May 19, 2025 • 29 mins
Have you gotten a colonoscopy? Fred hasn't and he wants you to tell him your experience. Plus, is it okay to not invite your step-dad to your high school graduation? Judge Keke weighs in her opinion on Keke's Court!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Something somebody texted Robinson the Colar Guard thing, and then
you shamefully bring the box to the UPS store. What
doesn't say on the outside, like this is a box
of my crap?
Speaker 2 (00:10):
It says Cold of Guard?
Speaker 3 (00:12):
Does it really?
Speaker 2 (00:13):
Yeah? What a box does?
Speaker 1 (00:14):
I'd like to think maybe it's more private than that.
They don't put the brand name on the outside of it,
because that is what you're doing. That you're walking in
and going, here's a box of my crap.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
That's to think. I can't be like, how insulated is that?
That's what I need to know.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
You you got to think that they figured this out.
It's been out for a while, you know, multiple multiple bags.
Has anyone done this? Has anyone done the Cold of
Guard the Colar Guard people?
Speaker 2 (00:41):
It says the logo is visible.
Speaker 3 (00:43):
Would they do that to you? Why would they do
that to you?
Speaker 2 (00:47):
They can send like discrete stuff to your house, That's
what I mean. On other websites.
Speaker 4 (00:51):
Then what like adult toy stores, like they know how
to package.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
Shoe and shows up in a normal box, like normal box,
that's a blue shoe on the side of it. Let's
say this guy needs to get jacked up, you know,
doesn't say that.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
I was like, we're gonna say, yeah, well, there's.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
A few things they gonna said, but I chose the
most tame of the mom. Wow and if you hey, look,
there should be no shame. By the way, like all
jokes aside, like I'm not trying to be like after
school guy here, but I mean my grandfather had it.
Speaker 3 (01:24):
It's no joke.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
And if it's if colon cancer is found early, then
it's very treatable. So I'm not looking forward to this,
but uh, it is what it is, is happening next year.
And my mom's like, why don't you just go now?
Like why did I just wait a year? Forty five
was already early. It was already like where you're supposed
to start, you know, if you're on it, So we go,
(01:46):
wait a year. I'm good. I'm all set with going
and having cameras stuck places at on. You've had one,
haven't you. Yeah, it was the best nap in my life.
I'd get one today if they had time. They do
right now. It's the same lady who did my gave
me steroids from my allergies. She's doing it from her
guest room.
Speaker 5 (02:05):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
Oh yeah, no, you yourself no, it's.
Speaker 4 (02:09):
A web knock myself out into it.
Speaker 3 (02:12):
It's a webcam.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
Oh god, I've done that.
Speaker 1 (02:22):
You know what, We're probably not far from it. Honestly,
we're probably not far Seriously, that was the comment from
ten minutes. I mean honestly, we're probably not. I mean,
look at look at where we are now versus ten
years ago. Ten years from now, we probably are doing
stuff at home and then and people are watching us
going yeah, little to the left, little to the right,
(02:43):
you have to leave your house convenience. Hey, Nina, Yeah, Hey,
how you doing Nina?
Speaker 3 (02:47):
Good morning? So you've done the colon garden? Yes I have,
because I refuse to do the colon.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
You should not refuse to do it. Now here's a
guy right here. I desperately don't want to have to go,
but you should. You should not refuse it, because what
happens if you got something going on and they can
six it.
Speaker 3 (03:03):
Nina, we need you. You only have thirteen listeners.
Speaker 6 (03:06):
Well they can check my poopy for that.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
So for those people who don't know this colon guard thing,
I don't even know how we got on this, but
I don't know how we get to most places that
we arrive. But it's for testing for colon cancer, I
guess markers or whatever.
Speaker 3 (03:21):
And it's for people who are low risk.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
And I know that you know, yes, I'm getting a
bunch of textion people going well, they are false positives
and false negatives and it's not perfect, Adiana. But the
question that we had was and to talk to your doctor.
It's you know, between the two of you. But the
question we had was do you physically poop in a box?
Speaker 6 (03:37):
Yes, it's a container you put like it's like a seat,
kind of like a baby seat, you put on your
toilet and you poop in there and then you It
is really well insulated and got instructions easy instructions is perfect.
Speaker 7 (03:51):
It's not hard at all.
Speaker 3 (03:52):
Okay, all right, thank you, And I would.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
Do I would do the colonoscopy.
Speaker 6 (03:57):
If there was a you know, in the family, you know,
different cancer and all that, then I will do the
enough be that'll have any family cancer, thank God.
Speaker 7 (04:06):
Otherwise that's why I do that.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
All right, show off, thanks to the day, you too,
have a great day. I'm hoping that I'm hoping that
it skipped me like the baldness genes skipped me too.
But then again, you can't have everything, so you never know.
Like my grandfather who had colon cancer was bald. My
mom's dad too. Is where you're supposed to get it from?
Speaker 7 (04:26):
Bald?
Speaker 3 (04:27):
Like at twenty two bald?
Speaker 2 (04:29):
Oh dumb?
Speaker 1 (04:29):
Yeah, and he and he had like on the sides,
you know, and but yeah, he was bald man. And
so I thought that was what was coming, and I
got the opposite problem. So maybe maybe it all skip me,
you know. Yeah, one can only hope. Joe Biden, by
the way, it has been diagnosed with an aggressive form
of prostate cancer. The former president now so on Friday
that he came to the discovery of a small nodule
(04:50):
on his prostate, which led to an evaluation. The cancer
cells have spread to the bones. That's that's not good.
The president and his family are reviewing treatment options with
his physicians. President Donald Trump did respond to the news,
saying that he wished him a fast and successful recovery. Okay,
Julia with her go get your kolonoscopy message, you know, Julia,
(05:13):
Go ahead, Julia, Hi, what qualifies you to make this announcement?
Speaker 8 (05:18):
I was just calling. There's massive layoffs going on at
my work, So I was trying to stack all of
my my doctor appointments, and so I recently was at
my OBI guy and she told me that I can
qualify now for a Kolonasky. So I call my insurance
and they told me it was Blue Cross, Blue Shield.
(05:40):
They said that it's not age forty five, that you
can go whenever you want because it's considered preventative care.
Speaker 3 (05:47):
We don't have to be a lot of nice. I
hope my mom isn't listening. Now. I'm forty five is
when I'm going.
Speaker 1 (05:52):
So I've decided that okay, and I'm going to have
a nice you know, glass of wine, and the guy's
gonna have to I'm gonna have to go out and
have dinner first.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
You don't want to do that?
Speaker 1 (06:01):
No? No, he and I well, no, not right before.
I mean, like I need to get to know this person,
like whoever's going to be doing it. We need to
start the romance.
Speaker 9 (06:07):
Now.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
Well it's going to take that blog. So you were
able to go and get it all done and everything's okay.
Speaker 8 (06:13):
I have not gone. My husband is going on Wednesday.
I have not gone because I thought the same thing
that it's forty five and I've just turned forty five.
So and it's like that with all of these treatments
where people think that it's a certain age that you
can go get a mammogram or a certain age, and
the insurance said, at least my insurance said, you can
(06:34):
go whenever it's considered preventative care. You just need to
call us and let us know.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Yeah, that's good to know. Oh, well, thank you, Julia,
I have a nice day. I appreciate you. Yeah, go
to your doctor and talk to him about that. Let
me see. Of course you know this, Jason, Okay, see
in Minnesota and New York and I believe it's India,
isn't it. You're an Indian in the Eastern Conference finals, Nbay,
It sounds right, Yeah, of course the okay see what
(06:59):
the Charger the Chargers of OKC. Yeah, that's more of
am not there. And then how about the Indian Indianapolis Colts.
That's football, and then the New York Giants that's also football.
