In this episode of the Abundance Hack Podcast, I share how my nervous system found deeper regulation when I started distancing myself from ambivalent relationships and connections.
When you’re in connections where you have to walk on eggshells, shrink yourself, or perform just to feel safe, your body lives in fight, flight, freeze, or more often, fawn.
Fawning is when we shrink, shift, and appease to be liked, accepted or to avoid rejection.
I’ll share my personal journey of realizing how these dynamics kept me in hypervigilance, how I learned to recognize ambivalence in relationships (when words and actions don’t align, or when “support” feels condescending or competitive), and how choosing distance created space for my intuition, authenticity, and nervous system healing.
You’ll also hear why inner work alone isn’t enough if you’re still in environments that keep you on edge, and how grounding relationships, the ones where you can be fully yourself, messy and all, are essential for nervous system safety and true abundance.
Mentions in the episode-
•Inner Alarm Podcast Episode https://open.spotify.com/episode/1gqQbQr3V76fbMuJzdi73w?si=ChpZltQrT-G4UDRmnosLgQ
•Inner Circle Journal Prompts
Want to go deeper? Inside the Healthy Love Healing App, you’ll find Inner Circle Journal Prompts designed to help you get intentional about who you surround yourself with and where you invest your time and energy. The people closest to us shape our future. Download the app, enroll in the EMPOWER membership, and look for the section called Inner Circle to start aligning with connections that feel safe, supported, and authentic.
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