okay, house?
It shows up. Okay, I've done it before. Okay, shows up. Okay,
it shows up. Okay, It's fine. It's not as good
as if if I made it there. That's the chef,
h I know, well, I know you guys haven't yet
figured out I'm working there on the weekend. I have
(02:55):
a second job. And yeah, yeah like that, okay, all right.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
And then after you eat your you make a couple
of TikTok videos like whatever's on your mind.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
You just get on. Now we're working all of a sudden, this.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
Is my dream day, like, and then I make some
content and then I lay down and I just lay
and scroll until I can't scroll anymore till.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
I fall asleep, till you have you done the thing
where you're laying and I know the answer, it's rhetorical.
Where you lay in bed and you're scrolling and your
arms start to get like fall asleep you got.
Speaker 3 (03:26):
Or you do.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
In the air, you know, and it's like you start
to feel like they're getting weaker. You start dropping your
phone up right on my face.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Notice I didn't have any human contact throughout the whole day.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
Oh no, I did notice that. Probably this is probably
my favorite part of you describing your day. That's the
perfect day. Well, that perfect day. Yeah, that is a
perfect day. That's my Saturday. That's that's your perfect day.
Speaker 4 (03:51):
Yes, I change a couple of things around. I would
take my friend Jonathan with me because he has to
come with. We do this every Saturday. I pick them
up and we take the baby. Sometimes she stays, sometimes
she goes. We go to Target walk every aisle like
we are like an old married couple. And then we
go to either Kakoola restaurants to get lunch, or we
go to Hooters.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
I gotta go one of my spots. You've ever been
starting to Hooters more because you know I'm trying to
save them.
Speaker 4 (04:14):
He'll eat the plain chicken tenders or whatever they have
the boness, the boness I don't.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
I don't do bonness. I never never touched the bonness
in my life.
Speaker 5 (04:22):
I've seen his plate before. Yeah, your parties, I'm like, girl, Yeah,
that makes your.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
Mind boneless, boneless catch it's childish, rubber. It's easier your children.
It's not great. I don't need on an animal's bone.
I need the bone I need on a bone. I
just don't. I don't have to have the bone. I don't.
That's so carnival is.
Speaker 6 (04:42):
If you want to say boneless as child is, it's a.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
Very very carnival of you to just chew one bone.
That is me a carnival animal electively.
Speaker 4 (04:49):
Yes, okay, I enjoy it, except I got to the
party two about working. I'm not making a TikTok after
I eat habachis the last thing I'm gonna doing.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
TikTok from the toilet. I got to review the haibachi's.
Speaker 6 (05:00):
But that's how you thrive.
Speaker 1 (05:02):
Yes, that is Jason. Yeah, perfect day, the perfect day.
I disagree.
Speaker 7 (05:07):
I would sleep till like eight, but I love going
out to breakfast, so like I would get up and
like go and get like a skillet or something like.
Speaker 6 (05:14):
I like going out to breakfast.
Speaker 7 (05:16):
And then honestly, I would just come home and lay
for the majority of the day, just because that's my
favorite thing to do in the world, is just lay
TV on with the Office playing on repeat a whole
marathon while I'm on TikTok okay.
Speaker 6 (05:30):
And then when my phone dies, that's when I put
on a charger.
Speaker 7 (05:32):
But then I get my iPad, prop it up on
my stomach on a little stand I have and swipe
that way until that dies. And then you just rotate
that all day. And then at night it's peppies and
I'm drunk on Margarita's by seven pm, okay, okay, and
then in bed because.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
That's your neighborhood Mexican restaurant where you you also work
on the weekends because you serve yourself.
Speaker 6 (05:55):
Right, But this day I wouldn't work.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
You wouldn't go behind the barn and make your own
margarita like you often do. No, you have human contact.
Speaker 6 (06:02):
Just probably Mike.
Speaker 8 (06:04):
No.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
That would be a lot of people coming over to
my side of the no human contact scale, a lot
of people coming over to decide I'm over here. People
thought it was weird.
Speaker 5 (06:14):
Those are introverts, you three.
Speaker 9 (06:15):
A lot of.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
People thought I was weird for not wanting human contact.
Speaker 7 (06:19):
The thing is, I just like, by the time of
the weekend, I'm just sick of talking, Like I'm just
sick of timing people, like I just can't talk anymore.
And I feel like Mike gets the downside of that
because he probably wants to yap, and I'm like, I
just that's energy anymore.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
There you go, I get it. We talked for a
living Yeah, kaylin, perfect day.
Speaker 10 (06:37):
Okay, So I wake up in a cabin it's summer,
next to Tupac.
Speaker 5 (06:43):
He does he does what he does.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
Okay. I was thinking about, okay, you can have your
perfect day, but your perfect day, I was thinking of
something more attainable. Since all right, maybe maybe maybe Tupac
is in your cabin. We've been looking for it. No wonder,
You're always there.
Speaker 5 (06:57):
He loves it.
Speaker 10 (06:58):
I checked my bank account and like, money is no object.
Speaker 5 (07:01):
You know, somebody sent me a big payment. I don't know.
Speaker 1 (07:03):
I don't know when this became fantasy. Everybody else's was attainable.
This sounds like a dream. But okay, okay, So now
now all of a sudden, you're you know, brain surgeon,
So you have okay, absolutely not well no, I mean
because you have unlimited funds, because you obviously have changed jobs.
Speaker 5 (07:19):
No, no, no, I'm not like rich.
Speaker 10 (07:20):
I can just like buy whatever food want that.
Speaker 5 (07:23):
Day and like money is no object and made me
treat my friends.
Speaker 10 (07:26):
Okay, so we wake up, somebody made a bomb breakfast
and all my friends are there.
Speaker 5 (07:32):
My friends like make me feel.
Speaker 10 (07:33):
Like, I don't know, I need to be around the
right people, Like I don't want to be around certain people,
but I want to be around people that like I
can be quiet with. You know, we chill, we eat
a good breakfast, we hit the boat. You know, we're outside,
we're swimming, we're drinking a little bit. We come back,
order pizza and have like a botton fire and fall asleep.
Speaker 5 (07:51):
Naturally, maybe a little game.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
Most of that is attainable, but you could do that
right now. Most of them that I'm singing in real life,
like the part where you have unlimited funds, I don't know,
and the Tupac part that's not yet. So the researchers
at the university of British Columbia. They cracked this formula,
I guess, or that they came up with him based
on data from the American Time Youth Survey. I don't
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know about this. It starts with six hours with family.
Oh now, I love my family deeply, but six that
is I'm sorry, six hours with family is not the
perfect day. Family family involved in the day is fine,
but everyone's getting older now and a little more eccentric
(08:37):
and high maintenance, and there's children involved, and speak on it,
you know. And I would have said my brother in law,
but I actually would rather hang out with him than
most everybody else. So it's an amazing turnaround. I'll take
him over my sister any day. He and Polly and
I guess may you know, because she's probably stoned. I
know she's only one, but she's already high. Like Mayve
(08:59):
is going to be a pot head and she and
I are going to it's going to be great. Maybe
is Colin. And I'm not saying he's a pothead, but
maybe is Colin? And Polly is Amanda princess. Look at me,
big production, big drama, big emotion, you know, big outburst
kind of thing. That's my sister, and that's Polly. Maybe
(09:20):
I can see her just like reading a book, smoking
a joint. You know, well, kid, why you know? But why? Yeah?
Two hours with friends. I would flip that. I would
say six hours with friends and two hours with family,
and maybe even some overlap because my friends like my family.
So yeah, there's that. An hour and a half of
(09:41):
additional socializing. So now we're up to nine and a
half hours of talking to people. This is not my
perfect day. All two hours of exercise? Oh how long
is this day? And how much do I want to
torture myself? Right? Blocked that website. One hour of eating
and drinking. No more than six hours is it work? No,
the perfect day, no work. The perfect day has no
(10:04):
work at it whatsoever. I love my job, but I
don't want to work on the perfect day. No more
than an hour of screen time. This is I don't
know who came up with this. No more than fifteen
minutes of commuting. No, I don't agree with this. What's
this is terrible? That is a terrible day. I'm up
now for eighteen hours somehow, and I spent more than
(10:27):
half of it talking to other people.