You should know this. Every year you go to the
back guy, you and you worked there for jingle ball,
(07:22):
the Thunder and the Timberwolves basketball and the next and
the Pacers basketball as well. In the Eastern Western Conference, Finals,
and then the Florida Panther's Carolina Hurricanes, the Oilers and
the Stars. I'm not even gonna I'm not. You already
know you already know you need to Just trust me.
You already know you already.
Speaker 3 (07:40):
You're a huge fan. You go to all the games. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
In Mexican training ship crashed into the video into the
Brooklyn Bridge on Saturday night. Two people died after falling
from its masts and nineteen others were injured. Known as
the Ambassador and Knight of the Seas, the ship had
just spent five days docked at the South Street Seaport Museum.
It was on a global good will to are and
in roots to Iceland at the time of the incident.
(08:02):
According to the NYPD, A preliminary investigation has determined that
the ship experienced a mechanical malfunction. The bridge was temporarily
closed after the collision. It sustained no visible damage and
appeared to be left structurally intact.
Speaker 3 (08:17):
And enough we go. I guess I still know how
this happens.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
In twenty twenty five, but a massive manhunt is underway
for a group of inmates who escaped from a New
Orleans jail On Friday, ten guys fled after breaching a
wall behind a toilet, and so far only three have
been recaptured. Now authorities are asking, excuse me, I'm not
better yet, I need a co ascap. Yes, that's the problem,
because I am talking out of my ass most of
(08:42):
the time, so would make perfect sense. Authorities are asking
for public's help in tracking down the remaining seven escapees.
Both the Governor of Louisiana and the FBI are offering
rewards for information leading to their apprehension. With all the
cameras and all the technology and all the stuff, we
got ten dudes on the loose, can we like air
tag inmates?
Speaker 2 (09:01):
Oh copyright twenty five?
Speaker 1 (09:04):
You know what, you're gonna steal that, just like they
stole my day nightclub that was domin. Now it's everywhere.
Oh yeah, boss said it was stupid, we shouldn't do it,
and now it's now. At least once a week I
get some some DM from someone about somebody who's having
the adults nightclub during the day. My idea, I feel
like Paulina who invented uber never told anybody except I
(09:24):
told everybody, and I should have done that.
Speaker 3 (09:26):
I should have kept it quiet.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
The twenty twenty eight loss a year we were just
talking about how look, how far we've come, all the
stuff we can do twenty twenty eight. So three years
from now, the LA Olympics will introduce electric air taxis
to transport fans between VIP venues. The e VTOL I
don't I don't know anything about ev t O L
aircraft I'm not familiar, is capable of carrying four passengers.
(09:52):
It'll offer ten to twenty minute flights from Verdeport's near
key locations like Sofi Stadium, LAX to Santa Monica. The
initiative to alleviate LA's notorious traffic and support what they're
calling a car free Olympic experience.
Speaker 3 (10:06):
So this should be interesting. Fifty of these things buzzing.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
Around all over LA, and only three years from now
we've got flying cars taking you from place to place.
This would be the first time that air saxis have
been used at any Olympic Games.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
Your attention span is dropping.
Speaker 1 (10:20):
What would you guess is the average person's attention span?
As I've talked for the last ten minutes, we lost
everybody a long time ago. Forty five seconds, forty seven
I won't to even keep the guys in. Yeah, our
attention spans are decreasing, with an average now, which is
forty seven seconds.
Speaker 3 (10:36):
Here's the thing.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
If you don't keep listening past forty seven seconds, you
don't know what dumb thing we'll say next that you'll
have to text us and tell us that we're dombe for.
Speaker 3 (10:42):
So you got to keep listening.
Speaker 1 (10:44):
You got to remember why you hate us so much
and then make sure you let us know on the text.
From seventy five seconds to forty seven seconds now. Experts
attribute this decline to the constant barrage of digital distractions
from short form videos and rapid content switching. Do you
want to know how to combat it? Listen to this.
This is what you gotta do, Kiki. You got to
(11:05):
do mindfulness practices. Engaging in meditation, deep breathing exercises, digital detoxes,
limiting screen time, and taking regular breaks from devices and
structured work intervals will help you. Two techniques like the
Parmidoro method I love that eating that stuff is delicious,
which involves eating pasta parmadoro and watching TikTok Now. It
(11:26):
involves working in focused bursts with short breaks that can
improve your concentration. Also stuff like light foam three to
tign to minimize distractions. It's a tool I guess that
you can you can download. I'm writing about them now.
You know this was a plan that was not well
thought out. There's a guy in Florida and he held
(11:51):
his girlfriend and her family hostage in an effort to
get her not to leave him.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
Now I need to hear both sides. I mean I
can see this. Yeah, yeah, right for that.
Speaker 1 (12:02):
This is not the way to keep a girlfriend there saying, oh,
excuse me, was Utah? I knew it was tough places
where they might listen to us. Utaw man is facing
charges after allegedly holding his girlfriend and her family hostage
for six.
Speaker 2 (12:13):
Months, oh Jesus months.
Speaker 3 (12:15):
At a home in Mill Creek, Utah.
Speaker 1 (12:17):
Police say twenty three year old Dominic convinced his living
girlfriend and her family they were targets of a cartel
and made threats to prevent them from leaving. He later
admitted the entire story was entirely fabricated, entire entire, saying
that he continued to lie out of fear of rejection.
He's facing twenty eight criminal charges and it's currently jailed
without bail.
Speaker 2 (12:36):
Did she stay with them?
Speaker 1 (12:38):
Probably she's probably trying to marry the guy in jail.
I mean, I'm always amazed at this. You know, these
guys go to jail and then people start writing and
they get a little famous, you know, like now they're
famous because I just mentioned it.
Speaker 3 (12:48):
I just made them famous.
Speaker 1 (12:49):
And someone was some like really attractive girl with like
a trust fund, and simple will start writing the sky
and before long they're they'll be married. And he's never
getting out of jail. You see it all the time.
What's that weirdo? Scott Peterson? He's got I think he is.
Speaker 3 (13:01):
He married. So many people get married.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
Joe Exotic got married him. The story I'm I.
Speaker 1 (13:09):
Know, you don't have to. I don't want to ruin
your story because I know how and turns into a
bad morning. But no, his his boyfriend or husband. He
was released from from prison and then deported. Yeah, which
I was confused because I thought initially like, oh he
you know they're they're married now, so.
Speaker 2 (13:26):
He's automatically a citizen.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
But I think he had some other issues going on
with his married issues already.
Speaker 3 (13:34):
You got to do the criminal background check before you marry.
Somebody did you.
Speaker 10 (13:37):
See the gift that he left behind for Joe. No,
it wasn't a very interesting gift.
Speaker 3 (13:41):
Google it on your guard box.
Speaker 10 (13:43):
Almost close. Yeah, there was definitely some stuff happening there.
Speaker 1 (13:47):
And a six week old kit now named Beamer, miraculously
survived a two hundred and fifty mile journey from Boston
to New Jersey trapped inside the undercarriage of a BMW.
The owner discovered the feline after hearing me ows while
charging his car. Despite firefighters efforts and animal rescuer attempts
using tuna, bacon and kitten sounds, it took two days
and they had to take the guy's car apart in
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order to get this little kitten out. Now healthy, Bea
Murray is awaiting adoption and has a potential adopter lined up.
Researcher see her survival as a stroke of luck, calling
it a happy ending. Two hundred and fifty miles in
the car that took the and the guy was like you,
it's okay, take my BMW apart and get the cat
of coach. I mean you have to, but some people
are not not nice, which is the understatement of the day.
(14:33):
It's that's the roady day and that's not for people
who want to drink a beer in the car on
the way to work. That's fun too, except that the to
illegal people who work on concert tours is who we
were referring to when we talk about Roady's. So shout
out to all the people putting the Beyonce stage back
on a truck. And yeah, yet out of here too.
The entertainer report two minutes away. We will get some blogs
and waiting by the phone is knew why did somebody
get ghosted?
Speaker 3 (14:54):
All next frend show is on Benson boone right now,
a fresh show. It's Kiki's Court, Judge, Kiky take it away?
