August 8, 2025 • 9 mins
Julia is confused why her date Adam won't call her back after a fun night out... Find out why she got ghosted!
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
I've ever been left waiting by the phone. It's the
Fred Show, Julia, good morning, Welcome to the show. How
are you hi?
Speaker 2 (00:10):
I am hanging in How.
Speaker 1 (00:11):
Are you hanging in there? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (00:13):
Because you feel like maybe this guy Adam has ghosted you.
So we got to know the whole story on waiting
by the phone. How did you guys meet? Tell us
about any dates that you guys have been on, and
why you think you're being ghosted?
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Sure, yeah, we.
Speaker 4 (00:29):
I mean very classic. We met on Hinge, but we
went out and it was one of the best, like
first states I've had in a while where I actually
felt like, Okay, wow, this isn't a no right off
the bat, you know, and it was a lot of fun.
(00:51):
But he's not reaching out. He's not responding to me now,
I you know, I kind of waited for him to
sort of of maybe respond first. I didn't hear from him, so.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
I did decide to sort of text him. No response at.
Speaker 4 (01:09):
All, no yeah, no call, no text. So I'm wondering
if I guess he just didn't feel the same way
about how our date went, which.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
I'm a little surprised by. But yeah, I thought.
Speaker 4 (01:26):
We had a great connection. I thought.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
It definitely felt like we were both excited to be there.
Speaker 4 (01:32):
And that we enjoyed each other's company and that we
were enjoying getting to.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
Know each other.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
And I thought for sure.
Speaker 4 (01:39):
I mean I left the date thinking like, Okay, yeah,
I'm excited to see him again and like keep getting
to know him and keep seeing where it could go.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
So I'm confused. I'm really confused.
Speaker 1 (01:49):
You've never been on the dating apps? Have you?
Speaker 3 (01:50):
No?
Speaker 1 (01:51):
In all? In like, we get a fight with Big Tim,
do you ever down let him just to be Yeah,
I've done that before. Yeah, and literally just looked at
it like I can't do this. That's how I look
at it every time. I can't do this.
Speaker 3 (02:02):
But yeah, I get what you mean, Julie when you
say that, like you know you met this person, because
I've gone out with a lot of people and none
of them are really bad.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
But but do you.
Speaker 3 (02:12):
Know the difference when you like sit in front of
somebody and you're like this is interesting.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
Oh completely, that's complete.
Speaker 4 (02:18):
And it's not even necessarily like oh my god, this
is my person. It's it's more so just like it's
feeling of Okay, that went really well, and I'm really
excited to just keep getting to know this person, like
I just want to keep getting to know them more
and see.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
Because that was that felt different than no, this is
a match, you know.
Speaker 3 (02:38):
Right, Well, let's let's play a song. We're gonna come
back in just a second. We're gonna call this guy Adam,
and we're gonna see what's going on with him, like
what you know, hopefully he felt the same way. Maybe
something's come up, but he wasn't able to call you
back or reach out. Who knows, who knows? Anything is possible,
so hopefully we can fix this. Hey, Julie, Hi, all right,
let's call Adam. You guys met on one of the
dating apps and it was bumble or hand he was hands.
(02:59):
You met on Hinge and you went on a date
and you really enjoyed the date. You really like this guy.
You were looking forward to seeing where things went. But
you have not heard from him since the date and
you're confused.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
Yeah, okay, yeah, I'm hoping I can just get a
little bit of clarity.
Speaker 3 (03:14):
On what happened, and hopefully we can, you know, figure
out what's up and set you guys up on a
date and pay for it.
Speaker 1 (03:20):
So here we go. Good luck, Julie, Julia, I keep
wanting to call you, Julia.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
It's okay.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
Hi is this Adam Hey? It's Adam Hey.
Speaker 3 (03:38):
It's Anam awfully.
Speaker 1 (03:41):
Enthusiastic for someone who just pick up the phone for
tourist stranger. But I'm Adam. My name is Fred.
Speaker 3 (03:45):
I'm calling from the Fred Show, the morning radio show,
and I have to tell you that we are on
the radio right now, and I would need your permission
to continue with the call. Can whichet for just a second,
would you mind? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (03:54):
I don't mind chatting?
