April 22, 2025 • 20 mins
Daniel is conflicted after he finds out his wife has been taking their kids to a house for a playdate at a single dad's house without his knowledge... Find out what Fred and the crew have to say!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
That show is on.
Speaker 2 (00:00):
It's stay or go all right, Daniel is here, Hi Daniel,
good morning, Good morning Daniel. What's going on with this
is you're a married man, okay, and you got some
kids and your wife is up to something. You think,
maybe what's the situation?
Speaker 3 (00:21):
So I wanted to get some advice, you know, relationship advice.
So my youngest daughter mentioned something to me about mommy's
new friend Jeff's house. So I was, you know, kind
of caught off guard by that. So I asked my wife.
She told me their kids. You know, my daughter made
friends at the park with this girl, and they went
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over to.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
Their house, the new friend's house, for a playdate. And
Jeff is their dad.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
Okay, Jeff is all right, all right, So the kids
are playing and they go over to Jeff's house.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
Okay. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (00:56):
And so I was just a little put off by that,
Like my wife didn't tell me. I had to find
out through my daughter, and so I guess my way
I'm feeling.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
Am I wrong to be bothered at?
Speaker 3 (01:05):
My wife was married to me, obviously went over to
a single man's house.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
This is a single dad, and I didn't know anything
about it.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
I don't think this is a problem. Why is this
a problem? It's not Why is this a problem? I mean,
the kids are playing like. It's not the kid's fault
that you know, Jeff got divorced or whatever. Sorry for
your love, Jeff, I mean, right, I'm sorry. What if
Jeff's gay?
Speaker 1 (01:27):
Do we know?
Speaker 2 (01:28):
What do we know about Jeff? How much do we
know about this man? And I mean, I mean, I'm
being honest. I'm not I'm not invalidating your concern. I
just I think, like, do you do you always? Are
you always fully briefed on the on the relationship status
of the parents of the playdate? Honestly? And I'm not again, Daniel,
I'm not making funny here, but I'm serious.
Speaker 3 (01:46):
No, I mean, And I confronted my wife and she said,
you know, it's not a big deal. She just the
fact that she didn't bring it up, you know, being suspicious,
and you know, obviously I'm a little insecure about it.
And I you know, I think if the tables were
turned and I would stay at home dad and I
went to a single mom's house, I would be, you know,
have the wherewithal to tell my wife, Hey, I'm going
over to you know whatever Stacey's house and you know,
(02:09):
hang out with it, you know, just so you're aware
of what's going on. The fact that it wasn't, you know,
as you mentioned to me, put me off.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
I had to find out through my daughter.
Speaker 3 (02:16):
And then the way she says, she's like mommy's new friend.
Speaker 1 (02:19):
Jeff. Okay, Well, the wording of that was a little.
Speaker 2 (02:24):
Like I'm gonna, I'm gonna, I'm gonna put a crazy
one out there for you because I am crazy, so
I can do that. Let's say that your wife went
over to Samantha's house and Samantha had a couple of kids.
We're not worried about that, right, We don't say anything
about that about Samantha single mom.
Speaker 3 (02:40):
Right, Sure, No, I'm not worried about that because.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
It turns out Samantha's lesbian.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
Oh turns well, it turns out his wife is exploring, experimenting.
Turns out not to say, I'm just saying if it
were a woman, we wouldn't say anything about this, and
we wouldn't say anything because we don't think there's a
sexual threat, because that's what this is about. This is
about the potential for a sexual threat, when really it's
(03:07):
about the kids playing. Now, I admitted last hour, I'm
an insecure person. This doesn't bother me because why I'm
married to this person. Why are they automatically cheating on me?
If they're alone with a single person, that could be
happening anywhere.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
Why, ouse, Why are you in.
Speaker 4 (03:21):
The house where the kids supposed to play at a park?
The kids play at a park. You don't need to
be in Tim's house or John's house without telling me anything.
John could be a serial killer. And you got you
and my kids in that house and no one has
said anything to me.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
Absolutely not. But Samantha could be a serial killer.
Speaker 4 (03:37):
Jamantha, Samantha could, But I know John might be for real,
I'm not no, no, no, no. My man doesn't need to
be in any other woman's house without my knowledge.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
You guys, if she were alone, if she were like,
if the kids weren't there, yeah, that's know that the kids.
Speaker 4 (03:53):
Might have been in the basement playing at her. And
what timmy what's his name?
Speaker 1 (03:56):
Jeff Yeah, mom's friends Jeff.
Speaker 4 (03:58):
Yeah, MoMA jeh upstands people.
Speaker 5 (04:00):
Are texting that they're saying, why are they saying Jeff's
mommy's friend, Jeff's house?
Speaker 4 (04:05):
And not my friend Susie.
Speaker 1 (04:06):
Right, like you know the age of the kid, Like
maybe that's but.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
You you guys, I am a look, I am insecure
in relationships. Many may I have a lot of unreasonable
thoughts about what I am into and what I'm not
into and what I think is cool, what I don't
think is cool. But I have to tell you when
it comes to the kids, I mean, there's there are
going to be situations where one parents they are the
other parents, not single parent, moms at work, dads at work,
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you know, soccer practice moms there, dad took the kids, mom, mom.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
And sister wives, everybody.
Speaker 2 (04:39):
What I'm just saying, why do we automatically jump to
there has to be infidelity?
Speaker 4 (04:46):
I don't think infidelity.
Speaker 5 (04:47):
My big concern, Well, my concern is maybe I over
communicate with my husband.