Speaker 7 (10:30):
No, six hours of family and like six hours of
working for it, Like what.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
I'm up till three am on a yeah, I'm working
now all of a sudden, when do I have time
for that? Because I just spent six hours with my family,
So now the twelve hour workday, I guess six hours family,
six hours? Yeah, what's going on? What's that perfect day?
I say, I would sleep in because I still have
(10:57):
the ability to do that, which a lot of people
who get up this early in Europe now, I mean,
if you're listening to us, the people who get up
at four, you know, ish four thirty whatever, A lot
of our peers, they can't sleep in. I can sleep in.
I can sleep till ten, no problem. But I have
the opposite problem where I go to bed at eight
(11:18):
thirty nine. I get tired a eight thirty nine every day.
So it's the opposite of what most people. Most people
they their body wants to wake them up early no
matter what. I don't have that problem. I have the
other problem where I get tired early, which is kind
of it kind of sucks in the other way. So
i'd be sleeping. I would have some format it would
either go to or have breakfast delivered or made for me,
(11:41):
maybe something involving an airplane, maybe fly somewhere. There would
be a beach or a pool involved. There would be
mine altering substances, be at alcohol or or legal gummies
if they're legal where I am. Yeah at the time, right,
and I was flying. Of course, you know this is
(12:01):
all hypothetical, of course, because I would never obviously planes,
I would never ever, of course.
Speaker 8 (12:08):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
And there would be some form of sexual contact. Yeah, yeah,
y'all left that out. So I don't know.
Speaker 11 (12:17):
I will do what he does, okay, So okay, anything
so we're by ourselves again, then our eyes are closed,
fully charged.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
Someone I should play him. I should play him to
bog just I don't know if that make you feel
a certain kind of way. And then I would probably
go to bed early. Maybe maybe a book, maybe a lego.
I mean, there's nothing, There's nothing hotter than don get
with a hot chicken. Then go put some legos together
and go to bed. I once heard a story, and
I still have never been able to confirm if it's
(12:52):
I'm not sure how I would Speaking of of sex
and legos, do you remember when Tiger Woods was getting
with all those like alleged getting with the strippers. Yes,
one of them. This is way back. This is in
the two thousands when this is happening. One of them
went on like a strip club tour afterwards and came
to the radio station and not here. It was in Charlotte,
(13:13):
and we interviewed her, and she claimed that she would
hide out, that his manager would like arrange for her
to be in his hotel room, like when he was
on the PGA tour or whatever. He'd go back to
the room, they'd get it on. She claimed it was amazing,
that he was amazing in bed, and as soon as
they were done, he would put on footy pajamas, any
kid cereal and watch cartoons. Now, I don't know if
(13:35):
this is true. That's what this woman alleged. Okay, and
I remember that was so weird. I thought, this is
very weird.
Speaker 5 (13:41):
He never had a childhood though, so it was very
it was understandable.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
Yeah, so I don't up. Yeah, so I wouldn't do
the footy pajamas thing. It would be more like a
Lululemon kind of thing, you know, maybe a Vori kind
of thing. But then, you know, thank you for that.
I got to build Micheloian is not yet assembled. Let's
do headlines biggest stories of the day in two minutes.
Fred Show Fread Show is on. It's stay or go
(14:05):
all right, Cassie, Hi, Cassie, good morning, Good morning. Still
trying to get over the grilled cheese sandwich. I gotta
eat when I get home. That sounds good, though, I
mean that's probably what it will be, but there's no
protein in that. But this isn't about me. This is
about you, Cassie. What's going on with this? This is
your husband, right, this is three years you've been married
(14:27):
to as a man.
Speaker 9 (14:29):
Yeah, so I've been married three years, but we've actually
been together for seven so I feel like I've known
him enough by now, and I'm just so freaking frustrated.
Speaker 1 (14:39):
Yeah, I got your note here from Fred Show Radio
dot com. So all right, what's the issue. You're frustrated
because what what is this guy doing? Let's handle this
right now. We're gonna solve this problem for you.
Speaker 9 (14:51):
Good, I hope. So's I'm losing my mind. So he
stays up all night to play video games and people
tell me I should be grateful because he doesn't drink
or d drugs, but he'll be screaming at people till
four in the morning, and I can't get any sleep,
and he can't get any sleep, and he spends all
his money and time on it. And he doesn't buy
(15:12):
me flowers, but he'll buy a sixty dollars video game.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
Oh boy. So he's got his headset on and he's
yelling at you know, some kid in Tacoma, Washington. You
know he's playing Madden or whatever. Those death games are,
the shooting games Call of Duty COD.
Speaker 9 (15:28):
Yeah, yeah, and I'm sure they're all eleven years old. Right,
I'm like, get some friends. I don't know.
Speaker 1 (15:35):
Yesterday or I don't know if it was a tangent
or on the air, but yeah, it's a little weird that,
you know, adults are playing against children. And I get
that kids are good at these games and whatever, but
I know it's a little strange. Okay, So this dude's
spending all this time so he doesn't buy you flowers.
He's not in bed next to you, He's not I
don't know, he's not paying enough attention to you. He's
(15:56):
obsessed with these video games. It's bothering you.
Speaker 9 (15:59):
Yeah, And since I so crawl in bed and I'll
be like, Okay, it's been a while, maybe we'll have
some you know, some sexy time. And no, he just
is too tired from it. And I can't believe he's
choosing that over me, and I don't know it. It
drives me crazy, and it's it's really hurting our marriage. Honestly.
Speaker 1 (16:18):
I've seen tiktoks and I don't know if they're real
or not, but I've seen tiktoks of women who walk
out completely naked in front of their men who are
playing video games. And these dudes don't even look up.
Speaker 5 (16:25):
They'd rather play with their controllers.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
They don't even look up, and the woman's just standing there, like,
come hither, you know. Yeah, I assume you've said something
to him. I assume you've been like, yo, dude, you know,
I'm fine with this as a as a distraction or
as you know, in moderation, the same way you'd be
fine with him playing golf for whatever else, whatever he does.
(16:48):
But come on, like, enough is enough. We can't spend
hours and hours. We have to like be a couple
and communicate it and spend time together. You can't always
be video games. I assume you've said that to him.
Speaker 9 (16:59):
Yeah, and I'll dress up and I don't know. He
just like I don't know. He's like more in love
with the video games than me. But yeah, the other
day about like sixty dollars with a lingerie and no,
he wasn't having it. He was not interested, and.
Speaker 1 (17:13):
He was mad because he couldn't spend the sixty bucks
to make his little Mario Kart better or whatever. Yeah,
but what's his response? He's tired, Like when you say
this to him, when you say, like, hey man, what
does he say to you in response or does he
have a response.
Speaker 9 (17:26):
Well, like I said, he says, Okay, he doesn't drink
and he doesn't do drugs, so he'll remind me of that.
And maybe I should be great focus. My girlfriends tell
me that, but I don't know. I feel like maybe
he's just gasolighting me. But I can't tell because I
don't know. I feel like it's an addiction in itself.
I feel like this is a problem.
Speaker 1 (17:45):
Yeah, somebody texted, well, it's not he's out cheating, okay,
but I mean that's a bit extreme, right, Like, yeah,
that's nice that he's not defiling your marriage, but he's
not lucky. He's not spending enough time with you, he's
not paying attention to you. Again, an hour here, hour there,
maybe even an hour a day or whatever a couple
I don't know, a couple hours. But if you're sitting
there from the time you get home to whenever playing
(18:08):
these games, like what are you avoiding? You know, because
that's what I would argue, like what is it? Why
are you so intense on doing this? As it posted?
