| Ep 100 | Practical Tips for Life with ADHD

This is episode 100! 🥳  So fun! 🔆

For over a year, Renee has talked about everything from ADHD traits, diagnosis, and strategies to feeling validated, supported, frustrated, and maxed out. Yep, the ups AND the downs.

In this episode, Renee shares 100-ish tips, strategies, stories to help your life go more smoothly.

Listen and let me know which help you the most!

Episode Transcript

(00:29):
Hello, welcome to Inspiring Women with ADHD.
Hi, I'm Renee Allen, the host of this podcast and I'm super excited
to be here. It is my 100th episode. Crazy,
crazy. You never know, right? When I started
my podcast, I looked up all the podcasts about ADHD

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just because I wanted to come up with a name and I didn't want
to copy anybody else's name. And when I looked I
noticed that, you know, there were, I don't know, a few dozen
or something. So I wrote down all the names of the podcast so
I wouldn't copy anybody. And then I started to see
how many were still going. Were there some that were listed that

(01:10):
aren't podcasting anymore, some who maybe only made five
or six episodes, some who made multiple episodes for maybe a
year, but then they stopped and then maybe just one or
two that had a lot of episodes and were still
going. And I thought, oh, bummer that they stop.
You know, I wonder why they stopped.
I wonder what made them not keep going.

(01:32):
And as I've been doing this for a year and a half now,
you start to see the things that can make it so you
stop going. And it could be a lot of reasons
that I didn't have, but self doubt could be a big one
or
even just life changes for sure. But there's a lot

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going into it with the quality of sound and video and
all that. And if you have a lot of ideas like I
do with adhd, you keep coming up with new ideas like
there's a new microphone here if you're watching on YouTube.
How do I point?
I bought another microphone that's not as high quality
microphone as this one here. The one up above is the

(02:16):
one I'm using for audio. If you're listening on Apple podcasts,
Apple Music, Spotify, any of those places, it's coming
through this black microphone. This other one is still a
good microphone, but it's more of a beginner microphone.
I still don't have the most expensive one, but this one I'm using
for the video because I wanted a decent one for video but I

(02:40):
couldn't use the same one to get the quality of sound that I
wanted for this one. So I'll stop talking about that.
Finally. I think I've been talking about sound for a couple months
now. My apologies, but happy 100 episodes to myself
to you. So what I thought I'd do, you know, if you've
ever had it child in school sometimes they do this thing called,

(03:02):
you know like the hundred days and they celebrate the 100 days
of school. And I'm moving that out of the
way. It's making a glare. Anyway, they.
They celebrate the hundred days of school in kindergarten.
And one of the things that they do to celebrate is bring
a hundred things. So I have six kids over the years.
I think every kindergarten teacher did it.

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And I don't know if we ever copied, but one year we just
did Cheerios because we didn't always have a lot of money.
I wouldn't say we've ever had a ton of money, but Cheerios.
Easy to gather a hundred of them. Put them
on a board or something or in a bag or.
I don't even know how we displayed them.
I'll have to ask my kids if they remember what they brought.
But we did Cheerios, we did pennies, we did a lot of

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different things that you could bring.
A hundred Legos, things like that. So I thought, how can
I celebrate kind of like the kindergartners do, and bring a
hundred of something? And so I'm bringing you 100 ideas for
helping your life with ADHD. And I've organized
them into 10 different categories. Each of those categories

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has 10 different things. I don't know if
I'll go through all the 10 different things because we might
be here all day. But what I thought I'd do is go through what
I go through because, you know, my brain bounces around.
Yours might do that to you if you've got the scattered.
Inattentive and hyperactive. That scatteredness can come from

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both. But what I thought I'd do is with
each of these 10 tips, they're research based.
They also work in my life and I'm fine
tuning them to how I think about it.
And you can fine tune it once it comes into your brain of how
you think about it and how it might help with you.

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But what I thought I'd do is episode 101, 102.
Going up to 110 will be each of these 10 things.
That is the most organized I've been with this podcast ever.
So here we go. I'm just making sure this
is still recording because honestly, I would hate to be done.
And is it going. Yes, it's going. Yay.

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Okay, so here we go. I have a second computer over
here. I'm not using a desk. I'm using a little children's table
I bought on Marketplace for my grandchildren.
And now I'm using it for this computer.
The other one's on some yoga blocks.
So, anyway, okay, first tip. And if you go
to any website for an ADHD coach, they say

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this one tip, I will help you work with your brain.
Work with your brain, not against it.
Because why would we want to work against our brains?
Well, if we work in a way that most other people do,
we're working against our brains because our brains aren't like
most other people. So if you remember that my brain isn't

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the same as everybody else's, therefore I'm going to need
to find out how does my brain work. That takes some
awareness, some learning, some trial and error.
And the more you learn about adhd, the more you'll
notice, oh, I do this, not everybody else does

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that. I do this. And that's probably because I need
it because of the way my brain works.
One example is I look at a menu before I
go to a restaurant. Picky eater, that's one thing.
I don't want to order something that I'm not going to like.
I get decision fatigue. That can be part of
adhd, of having a hard time coming to a decision.

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What am I going to order? Panicking right before the, the server.
Waitress, who, what do we call people who take your
orders at the restaurant? Waiter, Waitress.
I guess it could be both. And I kind of panic.
And I usually say we'll start with, you know, start.
You guys start over there. Because I don't want to start with
me and I have a hard time with that.

