May 19, 2025 • 14 mins
A listener asks Keke if it's wrong that she didn't invite her step dad to her high school graduation because their relationship is surface level. Judge Keke weighs in on this heated debate!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
She's a fresh show. It's Kiki's court.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
Just Kiky take it away, all right, let's get into
the courtroom. The gavel has been hit.
Speaker 3 (00:08):
It says, am I wrong for letting or not letting
my stepdad come to my graduation. I graduated from high
school last weekend, and it was a huge deal for me.
I've worked really hard and I'm the first in my
immediate family to graduate. My biological dad passed away when
I was seven, and my mom remarried when I was ten,
and I've had a rocky relationship with my stepdad Mark
(00:30):
ever since. Mark has always been present, but not really supportive.
He never came to my school plays, he rarely showed
up for my parent teacher conferences, and he made fun
of my dream of going to college for music. He's
not abusive or anything, but just emotionally distant and kind
of dismissive of anything that isn't sports or business related.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
So basically we just coexist.
Speaker 1 (00:53):
Kiki.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
I was given four tickets for my graduation. I gave
one to my mom, one to my grandma on my
bio logical dad's side, and the other two I gave
to my cousin and my aunt who has been like
a second parent to me. Mark found out the night
before and got really upset. He says it was a
slap in the face that I didn't give him a ticket,
and he said he's been in my life for all
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these years and deserved to be a part of this milestone.
My mom surprisingly backed him up, saying, he did put
a roof over your head, and he stepped up when
your father couldn't the way Okay.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
I told him, no, You're fine.
Speaker 3 (01:32):
I told him flat out that he never acted like
a dad to me, so why should he expect to
be treated like one.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
Now?
Speaker 3 (01:39):
The house is super tense. My mom is barely speaking
to me, and Mark is acting like I betrayed him.
I feel a little guilty, but I also feel like
this was my day?
Speaker 2 (01:48):
So am I wrong?
Speaker 4 (01:50):
Judge Kinky would say you eight three five, you guys
at the Jerry's call.
Speaker 5 (01:55):
Now.
Speaker 3 (01:55):
I would love to hear from some step parents on
this especially, But in my opinion, a child, a kid
will always show you what you truly mean to them,
and moments like this, and as parents, and I'm not
a parent, but I think sometimes you can think that
you are crushing it in life because you are financially
supporting your children.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
You are putting a roof over their head.
Speaker 3 (02:17):
However, it's the time, the time that you spend with them,
the opportunity to show up to their events and their
sports and activities. When you miss out on those things
for years and years, that all.
Speaker 2 (02:28):
Builds up and a kid never forgets.
Speaker 3 (02:31):
So this is just the moment where he was able
to remind the stepfather, Hey, I know you pay the
bills here. You're not doing me any favor. By the way,
you're married to my mom. That's the setup here. But
you know that doesn't get That doesn't mean that you
have taken time to build a relationship with me. You
just financially supported this house. So I completely understand how
he feels. And I feel like, it's your graduation, it's
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your day. You can give the tickets to who you
feel should be there. You know, I sympathize with the
stepfather because as a step parent, he probably felt like, Hey,
I'm working, I'm here with this kid. Maybe he felt
like he should be there, But that doesn't mean that Tyler,
this young young man who graduated, It doesn't mean that
he's like he has to give you a ticket I
don't think so.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
I mean, his day, it's his day. That's tough. That's tough.
Speaker 4 (03:16):
Yeah, I mean I can relate to that story in
some ways, but I M yeah, I mean he did
play a role. I mean, if he paid for the
house and whatever, he did play a role in the
kid's you know, ability to have the space and the
freedom to have this the success of achieving graduation. Yeah,
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at the same time, that's a one time memory. And
if you don't feel like you connect with somewhere, I
feel like they're you know, like that person's gonna turnish
your day, then I think you have a right now
to invite him, and then you have a right to
know or you should be aware that you're gonna hurt
someone's feelings in doing it. But I mean, I don't
think anyone is, don't I don't. I don't know that.