Why'd you get married? I mean, I know these are
you know, much broader questions, but this is a problem.
And I don't care if it's that or god, what
other other things that you could be doing any anything
(18:29):
other than paying attention to your significant other a little
bit occasionally, Right, That's not too much to ask, Cassie.
Speaker 9 (18:38):
Yeah, and definitely I'm glad you brought that up, because
it definitely feels like he's cheating sometimes. But then again,
I feel like I'm just being selfish. But then again,
I don't know who he's talking to on the games,
like is it a child or is it a woman?
Like I have no idea. He's just in there at
four am, so I don't know, but it does feel
a little bit like, you know, the significant other is
his freaking games.
Speaker 1 (18:58):
Well, now, hold on, Cassie, let us be the ones
to jump to the wild. Let Kiki be the ones
the ones to jump to the wild conclusions. Okay, I
mean I was just I was I was focused more
on the fact that he's playing the games and now
Kik's probably gonna take it to well, he's obviously talking
to a woman. No, no, on the headset, that's where
you would go with this. Okay, let me take some
phone calls on this. Eight five, five, five, nine one
(19:19):
one three five. Have the radio one, Cassie. Let's see
what people have to say. I'm sure there are other
people who have been through this or are going through this,
uh and may have something to say about it, But
I'm not sure. I mean, I wouldn't say go no,
but I would also say it's something that needs to
be rectified, because I mean, what's the point of being
(19:41):
in a in a relationship if there's no dialogue, if
there's no moderation, if he's not spending time with you.
And it doesn't have to be all the time, but
I mean, come on, sometimes right.
Speaker 9 (19:52):
Yeah, yeah, for sure, for sure, I mean at least
once a week. But he's got to get off the games.
He really does.
Speaker 1 (19:58):
Let's see what the folks have to say. Thank you, Cassie,
good luck, have a good day.
Speaker 9 (20:03):
Thank you. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (20:04):
Someone sitting on the sex Lego building, you keep those,
you keep them. Keep lego out of your mouth.
Speaker 5 (20:08):
It's got that Sabrina Carboner skin gone.
Speaker 1 (20:10):
He keeps that out of your mouth. I don't. There
is no one at home, so I can do whatever
I want. I could eat my cheese sandwich on my legos,
actually can, because I can't get the grease on the legos.
And oh it's smudges. It looks terrible. That would drive
you crazy. Yeah. No, I've read about this on people
on Reddit that some people use gloves to assemble the legos.
Some people they wash their hands every fifteen minutes because
the oils will get on the shiny parts of the
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lego and it makes it duller.
Speaker 7 (20:34):
All right, yeah right, yeah, that's too far for me.
Speaker 1 (20:39):
I mean, so for the people who have gamers, these
significant others, I mean, how do you what would you
say to this?
Speaker 2 (20:45):
I had this situation, but it wasn't to this extreme,
and we weren't married, but we were living together and
my ex was a super gamer to the point where
I knew the names of the people on the game
that he would be talking to, Like I would walk
in the crib like what a war machine?
Speaker 5 (20:58):
That was one of his gamers.
Speaker 1 (21:01):
On the game.
Speaker 2 (21:02):
And but and I to some of the textters point
like he's not out in the street. You know, he's
safely in your house in the mills. He's still active.
But it was like not to this extreme. So my
my suggestion to this lady would be, take a talk
to your partner, take away the game for a week,
and just see how he adjusts. If he is like
(21:24):
sweating and he's like having withdrawals, then it's in an
addiction and he needs to go talk to.
Speaker 1 (21:29):
Somebody about it.
Speaker 2 (21:30):
If he can't go a week without it, then you
all have a big problem.
Speaker 1 (21:34):
I'm would say try that the whole he's not cheating
thing or she's not cheating bot is not That is
not a good enough justification. Like I'm being negligent in
my relationship, I'm ignoring my partner, I'm not fulfilling my
partner my obligation as a as as a member of
this relationship. But I'm not cheating.
Speaker 2 (21:53):
So and I'm not drunk or doing drugs to be.
Speaker 1 (21:58):
It's not a malicious thing that he's doing. He's a
malicious thing yet he's doing.
Speaker 2 (22:01):
It's a hobby that he's obsessed with. And I think
if you figure out that there may be an issue that,
like a real addiction, then you can work through that.
I don't think she needs to leave her marriage, is
what people are saying. Like, if he was cheating, if
he was at the bar, the strip club every night, then.
Speaker 1 (22:15):
Yeah, you got a big, big problem.
Speaker 2 (22:16):
But this man is playing video games in the middle
of the night, so maybe he was with you all day.
He just can't sleep, he can't go to sleep. That
may be another thing that he can talk through with
a therapist. I think it's an addiction there. But I
just I don't want her to leave her marriage over this.
Speaker 1 (22:30):
You're right, I would have said there's malice, But I
also I would argue that if she's expressed a concern
and he doesn't adjust his behavior, then there's a problem. Yes,
and it may not be rooted and hate, but it
also or dislike. But it's also he's ignoring her, he's
not concerned about her needs. It would sound like Amanda, Hi, Hey,
(22:56):
what do you want to say? Good morning, Welcome, thanks
for listening.
Speaker 12 (22:59):
Good morning. I just wanted to say I have a
lot of intake on this. My boyfriend also plays a
lot of video games, and so you know, he got
me a computer and everything. So we actually play video
games together because he was spending a lot of time
on it, and we have games that we play together,
and so we kind of made it like an US
thing and it's worked out so far. It's really fun.
Speaker 1 (23:21):
So basically, you had you had to go over to
his side. You had to either get into his hobby
or you were going to see him. I'm not trying
to minimize, you know what the compromise you come up with,
But it wasn't all play less and do your thing.
It was you can just do what I'm doing.
Speaker 12 (23:34):
Yeah, because I like to leave by like example, So
I was like, well, if this is something he's into,
then I can be into it. So now he's the
one that comes to like Farmers Markets with me, he'll
go out with me, because it's like a I started
a compromise, so I started the bend and so now
he bends back. So it's worked out pretty well and
we I actually have fun like those games that I
play by myself now, and I'm just like, no, I'm
(23:55):
playing by myself.
Speaker 1 (23:56):
Yeahs A, the tables turn and Amanda, you know Amanda
Killer sixty nine sixty nine on on cod Wait wait,
wait till you become a champion and and you're not
paying attention to him anymore. We'll see how he likes
it then, exactly.
Speaker 12 (24:09):
And that's another thing I wanted to say too, is
if he's not, like, you know, wanting to spend time
with you, like, go spend time with yourself, get all
delld up, go take yourself to dinner. He'll see that
and he'll be like, wait, am I missing out on things?
Speaker 1 (24:20):
And he definitely not a bad idea. Thank you, Amanda,
have a good day. What do you want to say, P.
Speaker 4 (24:28):
I'm going to get dragged to hell by the gamer community,
like I know they're going to come for me at
this very moment.
Speaker 1 (24:34):
Go ahead.
Speaker 4 (24:35):
Well, but I say with my chest because I don't
understand this hobby.
Speaker 1 (24:38):
And somebody I think, texted, no, I really.
Speaker 4 (24:40):
Don't, and I have hobbies to people probably look at
it and go I don't understand why or whatever. But
someone texted us in saying that most gamers are in
their thirties. So now is this deeper, Like is this
like a childhood thing, like you didn't get your games
when you were a kid, or you didn't get to
play enough when you were a kid.
Speaker 1 (24:54):
I do that. It's a distraction. It's a diversion from
real life. And I don't think that's all bad in moderation.
I have the same way that I think people golf.
