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Speaker 2 (00:27):
Your You go to work and you're doing recess with
your friends, but there is.

Speaker 1 (00:30):
So much that goes into that thinks about this right
where words we are Fred show? Is you play something
out this week?

Speaker 3 (00:40):
What it is?

Speaker 1 (00:41):
There's a there's an old school phrase that you heard
this week and you want to know why why it's
not more commonplace in the nomenclature. Yeah, you heard me,
I said nomenclature.

Speaker 4 (00:54):
Who's Norman Seris Norman Clay, Norman Fund?

Speaker 1 (01:01):
So what's the old school phrase that you want to hear?
You want it back? Yeah?

Speaker 4 (01:05):
This Like whoever came up with this really did their
biggest one, Like it just hits so different when somebody
says it.

Speaker 1 (01:11):
The email read for crying out loud.

Speaker 4 (01:15):
I like step back in my chair, like, you know what. Hell,
yeah for crying out loud, Like why would they do that?
And so I think we need to put a little
more respect on that term or that phrase.

Speaker 1 (01:25):
So you gotta start, you gotta start busting that one out.
Yeah for crying out loud. For crying out loud. It
is the Freend Show. Good morning, Thanks for having us
on the radio, on the iHeart app Live and anytime.
Search for The Freend Show on demand. Here's the situation.
This is a quote from the person who wrote him.
This is I'm just reading from what they said. I
was married to my ex husband for four years. I
didn't change my name when I first got married because

(01:46):
neither of us cared very much. I only changed it
after our daughter was born because I wanted us to
share a last name. This is It was posted on Reddit, actually,
which is where I get. You know, people think that
I do all of the preparation for the show and
the elevator on the way up, and sometimes it sounds
like it that little screen that says captivating gives me
a little stas because you feel stats on the way

(02:06):
up and like what time it is, and I'm like,
this is perfect. It is all I need. This is great.
I'm going to get in the Hall of Fame for
sure this way and then and then I do the show.
But no, it's redded. Is really the secret, It really is,
except that it can get real weird on there, so
I really can't start for the top and work my
way down like this is. You know, this was an
alien topic on there this morning. There's some conspiracy theories,

(02:27):
so really can't use it completely. But nonetheless, this woman
explained that she and her ex husband divorced back in
twenty twenty two and the fact that she had his
last name has never been an issue. During a recent
visit to pick up her daughter from a custody visits,
she then bumped into the ex husband's new girlfriend, who
confronted her about the name change. And here's the quote,

(02:49):
going back to the Reddit post, she told me that
her and my ex want to get married, but the
only thing standing in the way is that I haven't
changed my last name back. The ex wife wrote about this,
so she said that essentially she needs the ex has
got to change her name back to her original name
so that the new wife or girlfriend to be wife

(03:10):
would be the only one with the last name. That's
the hold up. That's not the hold up. No, no, girl,
that's not the hold up. That's not why it is.
Due is not proposing to you, because many people can
have the same last name. Yes, and in fact that
I think it's pretty common. You know, people get married,
they change their last name, they get divorced, they're like,
I'm not changing my name again. That's a big pain.
My kids had the last name. We'll just keep it whatever.

(03:30):
You know, some people do change their last name back,
but then their kids would have a different last name
because oftentimes the father's last name is the one that
you know prevails. So I mean, yeah, you know, I
know people who've been married three times. Now, there's all
these people with the last name. Like what it is?
What it is? Well, it has nothing to do with
getting married and not getting married. No, you don't own it. No,

(03:50):
absolutely not. Girl. He line to you. If that's the
excuse he's telling you, and you're dumb, I mean that
bother you. So no, go ahead ahead, three five, you
can contacts the same number. I mean, if a guy
said to you or a girl, I guess in this case,
it would be the guy if you're taking his last name.
If he said to you, yeah, I don't know. I mean,
I really want you to have my last name and

(04:11):
be the only woman with it, and says my ex
does you know until she changes it, we're not gonna
be able to do it. I mean, wouldn't you be like, okay,
really or do you feel some kind of ownership over
the name? Would you have a problem as the person
being proposed to, you know, marrying the guy. Would you
have a problem if someone else had the last name
before you? They have children, correct, right this couple?

Speaker 4 (04:33):
No, I would not have an issue with that, Like
you are the mother of his children. I can't get
rid of the kids, Like y'all are bonded forever. I mean,
it's a name, it's you were married, you did your time,
you earned it.

Speaker 1 (04:44):
This sounds like some weird possessive this thing and control thing.
And I guess if I if I were marrying somebody
who were like, let's say it's let's say this is
on her, let's say she's the one obsessing over this,
I'd be I would have issues. Wait, hold on, you don't.
We don't own people here? We don't. We can't rea
write history. Like if you want to get married, fine,
if you want to take my last name, great, but

(05:05):
like I'm not going to go back and undo everything
I've done before. I can't. You know, it's like people
that want you to they come in your life or
they're like, I don't want you to have anything to
do with any of those people. I mean, maybe there
are situations where they're bad influences or maybe that you
don't need to be hanging out with an AX or something,
but like, you don't control my narrative. You don't control
how this works. We're moving forward together, right, Yeah, for sure.

(05:25):
And then if I'm if I'm the girl and the
guy's like, yeah, I can't do it, won't be able
to propose until we get my ex to drop that name. Well,
then I'm like you, this is BS, he's reaching reaching.
What would you all agree? Are we all like a
universal front about this, like a universal.

Speaker 5 (05:41):
Unless I'm changing if I'm the ex wife, I'm changing
the kids' names back to my.

Speaker 1 (05:45):
Name, and then that's what my mom did. They Yeah,
then clean, sweet goodbye. But she doesn't want to change
your name and she's not gonna do it now because
it's it's his, it's her exes now girlfriend forcing it.
So so she's like, I'm gonna be like, no, I'm
not doing it. I'm not doing it for you, right,
and what does it even mean? Like I was already

(06:06):
married to him, I had kids with him, I did
it with him, right, look at it, like, you can't
take that from me. Seconds someone tells me, if he
didn't care that the first wife didn't have his last name,
why does he care about the second one? Which is
why I wonder if it's her and not him, if
this is a she issue, you're nod in your head.

Speaker 6 (06:25):
I feel like it's it's her, and I feel like
that's a huge red flag, Like what if something that
actually matters comes up during their marriage?

Speaker 2 (06:32):
She cares about something that does not matter at all?

Speaker 1 (06:34):
Yeah, what else do we have to? What else do
we have to erase you pretend didn't happen. Yeah, I'm
I don't know, I'm out on her. I don't like it.
You're right, you were in on her previously. Yeah, I
don't know her, but I'm out. At one point you
were like maybe with her, but then but now yeah,
we're out. I'm moving on. We're completely out all this
marriage talk. Are you're going to have Kiki have second
thoughts and other text? Well? Oh no, girl? Are you

(06:56):
taking his name? Yes? On social media? On social media?
I would think that would be the one place you wouldn't.

Speaker 4 (07:04):
Take Yeah, no, no, no, I'll change my Facebook. I add
his name to my Facebook.

Speaker 1 (07:08):
But what about what about on like legal documents? I
don't have to have all that Okay, minor stuff. Deal,
we're pump faking a little bit, you know. Well he
knows it now, boy, Yeah, you know what. That's what
it says. I'm sorr. I should have read the fanatics.

(07:28):
It's Friday. I apologize. Yeah, I love you. So you've
been in this situation, this exact thing. Please.

Speaker 7 (07:37):
So I got married in nineteen, had a kid, and
then like two years in the marriage, he went to divorce,
you know whatever. I didn't necessarily want it. But his
second wife three years later asked me if I changed
my last name and I said no, this is before
they obviously got married.

Speaker 1 (07:58):
And I said no.

Speaker 7 (07:59):
I said it's he didn't want me to have his
last name, and then he should have thought about that
before he married me.

Speaker 1 (08:04):
Period. So this woman wanted to be the only one
that had the last name, like the only like like
somehow that made her elite or something. You've already been
married to him. It happened, it's done right, Yeah, get
over it, Yeah exactly. Okay, so what we have.

Speaker 7 (08:21):
We had a child with it with I had a
child with him, and I'm like, I'm not changing my
last name from my child. And then now he's on
his third wife.

Speaker 8 (08:32):
Oh boy, And I kept his last name for like
ten ten ten years, and then I ended up getting
remarried and now I have a totally different last name
than any of my kids.

Speaker 1 (08:46):
Okay, well it's gonna confusing now, So Tanny, I need
I'm gonna need to start drawing a map a little
bit here to see where everyone's going. We've got three husbands,
we've got two wives, we got three lives. No, it does, no,
there's no judgment. I'm just I'm just trying to make
sure we know whose last name is who's But you
didn't change your last name. She still married him and
then she took the name, and so she had to
get over it.