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So if I can decide that in advance or if I can go to a
restaurant that I've been to many times and just buy the same
thing over and over, that takes that away.
So whatever little tip you have for something like looking up
a restaurant you've never been to before, getting an idea, looking
at the photos, what people say about is a
means of hyper focus for sure, but it's a way to

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work with your brain. And some other ways are even just
noticing am I more productive in the morning?
Do I have more energy to get things done in the morning or
at night? And just because you have ADHD doesn't mean
it will be the same for you as it might be with to other people
who have adhd. I've always been a morning person and

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well, sometimes night, if I, if my brain won't slow down and
I'm finally getting myself to do something.
You know when you try to get yourself to do something for a long
time and you're finally getting yourself to do it and then you
don't want to stop even though it's getting late and you know
you have to get up the next morning.
So that's when discipline, hopefully it can come in to help
your next day. A lot of things going on right in that
decision. But if you are more productive at night,

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there's something you really need to get done.
Maybe scheduling that for that time.
Or if you are a morning person, don't beat yourself up
the day before because it's 6 o' clock and you haven't done
it. Just if you have time in the morning, if
you can schedule your day so you could do that in the morning,
have that be something that you do in the morning.

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You may even be more of a Monday person than a Friday
person. Do you have a mental response, an
idea of what it means to be a Monday, what it means
to be a Saturday morning, what it means to be a Friday afternoon?
I totally do a Monday morning. That's my.
I want to hit the ground running. I have all my new goals.

(08:57):
I'm going to get into my routine, it's going to go this
way. And I was finding this. Last year I was not
working with my brain at all because I had scheduled yoga
classes on Monday mornings to the effect where I really couldn't
hit the ground running until about 2:30.
And by then, you know, it's kind of like I'm not hitting

(09:18):
the ground running. I'm ready to kind of pause and, you know,
drink some caffeine or something. So I started realizing this
is not working very well. I need to make a few changes
in my schedule if I can, so that Mondays I have
more time open to work on things and get a
momentum for the rest of the week. And if you're seeing that

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Monday can be your day, or maybe partway through the week
is the day to reset, regroup, see what you need to do
or Sunday night. I used to plan out my workouts every Sunday
night. I'd sit down and write them all down.
Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday.
I'd set up a little workout schedule either for the week or
the next four weeks or the next six weeks.
Planning can be more fun than actually doing it.

(10:01):
But it was my time. And so if you find that
there's a time that works for you to plan, there's a time that
works for you to carry through. Now my plan time tends
to be during church because I'm known, I'm sitting still, it's
quiet. I bring my planner with me. I look at the
week. I like to see that visual week and see, okay, when are
you teaching this week? Some of my classes change Because I teach

(10:23):
private yoga. And getting a visual of that,
it helps me during the week. Does it make it so I never
forget something? No. And that'll be something else we can do
on another step. But just kind of working with your
brain and seeing on a Friday afternoon after I pick
up the kids from school or I get home from work, is that

(10:44):
going to be a time that I fold the clothes and put them
away and be ready for, you know, not have laundry to deal
with on Saturday, it might not be the time, but for somebody
else it might. So yeah, just kind of seeing how that
is and then working with your brain, sometimes you
have to kind of like they say. Well, they say Mary Poppins says

(11:04):
just a spoon full of sugar makes the medicine go down.
So sometimes something that you're having a hard time
getting yourself to do can be more pleasant if you pair
it with something else. If you,
and you hate to say like one thing's more pleasant than another,
but let's say it's something that's harder for you to do.

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So it's hard for you to sit and read a book.
But you have a college course or it's important for you
to do a spiritual devotion in the morning you want to
read from the Bible or, or whatever scripture or whatever is
your base for spirituality. And yet sitting down
to read or even remembering to do it may be another

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thing. Maybe there was a time in your life that you could do
that, but now why can't I? Why can't I?
So you pair that with something that you're going to do
anyway, like driving. Find an audio version, make
it easy to start and play while you're driving without
distraction. Or if you don't have the dread problem
that I do now with showers and you still take a shower every

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day, have the audio for that if you can.
I don't know if you know if you are in college or if you have
children who want to go to college or are in college.
If you are diagnosed with adhd, you can have special accommodations.
Is that redundant? Accommodations? Special accommodations.
You can have accommodations. And at the university my son attends

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right now, one of the accommodations is he has an option for
every textbook to be on audio. They're not always available
on audio. And what this gives him is actually, or
it's given him. Now he'll be a senior this year, but it's given
him an advantage because sometimes in a university you

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get wait listed for a class that you really need.
So if you are on a four year track to go to
school and you're on a wait list for a class that you
really need as a prerequisite for a next one.
Then in a seniority by like juniors and seniors would
get in that class. First you're a freshman or sophomore, you
might not. Then it might take you longer to go to

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school because you can't get that class.
And maybe that class is only offered winter semesters.
You have to wait till the whole year later, so that can slow
down schooling. But he found, because he has adhd,
because he was able to get the accommodation to get
his book on audio and he also has it in text

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form, you know, paper form too, that sometimes those books
aren't available and the professor will need to record it.
Or maybe somebody else records it. Maybe it's not the professor.
You know, you know when you don't know the details and so you
just start saying things. So who knows who's recording it.
But they need time to get that textbook recorded,

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which is kind of crazy to think about.
Can you imagine reading a whole text textbook for your
job? I, I would have a hard time reading audibly.
But anyway, yeah, so because of that they give
him early status. So even as a freshman, I
think he was diagnosed with ADHD after his summer term, maybe

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fall, I can't remember. Anyway, somewhere during the freshman
year. So from that point on he had seniority, as
if he were a senior to get into a class so that that professor
would know I have someone in my class that needs that accommodation.
If he was wait listed and found out at the end, then he
wouldn't be able to

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get that accommodation. They wouldn't have time for it.
So that's kind of cool, huh? I'm still on number one.
And yeah, I'm going to just give a few more of
these. So let's go back. Let's go to number two.
I'm not going to give 10 for every. Every big one.
But let me see if anything else stands out.
Working with your brain,

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if everyone. So if just think of anything that everyone says,
this is the best app. This is the best app for keeping
me organized. You can certainly try that app and
it might be the best app for you too, but it might not.
So whatever is the best. Like having a to do list.