Speaker 5 (03:55):
What's going on?
Speaker 1 (03:55):
Well?
Speaker 3 (03:56):
Thank you very much for calling on behalf of a
woman who says she met you on him and her
name is Julia. Do you remember going out with her recently?
Speaker 1 (04:04):
Oh?
Speaker 5 (04:04):
She was strange.
Speaker 1 (04:06):
She was strange. Why was she strange?
Speaker 3 (04:09):
Because you know, she reached out to us and told
us that you guys have matched and went on a
date and she described it as a really good date
and was hoping to see you again, and for whatever reason,
you're not reaching out to her.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
So what happened? Why was she strange?
Speaker 5 (04:21):
Yes, So here's the thing.
Speaker 1 (04:23):
It was a it was a it was a good date.
Speaker 5 (04:25):
Up until it was we had appetizers, had some drinks,
and then she asked me for my sperm, which was
so strange to me.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
Wait wait wait wait wait hold on, I mean that's
I mean, you just sort of laid that out like
it was just like okay, so you're you're having drinks
and it's fine. And then she what, yes, yes, how
we got from the first drink to requesting your specimen.
Speaker 5 (04:53):
Like that's my thing, that's my thing. While I'm not
calling her back because like we're just literally having a
first date. So she asked me a lot of like
my medical history definitely, was just asking more about like,
you know, any types of diseases that I've had, And
I'm like, whoa, Like this is like a first date
and this is a lot.
Speaker 3 (05:14):
I was sitting there having just like you know, your
little uh mcgroney or whatever, and it's like here, hey,
so I don't know, like what do your parents look like,
you know, any history of disease you're illness in to
family or wow? Okay, and you're so you're like, where
is this going?
Speaker 5 (05:32):
Yeah, so she's asking me about my family history. She's
asking me like, oh, I want to you know, use
your sperm for incimentation.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
I'm like, WHOA, Like.
Speaker 5 (05:39):
This is a lot for a first date here, So
I just like I had to have to get out
of here as quickly as possible.
Speaker 1 (05:47):
I'm like, I'm not entertaining her anymore.
Speaker 5 (05:49):
So I'm like, I'm not telling her about that all.
Speaker 3 (05:51):
I mean, I guess it's a compliment. She thought you
were good looking and had good features. I mean, I'm
not asking. Yeah, well, I'm not asking for anyone. Uh
but if but if I'm a woman and I'm asking
if a woman, if a woman asked me for that,
I guess I would assume that she thought I had
something to offer. But let me bring Julie in because
that's quite that's quite a request of a person that
(06:13):
you just met. And you left that part out when
we asked you how the date, when you forgot to
tell me that you wanted his DNA in a jar?
Speaker 4 (06:20):
Okay, Hey, hi, hi Adam, it's nice to hear from you.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
I'm sorry that that is the.
Speaker 4 (06:29):
You know, reaction that you had to that first of all,
Like I was sort of being playful about it. I
was only half serious. I was, you know, I thought
that you would take that as a major compliment, like, look,
the whole that whole process is a crazy thing. It
can be super expensive, and I just sort of I
(06:52):
thought you were really handsome. I was like, you know what,
maybe I want to shoot my shot here because it's
a thing that people have to think about these days,
especially people in my position. And I was kind of
just playing around with it. But I didn't mean for
you to be so weirded out for.
Speaker 3 (07:08):
About it for this purpose. I mean, are you out
here looking for that?
Speaker 4 (07:13):
I'm not dating to find my husband who's going to
be the father of my children.
Speaker 1 (07:17):
But in the meantime, you'll just take his stuff and
move on.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
I mean, I have to think about that as well.
Speaker 4 (07:22):
My age. I don't really want to stay on the radio,
but I'm reaching that point where I have to start
considering that. And I kind of thought he would take
it as a compliment, like he could have just said
no and that's it.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
Yeah, I mean, Adam, I guess it was abrasive. It was.
Speaker 3 (07:39):
It was just sort of shocking, right, and you're a
level of comfort or just there.
