If you've ever thought, “I know what to do—why am I not doing it?”, this episode is for you.
In this Think Thursday edition of the Alcohol Minimalist podcast, Molly breaks down the Hierarchy of Competency, a science-backed framework that explains why sustainable behavior change can feel frustrating—and why that doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong. From the origins of the model in the 1970s to how neuroscience confirms its relevance today, you’ll discover a practical roadmap for moving from struggle to sustainability.
To bring this to life, we follow the fictional story of Mary, a woman who wants to build an exercise habit after years of being sedentary. As Mary progresses through the four stages—from Unconscious Incompetence to Unconscious Competence—you’ll see how this framework applies to any change you're working on, including drinking less, improving your mindset, or adding healthier habits to your routine.
You'll walk away understanding:
If you're trying to change your relationship with alcohol, shift your mindset, or add a positive habit to your life, this episode will help you stop shaming yourself and start supporting yourself like a learner—not a perfectionist.
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