They get their mind off stuff legos. Yeah, well, I
mean that's why I'm doing it. I'm not doing it
because I really need a model of a car, you know,
or whatever. I just it's something i've found, it's something
I can do. That just I have to think about
(25:16):
it and not whatever else is going on. And that's
like literally yesterday, I'm putting this thing together and it's
my phone's going ding ding ding ding ding, and I'm
not paying any attention because I want to finish that
section of what I was doing. And that is an
okay thing for me, because otherwise that phone goes thing,
I grab it and I attend to that, and that
is that is a slippery slope. You ignored me, that's abuse.
What did you ask me?
Speaker 3 (25:36):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (25:36):
I sent you. I was calling you, but you was
doing lego. You did not right now.
Speaker 4 (25:43):
But yeah, that makes sense, I guess because everyone's entitled
to their their fun. I guess if legos makes you
happy and it's fun and it distracts you from the world, cool,
But I guess the moderation is key, right for anything
you do in life. To be sitting all night like
you're thirteen years old, like your parents are, you know,
like got the lenk it over your head.
Speaker 1 (25:58):
Parents are coming in and get your game boy whatever.
Like that's too much. Yeah, I mean if you're not
you know, bathing and eating and going to work and
your relationship and whatever else. Hey, Jane, you live this Thane,
Good morning.
Speaker 3 (26:10):
J Yeah. I my first husband and he was in
med school, you name it. I mean, the whole world
coming for him and gonna look good. And he started
gaming and it was all the time. And you know,
Trump's therapy. You know that's a big thing for her
to do. But if he won't do it, it's not
(26:31):
going to get me better. I mean, it's it's sad,
but it is an addiction. When it's like interfering with
your life, it's no different than the bottle. It's no
different than staying out all night. It's the same exact thing.
It's just been a different task. Yeah, it's not even
a good way. Addiction is addiction, and that's what's going on.
And if she doesn't get any help, you know, she's
(26:51):
looking at three years now, she's looking at fifteen or twenty. Yeah,
because it's going to stop.
Speaker 1 (26:57):
You left your husband over this, It says, yes, I did. Wow, Wow,
I'm sorry that happened to you. But I mean, I again,
I think you're right. I mean it may be different,
you know, chemically or whatever. But if if someone has
behavior that's detrimental to your relationship and you try and
address it and it doesn't change, I don't know what
you're supposed to do.
Speaker 3 (27:18):
Yeah, it's either you can accept it for what it
is and stay because all she can do is control
what she does. And she can either accept it and
hope it changes it may it may not, or she
can go.
Speaker 1 (27:30):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (27:30):
I mean, if he's not gonna she can't make him
do anything. And if it's not, if the relationship isn't
worth it for him, then she you knows, decided she
wants to stay with him or not, because you know
what happens if they have kids.
Speaker 1 (27:44):
Yeah, well, fair enough, and then Jean, thank you, thanks
for calling, thanks for starting to have a good day.
You know, if I could quote the great Mel Robbins
from the Lead Them Theory, yeah, rob Yeah, well she's
we tried to get her on and we were denied
too busy. Oh yeah, so he took about five seconds
for them to say not happening. But she does kind
(28:05):
of address this at the end of the book, talking
about you know, people's behavior, like trying to get someone
to work out was an example she used, Like if
you have a partner who just lays on the couch
all day and won't get in shape, and you've tried
to express that you care about their health and well
being and whatever. First of all, you got to model
the proper behavior, which would be then to maybe do
some of these things that you want him to do yourself.
(28:27):
But you cannot ride people like you simply cannot ride
someone and give ultimatums and make threats and the rest
of it. It's like, you know, maybe she does. I mean,
maybe there's something too. Getting dulled up and going out
with her friends and not riding him on it all
I see you later and going out and living life
and having a good time and doing the things that
she wants to do without him, and either he's going
(28:48):
to see that and go, Okay, wait a minute. You
know she's not on me about this? Why not? You
know why all of a sudden Is she not all
over me about changing my behavior? Is she moving on?
Is she? Do? I need to try harder? You know?
And again, it's not about him, it's about you. But
at the same time, and if you do that long
enough and there's zero adjustment, zero change, zero motivation, then
(29:09):
you got to go. But I mean, I think you
start by again. If every day you come home we're
like a video game again, that's not going to motivate
anybody to change. Look at me, I'm basically a motivational speaker. Now,
Thanks Mel Robbins. I'm gonna give a Ted talk soon. Hey, Kara,
let them Hello? Hi, how are you? What you so?
Just to recap I'm storry to interrupt you, but just
(29:30):
to recap your stair go. This woman is married to
a guy who appears to be addicted to video games.
He cares more about the video games than he does
about spending time with her.
Speaker 8 (29:37):
What do you think I mean, girl, Look, it does
not matter if he's not in the clubs. It does
not matter if he's not cheating with her and doing drugs.
The end result is the same. He is not chaining
out with her like a married man should be. And seriously,
who takes a grown man seriously who plays video games
(29:58):
all day?
Speaker 5 (29:58):
And alost me he lost me?
Speaker 1 (29:59):
Oh my, well, what do you mean video games all day?
I wouldn't take a person seriously who plays video games
all day instead of attending their needs and their relationship.
Speaker 8 (30:09):
Who could Now she can jump on the bandwagon and
get into video games with him, But then what happens
when they have kids?
Speaker 1 (30:18):
Yeah?
Speaker 8 (30:18):
I mean she's got two, three, four kids with him included.
Speaker 3 (30:23):
Well there, you make it a family.
Speaker 1 (30:25):
Thing the kids. Is he even involved in that process?
You know? Because he's playing with.
Speaker 8 (30:32):
Her right now?
Speaker 9 (30:33):
How can he be involved with them?
Speaker 1 (30:35):
Yeah? I agree, girls, gotta go have a good day.
Speaker 10 (30:43):
I was with her, But I think it's okay to
sometimes take someone seriously who plays video games all day
and all night constantly. No, I'm with I think it's
okay to sometimes do that, Like it's okay to indulge
my issue, which is what she started with, is going well,
at least I'm not doing X, Y or Z. No,
that was what you committed to when we got into
a relationship. You the bars on the floor. You are
giving me the bare minimum you owe me that, so
(31:05):
to go. I'm not doing this, so I should be
allowed to do this. That is completely unfair, and that's manipulation.
Speaker 1 (31:10):
I don't care if it's video games or working out.
I don't even care if it's a healthy activity. If
you're doing something all day and all night, you're obsessed.
Speaker 5 (31:18):
I could be worse, Yeah, for sure. But I'm saying
you can have days where you do that and indulge.
Speaker 1 (31:22):
I'm okay with.
Speaker 2 (31:23):
That, true, because I mean it's like your kid doing
drug like mom. I could be a crackheads, ribbing banks,
rob banks these days.
Speaker 1 (31:35):
It's not arm Well, I don't know. I'd much rather
you do that, see what I'm saying. Yeah, we're gonna
move on to entertainment. Report is up next? Five hundred
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What would you how would you define your perfect day?
What's your perfect day? Can keep tell me right now,
because because there's a scientific formula for the perfect day.
According to the University of British Columbia, they have cracked
the formula for the so called best day ever using
data from the American Time Use Survey. But before I
(00:21):
tell you what they said the perfect day? You wake
up what time you wake up about? Nine am? Okay? Okay,
all right, okay, I'm awake now it to nine am.
And you eat a good breakfast. Okay did I make
it or did somebody else make it for me? On
a good day? Somebody ordered it for Okay, you're delivered right, Okay.
So I'm in my house m hm.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
And you eat a good breakfast, and then you put
on some clothes that are easy to wear, like leggings
or jogging pants, sweatpants, and like my fur boots.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
So I got my leggings and my fur boots on. Okay,
good that would. And then I am going to like TJ.
Speaker 2 (00:59):
Mac Martials somewhere mindless bathroom body works, like I just
go in and it's all about the vibes. I'm just
buying what I want not like I don't have a list.
I'm not looking for anything in particular, but it's just
what I want.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
You're walking through every aisles.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
And slow, like the make Ultra, like the makeup store.