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I felt to do list pressure for years.
Don't feel that pressure to have a to do list if it doesn't
help you, if it actually stresses you out because you look at
all those things and it's hard to prioritize.
Even if I do write down what the priority
is that even makes me want to bolt and say,

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but maybe I don't feel like doing that, you know, like kind of
challenge it. So when you, if you learn things like that
about your brain, like this is getting in the way, what is helping
you go toward how you want to be, what you
want to do, and what is getting in the way?
And if a to do list is stressful, make a
do later. Listen, I don't even know if I have that on my

(16:00):
website anymore. You know, I've been working on building my new
website for what, four or five months, maybe longer now.
But I have a do later list as part of my focus journal
that you could have. I need to get these things together
too. I will, I will, I will. Who knows when anyway,
so yeah, do later list. You could do that with your own notepad
pad, but mine's kind of cool. So I, I will get it up there.

(16:23):
I, I think what I have to do is with this new website
format, I can only offer so many. Here's something to
click on and get this.
So I might just need to offer that in my emails
every once in a while. Hey, want my focus journal?
Or maybe just let people sign up? Yeah, who knows?

(16:43):
I gotta figure it out. Sorry about that.
Use your own do later list. Anything that you have to do
those big things, write it somewhere, put it on
your whatever, however it works for you.
It might be alarms on your phone. You can label your alarms.
You can write. This means I'm supposed to leave
now. This means I need to put on my makeup.

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You can label them so you're not confused.
Because for a long time I didn't know I could label my alarms.
I was very confused. But there is, there is kind of
that. What's too little? What's too much?
With alarms, if you have them going off all day long, it's kind
of annoying. So at least for my brain.
But post it notes. A lot of women with
ADHD use post it notes. I have to have it written in a

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Sharpie on a post it if it's going to help me because that's
how my brain works. To do lists might be your favorite.
You might like crossing those things off.
You might need a big whiteboard. You might need a paper calendar,
a planner. You might have a little of each.
I have a little of each because I don't trust myself just to
look at all of them enough for my brain to remember.

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Because part of adhd, part of executive dysfunction, is having
things leave your brain that Were there before that were there
for a long time. Losing track of the day can
make that if something you knew I have a doctor's
appointment on Thursday. It's Thursday.
You woke up knowing it's Thursday. You woke up knowing that you

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have a doctor's appointment. But some point you think, oh, I'm
done for the day, it's Thursday. Usually I'm done.
Or oh, it's what I think it's Tuesday.
You know, whatever it is. Give yourself as many things
that you can, as much help as you can to help
your brain. Which leads me to number two is

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externalizing everything. Your brain is not
a Google Doc or Google Drive. If you're familiar with Google
Drive, it's pretty great. There's probably other cloud programs
that people love that are Microsoft based or something, but Google
Drive, when it was introduced to me, I used it in an editing
job I had. And then I started seeing the possibilities because

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anything I write down in there is still there.
I can search at the top. It's like my own little Google.
Every thought I've had or anything that I've worked on, any rabbit
hole I've gone down to figure something out.
I can find that information there. So externalizing that my

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brain can't remember everything. So putting it somewhere where
when I need to see it, I can. Whether it's something to look
up, whether it is a post it note that you can't
help but see because you know you'll go to your refrigerator
20 times a day or probably more. That'd be something to count,
huh? How many times do we go to our fridge a day?
Maybe I'll do that between today and next podcast.

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Do you have the curious ADHD brain where you just get curious?
I wonder what would happen. Those were the conversations we had
at our kitchen table. My mom would say things like how much
would someone need to pay you to drink this whole bottle of
ketchup? And we'd all think about it.
So we were curious about our own possibilities.

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That was the early survivor days. So yeah, so having a
planner talked about that a little bit before.
Some people color code their tasks that helps them.
Reminders on your phone, whether it's through Google keep I've
heard is good or reminders or who knows what.

(20:26):
Having learning more about technology on your phone is really
valuable if you don't lose your phone if you
keep it. Having a watch, a smartwatch, an Apple watch, if
you use an iPhone is so helpful. I don't have mine on.
I don't always remember to Wear it. But it helps me not miss
important calls or texts from my kids because I never have my

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ringer on. It helps. It helps remind me of my alarm
if I don't have my phone by me because I might not hear it.
So as much help as you can give yourself, give
yourself that, you know, externalizing the capacity of your
brain. And, yeah, you can make

(21:09):
checklists. Do you like checklists? That's something that some
people like. If you're going to be packing for camping.
That was always helpful for me, is to have a checklist and
then I could check it off and check it off and check it off
and see what else do I need. Making your own checklist for
traveling. There are a lot of them online and hopefully

(21:32):
not forgetting. Do you forget things when you travel?
We used to do a lot of road trips when our kids were younger,
probably the whole time they grew up.
And I realized at some point that every single trip about
five miles away, I would remember what I forgot.
It could be underwear, it could be a toothbrush.
It could be anything basic. But there was always something, always

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something. And then you go, oh, you know, it could even be
the. The one thing that was on your mind right before you
left and thought, oh, I need to get ibuprofen or whatever
it is. And then someone asks you a question and, yeah, so your
own brain even just try to help. But, yeah, voice memos, I don't
really. Well, okay, I have. Have you used voice memos?

