February 26, 2025 • 19 mins
Every dancer has said it: “I don’t have time!” But what if that’s not actually true?
In this episode, we dive into Einstein Time — a concept from The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks — that shifts how you think about time and helps you create more of it.
Whether you're a student juggling school and dance, a working pro balancing gigs and life, or someone returning to dance at any stage, this mindset shift will change how you experience time.
And while I gear this episode toward dancers, the principles apply to everyone — from teachers, choreographers, and studio owners to anyone who struggles with feeling like there’s never enough time in the day!
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(00:00):
(light music)
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Welcome to my podcast, "Hey, Dancer, I'm your host,
Miller Daurey, and I'm a dancer." (laughs)
But guess what?
Like you, I'm much, much more than the thing
that defines me in whatever moment.
I have so much life experience as do you.
And one of the things for me is I've been studying
and researching and looking into spirituality
(00:23):
and self-development literally since my early 20s,
arguably for over 30 years.
And I feel like I have a lot to share
and teach that maybe isn't just about dance.
However, because this is a dance podcast,
I'm thinking of ways I can correlate whatever it is
that I feel like I've got a decent grasp on
and twist it and shape it into something
(00:47):
that is helpful for dancers.
Now as someone who is, I feel very familiar with
and sometimes intimately so in with the world of influencers
and entrepreneurs and self-development people,
I see a lot of quote unquote teachers
who don't really practice what it is they're telling the world.
(01:09):
Now the interesting conversation
and perhaps it's for another time is does it matter?
If their message is of use and really helping people,
then maybe it's a good thing.
For me, I would feel to be frank, disingenuous and fraudulent
if I shared with you things that I think sound good
but I'm not actually applying them in my own life.
(01:30):
Like I don't have a good grasp on them already.
Like I would never do a podcast
about how to retain choreography at this time.
This may change in six months.
But right now for me, picking up choreo is still a struggle.
You know what I mean?
I can share with you what I've heard, you know,
are good tips and tricks for picking up choreo.
And to be frank, I do have a couple myself
(01:50):
but I'm not gonna share that, you know,
until I really feel I have a strong hold on that.
So today's topic is one that would be, I think,
considered in the realm of self-help, self-development.
And it's relatively new and recent in my life
and I feel like it's really already changed my life
and I could share a couple things about it
(02:12):
in the hope that it helps you too.
And again, I'll gear it toward dancers as the podcast progresses.
Before that though, I really appreciate you being here
and if you took just a moment to rate
and review the podcast, follow, subscribe,
like, share, comment wherever you're watching or listening,
it goes a long way, it touches my heart
(02:32):
and thank you for that in advance.
Okay, let's get to it.
So sometime in a not so distant past,
I was at my acupuncturist's office
and she's amazing because she's not just a great practitioner
at her craft.
She really sits with you
and we have all these amazing conversations
just one-on-one about the unconscious mind
(02:54):
and the mind-body connection with pain
and the universe, all this stuff
and one of the times I opened up to her
and I said something very revealing.
Just as an example, I might be walking around the grocery store
and I realize all of a sudden I don't feel pain
in my leg, the symptoms
and then I'll be so excited and then a moment later,
(03:16):
I feel myself all of a sudden kind of shutting down
like no, no, no, no, no, no, I'm not ready to feel good yet
in my leg and by extension of that,
I'm not ready to be dancing yet.
All I want with my conscious mind is to be healed
and to be dancing, but something down deep
is something holding on to my pain
because there's other fear I'm not aware of, it's just again
(03:38):
the more you grow and the more you become aware,
the stuff is it's really mind-blowing
and she was very taken with what I was just mentioning to you
and then she mentioned something called the upper limit problem
and she couldn't remember where it came from
but basically described it as it's how we subconsciously
(03:58):
hold ourselves back from success and joy
because of deep-rooted fears or self-imposed limits
and of course in my usual fashion, I came home
and I looked it up right away, oh my God,
the upper limit problem, what is this?
Where does it come from?
