Your nervous system thinks calm will actually kill you. I know it sounds backwards, but here's what nobody tells you: when you finally get the calm, regulated life you've been working toward, your system goes into overdrive looking for new chaos to manage.
In this episode, I share my client Hannah's story—how she went from drowning in research about her neurodiverse marriage to creating the calm life she wanted, only to have her nervous system immediately start looking for new problems to solve (hello, jewelry business out of nowhere).
This is the most predictable part of nervous system rewiring, and exactly why I told Hannah to give me a full year. Not because she needed more tools or information—she needed time to retrain a system that had learned chaos equals survival.
What You'll Learn
- Why your nervous system equates hypervigilance with safety
- The pattern interrupt that changed everything for Hannah
- Why "giving it a year" isn't about learning more—it's about unlearning chaos addiction
- How to recognize when you're replacing old chaos with new chaos
- The deeper truth about what real transformation actually looks like
How To Change
This is exactly what we're doing in Calm AF Year: 52 weeks of retraining your nervous system to trust calm, creating an identity where it's safe to be successful without suffering, surrounded by people learning the same thing.
Enrollment opens August 11th.
Join the Interest List. Details coming soon.
Ready for more??
Private Podcast: From Hypervigilant Achiever to Calm AF High Performer
The simplest first step is the free, private podcast series. This 9-episode audio workshop lays the groundwork for the skills necessary to get regulated and stay regulated.
You want to skip the struggle of DIY and get direct access to expertise? How high performer of you! The Upgrade is 90 days of guided transformation which includes a little bit of on-your-own-time work combined with direct access to me.
Every week, you'll get a focused lesson to keep you on track as you master nervous system regulation and emotional resilience. You also get coaching with me via Voxer—for quick, personalized coaching as life happens.
Private 1:1 Coaching
"I don't want to figure it out, I don't want to search for the answers. I want to skip past the line and get it directly from you." If that's you, YOU want private coaching. You are past needing to do things on your own, you want a seasoned expert by your side. This isn't about support in the margins. This is a full-access container for your biggest growth and boldest goals. And unless you're planning on me moving in with you, this is as close to me as it gets.
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