You Are What You Consume: How Media Shapes Your Family
What we watch, listen to, and read matters more than we realize. In this episode, Chris and Melissa open a conversation that every family needs to have: how the media we consume — from music and books to shows and social media — shapes who we become.
It all started with a walk and a conversation about Taylor Swift's latest album, but the discussion quickly turned into something much deeper: how to discern light from darkness in a world full of noise, artificial positivity, and subtle influence. Chris shares the idea of hidden darkness — how things that appear good on the surface can sometimes carry messages that slowly erode our values. Melissa adds practical examples from their own family, from karaoke songs that sounded fun until the lyrics popped up on the screen, to noticing mood and behavior shifts in their kids after certain music or books.
They discuss everything from letting kids read Harry Potter too early, to streaming algorithms that quietly shape what we watch, to the way humor and sarcasm in "innocent" family sitcoms can normalize disrespect and contention. Chris and Melissa don't pretend to have it all figured out — in fact, they share openly how they're still navigating this as parents. But they emphasize one thing: the goal isn't perfection, it's vigilance.
The takeaway? Be intentional and stay vigilant. Pay attention to what you — and your kids — are consuming. Ask whether it elevates and inspires, or subtly dulls your light. Because as Melissa reminds us, "That's who we become."
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Episode Minute By Minute:
- 00:00 – Family Brand Blitz retreat reminder
- 02:00 – The Taylor Swift album conversation that sparked this episode
- 04:00 – "Light or darkness?" — Chris on hidden darkness and artificial light
- 06:00 – How small influences add up: the justification trap
- 08:00 – The Pink Pony Club karaoke story (and what it revealed)
- 10:00 – Joy vs. artificial light — how to discern the difference
- 11:30 – What happens when your child falls asleep to the wrong playlist
- 13:00 – How books, music, and media can shift behavior
- 15:00 – The Harry Potter moment: knowing when your kids are ready
- 17:00 – Recognizing subtle influences in "family" shows
- 18:30 – Modeling behavior and what kids learn from on-screen families
- 20:00 – The danger of "it's not that bad"
- 21:00 – The justification test: if you're defending it, it's worth questioning
- 22:00 – Artists who choose light over fame — Forest Frank's example
- 23:30 – Using your family values as a filter for what you consume
- 24:00 – The Family Brand lens: "Does this elevate and inspire?"
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