And I learned that it comes from a book called
The Big Leap by Gay Hendrix.
I bought the book immediately, the audible
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and I listened to it and let me tell you
so much of it hit home.
Today, I want to talk about something that completely changed
how I look at time.
Einstein time is what he calls it.
So as I'm sure you know, he got it from Albert Einstein
and his theory of relativity because it really changed
(04:40):
how we understand time.
Not as a fixed rigid thing, but as something flexible,
influenced by speed and perspective.
So Gay Hendrix and his brilliant self
took this amazing brilliant idea and applied it to everyday life
showing that time isn't something we run out of.
It's something we create and he has endless examples
(05:01):
in the book, you know, of the most,
the people who are the most successful
with regards to family life and business life
and just how they talk about time
and they get all the things done and time just always
is on their side, it's in their corner
and it's because of the way they think about it and reframe it
and it never was a thing that they felt victim to.
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So let's break it down.
Most of us think of time as this fixed thing,
you know, there are 24 hours in a day,
60 minutes in an hour and I can break it down
into the seconds too, but I won't.
We think time is something that is outside of us,
something we're constantly chasing,
trying to manage, trying to find
but that's actually not how time works.
(05:46):
According to Gay Hendrix, Einstein time is
this idea that time is something you create,
not something you're a victim of.
That's an important word there
because I feel like I used to be this person
and I hear a lot of people in my life
always talking about time in the sense
that they're a victim of it.
Time isn't a force that's outside of you
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controlling your life.
You are time.
I know that sounds corny, but think about it.
Haven't you ever had a moment where time seemed to stretch?
You know, like maybe you were in the zone,
you dancers know this so well,
you know, grooven in your living room,
dancing at a, in a cipher, dancing in class,
dancing on stage, whatever it is.
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And you're so absorbed in the dancing
and suddenly hours have flown by
and you're so confused because it felt like
just a couple of minutes.
Or on the flip side of that,
maybe you were waiting for your turn at an audition,
staring at the clock and those five minutes felt like forever.
That's Einstein time in action.
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Time expands or contracts based
on your focus, energy and mindset.
So when you feel rushed or say things like,
"I don't have enough time," (laughs)
which I feel like everybody says,
you're reinforcing the belief that time
is something outside of your control.
But when you stop seeing time as the enemy,
(07:16):
when you actually step into the mindset
that you create time,
you start to experience time differently.
Okay, before we get into dancers specifically,
I have more to say on this.
So something that I gotta be frank,
can I be honest about this?
(laughs)
It really gets under my skin is how
so many people talk about time.
(07:36):
Everybody today is obsessed with saying,
"I'm so busy."
And not just today, honestly, it's been going on for years.
I remember even reading, I don't know,
like in 2015, a long time ago now,
in Jensen's share, it was a book, "You Are a Badass."
I'm busy is the new, I'm fine, when people ask,
"How are you?"
How you doing?
I'm busy.
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It's the go-to line for so many people.
I'm so busy.
I mean, I don't know about you,
but it feels to me like when people say this,
it's like they think it's some kind of badge of honor
or something.
Like if you're not busy, you must not be important,
but here's the truth.
Nobody is actually too busy for anything.
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It's really all about one word, priority.
Think about what you're actually saying.
When you're saying, "I'm so busy, I'm too busy,
oh my God, I can't do that, I'm so busy,
you're literally making yourself a victim of time,
you're reinforcing the belief,
that time is this thing happening to you instead of something
you control."
Now obviously we all have responsibilities,
(08:39):
but instead of saying, "I don't have time,
try reframing it," as saying maybe something like,
"You know what, that's not a priority for me right now,"
because that's the ultimate truth.
And if that makes you feel uncomfortable, good.
It means you're realizing that how you talk about time
is how you experience time.
When you start changing, how you speak about it,
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you start feeling like you have more of it.
And this has been a huge revelation to me.
He talks so much in this book about that,
about just your thoughts on time, what you're saying out loud,
and you're gonna manifest more of that.
