Calmly Coping

If your mind races the moment your head hits the pillow — you’re not alone. In this episode, I’m joined by sleep expert Joseph Pannell, who shares his personal journey through 20 years of chronic insomnia and the powerful, science-backed strategies that helped him heal. We explore the deep connection between high-functioning anxiety, perfectionism, and insomnia, and what actually helps when you’re stuck in the spiral of overthinkin...

Ever feel like work is creeping into every part of your life? Your boss emails you on weekends, clients expect instant replies, or—even if you’re your own boss—you find yourself working at all hours? Setting boundaries at work can feel impossible… and if you do set them, guilt kicks in. But here’s the truth: You can set boundaries and still be seen as dedicated and capable. And in today’s episode, I’m going to show you how—whether ...

Are you rushing through life, always focused on the next thing on your to-do list? In today’s fast-paced world, it’s so easy to get caught up in overthinking and busyness that we forget to truly stop and live. Let’s hit pause and explore how to slow down, reset your mind, and be more present—for yourself and your loved ones. This episode is about letting go of the endless hustle and embracing the moments that matter most.

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Have you ever felt like work is taking over your life, but you tell yourself, this is just what success looks like? Maybe you constantly think about work, struggle to disconnect, or even feel physically drained—but you push through because you feel like you have to. The problem? When stress goes unchecked, it can start affecting your mental and physical well-being in ways you don’t even realize.

In this episode, I’m sharing 9 sig...

You’ve worked hard to get to where you are—pushing yourself, proving yourself, and striving for excellence. And it worked. But now? You’re exhausted, stuck, and maybe even resentful. What once fueled your success is now burning you out. In this episode, we’ll explore why the habits that got you here are no longer serving you, how to redefine success on your own terms, and what steps you can take to shift from survival mode to a mor...

Does Sunday evening feel like a ticking clock, counting down to a week of stress, pressure, or overwhelm? Maybe you’re not dreading Mondays outright, but you’re struggling to find focus, energy, or motivation when the workweek begins. If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. In this episode, I’ll break down why this happens and share actionable strategies to turn Sunday dread into a productive and confident start to your week.

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On the outside, you’ve got it all together—thriving in your career, keeping up with responsibilities, and maybe even excelling in ways that others admire. But on the inside, it’s a different story. If you’ve ever felt like you’re stuck in a cycle of sadness, exhaustion, or self-criticism while keeping up appearances, you’re not alone. In this episode, I’m breaking down the signs of high-functioning depression—what it looks like, ho...

Have you ever found yourself saying yes to something you didn’t really want to do—just to avoid the guilt of saying no? Maybe it was a last-minute request at work, a social invitation, or yet another commitment on your already packed calendar. Learning to say no isn’t easy, but it’s essential for protecting your energy, time, and mental health. In today’s episode, I’ll share why saying no feels so hard, how to let go of guilt, and ...

Overthinking can feel like an endless loop, consuming your energy and keeping you from being fully present in your life: constantly analyzing, rehashing the past, or worrying about the future. In this episode, I’ll be sharing simple, actionable daily habits that can help you stop overthinking, regain control of your thoughts, and find more peace of mind.

In this episode, you will learn:

• How to avoid habits that fuel overthin...

Are you pushing yourself toward your goals but wondering if they’re driven by desire and purpose—or by fear of failure or falling behind? In this episode, you’ll learn how to tell the difference and how to positively realign your motivation.

In this episode, you will learn:

• How to identify if fear and anxiety are driving your actions.
• The long-term consequences of fear-based motivation.
• Steps to shift toward motivation roote...

Feeling behind at the end of your day, week, month, year, or your life? In this episode, I’ll be sharing exactly what to when you’re feeling behind during the big and the small moments, so you can go from feeling stuck to feeling inspired and motivated.

In this episode, you will learn:

• The P.A.C.E. strategy to motivate you to pivot when you’re feeling behind in the short-term
• Practical mindset shifts to help you feel calm an...

I’m taking a break from my podcast, and in this episode I explain why. (And there may be some things you can learn from my story!)

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Anxiety vs Intuition: https://www.becalmwithtati.com/anxiety-vs-intuition/

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Calmly Coping is a self-improvement podcast for high achievers who struggle with high-functioning anxiety to help you feel more calm, balanced, and confident from within.

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High-functioning anxiety can show up a lot at work, and it’s important to recognize how to cope with it so you can prevent sliding into burnout, more stress, and frustration. Some of the ways high-functioning anxiety shows up at work that I’ll be talking about include: people-pleasing, overworking, putting too much pressure on yourself, poor boundaries, overthinking, anxiety, burnout, self-doubt, and fear of failure. So get your no...

On the outside, it might look like you’ve got it all together—work, family, exercise, meditation, the whole 'balanced' life. But what if I told you that balance, the way you’re doing it, might actually be hurting you? In this episode, we’re talking about when balance becomes unhealthy and how striving for perfection in your personal life can leave you more stressed than fulfilled.

In this episode, you will learn:

• How your pu...

Did you know you might be recreating your family dynamics at work—without even realizing it? The roles you played growing up could be influencing how you handle authority, conflict, and even your own needs in the workplace. In this episode, we’re breaking down how your upbringing shapes your behavior at work, and what you can do to change it.

In this episode, you will learn:

• How we recreate our family dynamics at work
• How th...

Do you spend more time in your head thinking that you do feeling fully present in your life? Thinking about the future, planning for what’s to come, overthinking what you said during that meeting yesterday, and on and on and on… Thinking is powerful: it helps us reflect, process, and solve problems. But when you have trouble getting OUT of your head and into the present it can feel oppressive. In this episode, I’ll explore how you ...

Getting things done. Many of us have learned to use discipline and tough love to get things done, despite the waning motivation we might experience. However, in recent years, research on self-compassion has demonstrated the benefits of being kind and understanding with yourself and how that can have a positive impact on your mental health, self-esteem, motivation, resiliency, and more. But is self-compassion counter to discipline? ...

Is your mind still racing with work thoughts and to-do’s even after you go home or log off for the day? When your work is stressful and you haven’t set boundaries to not just physically separate, but to mentally separate your work from your personal life it can make it hard to be fully present for your loved ones, sleep at night, and actually enjoy your life outside of work. No matter what type of job you have, having an evening wi...

Do you ever find yourself constantly busy, even when you don’t need to be? What if this constant busyness isn’t just about getting things done, but about avoiding something deeper? In this episode, we’ll explore how overworking and constant productivity can be an unconscious form of avoidance, why it feels so rewarding and addictive, and what might be underlying this behavior.

In this episode, you will learn:

• How constant bu...