In this episode of PivotMe, April gets real about the power of the stories we tell ourselves—and how retelling old hurts is keeping us stuck. Whether it’s a bad business deal, a job you didn’t get, or a personal betrayal, continuously rehashing that pain gives it more power than it deserves.
🔥 It’s time to stop giving that story Air Time. Like a fire that needs oxygen to burn, the more you talk about it, the stronger it becomes. Instead, train yourself to focus on the solution and move forward.
If you’re still telling that same story over potato salad at the BBQ, this episode is your wake-up call.
✅ The Danger of Retelling Old Stories – When you continuously relive an old hurt, you reinforce its significance and keep yourself stuck in the past.
✅ 80/20 Rule for Problems vs. Solutions – Spend 80% of your time on the solution, only 20% on the problem—if there’s even a solution to be found.
✅ Who’s Getting Air Time? – Ask yourself: Am I giving space in my mind to someone or something that doesn’t deserve it?
✅ Three Steps to Move On:
1️⃣ Identify It – What’s the story you keep retelling? Who is involved? If thinking about it still makes you angry, you’ve found it.
2️⃣ Determine If Action Is Needed – Do you need to make amends? Learn a lesson? If not, it’s time to release it.
3️⃣ Stop Retelling the Story – Whether it’s at the BBQ or in your mind, let it go and focus on what’s ahead.
"Stop giving that old story Air Time. If you can’t change it, stop retelling it. Your future needs your focus, not your past."
✔ Audit Your Stories – Notice the conversations where you keep revisiting the same old pain.
✔ Shift to Solution Mode – Next time you catch yourself retelling a problem, switch the focus to what you can do about it.
✔ Mentally Unsubscribe – If there’s no solution, stop engaging with that story. Unsubscribe from the mental drama.
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