And I no longer say, "I do not say I don't have the time,
I do not say I'm too busy for whatever,
I choose my words very, very carefully."
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Now I'm not gonna lie and tell you that I have such
an amazing grasp of this, that I never feel anxiety-ridden
because I have all the time in the world,
but the truth is, is the more you apply this concept
and reframe the way you think and talk about time,
all of a sudden, so much more time is at your disposal.
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The busiest people, CEOs, entrepreneurs, single parents,
with full-time jobs, people with schedules,
where they get up at 5 a.m.,
and they're working till 8 p.m.,
and you look at their calendar and you're like,
"Oh my God, like every freaking minute is booked,
they don't just magically have more hours in the day,
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what they do have is a different relationship with time."
Now hopefully they have balance in their life, this is key.
There are a lot of people out there who teach about balance
and they teach about goal-setting or whatever,
but the truth is, is they don't actually have much balance
in their own lives.
I am trying to bring the perspective of those
who have really full calendars,
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but they also have balance in their life.
They're prioritizing family time,
just as much as career time.
Again, for just the sake of full disclosure here,
there are sometimes, I wake up very early by 5 a.m. most days,
and sometimes I'll be up like this morning.
I was up at 455, because I knew that I wanted to record this podcast,
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and I wanted to do a little dance from home
and just so many things in my day,
and even though my PT exercises were done,
and my dance was done, and breakfast was done,
and all the things by 7.30 in the freaking morning,
I had a moment where I was like, "Oh my God, I didn't think the thought,
"and I didn't say anything out loud, but my heart started to race,
"because I felt like, do I have enough time today?"
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So I'm not telling you this in the sense that I've arrived
and I've mastered this, but I'm way, way better,
and I've seen the change in my life,
and if you follow me online,
then you might probably correctly assume
that I'm somebody who's producing a lot of content twice a day on Instagram every single day.
(11:28):
Two podcasts a week, and a docu-series episode,
I'm shooting for once a month, doesn't always happen.
My point is, I'm a one-man team,
and I'm getting all these things done by myself.
That's because of my relationship now with time, how I think about it,
how I talk about it, how I reframe it in my mind,
and now let's bring it to dancers.
I'll try and make this very digestible, you know, and it is.
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It's very casual, and it's very easy to understand.
So I'll begin with young dancers from kids to high school to college.
I think this really all applies.
If you're balancing all the things, homework, school, classes, dance classes, rehearsals,
maybe even competitions, I know it can feel impossible to find the time for all the things,
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but when you start practicing Einstein time, you'll notice something.
When you're truly present in your dancing, you know,
when you stop worrying about all the other things you have to do,
you feel like you have more time.
And this actually makes you better at dance because you're no longer rushing or frantic.
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So here's a practical tip. Stop looking at the clock when you're training.
Instead of counting down the minutes, be fully present in class.
You'll notice when you're in the moment and you're ignoring,
you know, all the things you have to do,
and feeling like there isn't the time to do it, all of a sudden time just opens up.
It is so cool to experience.
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Okay, now my dancers who are trying to work in the industry, probably in your 20s and 30s,
and hopefully, you know, a lot older like myself, 50, 60, and beyond,
you're trying to get booked, you know, or you're teaching or you're auditioning.
Einstein time is a game changer.
Most working dancers juggle multiple gigs, full-life, part-time jobs, all the things.
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But instead of feeling like you're racing against time,
shift your mindset. You are time.
When you step into a studio, when you prep for an audition, when you rehearse,
decide that you have all the time you need.
The more you believe it, the more relaxed and effective you'll be.
And ironically, the more successful you'll be too.
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Okay, now to the older dancers, I put that in quotes because I'm not even sure if I'm an older dancer,
what that even means.
I mean, I guess the black and white of it is, I am an older dancer.
So maybe any dancer who is 40 and older.
One of the biggest struggles could feel like time has passed you by.
You know, maybe like me, you stepped away from dance for years.
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And now you're feeling like you're behind or maybe you have a family and a job and other commitments.
