June 16, 2025 • 33 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Morning, Everybody Monday. She's sixteenth fread shows on Hi Kala Hi,
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up to What's in there?
Speaker 4 (01:08):
Cape Shannon Sharp apologizing to Nicki Minaj, you won't believe
the new cast of the Traders that reality show?
Speaker 5 (01:15):
And did he ask for another mistrial?
Speaker 2 (01:20):
Waiting by the phone this morning? Why did somebody get ghosted?
Speaker 6 (01:24):
It?
Speaker 2 (01:24):
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showed his Shelley. People are missing the juvenile intro. Hey,
I don't know. We may have to incorporate that into
something else. People are missing their pop it, spin it,
mounted do it, you know whatever, all the different.
Speaker 5 (01:42):
Things we can always pop it and spin it.
Speaker 2 (01:44):
Wow, people want more popping and spinning. I guess Kiki's
court this morning about embum girl. You need a DNA test?
Oh wow? Okay, moriy okay. Let's do headlines. Biggest stories
of the day. This a second maybe a morality Monday
on a Monday for once. I don't know. I don't know.
I'm feeling like doing a morality Monday on a Monday.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
The biggest stories of the day.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
This is news but Fox love in la Errol reporter,
a dude named Stu Mundell was caught, I guess, on
the air talking about his marriage or lack thereof. This
was during the No King's protest coverage, but instead it's
him talking about I guess that things aren't going so
(02:29):
well at home, and this was all on TV. Apparently.
I hate it when that happens. It's terrible.
Speaker 7 (02:38):
The answer is, yes, you know what, I don't care.
I don't care about my I I am married. I
am I am legally married. I am legally married. That's
about the only way you can really say it. I
am legally married. But I am not looking at now
(02:58):
at all. I uh just had a bunch of debacles
with my personal life.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
Yes, it's true.
Speaker 7 (03:05):
I know it's hard to believe somebody that doesn't even
know what he's talking about in a.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
Relationship and yeah, yeah this is on TV.
Speaker 7 (03:13):
But yeah, I got nothing right now, got nothing, got nothing,
not really looking, uh you know, trying to trying to
find myself and be happy.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
I'm being serious about that.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
So I don't know if this is like a stream
and he didn't realize that, like you could watch this.
Speaker 7 (03:32):
I want to behold I want to be beholden to
no one at.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
This He's still going, I mean sad, I.
Speaker 7 (03:38):
Got lonely, of course, but I got cats.
Speaker 8 (03:44):
He got cats, he said, yeah, anyway, So I'm thinking
this was some kind of stream because if it were
on the actual television.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
I feel like somebody, a director or somebody would have
been like, Okay, we got that, or maybe maybe we
just roll with it. Maybe we stick with it, you know,
so that we go viral. I'm not sure. But you know,
poor guy, he's legally married. Is this stew but he's
you know, I guess things aren't going well legally married,
but he's not looking. I guess you're wondering. I think
a lot of people have been asking.
Speaker 5 (04:15):
He wants to be beholden to no one?
Speaker 2 (04:17):
Which I like that. I I I like that too,
So anyway, I had that's my list of little sound
clips today. I want to be beholden to no one,
says helicopter reporter man. The Oklahoma City Thunder defeated the
Indiana Pacers to tie the NBA Finals at two games apiece,
and in the Stanleicup Finals, the Panthers run the verge
of a repeat after blowing out the Oilers in game five.
(04:38):
If you were offended by this, and nothing surprises me anymore,
the level of the very low bar I think it
takes to offend most people these days. I think we
need to be a little tougher like, as a society,
I think we need to be a little tougher because
United Airlines passengers were shocked, according to the headline, by
a looting message that greeted them on every inflight video
(05:02):
screen on the plane. When they recently got on a
plane to Chicago, they were greeted with a lude message
that said, welcome aboard flight, bite me one to Chicago.
Oh whoa, Now that's silly. I mean I would laugh
first of all, but bite me one like that hurts
your feelings. Really, it could be so much worse. It
(05:25):
could be a dude in the helicopter trying to cover
a protest, but instead of talking about his personal life. Okay,
it was displayed on every single screen. How the message
came to appear remains a bit of a mystery, although
some experts say that it could be traced to how
the inflight entertainment system is set up. Some systems require
a member of the groundstaff or a flight attendant to
manually input the flight number as well as the destination
(05:48):
and origin. Others pulled the information from the flight information
system in the cockpit. It could be that an engineer
was carrying out some maintenance and was testing it and
type that in I don't really know. Oh, it was
a joke, but apparently people are very upset and they want,
you know, I don't know, free flights and psychological treatment
and you know, councils are standing by. I have no
(06:10):
idea of all the things that are happening on planes
these days. I feel like that's the least of my concerns.
If I got honest, says, you know, bite me, he's
going to Chicago, I'd be like, yeah, exciting planes and
land Yeah, right, sure. They've listed the ten American cities
with the worst commutes. However, they're saying that the average
commute time in the US is only twenty six minutes,
(06:33):
and some of these commute times are listing for the
longest commutes. I don't really buy. For example, and let
me see the twenty twenty three Census Bureau data is
how they came up with this New York City forty
minute commute, Chicago thirty three minute commute. I feel like
there are people listening now going thirty three. I wish
that's that one little stretch from where you can go
(06:54):
to Milwaukee to the city that's where everything's closed. It's
reversed and flippant reverse it England. Yeah, like missy Elliott,
I can see it, but I'm nowhere near it. Kind
of thing. That's I think. That's no. Thirty one minutes
in LA thirty one in Philly, thirty in San Francisco,
thirty in Long Beach, thirty in Washington, d C. Thirty
in Boston, thirty in Oakland, twenty eight in Baltimore. If
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you want the shortest commute, moved to Tulsa nineteen minutes,
which a tom My favorite place. Nineteen minutes, Omaha, twenty, Memphis, twenty, Minneapolis, Columbus, Ohio,
Kansas City, Oklahoma City, two Sun of Milwaukee, all around,
somewhere between twenty and twenty two minutes. Thirty three minutes
in Chicago is the average.
Speaker 8 (07:36):
Yeah, at four am when I'm driving and there's not
another car, Yeah, in the expressway.
Speaker 2 (07:40):
But yeah, no, I don't know about the times. Yeah,
I don't think so. Visitors. I'm offended by this. This
is extremely hurtful to me, and I'm I need psychological
help in general, but also for this specifically. Visitors at
King's Island Amusement Park in Mason, Ohio, we're told to
keep their mouths closed on the rocks all weekend to
(08:01):
avoid swallowing a cicada, because I guess they're flying around
so much that if you open your mouth on a ride,
you're going to suck these things. In Ohio has seen
the brood fourteen cicadas hatch a little bit later this year,
and they're everywhere, including this amusement park. So visitors have
been told to enjoy the rides, but for the next
few weeks should probably keep their mouths closed well on them.
Speaker 5 (08:24):
No, I'm not enjoying no, right, okay?
Speaker 2 (08:26):
Yeah. And in sad news, guys, Father's Day was the
day that marked the end for a man known as
the Sperminator oh who is fathered one hundred and seventy
six children. He announced his retirement from baby making on
Father's Day yesterday. The guy's name is Ari Nagel, and
he said that it's time for women to start finding
somebody else, somebody younger to impregnate them. His mission is
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almost he's turning fifty in August. I know you were dreaming.
I've been trying to get you and Ari together for
some time now, and it hasn't worked as scheduling wise, yeah,
but he said that it's healthier and better to be
safe than sorry for women to find a younger guy
to do this. He's been donating for seventeen years now
and he has one hundred and seventy six children as
a cost of course, across twenty states, ten countries, and
(09:12):
five continents. He has five more children who were due
this year, but he's done so limited edition. These are
these kids are all numbered and we're done with this
at the end of the year.
Speaker 5 (09:22):
Good effort.
Speaker 2 (09:23):
His main draw has been that he's never charged a
woman for his donations. What a guy, allowing them to
avoid thousands of dollars in sperm bank costs. He said
that his legacy will never be about famer money, but
about family. What a guy. What a guy? I know,
And I wonder if he's one of these guys. It's
like it has to be the natural method, you know
(09:43):
what I mean, Like, oh, dude, if it's a natural
you know what I mean? Like, I July hope not
one of these guys. I've seen these guys on Craigslist before.