Speaker 10 (15:02):
All right, let's get into the courtroom. The gavel has
been hit, It says, am I wrong for letting or
not letting my stepdad come to my graduation? I graduated
from high school last weekend and it was a huge
deal for me. I've worked really hard and I'm the
first in my immediate family to graduate. My biological dad
passed away when I was seven and my mom remarried
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when I was ten, and I've had a rocky relationship
with my stepdad Mark ever since. Mark has always been present,
but not really supportive. He never came to my school plays,
he rarely showed up for my parent teacher conferences, and
he made fun of my dream of going to college
for music. He's not abusive or anything, but just emotionally
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distant and kind of dismissive of anything that isn't sports
or business related. So basically we just coexist, Kiki. I
was given four tickets for my graduation. I gave one
to my mom, one to my grandma on my biological
dad's side, and the other two I gave to my
cousin and my aunt, who has been like a second
parent to me. Mark found out the night before and
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got really upset. He says it was a slap in
the face that I didn't give him a ticket, and
he said he's been in my life for all these
years and deserved to be a part of this milestone.
My mom surprisingly backed him up, saying, he did put
a roof over your head, and he stepped up when
your father couldn't the way.
Speaker 2 (16:28):
I told him, No, you're fine.
Speaker 10 (16:30):
I told him flat out that he never acted like
a dad to me, so why should he expect to
be treated like one.
Speaker 2 (16:37):
Now the house is super tense.
Speaker 10 (16:38):
My mom is barely speaking to me, and Mark is
acting like I betrayed him. I feel a little guilty,
but I also feel like this was my day?
Speaker 2 (16:46):
So am I wrong?
Speaker 1 (16:48):
Judge Kick would say you eight three five You guys
at the Jerry who call now?
Speaker 10 (16:53):
I would love to hear from some step parents on
this especially, But in my opinion, a child, a kid
will always show you what you truly mean to them,
and moments like this and as parents, and I'm not
a parent, but I think sometimes you can think that
you are crushing it in life because you are financially
supporting your children.
Speaker 2 (17:13):
You are putting a roof over their head.
Speaker 10 (17:15):
However, it's the time, the time that you spend with them,
the opportunity to show up to their events and their
sports and activities. When you miss out on those things
for years and years, that all builds up and a
kid never forgets. So this is just the moment where
he was able to remind the stepfather, Hey, I know
you pay the bills here. You're not doing me any favor.
(17:36):
By the way, you're married to my mom. That's the
setup here. But you know that doesn't get That doesn't
mean that you have taken time to build a relationship
with me. You just financially supported this house, So I
completely understand how he feels. And I feel like, it's
your graduation, it's your day. You can give the tickets
to who you feel should be there. You know, I
sympathize with the step father because as a step parent,
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he probably felt like, I'm working, I'm here with this kid.
Speaker 2 (18:02):
Maybe he felt like he should be there.
Speaker 10 (18:03):
But that doesn't mean that Tyler, this young young man
who graduated, It doesn't mean that he's like, he has
to give you a ticket.
Speaker 2 (18:09):
I don't think so.
Speaker 1 (18:11):
I mean his day, it's his day. That's tough. That's tough. Yeah,
I mean I can relate to that story in some ways,
but I M yeah, I mean he did play a role.
I mean, if he paid for the house and whatever,
he did play a role in the kid's you know,
ability to have the space and the freedom to have
this the success of achieving graduation. Yeah. At the same time,
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that's a one time memory. And if you don't feel
like you connect with somewhere, I feel like they're you know,
like that person's gonna tarnish your day, then I think
you have a right now to invite him and then
you have a right to know or you should be
aware that you're gonna hurt someone's feelings in doing it.
Speaker 3 (18:47):
But I mean, I don't think anyone is. I don't,
I don't. I don't know that.
Speaker 1 (18:51):
I think any parent or stepparents should feel entitled to
do anything if they don't have a relationship with a
kid or didn't earn it simply because of the parent,
which made me very unpopular. Maybe you might be listening
now going that's unfair. But like, just because you're my
father doesn't mean that you get to In my opinion,
you should be acknowledged for things that you're not doing
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in my life. Right and then as opposed to getting
mad about it, maybe look in the mirror and say,
why wouldn't my kid want me there because there's a
disconnect because I haven't stepped up, because I'm not involved,
because you know, I didn't.
Speaker 3 (19:26):
You know.
Speaker 1 (19:26):
In my example, in my life, it was it was
a it was a basketball game my freshman year in
high school, and it was parents' night. It was the
only game that my mom and my then stepdad couldn't
make it too, and they they did. They drove four
or five hours to watch every away game, they took
me to every practice, they did everything, and they couldn't
make it to one night and it was parent appreciation
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night and somebody else in the family said I'm coming
and I'll be acknowledged, and I said, I won't play
if you do, because it was the last time I
ever spoke to that person, by the way, and because
you don't, in my opinion, you don't get you didn't
do it.
Speaker 3 (20:00):
And yes, you made me right, and yes.
Speaker 1 (20:02):
You've spent money to put me into school, and you
know you were part of that, and that's all fair,
but like, why am I acknowledging you when two other
people did all the work exactly And so I wasn't
comfortable with that, and it was a bad spot to
be in because it's like, how about look at this
and say, maybe I should have been more involved in
the process if I expect to be acknowledged. But no,
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it was well, I'm so and so, so I get it,
and that's just the way it is. And it's like, no,
I think we earn our place in other people's lives
and we have to continue earning it, whether we're entitled
enough because we created them or not. That's my ted
talk for the day.
Speaker 2 (20:38):
You're not wrong, though, You're really not wrong.
Speaker 10 (20:40):
Just because we have blood ties or whatever, that doesn't
mean that you were an actual parent to me. That
just means you made me, and that doesn't mean you
get to celebrate all of my wins that you played
no part in helping me achieve. And so that's I
feel like it should be up to the kid to
kind of decide. And I understand how the stepfather can feel.
He can feel upset, but I don't think you're wrong
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for choosing the people that were important to you.
Speaker 4 (21:02):
I would love to know has he tried talking to
the stepdad like before this or was it this big
like gotcha moment and the step dad had no idea
like I guess. I would love to know if he said, hey,
you know, I'm having issues with you in this department
or that department, or even confided in his mom.
Speaker 2 (21:18):
Yeah, it sounds like he just he said they coexist.
Speaker 10 (21:20):
You know that the stepfather is not supportive of his
aspirations to go do music and go to school for music.
Speaker 2 (21:26):
He makes fun of it and the mom.
Speaker 10 (21:28):
You know, I understand the mom backing up her husband,
but even she goes you know he could do he
put a roof over your head when your father couldn't, Like, well,
my father died, Like, it's not like my father chose
not to be in the picture, right, you know.
Speaker 2 (21:39):
He did make that point.
Speaker 4 (21:40):
And the kid didn't ask for any of that, you know,
So that's unfair.
Speaker 2 (21:43):
Why did would you say you don't stand with the mother?
Speaker 1 (21:46):
No, I think the mom used to back up her
kid or at least be sympathetic to both sides.
Speaker 3 (21:50):
For sure, I would be so upset.
Speaker 1 (21:53):
I think if my mom was watching all this happen
and knew there was a disconnect, because for me, for
the stepdad, this feels like optics. Now I don't know
if he's a bad guy or good guy. I don't know,
but now he's not being included is something everybody else is,
and he won't be there, and the question will be
why isn't he there?
Speaker 3 (22:08):
And that's about him.
Speaker 1 (22:10):
Maybe he should have considered that when there was no relationship,
because now all of a sudden, there's not much relationship
and he's not being included in this intimate moment and
people are going to ask the question, and it's kind
of like sour grapes it's like, well.
Speaker 3 (22:21):
I didn't invest in the process.
