In this episode, I’m diving into a common but hidden struggle: the ways we reach for power when we feel powerless—and how those very actions often push love away. Whether it’s making demands, spending recklessly, or holding back truth, these “power grabs” may feel satisfying in the moment but ultimately create more distance in our relationships.
I share both my own story and my clients’ experiences of trying to reclaim control after betrayal, and why these strategies rarely bring the connection we truly crave. Real power looks very different—it’s about honesty, integrity, vulnerability, and staying present with ourselves and our partners.
If you’ve ever felt caught between longing for closeness and pushing it away, this episode will help you recognize where false power shows up and how to move toward grounded intimacy instead.
Takeaways:
- Why “power grabs” sabotage the connection we want
- How false power erodes trust and safety
- The difference between control and real power
- Steps to cultivate intimacy through vulnerability
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