Oh you were looking, yeah, well, I mean I'm always
looking for new business opportunities. I was looking to say, well,
it sounded like an interesting side hussle. You know, okay,
I was the one who posted it. But what does
a better here in National Fudge Day Today? The Entertainment
(10:03):
Report will too it next Caitlin's Entertainment Report.
Speaker 1 (10:07):
He's on the Freasshew.
Speaker 4 (10:09):
Kanie West showed up to Ditty's trial Friday morning. You
may have seen video of him wapping up Ditty's Sun
Christian on the way into the courtroom. However, he left
the trial after only ten minutes, even though court officials
open up a whole overflow room just for him to watch.
That's when there's like too many people in the courtroom
and you can see from other areas. As for the
latest with the trial, Ditty's legal team has once again
(10:30):
filed an emergency motion for a mistrial, arguing that prosecutors
unfairly pushed out one of the very few black jurors
by questioning his residency. The motion revolves around Jury number six,
a man whose living situation is shuttling between Jersey and
the Bronx, became a trigger for the prosecution accusing him
of not being truthful. But Ditty's lawyers claim the move
(10:52):
reveals a deeper strategy to reduce diversity on the jury.
The judge is set to decide by the end of
this week whether to replace that and whether a.
Speaker 5 (11:02):
Mistrial is necessary.
Speaker 4 (11:05):
Donna Kelcey is the mother of Travis and Jason kelce
and she's also going to be a contestant on the
next season of The Traders, which that.
Speaker 5 (11:14):
I did not have on my bingo card.
Speaker 4 (11:16):
The series follows reality TV stars from things like The
Real Housewives, Survivor, Love Island and other reality shows. I
think Tom Sandival from vander Pump was on there. And
it's a competition based sort.
Speaker 5 (11:29):
Of mind game.
Speaker 4 (11:30):
They film at a castle in Scotland, Alan Cummings as the host.
Speaker 5 (11:34):
They won a cash prize. But I just I don't know,
Like she.
Speaker 4 (11:37):
Seems like someone who doesn't want to be famous and
she's just like a Midwest mom.
Speaker 5 (11:40):
I don't know. I'm just very surprised to see her
on the cast.
Speaker 4 (11:43):
She will be competing with people like Lisa Rinna Colton
Underwood from The Bachelor, to Nda Medley from the Housewives.
I'm trying to look at other people other names we know,
Michael Rappaport randomly, Portia Williams from the Real Housewives, Stephen
Colletti from Laguna. Like Donna Kelsey and Stephen Colletti are
(12:03):
competing for a cash prize, Steve was.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
Able to get that much time off at Target it
did you still have that pickup truck? I wonder still
driving the pickup truck?
Speaker 5 (12:13):
I hope.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
So he was like he was like so poor compared
to the rest of them because he he just had
a pickup truck. He lived like outside of the gates.
Speaker 5 (12:22):
He used the hot Oh yeah, so hot.
Speaker 4 (12:26):
So you can watch him on the Traders and I
have heard amazing things.
Speaker 5 (12:29):
I don't watch it, but I'm going to start.
Speaker 4 (12:30):
I think I have to see Donna Kelsey and Stephen Colletti.
Speaker 5 (12:34):
And lastly, Shannon Sharp has.
Speaker 4 (12:36):
Apologized to Nicki Minaj after the rapper dissed him on
the Lil Wayne track band from n O Remix. In
the song she rapped about to copy slides. All you
do is flip flop. If I send you a pick
of Shannon, you ain't that sharp. And I think the
line is in response to Shannon saying Nikki Who when
a fan asked him to get her on his podcast.
On social media, Shannon says he was actually talking about
(12:58):
politician Nikki Hayley when it came to his Nicki who comment,
and he said that Nicki Minaj has an open invite
to his club Shay Shay podcast or a private conversation
anytime she wants, which makes me laugh. You're open to
a private conversations with me if you want, Niki.
Speaker 5 (13:15):
But yeah, so that's your news. By the way, if
you missed any.
Speaker 4 (13:19):
Part of our show, to take the freend Show on
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Speaker 2 (13:23):
All right, we have time morality Monday on a Monday
for once, which we still might do Morality Monday on
a Thursday. It just depends. It really depends on my mood,
you know, completely entirely. Oh by the way, my take.
No one asked, but I just want to say on
the record, while I'm thinking about you're speaking of you know,
court cases and Diddy. By the end of the day,
Karen Reid innocent. That's what I say, that's way, that's
(13:45):
what I believe. I believe by the end of today
she is found innocent, not guilty. How could this take
any longer than that? They went They gave it to
the jury on Friday, afternoon. We should be done by today.
Speaker 5 (13:57):
Oh they're deliberate.
Speaker 2 (13:58):
Now, they're deliberating right now. Yeah, this is done. This
is Oh, she didn't do it.
Speaker 5 (14:02):
She did not do it. No girl, but she didn't
do it.
Speaker 2 (14:06):
I don't see it. And I'm watching TikTok and people
are like, she absolutely did it. I'm like, did we
watch the same trial, Like there's I don't understand, Like there,
I don't there's not one piece of it. There's not
I don't know there. I mean, I can't even go
through it all. But there's nothing. It doesn't add up.
I don't think she did it.
Speaker 4 (14:23):
It also just even like let's say she did, which
I don't believe she did, it's just not a fair trial.
It's not a fair collection of evidence. It's not a
fair situation. Unfortunately, they messed it up from the beginning.
Speaker 2 (14:36):
Yeah, if a crime happens in my house and I
sell the house, burn the house down, replace everything inside
that my dog, rip the floors out, get rid of
my dog, move to a different city, you know, different
if I you know whatever, like detonate the house, if
I do all that, and then I'm like, I don't
I don't know what happened. Why would I do all that?
(14:57):
If I if I really don't know what happened, I
had nothing to do with it, would I do all that?
Speaker 5 (15:01):
Now? What was the reason?
Speaker 2 (15:02):
That's what I mean anyway, So morality Monday number one.
I think by the end of the day, and if
it takes, if it takes much longer than I'm worried
it's bad because that means they're all sitting around really
going over this stuff one by one, item by item.
But I don't know. I was a little surprised they
didn't just go in there for an hour and be
like because in the last one I think it was
I think it was like everybody but maybe one person
(15:22):
thought that she was innocent.
Speaker 4 (15:23):
Right, And you'd hate to be the person who like, Okay,
I either got to change my opinion, you know what
I mean, because we're all exhausted, right.
Speaker 5 (15:31):
See, you know you don't want to. I mean, like
that scares me, would hate you.
Speaker 2 (15:35):
You know they've been this has taken so long, and
then there's you know, and you got to stand up
for what you believe, right, I mean, it is someone's
life we're talking about here. So if you believe, if
you somehow believe she did it, and or is it
that she didn't do it and everyone else believes she
did it, And you're the reason that something you know
does it doesn't happen. You can't just say I want
to go home, so whatever, Okay, fine, but I think
(15:57):
that happens. Sometimes we're like other jurors, like, you know,
upset because I would look who everyone else agrew? What
did you watch? It would be like me if I
was in the jury room and someone's like, yeah, she
did it? Are you were you watching Netflix or something
during this thing, because like everything I saw, there's no
possible way. Okay, So here's our morality Monday. And this
(16:18):
is from our friends that reddit. Am I the a
whole eight five five, five nine, one one oh three five.
You can call text the same number. My wife, who's
twenty nine and I. He's a thirty one year old male,
have a three year old son. I think some people
can relate to this. I worked ten to twelve hour
days as a contractor while she stays home. Lately, she's
been venting online into friends, saying that she feels like
(16:39):
a single mom because I'm never around. This is from
the perspective of the I'm the guy who works all
the time. I get this. She's overwhelmed. I am too,
but I'm working my butt off to keep us afloat.
The other night, I heard her refer to herself as
a solo parent during a zoom call with her mom.
After she hung up, I told her that I didn't
appreciate that. I'm not partying, I'm not neglecting our family.