Speaker 1 (22:23):
Not only that, I made fun of the kid for
the process they were experiencing. And now all of a sudden,
and maybe that stuff's going to come up and it's
going to make him feel bad and look bad, and
maybe he should have thought of that the same way
that you know, in my example, it's like, well, how
about being involved in the process and not just the
you know, the accolade part of it, and then maybe
we don't find ourselves here. But usually people like that
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don't see it that way. Oh no, it's more what
they deserve.
Speaker 3 (22:47):
And I don't know.
Speaker 1 (22:48):
I think, especially when it comes to parents and kids
and adults and kids, I think it's our responsibility, especially
if they're your kids or you're responsible as a step party,
it's your responsibility to continue to invest in them.
Speaker 4 (23:00):
Yes, in that relationship her son and like him be
in a good house.
Speaker 1 (23:05):
Yeah, I agree, Hey Jennifer, Yeah, Hi, Hey Kiky score
what say you? You guys are the jury?
Speaker 11 (23:12):
I totally agree with Kiki. And at the end of
the day, she invited her grandmother who's the mother of
her father. That you know, at the end of the day,
and like she was saying, you know, to disconnect the
laughing at her about you know, what she wants to do,
and and the mother is totally wrong. Like I said before,
(23:32):
you know that she didn't ask for that. And to
say he put a roof over her head, well, you
guys are married. You put the roof over her head
as well, and you shouldn't put that on her.
Speaker 1 (23:42):
Okay, fair enough, thank you, Jennifer, So yes, thank you.
And somebody said putting a roof over your head, this
is a text. And feeding you every day makes you involved.
Kids are so entitled and unappreciative again, is that yeah?
Speaker 3 (23:55):
I mean you can't.
Speaker 1 (23:56):
You can't say that's not I don't know about the
entitled unappreciate part in this example. I mean, this is
a person who actively told this young young man, right, yeah,
told this young told this young man that what you know,
the music path and the path he was on that
he's of which he's now accomplished in graduating from was
He wasn't supportive.
Speaker 10 (24:14):
He wasn't supportive, he was dismissive. They just coexist. He
made those points, and I think you know, as a parent,
that's your obligation to at least provide for your child
and feed them, but about them, supporting them emotionally and
you know, to caring about their mental health. That is
something different. And if you don't do that, then you
don't get to be at situations like that. You don't
go to graduations like this, Like that's crazy.
Speaker 1 (24:36):
Would I would argue the entitlement might be on the
stepdad's side. Yes, to say, well I did all this,
so I should get to I should get to be there.
It's like, well, maybe you should have been more supportive
along the way. Hey, Stacy, I think we also forget
we're talking about kids. Even at seventeen eighteen, you're still
a kid and grown ups. Yes, we're talking about children
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and grown ups, so we have to take that in consideration.
Speaker 3 (24:59):
Stay, see what do you want to say?
Speaker 1 (25:02):
Hi?
Speaker 6 (25:02):
Guy?
Speaker 3 (25:02):
I love you guys. Morning.
Speaker 2 (25:05):
So I was this child and I currently have a child.
Speaker 5 (25:09):
In high school and she has a stepfather part of
her life currently.
Speaker 7 (25:13):
So just being that.
Speaker 2 (25:15):
Child and having that parent.
Speaker 5 (25:17):
That this current child and we're speaking about that does
have I also had a very rocky relationship, and I agree,
I don't think that this person is obligated to go
if if I didn't feel that my stepdad needs to go.
I wasn't gonna invite him, and I didn't invite him
to be honest with you. Now we have a better relationship.
He has been helpful with my kids currently and things
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of that nature. Maybe that will change, Maybe that will
set something within the stepparents, be like, maybe I should
step up, maybe I should do better, Maybe I should
be more supportive of this person, as opposed to being like, oh, no,
I need to be there. That's not fair. And if
that was to be a current situation in my life
where my child didn't feel like my husband is supportive
(25:58):
of her, then I would totally agree with my child
and be like, no, well she doesn't want you there,
then you don't need to be there, you know. But
my husband has been very supportive.
Speaker 1 (26:07):
Okay, but Stacy, thank you for Sharon. I have a
good day you too, and thank you for listening.
Speaker 3 (26:12):
Jose. How you doing, Jose, Good morning, Jose guy, Let's
have good morning.
Speaker 5 (26:18):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (26:19):
Hi, what do you want to say?
Speaker 9 (26:20):
Go ahead?
Speaker 2 (26:20):
Please?
Speaker 8 (26:21):
Man?
Speaker 9 (26:21):
Look, you know I grew up with a stepdad and
you know he was never dead like for me when
I was playing soccer and stuff. But WoT I would
have wanted him that man, because you don't even though
he wasn't there, he was a provider, you know, And like,
I mean, it's okay that like this guy, like the
child is you know, he's still growing up and stuff.
He's going to figure this out later on in time.
But maybe being a generous right now or just taking
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it to a consideration might be okay as well, because
he's going to teach him a better lesson now than
later on. You know, holding that grudge, holding that judgment
and stuff like that, that ain't cool.
Speaker 3 (26:54):
Yeah, yeah, I hear you, Jose And thanks for calling. Man.
Speaker 9 (26:57):
Have a good day, are you too?
Speaker 1 (26:59):
I mean you're asking you're asking a kid to be
the bigger person. It's like, yeah, I mean maybe I'm
sure you know what this is going to cause this
is a ripple effect here. It's obviously you know, upset
in the Apple cards. So you could just invite the
guy and you know, and he knows that there's not
much you know, support there or synergy.
Speaker 3 (27:18):
But yeah, this this.
Speaker 1 (27:21):
I may not want a negative influence there either if
I did the thing that you told me that I
shouldn't or couldn't do. Amanda, Hi, Hi, how are you, Hey,
good morning, what do you want to say?
Speaker 3 (27:31):
Welcome?
Speaker 7 (27:32):
Thank you? Usually so usually with graduation do you get
I mean, four tickets max to most of these graduations.
So it may not necessarily be that he doesn't appreciate
or they don't appreciate everything this stepfather's done for him.
But maybe it's just these other people that he's decided
to come watch him and play the bigger role in
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his life. It may not necessarily, you know, be that
he doesn't have a good relationship where they don't have
a good relationship. It may just be, hey, this, these
other people have just meant more to me throughout my life,
and those are the ones that I want to see.
Because I have my nephews graduating high school in a
couple of weeks. And again he got four tickets and
(28:16):
he's having someone come his mom, but she's never really
been in his life and I kind of helped raise
him as a kid. So I was upset, but I'm like,
you know what, again, it's his choice. And if that
too he chooses to have walked, you know, watch him walk,
I'll be there in spirit. So kind of you kind
of have to sometimes think like, hey, it may not
(28:38):
be personal to that person. You just say, hey, maybe
these people have just met more to him or sit
aside him more. And at the end of the day,
these graduations you get like three or four tickets rights
And it's a tough situation that he's a kid.
Speaker 1 (28:55):
I commend you though, that you're not going to penalize
the child for the fact that you believe that you
deserve to be there. But he's made a different choice,
I mean, and that's that's his right. But yet I
know your love and your support of him will not change.
You can be disappointed, but again, this is the choice
he's making today and it doesn't negate what you've done.
Speaker 7 (29:14):
Absolutely, and like you said, he's eighteen.
Speaker 11 (29:17):
He is a child.
Speaker 7 (29:18):
Like it's not going to change my views on him.
I know he loves me, I love him, but absolutely
he's a child. Let's not you know, got to be
the bigger people sometimes.
Speaker 1 (29:28):
I mean, he's out of the will completely. But other
than that, I mean, it's you know, I don't know
who's going to pay for college now. But other than that, no, no, no,
there'll be no repercussion.
Speaker 3 (29:36):
A man. Have a good day.
Speaker 11 (29:38):
Thanks so much.
Speaker 3 (29:38):
I'm glad you.