(22:19):
I've made them. I've only listened to them
a few times. So any system is as good as
it's set up that you'll actually use it.
But asking. Asking other people to help you, you
know, but I, you know, really, that's not fair because I've had
people say, you know, like, don't let me forget.

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And that's before I knew I had adhd.
And so if I say to someone else, don't let me forget, it's not
really fair to them because they're trying to remember their
own things. Right? But yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,
yeah. So I. I'm not going to give you 10 of everything.
I'll give you at least 10 thoughts for everyone, because I'm
already realizing I am at number three, and I

(23:03):
won't go through every step. I'll save those for 103, 104, 105
of my podcast. But number three is to break
down what's big into something smaller.
Whatever it is that you need to do that seems really
big. Just find one Step of it and start

(23:24):
with that. And even if you don't do any of the other steps
today, and you might need to repeat that same step again,
it'll help build that ability to. If you're
gonna get from 1 to 10, you know, at the end of the
steps, getting somewhere, you'll eventually get there by taking
one or two small steps. And sometimes that could be, I

(23:47):
need to clean the kitchen. Well, I'm just going to unload the
dishwasher and you just unload the dishwasher.
And maybe that is all you have time with.
But that helped because then it's easier the next time
someone walks in the kitchen, whether it's you or someone else,
if they think, oh, I can load this into the dishwasher.
Hopefully they're thinking that. But it's one less thing to

(24:09):
do later. If it's something of a multi step process, especially
if it's one that you don't understand.
It's a home improvement thing. You want to clean all
your windows and you're not sure how to do that.
I always thought cleaning windows was, you know, putting the
spray in and wiping the windows, but my husband understands that
you can actually take them off and clean all around and stuff.

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And there are a lot of steps involved with that.
So sometimes just taking the step to learn the process, whether
it's watching a YouTube video or reading about it, I don't do
as well with video instructions. But that's another thing.
Going back to understanding how your brain works, right?
Like, why am I going, like every time I read, I
watch a video with instructions. I think that's not helping me.

(24:53):
I don't know sometimes, but it's very rare.
I have a hard time waiting for the instruction that I
need and then I have a hard time with them just zipping
by. The one thing I need to understand, I have to keep going
back. And I think, but now I have more questions.
But whatever step you get yourself to do,

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congratulate. Congratulate yourself on that.
That was hard to get that word out. But congratulate yourself.
I'm going to stop saying that. Tell yourself that it was fantastic
that you did that step. Maybe you have a big mountain of
laundry that you want to have put away.
Just bring it into your room and it'll help you find things.
Or take all the towels out and just fold the towels and

(25:37):
put them away. Towels are so much easier to fold.
And I think it's of fun, actually, but something that's fun.
Take this, the fun step out and just do that.
And then it's easier to find your socks, even if you don't put
the other things away or just hang some things up.
Make it a little bit easier for you in your life.
Get one more thing done and tell yourself that it's fantastic
and wonderful that you did it. Give yourself that little reward

(26:01):
and even just telling yourself out loud what the step is, you
know, okay, all I need to do is walk in that room and put
some clothes in the washer. All I need to do is pick up
the phone. The dreaded phone calls, you know, like, handling.
Like, I got to figure out this insurance thing.
I need to just find the number on my phone and I need to
just sit down and do that. You know, start, start Each.

(26:22):
Each little step, sometimes it just is what gets
the whole thing done. Right. Number four, in psychiatry
world, or coaching world, they call it body doubling.
I don't love that term. I know I probably complain about it a
lot. It's just not cute. It's not cute in any way.

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Accountability sounds better to me. But finding someone that
you can be accountable to, and it doesn't even need to be a
someone. It can be stating it is. It
doesn't have to be. So body doubling means doing it actually
with that person. Like co working. Like, let's meet outside
the coffee place where they have WI Fi.

(27:03):
We'll get a table. I started doing this when I was a yoga teacher
and wanted to develop the business side of my yoga teaching.
So we would go meet at a little coffee shop, sit together, say
hello for a few minutes, order some tea or coffee, whatever,
and then we would just sit and work for a few hours.
You get a lot done when you do that.

(27:23):
A lot of that is done now through zoom or co working
on YouTube. There are different ways to do it.
Zoom is nice because you see all the other people or you just
see their little picture and you know they're there.
Sometimes you get to know me right on the, you know, little chats
and get to know each other or something.
That's how a few of my guests that I've had on the podcast, I
met them through a zoom chat of a co working session.

(27:45):
Maybe it was a Q and A, I don't know.
But anyway, yeah, so co working can make you sit
down and do.
Can make you go and do something that you want to do.
It doesn't even have to be working side by side on your computer.
It can be inviting a friend over. I'll help you clean
your yard if you help me Clean my yard and you come do

(28:05):
it together, working in groups. I'll talk about that
on 104. But there are ways to do that that
are actually in person or even just working out if you
know that you won't go to that class unless somebody meets you
there and you tell someone you're going to be there, or even
the instructor. I've become friends with a lot of fitness instructors
and just saying, see you on Friday, that's enough for me,

(28:28):
that gives me that accountability. It's not actually the body
doubling, although we're. You could say everyone in that class
is body doubling with you because everyone who walked in there,
they're all accomplishing that workout along with you, which
is kind of cool, huh? So, yeah, there's, there's a lot
of ways to do that. But even just checking in with someone

(28:49):
and just saying, you know, I, I'm working on
not eating as late. I'm going to stop eating at 7 o'
clock at night. Let's report to each other each night at 7 and
see if we're, if we've done it and then again at 10, see if we
actually did it, you know, whatever it is, you can set goals
together or even just set your own goal and help each
other with it. Making it fun, giving little rewards.