Speaker 4 (04:51):
But do people not talk at the end.
Speaker 5 (04:52):
Of the night where it's like you're in bed, you
want to you know, tuck yourself in. Oh, how was
your day?
Speaker 4 (04:56):
All was good.
Speaker 5 (04:57):
We went to Jeff's house and little Susie play with
little Jimmy and they had a great time.
Speaker 1 (05:02):
Like why are they not telling each other this?
Speaker 4 (05:03):
I tell my husband everything. I'll be like, oh, yeah,
I was here today.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
We did this?
Speaker 2 (05:06):
Be more concerned, Paulina if it were over explained to me, wife, Now,
Jeff's a single day, but you have.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
Nothing to work about it because the kids. I'd be like,
wait a minute, hold on, I wasn't working about it.
Speaker 6 (05:17):
He's gay.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
No, not even that.
Speaker 5 (05:18):
It's just like I feel like you just communicate with
your partner and say, how is your day?
Speaker 1 (05:22):
What did you do? Would you see? Where'd you go? Like,
I don't know, it's a little panther No, do you
have any suspicion of your wife? Otherwise?
Speaker 2 (05:30):
I think I'm not invalidating your feelings because there are
a lot of people apparently that agree with you, that
think it's inappropriate. I guess when it comes to the kids,
I guess I don't necessarily think you get to choose,
you know, the marital status of the parents of the kids,
that your friends be friends, right.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
I tend to agree with your co hosts.
Speaker 3 (05:48):
I think everything should be out in the open and
have an open line of communication. If there's nothing to hide,
then use nothing you can't say then just to be
open and just whether and if she went to a
female house, I'd like to know that too, just for
the fact that we're married, we're life partners. Our lives,
you know, do revolve around each other and our children.
So it's nice to know if God forbid, something does
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happen where she was what she's doing. So I think
that's only fair an open line of communication and a
marriage to me, and I would offer her the same
respect from my vantage point. If the table's returned, so
me not getting it, it's just alarm bells went off.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
Yeah, and I hear what you're saying.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
I just think there are far more sinister ways to
conceal infidelity than play dates out And maybe it's maybe it's,
like you know, right out in the open, maybe you
should be worried about this because it's just so obvious that.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
But at the same time, if you don't.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
Suspect your wife, if you don't suspect she's a cheater,
if you've never suspected she's a cheater, then why are
we putting that on her now? In this one situation
that is pretty easily explainable. The kids met at the park,
they hung out. It's not as though you can say, no, kids,
I'm sorry, but we can't go over to that house
because Daddy says that Jeff's a predator. Daniel, I'm just
(07:02):
I mean, it sounds ridiculous and again not making fun
of you, but like, come on, you know what I mean.
It's not as though she. I don't think we targeted
the guy in the playground. Hey, kids, go play with
those kids because daddy's hot, you know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (07:15):
I find it a respect. I wouldn't do that on
my end. I wouldn't go to a single our female's house,
whether single or marriage. Just to me, it would be
just putting yourself in a situation where it's not necessary.
Speaker 1 (07:27):
So I just wouldn't do that.
Speaker 3 (07:28):
So I feel like I should be given that in return,
as you know, equal boundaries, and it's just not even
putting myself in the situation. It just temptation isn't even there.
There's no you know, because that's what leads to others things.
It's just it can easily go down that path. So
I'd rather not even dabble.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
This is ridiculous.
Speaker 5 (07:46):
I'm just saying, communicate with your partner at the end
of the night, when you're having your tea, whatever you
guys do together at night, your wine.
Speaker 4 (07:51):
Just say this is how my day went. That's all
I'm saying.
Speaker 5 (07:53):
But he's taking it too far now, just because you're
a single mom all of a sudden, like you're attempted.
Speaker 4 (07:58):
Come on, like, relax, what's at Jeff's house that's not
at our house?
Speaker 2 (08:04):
Maybe Jeff, maybe he's a cool guy with the bounce
house or the.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
Or the loom. Maybe it's the loop.
Speaker 4 (08:15):
You gotta be the loop because they were in the backyard.
They say, we were in their house. Hey, why what's
in Jeff's house that is not at our house? I
come on, he don't know. I'm telling you, guys. I
don't say leave your wife, but you need to investigate.
You need to go to work and circle the block
and pop up.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
See what you guys, we can't just suspect our partners
of cheating all the time, just automatically because we're alone
with another single person, Like, we just can't do that.
Let me take some Let me take some phone Callst. Daniel,
have a great day. Thanks for calling.
Speaker 4 (08:50):
I don't even know.
Speaker 6 (08:51):
They don't have to be single for things to happen. Also,
there's so many other ways this could be. And I'm
just guys, come on, and people are like, Fred, you're wrong.
But guys, right last hour, I told you I'm insecure
at this hour, I'm like that a ghost. I about
a ghost with this hour, guys, I can't. I cannot.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
If I'm married to someone, I cannot constantly police who
they're with and win and why. Okay, so she goes
to work and there's a single guy the cubicle next
to her.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
They're doing it.
Speaker 4 (09:17):
No, no, there at work. There work, they're not.
Speaker 1 (09:20):
That doesn't mean anything.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
Did you see a story in Charlotte last week and
the people who have work and they go to the
top of the parking garage and they're doing it in
the back of the car, and it went viral in
all of the world all over TikTok because these people
were doing it in the middle of work.
Speaker 4 (09:32):
Imagine what they're doing in.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
The back of before runner where there's a bed.