(17:02):
I'm working. She said, I'm being defensive and that she
feels like a single mom because she handles everything alone
at home. Now I feel guilty. I don't want to
invalidate her, but I also feel like she's ignoring everything
I do. Am I the a hole for calling her out?
I mean, she's not a single mom. No, And if
(17:23):
it requires ten to twelve hours a day of this
man working to provide their lifestyle, then it sounds like
they're both doing jobs right. He's doing his job to
make money, she's doing her job, which is a job
to raise the kids. But I hear this argument sometimes
when one person's at home and the other person's at work,
and that's a decision that was made within the relationship
(17:43):
that this is how we're going to do this. And
I hear this sometimes like oh, it must be nice,
and I think that you can. I don't know. I
don't think one side always sees the other side, you know,
because it's like my buddies that travel lie pilot buddies. Right,
they're gone for you know, a week at a time.
They've always been this for thirty years, right, It's been
this way forever. And then they come back and it's like,
it must have been nice to be in you know,
(18:03):
Dubai for a week. Must have been nice. I was
out here making lunches and driving a soccer practice and
it's like, well, first of all, you know, maybe maybe
it was nice in some regards, but in other regards,
like this is my life. I got. I got aluminum, platinum, diamond, gold.
You know, I'm the biggest badass status at Hilton because
(18:25):
I don't sleep in my house. Like anytime you see
somebody who'd like they when they check in, someone hands
in a bottle of champagne and like kisses their feet.
At first, I'm like, Wow, they're going to get a
really nice room. And then I'm like, in order to
get that, they don't ever get to go home, right, right,
So so my buddies. I talk about this all the time.
He's like, you know, I would much rather be here
with my family. I would much try to be here
on my terms. But I'm here because the boss needs
(18:47):
to be here. And if the boss calls me right now,
it says we're leaving, we're leaving, which means I'm not
at the bar. You know, I'm not partying, I'm not
on a I'm not riding a camel, you know, or whatever.
Like this is not my vacation. This is work, and
I don't get to choose when or where or how
or any of it. And so yeah, I guess I'd
get to sleep in a hotel bed and sleep in
sometimes and eat room service. But at the same time,
(19:09):
maybe I would rather be driving to soccer practice. And
then on the flip side, you know, you've got the
people going, you know, on the side of the person
who's doing all that, it's like, well, maybe i'd like
the night out sometimes or the night away, or maybe
I'd like the exposure to adults. Yes, you know, I'd
like to be able to go to I would like
to go to work for eight ten hours a day.
(19:29):
And you know, I know people who in this case
hits the man who goes to work and the wife
keeps a part time job, and it actually costs them
money for her to go to work as a flight attendant.
I've used this example before. But they do it anyway
because like, for him to stay home, he makes three
times what she does as a pilot, So for her
to go to work costs money. But they do it
(19:50):
anyway because for her, it's like, this is my independence,
this is my job, this is part of my identity.
I want to go on a trip, I want to
hang out with adults, I want to make a little
bit of mone.
Speaker 5 (20:00):
He's cool for that, right, Yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:02):
But I just I think that this sort of argument
fundamentally is based on one side not seeing the other,
or one side wanting some elements that the other side.
I think everybody wants a little bit of the other thing.
But I'm just curious for those of you who deal
with this. If one person's primarily raising kids and one
person is primarily working, do you really think you could
say that? Is that a fair thing to say out loud?
(20:24):
Because it makes it solo parent kind of implies that
the other parent isn't involved or doesn't care. It's like
dead beat, it's giving dead beat, it is, but it's
the exact opposite.
Speaker 4 (20:34):
Also, like, if you feel that way, it's it's not
the time to get it out on a zoom call
when it can just be overheard by your partner. And
what's sad is I think it takes both people to
make the raising the children work.
Speaker 5 (20:46):
It does, you know, And comparison is the thief of joy.
Speaker 2 (20:49):
So yeah, I and if I heard if this is
me and I heard my wife saying this to her mom,
that's even worse because it's like you're telling your mom
that I'm basically a bad dad.
Speaker 6 (21:00):
True.
Speaker 2 (21:00):
You know, I don't like to el is it L
or Ellie?
Speaker 1 (21:04):
This l.
Speaker 2 (21:06):
How you doing? So this scenario in here, it's like
you've got the dad working twelve hours a day. In
this case, you've got the mom at home and the
mom feels like she's a single parent, and the dad's like, hey,
at first he was upset, Now he feels guilty. But
I don't necessarily think that's a fair thing to say about.
Speaker 6 (21:20):
Him, not at all as a.
Speaker 5 (21:23):
Truly solo parent.
Speaker 6 (21:24):
This just makes me so angry. I'm actually shaking because
she's still like she's not has to work. She's not
worried about the bills herself. She's getting support in some way,
shape or form, even though he might not be present.
So it's just it's just not something that you can
just say like that, because she's just not even realizing
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the impact she's getting from having that man in her life.
Speaker 2 (21:48):
Yeah, I think that would trigger me too, because what
about the people who are in fact solo parents and
it all falls on them. They have to somehow figure
out a way to pay for the you know, pay
pay the bills and the mortgage and the rats and
the food and care yet soccer practice and figure out
the logistics of the rest of that. I mean, and
I'm not minimizing one or the other, but for you,
you have to figure out both.
Speaker 6 (22:09):
Yeah, and not to minimize it either, because she still
has to step up in ways that maybe she didn't
anticipate when they originally decided to have a child. But
I mean, I remember when I just had a three
month old and I couldn't even just go to the bathroom,
I couldn't just go down the street and get a coffee.
Speaker 1 (22:23):
Like, there's just so much you don't.
Speaker 6 (22:25):
Realize that actually happens when you are a truly solo parent.
Speaker 2 (22:28):
Yeah, yeah, thank you so much.
Speaker 6 (22:31):
He's definitely the a hole in this one.
Speaker 2 (22:33):
Okay, fair enough, I'll let her know. Thanks.
Speaker 6 (22:36):
Any guys love your show.
Speaker 2 (22:38):
Thank you, love you too.
Speaker 1 (22:39):
Yeah.
Speaker 9 (22:39):
I mean it's a good point that you've made though, too,
where it's like you look at one side look at
the other side right, like you got it better.
Speaker 5 (22:45):
I know you got it better, but.
Speaker 9 (22:46):
I think it's also like for my personal experience, from
my experience, I feel like I'm looking at it that
what does his husband do when he comes home? Is
he playing video games? Is he disassociating from his family?
I know that the ten to twelve hour shifts are long,
and they're lengthy and hard. I feel like they can
at least come home right, play with the kids, make dinner,
like help out, because I think then that would take
(23:06):
less off of the mom who is home all day
with the kids. Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (23:09):
But let me and Okay, so there's a question. I
don't know the answer. I'm asking like an open ended question,
but is it fair for someone who worked ten hours
a day to then come home and take an hour
to decompress?
Speaker 1 (23:20):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (23:20):
Because because what I think. I think sometimes it's it's like, yeah,
you yes, you were at home with the kids all day,
But then am I expected And I don't know the answer,
but am I expected to just after my ten hour
day walk in and then just take over the parenting
role and then you get a break? I don't know
the answer to that, But like I think, sometimes there's
not a respect for what the other one's doing. It's
(23:41):
like I just went to work. I just sat in
traffic for an hour. Yeah, I just had spit up
on me all day and watched Miss Rachel for the
thirty seven times like me, you know what I mean.
So it's like, I don't know, I've heard that one
before where the guy comes home he sortady wants to
go to bed. And it's not that I don't know
that he's a bad guy or a bad girl or whatever,
but like you're only capable of so much.
Speaker 9 (24:02):
Yeah, communicate, I think at a community with a partner,
how are you feeling this moment? Hey, I just walked
in the house, like, give me, you know, thirty minutes
and then I think, just.
Speaker 5 (24:09):
You got to work it out. It's hard, but you
got to balance it some way.
Speaker 2 (24:12):
Melissa Yeah, good morning, Melissa, good morning, welcome. What do
you think so?
Speaker 10 (24:18):
I think the dad here is definitely not the a hole.