I'm just vibing, right, and I spend a bunch a
bunch of money. Then I leave there and I hear
somebody's drive through. Now you might go to like Starbucks,
or you might see like Raisin Cane. You know, like
you just whatever the vibe is. Okay, you get you
a snack, yes, okay, we this day for me. Then
(01:38):
you go and get a facial. Oh my god, okay, and.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
You get a facial.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
And then after you leave your facial, you go home
and you take everything you bought from the store and
lay it out on your counter and just admire it,
you know what I'm saying. And then you cuddle with
your dog or your man or your kid, whatever you like.
And for me, it's a dog. And so you cud
it with your dog and you watch some reality TV. Okay,
but at the same time you scroll on TikTok, so
(02:08):
you never really saw what was happening on the TV.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
That's right, it's just there. I've noticed I have to
turn the TV off for proper TikTok scrolling. I can't
do both if the TV's going and TikTok. It's too much.
It's too much. It's too much, okay, overstimulated.
Speaker 2 (02:23):
So then after you realize that you have watched all
your shows but you didn't really watch them. Now it's
time to put your phone on a charger and actually
watch your shows. But by this time you're hungry again,
so you order a good meal for the.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
Nights, okay, which would be how about you to the house? Okay, house?
It shows up. Okay, I've done it before. Okay, shows up. Okay,
it shows up. Okay, It's fine. It's not as good
as if if I made it there. That's the chef,
h I know, well, I know you guys haven't yet
figured out I'm working there on the weekend. I have
(02:55):
a second job. And yeah, yeah like that, okay, all right.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
And then after you eat your you make a couple
of TikTok videos like whatever's on your mind.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
You just get on. Now we're working all of a sudden, this.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
Is my dream day, like, and then I make some
content and then I lay down and I just lay
and scroll until I can't scroll anymore till.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
I fall asleep, till you have you done the thing
where you're laying and I know the answer, it's rhetorical.
Where you lay in bed and you're scrolling and your
arms start to get like fall asleep you got.
Speaker 3 (03:26):
Or you do.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
In the air, you know, and it's like you start
to feel like they're getting weaker. You start dropping your
phone up right on my face.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Notice I didn't have any human contact throughout the whole day.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
Oh no, I did notice that. Probably this is probably
my favorite part of you describing your day. That's the
perfect day. Well, that perfect day. Yeah, that is a
perfect day. That's my Saturday. That's that's your perfect day.
Speaker 4 (03:51):
Yes, I change a couple of things around. I would
take my friend Jonathan with me because he has to
come with. We do this every Saturday. I pick them
up and we take the baby. Sometimes she stays, sometimes
she goes. We go to Target walk every aisle like
we are like an old married couple. And then we
go to either Kakoola restaurants to get lunch, or we
go to Hooters.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
I gotta go one of my spots. You've ever been
starting to Hooters more because you know I'm trying to
save them.
Speaker 4 (04:14):
He'll eat the plain chicken tenders or whatever they have
the boness, the boness I don't.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
I don't do bonness. I never never touched the bonness
in my life.
Speaker 5 (04:22):
I've seen his plate before. Yeah, your parties, I'm like, girl, Yeah,
that makes your.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
Mind boneless, boneless catch it's childish, rubber. It's easier your children.
It's not great. I don't need on an animal's bone.
I need the bone I need on a bone. I
just don't. I don't have to have the bone. I don't.
That's so carnival is.
Speaker 6 (04:42):
If you want to say boneless as child is, it's a.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
Very very carnival of you to just chew one bone.
That is me a carnival animal electively.
Speaker 4 (04:49):
Yes, okay, I enjoy it, except I got to the
party two about working. I'm not making a TikTok after
I eat habachis the last thing I'm gonna doing.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
TikTok from the toilet. I got to review the haibachi's.
Speaker 6 (05:00):
But that's how you thrive.
Speaker 1 (05:02):
Yes, that is Jason. Yeah, perfect day, the perfect day.
I disagree.
Speaker 7 (05:07):
I would sleep till like eight, but I love going
out to breakfast, so like I would get up and
like go and get like a skillet or something like.
Speaker 6 (05:14):
I like going out to breakfast.
Speaker 7 (05:16):
And then honestly, I would just come home and lay
for the majority of the day, just because that's my
favorite thing to do in the world, is just lay
TV on with the Office playing on repeat a whole
marathon while I'm on TikTok okay.
Speaker 6 (05:30):
And then when my phone dies, that's when I put
on a charger.
Speaker 7 (05:32):
But then I get my iPad, prop it up on
my stomach on a little stand I have and swipe
that way until that dies. And then you just rotate
that all day. And then at night it's peppies and
I'm drunk on Margarita's by seven pm, okay, okay, and
then in bed because.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
That's your neighborhood Mexican restaurant where you you also work
on the weekends because you serve yourself.
Speaker 6 (05:55):
Right, But this day I wouldn't work.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
You wouldn't go behind the barn and make your own
margarita like you often do. No, you have human contact.
Speaker 6 (06:02):
Just probably Mike.
Speaker 8 (06:04):
No.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
That would be a lot of people coming over to
my side of the no human contact scale, a lot
of people coming over to decide I'm over here. People
thought it was weird.
Speaker 5 (06:14):
Those are introverts, you three.
Speaker 9 (06:15):
A lot of.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
People thought I was weird for not wanting human contact.
Speaker 7 (06:19):
The thing is, I just like, by the time of
the weekend, I'm just sick of talking, Like I'm just
sick of timing people, like I just can't talk anymore.
And I feel like Mike gets the downside of that
because he probably wants to yap, and I'm like, I
just that's energy anymore.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
There you go, I get it. We talked for a
living Yeah, kaylin, perfect day.
Speaker 10 (06:37):
Okay, So I wake up in a cabin it's summer,
next to Tupac.
Speaker 5 (06:43):
He does he does what he does.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
Okay. I was thinking about, okay, you can have your
perfect day, but your perfect day, I was thinking of
something more attainable. Since all right, maybe maybe maybe Tupac
is in your cabin. We've been looking for it. No wonder,
You're always there.
Speaker 5 (06:57):
He loves it.
Speaker 10 (06:58):
I checked my bank account and like, money is no object.
Speaker 5 (07:01):
You know, somebody sent me a big payment. I don't know.
Speaker 1 (07:03):
I don't know when this became fantasy. Everybody else's was attainable.
This sounds like a dream. But okay, okay, So now
now all of a sudden, you're you know, brain surgeon,
So you have okay, absolutely not well no, I mean
because you have unlimited funds, because you obviously have changed jobs.
Speaker 5 (07:19):
No, no, no, I'm not like rich.
Speaker 10 (07:20):
I can just like buy whatever food want that.
Speaker 5 (07:23):
Day and like money is no object and made me
treat my friends.
Speaker 10 (07:26):
Okay, so we wake up, somebody made a bomb breakfast
and all my friends are there.
Speaker 5 (07:32):
My friends like make me feel.
Speaker 10 (07:33):
Like, I don't know, I need to be around the
right people, Like I don't want to be around certain people,
but I want to be around people that like I
can be quiet with. You know, we chill, we eat
a good breakfast, we hit the boat. You know, we're outside,
we're swimming, we're drinking a little bit. We come back,
order pizza and have like a botton fire and fall asleep.
Speaker 5 (07:51):
Naturally, maybe a little game.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
Most of that is attainable, but you could do that
right now. Most of them that I'm singing in real life,
like the part where you have unlimited funds, I don't know,
and the Tupac part that's not yet. So the researchers
at the university of British Columbia. They cracked this formula,
I guess, or that they came up with him based
on data from the American Time Youth Survey. I don't
(08:14):
know about this. It starts with six hours with family.