Speaker 1 (07:44):
A second date right right, a magnitude.
Speaker 3 (07:46):
Of the request. I mean, yeah, we're still having a.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
For DNA was.
Speaker 5 (07:56):
It was literally a lot.
Speaker 1 (07:58):
It was literally a lot.
Speaker 5 (07:59):
And Julia, you mentioned at the top of the call
it was nice to see or nice to hear from you.
It's it's not nice to hear from yourself.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
Down a third day.
Speaker 5 (08:07):
That was very abrasive, and I just I can't get
with it. Like, obviously I do want to build a family,
but like not immediately you're talking about that on the
first date. Clearly there's something you need to accomplish just
as a woman, but I just I can't do it
right now on a first date for you to ask
me that.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
Oh that was me?
Speaker 3 (08:23):
Well that was yeah, yeah, I mean we were side here, right,
we're definitely we share in our amazement of that request,
but we probably didn't.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
Have to slammer to the ground. Yeah, Julie, look, I
mean it is expensive. I feel her. I want to
freeze my eggs. I get it.
Speaker 3 (08:43):
Yeah, I just think again, you know, we maybe maybe
maybe deserve conversation. Maybe, you know, maybe we hold off
on that a little bit because it sounds a little
I'm not going to say thirsty, but it's just, I mean,
you don't know this person, so it's kind of a
lot to ask, like Hey, I'm going to create another
human with or without you.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
That that is have you? Is that cool? I got it,
I got it, I got it. Yeah, but the point taken.
Speaker 4 (09:08):
I'm sorry. I was also just trying to be fun
and playful and kind to give him a compliment, and
it just went sour.
Speaker 3 (09:15):
And I'm what if he said, what if he had
said to you, Julia, Yeah, I'll give it to you,
you know, the fun way.
Speaker 1 (09:25):
You know what I'm saying, like you any reaction then
would you have gone for that?
Speaker 4 (09:34):
Probably not on the first day.
Speaker 3 (09:36):
That's too much, that's too much, would be that was
too much, I said, was too much.
Speaker 1 (09:42):
I'm so sorry, you're creepy. No, no, that was too much.
But take it to go, you know, take it
I've ever been left waiting by the phone. It's the
Fred Show, Julia, good morning, Welcome to the show. How
are you hi?
Speaker 2 (00:10):
I am hanging in How.
Speaker 1 (00:11):
Are you hanging in there? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (00:13):
Because you feel like maybe this guy Adam has ghosted you.
So we got to know the whole story on waiting
by the phone. How did you guys meet? Tell us
about any dates that you guys have been on, and
why you think you're being ghosted?
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Sure, yeah, we.
Speaker 4 (00:29):
I mean very classic. We met on Hinge, but we
went out and it was one of the best, like
first states I've had in a while where I actually
felt like, Okay, wow, this isn't a no right off
the bat, you know, and it was a lot of fun.
(00:51):
But he's not reaching out. He's not responding to me now,
I you know, I kind of waited for him to
sort of of maybe respond first. I didn't hear from him, so.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
I did decide to sort of text him. No response at.
Speaker 4 (01:09):
All, no yeah, no call, no text. So I'm wondering
if I guess he just didn't feel the same way
about how our date went, which.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
I'm a little surprised by. But yeah, I thought.
Speaker 4 (01:26):
We had a great connection. I thought.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
It definitely felt like we were both excited to be there.
Speaker 4 (01:32):
And that we enjoyed each other's company and that we
were enjoying getting to.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
Know each other.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
And I thought for sure.
Speaker 4 (01:39):
I mean I left the date thinking like, Okay, yeah,
I'm excited to see him again and like keep getting
to know him and keep seeing where it could go.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
So I'm confused. I'm really confused.
Speaker 1 (01:49):
You've never been on the dating apps? Have you?
Speaker 3 (01:50):
No?
Speaker 1 (01:51):
In all? In like, we get a fight with Big Tim,
do you ever down let him just to be Yeah,
I've done that before. Yeah, and literally just looked at
it like I can't do this. That's how I look
at it every time. I can't do this.