(29:14):
It can be fun, you know, and then at the end, we'll do this.
So number five, creating routines. So daily
things that you do, like daily routines that make it
so it's not. You don't have to stop and make a
decision. You don't have to stop and figure out,

(29:37):
what am I going to eat for breakfast?
Do I even want to eat breakfast? When am I going to eat?
Should I grab something on the way out?
Maybe you need variety when you eat, but if you don't streamline
it, you know, maybe you, like, think that I don't want to
ever not eat pancakes again. Save that for the weekend.
But maybe Monday through Friday, your breakfast is a smoothie

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that you make the night before. Or there's so many things.
Have you made overnight oats?
They have some in the jar. I haven't liked those as much, but
you can do baked oatmeal. I guess that's not
technically overnight oats, but they're baked oatmeal.
Okay, I'm getting confused. It doesn't get as big as a muffin,

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but it's just as filling. And you take the oatmeal and there's
different things you can put in it that are natural.
If you want it to be natural, like a little bit of maple syrup
and some pumpkin and some spices. Trying to remember what
else goes in there. But you just bake it.
And you have a bunch of cups and I always put chocolate chips
in too, but you just grab a few and you

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get that energy. So if you're impatient with your breakfast or
you don't do as well, eating early and you
need something to grab and go, make it in advance.
When you do have that energy, maybe on the weekend before a
lot of people do their preps on the weekend or in the evening,
maybe I'll do that kind of thing. But having the same breakfast,

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lunch, even dinner. I've gone months with just
eating popcorn for dinner. Not the healthiest, I'm sure.
But yeah, anyway. So, yeah, streamlining those things
that you don't have to make a decision about, or one of
my favorites is just choosing what clothes you're gonna

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wear the night before. One thing that really helps my
brain, and I would think it would help you too, is when your
brain isn't pressured, like, I need to do this right now.
It's easier to make the decision. So if you make it as
easy for your brain as you can, and that's making a
decision in advance, like, what should I make?
Or what should I wear? And you look and think, oh, I could

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wear this, or whatever, it's a lot easier.
And then you just set it so in the morning, that just becomes
part of the routine. It doesn't take any of those steps.
Maybe even, you know, wearing the same earrings all week
long, but on the weekends, maybe we wear something different.
So making little decisions like that, that might simplify your
life, or maybe not wearing earrings anymore or whatever it

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is, you know, that simplifies. If you like a lot of accessories,
go for it. Go for it. I'm more of a minimalist with
that. And then if I showed you my shelves in here, I'm not
a minimalist with decorations. I'd rather have a shelf with
a lot of books. I've tried to, like, do what my daughter does
here with a few books and a little. Few decorations.
If you're looking in my library on YouTube, but a lot of my

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shelves have all mine, My husband's favorite little things
from when we traveled or whatever. There's like 20 things on
each shelf. To me, it's not maximalist, but someone commented
on it once, not in a negative way. They liked it.
But, you know, I thought, oh, okay.
But yeah, even streamlining, when you go somewhere and

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you have to Go to the UPS store when it's on the right
side of the road, on the way there, on the way back, making that
part of the routine on Mondays. I'll do my returns on my
way home or stop at the pharmacy or whatever.
Automating anything you can online with recurring payments or
bills or there's so many things you can automate now online.

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Even buying groceries, it'll save your past grocery list
if you do grocery pickup or delivery,
it makes life a little, little easier.
Yeah, I'm going to just skip through some more of those.
But practicing

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compassion for yourself. So that is a big one.
Number six, how can you do that? How can
you. And how would that even help? So if you have
framed how you are, or other people have framed
how you are, as your report card maybe once said

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when you were young, talks too much, and maybe your kids
grow up and they're not as accepting as they were when
they were little. They look at you, you're like, you're talking
too much and you start thinking, oh, I talk too much.
You know, that's a negative connotation to yourself.
It's one thing if other people give it to you, but are you giving

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that to yourself too? If you can reframe that and tell
yourself, I just love to share, I love to talk.
Maybe everyone doesn't. It brings me joy and maybe I
can curb that a little bit and maybe notice when
it's more appropriate than others. But not feeling bad that

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you do or when you do, especially if you have impulse control
problems, not feeling like, gosh, why can't I control
that? Why can't I not want to volunteer to
raise my hand all the time and participate.
You may be able to control that more as you notice it and
practice it. I, I've set little rules for myself, like only say

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something one time or two times or whatever that is.
But. And what's fun about that is it makes you be
more choosy, like, okay, is this so important?
Because what if something more important comes up in my mind
and then I don't get to use that one, I don't get to talk about
that one. But whatever those things are, a lot of people talk
about, like, oh, you procrastinate or you're lazy, or

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maybe they're not saying it, but you feel that way because you're
comparing yourself to other people who
are able to get so much more done. So not only changing the
words that you're saying, but even just coming to some realities,
like, yes, I could have maybe Have
a fabulous looking garden too. If I prioritize

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that and spent this many hours outside every day,
but if I did that, the other things that I'm doing wouldn't
get done. And maybe if that becomes your priority and those other
things are fine, not getting done, or you could pay someone else
to get that done, that's fine. But just know that everyone has
the same amount of hours in the day and whatever they're doing

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that is so fabulous and wonderful and you wished you
were doing too,
maybe you could, maybe it's not the way your brain works and
you can't do that anyway, that's fine.
But it's all a decision and just
kind of giving yourself the grace of, yeah, I really don't want
to do that all the time, so I'm okay with not having as

(36:35):
beautiful a garden or a vegetable garden like she does or something.
So telling yourself that you're okay if you're not doing what
other people are doing and recognizing times that you've
tried or worked towards something and if it hasn't worked out
because it's not something that gels well with how your brain
works. Recognize, hey, I gave it a chance, or
I was even aware enough to know, not even to try that,