She just needs to reorganize her thinking to be able
to include him or incorporate him with more parental responsibilities.
Like you said, they're both performing a job here. His
is the financial income, the financial stability, the security there.
(24:38):
She is providing the parenting here, whether she wants it
or not. If that's something that she kind of and
formally agreed to that that's just the way it is.
If she's not reporting somewhere to go to and provide
the same way he does, then she's not the solo
parent here. She's just they're just providing different job aspects
of the family, the being at home, that being the
(25:02):
parent like the absent or the present parent. She's just
the main go to right now for him physically. But
the dad is definitely there to provide for them.
Speaker 2 (25:12):
Yeah, Melissa, thank you. Have a good day, absolutely, because
I feel like sometimes people would switch roles, even like
I know, I'll tell you what, you think it's so great,
you know doing this and the other you think it's
so great, you know, going to work and dealing with
these idiots like how about I stay home and I'll
take care of my kids, because you know, I think
the other thing that's sort of negated here is like
maybe he loves I'm sure he loves his kids too,
(25:34):
and I'm sure he would rather be at soccer practice
or being the coach, or going to the games, or
or feeding the kids or whatever. I'm sure there's bonding
time that he's missing, right, So it probably has moments
where it's like, Okay, cool kids crying, I got to
go to work by you deal with it. But then
I'm sure it also has moments where it's like, man,
I can't believe I'm missing that. But if he were there,
then who's making the money to pay the bills? In
(25:56):
this case? You know, you can you could flip it. It
could be the other way around. It's like the grass
is always I feel like Ashley Hi. So in this scenario,
if you're just tuning in, there's a woman and this
is from the male perspective, but he heard his wife saying
(26:16):
that she is a solo parent because he works ten
to twelve hours a day, and she's telling people this,
like her mom and friends, and he's offended. And then
he sort of vacillates on Well, so I feel bad
for saying something to her or not, But this is
the agreement that we came up with. I work in
a traditional setting. I pay the bills and you take
care of the kids. That doesn't make you a solo parent.
(26:36):
What do you think?
Speaker 3 (26:38):
No, she is absolutely wrong saying that she's a solo parent.
Speaker 2 (26:42):
I think is just really hurtful.
Speaker 1 (26:44):
I have a two year.
Speaker 3 (26:46):
Old and a baby on the way in three weeks,
and my husband has a traveling job and his travel
is sporadic. He can up and go and I only
have a week or a couple of weeks notice, and
sometimes he's gone you know what seems like half a
month and sometimes it's less.
Speaker 10 (27:03):
By no means am.
Speaker 3 (27:04):
I a solo parent at all. It is very hard,
especially with two small kids. But we had a conversation,
and I knew his work before we made these decisions,
and we have to continue to have conversations about hey,
is do we need to make a change? And I
(27:26):
know job changes and things like that they're not easy
at all, but is it do I need to go
part time? Do we want does he want to be home?
Or do we need to make a change there, or
do we need to make a lifestyle change, you know,
with you know, home or otherwise, And those are big
changes and really tough decisions. But if it's bothering her
(27:49):
that much, it's definitely a conversation.
Speaker 1 (27:52):
Because she's not.
Speaker 3 (27:54):
A solo parent at all. I will say that like,
oh I'm I'm I'm solo this week. My husband's gone
and we have a village that helps me out. So
it's just you got to talk about options, there was
ways to work things out. I'm with her, it's not easy,
especially with two kids. Yeah, being super pregnant, but by
(28:16):
no means in my solo mom, And that's really hurtful
to say about her husband.
Speaker 2 (28:22):
Yeah, thank you for sharing. Congratulations by the way on
the new one.
Speaker 3 (28:28):
In a couple of weeks, making more listeners, we got
to get you know what My understanding is it as
soon as that baby's boy, is that boy or girl girl?
Speaker 2 (28:38):
This time apparently Jessica listener number eleven is moving to
like microneesy or something, and like in the jungle, there's
no I don't know if there's a jungle there, but
my understanding is some form of jungle and there's no Internet.
So we lost her, so the baby did so we'll
never be more than thirteen. So don't even try and
get greedy.
Speaker 10 (28:53):
Okay, okay, we're going to start. We'll let you guys start.
Speaker 1 (28:57):
The whole nat Lee, I like it.
Speaker 2 (28:59):
Thank you have a good thank you.
Speaker 10 (29:01):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (29:01):
We keep adding cities and we only have the same
number of listeners. Hey, Linda, good morning. Where are you Hi?
Doing great? Thanks for calling, Thanks for listening. So I'm
gonna give you the final say here. And someone brought
up military families too, by the way, which I mean
there's one. It's like people gone for you know, Shelley's
husband gone for two three months at a time, longer
(29:22):
years at a time, sometimes depending on what's going on.
And does that make that person any any less of
a parent? Would I would argue, No, they're they're they're
doing what they gotta do.
Speaker 11 (29:31):
What do you think, right, Well, I think the hardest
part of this, this whole argument, is that the role
of motherhood is always somehow less stressful than going to
work for twelve hours. My ex husband was an air
traffic bro one of the most stressful jobs in the world,
(29:52):
as you might know, and you know, I'm at home
with two kids under two, and all I want to
do is take a shower. That's all I want to
do is take a sh and so, you know, he
comes home from work and yeah, he wants to unwind,
and yeah, you know, he's not really interested into screaming
you know, two year olds.
Speaker 5 (30:09):
But at the same time, I need you.
Speaker 11 (30:12):
To acknowledge that my job is as important as yours
and I just need to take a shower. And so
there was always that, there was always that argument of
whose job is more important, and.
Speaker 5 (30:24):
They both are. They both are important.
Speaker 11 (30:27):
But for me, I felt that as a mother, a
stay at home mother, my job was made less important
because of the importance of his.
Speaker 2 (30:36):
Job in the world.
Speaker 11 (30:38):
And so I was just like, you know, can I
have five minutes him He's like, well, you know, I've
been busy all day and you know, my brain.
Speaker 5 (30:44):
I can't even think. And I'm like, I understand that, and.
Speaker 11 (30:48):
He's like, well, you've been home all day, you know
if that's a vacation. So I think in the world
in general, we need to give mothers credit for how
hard it is to be a mom full time, and
it is just as important, and it is just as
taxing at times, especially with two under two.
Speaker 2 (31:06):
I agree, I agree, but you know, I hey, in
his defense, he's been dealing with you know, screaming pilots
all day that are just the same as babies. It's
the same.
Speaker 11 (31:16):
Audible hair.
Speaker 2 (31:17):
Yeah right, Well, thanks for having us on the radio
on the iHeart app Live at any time search but
a Fred show on demand. Where were the rumors coming
from that she was getting married this weekend? Where did
that come from? I've seen that.
Speaker 5 (31:30):
I got a little too excited.
Speaker 2 (31:31):
I was seeing like late last week that supposedly was
happening this weekend in Napa or something. That was what
I heard. That's crazy swift. They've been in a lot
of weddings recently, but I didn't see that child. I
saw that a few different places, and then I was like, well,
I didn't get a call to go to Napa, So
there's no way. I definitely there's no way that she
(31:54):
would get married and not invite me. We go way back. Yeah,
so yeah.
Speaker 4 (32:00):
Pal may have revealed a secret marriage plan. Is Pal
not as Pale?
Speaker 2 (32:06):
Well you ain't my pal.
Speaker 4 (32:07):
Oh no, this is just the wedding thing that we
saw that they were already married. There are rumors, But yeah,
I don't. I don't see anything about NAPA.
Speaker 2 (32:16):
Yeah, well that was that's what my people were telling me.
Just prepare for NAPA, your pal my pals. They were
just like, you know, do you have your NAPA clothes ready?
And it sort of looks like if you were going
to a cloque a croquet match. For me, it would
be like some nice uh chinos, you know, but maybe
a nice sweater over my you know what I'm saying. Yeah, linen,
(32:41):
that's what I mean. A nice linen suit, you know, flowy. Yeah, right, exactly.
That that was going to be the fit for the
wedding of the century that I maybe I did go to.