Speaker 7 (09:05):
Yeah, she had to be like, if he only wanted
one person to have his last name then he should
have thought about that before he married and we were divorced.

Speaker 1 (09:14):
Me and then the second time and the third too, right, Yeah, yeah,
I think so.

Speaker 7 (09:20):
Maybe actually, maybe try to work on your marriage before.

Speaker 1 (09:23):
You just awore somebody, you know what. Maybe so, Tanya,
thank you, have a good day, and yeah you telling me,
maybe don't be I love you too. Maybe don't just
be out here giving out your last name like it's nothing, right, Jillian, Hey,
you're saying to girlfriends lululu here. I think we all
agree on that, right, Oh yeah, definitely. Yeah. I mean
what would you do in this situation. You'd be like, no,

(09:43):
I'm not changing it. If you were the ex, you're
not doing anything for this person.

Speaker 7 (09:48):
Yeah, changing your name is just a total tame and
she's not part of.

Speaker 1 (09:53):
Your life, to screw it. Yeah, I'm not going to
do it for you, you know, like if I were going
to do it, I would have done it before. I'm
not going to do it because this guy's new girlfriend's
intimidated by it. It's just a name. Yeah.

Speaker 7 (10:07):
Unfortunately, I think the girlfriend really is like in her
own little girl and just doesn't see the reflegs that
are clearly improper.

Speaker 1 (10:13):
Yeah, I think so too. Thank you, Jillian, have a
good day. If someone texted pay me, yeah, it's gonna
be like if I get traded to another NFL team
or something, and it's like, oh, you know, your number
fifty five is already number fifty five, and I'm like,
I want fifty friends coming he wants fifty five, and
the guy who's got it's like, okay, million bucks, million bucks,
you can have it. This is what it really happens
in the NFL, where guys coming to team someone has

(10:36):
a number already. It's like, yeah, well you just got
paid fifty million dollars. You can get me a million
of it and have my number. That's what I would do.
I'd say, write me at check. I wanted to bring
this up because my mom listens to the show every day,
and like, I wish I could see the look on
my parents' face when I do this story. I wish
I could. I want your genuine reaction, especially if you're
I don't know, twenty thirties, forties. You grew up with siblings.

(10:58):
I know Kaitlin did. He can practically we're a second
mom because of the age difference. Twelve years thirteen years
difference between you and Bella, your sister. She's younger. A
TikToker known as Shira is making waves with her bold stance.
Why do I believe that she might be in her
early twenties. I've never seen this woman. I hate to
say this, this is a generational take, but parents are

(11:21):
going to shiver or older siblings her bold stance. Parents
shouldn't make their kids babysit younger siblings without consent and compensation. Yeah,
I mean you were a big sister too. Can you imagine, Paulina,
if Mama Marta had been like, hey, I'm heading out
tonight with my cigarettes and my Virginia. Yeah Salem, I

(11:46):
was gonna say Virginia slims. But Salem flym are going
out with the girls tonight. You gotta watch your sister.
And you were like, first of all, I didn't consent
to that, and second and second of all, what will
my compensation package looks like? Can you imagine? Now? Look like?
My parents were very smart. My parents were very smart.
I have my sister seven and a half years younger,
and they were not They were no dummy, you know

(12:07):
on my birthday they were They were extremely generous. They
gave me a brand new car. On my birthday. They
gave me a brand new car. It was so I
couldn't believe it. Like I was convinced that I wasn't
getting a car. I was convinced that their deal was,
you got two years to make money in the summer,
and whatever amount of money you can make, we'll we'll
match that and you can buy a car with it. Well,
I didn't make it. I didn't make that much money,

(12:28):
so I wouldn't have been I didn't think I was
getting a car. I got a car. Boom immediately, here
are the keys. Oh my god, yay, congratulations, take your
sister to dance. Go get me some at the store. Hey,
go go pick up so and so and so and
so at the airport. Hey, you do very smart. It
was what an investment in the quality of life, of
their own quality of life. Yeah, extremely generous. I'm extremely grateful.

(12:51):
I will do the exact same thing if I ever
have a kid. It'll be like, oh sweet, and this
is before uber and everything. Hey, go pick up the
Chinese food or whatever. And for a little while you're like, oh,
I get to drive, Like I get to drive. And
after a while you're like, I don't want to go
to dance practice again. But if I had told my parents,
like what's in it for me? You know, well, what

(13:12):
are you to pay me for that? We'll be like,
I don't know. How about the air you're breathing? How
about you know what you're wearing right now? How about
that car? How about the how about how about you know, eating, sustenance? Education?
How about love? Can you imagine Caitlin, if you had
been like, well, you know, I don't know. First of all,

(13:33):
I didn't agree to that, And second, oh my god,
can you imagine telling your parents I don't consent to that.

Speaker 6 (13:39):
Absolutely, And I had enough forethought to go like, I mean, yes,
sometimes it was frustrating because I was like, fully, like
we had like a drop off pickup schedule. I was
getting her from school, like I always had a car
seat in my backseat. I looked like a teen mom
in high school. But I just I had enough forethought
to go, okay, like, my parents have given me so much.

(14:00):
The least I can do is like help them out.

Speaker 1 (14:03):
I know. I know that as a kid, I was
not grateful enough because I didn't have I didn't have
the perspective to realize like how hard it was for
them to provide the things they did. And I also
was around kids who had as much or more than me,
so it wasn't I had no example of how it
could look and in retrospect like, I'm just so grateful
for all the things that they did. But I, even then,

(14:25):
even as a little snot nosed, little entitled kid, I
knew better than to ask my parents to compensate me.
Can you imagine if you told her, like, here's your
your older sister takes you in when your mom passes away,
and then and then she's already got kids and there
are allways kids and so can you imagine if Helena
had been like, hey, I need you to do this,

(14:45):
makeitha and you're like, well, well right, I said to that, No,
I would never do that for Helena.

Speaker 4 (14:54):
But because I had a friend who was really like
a second mom to all of her siblings, and like
we would have parties to go to the skating rink
and I would be like, are you on duty tonight?

Speaker 1 (15:05):
Like can you come out? You know, like I gotta
watch the keys, And.

Speaker 4 (15:08):
I'm like, your mom had all those kids, that's not
your responsibility. So some parents, they really do put a
lot of responsibility on the oldest. Yeah, the oldest sibling,
y'all are the strongest soldiers for real.

Speaker 6 (15:20):
Yeah, No, it's I would say, it's like you need
to be an oldest sibling. I think in a lot
of ways, but it's we don't choose it, and that's okay,
you know, but yeah, some parents.

Speaker 2 (15:30):
Do take advantage of it.

Speaker 6 (15:31):
I mean, we had bell I would throw parties in
the basement and Bella would be down there with her
bottle getting passed around by like's just you know, I mean,
that's what we would do.

Speaker 4 (15:39):
We would just go to my friend's house and babysit
at her. We would all hang out, but we were
you know, I'm here.

Speaker 1 (15:46):
If you're treating the oldest sibling like a nanny, that's
one thing. But if you're just being asked to help
out around the house because that's what family does, and
you're over here going m Yeah. In her viral video,
she emphasis is that children are not free labor and
should not be assigned adult responsibilities like cooking, cleaning, or
babysitting without agreement. What are you talking about? Where are

(16:10):
you going to live? Ma'am, like, what are you how
exactly are you expected to survive? Like your parents are
also not I mean, while I think a lot of
parents probably feel like it, they're not like your servants, right,
Like you still have to be a functioning member of
a family, of a unit, like if your parents expect
you to keep your stuff in order or they you know,

(16:31):
I remember my parents used to be like, your only
job is to go to school and get good grades.
That's the only thing you have to do, and do it, man, like,
that's it. And I remember the time I thought it
was such such an undertaking. My dad used to say
to me almost every night, Man, what I wouldn't give
to go back to school? And I'm like, yeah, you
and your stupid line. That's dumb, that's dumb. I want

(16:53):
out of here, I want out of this prison. And
you know what, what I wouldn't give to go back
to school and learn more stuff? Oh my god, seriously,
the freedom, honey. I think the difference is I would
I would choose what I wanted to learn and it
would be on my terms as opposed to what they
make you learn. And at the time, but again, you know,
youth is wasted on a young perspective. But my god,
if i'd say, yeah, I don't know about that, Okay,

(17:15):
well then the dinner will be seventeen dollars, then I
mean they can flip it on you too. That's true. Yes,
they chose to have you, But I don't think that
means that you don't have any obligation to be a
part of a unit, right right, Yeah, don't take advantage.

Speaker 8 (17:29):
You know.