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that can be good too. But talk to yourself as if you're
talk, talking to a friend, a child, someone that you love,
and give yourself that support.
And try not to get too discouraged with mistakes, errors.
If you have the klutziness, if you spill things, if you whatever

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all those things, it can be challenging.
If you forget things a lot and you've come up with every
little external thing you can have. It is impossible to
keep every thought in your brain or a lot of thoughts in your
brain that you want to. So if you find
that you're, you know, you are so organized, you plan things
out the night before, you have all this stuff together, you're

(37:47):
even leaving five minutes early so that you won't be late and
you get out to your car and you're thinking, where's my phone?
Like I have everything but not my phone or where's my wallet
or whatever. Thankfully, you know, if you even have that self
awareness, tell yourself, hey, at least you remember.
Now, phones are kind of easy to remember if you, if you
prop them up and have them or plug them in or something in your

(38:09):
car, you can recognize you don't have it.
But a lot of times the thing that we would think was
the most obvious thing to bring with us is the thing that
we don't have because our brains are busy doing the other things.
So just telling yourself, yeah, this is frustrating.
Yeah, I'm recognizing that now. This five minutes has turned
into seven minutes. And now I'm not early anymore.

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I'm a few minutes late, you know, but I'm doing the
best I can and it's part of me. It is part of me.
And I'm going to know that this is going to happen.
That's one message I want to get out in my podcast more
than anything is there is no cure all.
There are methods that help a lot of people.

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Coaching accountability for me is the biggest thing that helps.
Understanding awareness really helps.
But it's never going to be just a straight, you know, I'm
just going to be able to set every goal and keep every goal.
There will be ups and downs, just like in real life.
And it might be a higher claim for you because you

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have adhd, but it doesn't mean that you're
bad. It doesn't mean that you're not good at something.
It just means. It doesn't mean you're lazy.
Any of those things that you might even hear your doctor say,
well, some people think that this, or, you know, the ADHD doubters,
they come in all forms. They come in all, you know, they come

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from everywhere. And just know that you are you.
You're unique, you are amazing. And it's not just about
what you get done, even if getting things done does make you
happy. I like getting things done, so that does bring
me joy. But I need to be okay when things don't
work out because life is not 100% good.

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It's more 50. 50. Maybe it's 60, 40.
Maybe it's something, something for somebody else.
But it's not always going to work out.
So once you recognize that and especially know that these
little imperfections will creep up all the time.
You'll be talking to people, you'll think you have it together,
and things will be falling and dropping on the floor.

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Not always your finest moment, but just do
what you can. Like, like literally, like it's your child and
you're saying it's okay, it's okay. Just keep going.
You are amazing. I love you. Tell yourself that.
So let's go to number eight. Speaking of that.
Okay, so some people talk about ADHD superpowers.

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I don't even know how long I've been talking.
How long have I been talking? Not too bad.
I've done an hour long. I haven't done longer podcasts.
I don't Know if I've done a longer podcast that long.
Maybe I have since I've moved downstairs because I was so distracted
by how this was here. But anyway, yeah, this
one will be. It's my hundredth. Yay.

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I realized before I got on here. I don't know if you watched
the Taylor Swift New Heights with Travis Kelsey and Jason Kelsey
and Jason Kelsey's intro was just over the top.
You know, yelling and excitement and fun.
You know, it's kind of a football player that I remember in
high school guy doing. I thought my hundred won't be

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like that energetic. If I showed my energy, it'd be
doing cartwheels and dancing to some music.
But I am excited. So back to number seven.
So adhd.
Often people talk about what is your strength.
They talk about it being a superpower.
You have something that's even greater because of these things

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that are challenges and sometimes that word superpower
helps people. And some I would think it would help a four
year old boy. Yeah. Because he wants to be a superhero.
And it might even help a 55 year old woman.
Yeah, I've got superpowers. If you think, no, I don't have
superpowers. You know, like, don't tell me that.
I think you still have strengths. You still have strengths.

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You still have unique ways that you can contribute
to the world that you have. I talked, I think my last episode
about your level of genius and it may not show up
in genius. Like it's going to measure on a report card.
Like I am going to get like recognized in a gold medal
for this. It's more of

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where do you just feel so much joy when you go in that
direction and you find that you can just do this?
It's just a natural thing for you. And other people might comment
on it and you think, oh, it's nothing because it's just natural.
Like this is what I do. This is, you know, this is.
That's not a problem for them. It might not be that easy because
it's your strength. It's your way with children, it's your

(42:56):
way with horses, it's your way with organizing things.
It's your whatever that is you can do that is
a strength. And so whatever your strengths are, whether it's
something anybody else recognizes or, you know, I can do
this pretty easily. I can organize things or I can

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drive on long trips and I can be the driver.
I mean it could be something like that.
It could be just like, I like the mellow moments of, you know,
a long road trip. And that could be my strength.
Whatever that strength is, it might not be helping the world
in that situation, but it might help you in a job.
So whatever your strengths are, it doesn't just have to be
to. How do you contribute to other people or other beings, other

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animals, the earth. On how you take care of the earth.
Just think of all the people you've met in your life that are
so different. And everyone has something about them
except for the really mean people. There are a few mean people
I haven't found the great things about, but they have something
about them that is really great. Maybe the mean people do too,
and I haven't found that. But anyway.