Speaker 1 (29:39):
Called the Entertainment Report, will do it next, Headlines, the
biggest stories of the day after that, and fun fact,
all coming up in the next fifteen minutes.
Speaker 3 (29:45):
On The Red Show,
Something somebody texted Robinson the Colar Guard thing, and then
you shamefully bring the box to the UPS store. What
doesn't say on the outside, like this is a box
of my crap?
Speaker 2 (00:10):
It says Cold of Guard?
Speaker 3 (00:12):
Does it really?
Speaker 2 (00:13):
Yeah? What a box does?
Speaker 1 (00:14):
I'd like to think maybe it's more private than that.
They don't put the brand name on the outside of it,
because that is what you're doing. That you're walking in
and going, here's a box of my crap.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
That's to think. I can't be like, how insulated is that?
That's what I need to know.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
You you got to think that they figured this out.
It's been out for a while, you know, multiple multiple bags.
Has anyone done this? Has anyone done the Cold of
Guard the Colar Guard people?
Speaker 2 (00:41):
It says the logo is visible.
Speaker 3 (00:43):
Would they do that to you? Why would they do
that to you?
Speaker 2 (00:47):
They can send like discrete stuff to your house, That's
what I mean. On other websites.
Speaker 4 (00:51):
Then what like adult toy stores, like they know how
to package.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
Shoe and shows up in a normal box, like normal box,
that's a blue shoe on the side of it. Let's
say this guy needs to get jacked up, you know,
doesn't say that.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
I was like, we're gonna say, yeah, well, there's.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
A few things they gonna said, but I chose the
most tame of the mom. Wow and if you hey, look,
there should be no shame. By the way, like all
jokes aside, like I'm not trying to be like after
school guy here, but I mean my grandfather had it.
Speaker 3 (01:24):
It's no joke.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
And if it's if colon cancer is found early, then
it's very treatable. So I'm not looking forward to this,
but uh, it is what it is, is happening next year.
And my mom's like, why don't you just go now?
Like why did I just wait a year? Forty five
was already early. It was already like where you're supposed
to start, you know, if you're on it, So we go,
(01:46):
wait a year. I'm good. I'm all set with going
and having cameras stuck places at on. You've had one,
haven't you. Yeah, it was the best nap in my life.
I'd get one today if they had time. They do
right now. It's the same lady who did my gave
me steroids from my allergies. She's doing it from her
guest room.
Speaker 5 (02:05):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
Oh yeah, no, you yourself no, it's.
Speaker 4 (02:09):
A web knock myself out into it.
Speaker 3 (02:12):
It's a webcam.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
Oh god, I've done that.
Speaker 1 (02:22):
You know what, We're probably not far from it. Honestly,
we're probably not far Seriously, that was the comment from
ten minutes. I mean honestly, we're probably not. I mean,
look at look at where we are now versus ten
years ago. Ten years from now, we probably are doing
stuff at home and then and people are watching us
going yeah, little to the left, little to the right,
(02:43):
you have to leave your house convenience. Hey, Nina, Yeah, Hey,
how you doing Nina?
Speaker 3 (02:47):
Good morning? So you've done the colon garden? Yes I have,
because I refuse to do the colon.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
You should not refuse to do it. Now here's a
guy right here. I desperately don't want to have to go,
but you should. You should not refuse it, because what
happens if you got something going on and they can
six it.
Speaker 3 (03:03):
Nina, we need you. You only have thirteen listeners.
Speaker 6 (03:06):
Well they can check my poopy for that.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
So for those people who don't know this colon guard thing,
I don't even know how we got on this, but
I don't know how we get to most places that
we arrive. But it's for testing for colon cancer, I
guess markers or whatever.
Speaker 3 (03:21):
And it's for people who are low risk.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
And I know that you know, yes, I'm getting a
bunch of textion people going well, they are false positives
and false negatives and it's not perfect, Adiana. But the
question that we had was and to talk to your doctor.
It's you know, between the two of you. But the
question we had was do you physically poop in a box?
Speaker 6 (03:37):
Yes, it's a container you put like it's like a seat,
kind of like a baby seat, you put on your
toilet and you poop in there and then you It
is really well insulated and got instructions easy instructions is perfect.
Speaker 7 (03:51):
It's not hard at all.
Speaker 3 (03:52):
Okay, all right, thank you, And I would.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
Do I would do the colonoscopy.
Speaker 6 (03:57):
If there was a you know, in the family, you know,
different cancer and all that, then I will do the
enough be that'll have any family cancer, thank God.
Speaker 7 (04:06):
Otherwise that's why I do that.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
All right, show off, thanks to the day, you too,
have a great day. I'm hoping that I'm hoping that
it skipped me like the baldness genes skipped me too.
But then again, you can't have everything, so you never know.
Like my grandfather who had colon cancer was bald. My
mom's dad too. Is where you're supposed to get it from?
Speaker 7 (04:26):
Bald?
Speaker 3 (04:27):
Like at twenty two bald?
Speaker 2 (04:29):
Oh dumb?
Speaker 1 (04:29):
Yeah, and he and he had like on the sides,
you know, and but yeah, he was bald man. And
so I thought that was what was coming, and I
got the opposite problem. So maybe maybe it all skip me,
you know. Yeah, one can only hope. Joe Biden, by
the way, it has been diagnosed with an aggressive form
of prostate cancer. The former president now so on Friday
that he came to the discovery of a small nodule
(04:50):
on his prostate, which led to an evaluation. The cancer
cells have spread to the bones. That's that's not good.
The president and his family are reviewing treatment options with
his physicians. President Donald Trump did respond to the news,
saying that he wished him a fast and successful recovery. Okay,
Julia with her go get your kolonoscopy message, you know, Julia,
(05:13):
Go ahead, Julia, Hi, what qualifies you to make this announcement?
Speaker 8 (05:18):
I was just calling. There's massive layoffs going on at
my work, So I was trying to stack all of
my my doctor appointments, and so I recently was at
my OBI guy and she told me that I can
qualify now for a Kolonasky. So I call my insurance
and they told me it was Blue Cross, Blue Shield.
(05:40):
They said that it's not age forty five, that you
can go whenever you want because it's considered preventative care.
Speaker 3 (05:47):
We don't have to be a lot of nice. I
hope my mom isn't listening. Now. I'm forty five is
when I'm going.
Speaker 1 (05:52):
So I've decided that okay, and I'm going to have
a nice you know, glass of wine, and the guy's
gonna have to I'm gonna have to go out and
have dinner first.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
You don't want to do that?
Speaker 1 (06:01):
No? No, he and I well, no, not right before.
I mean, like I need to get to know this person,
like whoever's going to be doing it. We need to
start the romance.
Speaker 9 (06:07):
Now.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
Well it's going to take that blog. So you were
able to go and get it all done and everything's okay.
Speaker 8 (06:13):
I have not gone. My husband is going on Wednesday.
I have not gone because I thought the same thing
that it's forty five and I've just turned forty five.
So and it's like that with all of these treatments
where people think that it's a certain age that you
can go get a mammogram or a certain age, and
the insurance said, at least my insurance said, you can
(06:34):
go whenever it's considered preventative care. You just need to
call us and let us know.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Yeah, that's good to know. Oh, well, thank you, Julia,
I have a nice day. I appreciate you. Yeah, go
to your doctor and talk to him about that. Let
me see. Of course you know this, Jason, Okay, see
in Minnesota and New York and I believe it's India,
isn't it. You're an Indian in the Eastern Conference finals, Nbay,
It sounds right, Yeah, of course the okay see what
(06:59):
the Charger the Chargers of OKC. Yeah, that's more of
am not there. And then how about the Indian Indianapolis Colts.
That's football, and then the New York Giants that's also football.
You should know this. Every year you go to the
back guy, you and you worked there for jingle ball,
(07:22):
the Thunder and the Timberwolves basketball and the next and
the Pacers basketball as well. In the Eastern Western Conference, Finals,
and then the Florida Panther's Carolina Hurricanes, the Oilers and
the Stars. I'm not even gonna I'm not. You already
know you already know you need to Just trust me.
