How do you support someone struggling with addiction without enabling them? In this episode of DANG!, Todd Bridges and Bettijo sit down with addiction expert Dr. Brian Samford to tackle this tough question and more, sharing practical, hope-filled advice on how to walk alongside someone you love with equal parts accountability and compassion—and why “tough love” is often just another way of saying true love.
SUMMARY
Addiction doesn’t just hijack one person’s life—it drags the whole family into the chaos. In this raw, honest episode, Todd and Bettijo sit down with addiction expert Dr. Brian Samford, Chief Clinical Officer of The Arbor treatment center in Texas, to talk about what actually creates lasting change, why you can’t force someone into recovery, and how to love an addict without losing yourself. Brian shares a powerful story from his clinical work about a longtime client who only revealed deep childhood trauma years into treatment—when she was finally ready—driving home a hard truth: recovery runs on the addict’s timeline, not ours.
Together they dig into the messy family side of addiction: the guilt, the rescuing, the “If I don’t fix this, who will?” spiral. Brian explains why constantly stepping in—paying the fines, cleaning up the messes, smoothing everything over—might feel loving, but actually “disables” the person you’re trying to help. The key? Lead with genuine love, then add real accountability and clear boundaries. You can support someone’s sobriety, but you can’t drag them through a 12-Step program—or any kind of recovery—until they’re willing.
HIGHLIGHTS
- What it’s like being Chief Clinical Officer of The Arbor treatment center (1:09)
- Dr. Samford shares his favorite strategy for getting reluctant patients to participate: bringing the group meeting to the client's bed! (3:03)
- How Brian’s recovery journey began at age 24 with a counselor who truly cared, inspiring him to help others. (4:45)
- Parental Sabotage: How well-meaning parents now act as the greatest barrier by constantly rescuing and enabling adult children. (10:07)
- Maybe the hardest part: letting go of your timeline for their recovery. (37:19)
- Brian’s formula for families: Accountability + Compassion = Real Love. (43:08)
- That thin line between loving someone and enabling—and how “helping” too much can actually disable growth. (44:14)
- ToddFlix: Tracker and using every tool you’ve got to stay sober. (44:42)
- Shows like Breaking Bad and Good Girls show “normal” people pulled into the underworld. (49:19)
LISTEN TO LEARN
- Why length of treatment matters so much.
- How to walk the tightrope between accountability and compassion in a family affected by addiction.
- How Todd Bridges uses lessons from the TV show Tracker—and radical surrender—to help sustain 32 years of sobriety.
If you’re exhausted from trying to control your family’s chaos, here’s the secret: true love means setting boundaries and holding people accountable—and if that sounds too hard, just remember what happens when you pray for patience. Hit play!
Follow on Instagram: Todd @toddbridges & Bettijo @pagingsupermom
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