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Yeah, so notice what your strengths are.
Be aware. Every once in a while. It can just be something subtle.
Like once I get going, I actually can really focus.
You know, maybe that hyper focus is something for you.
Or maybe I'm not one of the people who
naturally has empathy for other people, but I can

(44:25):
be the leader on the hike while the other people talk to each
other and bond because it's supposed to be a bonding
experience for this class or whatever.
Like, I can just be the endurance person who looks and knows
where to go. I have a good sense of direction, you know, whatever
it is, lean on your strength. Instead of thinking, I need
to do it the same way as other people, this is what they want

(44:46):
to do. And the older you get, you start to realize, I don't need
to do everything like everyone else wants me to do.
Even within jobs, the older I am, I can see
a difference as a yoga teacher in what I will accept
or not
in working conditions and things like that than I would

(45:08):
have maybe 20 years ago, where I'd think, oh, yeah, this is what
you need to do. It's like, no, maybe I'll go work somewhere else.
So, yeah. And then finding people in your life
who complement your weaknesses. Maybe you're not good with
money, Maybe you're not good with paperwork.
Maybe you're not good with.

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And you have a friend who is and they can help you with
that. Or, you know, taxes. That kind of thing
stresses you out. You know, you can lean on people, paying them,
or you can even just find friends. Maybe your spouse
and you benefit from each other's strengths instead of trying
to do it all.

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So number eight. Eight. This one's a lot
like the other one. I'm gonna have to come up with another one,
honestly. Well, okay, maybe it's not the
same. I'm thinking it's the same. It's setting up Visual cues.
And I guess I was thinking it had to be the same as externalizing

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everything, you know, like your reminders.
So those are all the reminders and stuff.
Or even just.
Yeah,
patterning thing. Anyway. Okay, let me go back.
Sorry. Thank you. Thank you. Maybe I.
Hello. I can cut that part out. Maybe it's harder to

(46:31):
cut stuff out of a YouTube because I think it's more noticeable.
But I know people do with fancy editing and stuff, but.
Okay, so visual cues. So these are things
besides notes, reminders, alarms, that kind of
thing. Calendars that make it easier for
you to function. And

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let's say for me,
I made a shelf by my door to the garage where I
put my sunglasses most of the time. I know
grab your sunglasses when you walk out the door, but I see
that on the way out the door. That helps me remember.
And the placement of it is nice because if I forget, I.

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I don't have to go very far in the house to grab him or go
look for him. So any kind of visual preparedness, whether
it's a visual cue or it's preparedness, you could have
your keys, you know, they have little key hooks by the door,
but maybe you don't wanna put key hooks and have a bunch of
keys by your door. So you have your keys in a bowl on

(47:38):
the counter as you walk out. We used to have one in a bowl
made of soapstone that my uncle gave us when he lived in
Africa. But maybe you don't want to have that
out. Maybe you have a drawer where you keep your keys or whatever
it is, whatever your organization is, your keys are already in
your purse. That's fine. That's going to help you too.
Are you going to remember your purse?

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Have that close to the, you know, whatever it is.
But if you need to drink a lot of water, the
preparedness, the streamlining, the system is really good.
But having that where you can see it, your water bottle.
Oh, I should drink my water. Oh, I should take my
medicine. I started doing that with my ADHD medicine because
that's one of the things. If you have to take it more than one
time a day, are you going to remember?

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Do you want an alarm going off all the time?
That's what I used to have, was my alarm telling me it's time
to take my medicine. And I hated it.
I thought, stop, I don't want to hear you all the time.
Don't disrupt me. But I bought the cutest little medicine
pill holder thing. That's at the Vera Bradley the Bear
Bradley Store. Yeah, at an outlet on my last trip.

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So that's my new thing that I look at and go, oh, did
you take it yet? And it's in my Tuesday or my Wednesday or whatever,
so it helps. But, yeah, any kind of visual thing that
can help you, even if it's. You're. You're not
working out very often, and you did set out your
clothes, and then you get up and you haven't developed that

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habit, which might seem kind of silly, but it does make a
difference if you can't. If you don't think about it like
our last house, the last two houses, actually, the last two
places that we lived. If I left my bedroom, I had
to walk by the family room, which was where I worked out,
and I could just have my water bottle up.
I'd fill them up and have them upstairs, my clothes, and I'd

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just go straight into the family room and do my workout.
But I had to pass that room to go. Anywhere in this
house where I work out, it's upstairs.
I have been so inconsistent for three years.
I've been working out since consistently, like, religiously since
1996, and sporadically before that. Like, religiously, like.

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Like I said, I used to plan out my workouts every single night
since I moved here. The room's upstairs.
And yeah, I know it's up there, but it's.
I don't walk past it. It's not a visual cue.
I mean. And I moved my spin bike in here so
that I'd see it. It's covered with blanket right now.
This is a problem. So noticing the problems, noticing.

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Why is my brain. Why did it work before and why is it not
working now? You know, make it hard to ignore.
Maybe I should put the spin bike out there in front of the fridge.
So in the morning I grab my water bottle, get
on this. I mean, it's really not a bad idea.
Main thing is I didn't want grandchildren, you know, like, to
get caught in the petals. Anyway, any kind

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of visual. Anything that can help you.
My friend does this. And I actually thought it was a problem,
but now I can see it. Sorry, Sheri. So I used to
go to her house, and in her kitchen, she would have
some boxes or something, like, it was cluttery, you know, by
her table, by the stairs and stuff. And so we'd always

(50:59):
help each other clean and stuff. And so I'd take them, and I'd
was going to move him into the office.
The office is like three steps away.
And you could shut the door that's what I like to do.
I like to hide the things that are cluttering the
room. You know, if I have a pile of laundry, I put a
blanket over it because it looks prettier than seeing all the
laundry. So anyway, I remember one time saying, oh,

(51:21):
I'll move these over here. And she's like, no, no, no, I keep
them there. So I'll know I need to do it and then it'll make
me do it. And now that we both know we have adhd,
I can see that was her visual cue. So high fiving Sheri for
that. Good job. So, yeah. So number nine.
Number nine, is giving yourself any kind