I think any parent or stepparents should feel entitled to
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do anything if they don't have a relationship with a
kid or didn't earn it simply because of the parent,
which may be very unpopular. Maybe you might be listening
now going that's unfair. But like, just because you're my
father doesn't mean that you get to. In my opinion,
you should be acknowledged for things that you're not doing
in my life, right, and then as opposed to getting
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mad about it, maybe look in the mirror and say,
why wouldn't my kid want me there because there's a
disconnect because I haven't stepped up, because I'm not involved,
because you know I didn't. You know, in my example,
in my life, it was it was a it was
a basketball game my freshman year in high school, and
it was parents' night. It was the only game that
my mom and my then stepdad couldn't make it too.
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And they they did. They drove four or five hours
to watch every away game, They took me to every practice,
they did everything, and they couldn't make it to one
night and it was parent appreciation night and somebody else
in the family said I'm coming and I'll be acknowledged,
and I said, I won't play if you do, because
and by it was the last time I ever spoke
to that person. By the way, and because you don't,
in my opinion, you don't get you didn't do it
(05:02):
any Yes you made me right, and yes you've spent
money to put me into school, and you know you
were part of that, and that's all fair, but like,
why am I acknowledging you when two other people did
all the work exactly? And so I wasn't comfortable with that,
and it was a bad spot to be in because
it's like, how about look at this and say, maybe
I should have been more involved in the process if
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I expect to be acknowledged, But no, it was well,
I'm so and so, so I get it and that's
just the way it is. And it's like, no, I
think we earn our place in other people's lives and
we have to continue earning it, whether we're entitled enough
because we created them or not. There's that's my TED
talk for the day.
Speaker 2 (05:40):
You're not wrong, though, You're really not wrong.
Speaker 3 (05:42):
Just because we have blood ties or whatever, that doesn't
mean that you were an actual parent to me. That
just means you made me, and that doesn't mean you
get to celebrate all of my wins that you played
no part in helping me achieve. And so that's I
feel like it should be up to the kid to
kind of decide. And I understand how the stepfather can
feel feel upset, but I don't think you're wrong for
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choosing the people that were important to you.
Speaker 5 (06:04):
I would love to know.
Speaker 6 (06:06):
Has he tried talking to the stepdad like before this
or was it this big like gotcha moment and the
step dad had no idea like I guess. I would
love to know if he said, hey, you know, I'm
having issues with you in this department or that department,
or even confided in his mom.
Speaker 3 (06:20):
Yeah, it sounds like he just he said they coexist.
You know that the stepfather is not supportive of his
aspirations to go do music and go to school for music.
He makes fun of it and the mom. You know,
I understand the mom backing up her husband, but even
she goes, you know, he could he put a roof
over your head when your father couldn't, like, well, my
father died, Like, it's not like my father chose not
to be in the picture.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
You know, he didn't make that points and the kid
didn't ask for any of that. You know, so that's unfair.
Why did would you say you do you don't stand
with the mother?
Speaker 4 (06:48):
No, I think the mom used to back up her
kid or at least be sympathetic to both sides.
Speaker 1 (06:52):
For sure, I would be so upset.
Speaker 4 (06:55):
I think if my mom was watching all this happen
and knew there was a disconnect because for me, for
the stepdad, this feels like optics. Now I don't know
if he's a bad guy or good guy. I don't know,
But now he's not being included is something everybody else is,
and he won't be there, and the question will be
why isn't he there? And that's about him. Maybe he
should have considered that when there was no relationship, because
now all of a sudden, there's not much relationship and
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he's not being included in this intimate moment and people
are going to ask the question, and it's kind of
like sour grapes. It's like, well, I didn't invest in
the process, not only that I made fun of the
kid for the process they were experiencing. And now all
of a sudden, and maybe that stuff's going to come
up and it's going to make him feel bad and
look bad, and maybe he should have thought of that
the same way that you know in my example, it's like, well,
how about being involved in the process and not just
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the you know, the accolade part of it, and then
maybe we don't find ourselves here. But usually people like
that don't see it that way. Oh No, it's more
what they deserve.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
And I don't know.