Speaker 4 (09:36):
Imagine what you write.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
You guys, Come on, Megan, Hi, Megan, good morning, Hi,
good morning.
Speaker 7 (09:42):
I cannot believe I got through. But anyways, I think
it definitely needs to be a conversation. I'm not saying
he needs to go, but there needs to be more
of a conversation. The little girl said, mommy's new friend.
The little girl didn't say my new friend.
Speaker 1 (09:57):
That's right, how old I It.
Speaker 7 (10:01):
Doesn't matter like kids, No, like kids, kids are smart,
and so I think that the way that the little
girl phrased it, she didn't talk about her new friend Susie.
She talked about mom's new friend, Jeff's house.
Speaker 8 (10:14):
Whether Jeff has kids or Jeff.
Speaker 7 (10:16):
Single, it doesn't matter one way or the other. The
way that this was set up was Mom was going
to her friend's house. A little girl didn't go to
her friend.
Speaker 1 (10:24):
My sister thought she was a horse when she was
a toddler.
Speaker 7 (10:26):
You know, like maybe she just phrased it that way.
Speaker 1 (10:32):
I don't know that.
Speaker 2 (10:33):
I mean, you're right, maybe there's a raw honesty from
a child that you know is truly revealing. But someone texted,
I'm being disrespectful or insensitive about this.
Speaker 1 (10:41):
No, I'm not.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
What I'm doing is I'm not automatically running to infidelity.
Speaker 5 (10:47):
Just because.
Speaker 6 (10:49):
I know you're not together.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
He did, that's his concern, and I'm not being I'm
not being insensitive, but I'm I'm I'm arguing that I
don't think that's fair to her, a person who he's
married to. And trust and had kids with and says
admittedly on our show, he's had no reason to doubt her.
And now all of a sudden, their kids meet a
single dad, and now automatically.
Speaker 1 (11:12):
He's they're they're they're sleeping with each other. Guys. That's yeah.
Speaker 7 (11:16):
I'd want to invest. I'd want to talk to the
kid more and be like, where did you meet this person?
Because mom said, oh, the kids met at the park.
How do we know the kids really met at the park.
The mom can tell the kid, oh, yeah, this is
the friend you met at the park the other day.
Speaker 2 (11:28):
Megan, thank you, and I appreciate the call. Have a
good day. I'm a I'm a single guy. I've been
single my whole life. I have tons of married friends
whose husbands are at work, and sometimes we'll go to
lunch or sometimes I've even gone to stuff. I've even
gone to stuff with mom and kid when dad's out
of town. And I'm not pretending to be the dad.
(11:48):
I'm just accompanying because you know, hey, we got this
thing in the park.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
You know you went.
Speaker 2 (11:54):
I'm not sleeping with these people. I'm not saying with
these people, but like it would be look at you,
I think gets unfair to me as a single guy
that we automatically always target me as the guy who's
up to something. I can't just be friends with a
woman who's married without sleeping with her. It's impossible. Yeah,
so I think you're being insensitive type casting me as
(12:15):
a bad dude or Jeff over here, I don't think,
but we don't know. Maybe maybe Jeff is a dirty dog.
Maybe Jeff is gay.
Speaker 1 (12:23):
Yeah, a dirty dog. We really don't know. True, he
can beat a dirty dog.
Speaker 2 (12:30):
But if he's getting a dirty dog and he's dirty
dog in somewhere else cotail house, I think it is
insensitive to automatically jump to infidelity every time your spouse
or girlfriend or partner is doing something with another human
being of the opposite sex.
Speaker 1 (12:45):
Yes, thank you, thank you, Tanya, Hi, hi there, good morning.
Speaker 8 (12:53):
I honestly feel like he should invite have his wife
invite Jeff to their house and see if Jeff is
open to me eating them together, because I kind of
get the feeling that maybe, like the mom and Jeff
had this thing going on and they were like, Hey,
I want to be able to see you, you know more,
Maybe we can have a playdate for our kids at
(13:13):
the park and they can, like, you know, and then
we can have an excuse to get together. I honestly
think it's kind of fishy, I.
Speaker 2 (13:21):
Guess, but I you know, I mean, that's a different
level of awful. If this woman is using the children
to play in the other room while she cheats on dad, Like,
that's a whole different thing. While wow, we have apparently
Jeff and mom, the woman that he's married to, that
he committed to life. Apparently she's the worst human being
(13:42):
to involve her children in infidelity.
Speaker 1 (13:44):
Like, guys, this is crazy.
Speaker 3 (13:46):
I have ton't ask for any of this, and all
of a sudden we're like maky, like come over and
meet the family.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
You know, Tanya, I do.
Speaker 2 (13:54):
I think there could be better communication, absolutely, But you guys,
we cannot just jump to the worst. We cannot just
with the some people all the time, like why is
everyone a cheater?
Speaker 8 (14:04):
I have young kids, and I will tell you this.
They do not know people's names. Like my kids don't
know their friend's parents name. So the fact that they
know the parent's name is kind of suspicious to me.
My kids severely learned friend's name.
Speaker 2 (14:19):
All right, you know, tell me these are all good points.
I appreciate that. Thank you, Thank you for listening. Have
a good day.
Speaker 6 (14:24):
You're not laughing at you.
Speaker 2 (14:27):
And by the way, we weren't laughing at her at all.
It's just over here stirring it up.
Speaker 1 (14:30):
Oh say it look like you've done with these people.
Speaker 4 (14:34):
Everyone is cheating?
Speaker 2 (14:40):
Why are we Who is being insensitive? No one's being insensitive.