Speaker 3 (02:02):
But yeah, I get what you mean, Julie when you
say that, like you know you met this person, because
I've gone out with a lot of people and none
of them are really bad.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
But but do you.
Speaker 3 (02:12):
Know the difference when you like sit in front of
somebody and you're like this is interesting.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
Oh completely, that's complete.
Speaker 4 (02:18):
And it's not even necessarily like oh my god, this
is my person. It's it's more so just like it's
feeling of Okay, that went really well, and I'm really
excited to just keep getting to know this person, like
I just want to keep getting to know them more
and see.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
Because that was that felt different than no, this is
a match, you know.
Speaker 3 (02:38):
Right, Well, let's let's play a song. We're gonna come
back in just a second. We're gonna call this guy Adam,
and we're gonna see what's going on with him, like
what you know, hopefully he felt the same way. Maybe
something's come up, but he wasn't able to call you
back or reach out. Who knows, who knows? Anything is possible,
so hopefully we can fix this. Hey, Julie, Hi, all right,
let's call Adam. You guys met on one of the
dating apps and it was bumble or hand he was hands.
(02:59):
You met on Hinge and you went on a date
and you really enjoyed the date. You really like this guy.
You were looking forward to seeing where things went. But
you have not heard from him since the date and
you're confused.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
Yeah, okay, yeah, I'm hoping I can just get a
little bit of clarity.
Speaker 3 (03:14):
On what happened, and hopefully we can, you know, figure
out what's up and set you guys up on a
date and pay for it.
Speaker 1 (03:20):
So here we go. Good luck, Julie, Julia, I keep
wanting to call you, Julia.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
It's okay.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
Hi is this Adam Hey? It's Adam Hey.
Speaker 3 (03:38):
It's Anam awfully.
Speaker 1 (03:41):
Enthusiastic for someone who just pick up the phone for
tourist stranger. But I'm Adam. My name is Fred.
Speaker 3 (03:45):
I'm calling from the Fred Show, the morning radio show,
and I have to tell you that we are on
the radio right now, and I would need your permission
to continue with the call. Can whichet for just a second,
would you mind? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (03:54):
I don't mind chatting?
Speaker 5 (03:55):
What's going on?
Speaker 1 (03:55):
Well?
Speaker 3 (03:56):
Thank you very much for calling on behalf of a
woman who says she met you on him and her
name is Julia. Do you remember going out with her recently?
Speaker 1 (04:04):
Oh?
Speaker 5 (04:04):
She was strange.
Speaker 1 (04:06):
She was strange. Why was she strange?
Speaker 3 (04:09):
Because you know, she reached out to us and told
us that you guys have matched and went on a
date and she described it as a really good date
and was hoping to see you again, and for whatever reason,
you're not reaching out to her.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
So what happened? Why was she strange?
Speaker 5 (04:21):
Yes, So here's the thing.
Speaker 1 (04:23):
It was a it was a it was a good date.
Speaker 5 (04:25):
Up until it was we had appetizers, had some drinks,
and then she asked me for my sperm, which was
so strange to me.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
Wait wait wait wait wait hold on, I mean that's
I mean, you just sort of laid that out like
it was just like okay, so you're you're having drinks
and it's fine. And then she what, yes, yes, how
we got from the first drink to requesting your specimen.
Speaker 5 (04:53):
Like that's my thing, that's my thing. While I'm not
calling her back because like we're just literally having a
first date. So she asked me a lot of like
my medical history definitely, was just asking more about like,
you know, any types of diseases that I've had, And
I'm like, whoa, Like this is like a first date
and this is a lot.
Speaker 3 (05:14):
I was sitting there having just like you know, your
little uh mcgroney or whatever, and it's like here, hey,
so I don't know, like what do your parents look like,
you know, any history of disease you're illness in to
family or wow? Okay, and you're so you're like, where
is this going?
Speaker 5 (05:32):
Yeah, so she's asking me about my family history. She's
asking me like, oh, I want to you know, use
your sperm for incimentation.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
I'm like, WHOA, Like.
Speaker 5 (05:39):
This is a lot for a first date here, So
I just like I had to have to get out
of here as quickly as possible.
Speaker 1 (05:47):
I'm like, I'm not entertaining her anymore.
