Heal from Infidelity: Reclaiming Your Peace, Power, and Self-Trust After Betrayal

There are moments when the pain feels too deep to describe — when every step forward feels impossible and healing seems out of reach. In this episode, I'm speaking directly to those of you who are there right now, carrying heartbreak that feels unbearable.

I'll walk with you through the truth about pain — how it's not a sign that you're broken, but a sacred invitation to healing. You'll learn why pain isn't an interruption to your...

Emotional affairs can be one of the most confusing and painful experiences in a relationship. In this episode, I'm breaking down what they really are — and what they're actually about. So many people believe emotional affairs are about the "other person," but I'll show you why they're often rooted in something deeper: unmet emotional hunger, self-abandonment, and the longing to feel fully alive again.

You'll learn why these relati...

Shame is one of the most isolating and painful emotions we can experience—especially after betrayal. In this episode, I dive deep into how internalized shame takes root, how it quietly shapes our thoughts, and how it keeps us locked in cycles of pain and disconnection. Whether you were the one betrayed or the one who did the betraying, shame shows up in powerful, sneaky ways that can make us believe we are the problem instead of si...

In this episode, I'm talking about something that so many of us struggle with: uncertainty. When answers haven't arrived yet, or when we know what's true but acting on it feels terrifying, our nervous systems crave safety and control. But the in-between isn't a punishment — it's a teacher.

I open up about my own discomfort with waiting and how I've learned to anchor into safety inside myself instead of rushing for external clarity...

After betrayal, every instinct tells you to armor up—to stay guarded and in control. But what if the true path to healing lies in doing the opposite? In this episode, I explore the power of vulnerability and surrender—two qualities that may feel impossible after infidelity, yet are essential for real transformation.

I share how surrender isn't submission—it's the courageous act of dropping the fight with reality so you can finally...

Sleep struggles are one of the most common and painful side effects after betrayal. I know firsthand how exhausting it can feel to lie awake night after night—your mind racing, your body restless, and your heart heavy with unanswered questions. In this episode, I sit down with certified sleep coach Yana Vriesinga, who not only brings professional expertise in cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia but also personal experience of...

In this episode, I sit down with my dear friend and mentor, Molly Claire, to talk about courage, resilience, and what it really means to rise from life's hardest moments.

Molly has been a guiding light in my own journey—teaching me how to honor desire, trust myself, and step into a life I intentionally create. Today, she shares her story of transformation, from navigating divorce and single motherhood to building a thriving coachi...

In this episode, I'm diving into a common but hidden struggle: the ways we reach for power when we feel powerless—and how those very actions often push love away. Whether it's making demands, spending recklessly, or holding back truth, these "power grabs" may feel satisfying in the moment but ultimately create more distance in our relationships.

I share both my own story and my clients' experiences of trying to reclaim control aft...

In this episode, I talk about what it really means to find peace when facing tough decisions. Recently, I was torn between attending my sister's milestone birthday celebration and staying home to comfort my daughter who needed me. Both were "good" choices, but ultimately, I chose alignment with my values—being present where I was most needed.

Difficult decisions often force us to choose between equally meaningful paths. Whether it...

In this episode, I open up about one of the most frustrating parts of the healing process—when the results don't seem to match the effort you're putting in. Whether it's journaling, therapy, coaching, or trying to rebuild trust, it's easy to wonder if all your hard work is even making a difference. I've been there too, and I know how discouraging it can feel.

I share why this "lag phase" is actually part of growth, how seeds take ...

In this episode of Heal From Infidelity, I dive into one of the most powerful analogies I've used with clients: asking the question, What team are you on? When betrayal shakes your world, it's easy to question your worth and wonder why your partner seems to show up differently elsewhere. But often, the truth isn't about your value—it's about which "team" each person chooses to play on.

I share insights from my own experiences and ...

In this episode, I open up about the hidden cost of unspoken truths and what happens when we hold back from sharing how we really feel. I talk about why silence can feel safe in the moment, but ultimately keeps us stuck in patterns that don't serve us.

Through personal stories and practical tools, I share how learning to speak up and honor your true feelings can change not only your relationships but also your confidence in yourse...

In this episode, I open up about how avoiding uncomfortable truths in relationships can create even deeper pain over time. I talk about the emotional toll of denial, the importance of addressing challenges quickly, and the role a supportive community can play in the healing process. This conversation is an invitation to face what's really going on so you can prevent unnecessary heartache and move forward with clarity, strength, and...

In this episode, I explore how storytelling can be a powerful tool for healing after betrayal. I explain the difference between revisiting a story to gain clarity and retelling it in a way that keeps the pain alive. You'll hear how to recognize when it's time to release an old, harmful narrative and replace it with an empowering one that supports growth, self-discovery, and emotional healing after infidelity.

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In this episode we're going to talk about the complexities of conversations about infidelity. I know that sometimes it's important to revisit painful topics, so let's discuss some effective communication strategies, and the importance of setting boundaries to foster healing. We have to own responsibility while moving forward and practice conscious communication while rebuilding trust and intimacy post-betrayal.

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It's the 200th episode of Heal from Infidelity!

I'm going to share a personal story about planting flowers - and the importance of continuing to care for yourself and your relationships, even when faced with challenges after betrayal.

Key Takeaways:

• Healing after betrayal requires patience and nurturing.
• Just like flowers, relationships need care to thrive.
• It's important to keep watering even when results aren't visible.
• Yo...

Let's talk about the challenges of navigating disapproval and emotional reactions in relationships. You'll learn about differentiation — maintaining one's identity while being in a relationship — and hear about ways to manage emotional responses. We'll look at the significance of self-respect, personal growth, and keeping the courage to stand firm in your truth, even when faced with someone else's discontent.

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Today we take a look at the complex relationship between forgiveness and forgetting, emphasizing that true forgiveness does not require the erasure of painful memories. I'll discuss the importance of recognizing and processing emotions through the body, the necessity of setting boundaries, and the ongoing journey of forgiveness as a continual practice.

Key Takeaways:

• Forgiveness does not mean forgetting; it means letting go o...

In this episode, we look at the hidden pain of betrayal, emphasizing that both the betrayed and the betrayer experience deep emotional turmoil. We explore the myths surrounding infidelity, the importance of facing one's pain, and the necessity of mutual understanding in the healing process.

Key Takeaways:

• Betrayed partners often feel worse while the betrayer appears unscathed.
• Pain avoidance leads to deeper issues later on.
• I...