Conflict doesn't mean a relationship is unhealthy. What matters is how we navigate the conflict and how we repair. In this episode, Niajae breaks down the art of repair by exploring the language that disconnects versus the language that deepens connection.
You'll hear a step-by-step process for navigating conflict with self-awareness, as well as practical examples of what to say and what not to say when tensions arise.
This episode covers:
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Language that disconnects partners
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How to check your nervous system before responding
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A step-by-step process for grounding, curiosity, and compassion
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A mirror list of language that cultivates connection
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Why repair is less about agreement and more about understanding
Topics Covered
1. Check Your Nervous System First
Repair starts with self-awareness. If you notice defensiveness, frustration, disappointment, or reactivity, pause before engaging.
2. Get Curious
Curiosity creates space for understanding rather than defensiveness. Asking questions helps partners feel seen and heard.
3. Have Compassion
Compassion allows space for both experiences to be valid. You don't have to agree to acknowledge how someone feels.
4. Cultivate Connection
When we combine self-awareness, curiosity, and compassion, we create the environment for repair. Connection leads to healthy love.
This episode is a guide for anyone wanting to communicate more consciously and repair more effectively during conflict. You'll walk away with practical language tools that create connection instead of disconnection, and a deeper understanding of what healthy repair looks like.
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