Speaker 5 (05:49):
So I'm like, I'm not telling her about that all.
Speaker 3 (05:51):
I mean, I guess it's a compliment. She thought you
were good looking and had good features. I mean, I'm
not asking. Yeah, well, I'm not asking for anyone. Uh
but if but if I'm a woman and I'm asking
if a woman, if a woman asked me for that,
I guess I would assume that she thought I had
something to offer. But let me bring Julie in because
that's quite that's quite a request of a person that
(06:13):
you just met. And you left that part out when
we asked you how the date, when you forgot to
tell me that you wanted his DNA in a jar?
Speaker 4 (06:20):
Okay, Hey, hi, hi Adam, it's nice to hear from you.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
I'm sorry that that is the.
Speaker 4 (06:29):
You know, reaction that you had to that first of all,
Like I was sort of being playful about it. I
was only half serious. I was, you know, I thought
that you would take that as a major compliment, like, look,
the whole that whole process is a crazy thing. It
can be super expensive, and I just sort of I
(06:52):
thought you were really handsome. I was like, you know what,
maybe I want to shoot my shot here because it's
a thing that people have to think about these days,
especially people in my position. And I was kind of
just playing around with it. But I didn't mean for
you to be so weirded out for.
Speaker 3 (07:08):
About it for this purpose. I mean, are you out
here looking for that?
Speaker 4 (07:13):
I'm not dating to find my husband who's going to
be the father of my children.
Speaker 1 (07:17):
But in the meantime, you'll just take his stuff and
move on.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
I mean, I have to think about that as well.
Speaker 4 (07:22):
My age. I don't really want to stay on the radio,
but I'm reaching that point where I have to start
considering that. And I kind of thought he would take
it as a compliment, like he could have just said
no and that's it.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
Yeah, I mean, Adam, I guess it was abrasive. It was.
Speaker 3 (07:39):
It was just sort of shocking, right, and you're a
level of comfort or just there.
Speaker 1 (07:44):
A second date right right, a magnitude.
Speaker 3 (07:46):
Of the request. I mean, yeah, we're still having a.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
For DNA was.
Speaker 5 (07:56):
It was literally a lot.
Speaker 1 (07:58):
It was literally a lot.
Speaker 5 (07:59):
And Julia, you mentioned at the top of the call
it was nice to see or nice to hear from you.
It's it's not nice to hear from yourself.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
Down a third day.
Speaker 5 (08:07):
That was very abrasive, and I just I can't get
with it. Like, obviously I do want to build a family,
but like not immediately you're talking about that on the
first date. Clearly there's something you need to accomplish just
as a woman, but I just I can't do it
right now on a first date for you to ask
me that.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
Oh that was me?
Speaker 3 (08:23):
Well that was yeah, yeah, I mean we were side here, right,
we're definitely we share in our amazement of that request,
but we probably didn't.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
Have to slammer to the ground. Yeah, Julie, look, I
mean it is expensive. I feel her. I want to
freeze my eggs. I get it.
Speaker 3 (08:43):
Yeah, I just think again, you know, we maybe maybe
maybe deserve conversation. Maybe, you know, maybe we hold off
on that a little bit because it sounds a little
I'm not going to say thirsty, but it's just, I mean,
you don't know this person, so it's kind of a
lot to ask, like Hey, I'm going to create another
human with or without you.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
That that is have you? Is that cool? I got it,
I got it, I got it. Yeah, but the point taken.
Speaker 4 (09:08):
I'm sorry. I was also just trying to be fun
and playful and kind to give him a compliment, and
it just went sour.
Speaker 3 (09:15):
And I'm what if he said, what if he had
said to you, Julia, Yeah, I'll give it to you,
you know, the fun way.
Speaker 1 (09:25):
You know what I'm saying, like you any reaction then
would you have gone for that?
Speaker 4 (09:34):
Probably not on the first day.
Speaker 3 (09:36):
That's too much, that's too much, would be that was
too much, I said, was too much.
Speaker 1 (09:42):
I'm so sorry, you're creepy. No, no, that was too much.
But take it to go, you know, take it
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