Speaker 4 (07:50):
I think, especially when it comes to parents and kids
and adults and kids, I think it's our responsibility, especially
if they're your kids or you're responsible as a steparty,
it's your responsibility to continue to invest in them.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
Yes, invest in that relationship.
Speaker 2 (08:04):
Her son and like him, be in a good house.
Speaker 4 (08:07):
Yeah, I agree. Hey Jennifer, Yeah, Hi, Hey on Kiky
score what say you? You guys are the jury.
Speaker 7 (08:14):
I totally agree with Kiki. And at the end of
the day, she invited her grandmother who's the mother of
her father that you know, at the end of the day,
and like she was saying, you know, to disconnect the
laughing at her about you know, what.
Speaker 8 (08:29):
She wants to do.
Speaker 7 (08:30):
And and the mother is totally wrong, like I said before,
you know that she didn't ask for that. And to
say he put a roof over her head, well, you
guys are married. You put the roof over her head
as well, and you shouldn't put that on her.
Speaker 1 (08:44):
Okay, fair enough, thank you, Jennifer, Yes, thank you.
Speaker 4 (08:48):
And somebody said putting a roof over your head this
is a text and feeding you every day makes you involved.
Kids are so entitled and unappreciative again, is that yeah?
Speaker 1 (08:57):
I mean you can't.
Speaker 4 (08:58):
You can't say that's not I don't know about the
entitled unappreciative part in this example. I mean, this is
a person who actively told this young young man, right, yeah,
told this young told this young man that what you know,
the music path and the path he was on that
he's of which he's now accomplished in graduating from, was
He wasn't.
Speaker 3 (09:16):
Supportive, he wasn't supportive, he was dismissive. They just coexist.
He made those points, and I think you know, as
a parent, that's your obligation to at least provide for
your child and feed them. But about them, supporting them
emotionally and you know, to caring about their mental health,
that is something different. And if you don't do that,
then you don't get to be at situations like that,
you don't go to graduations like this. Like that's crazy.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
I would argue.
Speaker 4 (09:39):
The entitlement might be on the stepdad's side, yes, to
say well I did all this so I should get
to I should get to be there. It's like, well,
maybe you should have been more supportive along the way. Hey, Stacy,
I think we also forget we're talking about kids. Even
at seventeen eighteen, you're still a kid and grown up. Yes,
we're talking about children and grown up, So we have
(10:01):
to take that in consideration.
Speaker 1 (10:02):
Stacy, what'd you have to say?
Speaker 8 (10:04):
Hi, guys, Love you, guys, Good morning.
Speaker 5 (10:08):
So I was this child and I currently have a
child in high school and she has a stepfather part
of her life currently. So just being that child and
having that parent that this current child and we're speaking
about that does have. I also had a very rocky relationship,
and I agree, I don't think that this person is
obligated to go. If if I didn't feel that my
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stepdad needs to go, I wasn't gonna invite him, and
I didn't invite him, to be honest with you.
Speaker 8 (10:35):
Now we have a better relationship.
Speaker 5 (10:37):
He has been helpful with my kids currently and things
of that nature, and maybe that will change. Maybe that
will set something within the stepparents be like, maybe I
should step up, maybe I should do better, Maybe I
should be more supportive of this person as opposed to
being like, oh no, I need to be there.
Speaker 8 (10:52):
That's not fair. And if that was to be a
current situation in my.
Speaker 5 (10:55):
Life where my child didn't feel like my husband supportive
of her, then I would totally agree with my child
and be like, no, well she doesn't want you there,
then you don't need to be there, you know.