I just don't think that it's fair to label this
person as a cheater for this. We don't know that. Aaron, Hi, Hey,
how are you Aaron? We can't just call everybody a cheater.
Every time Kiki.
Speaker 1 (14:56):
She does, she will How did you want to say?
Speaker 2 (15:00):
Aaron?
Speaker 1 (15:00):
Please please tell it about.
Speaker 9 (15:02):
I hate to be if I'm taking side to your friend.
I'm kind of against you. I hate to say it.
Speaker 1 (15:06):
That's okay. I think I'm used to it.
Speaker 9 (15:07):
I don't think they should go. I think there were
two questions that are important that you didn't ask, and
the first one was the age of the child does
matter because of how she phrase it of Jeff's friend,
if she's three or four and saying that is different
than if she's eight and saying Jeff's friend's house. So
that's number one. Number two is I'd be a little
bit questionable. I hate to bring this up. The income
(15:30):
of the families. I kind of have a I talked
to a lot of people, and I am aware that
people that are more affluent, that have more money, are.
Speaker 1 (15:40):
Very open to open relationships and families.
Speaker 2 (15:44):
So now they're rich and swinging.
Speaker 4 (15:50):
I'm just saying I.
Speaker 2 (15:55):
Had in front of his ask so much fantastic. So
so it's possible that there's socioeconomic status.
Speaker 9 (16:06):
No, I'm streaking again. I used to teach it, ok
park and that was very common in the affluence.
Speaker 2 (16:12):
Okay, okay, no, fair enough, there's there are some freaky
things when I'm in the suburbs there.
Speaker 1 (16:17):
Hey, Aaron, thank you, have a good day you guys.
I don't. I'm sorry, I just I can't with this.
Speaker 2 (16:25):
So we got to do a full vetting process before
my wife, if I were married, before my wife can
take my kids to hang.
Speaker 1 (16:31):
Out with just to see his taxes.
Speaker 2 (16:34):
Hey, can we do a full std and blood panel
in this guy? I want to know what Jeff's lippings
are like, ladies, was.
Speaker 4 (16:44):
Just a toddler, Like, let's give a toddler that trauma, like.
Speaker 2 (16:49):
Does he have low s if he has low se
nothing's going on here, Bianca, Bianca out of control? High Sorry, yeah,
(17:15):
it's your turn.
Speaker 1 (17:15):
Please say something.
Speaker 5 (17:16):
Can you hear me?
Speaker 1 (17:17):
Yes of course, yes, yes, Bianca.
Speaker 10 (17:20):
Go hey, hey, hey, I was calling him to say,
there's no way a mom with a couple of kids
is having an affair Jess because she goes to Jeff's house.
We are so tired. We are just glad to have
people who want to be with our children and entertain
our kids. And if I'm giving the choice between sleeping
(17:41):
with somebody else or taking a nap, I'm always going
to take the nap.
Speaker 4 (17:45):
Bread girl.
Speaker 2 (17:46):
Yeah, I just again, I think it's really unfair to
just say, oh, two people man.
Speaker 1 (17:52):
And a woman.
Speaker 4 (17:53):
Now you're taking it. You're taking a nap at Jeff's house.
Speaker 10 (17:58):
I mean I'm gonna be taking a nap if I'm
wanted to hang out with my.
Speaker 4 (18:01):
Kids and play.
Speaker 10 (18:02):
I am totally down. I am.
Speaker 9 (18:07):
Be.
Speaker 1 (18:07):
You're not helping anything here. Get out of just.
Speaker 2 (18:12):
Bed, get out of thank you have a good day.
Speaker 1 (18:18):
Car, I gotta go.
Speaker 2 (18:20):
Well, now you're doing in the car, do it in
the car while the kids playing. Now you're a netligent
parent too. Somebody calls everywhere alone with a man you
just met. Oh my god, honey, don't walk outside, you
might it's the mailman. Single you guys, You guys are crazy.
(18:44):
I love Hey. I'll tell you what if we find out,
if we find out that this woman is cheating, that
I take it all back and I'm sorry, and i
will publicly apologize, and I'll be roasted at the at
the square. You can stone me at the square if
this is what happens. But I just don't I think it. Say,
I think we're really jumping here. And let me tell
you something else. If I went on the air and
(19:05):
I said, and if I were married with kids, and
I went on the air and I said, yeah, my wife,
you know my my my kids have a school friend
and you know he's a stay at home dad, and
they were over there yesterday while I was at work.
They were having brunch and playing in the backyard, and
she's obviously cheating.
Speaker 1 (19:23):
You guys would crush me, Yeah, you would crush me.
They we don't know the location. We don't know the
venue of the hangout, you.
Speaker 4 (19:31):
Said, a school friend that has history there.
Speaker 2 (19:36):
If I went on the air, Polina and I said,
my wife was hanging out with our kids and a
single dad. Obviously she's up to something. You guys would
destroy me to pieces.
Speaker 1 (19:48):
And all I'm.
Speaker 2 (19:49):
Saying is, we don't know that. And so now you're
gonna go, you're an accuser of cheating. You're gonna accuse
her of cheating in front of the kids, using the
kids as a decoy. I mean, that's a lot of accusations.
Speaker 1 (19:59):
It's a lot of work to spin the block.
Speaker 2 (20:01):
And I'll tell you what she if she if she's
doing all that, she is a bad human being.
Speaker 1 (20:05):
Right and she smashes on the first date to night
at the.