Oh now, I love my family deeply, but six that
is I'm sorry, six hours with family is not the
perfect day. Family family involved in the day is fine,
but everyone's getting older now and a little more eccentric
(08:37):
and high maintenance, and there's children involved, and speak on it,
you know. And I would have said my brother in law,
but I actually would rather hang out with him than
most everybody else. So it's an amazing turnaround. I'll take
him over my sister any day. He and Polly and
I guess may you know, because she's probably stoned. I
know she's only one, but she's already high. Like Mayve
(08:59):
is going to be a pot head and she and
I are going to it's going to be great. Maybe
is Colin. And I'm not saying he's a pothead, but
maybe is Colin? And Polly is Amanda princess. Look at me,
big production, big drama, big emotion, you know, big outburst
kind of thing. That's my sister, and that's Polly. Maybe
(09:20):
I can see her just like reading a book, smoking
a joint. You know, well, kid, why you know? But why? Yeah?
Two hours with friends. I would flip that. I would
say six hours with friends and two hours with family,
and maybe even some overlap because my friends like my family.
So yeah, there's that. An hour and a half of
(09:41):
additional socializing. So now we're up to nine and a
half hours of talking to people. This is not my
perfect day. All two hours of exercise? Oh how long
is this day? And how much do I want to
torture myself? Right? Blocked that website. One hour of eating
and drinking. No more than six hours is it work? No,
the perfect day, no work. The perfect day has no
(10:04):
work at it whatsoever. I love my job, but I
don't want to work on the perfect day. No more
than an hour of screen time. This is I don't
know who came up with this. No more than fifteen
minutes of commuting. No, I don't agree with this. What's
this is terrible? That is a terrible day. I'm up
now for eighteen hours somehow, and I spent more than
(10:27):
half of it talking to other people.
Speaker 7 (10:30):
No, six hours of family and like six hours of
working for it, Like what.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
I'm up till three am on a yeah, I'm working
now all of a sudden, when do I have time
for that? Because I just spent six hours with my family,
So now the twelve hour workday, I guess six hours family,
six hours? Yeah, what's going on? What's that perfect day?
I say, I would sleep in because I still have
(10:57):
the ability to do that, which a lot of people
who get up this early in Europe now, I mean,
if you're listening to us, the people who get up
at four, you know, ish four thirty whatever, A lot
of our peers, they can't sleep in. I can sleep in.
I can sleep till ten, no problem. But I have
the opposite problem where I go to bed at eight
(11:18):
thirty nine. I get tired a eight thirty nine every day.
So it's the opposite of what most people. Most people
they their body wants to wake them up early no
matter what. I don't have that problem. I have the
other problem where I get tired early, which is kind
of it kind of sucks in the other way. So
i'd be sleeping. I would have some format it would
either go to or have breakfast delivered or made for me,
(11:41):
maybe something involving an airplane, maybe fly somewhere. There would
be a beach or a pool involved. There would be
mine altering substances, be at alcohol or or legal gummies
if they're legal where I am. Yeah at the time, right,
and I was flying. Of course, you know this is
(12:01):
all hypothetical, of course, because I would never obviously planes,
I would never ever, of course.
Speaker 8 (12:08):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
And there would be some form of sexual contact. Yeah, yeah,
y'all left that out. So I don't know.
Speaker 11 (12:17):
I will do what he does, okay, So okay, anything
so we're by ourselves again, then our eyes are closed,
fully charged.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
Someone I should play him. I should play him to
bog just I don't know if that make you feel
a certain kind of way. And then I would probably
go to bed early. Maybe maybe a book, maybe a lego.
I mean, there's nothing, There's nothing hotter than don get
with a hot chicken. Then go put some legos together
and go to bed. I once heard a story, and
I still have never been able to confirm if it's
(12:52):
I'm not sure how I would Speaking of of sex
and legos, do you remember when Tiger Woods was getting
with all those like alleged getting with the strippers. Yes,
one of them. This is way back. This is in
the two thousands when this is happening. One of them
went on like a strip club tour afterwards and came
to the radio station and not here. It was in Charlotte,
(13:13):
and we interviewed her, and she claimed that she would
hide out, that his manager would like arrange for her
to be in his hotel room, like when he was
on the PGA tour or whatever. He'd go back to
the room, they'd get it on. She claimed it was amazing,
that he was amazing in bed, and as soon as
they were done, he would put on footy pajamas, any
kid cereal and watch cartoons. Now, I don't know if
(13:35):
this is true. That's what this woman alleged. Okay, and
I remember that was so weird. I thought, this is
very weird.
Speaker 5 (13:41):
He never had a childhood though, so it was very
it was understandable.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
Yeah, so I don't up. Yeah, so I wouldn't do
the footy pajamas thing. It would be more like a
Lululemon kind of thing, you know, maybe a Vori kind
of thing. But then, you know, thank you for that.
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(14:05):
all right, Cassie, Hi, Cassie, good morning, Good morning. Still
trying to get over the grilled cheese sandwich. I gotta
eat when I get home. That sounds good, though, I
mean that's probably what it will be, but there's no
protein in that. But this isn't about me. This is
about you, Cassie. What's going on with this? This is
your husband, right, this is three years you've been married
(14:27):
to as a man.
Speaker 9 (14:29):
Yeah, so I've been married three years, but we've actually
been together for seven so I feel like I've known
him enough by now, and I'm just so freaking frustrated.
Speaker 1 (14:39):
Yeah, I got your note here from Fred Show Radio
dot com. So all right, what's the issue. You're frustrated
because what what is this guy doing? Let's handle this
right now. We're gonna solve this problem for you.
Speaker 9 (14:51):
Good, I hope. So's I'm losing my mind. So he
stays up all night to play video games and people
tell me I should be grateful because he doesn't drink
or d drugs, but he'll be screaming at people till
four in the morning, and I can't get any sleep,
and he can't get any sleep, and he spends all
his money and time on it. And he doesn't buy
(15:12):
me flowers, but he'll buy a sixty dollars video game.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
Oh boy. So he's got his headset on and he's
yelling at you know, some kid in Tacoma, Washington. You
know he's playing Madden or whatever. Those death games are,
the shooting games Call of Duty COD.
Speaker 9 (15:28):
Yeah, yeah, and I'm sure they're all eleven years old. Right,
I'm like, get some friends. I don't know.
Speaker 1 (15:35):
Yesterday or I don't know if it was a tangent
or on the air, but yeah, it's a little weird that,
you know, adults are playing against children. And I get
that kids are good at these games and whatever, but
I know it's a little strange. Okay, So this dude's
spending all this time so he doesn't buy you flowers.
He's not in bed next to you, He's not I
don't know, he's not paying enough attention to you. He's
(15:56):
obsessed with these video games. It's bothering you.
Speaker 9 (15:59):
Yeah, And since I so crawl in bed and I'll
be like, Okay, it's been a while, maybe we'll have
some you know, some sexy time. And no, he just
is too tired from it. And I can't believe he's
choosing that over me, and I don't know it. It
drives me crazy, and it's it's really hurting our marriage. Honestly.
Speaker 1 (16:18):
I've seen tiktoks and I don't know if they're real
or not, but I've seen tiktoks of women who walk
out completely naked in front of their men who are
playing video games. And these dudes don't even look up.
Speaker 5 (16:25):
They'd rather play with their controllers.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
They don't even look up, and the woman's just standing there, like,
come hither, you know. Yeah, I assume you've said something
to him. I assume you've been like, yo, dude, you know,
I'm fine with this as a as a distraction or
as you know, in moderation, the same way you'd be
fine with him playing golf for whatever else, whatever he does.
(16:48):
But come on, like, enough is enough. We can't spend
hours and hours. We have to like be a couple
and communicate it and spend time together. You can't always
be video games. I assume you've said that to him.
Speaker 9 (16:59):
Yeah, and I'll dress up and I don't know. He
just like I don't know. He's like more in love
with the video games than me. But yeah, the other
day about like sixty dollars with a lingerie and no,
he wasn't having it. He was not interested, and.