Speaker 8 (11:07):
But my husband has been very supportive.
Speaker 4 (11:10):
Okay, but Stacy, thank you for Sharon. I have a
good day you too, and thank you for listening. Jose
how you doing, Hose.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
Good morning.
Speaker 9 (11:20):
Guy, Let's have good morning.
Speaker 5 (11:21):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (11:21):
Hi, what do you want to say? Go ahead? Please?
Speaker 5 (11:23):
Man?
Speaker 9 (11:23):
Look, you know I grew up with a stepdad and
you know he was never dead like for me when
I was playing soccer and stuff, but I wouldn't I
wouldn't wanted him there, man, because you know, even though
he wasn't there, he was a provider, you know. And
like I mean, it's okay that like his guy, like
the child is. You know, he's still growing up and stuff.
He's going to figure this out later on in time.
But maybe be a generous right now or just take
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it to consideration. Might be okay as well, because he's
going to teach him a better lesson now than later on.
You know, Holding that grudge, holding that judgment and stuff
like that. That ain't cool.
Speaker 4 (11:57):
Yeah, yeah, I hear you, Jose and thanks for calling. Man,
have a day. I mean you're asking you're asking a
kid to be the bigger person. It's like, yeah, I
mean maybe maybe, I'm sure you know what this is
going to cause this is a ripple effect here. It's
obviously you know, upset in the Apple cards. So you
could just invite the guy and you know, and he
knows that there's not much you know, support there or
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or synergy, but yeah, this this I may not want
a negative influence there either if I did the thing
that you told me that I shouldn't or couldn't do.
Speaker 1 (12:29):
Amanda, Hi, Hi, how are you?
Speaker 10 (12:32):
Hey?
Speaker 1 (12:32):
Good morning? What do you want to say? Welcome?
Speaker 10 (12:34):
Thank you? Usually so usually with graduation, do you get
i mean four tickets max to most of these graduations.
So it may not necessarily be that he doesn't appreciate
or they don't appreciate everything this stepfather's done for him.
But maybe it's just these other people that he's decided
to come watch him and play the bigger role in
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his life. It may not necessarily, you know, be that
he doesn't have a good relationship where they don't have
a good relationship. It may just be, hey, this these
other people have just meant more to me throughout my life,
and those are the ones that I want to see
because I have my nephews graduating high school in a
couple of weeks. And again, he got four tickets and
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he's having someone come his mom, but she's never really
been in his life and I kind of helped raise
him as a kid. So I was upset, but I'm like,
you know what, again, it's his choice. And if that too,
he chooses to have walked, you know, watch him walk.
I'll be there in spirit. So kind of you kind
of have to sometimes think like, hey, it may not
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be personal to that person. You just make Hey maybe
these people have just met more to him or sits
aside him more. And at the end of the day,
these graduations, you get like three or four tickets rights.
And it's a tough situation, is that he's a kid.
Speaker 4 (13:57):
I commend you though that you're not to penalize the
child for the fact that you you believe that you
deserve to be there. But he's made a different choice,
I mean, and that's that's his right. But yet I
know your love and your support of him will not change.
You can be disappointed, but again, this is the choice
he's making today and it doesn't negate what you've done.
Speaker 10 (14:17):
Absolutely, and like you said, he's eighteen.
Speaker 7 (14:19):
He is a child.
Speaker 10 (14:20):
Like it's not going to change my views on him.
I know he loves me, I love him, but absolutely
he's a child. Let's not you know, got to be
the bigger people sometimes.
Speaker 4 (14:30):
I mean he's out of the will completely. But other
than that, I mean it's you know, I don't know
who's going to pay for college now. But other than that, no, no, no,
there'll be no repercussion.
Speaker 9 (14:38):
A man.
Speaker 1 (14:39):
Have a good day.
Speaker 7 (14:40):
Thanks so much.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
I'm glad you called.