And it just feels like dance is this thing that you want to do so, so badly,
but you don't have time for.
Here's where Einstein time can completely change your experience.
You don't find time for dance.
You create it.
When you tell yourself, I'm too busy, you'll never have the time.
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You know those people.
They always make excuses.
Don't be that person.
If you want something, make it a priority and get it done.
Be in dance class.
When you say I have all the time I need for dance suddenly, guess what?
A class fits into your schedule.
A practice session happens.
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A rehearsal flows instead of feeling rushed at the end of the day or at the end of a podcast.
This is what I want you to take away.
Okay, I'm, I'm going to be stern about this.
You create time.
If you constantly tell yourself you don't have enough of it,
time will always feel like it's slipping away.
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But if you shift your mindset, if you start believing that time is something you own,
that it's something within you, your entire experience of time changes.
And for dancers, that's everything because the more we stop fighting against time,
the more we can actually be in the moment.
And that's where the best dancing happens.
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Just a couple of addendums here, just from like personal anecdotes.
The people in my life over the years who always told me they were so busy.
In my opinion, were the least busy people I know.
I always, because I knew their life pretty well or the way at least they talked about their life.
And I would think, my God, I've got x, y, z examples of you literally having all the time in the world.
(15:55):
But then you tell me you can't do ABC because you're so busy, you're so busy, you're so busy.
Mmm, yeah.
And obviously it goes without saying that we all have different seasons in our life.
And some of those seasons, for example, maybe you're a new parent or you know,
you're working a new job and you got to prove yourself to the new boss and you're putting in crazy hours.
(16:18):
I mean, I fully recognize that there are always going to be times that are objectively busier than other times.
At the end of the day though, it's still about how are you thinking about your time at such time?
How are you talking about it? How are you framing it to others and to yourself, to your family?
(16:38):
And ultimately, I do think it still comes down to, you know, priorities.
Why are there single moms out there who get x, y, z done and other single moms out there with a similar schedule?
Barely get x done, you know?
Ultimately, it is about your will and it is about what is a priority to you.
What is important to you and about showing up to your life, taking all the things into account.
(17:03):
But again, I don't want this podcast to come off invariably because there will be some people who say,
oh my god, no, no, but I really don't have the time.
I mean, I don't know your life.
And if that's true for you, that is true for you.
I'm just asking that maybe you could still look a little bit deeper and see maybe what you are prioritizing
because you may surprise yourself in at the very least, just don't use that language.
(17:27):
Don't say you're so busy. Don't say you don't have time. Catch yourself.
That is what has been so for me, monumental about this particular concept is I immediately applied it
and I began to catch myself in the way I was talking about time.
How is I, you know, talking about it with my partner to my friends, to my family?
And I became very cognizant of it of really just never speaking of time, even if I felt like, even if my soul was like,
(17:55):
you don't have the time today. I didn't say that.
I chose different ways to communicate that.
And I think again, once you start doing that, then the blocks start to form and the universe is listening
and all of a sudden more time appears.
It becomes like magic and the more you practice how you're talking and thinking of time,
(18:15):
the more and more and more you begin to believe that this is what time is for you now.
It's so cool.
So if this episode made you think differently about time, you gotta let me know.
Okay, do me a favor DM me on Instagram.
Add back to great.
Leave a comment down below if you're watching on YouTube or Spotify.
(18:36):
Leave it in your review on Apple.
That would be amazing.
It goes so far.
It it just like it really touches my heart.
All right, until next time, remember, don't forget you are time.
And I promise you, oh my God, the way even my partner has has noticed this too about me.
I don't talk about time anymore.
Like I don't say, I don't have time to do this.
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I choose other ways to reframe it.
I'm like, you know, I feel like I'm not prioritizing my time correctly because I know that time is abundant.
I know that it is there and that I could easily get the things done.
But I am struggling a little bit with prioritizing my schedule or budgeting my time.
Like I'll just put it in a way where it's not like I'm a victim of time.