Maybe they are married. Maybe I'm just playing dumb. Maybe
I'm not waiting by the phone and blogs will do
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Speaker 4 (01:08):
Cape Shannon Sharp apologizing to Nicki Minaj, you won't believe
the new cast of the Traders that reality show?
Speaker 5 (01:15):
And did he ask for another mistrial?
Speaker 2 (01:20):
Waiting by the phone this morning? Why did somebody get ghosted?
Speaker 6 (01:24):
It?
Speaker 2 (01:24):
Eight fifty year, fifty oney, twelve wins, sixty eight losses
showed his Shelley. People are missing the juvenile intro. Hey,
I don't know. We may have to incorporate that into
something else. People are missing their pop it, spin it,
mounted do it, you know whatever, all the different.
Speaker 5 (01:42):
Things we can always pop it and spin it.
Speaker 2 (01:44):
Wow, people want more popping and spinning. I guess Kiki's
court this morning about embum girl. You need a DNA test?
Oh wow? Okay, moriy okay. Let's do headlines. Biggest stories
of the day. This a second maybe a morality Monday
on a Monday for once. I don't know. I don't know.
I'm feeling like doing a morality Monday on a Monday.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
The biggest stories of the day.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
This is news but Fox love in la Errol reporter,
a dude named Stu Mundell was caught, I guess, on
the air talking about his marriage or lack thereof. This
was during the No King's protest coverage, but instead it's
him talking about I guess that things aren't going so
(02:29):
well at home, and this was all on TV. Apparently.
I hate it when that happens. It's terrible.
Speaker 7 (02:38):
The answer is, yes, you know what, I don't care.
I don't care about my I I am married. I
am I am legally married. I am legally married. That's
about the only way you can really say it. I
am legally married. But I am not looking at now
(02:58):
at all. I uh just had a bunch of debacles
with my personal life.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
Yes, it's true.
Speaker 7 (03:05):
I know it's hard to believe somebody that doesn't even
know what he's talking about in a.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
Relationship and yeah, yeah this is on TV.
Speaker 7 (03:13):
But yeah, I got nothing right now, got nothing, got nothing,
not really looking, uh you know, trying to trying to
find myself and be happy.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
I'm being serious about that.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
So I don't know if this is like a stream
and he didn't realize that, like you could watch this.
Speaker 7 (03:32):
I want to behold I want to be beholden to
no one at.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
This He's still going, I mean sad, I.
Speaker 7 (03:38):
Got lonely, of course, but I got cats.
Speaker 8 (03:44):
He got cats, he said, yeah, anyway, So I'm thinking
this was some kind of stream because if it were
on the actual television.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
I feel like somebody, a director or somebody would have
been like, Okay, we got that, or maybe maybe we
just roll with it. Maybe we stick with it, you know,
so that we go viral. I'm not sure. But you know,
poor guy, he's legally married. Is this stew but he's
you know, I guess things aren't going well legally married,
but he's not looking. I guess you're wondering. I think
a lot of people have been asking.
Speaker 5 (04:15):
He wants to be beholden to no one?
Speaker 2 (04:17):
Which I like that. I I I like that too,
So anyway, I had that's my list of little sound
clips today. I want to be beholden to no one,
says helicopter reporter man. The Oklahoma City Thunder defeated the
Indiana Pacers to tie the NBA Finals at two games apiece,
and in the Stanleicup Finals, the Panthers run the verge
of a repeat after blowing out the Oilers in game five.
(04:38):
If you were offended by this, and nothing surprises me anymore,
the level of the very low bar I think it
takes to offend most people these days. I think we
need to be a little tougher like, as a society,
I think we need to be a little tougher because
United Airlines passengers were shocked, according to the headline, by
a looting message that greeted them on every inflight video
(05:02):
screen on the plane. When they recently got on a
plane to Chicago, they were greeted with a lude message
that said, welcome aboard flight, bite me one to Chicago.
Oh whoa, Now that's silly. I mean I would laugh
first of all, but bite me one like that hurts
your feelings. Really, it could be so much worse. It
(05:25):
could be a dude in the helicopter trying to cover
a protest, but instead of talking about his personal life. Okay,
it was displayed on every single screen. How the message
came to appear remains a bit of a mystery, although
some experts say that it could be traced to how
the inflight entertainment system is set up. Some systems require
a member of the groundstaff or a flight attendant to
manually input the flight number as well as the destination
(05:48):
and origin. Others pulled the information from the flight information
system in the cockpit. It could be that an engineer
was carrying out some maintenance and was testing it and
type that in I don't really know. Oh, it was
a joke, but apparently people are very upset and they want,
you know, I don't know, free flights and psychological treatment
and you know, councils are standing by. I have no
(06:10):
idea of all the things that are happening on planes
these days. I feel like that's the least of my concerns.
If I got honest, says, you know, bite me, he's
going to Chicago, I'd be like, yeah, exciting planes and
land Yeah, right, sure. They've listed the ten American cities
with the worst commutes. However, they're saying that the average
commute time in the US is only twenty six minutes,
(06:33):
and some of these commute times are listing for the
longest commutes. I don't really buy. For example, and let
me see the twenty twenty three Census Bureau data is
how they came up with this New York City forty
minute commute, Chicago thirty three minute commute. I feel like
there are people listening now going thirty three. I wish
that's that one little stretch from where you can go
(06:54):
to Milwaukee to the city that's where everything's closed. It's
reversed and flippant reverse it England. Yeah, like missy Elliott,
I can see it, but I'm nowhere near it. Kind
of thing. That's I think. That's no. Thirty one minutes
in LA thirty one in Philly, thirty in San Francisco,
thirty in Long Beach, thirty in Washington, d C. Thirty
in Boston, thirty in Oakland, twenty eight in Baltimore. If
(07:17):
you want the shortest commute, moved to Tulsa nineteen minutes,
which a tom My favorite place. Nineteen minutes, Omaha, twenty, Memphis, twenty, Minneapolis, Columbus, Ohio,
Kansas City, Oklahoma City, two Sun of Milwaukee, all around,
somewhere between twenty and twenty two minutes. Thirty three minutes
in Chicago is the average.
Speaker 8 (07:36):
Yeah, at four am when I'm driving and there's not
another car, Yeah, in the expressway.
Speaker 2 (07:40):
But yeah, no, I don't know about the times. Yeah,
I don't think so. Visitors. I'm offended by this. This
is extremely hurtful to me, and I'm I need psychological
help in general, but also for this specifically. Visitors at
King's Island Amusement Park in Mason, Ohio, we're told to
keep their mouths closed on the rocks all weekend to
(08:01):
avoid swallowing a cicada, because I guess they're flying around
so much that if you open your mouth on a ride,
you're going to suck these things. In Ohio has seen
the brood fourteen cicadas hatch a little bit later this year,
and they're everywhere, including this amusement park. So visitors have
been told to enjoy the rides, but for the next
few weeks should probably keep their mouths closed well on them.
Speaker 5 (08:24):
No, I'm not enjoying no, right, okay?
Speaker 2 (08:26):
Yeah. And in sad news, guys, Father's Day was the
day that marked the end for a man known as
the Sperminator oh who is fathered one hundred and seventy
six children. He announced his retirement from baby making on
Father's Day yesterday. The guy's name is Ari Nagel, and
he said that it's time for women to start finding
somebody else, somebody younger to impregnate them. His mission is
(08:49):
almost he's turning fifty in August. I know you were dreaming.
I've been trying to get you and Ari together for
some time now, and it hasn't worked as scheduling wise, yeah,
but he said that it's healthier and better to be
safe than sorry for women to find a younger guy
to do this. He's been donating for seventeen years now
and he has one hundred and seventy six children as
a cost of course, across twenty states, ten countries, and
(09:12):
five continents. He has five more children who were due
this year, but he's done so limited edition. These are
these kids are all numbered and we're done with this
at the end of the year.
Speaker 5 (09:22):
Good effort.
Speaker 2 (09:23):
His main draw has been that he's never charged a
woman for his donations. What a guy, allowing them to
avoid thousands of dollars in sperm bank costs. He said
that his legacy will never be about famer money, but
about family. What a guy. What a guy? I know,
And I wonder if he's one of these guys. It's
like it has to be the natural method, you know
(09:43):
what I mean, Like, oh, dude, if it's a natural
you know what I mean? Like, I July hope not
one of these guys. I've seen these guys on Craigslist before.