You already know you already.
Speaker 3 (07:40):
You're a huge fan. You go to all the games. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
In Mexican training ship crashed into the video into the
Brooklyn Bridge on Saturday night. Two people died after falling
from its masts and nineteen others were injured. Known as
the Ambassador and Knight of the Seas, the ship had
just spent five days docked at the South Street Seaport Museum.
It was on a global good will to are and
in roots to Iceland at the time of the incident.
(08:02):
According to the NYPD, A preliminary investigation has determined that
the ship experienced a mechanical malfunction. The bridge was temporarily
closed after the collision. It sustained no visible damage and
appeared to be left structurally intact.
Speaker 3 (08:17):
And enough we go. I guess I still know how
this happens.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
In twenty twenty five, but a massive manhunt is underway
for a group of inmates who escaped from a New
Orleans jail On Friday, ten guys fled after breaching a
wall behind a toilet, and so far only three have
been recaptured. Now authorities are asking, excuse me, I'm not
better yet, I need a co ascap. Yes, that's the problem,
because I am talking out of my ass most of
(08:42):
the time, so would make perfect sense. Authorities are asking
for public's help in tracking down the remaining seven escapees.
Both the Governor of Louisiana and the FBI are offering
rewards for information leading to their apprehension. With all the
cameras and all the technology and all the stuff, we
got ten dudes on the loose, can we like air
tag inmates?
Speaker 2 (09:01):
Oh copyright twenty five?
Speaker 1 (09:04):
You know what, you're gonna steal that, just like they
stole my day nightclub that was domin. Now it's everywhere.
Oh yeah, boss said it was stupid, we shouldn't do it,
and now it's now. At least once a week I
get some some DM from someone about somebody who's having
the adults nightclub during the day. My idea, I feel
like Paulina who invented uber never told anybody except I
(09:24):
told everybody, and I should have done that.
Speaker 3 (09:26):
I should have kept it quiet.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
The twenty twenty eight loss a year we were just
talking about how look, how far we've come, all the
stuff we can do twenty twenty eight. So three years
from now, the LA Olympics will introduce electric air taxis
to transport fans between VIP venues. The e VTOL I
don't I don't know anything about ev t O L
aircraft I'm not familiar, is capable of carrying four passengers.
(09:52):
It'll offer ten to twenty minute flights from Verdeport's near
key locations like Sofi Stadium, LAX to Santa Monica. The
initiative to alleviate LA's notorious traffic and support what they're
calling a car free Olympic experience.
Speaker 3 (10:06):
So this should be interesting. Fifty of these things buzzing.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
Around all over LA, and only three years from now
we've got flying cars taking you from place to place.
This would be the first time that air saxis have
been used at any Olympic Games.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
Your attention span is dropping.
Speaker 1 (10:20):
What would you guess is the average person's attention span?
As I've talked for the last ten minutes, we lost
everybody a long time ago. Forty five seconds, forty seven
I won't to even keep the guys in. Yeah, our
attention spans are decreasing, with an average now, which is
forty seven seconds.
Speaker 3 (10:36):
Here's the thing.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
If you don't keep listening past forty seven seconds, you
don't know what dumb thing we'll say next that you'll
have to text us and tell us that we're dombe for.
Speaker 3 (10:42):
So you got to keep listening.
Speaker 1 (10:44):
You got to remember why you hate us so much
and then make sure you let us know on the text.
From seventy five seconds to forty seven seconds now. Experts
attribute this decline to the constant barrage of digital distractions
from short form videos and rapid content switching. Do you
want to know how to combat it? Listen to this.
This is what you gotta do, Kiki. You got to
(11:05):
do mindfulness practices. Engaging in meditation, deep breathing exercises, digital detoxes,
limiting screen time, and taking regular breaks from devices and
structured work intervals will help you. Two techniques like the
Parmidoro method I love that eating that stuff is delicious,
which involves eating pasta parmadoro and watching TikTok Now. It
(11:26):
involves working in focused bursts with short breaks that can
improve your concentration. Also stuff like light foam three to
tign to minimize distractions. It's a tool I guess that
you can you can download. I'm writing about them now.
You know this was a plan that was not well
thought out. There's a guy in Florida and he held
(11:51):
his girlfriend and her family hostage in an effort to
get her not to leave him.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
Now I need to hear both sides. I mean I
can see this. Yeah, yeah, right for that.
Speaker 1 (12:02):
This is not the way to keep a girlfriend there saying, oh,
excuse me, was Utah? I knew it was tough places
where they might listen to us. Utaw man is facing
charges after allegedly holding his girlfriend and her family hostage
for six.
Speaker 2 (12:13):
Months, oh Jesus months.
Speaker 3 (12:15):
At a home in Mill Creek, Utah.
Speaker 1 (12:17):
Police say twenty three year old Dominic convinced his living
girlfriend and her family they were targets of a cartel
and made threats to prevent them from leaving. He later
admitted the entire story was entirely fabricated, entire entire, saying
that he continued to lie out of fear of rejection.
He's facing twenty eight criminal charges and it's currently jailed
without bail.
Speaker 2 (12:36):
Did she stay with them?
Speaker 1 (12:38):
Probably she's probably trying to marry the guy in jail.
I mean, I'm always amazed at this. You know, these
guys go to jail and then people start writing and
they get a little famous, you know, like now they're
famous because I just mentioned it.
Speaker 3 (12:48):
I just made them famous.
Speaker 1 (12:49):
And someone was some like really attractive girl with like
a trust fund, and simple will start writing the sky
and before long they're they'll be married. And he's never
getting out of jail. You see it all the time.
What's that weirdo? Scott Peterson? He's got I think he is.
Speaker 3 (13:01):
He married. So many people get married.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
Joe Exotic got married him. The story I'm I.
Speaker 1 (13:09):
Know, you don't have to. I don't want to ruin
your story because I know how and turns into a
bad morning. But no, his his boyfriend or husband. He
was released from from prison and then deported. Yeah, which
I was confused because I thought initially like, oh he
you know they're they're married now, so.
Speaker 2 (13:26):
He's automatically a citizen.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
But I think he had some other issues going on
with his married issues already.
Speaker 3 (13:34):
You got to do the criminal background check before you marry.
Somebody did you.
Speaker 10 (13:37):
See the gift that he left behind for Joe. No,
it wasn't a very interesting gift.
Speaker 3 (13:41):
Google it on your guard box.
Speaker 10 (13:43):
Almost close. Yeah, there was definitely some stuff happening there.
Speaker 1 (13:47):
And a six week old kit now named Beamer, miraculously
survived a two hundred and fifty mile journey from Boston
to New Jersey trapped inside the undercarriage of a BMW.
The owner discovered the feline after hearing me ows while
charging his car. Despite firefighters efforts and animal rescuer attempts
using tuna, bacon and kitten sounds, it took two days
and they had to take the guy's car apart in
(14:09):
order to get this little kitten out. Now healthy, Bea
Murray is awaiting adoption and has a potential adopter lined up.
Researcher see her survival as a stroke of luck, calling
it a happy ending. Two hundred and fifty miles in
the car that took the and the guy was like you,
it's okay, take my BMW apart and get the cat
of coach. I mean you have to, but some people
are not not nice, which is the understatement of the day.
(14:33):
It's that's the roady day and that's not for people
who want to drink a beer in the car on
the way to work. That's fun too, except that the to
illegal people who work on concert tours is who we
were referring to when we talk about Roady's. So shout
out to all the people putting the Beyonce stage back
on a truck. And yeah, yet out of here too.
The entertainer report two minutes away. We will get some blogs
and waiting by the phone is knew why did somebody
get ghosted?
Speaker 3 (14:54):
All next frend show is on Benson boone right now,
a fresh show. It's Kiki's Court, Judge, Kiky take it away?