Speaker 2 (20:09):
Park, I mean great, Yeah, it was more of a
second date thing. So totally classic, way classy. The Entertainer
Report and showed bes kicking Next Fred Show.
That show is on.
Speaker 2 (00:00):
It's stay or go all right, Daniel is here, Hi Daniel,
good morning, Good morning Daniel. What's going on with this
is you're a married man, okay, and you got some
kids and your wife is up to something. You think,
maybe what's the situation?
Speaker 3 (00:21):
So I wanted to get some advice, you know, relationship advice.
So my youngest daughter mentioned something to me about mommy's
new friend Jeff's house. So I was, you know, kind
of caught off guard by that. So I asked my wife.
She told me their kids. You know, my daughter made
friends at the park with this girl, and they went
(00:43):
over to.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
Their house, the new friend's house, for a playdate. And
Jeff is their dad.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
Okay, Jeff is all right, all right, So the kids
are playing and they go over to Jeff's house.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
Okay. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (00:56):
And so I was just a little put off by that,
Like my wife didn't tell me. I had to find
out through my daughter, and so I guess my way
I'm feeling.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
Am I wrong to be bothered at?
Speaker 3 (01:05):
My wife was married to me, obviously went over to
a single man's house.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
This is a single dad, and I didn't know anything
about it.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
I don't think this is a problem. Why is this
a problem? It's not Why is this a problem? I mean,
the kids are playing like. It's not the kid's fault
that you know, Jeff got divorced or whatever. Sorry for
your love, Jeff, I mean, right, I'm sorry. What if
Jeff's gay?
Speaker 1 (01:27):
Do we know?
Speaker 2 (01:28):
What do we know about Jeff? How much do we
know about this man? And I mean, I mean, I'm
being honest. I'm not I'm not invalidating your concern. I
just I think, like, do you do you always? Are
you always fully briefed on the on the relationship status
of the parents of the playdate? Honestly? And I'm not again, Daniel,
I'm not making funny here, but I'm serious.
Speaker 3 (01:46):
No, I mean, And I confronted my wife and she said,
you know, it's not a big deal. She just the
fact that she didn't bring it up, you know, being suspicious,
and you know, obviously I'm a little insecure about it.
And I you know, I think if the tables were
turned and I would stay at home dad and I
went to a single mom's house, I would be, you know,
have the wherewithal to tell my wife, Hey, I'm going
over to you know whatever Stacey's house and you know,
(02:09):
hang out with it, you know, just so you're aware
of what's going on. The fact that it wasn't, you know,
as you mentioned to me, put me off.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
I had to find out through my daughter.
Speaker 3 (02:16):
And then the way she says, she's like mommy's new friend.
Speaker 1 (02:19):
Jeff. Okay, Well, the wording of that was a little.
Speaker 2 (02:24):
Like I'm gonna, I'm gonna, I'm gonna put a crazy
one out there for you because I am crazy, so
I can do that. Let's say that your wife went
over to Samantha's house and Samantha had a couple of kids.
We're not worried about that, right, We don't say anything
about that about Samantha single mom.
Speaker 3 (02:40):
Right, Sure, No, I'm not worried about that because.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
It turns out Samantha's lesbian.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
Oh turns well, it turns out his wife is exploring, experimenting.
Turns out not to say, I'm just saying if it
were a woman, we wouldn't say anything about this, and
we wouldn't say anything because we don't think there's a
sexual threat, because that's what this is about. This is
about the potential for a sexual threat, when really it's
(03:07):
about the kids playing. Now, I admitted last hour, I'm
an insecure person. This doesn't bother me because why I'm
married to this person. Why are they automatically cheating on me?
If they're alone with a single person, that could be
happening anywhere.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
Why, ouse, Why are you in.
Speaker 4 (03:21):
The house where the kids supposed to play at a park?
The kids play at a park. You don't need to
be in Tim's house or John's house without telling me anything.
John could be a serial killer. And you got you
and my kids in that house and no one has
said anything to me.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
Absolutely not. But Samantha could be a serial killer.
Speaker 4 (03:37):
Jamantha, Samantha could, But I know John might be for real,
I'm not no, no, no, no. My man doesn't need to
be in any other woman's house without my knowledge.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
You guys, if she were alone, if she were like,
if the kids weren't there, yeah, that's know that the kids.
Speaker 4 (03:53):
Might have been in the basement playing at her. And
what timmy what's his name?
Speaker 1 (03:56):
Jeff Yeah, mom's friends Jeff.
Speaker 4 (03:58):
Yeah, MoMA jeh upstands people.
Speaker 5 (04:00):
Are texting that they're saying, why are they saying Jeff's
mommy's friend, Jeff's house?
Speaker 4 (04:05):
And not my friend Susie.
Speaker 1 (04:06):
Right, like you know the age of the kid, Like
maybe that's but.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
You you guys, I am a look, I am insecure
in relationships. Many may I have a lot of unreasonable
thoughts about what I am into and what I'm not
into and what I think is cool, what I don't
think is cool. But I have to tell you when
it comes to the kids, I mean, there's there are
going to be situations where one parents they are the
other parents, not single parent, moms at work, dads at work,
(04:34):
you know, soccer practice moms there, dad took the kids, mom, mom.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
And sister wives, everybody.
Speaker 2 (04:39):
What I'm just saying, why do we automatically jump to
there has to be infidelity?
Speaker 4 (04:46):
I don't think infidelity.
Speaker 5 (04:47):
My big concern, Well, my concern is maybe I over
communicate with my husband.
Speaker 4 (04:51):
But do people not talk at the end.