Speaker 9 (17:29):
My mom would send me back to Poland, like with
a one way ticket back, like I'm from there, but
she would send me there with my grandma. She's thrived
me before when I was a kid many of times,
like when I didn't want to help out around the
house or with my sibling or whatever. Like we're four
years apart, not that much of a difference, but I
was older.

Speaker 1 (17:42):
You would have to build the house that you were.
I have to literally farm literally. My mom came from
Asarm with nothing. She clapp in a hole like she did,
like I need milk for my cereal, Well, then go milk.

Speaker 9 (17:54):
It's every morning, yes exactly. She climbed mountains to get
to school.

Speaker 1 (17:59):
I heard all about it both ways uphill, which was crazy,
and I had no idea that geography in Poland was
that way, everything is uphill all the time, all the time.
I'm like, oh my god, I just cannot imagine. I
cannot imagine responding like that. My dad would my my
mom really would have whooped me.

Speaker 6 (18:16):
Where do they think this like code of conduct that
they're like aligning two comes from? Because you're you're under
your parents, as your parents rules, Like where do you
think your rights are coming from?

Speaker 1 (18:25):
You have no rights? Yeah, I don't know your child.
Of course. Huge discussions now on her post about the
balance between family responsibilities and children's rights. Some argue that
helping out is a part of growing up. Others believe
that imposing such duties without consent can lead to resentment
and hinder personal development. In some ways, I think it

(18:45):
developed me developed, you know. And there was even stuff
that they would they would have me do and pay
me for that I probably should have just done. But
I also had no means of making money, and I think,
you know, before a certain age when you can't get
a job. The very day I could get a job,
I got a job, but I feel like, you know,
mowing the lawn and they get me, which they claim
I never did. It's outrageous. They argue up and down,

(19:08):
you never ever did that, and I'm like, no, no,
I did that for years. It's so crazy. I'm like,
where do you think I made that up? Like I
remember the hiking boots they wore to mow the lawn.
I remember, I remember. You know, if the sprink courst
had gone off, I couldn't anyway, don't get me started
on this trauma.

Speaker 6 (19:27):
Parents don't like if you say anything happened other than
like amazingness, They're like, no, that is so like that.

Speaker 1 (19:32):
I'm not even med about it. I'm not mad. Y.
I tell the joke all the time that now that
I have grown up money, I want to buy a
riding lawn more because they wouldn't let me have one,
and I want to just ride it around my parking
garage because I can have it if I want it. Yeah,
big album Home Depot will hook me up with a discount.
Even it's amazing. But my mom calls me, you never
mowed the lawn, like what are you talking about? Anyway?
But they would pay me, like I think whatever. They'd

(19:54):
pay me twenty dollars to do that. And the reason
they would I probably shouldn't have. They probably shouldn't have
paid me twenty dollars. They probably should have done it
because well, thanks for the you know, education and food
and you know everything else. But but I think, you know,
when you're thirteen years old, you want basketball cards all
the time. It's like, all right, we'll go do something
and we'll give you the money, you know. And I
think it was like teaching you about work and being

(20:16):
paid and saving you can you know, dot you know,
by this much now or that much later or whatever.
But even that, they didn't have to do that if
they didn't want to. But I have you know, I
didn't consent to any of that. I didn't consent to
any of it. This is one of my favorite debates
to have. But two a thousand people. Oh and by
the way, that they were sexually active adults too, So

(20:37):
let's just be clear here. We didn't ask that. We
didn't ask any virgins about this, okay, no, no, no,
no no. We didn't ask those who are who are
wearing purity rings and waiting for marriage. We didn't ask them.
I just think it's funny that they had to say
sexually active adults, because I think you can cheat on
someone non sexually. But maybe that's the question. Americans have

(20:59):
defined cheating in modern relationships. So according to two thousand
sexually active adults, many considers behavior like Many consider behaviors
like harmless flirting, chatting with an X, and watching adult
videos as forms of cheating that could potentially end their relationships.
At videos in huge trouble, she's prolific cheater every day,

(21:25):
multiple times a day, cheating over here.

Speaker 10 (21:27):
Like child.

Speaker 1 (21:30):
Video right, I don't know what, like.

Speaker 9 (21:34):
The Blockbuster or whatever it was at the you know,
the video store back in the day, and you have
to go in between those beads.

Speaker 1 (21:40):
Yeah, oh, yeahs, beads.

Speaker 6 (21:43):
It's all so hot in the nineties, zam beads and
one of them in their room, in their living room.

Speaker 1 (21:49):
The sad part is that's a reference that there are
people listening who don't know what we're talking about. But
back in the day, they used to have in the
nineteen hundreds, in the yeah, right, the twentieth century or
very a long time ago, they had places where you
could go you can physically walk in, and they had
these little boxes and inside the box was another little box,
and you put that into a device, it will play

(22:10):
a movie. It's called a VHS tape. Then they had DVDs,
which little CDs have played movies, and you had to
go to the place and get the one you wanted
and use it and then bring it back or otherwise
you would charged enormous fees. I think they.

Speaker 6 (22:24):
Still have them for our local listeners at Tajas by
Paris Club where it used to be.

Speaker 1 (22:30):
I'm pretty sure that bookstore. Oh, you adult movies. I
was just describing. I was just describing the concept as
a whole. Oh. I wasn't even talking what are you
thinking about? No, I was talking about the video rental process.
You're talking about going inside of a store watching something
in a booth.

Speaker 6 (22:43):
Yeah, they have the DVDs and you can still run them,
and they actually have an area where you could go.

Speaker 1 (22:49):
I can't make it all the way home. Yes, yes,
at least they used to.

Speaker 2 (22:54):
Yes, but they have a lot of DVDs and they're
still I was in there.

Speaker 1 (22:57):
Get home, and you're gonna have to hang out here
for a while and watch the video I just rented. Yeah,
but then some of them the Blockbuster video, which of
course I am an alumnus of Blockbuster Video. I was
an assistant manager. I'll have you know at age sixteen,
which what could have possibly gone wrong with that? We
didn't have any of that kind of content. But then
some of those stores had like a little closet in

(23:18):
the back and it was there's a little bead partition
or a little curtain, and that was where you could
go get the naughty stuff. But then a friend of
mine was listening recently when we were talking about something similar,
and she said that they didn't have the naughty corner.
They had a catalog, like you had to ask for
the book and then stand there like, right, hey, can
I have the pervy book? Please? Like, no, the real

(23:40):
pervy one, not that one. That one's like more. That
one's more erotic. I want the real that's the one.
You get it over here, give it to me. What's
all the shame? I mean, well, let's your freak flag fly.
If you're still going to a store where you have
to flip through some sort of manual to get the
video that you want, then I maybe you're asking for

(24:00):
that kind of shit. Maybe you're a masochist. I don't know.
But when it comes to ADULTA films, fifty four percent
of people asked believe that racy content should be banned
altogether once the relationship becomes serious. So if I watched
content on my own, I'm cheating, that's what.

Speaker 4 (24:20):
No, you're not cheating, You're not what You're not cheating.
But what I define is cheating is anything that I
wouldn't do in front of my partner. So would you
watch it in front of your partner or with your partner?

Speaker 1 (24:33):
Yes, I would, But I don't know that I would
do the whole the whole Dog and Pony show, if
you know, necessarily, that's a whole different assets. That's an
entirely different proclivity. If I if i'm you know, I
want you to watch me do no, like, that's a
whole different thing. I'm not trying to do all that,
but I mean I can't. But I look, I guess

(24:56):
if we're being honest, I guess if I'm not trying
to this is very in the morning. I'm trying to
be like, you know, as a I'm not sure about
this as possible, which is extremely hard for me to do.
But if I found out that my girlfriend or wife
were like addicted to some star, like watch the videos
of the same person over or even even as soon
as I walked out, the Hebrew Hammer comes on the

(25:20):
you know YouTube every single time, and then, like you know,
I would begin to feel self conscious. I would be like,
wait a minute, So the moment I leave the house,
you go and grab some other stimulus to make yourself
happy in that way. I don't know if that's cheating,
but I definitely think, like we have a problem.

Speaker 2 (25:38):
You know, pushing you out, She's like, don't you have
to be at work?

Speaker 1 (25:40):
Hy boy? It's two thirty. I mean, like, don't you
bag five? Like don't she need to you know? Yeah,
there's lunch in there for you, and dinner and breakfast
for the next day. If you, for some reason you
don't want to come back, I don't know it. I
mean I don't want it. Protein shaking there for your
work out. It put some workout clothes in there, don't forget.

(26:00):
We have that membership at the other place where you
can take a shower, so you don't have to come
home at all if you don't want to. Then she's
got the iPad plugged into a generator. Sorry, this thing
ain't gonna die now. So that would I would that

(26:23):
would make me uncomfortable if all that happened. But if
I find out that you look at a movie for
you know, or whatever, what is you look at the video?
If I find out you look at something just every
I don't know, like, that's not cheating, Kik. Can we
be reasonable for one? See reasonable? Guys? I'm all I'm saying.