Speaker 4 (14:41):
The Entertainment Report will do it next headlines the biggest
stories of the day. After that,
She's a fresh show. It's Kiki's court.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
Just Kiky take it away, all right, let's get into
the courtroom. The gavel has been hit.
Speaker 3 (00:08):
It says, am I wrong for letting or not letting
my stepdad come to my graduation. I graduated from high
school last weekend, and it was a huge deal for me.
I've worked really hard and I'm the first in my
immediate family to graduate. My biological dad passed away when
I was seven, and my mom remarried when I was ten,
and I've had a rocky relationship with my stepdad Mark
(00:30):
ever since. Mark has always been present, but not really supportive.
He never came to my school plays, he rarely showed
up for my parent teacher conferences, and he made fun
of my dream of going to college for music. He's
not abusive or anything, but just emotionally distant and kind
of dismissive of anything that isn't sports or business related.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
So basically we just coexist.
Speaker 1 (00:53):
Kiki.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
I was given four tickets for my graduation. I gave
one to my mom, one to my grandma on my
bio logical dad's side, and the other two I gave
to my cousin and my aunt who has been like
a second parent to me. Mark found out the night
before and got really upset. He says it was a
slap in the face that I didn't give him a ticket,
and he said he's been in my life for all
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these years and deserved to be a part of this milestone.
My mom surprisingly backed him up, saying, he did put
a roof over your head, and he stepped up when
your father couldn't the way Okay.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
I told him, no, You're fine.
Speaker 3 (01:32):
I told him flat out that he never acted like
a dad to me, so why should he expect to
be treated like one.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
Now?
Speaker 3 (01:39):
The house is super tense. My mom is barely speaking
to me, and Mark is acting like I betrayed him.
I feel a little guilty, but I also feel like
this was my day?
Speaker 2 (01:48):
So am I wrong?
Speaker 4 (01:50):
Judge Kinky would say you eight three five, you guys
at the Jerry's call.
Speaker 5 (01:55):
Now.
Speaker 3 (01:55):
I would love to hear from some step parents on
this especially, But in my opinion, a child, a kid
will always show you what you truly mean to them,
and moments like this, and as parents, and I'm not
a parent, but I think sometimes you can think that
you are crushing it in life because you are financially
supporting your children.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
You are putting a roof over their head.
Speaker 3 (02:17):
However, it's the time, the time that you spend with them,
the opportunity to show up to their events and their
sports and activities. When you miss out on those things
for years and years, that all.
Speaker 2 (02:28):
Builds up and a kid never forgets.
Speaker 3 (02:31):
So this is just the moment where he was able
to remind the stepfather, Hey, I know you pay the
bills here. You're not doing me any favor. By the way,
you're married to my mom. That's the setup here. But
you know that doesn't get That doesn't mean that you
have taken time to build a relationship with me. You
just financially supported this house. So I completely understand how
he feels. And I feel like, it's your graduation, it's
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your day. You can give the tickets to who you
feel should be there. You know, I sympathize with the
stepfather because as a step parent, he probably felt like, Hey,
I'm working, I'm here with this kid. Maybe he felt
like he should be there, But that doesn't mean that Tyler,
this young young man who graduated, It doesn't mean that
he's like he has to give you a ticket I
don't think so.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
I mean, his day, it's his day. That's tough. That's tough.
Speaker 4 (03:16):
Yeah, I mean I can relate to that story in
some ways, but I M yeah, I mean he did
play a role. I mean, if he paid for the
house and whatever, he did play a role in the
kid's you know, ability to have the space and the
freedom to have this the success of achieving graduation. Yeah,
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at the same time, that's a one time memory. And
if you don't feel like you connect with somewhere, I
feel like they're you know, like that person's gonna turnish
your day, then I think you have a right now
to invite him, and then you have a right to
know or you should be aware that you're gonna hurt
someone's feelings in doing it. But I mean, I don't
think anyone is, don't I don't. I don't know that.