Speaker 5 (04:52):
Of the night where it's like you're in bed, you
want to you know, tuck yourself in. Oh, how was
your day?
Speaker 4 (04:56):
All was good.
Speaker 5 (04:57):
We went to Jeff's house and little Susie play with
little Jimmy and they had a great time.
Speaker 1 (05:02):
Like why are they not telling each other this?
Speaker 4 (05:03):
I tell my husband everything. I'll be like, oh, yeah,
I was here today.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
We did this?
Speaker 2 (05:06):
Be more concerned, Paulina if it were over explained to me, wife, Now,
Jeff's a single day, but you have.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
Nothing to work about it because the kids. I'd be like,
wait a minute, hold on, I wasn't working about it.
Speaker 6 (05:17):
He's gay.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
No, not even that.
Speaker 5 (05:18):
It's just like I feel like you just communicate with
your partner and say, how is your day?
Speaker 1 (05:22):
What did you do? Would you see? Where'd you go? Like,
I don't know, it's a little panther No, do you
have any suspicion of your wife? Otherwise?
Speaker 2 (05:30):
I think I'm not invalidating your feelings because there are
a lot of people apparently that agree with you, that
think it's inappropriate. I guess when it comes to the kids,
I guess I don't necessarily think you get to choose,
you know, the marital status of the parents of the kids,
that your friends be friends, right.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
I tend to agree with your co hosts.
Speaker 3 (05:48):
I think everything should be out in the open and
have an open line of communication. If there's nothing to hide,
then use nothing you can't say then just to be
open and just whether and if she went to a
female house, I'd like to know that too, just for
the fact that we're married, we're life partners. Our lives,
you know, do revolve around each other and our children.
So it's nice to know if God forbid, something does
(06:10):
happen where she was what she's doing. So I think
that's only fair an open line of communication and a
marriage to me, and I would offer her the same
respect from my vantage point. If the table's returned, so
me not getting it, it's just alarm bells went off.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
Yeah, and I hear what you're saying.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
I just think there are far more sinister ways to
conceal infidelity than play dates out And maybe it's maybe it's,
like you know, right out in the open, maybe you
should be worried about this because it's just so obvious that.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
But at the same time, if you don't.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
Suspect your wife, if you don't suspect she's a cheater,
if you've never suspected she's a cheater, then why are
we putting that on her now? In this one situation
that is pretty easily explainable. The kids met at the park,
they hung out. It's not as though you can say, no, kids,
I'm sorry, but we can't go over to that house
because Daddy says that Jeff's a predator. Daniel, I'm just
(07:02):
I mean, it sounds ridiculous and again not making fun
of you, but like, come on, you know what I mean.
It's not as though she. I don't think we targeted
the guy in the playground. Hey, kids, go play with
those kids because daddy's hot, you know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (07:15):
I find it a respect. I wouldn't do that on
my end. I wouldn't go to a single our female's house,
whether single or marriage. Just to me, it would be
just putting yourself in a situation where it's not necessary.
Speaker 1 (07:27):
So I just wouldn't do that.
Speaker 3 (07:28):
So I feel like I should be given that in return,
as you know, equal boundaries, and it's just not even
putting myself in the situation. It just temptation isn't even there.
There's no you know, because that's what leads to others things.
It's just it can easily go down that path. So
I'd rather not even dabble.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
This is ridiculous.
Speaker 5 (07:46):
I'm just saying, communicate with your partner at the end
of the night, when you're having your tea, whatever you
guys do together at night, your wine.
Speaker 4 (07:51):
Just say this is how my day went. That's all
I'm saying.
Speaker 5 (07:53):
But he's taking it too far now, just because you're
a single mom all of a sudden, like you're attempted.
Speaker 4 (07:58):
Come on, like, relax, what's at Jeff's house that's not
at our house?
Speaker 2 (08:04):
Maybe Jeff, maybe he's a cool guy with the bounce
house or the.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
Or the loom. Maybe it's the loop.
Speaker 4 (08:15):
You gotta be the loop because they were in the backyard.
They say, we were in their house. Hey, why what's
in Jeff's house that is not at our house? I
come on, he don't know. I'm telling you, guys. I
don't say leave your wife, but you need to investigate.
You need to go to work and circle the block
and pop up.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
See what you guys, we can't just suspect our partners
of cheating all the time, just automatically because we're alone
with another single person, Like, we just can't do that.
Let me take some Let me take some phone Callst. Daniel,
have a great day. Thanks for calling.
Speaker 4 (08:50):
I don't even know.
Speaker 6 (08:51):
They don't have to be single for things to happen. Also,
there's so many other ways this could be. And I'm
just guys, come on, and people are like, Fred, you're wrong.
But guys, right last hour, I told you I'm insecure
at this hour, I'm like that a ghost. I about
a ghost with this hour, guys, I can't. I cannot.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
If I'm married to someone, I cannot constantly police who
they're with and win and why. Okay, so she goes
to work and there's a single guy the cubicle next
to her.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
They're doing it.
Speaker 4 (09:17):
No, no, there at work. There work, they're not.
Speaker 1 (09:20):
That doesn't mean anything.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
Did you see a story in Charlotte last week and
the people who have work and they go to the
top of the parking garage and they're doing it in
the back of the car, and it went viral in
all of the world all over TikTok because these people
were doing it in the middle of work.
Speaker 4 (09:32):
Imagine what they're doing in.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
The back of before runner where there's a bed.
Speaker 4 (09:36):
Imagine what you write.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
You guys, Come on, Megan, Hi, Megan, good morning, Hi,
good morning.