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Like I'm the problem if I can't figure it out, you know, time is not the problem.
I'm the problem.
Does that make sense?
All right.
[MUSIC]
(light music)
(00:02):
Welcome to my podcast, "Hey, Dancer, I'm your host,
Miller Daurey, and I'm a dancer." (laughs)
But guess what?
Like you, I'm much, much more than the thing
that defines me in whatever moment.
I have so much life experience as do you.
And one of the things for me is I've been studying
and researching and looking into spirituality
(00:23):
and self-development literally since my early 20s,
arguably for over 30 years.
And I feel like I have a lot to share
and teach that maybe isn't just about dance.
However, because this is a dance podcast,
I'm thinking of ways I can correlate whatever it is
that I feel like I've got a decent grasp on
and twist it and shape it into something
(00:47):
that is helpful for dancers.
Now as someone who is, I feel very familiar with
and sometimes intimately so in with the world of influencers
and entrepreneurs and self-development people,
I see a lot of quote unquote teachers
who don't really practice what it is they're telling the world.
(01:09):
Now the interesting conversation
and perhaps it's for another time is does it matter?
If their message is of use and really helping people,
then maybe it's a good thing.
For me, I would feel to be frank, disingenuous and fraudulent
if I shared with you things that I think sound good
but I'm not actually applying them in my own life.
(01:30):
Like I don't have a good grasp on them already.
Like I would never do a podcast
about how to retain choreography at this time.
This may change in six months.
But right now for me, picking up choreo is still a struggle.
You know what I mean?
I can share with you what I've heard, you know,
are good tips and tricks for picking up choreo.
And to be frank, I do have a couple myself
(01:50):
but I'm not gonna share that, you know,
until I really feel I have a strong hold on that.
So today's topic is one that would be, I think,
considered in the realm of self-help, self-development.
And it's relatively new and recent in my life
and I feel like it's really already changed my life
and I could share a couple things about it
(02:12):
in the hope that it helps you too.
And again, I'll gear it toward dancers as the podcast progresses.
Before that though, I really appreciate you being here
and if you took just a moment to rate
and review the podcast, follow, subscribe,
like, share, comment wherever you're watching or listening,
it goes a long way, it touches my heart
(02:32):
and thank you for that in advance.
Okay, let's get to it.
So sometime in a not so distant past,
I was at my acupuncturist's office
and she's amazing because she's not just a great practitioner
at her craft.
She really sits with you
and we have all these amazing conversations
just one-on-one about the unconscious mind
(02:54):
and the mind-body connection with pain
and the universe, all this stuff
and one of the times I opened up to her
and I said something very revealing.
Just as an example, I might be walking around the grocery store
and I realize all of a sudden I don't feel pain
in my leg, the symptoms
and then I'll be so excited and then a moment later,
(03:16):
I feel myself all of a sudden kind of shutting down
like no, no, no, no, no, no, I'm not ready to feel good yet
in my leg and by extension of that,
I'm not ready to be dancing yet.
All I want with my conscious mind is to be healed
and to be dancing, but something down deep
is something holding on to my pain
because there's other fear I'm not aware of, it's just again
(03:38):
the more you grow and the more you become aware,
the stuff is it's really mind-blowing
and she was very taken with what I was just mentioning to you
and then she mentioned something called the upper limit problem
and she couldn't remember where it came from
but basically described it as it's how we subconsciously
(03:58):
hold ourselves back from success and joy
because of deep-rooted fears or self-imposed limits
and of course in my usual fashion, I came home
and I looked it up right away, oh my God,
the upper limit problem, what is this?
Where does it come from?
And I learned that it comes from a book called
The Big Leap by Gay Hendrix.
I bought the book immediately, the audible
(04:19):
and I listened to it and let me tell you
so much of it hit home.
Today, I want to talk about something that completely changed
how I look at time.
Einstein time is what he calls it.
So as I'm sure you know, he got it from Albert Einstein
and his theory of relativity because it really changed
(04:40):
how we understand time.