Oh you were looking, yeah, well, I mean I'm always
looking for new business opportunities. I was looking to say, well,
it sounded like an interesting side hussle. You know, okay,
I was the one who posted it. But what does
a better here in National Fudge Day Today? The Entertainment
(10:03):
Report will too it next Caitlin's Entertainment Report.
Speaker 1 (10:07):
He's on the Freasshew.
Speaker 4 (10:09):
Kanie West showed up to Ditty's trial Friday morning. You
may have seen video of him wapping up Ditty's Sun
Christian on the way into the courtroom. However, he left
the trial after only ten minutes, even though court officials
open up a whole overflow room just for him to watch.
That's when there's like too many people in the courtroom
and you can see from other areas. As for the
latest with the trial, Ditty's legal team has once again
(10:30):
filed an emergency motion for a mistrial, arguing that prosecutors
unfairly pushed out one of the very few black jurors
by questioning his residency. The motion revolves around Jury number six,
a man whose living situation is shuttling between Jersey and
the Bronx, became a trigger for the prosecution accusing him
of not being truthful. But Ditty's lawyers claim the move
(10:52):
reveals a deeper strategy to reduce diversity on the jury.
The judge is set to decide by the end of
this week whether to replace that and whether a.
Speaker 5 (11:02):
Mistrial is necessary.
Speaker 4 (11:05):
Donna Kelcey is the mother of Travis and Jason kelce
and she's also going to be a contestant on the
next season of The Traders, which that.
Speaker 5 (11:14):
I did not have on my bingo card.
Speaker 4 (11:16):
The series follows reality TV stars from things like The
Real Housewives, Survivor, Love Island and other reality shows. I
think Tom Sandival from vander Pump was on there. And
it's a competition based sort.
Speaker 5 (11:29):
Of mind game.
Speaker 4 (11:30):
They film at a castle in Scotland, Alan Cummings as the host.
Speaker 5 (11:34):
They won a cash prize. But I just I don't know,
Like she.
Speaker 4 (11:37):
Seems like someone who doesn't want to be famous and
she's just like a Midwest mom.
Speaker 5 (11:40):
I don't know. I'm just very surprised to see her
on the cast.
Speaker 4 (11:43):
She will be competing with people like Lisa Rinna Colton
Underwood from The Bachelor, to Nda Medley from the Housewives.
I'm trying to look at other people other names we know,
Michael Rappaport randomly, Portia Williams from the Real Housewives, Stephen
Colletti from Laguna. Like Donna Kelsey and Stephen Colletti are
(12:03):
competing for a cash prize, Steve was.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
Able to get that much time off at Target it
did you still have that pickup truck? I wonder still
driving the pickup truck?
Speaker 5 (12:13):
I hope.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
So he was like he was like so poor compared
to the rest of them because he he just had
a pickup truck. He lived like outside of the gates.
Speaker 5 (12:22):
He used the hot Oh yeah, so hot.
Speaker 4 (12:26):
So you can watch him on the Traders and I
have heard amazing things.
Speaker 5 (12:29):
I don't watch it, but I'm going to start.
Speaker 4 (12:30):
I think I have to see Donna Kelsey and Stephen Colletti.
Speaker 5 (12:34):
And lastly, Shannon Sharp has.
Speaker 4 (12:36):
Apologized to Nicki Minaj after the rapper dissed him on
the Lil Wayne track band from n O Remix. In
the song she rapped about to copy slides. All you
do is flip flop. If I send you a pick
of Shannon, you ain't that sharp. And I think the
line is in response to Shannon saying Nikki Who when
a fan asked him to get her on his podcast.
On social media, Shannon says he was actually talking about
(12:58):
politician Nikki Hayley when it came to his Nicki who comment,
and he said that Nicki Minaj has an open invite
to his club Shay Shay podcast or a private conversation
anytime she wants, which makes me laugh. You're open to
a private conversations with me if you want, Niki.
Speaker 5 (13:15):
But yeah, so that's your news. By the way, if
you missed any.
Speaker 4 (13:19):
Part of our show, to take the freend Show on
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Speaker 2 (13:23):
All right, we have time morality Monday on a Monday
for once, which we still might do Morality Monday on
a Thursday. It just depends. It really depends on my mood,
you know, completely entirely. Oh by the way, my take.
No one asked, but I just want to say on
the record, while I'm thinking about you're speaking of you know,
court cases and Diddy. By the end of the day,
Karen Reid innocent. That's what I say, that's way, that's
(13:45):
what I believe. I believe by the end of today
she is found innocent, not guilty. How could this take
any longer than that? They went They gave it to
the jury on Friday, afternoon. We should be done by today.
Speaker 5 (13:57):
Oh they're deliberate.
Speaker 2 (13:58):
Now, they're deliberating right now. Yeah, this is done. This
is Oh, she didn't do it.
Speaker 5 (14:02):
She did not do it. No girl, but she didn't
do it.
Speaker 2 (14:06):
I don't see it. And I'm watching TikTok and people
are like, she absolutely did it. I'm like, did we
watch the same trial, Like there's I don't understand, Like there,
I don't there's not one piece of it. There's not
I don't know there. I mean, I can't even go
through it all. But there's nothing. It doesn't add up.
I don't think she did it.
Speaker 4 (14:23):
It also just even like let's say she did, which
I don't believe she did, it's just not a fair trial.
It's not a fair collection of evidence. It's not a
fair situation. Unfortunately, they messed it up from the beginning.
Speaker 2 (14:36):
Yeah, if a crime happens in my house and I
sell the house, burn the house down, replace everything inside
that my dog, rip the floors out, get rid of
my dog, move to a different city, you know, different
if I you know whatever, like detonate the house, if
I do all that, and then I'm like, I don't
I don't know what happened. Why would I do all that?
(14:57):
If I if I really don't know what happened, I
had nothing to do with it, would I do all that?
Speaker 5 (15:01):
Now? What was the reason?
Speaker 2 (15:02):
That's what I mean anyway, So morality Monday number one.
I think by the end of the day, and if
it takes, if it takes much longer than I'm worried
it's bad because that means they're all sitting around really
going over this stuff one by one, item by item.
But I don't know. I was a little surprised they
didn't just go in there for an hour and be
like because in the last one I think it was
I think it was like everybody but maybe one person
(15:22):
thought that she was innocent.
Speaker 4 (15:23):
Right, And you'd hate to be the person who like, Okay,
I either got to change my opinion, you know what
I mean, because we're all exhausted, right.
Speaker 5 (15:31):
See, you know you don't want to. I mean, like
that scares me, would hate you.
Speaker 2 (15:35):
You know they've been this has taken so long, and
then there's you know, and you got to stand up
for what you believe, right, I mean, it is someone's
life we're talking about here. So if you believe, if
you somehow believe she did it, and or is it
that she didn't do it and everyone else believes she
did it, And you're the reason that something you know
does it doesn't happen. You can't just say I want
to go home, so whatever, Okay, fine, but I think
(15:57):
that happens. Sometimes we're like other jurors, like, you know,
upset because I would look who everyone else agrew? What
did you watch? It would be like me if I
was in the jury room and someone's like, yeah, she
did it? Are you were you watching Netflix or something
during this thing, because like everything I saw, there's no
possible way. Okay, So here's our morality Monday. And this
(16:18):
is from our friends that reddit. Am I the a
whole eight five five, five nine, one one oh three five.
You can call text the same number. My wife, who's
twenty nine and I. He's a thirty one year old male,
have a three year old son. I think some people
can relate to this. I worked ten to twelve hour
days as a contractor while she stays home. Lately, she's
been venting online into friends, saying that she feels like
(16:39):
a single mom because I'm never around. This is from
the perspective of the I'm the guy who works all
the time. I get this. She's overwhelmed. I am too,
but I'm working my butt off to keep us afloat.
The other night, I heard her refer to herself as
a solo parent during a zoom call with her mom.
After she hung up, I told her that I didn't
appreciate that. I'm not partying, I'm not neglecting our family.