Speaker 7 (09:42):
I cannot believe I got through. But anyways, I think
it definitely needs to be a conversation. I'm not saying
he needs to go, but there needs to be more
of a conversation. The little girl said, mommy's new friend.
The little girl didn't say my new friend.
Speaker 1 (09:57):
That's right, how old I It.
Speaker 7 (10:01):
Doesn't matter like kids, No, like kids, kids are smart,
and so I think that the way that the little
girl phrased it, she didn't talk about her new friend Susie.
She talked about mom's new friend, Jeff's house.
Speaker 8 (10:14):
Whether Jeff has kids or Jeff.
Speaker 7 (10:16):
Single, it doesn't matter one way or the other. The
way that this was set up was Mom was going
to her friend's house. A little girl didn't go to
her friend.
Speaker 1 (10:24):
My sister thought she was a horse when she was
a toddler.
Speaker 7 (10:26):
You know, like maybe she just phrased it that way.
Speaker 1 (10:32):
I don't know that.
Speaker 2 (10:33):
I mean, you're right, maybe there's a raw honesty from
a child that you know is truly revealing. But someone texted,
I'm being disrespectful or insensitive about this.
Speaker 1 (10:41):
No, I'm not.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
What I'm doing is I'm not automatically running to infidelity.
Speaker 5 (10:47):
Just because.
Speaker 6 (10:49):
I know you're not together.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
He did, that's his concern, and I'm not being I'm
not being insensitive, but I'm I'm I'm arguing that I
don't think that's fair to her, a person who he's
married to. And trust and had kids with and says
admittedly on our show, he's had no reason to doubt her.
And now all of a sudden, their kids meet a
single dad, and now automatically.
Speaker 1 (11:12):
He's they're they're they're sleeping with each other. Guys. That's yeah.
Speaker 7 (11:16):
I'd want to invest. I'd want to talk to the
kid more and be like, where did you meet this person?
Because mom said, oh, the kids met at the park.
How do we know the kids really met at the park.
The mom can tell the kid, oh, yeah, this is
the friend you met at the park the other day.
Speaker 2 (11:28):
Megan, thank you, and I appreciate the call. Have a
good day. I'm a I'm a single guy. I've been
single my whole life. I have tons of married friends
whose husbands are at work, and sometimes we'll go to
lunch or sometimes I've even gone to stuff. I've even
gone to stuff with mom and kid when dad's out
of town. And I'm not pretending to be the dad.
(11:48):
I'm just accompanying because you know, hey, we got this
thing in the park.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
You know you went.
Speaker 2 (11:54):
I'm not sleeping with these people. I'm not saying with
these people, but like it would be look at you,
I think gets unfair to me as a single guy
that we automatically always target me as the guy who's
up to something. I can't just be friends with a
woman who's married without sleeping with her. It's impossible. Yeah,
so I think you're being insensitive type casting me as
(12:15):
a bad dude or Jeff over here, I don't think,
but we don't know. Maybe maybe Jeff is a dirty dog.
Maybe Jeff is gay.
Speaker 1 (12:23):
Yeah, a dirty dog. We really don't know. True, he
can beat a dirty dog.
Speaker 2 (12:30):
But if he's getting a dirty dog and he's dirty
dog in somewhere else cotail house, I think it is
insensitive to automatically jump to infidelity every time your spouse
or girlfriend or partner is doing something with another human
being of the opposite sex.
Speaker 1 (12:45):
Yes, thank you, thank you, Tanya, Hi, hi there, good morning.
Speaker 8 (12:53):
I honestly feel like he should invite have his wife
invite Jeff to their house and see if Jeff is
open to me eating them together, because I kind of
get the feeling that maybe, like the mom and Jeff
had this thing going on and they were like, Hey,
I want to be able to see you, you know more,
Maybe we can have a playdate for our kids at
(13:13):
the park and they can, like, you know, and then
we can have an excuse to get together. I honestly
think it's kind of fishy, I.
Speaker 2 (13:21):
Guess, but I you know, I mean, that's a different
level of awful. If this woman is using the children
to play in the other room while she cheats on dad, Like,
that's a whole different thing. While wow, we have apparently
Jeff and mom, the woman that he's married to, that
he committed to life. Apparently she's the worst human being
(13:42):
to involve her children in infidelity.
Speaker 1 (13:44):
Like, guys, this is crazy.
Speaker 3 (13:46):
I have ton't ask for any of this, and all
of a sudden we're like maky, like come over and
meet the family.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
You know, Tanya, I do.
Speaker 2 (13:54):
I think there could be better communication, absolutely, But you guys,
we cannot just jump to the worst. We cannot just
with the some people all the time, like why is
everyone a cheater?
Speaker 8 (14:04):
I have young kids, and I will tell you this.
They do not know people's names. Like my kids don't
know their friend's parents name. So the fact that they
know the parent's name is kind of suspicious to me.
My kids severely learned friend's name.
Speaker 2 (14:19):
All right, you know, tell me these are all good points.
I appreciate that. Thank you, Thank you for listening. Have
a good day.
Speaker 6 (14:24):
You're not laughing at you.
Speaker 2 (14:27):
And by the way, we weren't laughing at her at all.
It's just over here stirring it up.
Speaker 1 (14:30):
Oh say it look like you've done with these people.
Speaker 4 (14:34):
Everyone is cheating?
Speaker 2 (14:40):
Why are we Who is being insensitive? No one's being insensitive.