Not as a fixed rigid thing, but as something flexible,
influenced by speed and perspective.
So Gay Hendrix and his brilliant self
took this amazing brilliant idea and applied it to everyday life
showing that time isn't something we run out of.
It's something we create and he has endless examples
(05:01):
in the book, you know, of the most,
the people who are the most successful
with regards to family life and business life
and just how they talk about time
and they get all the things done and time just always
is on their side, it's in their corner
and it's because of the way they think about it and reframe it
and it never was a thing that they felt victim to.
(05:23):
So let's break it down.
Most of us think of time as this fixed thing,
you know, there are 24 hours in a day,
60 minutes in an hour and I can break it down
into the seconds too, but I won't.
We think time is something that is outside of us,
something we're constantly chasing,
trying to manage, trying to find
but that's actually not how time works.
(05:46):
According to Gay Hendrix, Einstein time is
this idea that time is something you create,
not something you're a victim of.
That's an important word there
because I feel like I used to be this person
and I hear a lot of people in my life
always talking about time in the sense
that they're a victim of it.
Time isn't a force that's outside of you
(06:10):
controlling your life.
You are time.
I know that sounds corny, but think about it.
Haven't you ever had a moment where time seemed to stretch?
You know, like maybe you were in the zone,
you dancers know this so well,
you know, grooven in your living room,
dancing at a, in a cipher, dancing in class,
dancing on stage, whatever it is.
(06:30):
And you're so absorbed in the dancing
and suddenly hours have flown by
and you're so confused because it felt like
just a couple of minutes.
Or on the flip side of that,
maybe you were waiting for your turn at an audition,
staring at the clock and those five minutes felt like forever.
That's Einstein time in action.
(06:52):
Time expands or contracts based
on your focus, energy and mindset.
So when you feel rushed or say things like,
"I don't have enough time," (laughs)
which I feel like everybody says,
you're reinforcing the belief that time
is something outside of your control.
But when you stop seeing time as the enemy,
(07:16):
when you actually step into the mindset
that you create time,
you start to experience time differently.
Okay, before we get into dancers specifically,
I have more to say on this.
So something that I gotta be frank,
can I be honest about this?
(laughs)
It really gets under my skin is how
so many people talk about time.
(07:36):
Everybody today is obsessed with saying,
"I'm so busy."
And not just today, honestly, it's been going on for years.
I remember even reading, I don't know,
like in 2015, a long time ago now,
in Jensen's share, it was a book, "You Are a Badass."
I'm busy is the new, I'm fine, when people ask,
"How are you?"
How you doing?
I'm busy.
(07:57):
It's the go-to line for so many people.
I'm so busy.
I mean, I don't know about you,
but it feels to me like when people say this,
it's like they think it's some kind of badge of honor
or something.
Like if you're not busy, you must not be important,
but here's the truth.
Nobody is actually too busy for anything.
(08:17):
It's really all about one word, priority.
Think about what you're actually saying.
When you're saying, "I'm so busy, I'm too busy,
oh my God, I can't do that, I'm so busy,
you're literally making yourself a victim of time,
you're reinforcing the belief,
that time is this thing happening to you instead of something
you control."
Now obviously we all have responsibilities,
(08:39):
but instead of saying, "I don't have time,
try reframing it," as saying maybe something like,
"You know what, that's not a priority for me right now,"
because that's the ultimate truth.
And if that makes you feel uncomfortable, good.
It means you're realizing that how you talk about time
is how you experience time.
When you start changing, how you speak about it,
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you start feeling like you have more of it.
And this has been a huge revelation to me.
He talks so much in this book about that,
about just your thoughts on time, what you're saying out loud,
and you're gonna manifest more of that.
And I no longer say, "I do not say I don't have the time,
I do not say I'm too busy for whatever,
I choose my words very, very carefully."
(09:22):
Now I'm not gonna lie and tell you that I have such
an amazing grasp of this, that I never feel anxiety-ridden
because I have all the time in the world,
but the truth is, is the more you apply this concept
and reframe the way you think and talk about time,
all of a sudden, so much more time is at your disposal.