(17:02):
I'm working. She said, I'm being defensive and that she
feels like a single mom because she handles everything alone
at home. Now I feel guilty. I don't want to
invalidate her, but I also feel like she's ignoring everything
I do. Am I the a hole for calling her out?
I mean, she's not a single mom. No, And if
(17:23):
it requires ten to twelve hours a day of this
man working to provide their lifestyle, then it sounds like
they're both doing jobs right. He's doing his job to
make money, she's doing her job, which is a job
to raise the kids. But I hear this argument sometimes
when one person's at home and the other person's at work,
and that's a decision that was made within the relationship
(17:43):
that this is how we're going to do this. And
I hear this sometimes like oh, it must be nice,
and I think that you can. I don't know. I
don't think one side always sees the other side, you know,
because it's like my buddies that travel lie pilot buddies. Right,
they're gone for you know, a week at a time.
They've always been this for thirty years, right, It's been
this way forever. And then they come back and it's like,
it must have been nice to be in you know,
(18:03):
Dubai for a week. Must have been nice. I was
out here making lunches and driving a soccer practice and
it's like, well, first of all, you know, maybe maybe
it was nice in some regards, but in other regards,
like this is my life. I got. I got aluminum, platinum, diamond, gold.
You know, I'm the biggest badass status at Hilton because
(18:25):
I don't sleep in my house. Like anytime you see
somebody who'd like they when they check in, someone hands
in a bottle of champagne and like kisses their feet.
At first, I'm like, Wow, they're going to get a
really nice room. And then I'm like, in order to
get that, they don't ever get to go home, right, right,
So so my buddies. I talk about this all the time.
He's like, you know, I would much rather be here
with my family. I would much try to be here
on my terms. But I'm here because the boss needs
(18:47):
to be here. And if the boss calls me right now,
it says we're leaving, we're leaving, which means I'm not
at the bar. You know, I'm not partying, I'm not
on a I'm not riding a camel, you know, or whatever.
Like this is not my vacation. This is work, and
I don't get to choose when or where or how
or any of it. And so yeah, I guess I'd
get to sleep in a hotel bed and sleep in
sometimes and eat room service. But at the same time,
(19:09):
maybe I would rather be driving to soccer practice. And
then on the flip side, you know, you've got the
people going, you know, on the side of the person
who's doing all that, it's like, well, maybe i'd like
the night out sometimes or the night away, or maybe
I'd like the exposure to adults. Yes, you know, I'd
like to be able to go to I would like
to go to work for eight ten hours a day.
(19:29):
And you know, I know people who in this case
hits the man who goes to work and the wife
keeps a part time job, and it actually costs them
money for her to go to work as a flight attendant.
I've used this example before. But they do it anyway
because like, for him to stay home, he makes three
times what she does as a pilot, So for her
to go to work costs money. But they do it
(19:50):
anyway because for her, it's like, this is my independence,
this is my job, this is part of my identity.
I want to go on a trip, I want to
hang out with adults, I want to make a little
bit of mone.
Speaker 5 (20:00):
He's cool for that, right, Yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:02):
But I just I think that this sort of argument
fundamentally is based on one side not seeing the other,
or one side wanting some elements that the other side.
I think everybody wants a little bit of the other thing.
But I'm just curious for those of you who deal
with this. If one person's primarily raising kids and one
person is primarily working, do you really think you could
say that? Is that a fair thing to say out loud?
(20:24):
Because it makes it solo parent kind of implies that
the other parent isn't involved or doesn't care. It's like
dead beat, it's giving dead beat, it is, but it's
the exact opposite.
Speaker 4 (20:34):
Also, like, if you feel that way, it's it's not
the time to get it out on a zoom call
when it can just be overheard by your partner. And
what's sad is I think it takes both people to
make the raising the children work.
Speaker 5 (20:46):
It does, you know, And comparison is the thief of joy.
Speaker 2 (20:49):
So yeah, I and if I heard if this is
me and I heard my wife saying this to her mom,
that's even worse because it's like you're telling your mom
that I'm basically a bad dad.
Speaker 6 (21:00):
True.
Speaker 2 (21:00):
You know, I don't like to el is it L
or Ellie?
Speaker 1 (21:04):
This l.
Speaker 2 (21:06):
How you doing? So this scenario in here, it's like
you've got the dad working twelve hours a day. In
this case, you've got the mom at home and the
mom feels like she's a single parent, and the dad's like, hey,
at first he was upset, Now he feels guilty. But
I don't necessarily think that's a fair thing to say about.
Speaker 6 (21:20):
Him, not at all as a.
Speaker 5 (21:23):
Truly solo parent.
Speaker 6 (21:24):
This just makes me so angry. I'm actually shaking because
she's still like she's not has to work. She's not
worried about the bills herself. She's getting support in some way,
shape or form, even though he might not be present.
So it's just it's just not something that you can
just say like that, because she's just not even realizing
(21:45):
the impact she's getting from having that man in her life.
Speaker 2 (21:48):
Yeah, I think that would trigger me too, because what
about the people who are in fact solo parents and
it all falls on them. They have to somehow figure
out a way to pay for the you know, pay
pay the bills and the mortgage and the rats and
the food and care yet soccer practice and figure out
the logistics of the rest of that. I mean, and
I'm not minimizing one or the other, but for you,
you have to figure out both.
Speaker 6 (22:09):
Yeah, and not to minimize it either, because she still
has to step up in ways that maybe she didn't
anticipate when they originally decided to have a child. But
I mean, I remember when I just had a three
month old and I couldn't even just go to the bathroom,
I couldn't just go down the street and get a coffee.
Speaker 1 (22:23):
Like, there's just so much you don't.
Speaker 6 (22:25):
Realize that actually happens when you are a truly solo parent.
Speaker 2 (22:28):
Yeah, yeah, thank you so much.
Speaker 6 (22:31):
He's definitely the a hole in this one.
Speaker 2 (22:33):
Okay, fair enough, I'll let her know. Thanks.
Speaker 6 (22:36):
Any guys love your show.
Speaker 2 (22:38):
Thank you, love you too.
Speaker 1 (22:39):
Yeah.
Speaker 9 (22:39):
I mean it's a good point that you've made though, too,
where it's like you look at one side look at
the other side right, like you got it better.
Speaker 5 (22:45):
I know you got it better, but.
Speaker 9 (22:46):
I think it's also like for my personal experience, from
my experience, I feel like I'm looking at it that
what does his husband do when he comes home? Is
he playing video games? Is he disassociating from his family?
I know that the ten to twelve hour shifts are long,
and they're lengthy and hard. I feel like they can
at least come home right, play with the kids, make dinner,
like help out, because I think then that would take
(23:06):
less off of the mom who is home all day
with the kids. Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (23:09):
But let me and Okay, so there's a question. I
don't know the answer. I'm asking like an open ended question,
but is it fair for someone who worked ten hours
a day to then come home and take an hour
to decompress?
Speaker 1 (23:20):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (23:20):
Because because what I think. I think sometimes it's it's like, yeah,
you yes, you were at home with the kids all day,
But then am I expected And I don't know the answer,
but am I expected to just after my ten hour
day walk in and then just take over the parenting
role and then you get a break? I don't know
the answer to that, But like I think, sometimes there's
not a respect for what the other one's doing. It's
(23:41):
like I just went to work. I just sat in
traffic for an hour. Yeah, I just had spit up
on me all day and watched Miss Rachel for the
thirty seven times like me, you know what I mean.
So it's like, I don't know, I've heard that one
before where the guy comes home he sortady wants to
go to bed. And it's not that I don't know
that he's a bad guy or a bad girl or whatever,
but like you're only capable of so much.
Speaker 9 (24:02):
Yeah, communicate, I think at a community with a partner,
how are you feeling this moment? Hey, I just walked
in the house, like, give me, you know, thirty minutes
and then I think, just.
Speaker 5 (24:09):
You got to work it out. It's hard, but you
got to balance it some way.
Speaker 2 (24:12):
Melissa Yeah, good morning, Melissa, good morning, welcome. What do
you think so?
Speaker 10 (24:18):
I think the dad here is definitely not the a hole.
She just needs to reorganize her thinking to be able
to include him or incorporate him with more parental responsibilities.