I think any parent or stepparents should feel entitled to
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do anything if they don't have a relationship with a
kid or didn't earn it simply because of the parent,
which may be very unpopular. Maybe you might be listening
now going that's unfair. But like, just because you're my
father doesn't mean that you get to. In my opinion,
you should be acknowledged for things that you're not doing
in my life, right, and then as opposed to getting
(04:17):
mad about it, maybe look in the mirror and say,
why wouldn't my kid want me there because there's a
disconnect because I haven't stepped up, because I'm not involved,
because you know I didn't. You know, in my example,
in my life, it was it was a it was
a basketball game my freshman year in high school, and
it was parents' night. It was the only game that
my mom and my then stepdad couldn't make it too.
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And they they did. They drove four or five hours
to watch every away game, They took me to every practice,
they did everything, and they couldn't make it to one
night and it was parent appreciation night and somebody else
in the family said I'm coming and I'll be acknowledged,
and I said, I won't play if you do, because
and by it was the last time I ever spoke
to that person. By the way, and because you don't,
in my opinion, you don't get you didn't do it
(05:02):
any Yes you made me right, and yes you've spent
money to put me into school, and you know you
were part of that, and that's all fair, but like,
why am I acknowledging you when two other people did
all the work exactly? And so I wasn't comfortable with that,
and it was a bad spot to be in because
it's like, how about look at this and say, maybe
I should have been more involved in the process if
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I expect to be acknowledged, But no, it was well,
I'm so and so, so I get it and that's
just the way it is. And it's like, no, I
think we earn our place in other people's lives and
we have to continue earning it, whether we're entitled enough
because we created them or not. There's that's my TED
talk for the day.
Speaker 2 (05:40):
You're not wrong, though, You're really not wrong.
Speaker 3 (05:42):
Just because we have blood ties or whatever, that doesn't
mean that you were an actual parent to me. That
just means you made me, and that doesn't mean you
get to celebrate all of my wins that you played
no part in helping me achieve. And so that's I
feel like it should be up to the kid to
kind of decide. And I understand how the stepfather can
feel feel upset, but I don't think you're wrong for
(06:03):
choosing the people that were important to you.
Speaker 5 (06:04):
I would love to know.
Speaker 6 (06:06):
Has he tried talking to the stepdad like before this
or was it this big like gotcha moment and the
step dad had no idea like I guess. I would
love to know if he said, hey, you know, I'm
having issues with you in this department or that department,
or even confided in his mom.
Speaker 3 (06:20):
Yeah, it sounds like he just he said they coexist.
You know that the stepfather is not supportive of his
aspirations to go do music and go to school for music.
He makes fun of it and the mom. You know,
I understand the mom backing up her husband, but even
she goes, you know, he could he put a roof
over your head when your father couldn't, like, well, my
father died, Like, it's not like my father chose not
to be in the picture.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
You know, he didn't make that points and the kid
didn't ask for any of that. You know, so that's unfair.
Why did would you say you do you don't stand
with the mother?
Speaker 4 (06:48):
No, I think the mom used to back up her
kid or at least be sympathetic to both sides.
Speaker 1 (06:52):
For sure, I would be so upset.
Speaker 4 (06:55):
I think if my mom was watching all this happen
and knew there was a disconnect because for me, for
the stepdad, this feels like optics. Now I don't know
if he's a bad guy or good guy. I don't know,
But now he's not being included is something everybody else is,
and he won't be there, and the question will be
why isn't he there? And that's about him. Maybe he
should have considered that when there was no relationship, because
now all of a sudden, there's not much relationship and
(07:17):
he's not being included in this intimate moment and people
are going to ask the question, and it's kind of
like sour grapes. It's like, well, I didn't invest in
the process, not only that I made fun of the
kid for the process they were experiencing. And now all
of a sudden, and maybe that stuff's going to come
up and it's going to make him feel bad and
look bad, and maybe he should have thought of that
the same way that you know in my example, it's like, well,
how about being involved in the process and not just
(07:40):
the you know, the accolade part of it, and then
maybe we don't find ourselves here. But usually people like
that don't see it that way. Oh No, it's more
what they deserve.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
And I don't know.