(09:44):
The busiest people, CEOs, entrepreneurs, single parents,
with full-time jobs, people with schedules,
where they get up at 5 a.m.,
and they're working till 8 p.m.,
and you look at their calendar and you're like,
"Oh my God, like every freaking minute is booked,
they don't just magically have more hours in the day,
(10:04):
what they do have is a different relationship with time."
Now hopefully they have balance in their life, this is key.
There are a lot of people out there who teach about balance
and they teach about goal-setting or whatever,
but the truth is, is they don't actually have much balance
in their own lives.
I am trying to bring the perspective of those
who have really full calendars,
(10:25):
but they also have balance in their life.
They're prioritizing family time,
just as much as career time.
Again, for just the sake of full disclosure here,
there are sometimes, I wake up very early by 5 a.m. most days,
and sometimes I'll be up like this morning.
I was up at 455, because I knew that I wanted to record this podcast,
(10:45):
and I wanted to do a little dance from home
and just so many things in my day,
and even though my PT exercises were done,
and my dance was done, and breakfast was done,
and all the things by 7.30 in the freaking morning,
I had a moment where I was like, "Oh my God, I didn't think the thought,
"and I didn't say anything out loud, but my heart started to race,
"because I felt like, do I have enough time today?"
(11:07):
So I'm not telling you this in the sense that I've arrived
and I've mastered this, but I'm way, way better,
and I've seen the change in my life,
and if you follow me online,
then you might probably correctly assume
that I'm somebody who's producing a lot of content twice a day on Instagram every single day.
(11:28):
Two podcasts a week, and a docu-series episode,
I'm shooting for once a month, doesn't always happen.
My point is, I'm a one-man team,
and I'm getting all these things done by myself.
That's because of my relationship now with time, how I think about it,
how I talk about it, how I reframe it in my mind,
and now let's bring it to dancers.
I'll try and make this very digestible, you know, and it is.
(11:51):
It's very casual, and it's very easy to understand.
So I'll begin with young dancers from kids to high school to college.
I think this really all applies.
If you're balancing all the things, homework, school, classes, dance classes, rehearsals,
maybe even competitions, I know it can feel impossible to find the time for all the things,
(12:12):
but when you start practicing Einstein time, you'll notice something.
When you're truly present in your dancing, you know,
when you stop worrying about all the other things you have to do,
you feel like you have more time.
And this actually makes you better at dance because you're no longer rushing or frantic.
(12:32):
So here's a practical tip. Stop looking at the clock when you're training.
Instead of counting down the minutes, be fully present in class.
You'll notice when you're in the moment and you're ignoring,
you know, all the things you have to do,
and feeling like there isn't the time to do it, all of a sudden time just opens up.
It is so cool to experience.
(12:54):
Okay, now my dancers who are trying to work in the industry, probably in your 20s and 30s,
and hopefully, you know, a lot older like myself, 50, 60, and beyond,
you're trying to get booked, you know, or you're teaching or you're auditioning.
Einstein time is a game changer.
Most working dancers juggle multiple gigs, full-life, part-time jobs, all the things.
(13:19):
But instead of feeling like you're racing against time,
shift your mindset. You are time.
When you step into a studio, when you prep for an audition, when you rehearse,
decide that you have all the time you need.
The more you believe it, the more relaxed and effective you'll be.
And ironically, the more successful you'll be too.
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Okay, now to the older dancers, I put that in quotes because I'm not even sure if I'm an older dancer,
what that even means.
I mean, I guess the black and white of it is, I am an older dancer.
So maybe any dancer who is 40 and older.
One of the biggest struggles could feel like time has passed you by.
You know, maybe like me, you stepped away from dance for years.
(14:06):
And now you're feeling like you're behind or maybe you have a family and a job and other commitments.
And it just feels like dance is this thing that you want to do so, so badly,
but you don't have time for.
Here's where Einstein time can completely change your experience.