Speaker 4 (26:42):
Is any anything you wouldn't do in front of your
partner to me is cheating? Now, I think it's okay
to have some alone time. But like you said, next thing,
you know you addicted to the hammer that you watch
it every day?

Speaker 1 (26:54):
Okay, that's crazy. Let me ask you this. So I
don't watch any I don't want I don't watch any
videos content, But I think about people who aren't you.
You're cheating? What see you're cheating? Now I can't have
my own thought. No, so I can't even I can't
have any sid I just it has to just come
to me well, and it has it has to be

(27:14):
about you, yes or else you got to say in
your mind. Get that out of there, Like I think
about Miyami. We'll see. That's the problem is that what
you're probably going to think about is either a fantasy
about someone else, or about someone else that you used
to get with in order to help with the that's
that's probably worse than watching a stranger who you're never

(27:35):
gonna meet exactly. They're not real. I don't know.

Speaker 4 (27:38):
Today these videos be like, you know, big Hamma's up
the street for ten dollars, you know, meet up with
big camera?

Speaker 1 (27:43):
Like why is he so close.

Speaker 10 (27:47):
In?

Speaker 11 (27:51):
You know?

Speaker 1 (27:52):
I don't know the way. I'm a little insulted because
just because I'm watching this doesn't mean I can't do
it in real life. You're right, You're right. They'll be
an ad like why are you doing that? You can
call this number and someone will do it for it.
It's like, yeah, hold on, wait a minute, do you
know where I am? So they know where you are? Yeah,

(28:14):
they know where you are?

Speaker 2 (28:15):
Aaron, Yes, Hi, good morning.

Speaker 8 (28:18):
Hi.

Speaker 1 (28:19):
So is it cheating to watch? I mean we only
got through the first one. I haven't been gotten through
the other things that are modern cheating. I didn't even
mean for this to be about one thing. But do
you think that watching a movie and an adult movie
is cheating if their partner's not there? I don't think.

Speaker 3 (28:37):
It's cheating, But if you have a partner with uh,
good drive?

Speaker 1 (28:48):
Why watch the movies? Well, because again, if you're if
you're avoiding connection with a person who you are with
in favor of watching something else, then I think that's problem.
But I don't know that. I think it's cheating. I
think you might have like it. There might be some
kind of emotional disconnected or some kind of a connection issue,
but like, I don't know that. I don't. I don't.

(29:11):
I don't know unless unless that's what you're doing. Like
if I literally don't want to get with you because
I would much rather do it myself with some other
completely unrelated stimulus, that's a problem. But if I'm just
at home one day and I'm like, hey, what's going
on here? They're in my area if you click Aaron,
if you click on it in my area link, we
have a problem.

Speaker 2 (29:33):
Well yeah, but if your spouse is at home, then just.

Speaker 1 (29:35):
You know, well, now that would make me uncomfortable too.
I wouldn't. I wouldn't like that. I mean if I'm like,
what are you doing? Man, and it's like hold on
you right right? Like I'm here though, and then if
the person were to say, well, why why are you here? Well,
then I you know, we have a problem eron, But
you're right. If I'm in the house and you choose

(29:56):
that over me, then I think again, is it cheating
or is it just we have an intimacy problem?

Speaker 11 (30:04):
There's a problem.

Speaker 1 (30:05):
Yeah, I think so too, Aaron, thank you you why
this has been eye opening. Have a great day you too.
I appreciate you. Okay, So there's that Digital interactions and
past relationship often create the most tension. As it pertains
to this study about modern cheating, sixty percent of those
surveys consider chatting with an ex partner as crossing the line,

(30:25):
and more than half view what many might dismiss as
harmless flirting as a betrayal of trust. So, okay, so
my ex from a girl you used tooke up with
fifteen years ago who's married, and hey, I saw your picture.
You look great, have a good day. Whatever, that's cheating, Jason,

(30:47):
What is it? Because I'm tired of me and the
man out here because it's all that's a different level
for me like that. So no one you've ever dated
can contact you. No, I can't control other people do.
So that's not cheating if someone just messages you.

Speaker 5 (31:01):
But if you're engaging with that then that is going
to uncover a problem.

Speaker 1 (31:07):
That's right. But there are people who I've hooked up
with in the past who are not going to cheat
on their spouses and partners who I still have a
good relationship with. I think that only speaks to whether
that it was a healthy breakup. I'm more skeptical look
shooting or not cheating. I'm more skeptical of the person
who who none of their exes will talk to them,
and they won't talk to any of them. I'd be like,

(31:29):
what is that about. That's a red flag to make
sure there are going to be some that you're not
going to talk to anybody. I mean, I've dated some
terrible human beings, but then but then I've dated some
really good people and I've screwed it up. So you know,
I don't consider myself a terrible human being, but I
consider myself a you know, emotionally flawed human being. So
I've screwed some up too. But that doesn't mean that
we don't have a good dialogue with some you know

(31:50):
what I mean. I think it's about communication.

Speaker 5 (31:52):
Like if I'm dating you and you're talking to your
actually you need to be open about that because the
last thing I want to do is.

Speaker 1 (31:59):
Find out you're talking to them unbeknownst to me.

Speaker 5 (32:02):
But if you're like, hey, I'm friends, but like you
could be friends with your acts, I'm totally fine with that,
but don't hide it.

Speaker 1 (32:09):
A third of responders said they would directly confront their
partner if they noticed their significant other was hiding their
phone password. So now we think that's modern cheating. If
I don't give you my password, why not? And why
are you hiding your password? Why do you need my password?
It's my phone. I don't need it. But if you're like,
if you're like hiding, like shielding your phone like a
are you over me trying to get my phone password?

(32:30):
Well that doesn't matter.

Speaker 4 (32:31):
But why are your password?

Speaker 1 (32:34):
There are people in my area. That's why I don't
want you in my area. I want them. Wait a minute,
so you have probably have it, And if he wouldn't
give it to you, that's cheating. It wouldn't be cheating,
but it'd be very suspect. Suspect. Don't follow him on Instagram. Mom,

(32:55):
the whole family, and I'll call.

Speaker 8 (32:57):
Him all.

Speaker 1 (32:59):
Lord log knows. Yeah, their mom, she called mom, she
called dad, yeah, and she's there, they're in law enforcement,
she'd make them arrest him, and it would be so
you're right, it would be wild. Hey Allison, Okay, so
so so let me see you we're trying to identify
modern cheating, which apparently is now everything that I do
every day. You're saying the real question is what.

Speaker 8 (33:26):
The real question to me is only fans. If you
are paying somebody and you can possibly interact with them
in real time, they can send you personalized content.

Speaker 11 (33:37):
To me, that is definitely cheating.

Speaker 6 (33:39):
But I've had other people say it's not, because it's
not you're not with them in real life.

Speaker 1 (33:45):
That's a very interesting one to me because I wouldn't
like that, right, Like if I'm dating someone and she's
paying another man, even if it's virtual, to you know,
whatever is it to make it look more intimate. On
the flip side, I'm very close, very very good friends
with the woman who makes a tremendous amount of money
making these videos on OnlyFans, And she'll tell you she

(34:06):
does not get one damn about these people like and
that sounds to be disrespectful. She's providing a service, they're
providing her money. That's what it is. If they think
it's more than that. That's fine, but she certainly makes
it feel like it is for their benefit. But what
I'm saying is doesn't do just cheating that I guess
it doesn't require both sides to be engaged. That would
be a line for me.

Speaker 6 (34:25):
I don't need you fallen for someone and having personalized
things like Hey, Tim, how you feeling?

Speaker 1 (34:30):
You know.

Speaker 7 (34:38):
That money on me because they're taking Yeah, right, you
are paying somebody.

Speaker 1 (34:43):
Yeah, I agree, Alison, thank you. Have a good day.

Speaker 12 (34:47):
Hi?

Speaker 1 (34:47):
Fred? How is your day? Are you in my area?
I'm down the streets on your street. I'm outside your door.
I don't even have a street in an apartment. It's weird.

Speaker 10 (35:01):
You're already spread show next.

Speaker 1 (35:11):
Wait, it's Radio Survivor. I've been saying this for years.
This is Radio Survivor. We're going to find out in
ten years it was a science experiment. No, it's just like,
let's just let's just mess with everything and see if
they can manage to get people to continue listening. Bread
Show is on. Have you ever had an issue with

(35:33):
your phone such that you had to carry your iPad
with you because that was all you had. They tried
to suggest that to me once I accidentally dropped my
phone at a very high intensity. I may have accidentally
dropped it right right I dropped it. It was going very
fast speed when I dropped it into a wall, and
I dropped it in damaged wall. But anyway, so I
may have done that once and I went to the store,

(35:55):
and there may not have been much phone left from
the drop that I dropped it. I know, it's crazy.
I was just what an accident, and I may truly
have only been able to provide the SIM card kind of.
So I may have walked in with the SIM card
and they were like, well, why don't you bring us
the phone and we can I'm like, well we can
trade that in. I'm like anymore. And then they understood.