I just don't think that it's fair to label this
person as a cheater for this. We don't know that. Aaron, Hi, Hey,
how are you Aaron? We can't just call everybody a cheater.
Every time Kiki.
Speaker 1 (14:56):
She does, she will How did you want to say?
Speaker 2 (15:00):
Aaron?
Speaker 1 (15:00):
Please please tell it about.
Speaker 9 (15:02):
I hate to be if I'm taking side to your friend.
I'm kind of against you. I hate to say it.
Speaker 1 (15:06):
That's okay. I think I'm used to it.
Speaker 9 (15:07):
I don't think they should go. I think there were
two questions that are important that you didn't ask, and
the first one was the age of the child does
matter because of how she phrase it of Jeff's friend,
if she's three or four and saying that is different
than if she's eight and saying Jeff's friend's house. So
that's number one. Number two is I'd be a little
bit questionable. I hate to bring this up. The income
(15:30):
of the families. I kind of have a I talked
to a lot of people, and I am aware that
people that are more affluent, that have more money, are.
Speaker 1 (15:40):
Very open to open relationships and families.
Speaker 2 (15:44):
So now they're rich and swinging.
Speaker 4 (15:50):
I'm just saying I.
Speaker 2 (15:55):
Had in front of his ask so much fantastic. So
so it's possible that there's socioeconomic status.
Speaker 9 (16:06):
No, I'm streaking again. I used to teach it, ok
park and that was very common in the affluence.
Speaker 2 (16:12):
Okay, okay, no, fair enough, there's there are some freaky
things when I'm in the suburbs there.
Speaker 1 (16:17):
Hey, Aaron, thank you, have a good day you guys.
I don't. I'm sorry, I just I can't with this.
Speaker 2 (16:25):
So we got to do a full vetting process before
my wife, if I were married, before my wife can
take my kids to hang.
Speaker 1 (16:31):
Out with just to see his taxes.
Speaker 2 (16:34):
Hey, can we do a full std and blood panel
in this guy? I want to know what Jeff's lippings
are like, ladies, was.
Speaker 4 (16:44):
Just a toddler, Like, let's give a toddler that trauma, like.
Speaker 2 (16:49):
Does he have low s if he has low se
nothing's going on here, Bianca, Bianca out of control? High Sorry, yeah,
(17:15):
it's your turn.
Speaker 1 (17:15):
Please say something.
Speaker 5 (17:16):
Can you hear me?
Speaker 1 (17:17):
Yes of course, yes, yes, Bianca.
Speaker 10 (17:20):
Go hey, hey, hey, I was calling him to say,
there's no way a mom with a couple of kids
is having an affair Jess because she goes to Jeff's house.
We are so tired. We are just glad to have
people who want to be with our children and entertain
our kids. And if I'm giving the choice between sleeping
(17:41):
with somebody else or taking a nap, I'm always going
to take the nap.
Speaker 4 (17:45):
Bread girl.
Speaker 2 (17:46):
Yeah, I just again, I think it's really unfair to
just say, oh, two people man.
Speaker 1 (17:52):
And a woman.
Speaker 4 (17:53):
Now you're taking it. You're taking a nap at Jeff's house.
Speaker 10 (17:58):
I mean I'm gonna be taking a nap if I'm
wanted to hang out with my.
Speaker 4 (18:01):
Kids and play.
Speaker 10 (18:02):
I am totally down. I am.
Speaker 9 (18:07):
Be.
Speaker 1 (18:07):
You're not helping anything here. Get out of just.
Speaker 2 (18:12):
Bed, get out of thank you have a good day.
Speaker 1 (18:18):
Car, I gotta go.
Speaker 2 (18:20):
Well, now you're doing in the car, do it in
the car while the kids playing. Now you're a netligent
parent too. Somebody calls everywhere alone with a man you
just met. Oh my god, honey, don't walk outside, you
might it's the mailman. Single you guys, You guys are crazy.
(18:44):
I love Hey. I'll tell you what if we find out,
if we find out that this woman is cheating, that
I take it all back and I'm sorry, and i
will publicly apologize, and I'll be roasted at the at
the square. You can stone me at the square if
this is what happens. But I just don't I think it. Say,
I think we're really jumping here. And let me tell
you something else. If I went on the air and
(19:05):
I said, and if I were married with kids, and
I went on the air and I said, yeah, my wife,
you know my my my kids have a school friend
and you know he's a stay at home dad, and
they were over there yesterday while I was at work.
They were having brunch and playing in the backyard, and
she's obviously cheating.
Speaker 1 (19:23):
You guys would crush me, Yeah, you would crush me.
They we don't know the location. We don't know the
venue of the hangout, you.
Speaker 4 (19:31):
Said, a school friend that has history there.
Speaker 2 (19:36):
If I went on the air, Polina and I said,
my wife was hanging out with our kids and a
single dad. Obviously she's up to something. You guys would
destroy me to pieces.
Speaker 1 (19:48):
And all I'm.
Speaker 2 (19:49):
Saying is, we don't know that. And so now you're
gonna go, you're an accuser of cheating. You're gonna accuse
her of cheating in front of the kids, using the
kids as a decoy. I mean, that's a lot of accusations.
Speaker 1 (19:59):
It's a lot of work to spin the block.
Speaker 2 (20:01):
And I'll tell you what she if she if she's
doing all that, she is a bad human being.
Speaker 1 (20:05):
Right and she smashes on the first date to night
at the.
Speaker 2 (20:09):
Park, I mean great, Yeah, it was more of a
second date thing. So totally classic, way classy. The Entertainer
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