Speaker 4 (07:50):
I think, especially when it comes to parents and kids
and adults and kids, I think it's our responsibility, especially
if they're your kids or you're responsible as a steparty,
it's your responsibility to continue to invest in them.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
Yes, invest in that relationship.
Speaker 2 (08:04):
Her son and like him, be in a good house.
Speaker 4 (08:07):
Yeah, I agree. Hey Jennifer, Yeah, Hi, Hey on Kiky
score what say you? You guys are the jury.
Speaker 7 (08:14):
I totally agree with Kiki. And at the end of
the day, she invited her grandmother who's the mother of
her father that you know, at the end of the day,
and like she was saying, you know, to disconnect the
laughing at her about you know, what.
Speaker 8 (08:29):
She wants to do.
Speaker 7 (08:30):
And and the mother is totally wrong, like I said before,
you know that she didn't ask for that. And to
say he put a roof over her head, well, you
guys are married. You put the roof over her head
as well, and you shouldn't put that on her.
Speaker 1 (08:44):
Okay, fair enough, thank you, Jennifer, Yes, thank you.
Speaker 4 (08:48):
And somebody said putting a roof over your head this
is a text and feeding you every day makes you involved.
Kids are so entitled and unappreciative again, is that yeah?
Speaker 1 (08:57):
I mean you can't.
Speaker 4 (08:58):
You can't say that's not I don't know about the
entitled unappreciative part in this example. I mean, this is
a person who actively told this young young man, right, yeah,
told this young told this young man that what you know,
the music path and the path he was on that
he's of which he's now accomplished in graduating from, was
He wasn't.
Speaker 3 (09:16):
Supportive, he wasn't supportive, he was dismissive. They just coexist.
He made those points, and I think you know, as
a parent, that's your obligation to at least provide for
your child and feed them. But about them, supporting them
emotionally and you know, to caring about their mental health,
that is something different. And if you don't do that,
then you don't get to be at situations like that,
you don't go to graduations like this. Like that's crazy.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
I would argue.
Speaker 4 (09:39):
The entitlement might be on the stepdad's side, yes, to
say well I did all this so I should get
to I should get to be there. It's like, well,
maybe you should have been more supportive along the way. Hey, Stacy,
I think we also forget we're talking about kids. Even
at seventeen eighteen, you're still a kid and grown up. Yes,
we're talking about children and grown up, So we have
(10:01):
to take that in consideration.
Speaker 1 (10:02):
Stacy, what'd you have to say?
Speaker 8 (10:04):
Hi, guys, Love you, guys, Good morning.
Speaker 5 (10:08):
So I was this child and I currently have a
child in high school and she has a stepfather part
of her life currently. So just being that child and
having that parent that this current child and we're speaking
about that does have. I also had a very rocky relationship,
and I agree, I don't think that this person is
obligated to go. If if I didn't feel that my
(10:31):
stepdad needs to go, I wasn't gonna invite him, and
I didn't invite him, to be honest with you.
Speaker 8 (10:35):
Now we have a better relationship.
Speaker 5 (10:37):
He has been helpful with my kids currently and things
of that nature, and maybe that will change. Maybe that
will set something within the stepparents be like, maybe I
should step up, maybe I should do better, Maybe I
should be more supportive of this person as opposed to
being like, oh no, I need to be there.
Speaker 8 (10:52):
That's not fair. And if that was to be a
current situation in my.
Speaker 5 (10:55):
Life where my child didn't feel like my husband supportive
of her, then I would totally agree with my child
and be like, no, well she doesn't want you there,
then you don't need to be there, you know.
Speaker 8 (11:07):
But my husband has been very supportive.