(36:19):
They understood the assignment like they knew like immediately they
work in a phone store, Like okay, got it. Well,
you know, here's what we can do. We can get
you a warranty phone, I guess, or something. You can
buy a new phone, but the one phone's gonna take
a while. So what you could do is just carry
your iPad around for a while and like that'll, you know,
until Monday. Because I think this was a Saturday when
the dropping of the phone occurred, and then it was like, hey,

(36:41):
we'll get your phone by Monday, but like you can
just carry your iPad around like you want me to
carry my iPad around like a phone, Like you want
me to go to a date with my iPad? And
it's case, like, how you doing? What's going on?

Speaker 13 (36:52):
Well?

Speaker 1 (36:53):
What's that about? Well? Is in case it gets boring,
I'm gonna watch it. I'm right in the middle of
something on Netflix and I really didn't want to have
to interrupt it. So if you, you know, if you
see me look down in the ibad, that means you're
boring as hell.

Speaker 10 (37:05):
Ever been left waiting by the phone?

Speaker 1 (37:09):
It's the Fred Show, Tim, Good morning, welcome, good morning.
How are you were you doing? Okay, we call this
waiting by the field of course? Oh yeah, yeah here
here we are just hanging out with you, Tim. What's
going on with this woman? Is it Francesca? How did
you meet Francesca? And then tell us about any dates
that you've been on. What's going on? Now?

Speaker 14 (37:26):
Yes, I met I met Francesca on a hinge and
I took her out to dinner and the dinner went
really well.

Speaker 1 (37:32):
And uh so I was like it was so well,
that took.

Speaker 14 (37:35):
Her back to my place, and I was trying to
be a gentleman, so I didn't want to be like
push here and make a move.

Speaker 11 (37:41):
Yeah, and I guess that that wasn't.

Speaker 14 (37:43):
The move because I haven't heard from her since.

Speaker 1 (37:45):
Okay, so you think that because you weren't because nothing
physical happened, because you didn't initiate that. You think that's
her problem. She was turned off, like you're not interested
or something.

Speaker 14 (37:55):
Yeah, I thought I thought that would be the move.
I thought that she would appreciate that because guys are
always a push.

Speaker 11 (38:00):
And I guess that I don't know. I just haven't
heard from her.

Speaker 1 (38:02):
Sis. He was trying to be a good guy. He
was trying to be a gentleman. But I also see
how that could be misconstrued as he's on intimate. He
doesn't like me because now you're back at your place.
So I guess it's kind of, you know, not necessarily guaranteed,
but maybe implied that that kind of stuff might happen,
and it didn't, so that could be the issue. I
don't know. That's that's an interesting observation. But let's call

(38:23):
this woman Francesca Hey, Tim, Yeah, all right, Tim, let's
call at Francesca. You guys met on a dating app.
You went on this date. You thought that went really well,
back to your place, and then you know, you were
a gentleman, you weren't aggressive, didn't make any moves. But
then since the date, you haven't heard anything, and you
think maybe that's why maybe you I don't know, maybe
she thought you weren't into it.

Speaker 11 (38:44):
Yeah, I just want to know. First of all, I
really like Francesca. I just want to know what happened.

Speaker 1 (38:48):
Okay, all right, let's call her right now. Good luck?

Speaker 3 (38:57):
Hello?

Speaker 1 (38:58):
Hi is his Francesca?

Speaker 3 (39:01):
Yeah, this is her.

Speaker 1 (39:02):
Hi. Hi, my name is fredam callin from the Fred Show.
And I'm sure if you've heard it before, but I'm
hoping we can talk to you for a second on
the radio. I would need your permission though, to continue
on the air.

Speaker 7 (39:13):
Oh yeah, no, that's fine.

Speaker 3 (39:14):
I actually to show you they're awesome.

Speaker 1 (39:15):
Well, thank you very much. We appreciate that. So you
know what's going on here. We're calling on behalf of
a guy who says he recently went out with you.
His name is Tim. Do you remember meeting too?

Speaker 8 (39:26):
Oh?

Speaker 3 (39:26):
Yeah, I remember too.

Speaker 1 (39:28):
So okay, Well that's usually the tone of somebody who
like has got a story to tell. So he reached
out to us that he liked you, I was hoping
to see you again, but he can't get a hold
of you. Now, can you explain maybe kind of fill
us in on what's going on and why.

Speaker 12 (39:43):
Yeah, So we went on agay and it was i
mean effortually, like completely fine, and he was a sweet
gentleman and everything was pretty chill and pretty cool. And
so then we decided, you know, go back to his place.
And I'm thinking, oh, okay, like we're going to get
to know each other a little bit more and we
share a little tanko too, maybe something will happen.

Speaker 1 (40:06):
Okay, So your expectation going back there was it like
you guys were going to hook up. That's that's where
your mind was.

Speaker 3 (40:11):
Yeah, Like it was, well, I didn't think it was
gonna happen right away.

Speaker 12 (40:13):
Like, I mean, he was being like a pretty sweet
gentleman the whole time, and I was like, okay, I
could dig this, like yeah, and then uh he.

Speaker 3 (40:22):
Did when we got back to his place.

Speaker 2 (40:24):
We didn't do anything.

Speaker 3 (40:26):
In fact, the only thing we did.

Speaker 12 (40:27):
Is that he talked about how he was super good
at jiu jitsu, which is like that Japanese fighting style.

Speaker 3 (40:33):
And I mean, I didn't find anything wrong with that.

Speaker 11 (40:35):
At first.

Speaker 12 (40:36):
I was like, hey, man, at least you're.

Speaker 1 (40:37):
In shape and look good. Yeah. But then but then he.

Speaker 3 (40:41):
Just proceeded to like have me sit there for hours
and I'm not and I'm not talking like one or.

Speaker 12 (40:46):
Two hours, like I'm pretty sure we sat there like.

Speaker 3 (40:50):
Like four or five hours.

Speaker 12 (40:52):
I'm surprised I lasted that long.

Speaker 3 (40:54):
And he just showed me videos of him and showing
me moves on how to like down my.

Speaker 1 (40:59):
Own Wait, so these were videos of huge hips like
matches whatever they're called, the literal like video of him
doing that what you did?

Speaker 3 (41:08):
Well, Yes, it was like home videos, like I'm pretty
sure his mom or his grandma filmed it because there
was some leading going oh.

Speaker 12 (41:14):
My god and then again and then but then.

Speaker 3 (41:18):
I thought maybe something was gonna happen, because then he
was like, oh, let me show you something, and so
he was like, you know, getting behind me home, like okay,
maybe it'd night's not gonna.

Speaker 12 (41:25):
Be a total loss.

Speaker 3 (41:26):
No, he just proceeded to show me how he would
take out his opponent and I was like him, I'm
done and I oh, he like grant again. I'm thinking, baby,
something's gonna happen, to know, and he stands up and.

Speaker 1 (41:40):
Is like and he wanted to I'm scared. Okay, I
gotta bring Tim and I forgot to mention Tim is here. Dude.
You brought it back to your house to watch videos
of you doing martial arts. Ye, those hours of them,
I mean like even maybe like a few clips, but
four hours rest of you whatever you're doing.

Speaker 11 (42:03):
Yeah, I thought she was interesting, she was interested at first.
I did.

Speaker 3 (42:09):
I did that to be nice. And nobody wants us
to sit there and watch you, you know, get the
great at jiu jitsu? Are you sure your mom got
bored of filming you.

Speaker 1 (42:20):
No, one's trying to watch videos that you're being great
for four hours. I'm not trying to watch anything for
four hours. Botanic. And then you try to tell.

Speaker 14 (42:30):
What was this that I'm good at jiu jitsu?

Speaker 3 (42:33):
I mean, dude, I was I was nodding off. So
you did your demonstrations like I gave you the hand
of like, oh boy, I'm kind of tired.

Speaker 1 (42:43):
Maybe you know, even you could have maybe like God
you could have done like a little like I'm good
at ju u jitsu, flirty thing where maybe maybe, and
then you kind of pin her down and like in
a fun way, and then yeah, you know, like in
a way, and then lock her up and never let
her leave again. Like, I mean, there's a way you
could have made this fun. She sounded into it, but

(43:04):
four hours later she's exhausted of watching all your moves, Like,
what the hell, dude, I.