Like you said, they're both performing a job here. His
is the financial income, the financial stability, the security there.
(24:38):
She is providing the parenting here, whether she wants it
or not. If that's something that she kind of and
formally agreed to that that's just the way it is.
If she's not reporting somewhere to go to and provide
the same way he does, then she's not the solo
parent here. She's just they're just providing different job aspects
of the family, the being at home, that being the
(25:02):
parent like the absent or the present parent. She's just
the main go to right now for him physically. But
the dad is definitely there to provide for them.
Speaker 2 (25:12):
Yeah, Melissa, thank you. Have a good day, absolutely, because
I feel like sometimes people would switch roles, even like
I know, I'll tell you what, you think it's so great,
you know doing this and the other you think it's
so great, you know, going to work and dealing with
these idiots like how about I stay home and I'll
take care of my kids, because you know, I think
the other thing that's sort of negated here is like
maybe he loves I'm sure he loves his kids too,
(25:34):
and I'm sure he would rather be at soccer practice
or being the coach, or going to the games, or
or feeding the kids or whatever. I'm sure there's bonding
time that he's missing, right, So it probably has moments
where it's like, Okay, cool kids crying, I got to
go to work by you deal with it. But then
I'm sure it also has moments where it's like, man,
I can't believe I'm missing that. But if he were there,
then who's making the money to pay the bills? In
(25:56):
this case? You know, you can you could flip it. It
could be the other way around. It's like the grass
is always I feel like Ashley Hi. So in this scenario,
if you're just tuning in, there's a woman and this
is from the male perspective, but he heard his wife saying
(26:16):
that she is a solo parent because he works ten
to twelve hours a day, and she's telling people this,
like her mom and friends, and he's offended. And then
he sort of vacillates on Well, so I feel bad
for saying something to her or not, But this is
the agreement that we came up with. I work in
a traditional setting. I pay the bills and you take
care of the kids. That doesn't make you a solo parent.
(26:36):
What do you think?
Speaker 3 (26:38):
No, she is absolutely wrong saying that she's a solo parent.
Speaker 2 (26:42):
I think is just really hurtful.
Speaker 1 (26:44):
I have a two year.
Speaker 3 (26:46):
Old and a baby on the way in three weeks,
and my husband has a traveling job and his travel
is sporadic. He can up and go and I only
have a week or a couple of weeks notice, and
sometimes he's gone you know what seems like half a
month and sometimes it's less.
Speaker 10 (27:03):
By no means am.
Speaker 3 (27:04):
I a solo parent at all. It is very hard,
especially with two small kids. But we had a conversation,
and I knew his work before we made these decisions,
and we have to continue to have conversations about hey,
is do we need to make a change? And I
(27:26):
know job changes and things like that they're not easy
at all, but is it do I need to go
part time? Do we want does he want to be home?
Or do we need to make a change there, or
do we need to make a lifestyle change, you know,
with you know, home or otherwise, And those are big
changes and really tough decisions. But if it's bothering her
(27:49):
that much, it's definitely a conversation.
Speaker 1 (27:52):
Because she's not.
Speaker 3 (27:54):
A solo parent at all. I will say that like,
oh I'm I'm I'm solo this week. My husband's gone
and we have a village that helps me out. So
it's just you got to talk about options, there was
ways to work things out. I'm with her, it's not easy,
especially with two kids. Yeah, being super pregnant, but by
(28:16):
no means in my solo mom, And that's really hurtful
to say about her husband.
Speaker 2 (28:22):
Yeah, thank you for sharing. Congratulations by the way on
the new one.
Speaker 3 (28:28):
In a couple of weeks, making more listeners, we got
to get you know what My understanding is it as
soon as that baby's boy, is that boy or girl girl?
Speaker 2 (28:38):
This time apparently Jessica listener number eleven is moving to
like microneesy or something, and like in the jungle, there's
no I don't know if there's a jungle there, but
my understanding is some form of jungle and there's no Internet.
So we lost her, so the baby did so we'll
never be more than thirteen. So don't even try and
get greedy.
Speaker 10 (28:53):
Okay, okay, we're going to start. We'll let you guys start.
Speaker 1 (28:57):
The whole nat Lee, I like it.
Speaker 2 (28:59):
Thank you have a good thank you.
Speaker 10 (29:01):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (29:01):
We keep adding cities and we only have the same
number of listeners. Hey, Linda, good morning. Where are you Hi?
Doing great? Thanks for calling, Thanks for listening. So I'm
gonna give you the final say here. And someone brought
up military families too, by the way, which I mean
there's one. It's like people gone for you know, Shelley's
husband gone for two three months at a time, longer
(29:22):
years at a time, sometimes depending on what's going on.
And does that make that person any any less of
a parent? Would I would argue, No, they're they're they're
doing what they gotta do.
Speaker 11 (29:31):
What do you think, right, Well, I think the hardest
part of this, this whole argument, is that the role
of motherhood is always somehow less stressful than going to
work for twelve hours. My ex husband was an air
traffic bro one of the most stressful jobs in the world,
(29:52):
as you might know, and you know, I'm at home
with two kids under two, and all I want to
do is take a shower. That's all I want to
do is take a sh and so, you know, he
comes home from work and yeah, he wants to unwind,
and yeah, you know, he's not really interested into screaming
you know, two year olds.
Speaker 5 (30:09):
But at the same time, I need you.
Speaker 11 (30:12):
To acknowledge that my job is as important as yours
and I just need to take a shower. And so
there was always that, there was always that argument of
whose job is more important, and.
Speaker 5 (30:24):
They both are. They both are important.
Speaker 11 (30:27):
But for me, I felt that as a mother, a
stay at home mother, my job was made less important
because of the importance of his.
Speaker 2 (30:36):
Job in the world.
Speaker 11 (30:38):
And so I was just like, you know, can I
have five minutes him He's like, well, you know, I've
been busy all day and you know, my brain.
Speaker 5 (30:44):
I can't even think. And I'm like, I understand that, and.
Speaker 11 (30:48):
He's like, well, you've been home all day, you know
if that's a vacation. So I think in the world
in general, we need to give mothers credit for how
hard it is to be a mom full time, and
it is just as important, and it is just as
taxing at times, especially with two under two.
Speaker 2 (31:06):
I agree, I agree, but you know, I hey, in
his defense, he's been dealing with you know, screaming pilots
all day that are just the same as babies. It's
the same.
Speaker 11 (31:16):
Audible hair.
Speaker 2 (31:17):
Yeah right, Well, thanks for having us on the radio
on the iHeart app Live at any time search but
a Fred show on demand. Where were the rumors coming
from that she was getting married this weekend? Where did
that come from? I've seen that.
Speaker 5 (31:30):
I got a little too excited.
Speaker 2 (31:31):
I was seeing like late last week that supposedly was
happening this weekend in Napa or something. That was what
I heard. That's crazy swift. They've been in a lot
of weddings recently, but I didn't see that child. I
saw that a few different places, and then I was like, well,
I didn't get a call to go to Napa, So
there's no way. I definitely there's no way that she
(31:54):
would get married and not invite me. We go way back. Yeah,
so yeah.
Speaker 4 (32:00):
Pal may have revealed a secret marriage plan. Is Pal
not as Pale?
Speaker 2 (32:06):
Well you ain't my pal.
Speaker 4 (32:07):
Oh no, this is just the wedding thing that we
saw that they were already married. There are rumors, But yeah,
I don't. I don't see anything about NAPA.
Speaker 2 (32:16):
Yeah, well that was that's what my people were telling me.
Just prepare for NAPA, your pal my pals. They were
just like, you know, do you have your NAPA clothes ready?
And it sort of looks like if you were going
to a cloque a croquet match. For me, it would
be like some nice uh chinos, you know, but maybe
a nice sweater over my you know what I'm saying. Yeah, linen,
(32:41):
that's what I mean. A nice linen suit, you know, flowy. Yeah, right, exactly.
That that was going to be the fit for the
wedding of the century that I maybe I did go to.
Maybe they are married. Maybe I'm just playing dumb. Maybe
I'm not waiting by the phone and blogs will do
a minute.
Speaker 1 (32:57):
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