Speaker 1 (17:13):
He was mad because he couldn't spend the sixty bucks
to make his little Mario Kart better or whatever. Yeah,
but what's his response? He's tired, Like when you say
this to him, when you say, like, hey man, what
does he say to you in response or does he
have a response.
Speaker 9 (17:26):
Well, like I said, he says, Okay, he doesn't drink
and he doesn't do drugs, so he'll remind me of that.
And maybe I should be great focus. My girlfriends tell
me that, but I don't know. I feel like maybe
he's just gasolighting me. But I can't tell because I
don't know. I feel like it's an addiction in itself.
I feel like this is a problem.
Speaker 1 (17:45):
Yeah, somebody texted, well, it's not he's out cheating, okay,
but I mean that's a bit extreme, right, Like, yeah,
that's nice that he's not defiling your marriage, but he's
not lucky. He's not spending enough time with you, he's
not paying attention to you. Again, an hour here, hour there,
maybe even an hour a day or whatever a couple
I don't know, a couple hours. But if you're sitting
there from the time you get home to whenever playing
(18:08):
these games, like what are you avoiding? You know, because
that's what I would argue, like what is it? Why
are you so intense on doing this? As it posted?
Why'd you get married? I mean, I know these are
you know, much broader questions, but this is a problem.
And I don't care if it's that or god, what
other other things that you could be doing any anything
(18:29):
other than paying attention to your significant other a little
bit occasionally, Right, That's not too much to ask, Cassie.
Speaker 9 (18:38):
Yeah, and definitely I'm glad you brought that up, because
it definitely feels like he's cheating sometimes. But then again,
I feel like I'm just being selfish. But then again,
I don't know who he's talking to on the games,
like is it a child or is it a woman?
Like I have no idea. He's just in there at
four am, so I don't know, but it does feel
a little bit like, you know, the significant other is
his freaking games.
Speaker 1 (18:58):
Well, now, hold on, Cassie, let us be the ones
to jump to the wild. Let Kiki be the ones
the ones to jump to the wild conclusions. Okay, I
mean I was just I was I was focused more
on the fact that he's playing the games and now
Kik's probably gonna take it to well, he's obviously talking
to a woman. No, no, on the headset, that's where
you would go with this. Okay, let me take some
phone calls on this. Eight five, five, five, nine one
(19:19):
one three five. Have the radio one, Cassie. Let's see
what people have to say. I'm sure there are other
people who have been through this or are going through this,
uh and may have something to say about it, But
I'm not sure. I mean, I wouldn't say go no,
but I would also say it's something that needs to
be rectified, because I mean, what's the point of being
(19:41):
in a in a relationship if there's no dialogue, if
there's no moderation, if he's not spending time with you.
And it doesn't have to be all the time, but
I mean, come on, sometimes right.
Speaker 9 (19:52):
Yeah, yeah, for sure, for sure, I mean at least
once a week. But he's got to get off the games.
He really does.
Speaker 1 (19:58):
Let's see what the folks have to say. Thank you, Cassie,
good luck, have a good day.
Speaker 9 (20:03):
Thank you. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (20:04):
Someone sitting on the sex Lego building, you keep those,
you keep them. Keep lego out of your mouth.
Speaker 5 (20:08):
It's got that Sabrina Carboner skin gone.
Speaker 1 (20:10):
He keeps that out of your mouth. I don't. There
is no one at home, so I can do whatever
I want. I could eat my cheese sandwich on my legos,
actually can, because I can't get the grease on the legos.
And oh it's smudges. It looks terrible. That would drive
you crazy. Yeah. No, I've read about this on people
on Reddit that some people use gloves to assemble the legos.
Some people they wash their hands every fifteen minutes because
the oils will get on the shiny parts of the
(20:32):
lego and it makes it duller.
Speaker 7 (20:34):
All right, yeah right, yeah, that's too far for me.
Speaker 1 (20:39):
I mean, so for the people who have gamers, these
significant others, I mean, how do you what would you
say to this?
Speaker 2 (20:45):
I had this situation, but it wasn't to this extreme,
and we weren't married, but we were living together and
my ex was a super gamer to the point where
I knew the names of the people on the game
that he would be talking to, Like I would walk
in the crib like what a war machine?
Speaker 5 (20:58):
That was one of his gamers.
Speaker 1 (21:01):
On the game.
Speaker 2 (21:02):
And but and I to some of the textters point
like he's not out in the street. You know, he's
safely in your house in the mills. He's still active.
But it was like not to this extreme. So my
my suggestion to this lady would be, take a talk
to your partner, take away the game for a week,
and just see how he adjusts. If he is like
(21:24):
sweating and he's like having withdrawals, then it's in an
addiction and he needs to go talk to.
Speaker 1 (21:29):
Somebody about it.
Speaker 2 (21:30):
If he can't go a week without it, then you
all have a big problem.
Speaker 1 (21:34):
I'm would say try that the whole he's not cheating
thing or she's not cheating bot is not That is
not a good enough justification. Like I'm being negligent in
my relationship, I'm ignoring my partner, I'm not fulfilling my
partner my obligation as a as as a member of
this relationship. But I'm not cheating.
Speaker 2 (21:53):
So and I'm not drunk or doing drugs to be.
Speaker 1 (21:58):
It's not a malicious thing that he's doing. He's a
malicious thing yet he's doing.
Speaker 2 (22:01):
It's a hobby that he's obsessed with. And I think
if you figure out that there may be an issue that,
like a real addiction, then you can work through that.
I don't think she needs to leave her marriage, is
what people are saying. Like, if he was cheating, if
he was at the bar, the strip club every night, then.
Speaker 1 (22:15):
Yeah, you got a big, big problem.
Speaker 2 (22:16):
But this man is playing video games in the middle
of the night, so maybe he was with you all day.
He just can't sleep, he can't go to sleep. That
may be another thing that he can talk through with
a therapist. I think it's an addiction there. But I
just I don't want her to leave her marriage over this.
Speaker 1 (22:30):
You're right, I would have said there's malice, But I
also I would argue that if she's expressed a concern
and he doesn't adjust his behavior, then there's a problem. Yes,
and it may not be rooted and hate, but it
also or dislike. But it's also he's ignoring her, he's
not concerned about her needs. It would sound like Amanda, Hi, Hey,
(22:56):
what do you want to say? Good morning, Welcome, thanks
for listening.
Speaker 12 (22:59):
Good morning. I just wanted to say I have a
lot of intake on this. My boyfriend also plays a
lot of video games, and so you know, he got
me a computer and everything. So we actually play video
games together because he was spending a lot of time
on it, and we have games that we play together,
and so we kind of made it like an US
thing and it's worked out so far. It's really fun.
Speaker 1 (23:21):
So basically, you had you had to go over to
his side. You had to either get into his hobby
or you were going to see him. I'm not trying
to minimize, you know what the compromise you come up with,
But it wasn't all play less and do your thing.
It was you can just do what I'm doing.
Speaker 12 (23:34):
Yeah, because I like to leave by like example, So
I was like, well, if this is something he's into,
then I can be into it. So now he's the
one that comes to like Farmers Markets with me, he'll
go out with me, because it's like a I started
a compromise, so I started the bend and so now
he bends back. So it's worked out pretty well and
we I actually have fun like those games that I
play by myself now, and I'm just like, no, I'm
(23:55):
playing by myself.
Speaker 1 (23:56):
Yeahs A, the tables turn and Amanda, you know Amanda
Killer sixty nine sixty nine on on cod Wait wait,
wait till you become a champion and and you're not
paying attention to him anymore. We'll see how he likes
it then, exactly.
Speaker 12 (24:09):
And that's another thing I wanted to say too, is
if he's not, like, you know, wanting to spend time
with you, like, go spend time with yourself, get all
delld up, go take yourself to dinner. He'll see that
and he'll be like, wait, am I missing out on things?