Speaker 11 (43:09):
Mean, I mean she could have communicated that with it.
My thing is, like I was, I wasn't trying to
be pushy. I wondered to show where I'm as good
as you, Like, I'm pretty sure she would appreciate that
we're on a date and somebody attacked her. Yeah, I
know what. I don't know how you.

Speaker 1 (43:26):
Already she was at your house, man, like you didn't
need to impress her any further. She was down. I
mean she was already. You won the match. I mean,
you were good to go. I don't, okay, I won
the match.

Speaker 11 (43:40):
Its like I lost it.

Speaker 1 (43:41):
I don't, I don't. I don't know. This feels like
that would be like me inviting women over to my
house to play this. You want to hear clips to
me on the radio, It's like, no, I don't. Four
hours later, yeah jesus, all right, yeah, well yeah, that's
the thing that this sucks. I got Francesca another day

(44:02):
with this guy. Would you consider it? We'll pay for it. No,
no more video clips of him, no things.

Speaker 12 (44:07):
I don't think they could take another fourteen hours.

Speaker 1 (44:09):
Of jiu jitsu, all right, Tim dude, come on, man,
I mean I think it's one thing to have a
hobby and a passion. I think you could probably communicate
that without having to go overboard like this. I think
you kind of missed it on this one. You missed,
you missed the cues.

Speaker 11 (44:22):
Yeah, I guess you're right to day.

Speaker 1 (44:23):
I mean you just got me sense. Oh Jesus, all right,
I gotta go, sense. No, I'm the sensor. What are
you the grasshopper? I gotta go. Good luck to both
of you, guys. Okay, thanks for your time. Francesca, it
is the frend Show. Good morning. Thanks for having us
on the radio, on the iHeart app live and anytime
search for The Fred Show on demand. Jason Brown, you
tried to kill your your partner last night? Is that

(44:44):
my understanding? Yeah, this is a.

Speaker 5 (44:46):
Yeah, it was a couple of nights ago, but yeah,
I decided to, uh, I am cooking more, and so
I decided to make a debut and new dish.

Speaker 1 (44:57):
Where are you getting these dishes that you're debuting, like
Megan saw no Lazymeals dot com? Oh okay, my skill
is very low.

Speaker 5 (45:05):
Okay, so I go for the easiest of the easy,
and so this one was very easy. I will make
anything into a cast role. Okay, just put anything into
a baking dish there on the oven. But she's on top,
and like we're good, right, Well I made this. I
made this castle role. And I could just tell, like Cathley,
there was like I don't know, like this isn't We
were having the same issue when you were at about

(45:26):
you Fred was looking at me like this ain't seasoned and.

Speaker 1 (45:29):
Up right, excuse me, excuse me. When I was the
chef at Beni Hannah a few weeks ago, all right,
and you guys hate the food. I hate the food.
Later and the food tasted fine. It was great. It
was you need sauce, you need salt dip in the
soy sauce and problem solved.

Speaker 4 (45:49):
Sauce what it was great after but in the process
I was like, wow, he's getting like he's close to
the finish line, and I'm seen that salt.

Speaker 1 (45:56):
Shaking the chicken really white. You know what? It was good?
Dare you? How dare you? Did all of you feel
fine afterwards? Yeah? All of you? I was hammered. But
on the way home, okay, great, you got it in
the car left, No, I didn't with your hands. I

(46:20):
guess it wasn't spice correctly. Then she was craving my Benny, Hannah, right,
craved your meat, craved my bi Okay. So anyway, you
were making a what did what were the contents of
said cast? Okay?

Speaker 13 (46:33):
So it was.

Speaker 5 (46:34):
Ground beef, egg, noodles, peas where it's some other vegetable
that was green, So hamburger helper with vegetables basically with
cheese on top.

Speaker 1 (46:45):
Oh my god, everything this sounds actually horrible. But anyway,
so you you decided that it was a good idea,
So I made I.

Speaker 8 (46:56):
Can do this.

Speaker 5 (46:56):
You just mix it all together and put in a
dish like hell yeah, right, So I take it out
of the oven and so like I'm like filling up
my water cup and he walks in Mike walks in
and he just stops like in front of it and
is just staring at it, like not like getting a plate,
not getting just staring at it. But he doesn't want
to say anying because I like have my you know,
sort of back to him. So I'm like, you know,

(47:17):
looking through my peripheral and I'm like, oh, I'm looking
at my peripheral.

Speaker 1 (47:23):
And so I see him just standing there.

Speaker 5 (47:26):
So then he like takes the littlest scoop and puts
on his plate and he's just standing there in.

Speaker 1 (47:30):
The kitchen eating it. Normally we make our plate, we
go sit down and eat.

Speaker 5 (47:32):
He's just like sitting there like sampling it, saying nothing,
saying nothing.

Speaker 1 (47:36):
And I knew it was bad.

Speaker 5 (47:38):
So I made a plate and I'm starting to eat it,
and it was the most silent dinner and neither of
us up anything to each other. And then two days
later he was like, that was prison food, which you
just gave me, literal prison food.

Speaker 1 (47:51):
Wow, he accused you of giving him prison food.

Speaker 2 (47:54):
Yeah, how did he wait two days to say that?

Speaker 5 (47:56):
Well, he waited until like I brought it up. I
made some comment about cooking, and he was like, he
was like, you never made what you make you know
again two days ago because that was awful giving me
prison food?

Speaker 1 (48:06):
Wow? Now ungrateful? That was last time he cooked something
for you? Oh? Never. I don't even think he knows
how to turn the other on. I think if somebody
cooks something for you, you you have to you eat
it and you don't say a thing.

Speaker 14 (48:19):
What.

Speaker 2 (48:19):
Oh okay, I thought you're gonna say you have to
cook something for them.

Speaker 1 (48:21):
I was gonna say, don't you start that. Well, I
think that's a nice thing to do because your boyfriend,
you're sorry, No, tell me the theory.

Speaker 6 (48:29):
There are cookers and then there are personality hires that
stand there with the cooker, the chef, if you will
and entertain them.

Speaker 2 (48:36):
They have a glass of wine, They tell jokes.

Speaker 1 (48:39):
Can I grab you anything? I say, personality higher Yeah
in the kitchen. Yeah. I thought you were.

Speaker 6 (48:46):
About to say some crazy stuff like we got to
each be cooking you know.

Speaker 1 (48:51):
No, No, I'm sure you. I'm sure you do your part. Uh,
personality higher. No, but you know if you if someone
makes a meal for you, you have to eat it,
and then you have to just be quiet about it. Yes. Now,
if someone asks me and like, like my mom My
mom is a she's a very very good like home chef,

(49:13):
and she's taking courses and you've done all this stuff.
My dad's not. My dad is no dummy in retirement.
He has sent her to like various schools that's like
for a week at a time or whatever, because she
wants to do this. She wants to travel and how
to cook like food. So he'll be like, go and
then she comes home and she's, you know, making the
food for him. He's not an idiot, and she's really

(49:34):
really good, but like she'll make something and then she'll
ask for feedback, and I know in that case she
wants to know really what I thought, because she is
like actually concerned with you know, I don't know she
made it for other people, so I try and be
honest ish like, but she never made me anything really bad.
But the point is if so much cooking for me,
I eat it and I say thank you, and that's

(49:56):
the end of it, like I'm not coming back later
and on, By the way, that was terrible. The only
problem is if he thought you thought it was good,
then it's happening again. Like that will be on the
rotation of lazy dishes.

Speaker 5 (50:08):
And the rotation is small, so like we're, you know,
every two weeks eating the same thing. So I'm sure
he was probably like, we're not adding this into He
could have been.

Speaker 1 (50:15):
A better no, he could have been like, you know, hey,
I like these things. I didn't particularly care for that
one though. That's how you do that. And you don't
say you just fed me prison food. Oh, just like
my orange chicken. Oh that was so bad. Don't ever
try to make your own orange chicken. That was a
bad night too. That to me sounds like something that
I would just run down the street and pick up.
You know, there are certain foods I'm just you know,
I'm not making orange chicken. I'm not. I don't I'm

(50:37):
not doing that worth it.

Speaker 10 (50:38):
You know.