Speaker 4 (11:10):
Okay, but Stacy, thank you for Sharon. I have a
good day you too, and thank you for listening. Jose
how you doing, Hose.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
Good morning.
Speaker 9 (11:20):
Guy, Let's have good morning.
Speaker 5 (11:21):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (11:21):
Hi, what do you want to say? Go ahead? Please?
Speaker 5 (11:23):
Man?
Speaker 9 (11:23):
Look, you know I grew up with a stepdad and
you know he was never dead like for me when
I was playing soccer and stuff, but I wouldn't I
wouldn't wanted him there, man, because you know, even though
he wasn't there, he was a provider, you know. And
like I mean, it's okay that like his guy, like
the child is. You know, he's still growing up and stuff.
He's going to figure this out later on in time.
But maybe be a generous right now or just take
(11:47):
it to consideration. Might be okay as well, because he's
going to teach him a better lesson now than later on.
You know, Holding that grudge, holding that judgment and stuff
like that. That ain't cool.
Speaker 4 (11:57):
Yeah, yeah, I hear you, Jose and thanks for calling. Man,
have a day. I mean you're asking you're asking a
kid to be the bigger person. It's like, yeah, I
mean maybe maybe, I'm sure you know what this is
going to cause this is a ripple effect here. It's
obviously you know, upset in the Apple cards. So you
could just invite the guy and you know, and he
knows that there's not much you know, support there or
(12:19):
or synergy, but yeah, this this I may not want
a negative influence there either if I did the thing
that you told me that I shouldn't or couldn't do.
Speaker 1 (12:29):
Amanda, Hi, Hi, how are you?
Speaker 10 (12:32):
Hey?
Speaker 1 (12:32):
Good morning? What do you want to say? Welcome?
Speaker 10 (12:34):
Thank you? Usually so usually with graduation, do you get
i mean four tickets max to most of these graduations.
So it may not necessarily be that he doesn't appreciate
or they don't appreciate everything this stepfather's done for him.
But maybe it's just these other people that he's decided
to come watch him and play the bigger role in
(12:56):
his life. It may not necessarily, you know, be that
he doesn't have a good relationship where they don't have
a good relationship. It may just be, hey, this these
other people have just meant more to me throughout my life,
and those are the ones that I want to see
because I have my nephews graduating high school in a
couple of weeks. And again, he got four tickets and
(13:18):
he's having someone come his mom, but she's never really
been in his life and I kind of helped raise
him as a kid. So I was upset, but I'm like,
you know what, again, it's his choice. And if that too,
he chooses to have walked, you know, watch him walk.
I'll be there in spirit. So kind of you kind
of have to sometimes think like, hey, it may not
(13:40):
be personal to that person. You just make Hey maybe
these people have just met more to him or sits
aside him more. And at the end of the day,
these graduations, you get like three or four tickets rights.
And it's a tough situation, is that he's a kid.
Speaker 4 (13:57):
I commend you though that you're not to penalize the
child for the fact that you you believe that you
deserve to be there. But he's made a different choice,
I mean, and that's that's his right. But yet I
know your love and your support of him will not change.
You can be disappointed, but again, this is the choice
he's making today and it doesn't negate what you've done.
Speaker 10 (14:17):
Absolutely, and like you said, he's eighteen.
Speaker 7 (14:19):
He is a child.
Speaker 10 (14:20):
Like it's not going to change my views on him.
I know he loves me, I love him, but absolutely
he's a child. Let's not you know, got to be
the bigger people sometimes.
Speaker 4 (14:30):
I mean he's out of the will completely. But other
than that, I mean it's you know, I don't know
who's going to pay for college now. But other than that, no, no, no,
there'll be no repercussion.
Speaker 9 (14:38):
A man.
Speaker 1 (14:39):
Have a good day.
Speaker 7 (14:40):
Thanks so much.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
I'm glad you called.
Speaker 4 (14:41):
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