Speaker 1 (24:20):
And he definitely not a bad idea. Thank you, Amanda,
have a good day. What do you want to say, P.
Speaker 4 (24:28):
I'm going to get dragged to hell by the gamer community,
like I know they're going to come for me at
this very moment.
Speaker 1 (24:34):
Go ahead.
Speaker 4 (24:35):
Well, but I say with my chest because I don't
understand this hobby.
Speaker 1 (24:38):
And somebody I think, texted, no, I really.
Speaker 4 (24:40):
Don't, and I have hobbies to people probably look at
it and go I don't understand why or whatever. But
someone texted us in saying that most gamers are in
their thirties. So now is this deeper, Like is this
like a childhood thing, like you didn't get your games
when you were a kid, or you didn't get to
play enough when you were a kid.
Speaker 1 (24:54):
I do that. It's a distraction. It's a diversion from
real life. And I don't think that's all bad in moderation.
I have the same way that I think people golf.
They get their mind off stuff legos. Yeah, well, I
mean that's why I'm doing it. I'm not doing it
because I really need a model of a car, you know,
or whatever. I just it's something i've found, it's something
I can do. That just I have to think about
(25:16):
it and not whatever else is going on. And that's
like literally yesterday, I'm putting this thing together and it's
my phone's going ding ding ding ding ding, and I'm
not paying any attention because I want to finish that
section of what I was doing. And that is an
okay thing for me, because otherwise that phone goes thing,
I grab it and I attend to that, and that
is that is a slippery slope. You ignored me, that's abuse.
What did you ask me?
Speaker 3 (25:36):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (25:36):
I sent you. I was calling you, but you was
doing lego. You did not right now.
Speaker 4 (25:43):
But yeah, that makes sense, I guess because everyone's entitled
to their their fun. I guess if legos makes you
happy and it's fun and it distracts you from the world, cool,
But I guess the moderation is key, right for anything
you do in life. To be sitting all night like
you're thirteen years old, like your parents are, you know,
like got the lenk it over your head.
Speaker 1 (25:58):
Parents are coming in and get your game boy whatever.
Like that's too much. Yeah, I mean if you're not
you know, bathing and eating and going to work and
your relationship and whatever else. Hey, Jane, you live this Thane,
Good morning.
Speaker 3 (26:10):
J Yeah. I my first husband and he was in
med school, you name it. I mean, the whole world
coming for him and gonna look good. And he started
gaming and it was all the time. And you know,
Trump's therapy. You know that's a big thing for her
to do. But if he won't do it, it's not
(26:31):
going to get me better. I mean, it's it's sad,
but it is an addiction. When it's like interfering with
your life, it's no different than the bottle. It's no
different than staying out all night. It's the same exact thing.
It's just been a different task. Yeah, it's not even
a good way. Addiction is addiction, and that's what's going on.
And if she doesn't get any help, you know, she's
(26:51):
looking at three years now, she's looking at fifteen or twenty. Yeah,
because it's going to stop.
Speaker 1 (26:57):
You left your husband over this, It says, yes, I did. Wow, Wow,
I'm sorry that happened to you. But I mean, I again,
I think you're right. I mean it may be different,
you know, chemically or whatever. But if if someone has
behavior that's detrimental to your relationship and you try and
address it and it doesn't change, I don't know what
you're supposed to do.
Speaker 3 (27:18):
Yeah, it's either you can accept it for what it
is and stay because all she can do is control
what she does. And she can either accept it and
hope it changes it may it may not, or she
can go.
Speaker 1 (27:30):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (27:30):
I mean, if he's not gonna she can't make him
do anything. And if it's not, if the relationship isn't
worth it for him, then she you knows, decided she
wants to stay with him or not, because you know
what happens if they have kids.
Speaker 1 (27:44):
Yeah, well, fair enough, and then Jean, thank you, thanks
for calling, thanks for starting to have a good day.
You know, if I could quote the great Mel Robbins
from the Lead Them Theory, yeah, rob Yeah, well she's
we tried to get her on and we were denied
too busy. Oh yeah, so he took about five seconds
for them to say not happening. But she does kind
(28:05):
of address this at the end of the book, talking
about you know, people's behavior, like trying to get someone
to work out was an example she used, Like if
you have a partner who just lays on the couch
all day and won't get in shape, and you've tried
to express that you care about their health and well
being and whatever. First of all, you got to model
the proper behavior, which would be then to maybe do
some of these things that you want him to do yourself.
(28:27):
But you cannot ride people like you simply cannot ride
someone and give ultimatums and make threats and the rest
of it. It's like, you know, maybe she does. I mean,
maybe there's something too. Getting dulled up and going out
with her friends and not riding him on it all
I see you later and going out and living life
and having a good time and doing the things that
she wants to do without him, and either he's going
(28:48):
to see that and go, Okay, wait a minute. You
know she's not on me about this? Why not? You
know why all of a sudden Is she not all
over me about changing my behavior? Is she moving on?
Is she? Do? I need to try harder? You know?
And again, it's not about him, it's about you. But
at the same time, and if you do that long
enough and there's zero adjustment, zero change, zero motivation, then
(29:09):
you got to go. But I mean, I think you
start by again. If every day you come home we're
like a video game again, that's not going to motivate
anybody to change. Look at me, I'm basically a motivational speaker. Now,
Thanks Mel Robbins. I'm gonna give a Ted talk soon. Hey, Kara,
let them Hello? Hi, how are you? What you so?
Just to recap I'm storry to interrupt you, but just
(29:30):
to recap your stair go. This woman is married to
a guy who appears to be addicted to video games.
He cares more about the video games than he does
about spending time with her.
Speaker 8 (29:37):
What do you think I mean, girl, Look, it does
not matter if he's not in the clubs. It does
not matter if he's not cheating with her and doing drugs.
The end result is the same. He is not chaining
out with her like a married man should be. And seriously,
who takes a grown man seriously who plays video games
(29:58):
all day?
Speaker 5 (29:58):
And alost me he lost me?
Speaker 1 (29:59):
Oh my, well, what do you mean video games all day?
I wouldn't take a person seriously who plays video games
all day instead of attending their needs and their relationship.
Speaker 8 (30:09):
Who could Now she can jump on the bandwagon and
get into video games with him, But then what happens
when they have kids?
Speaker 1 (30:18):
Yeah?
Speaker 8 (30:18):
I mean she's got two, three, four kids with him included.
Speaker 3 (30:23):
Well there, you make it a family.
Speaker 1 (30:25):
Thing the kids. Is he even involved in that process?
You know? Because he's playing with.
Speaker 8 (30:32):
Her right now?
Speaker 9 (30:33):
How can he be involved with them?
Speaker 1 (30:35):
Yeah? I agree, girls, gotta go have a good day.
Speaker 10 (30:43):
I was with her, But I think it's okay to
sometimes take someone seriously who plays video games all day
and all night constantly. No, I'm with I think it's
okay to sometimes do that, Like it's okay to indulge
my issue, which is what she started with, is going well,
at least I'm not doing X, Y or Z. No,
that was what you committed to when we got into
a relationship. You the bars on the floor. You are
giving me the bare minimum you owe me that, so
(31:05):
to go. I'm not doing this, so I should be
allowed to do this. That is completely unfair, and that's manipulation.
Speaker 1 (31:10):
I don't care if it's video games or working out.
I don't even care if it's a healthy activity. If
you're doing something all day and all night, you're obsessed.
Speaker 5 (31:18):
I could be worse, Yeah, for sure. But I'm saying
you can have days where you do that and indulge.
Speaker 1 (31:22):
I'm okay with.
Speaker 2 (31:23):
That, true, because I mean it's like your kid doing
drug like mom. I could be a crackheads, ribbing banks,
rob banks these days.
Speaker 1 (31:35):
It's not arm Well, I don't know. I'd much rather
you do that, see what I'm saying. Yeah, we're gonna
move on to entertainment. Report is up next? Five hundred
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