Speaker 1 (50:39):
I have another theory while we're talking about food, and
I think a lot of people would agree. But no
one ever cooks for me ever, really, because I either
order it or make it myself. It's just me at
the house. And I was at my friend Bruce's house
over the weekend and this guy cooks everything like fist
like it's ten o'clock at night. And there may or
may not have let's just say everyone was a little

(51:02):
hungry on Friday night at ten o'clock maybe rhymes with munchies.
And and he says to me, do you want cookies?
And I was like, do I want chocolate chip cookie?
Like okay, sure, And in my mind it's you know,
slicing bake. No, no glass bowl comes out, flour measuring cups,
melted butter, chocolate chips. Oh yeah, No, we did a

(51:24):
whole thing. The mixer. I mean I was handed like
one of the little things that the little blender things,
you know, it's a liter Maybe that may have been
something he wanted to watch. I don't know, but it
doesn't matter at the point. But where I'm going with
this is he cooked all weekend and I was eating
food cooking. He made me a sandwich. Sandwich is made
by other people for you taste better than the ones

(51:47):
you make yourself. That is a that is a proven
even theory. It's a fact. Sandwiches somebody else makes for
you taste better than the ones you can make yourself. Why.
I don't know, And I mean at home because obviously
you go to like you know, a subway or Jimmy
Johns whatever, Jersey Mics, and then they make it for
you it tastes good, but I get the house. Someone

(52:09):
gives you a sandwich that may it taste better than
any other kind of sandwich. Just so true. Yeah, that's
what you should tell him next time you make something
that he doesn't like. Be like, well, there's lunch meat
in the fridge. That's what my mom used to say,
but I didn't like dinner. Yeah, well then there's bread
and lunch meat. You should tell them just like your mom. Okay,
front door, Yeah, and I move in, Fred, don't pick

(52:30):
me up?

Speaker 6 (52:32):
Can you pick me up?

Speaker 1 (52:32):
Yeah? Never mind, I actually don't do that. I'm not
equipped for that. You can't live with me. And I
want to talk about scamming quickly, because you know, I'm
always I'm always looking out for the people who listen
to us. I'm constantly looking at all the different things
that are happening to make sure that none of them.
I don't want any of our listeners to be affected
by scams that are out there. Cam, And I know
you've been scammed before by a psidekick.

Speaker 6 (52:50):
Yeah you don't have to say that part, but yeah, because.

Speaker 1 (52:54):
You told the story before, so I do have to
tell I know I had to, I had to it's
been I had to expose it. Okay, it's been a
secret on this show forever, and I had to let
everybody know you were scam by psychic. Okay, it's finally out.
It's true. It's true. Quick recap for the new people,
people who haven't been listening or who've been slacking or whatever,
because you told the story a couple of years ago.
What happened with the psychic?

Speaker 6 (53:15):
Yeah, I don't remember why I started engaging, but she
wanted like a picture of my palm, and I kept
asking Jason and Paulina like, Okay, there's no information she
could steal from me, and they're like no. So I
sent her that and then we were going back and forth,
and then she wanted, you know, money for this and
money for that, and I was like I think. I
initially sent her a little bit. But then she told
me that I was cursed by witches when I was

(53:38):
born and that's why bad stuff happens to me sometimes.

Speaker 1 (53:41):
And then I had to.

Speaker 6 (53:42):
Pay more to yeah, and I was like, accrap. But
then I was in too deep and I had a
blockhert and she was finding the other places.

Speaker 2 (53:50):
But I did pay her a little bit and send
her my palm.

Speaker 1 (53:53):
So how much did you give her?

Speaker 8 (53:55):
Oh?

Speaker 6 (53:55):
I don't remember, but too much. I mean even a
dollar is too much to a scamming psychic. I really
like was like, oh no. And then I came in here.
I said, you, guys, I was cursed by which is born?

Speaker 13 (54:05):
And you guys, yeah, yeah, okay, Well you must it
must have worked because around that time, you know, you
got yourself a boyfriend who's nice to you and worships you,
and then you I don't know, career aspirations have been
a compliment in Greece.

Speaker 1 (54:20):
There's a bit of a turney. It was a bit
of a turning point, So I don't Maybe you weren't
scammed after all. Maybe this person was absolute legitimate and
them trying to find you with them being like no, no, no,
there's more work to do for another twenty five dollars. Well,
I don't know, because I didn't pair. The final feel
for a little bit is not lifted well in investing yourself,
that's crazy. I know what was her name, miss Cleo?

(54:42):
No less?

Speaker 4 (54:45):
You told me you missed the scammers comfort you know
it Je?

Speaker 1 (54:51):
That was the time. Yeah, if you're not familiar with
that era either, that was after the eighties. That was
called the nineties and they were lit. Yeah, if you
don't know what that was about, then if you didn't
come home from score, this was late at night, it
would have been late at night like their MTV shows
and that and jams.

Speaker 8 (55:07):
To to.

Speaker 1 (55:09):
Text the frog for the crazy frog ringtone turned. If
you don't know what that is either, then I'm like, God,
I'm just old. But we talked about scams because there's
a new case of scamming. I guess there was an
AI generated bread Pitt scam. Not familiar with that, but
this is just crazy. It's just tragic really in this case,

(55:32):
and I will say before I tell jokes, it was
an old woman who was scammed. Okay, So I don't
like that. This is not This wasn't Kaitlin who had
all of her faculties. This was an old woman. So
I don't like, don't scam old women. I mean, don't
scam old people. Don't scam people. But so I say that,
and now I'm gonna tell jokes. You know, schitzolyzed, but

(55:53):
that the old people know. But even an old person,
my grandfather, even and it is a ninety two before
he died, would have called me and said, really, But
this elderly Japanese woman was tricked out of thousands of
dollars by a scammer claiming to be an astronaut stranded
in space. The romance scam began in July when the

(56:14):
two connected on social media. Well, what's the other thing.
My grandfather wouldn't have been on social media either, but
I guess he was on the Facebook, and so my
dad might fall for something like this. He's a very
smart man, but he doesn't really know who he's talking
to and where he's posting, and what's public and what's
not on the social media's. Yeah, the Frost told a
woman in her eighties that he was aboard of spaceship

(56:36):
and facing an emergency. Trusting his story, the woman, who
police say developed feelings for the man as their conversations continued,
electronically sent him more money because he needed it to
buy oxygen. Oh you want to laugh? You want to laugh? Klin, No,
I did not do not hold it in the worst
that it could possibly happen on this show. The very

(56:56):
worst thing it could possibly happen is when I say
something that is fun out, especially when I say something
that's funny. But when something funny happens, and you all
want to laugh, but you're worried about your images and
so so you laughed quietly. But I can see on
your face that you were laughing. And you're as equally
as bad of a person as I am, but you
don't want other people to see it.

Speaker 6 (57:14):
Fred, I've talked about pooping my pants if I was
worried about my inmation, that's true.

Speaker 1 (57:19):
That's an excellent point on this tree. That's probably that's
an excellent point. But trusting his story, the woman sent
him sixty seven hundred dollars because he needed it to
buy oxygen. Oh that's expensive space, I mean in space,
and like he kind to buy it from somebody who's
the Russians. I think they wouldn't give it to I mean,

(57:40):
I had a nigga and yeah, he had access to
the Internet and Venmo, but he for some reason, he
didn't have access to oxygen down. Yeah, not a real one, exactly.
Romance would love scams or not unique to any one region.
The US Federal Trade Commission reports that Americans lost more
than a billion dollars to similar schemes in twenty twenty
three was roughly half of the dating site users encountering

(58:03):
attempted scams. Officials warn that such scams often targets seniors,
who are vulnerable to a range of fraudulent schemes. The
victim in this case can at least take solace in
knowing she's not the only one. Apparently, somebody else was
scammed up to thirty thousand dollars by a man claiming
to be a stranded astronaut at the International Space Station
who needed money to buy a ticket back to Earth.

(58:25):
Oh ticket, Now, hold on great encounter, Now that one.
Let's remember our friends Butcher and Sunny. They could have
used some money for They could have used it. No
one gave him any money for a ticket back, and
they were stranded there for fourteen months or whatever. It
was thought that he reportedly promised to marry the woman
when she paid for a rocket to get him back

(58:46):
to firm ground. What's the going rate for a ticket
out of a rocket? It's about thirty thousand dollars. Is
that like an uber Granny was down?

Speaker 8 (58:54):
Bad?

Speaker 1 (58:54):
Yeah, it's about thirty thousand dollars, so yeah, sort of Look,
don't scam old people's that's our PSA of the day.
And don't if anyone tells you they need money to
get back from space or an oxygen oxygen, access to
oxygen or something. Remember the guy MJ used to be
on this show. He once told a woman he was

(59:15):
trying to break up with that he needed to he
was leaving for NASA Basic training. Yeah that's what, Yeah,
yeah he was. I guess he didn't want to break
up with her, or he was breaking up with her,
but he wanted to come up with, you know, some
reasonable explanation as to why, and he didn't want to
hurt her feelings, so he told him that he was
going to NASA Basic Trade, which I have to say

(59:35):
is brilliant and if it works, that really tells you
something about the person who you're breaking up with, because
they're that gullible. NASA Now that actually might be a
thing now because we got the Space Force, so it
might work now. But back in the day, I hate
to break into you, but there was no ticket counter
in space. There's no NASA Basic Training. And then I guess,

(59:57):
like a week later he was you know, spotted and apple.
So it didn't work out. You get kicked out or
something more Fred Show. Next tradition the Friday throwback dance
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Thanks for having us on the radio, on the iHeart
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Calin has walky talkies in her home. She lives in

(01:00:19):
a one bedroom apartment. I have not been there. I'm
just I'm familiar with the way you've described it. You
and your boyfriend live in a one bedroom apartment, and
he bought you walkie talkies for Christmas. Yeah, because because
you go to bed earlier than he does, and God forbid,
you'd have to stop talking to each other at some point,
even though you're in bed and the purpose of being
in bed would be to sleep. Yeah, Well, things come up,

(01:00:42):
so then you walk you talkie. So he'll be on
the couch in the living room. Yeah, and then you're
in the bed and then you walk you talkie. Yeah.