Speaker 10 (15:02):
All right, let's get into the courtroom. The gavel has
been hit, It says, am I wrong for letting or
not letting my stepdad come to my graduation? I graduated
from high school last weekend and it was a huge
deal for me. I've worked really hard and I'm the
first in my immediate family to graduate. My biological dad
passed away when I was seven and my mom remarried
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when I was ten, and I've had a rocky relationship
with my stepdad Mark ever since. Mark has always been present,
but not really supportive. He never came to my school plays,
he rarely showed up for my parent teacher conferences, and
he made fun of my dream of going to college
for music. He's not abusive or anything, but just emotionally
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distant and kind of dismissive of anything that isn't sports
or business related. So basically we just coexist, Kiki. I
was given four tickets for my graduation. I gave one
to my mom, one to my grandma on my biological
dad's side, and the other two I gave to my
cousin and my aunt, who has been like a second
parent to me. Mark found out the night before and
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got really upset. He says it was a slap in
the face that I didn't give him a ticket, and
he said he's been in my life for all these
years and deserved to be a part of this milestone.
My mom surprisingly backed him up, saying, he did put
a roof over your head, and he stepped up when
your father couldn't the way.
Speaker 2 (16:28):
I told him, No, you're fine.
Speaker 10 (16:30):
I told him flat out that he never acted like
a dad to me, so why should he expect to
be treated like one.
Speaker 2 (16:37):
Now the house is super tense.
Speaker 10 (16:38):
My mom is barely speaking to me, and Mark is
acting like I betrayed him. I feel a little guilty,
but I also feel like this was my day?
Speaker 2 (16:46):
So am I wrong?
Speaker 1 (16:48):
Judge Kick would say you eight three five You guys
at the Jerry who call now?
Speaker 10 (16:53):
I would love to hear from some step parents on
this especially, But in my opinion, a child, a kid
will always show you what you truly mean to them,
and moments like this and as parents, and I'm not
a parent, but I think sometimes you can think that
you are crushing it in life because you are financially
supporting your children.
Speaker 2 (17:13):
You are putting a roof over their head.
Speaker 10 (17:15):
However, it's the time, the time that you spend with them,
the opportunity to show up to their events and their
sports and activities. When you miss out on those things
for years and years, that all builds up and a
kid never forgets. So this is just the moment where
he was able to remind the stepfather, Hey, I know
you pay the bills here. You're not doing me any favor.
(17:36):
By the way, you're married to my mom. That's the
setup here. But you know that doesn't get That doesn't
mean that you have taken time to build a relationship
with me. You just financially supported this house, So I
completely understand how he feels. And I feel like, it's
your graduation, it's your day. You can give the tickets
to who you feel should be there. You know, I
sympathize with the step father because as a step parent,
(17:59):
he probably felt like, I'm working, I'm here with this kid.
Speaker 2 (18:02):
Maybe he felt like he should be there.
Speaker 10 (18:03):
But that doesn't mean that Tyler, this young young man
who graduated, It doesn't mean that he's like, he has
to give you a ticket.
Speaker 2 (18:09):
I don't think so.
Speaker 1 (18:11):
I mean his day, it's his day. That's tough. That's tough. Yeah,
I mean I can relate to that story in some ways,
but I M yeah, I mean he did play a role.
I mean, if he paid for the house and whatever,
he did play a role in the kid's you know,
ability to have the space and the freedom to have
this the success of achieving graduation. Yeah. At the same time,
(18:35):
that's a one time memory. And if you don't feel
like you connect with somewhere, I feel like they're you know,
like that person's gonna tarnish your day, then I think
you have a right now to invite him and then
you have a right to know or you should be
aware that you're gonna hurt someone's feelings in doing it.
Speaker 3 (18:47):
But I mean, I don't think anyone is. I don't,
I don't. I don't know that.
Speaker 1 (18:51):
I think any parent or stepparents should feel entitled to
do anything if they don't have a relationship with a
kid or didn't earn it simply because of the parent,
which made me very unpopular. Maybe you might be listening
now going that's unfair. But like, just because you're my
father doesn't mean that you get to In my opinion,
you should be acknowledged for things that you're not doing
(19:13):
in my life. Right and then as opposed to getting
mad about it, maybe look in the mirror and say,
why wouldn't my kid want me there because there's a
disconnect because I haven't stepped up, because I'm not involved,
because you know, I didn't.
Speaker 3 (19:26):
You know.
Speaker 1 (19:26):
In my example, in my life, it was it was
a it was a basketball game my freshman year in
high school, and it was parents' night. It was the
only game that my mom and my then stepdad couldn't
make it too, and they they did. They drove four
or five hours to watch every away game, they took
me to every practice, they did everything, and they couldn't
make it to one night and it was parent appreciation
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night and somebody else in the family said I'm coming
and I'll be acknowledged, and I said, I won't play
if you do, because it was the last time I
ever spoke to that person, by the way, and because
you don't, in my opinion, you don't get you didn't
do it.
Speaker 3 (20:00):
And yes, you made me right, and yes.
Speaker 1 (20:02):
You've spent money to put me into school, and you
know you were part of that, and that's all fair,
but like, why am I acknowledging you when two other
people did all the work exactly And so I wasn't
comfortable with that, and it was a bad spot to
be in because it's like, how about look at this
and say, maybe I should have been more involved in
the process if I expect to be acknowledged. But no,
(20:22):
it was well, I'm so and so, so I get it,
and that's just the way it is. And it's like, no,
I think we earn our place in other people's lives
and we have to continue earning it, whether we're entitled
enough because we created them or not. That's my ted
talk for the day.
Speaker 2 (20:38):
You're not wrong, though, You're really not wrong.
Speaker 10 (20:40):
Just because we have blood ties or whatever, that doesn't
mean that you were an actual parent to me. That
just means you made me, and that doesn't mean you
get to celebrate all of my wins that you played
no part in helping me achieve. And so that's I
feel like it should be up to the kid to
kind of decide. And I understand how the stepfather can feel.
He can feel upset, but I don't think you're wrong
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for choosing the people that were important to you.
Speaker 4 (21:02):
I would love to know has he tried talking to
the stepdad like before this or was it this big
like gotcha moment and the step dad had no idea
like I guess. I would love to know if he said, hey,
you know, I'm having issues with you in this department
or that department, or even confided in his mom.
Speaker 2 (21:18):
Yeah, it sounds like he just he said they coexist.
Speaker 10 (21:20):
You know that the stepfather is not supportive of his
aspirations to go do music and go to school for music.
Speaker 2 (21:26):
He makes fun of it and the mom.
Speaker 10 (21:28):
You know, I understand the mom backing up her husband,
but even she goes you know he could do he
put a roof over your head when your father couldn't, Like, well,
my father died, Like, it's not like my father chose
not to be in the picture, right, you know.
Speaker 2 (21:39):
He did make that point.
Speaker 4 (21:40):
And the kid didn't ask for any of that, you know,
So that's unfair.
Speaker 2 (21:43):
Why did would you say you don't stand with the mother?
Speaker 1 (21:46):
No, I think the mom used to back up her
kid or at least be sympathetic to both sides.
Speaker 3 (21:50):
For sure, I would be so upset.
Speaker 1 (21:53):
I think if my mom was watching all this happen
and knew there was a disconnect, because for me, for
the stepdad, this feels like optics. Now I don't know
if he's a bad guy or good guy. I don't know,
but now he's not being included is something everybody else is,
and he won't be there, and the question will be
why isn't he there?
Speaker 3 (22:08):
And that's about him.
Speaker 1 (22:10):
Maybe he should have considered that when there was no relationship,
because now all of a sudden, there's not much relationship
and he's not being included in this intimate moment and
people are going to ask the question, and it's kind
of like sour grapes it's like, well.
Speaker 3 (22:21):
I didn't invest in the process.