You don't find time for dance.
You create it.
When you tell yourself, I'm too busy, you'll never have the time.
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You know those people.
They always make excuses.
Don't be that person.
If you want something, make it a priority and get it done.
Be in dance class.
When you say I have all the time I need for dance suddenly, guess what?
A class fits into your schedule.
A practice session happens.
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A rehearsal flows instead of feeling rushed at the end of the day or at the end of a podcast.
This is what I want you to take away.
Okay, I'm, I'm going to be stern about this.
You create time.
If you constantly tell yourself you don't have enough of it,
time will always feel like it's slipping away.
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But if you shift your mindset, if you start believing that time is something you own,
that it's something within you, your entire experience of time changes.
And for dancers, that's everything because the more we stop fighting against time,
the more we can actually be in the moment.
And that's where the best dancing happens.
(15:33):
Just a couple of addendums here, just from like personal anecdotes.
The people in my life over the years who always told me they were so busy.
In my opinion, were the least busy people I know.
I always, because I knew their life pretty well or the way at least they talked about their life.
And I would think, my God, I've got x, y, z examples of you literally having all the time in the world.
(15:55):
But then you tell me you can't do ABC because you're so busy, you're so busy, you're so busy.
Mmm, yeah.
And obviously it goes without saying that we all have different seasons in our life.
And some of those seasons, for example, maybe you're a new parent or you know,
you're working a new job and you got to prove yourself to the new boss and you're putting in crazy hours.
(16:18):
I mean, I fully recognize that there are always going to be times that are objectively busier than other times.
At the end of the day though, it's still about how are you thinking about your time at such time?
How are you talking about it? How are you framing it to others and to yourself, to your family?
(16:38):
And ultimately, I do think it still comes down to, you know, priorities.
Why are there single moms out there who get x, y, z done and other single moms out there with a similar schedule?
Barely get x done, you know?
Ultimately, it is about your will and it is about what is a priority to you.
What is important to you and about showing up to your life, taking all the things into account.
(17:03):
But again, I don't want this podcast to come off invariably because there will be some people who say,
oh my god, no, no, but I really don't have the time.
I mean, I don't know your life.
And if that's true for you, that is true for you.
I'm just asking that maybe you could still look a little bit deeper and see maybe what you are prioritizing
because you may surprise yourself in at the very least, just don't use that language.
(17:27):
Don't say you're so busy. Don't say you don't have time. Catch yourself.
That is what has been so for me, monumental about this particular concept is I immediately applied it
and I began to catch myself in the way I was talking about time.
How is I, you know, talking about it with my partner to my friends, to my family?
And I became very cognizant of it of really just never speaking of time, even if I felt like, even if my soul was like,
(17:55):
you don't have the time today. I didn't say that.
I chose different ways to communicate that.
And I think again, once you start doing that, then the blocks start to form and the universe is listening
and all of a sudden more time appears.
It becomes like magic and the more you practice how you're talking and thinking of time,
(18:15):
the more and more and more you begin to believe that this is what time is for you now.
It's so cool.
So if this episode made you think differently about time, you gotta let me know.
Okay, do me a favor DM me on Instagram.
Add back to great.
Leave a comment down below if you're watching on YouTube or Spotify.
(18:36):
Leave it in your review on Apple.
That would be amazing.
It goes so far.
It it just like it really touches my heart.
All right, until next time, remember, don't forget you are time.
And I promise you, oh my God, the way even my partner has has noticed this too about me.
I don't talk about time anymore.
Like I don't say, I don't have time to do this.
(18:58):
I choose other ways to reframe it.
I'm like, you know, I feel like I'm not prioritizing my time correctly because I know that time is abundant.
I know that it is there and that I could easily get the things done.
But I am struggling a little bit with prioritizing my schedule or budgeting my time.
Like I'll just put it in a way where it's not like I'm a victim of time.
(19:21):
Like I'm the problem if I can't figure it out, you know, time is not the problem.
I'm the problem.
Does that make sense?
All right.
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