Speaker 2 (01:00:49):
And it has been the best investment that we have
ever made.

Speaker 1 (01:00:52):
Okay, first of all, so here's another example on Wyan Street.

Speaker 6 (01:00:55):
So he wakes up earlier than me on the weekends
because you know, especially Saturday Friday. I don't know if
you guys are dead like I am, but I'm just
dead to the world. And so I sleep in a
little bit later because I'm catching up on all the
sleep from the week. So this Saturday morning, I woke up.
He was not in bed, and I didn't know where
he was, but he placed the walkie talkie next to
my head turned on. So I just walkie talking and said,

(01:01:16):
what are you doing out there? And then he told me,
because you know you wake up, you don't want to
get up yet, you want to figure out. Oh, can
you bring me some coffee?

Speaker 1 (01:01:23):
Yes? I can, God forbid you, like just say hello,
pardon me. I mean, you're acting like you live in
the taj Ma hall or something like that. You need
that you need, you know, this sort of communication. I
do and.

Speaker 6 (01:01:36):
Listen when I go to bed early, like I can't sleep,
so like any me getting up and seeing the light
or the TV or anything like it, it messes with
my sleep, Like I have I need like four hours
to really you know, wind down.

Speaker 1 (01:01:49):
But a speaker with a battery in it next to
your head that someone can yell into you into your
ear at anytime, that's you need that though.

Speaker 6 (01:01:56):
I was thinking that I do. And also if I yell.
Our dog freaks out. She doesn't like that, So me
just like, hey, can you bring me some water?

Speaker 1 (01:02:03):
You know? I like it is this to startle you though? No?
Is it like the chirp remember the chirp phones?

Speaker 9 (01:02:09):
Is it chirping?

Speaker 1 (01:02:10):
No, it is not an Excel chirp phone.

Speaker 6 (01:02:12):
It literally just goes like like it doesn't There's no
beeping or anything.

Speaker 1 (01:02:15):
It's very nice. I just you know, I think sometimes
I go into a different room where there aren't people
so that I don't have to interact with them, right,
I don't necessarily get another layer of ways to communicate
with me. Well, we're not having full dialogues. It's just
can you basically, can you bring me something? When you
do something? Gay? I like that.

Speaker 2 (01:02:34):
No, I want to know, like what he's doing out there.

Speaker 1 (01:02:38):
That's just okay. It's been a game changer. I'm not
even joking.

Speaker 2 (01:02:42):
It's been the best decision we've ever made.

Speaker 1 (01:02:44):
I'm telling I like it. Just no, no, it's just no.
It's as an over me, Doug, and I'm glad it
works for you guys. It's wonderful. But like the whole
purpose of me being like, hey, why don't you hang
out in the living room for a while, or you're
going to bed, okay, cool, then I'll I'm all hang
out here for a little while. It's okay to do well.
It sounds like it with the walkie talkie. It's worth

(01:03:05):
my coffee. What's the score? What are you doing for me?
What are you cooking for me? What have you done
for me yet today? No? But I think I just
think sometimes it's like, okay, not to talk all the time.
He's a the other person. Yeah, it's a talk of time.
It's not a lot of talking.

Speaker 6 (01:03:18):
But again, like he won't come into the bedroom when
I'm sleeping because he doesn't want to wake me up.

Speaker 1 (01:03:21):
So if I tell him, you know, hey, is your
boyfriend big tim? Is he this thoughtful? No?

Speaker 4 (01:03:27):
And I saw Okay, Well the other day I'm like,
I like this walkie talkie idea because this man ignores
text messages.

Speaker 1 (01:03:33):
He's like, I didn't see your.

Speaker 4 (01:03:34):
Text, bro, you saw my text and you heard me
call your name three times.

Speaker 1 (01:03:38):
So I like this walkie talky idea. We need like
a like a one sided walkie talkie, like where I
do the talking and you the listening happens with it.
You can't. You can't come back to me with anything.

Speaker 6 (01:03:48):
That's like our text line when we black people like
they can text us though we just can't reply.

Speaker 1 (01:03:52):
Yes, we have a text, right, we have a thing,
and we can look at you can text the number
and we can like look at what you're texting obviously.
And so if if you like are really terrible to us,
and some people are really terrible to us and we
block you, all that does is mean that we can't
talk to you, but you could still say terrible things
to us. It's a great blocking mechanism. It works perfectly.

Speaker 6 (01:04:12):
It's like we're tied down and they're just and we
can't do it exactly.

Speaker 1 (01:04:16):
It's like we just meeted ourselves basically and allowed you
to just say what you want one sided. Oh, it's wonderful.
We played ourselves. Wow, Okay to game changer, guys, we
learned it to start the show, to start the week.
Game changer in a relationship is to always be in
two way communication. Never not be okay, now, see Chase,
you're not in your head the same way, Like sometimes
the silence is exactly what I'm looking for.

Speaker 5 (01:04:38):
Yeah, I mean we're always in the same room. No,
matter what, Like Mike and I are always like it's
like what we're following each other arounds, like we're gonna
go sit in the desk sitting watching TV. And then
he gets up. I'm like, oh, is it time for bad?
And he's like yeah, I was like all right, So
we get up and we're like oh no. However, like
I'll go to text him something and it'll literally be
like five days since we've texted, Like we don't like

(01:05:01):
talk like that like back and like I don't know
what it is, like we all day without talking, Like
literally I'll be here all day and I will.

Speaker 1 (01:05:07):
You guys have.

Speaker 6 (01:05:08):
Never sleep separate, Like sometimes my boyfriend will fall asleep
on the.

Speaker 1 (01:05:11):
Couch and I'll be in the bed or something. Yeah,
we can't. I can maybe sleep, but maybe you guys
could just sleep then maybe maybe the don't distance, we're
not in constant communication. Sounds like it and how they
would never go for this, No, no, no, he would
break work as a firefighter, that's for saving people's lives.

(01:05:31):
Can I just want some coffee? Yes, exactly? You know what,
I think the batteries would be out of it all
the time. I don't know what happened to the batteries, Honey,
I have no idea the cad the batteries again, we
don't have a can. I don't know. I don't know
what happened. More Thread Show. Next, The Fread Show is

(01:05:52):
on Fread's Fun Fact.

Speaker 6 (01:05:55):
Fred Fund.

Speaker 1 (01:06:05):
Learn so much? All right, guys, so this is interesting.
Bruce willis okay. When you think of Bruce willis, what
do you think of? First? Die Hard? Yep? So, Bruce,
have you ever seen Diehard? I know the answer.

Speaker 2 (01:06:17):
I know that that.

Speaker 1 (01:06:19):
Would mean what. I knew what you were gonna say.
I could read your mind. Bruce Willis played the legendary
John McClain in the die Hard film franchise. Right, but
before he landed the role in the Action Pack movies,
the part was offered to Frank Sinatra, who was in
his seventies at the time. And that may sound strange,

(01:06:40):
but it had to do with illegal obligation. I never
knew this, by the way. The movie was based on
the nineteen seventy nine Roderick Thorpe novel Nothing Lasts Forever,
which was a follow up to nineteen sixty six The
Detective I Guess Not a movie in nineteen sixty eight,
or excuse me, that was a novel? In nineteen sixty eight,
that novel had been made into a film, Starringston not

(01:07:00):
as John McClain, but as Joe Leland, a former New
York cop who becomes a private investigator. So when Sinatra
signed up for that movie, it was in his contract
that the studio had to offer him the main part
in the sequel, But when that eventually happened, he turned
down the roll. But can you imagine Diehard without Bruce Willis?

Speaker 2 (01:07:18):
No one with a seven year old sinatray?

Speaker 1 (01:07:20):
Can you imagine Bruce Goillis without Diehard?

Speaker 8 (01:07:22):
No?

Speaker 1 (01:07:23):
And is it a Christmas movie? Oh God, here we go.
We don't have time more Fredshell Next