Speaker 1 (22:23):
Not only that, I made fun of the kid for
the process they were experiencing. And now all of a sudden,
and maybe that stuff's going to come up and it's
going to make him feel bad and look bad, and
maybe he should have thought of that the same way
that you know, in my example, it's like, well, how
about being involved in the process and not just the
you know, the accolade part of it, and then maybe
we don't find ourselves here. But usually people like that
(22:43):
don't see it that way. Oh no, it's more what
they deserve.
Speaker 3 (22:47):
And I don't know.
Speaker 1 (22:48):
I think, especially when it comes to parents and kids
and adults and kids, I think it's our responsibility, especially
if they're your kids or you're responsible as a step party,
it's your responsibility to continue to invest in them.
Speaker 4 (23:00):
Yes, in that relationship her son and like him be
in a good house.
Speaker 1 (23:05):
Yeah, I agree, Hey Jennifer, Yeah, Hi, Hey Kiky score
what say you? You guys are the jury?
Speaker 11 (23:12):
I totally agree with Kiki. And at the end of
the day, she invited her grandmother who's the mother of
her father. That you know, at the end of the day,
and like she was saying, you know, to disconnect the
laughing at her about you know, what she wants to do,
and and the mother is totally wrong. Like I said before,
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you know that she didn't ask for that. And to
say he put a roof over her head, well, you
guys are married. You put the roof over her head
as well, and you shouldn't put that on her.
Speaker 1 (23:42):
Okay, fair enough, thank you, Jennifer, So yes, thank you.
And somebody said putting a roof over your head, this
is a text. And feeding you every day makes you involved.
Kids are so entitled and unappreciative again, is that yeah?
Speaker 3 (23:55):
I mean you can't.
Speaker 1 (23:56):
You can't say that's not I don't know about the
entitled unappreciate part in this example. I mean, this is
a person who actively told this young young man, right, yeah,
told this young told this young man that what you know,
the music path and the path he was on that
he's of which he's now accomplished in graduating from was
He wasn't supportive.
Speaker 10 (24:14):
He wasn't supportive, he was dismissive. They just coexist. He
made those points, and I think you know, as a parent,
that's your obligation to at least provide for your child
and feed them, but about them, supporting them emotionally and
you know, to caring about their mental health. That is
something different. And if you don't do that, then you
don't get to be at situations like that. You don't
go to graduations like this, Like that's crazy.
Speaker 1 (24:36):
Would I would argue the entitlement might be on the
stepdad's side. Yes, to say, well I did all this,
so I should get to I should get to be there.
It's like, well, maybe you should have been more supportive
along the way. Hey, Stacy, I think we also forget
we're talking about kids. Even at seventeen eighteen, you're still
a kid and grown ups. Yes, we're talking about children
(24:57):
and grown ups, so we have to take that in consideration.
Speaker 3 (24:59):
Stay, see what do you want to say?
Speaker 1 (25:02):
Hi?
Speaker 6 (25:02):
Guy?
Speaker 3 (25:02):
I love you guys. Morning.
Speaker 2 (25:05):
So I was this child and I currently have a child.
Speaker 5 (25:09):
In high school and she has a stepfather part of
her life currently.
Speaker 7 (25:13):
So just being that.
Speaker 2 (25:15):
Child and having that parent.
Speaker 5 (25:17):
That this current child and we're speaking about that does
have I also had a very rocky relationship, and I agree,
I don't think that this person is obligated to go
if if I didn't feel that my stepdad needs to go.
I wasn't gonna invite him, and I didn't invite him
to be honest with you. Now we have a better relationship.
He has been helpful with my kids currently and things
(25:38):
of that nature. Maybe that will change, Maybe that will
set something within the stepparents, be like, maybe I should
step up, maybe I should do better, Maybe I should
be more supportive of this person, as opposed to being like, oh, no,
I need to be there. That's not fair. And if
that was to be a current situation in my life
where my child didn't feel like my husband is supportive
(25:58):
of her, then I would totally agree with my child
and be like, no, well she doesn't want you there,
then you don't need to be there, you know. But
my husband has been very supportive.
Speaker 1 (26:07):
Okay, but Stacy, thank you for Sharon. I have a
good day you too, and thank you for listening.
Speaker 3 (26:12):
Jose. How you doing, Jose, Good morning, Jose guy, Let's
have good morning.
Speaker 5 (26:18):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (26:19):
Hi, what do you want to say?
Speaker 9 (26:20):
Go ahead?
Speaker 2 (26:20):
Please?
Speaker 8 (26:21):
Man?
Speaker 9 (26:21):
Look, you know I grew up with a stepdad and
you know he was never dead like for me when
I was playing soccer and stuff. But WoT I would
have wanted him that man, because you don't even though
he wasn't there, he was a provider, you know, And like,
I mean, it's okay that like this guy, like the
child is you know, he's still growing up and stuff.
He's going to figure this out later on in time.
But maybe being a generous right now or just taking
(26:45):
it to a consideration might be okay as well, because
he's going to teach him a better lesson now than
later on. You know, holding that grudge, holding that judgment
and stuff like that, that ain't cool.
Speaker 3 (26:54):
Yeah, yeah, I hear you, Jose And thanks for calling. Man.
Speaker 9 (26:57):
Have a good day, are you too?
Speaker 1 (26:59):
I mean you're asking you're asking a kid to be
the bigger person. It's like, yeah, I mean maybe I'm
sure you know what this is going to cause this
is a ripple effect here. It's obviously you know, upset
in the Apple cards. So you could just invite the
guy and you know, and he knows that there's not
much you know, support there or synergy.
Speaker 3 (27:18):
But yeah, this this.
Speaker 1 (27:21):
I may not want a negative influence there either if
I did the thing that you told me that I
shouldn't or couldn't do. Amanda, Hi, Hi, how are you, Hey,
good morning, what do you want to say?
Speaker 3 (27:31):
Welcome?
Speaker 7 (27:32):
Thank you? Usually so usually with graduation do you get
I mean, four tickets max to most of these graduations.
So it may not necessarily be that he doesn't appreciate
or they don't appreciate everything this stepfather's done for him.
But maybe it's just these other people that he's decided
to come watch him and play the bigger role in
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his life. It may not necessarily, you know, be that
he doesn't have a good relationship where they don't have
a good relationship. It may just be, hey, this, these
other people have just meant more to me throughout my life,
and those are the ones that I want to see.
Because I have my nephews graduating high school in a
couple of weeks. And again he got four tickets and
(28:16):
he's having someone come his mom, but she's never really
been in his life and I kind of helped raise
him as a kid. So I was upset, but I'm like,
you know what, again, it's his choice. And if that
too he chooses to have walked, you know, watch him walk,
I'll be there in spirit. So kind of you kind
of have to sometimes think like, hey, it may not
(28:38):
be personal to that person. You just say, hey, maybe
these people have just met more to him or sit
aside him more. And at the end of the day,
these graduations you get like three or four tickets rights
And it's a tough situation that he's a kid.
Speaker 1 (28:55):
I commend you though, that you're not going to penalize
the child for the fact that you believe that you
deserve to be there. But he's made a different choice,
I mean, and that's that's his right. But yet I
know your love and your support of him will not change.
You can be disappointed, but again, this is the choice
he's making today and it doesn't negate what you've done.
Speaker 7 (29:14):
Absolutely, and like you said, he's eighteen.
Speaker 11 (29:17):
He is a child.
Speaker 7 (29:18):
Like it's not going to change my views on him.
I know he loves me, I love him, but absolutely
he's a child. Let's not you know, got to be
the bigger people sometimes.
Speaker 1 (29:28):
I mean, he's out of the will completely. But other
than that, I mean, it's you know, I don't know
who's going to pay for college now. But other than that, no, no, no,
there'll be no repercussion.
Speaker 3 (29:36):
A man. Have a good day.
Speaker 11 (29:38):
Thanks so much.
Speaker 3 (29:38):
I'm glad you.
Speaker 1 (29:39):
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