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of rest, recovery, rejuvenating, that you
can. We talk about that a lot for our bodies,
but what about our brains? And, you know, brains are part
of the body, but we think of, you know, we need
to rest at night, we need to sleep. That's also, you know, helping

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our brain. Right. We exercise to rejuvenate, to strengthen,
to get the cardio, you know, all that with the exercise.
But we also know it boosts the serotonin, right.
So that helps our brains, the recovery.
What is that like? Like when you are maxed out, what
do you need to do to rec? Sometimes it might be sleep, sometimes

(52:30):
it might be go take a walk sometimes, you know, like mentally,
what do you need to do to rest, recover, rejuvenate?
Think about it for your body. Also think about it for your brain.
When your brain is feeling completely maxed out, do you hit
those points? It might show up with anxiety, it might show up.
Who knows how? Like extreme fatigue, you are not able

(52:52):
to function very well. It happens more
to me when I'm in public, I think, and I'm trying to do
multiple things at the same time. You know, the credit card,
the phone app, the wallet app, the. Yeah,
even Disney World or something. You know, you have to like, oh,
get this out of my pocket, and where is it?

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In my backpack. And it's like all those steps for my brain
are going too fast for my brain. And then I feel pressure because
the person's right there. They don't care.
I'm sure there's people behind me. Maybe they care, but all of
those things. So what can you do when your
brain gets maxed out to help with that?
Sometimes just shifting the idea of what your

(53:37):
day needs to be like, let's say you're at Disney World, Disneyland.
Not everyone goes as often as I do. Well, probably some people
go more, but I've lived in California.
Now I live in Florida, so I'm going to tomorrow actually.
But you don't always have to be going.
You don't always have to be walking to the next ride.
You don't have to always be thinking of the next plan or on your
app making the next plan. You could be just sitting down.

(54:01):
You could just maybe not just sitting down in a crowd of people
who are waiting to see the parade, but finding somewhere to sit
and just watch people look around. Whatever it is.
I love going late at night. My, my youngest son, I've
gone quite a few times with him and he always likes
to do the strategy where the line doesn't close until like.

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So if it's open till midnight, it closes at midnight.
So if he gets on the ride at two minutes till one minute till
whatever. So he'd go on certain rides as many times as he
could the last hour. And a lot of times, solo rider, you just
get to go on. And I'd use that time.
It's my recovery, my rest, rest my body, do some
yoga. Like no one's around really. There's hardly anybody around.

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You go to fantasy land and all the K are gone and stuff.
So you could go, you know, sit in a teacup or something.
At least at Disneyland they have a sample teacup.
I don't know if they do. At Disney World they have a sample dumbo.
But if you haven't been to both the dumbos, okay, the
dumbos at Disneyland are way prettier because they're shiny.
But there are two sets of dumbos at Disney World, so that's nice

(55:05):
because the lines aren't as long. And at the dumbo at Disney
World, as you walk in, they have a big tent circus play
area for the kids. It's air conditioned.
You can rest, recover, rejuvenate. There's with your kids while
they play on like a little fun zone play, structure things.
So that's good. But whatever your Disney World experience is,

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if you start to realize I need some downtime, find a way
to do that. Like teacups are cuter at Disneyland too.
You can, you can see for yourself. But I think they're a lot
prettier at Disneyland the way they're painted and stuff.
But anyway, yeah, so take, take, take time
and notice. Noticing awareness are huge to

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manage your ADHD and then making little changes.
All of these little things involve making little changes to your
routine, your system, the way things are organized or
if they're not.
And I know it's hard because organizing and changing Your system
is really helpful, but sometimes getting yourself to

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do those things is hard. But finding time when it
doesn't matter, like the night before or kids have gone to
bed and you think, you know what? Instead of watching tv, I
do love to watch tv. Instead of watching tv, could I go
in and make some baked oatmeal, and it would last me the next
four mornings or something, you know, and you can freeze some,

(56:35):
you can bring it with you, all that kind of stuff.
It can help you out for the rest of the day, for the rest of
the week. Number 10. I know other people know
how to pause and drink some water. I'm coming up on an
hour and I haven't drinking any water.
And I need to. That's my rest recovery routine.
I'm going to keep going. Okay, so the last one is, however,

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you can have a support system, whether
it's friends, family, professionals.
Maybe you talk to a counselor, a coach, you have a
group coaching system or group counseling situation.
My daughter got to go to group counseling in college.

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If you have college students or you are in college, see if they
have group counseling, because you can do it.
At least she did. I mean, this was post Covid, so they were doing
a lot on Zoom, but a lot of people still are, is they did group
counseling. And whether they have one for ADHD or
they have one, maybe anxiety is part of your ADHD or rejection,

(57:40):
sensitive dysphoria, rejection sensitivity, you know, whatever
that is for you.
Group counseling is really helpful because maybe not everyone
in your friend circle understands what you're going through.
Maybe nobody in your friend circle does, or your family.
Yeah, I do that big breathing stuff because I just see

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all the time of, you know, like, ADHD isn't an excuse.
It's. No one's saying, like, oh, because I have
adhd, I need to do this. They're not saying it
like they're a victim. They're just saying, I'm
understanding my brain. It's kind of an exciting thing.
I'm realizing I need to do this differently than I have before,

(58:23):
or it's okay if I do it differently than someone else.
And maybe people are tired of hearing people talk about adhd,
but, you know, let them. Let them. Let them be
that way. Okay. Yeah. Pets. Do you have
any pets? I don't, but I like seeing nature.
Nature could be your support, too. Just.

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We had a frog on our window the other night.
My daughter showed me. It was on the other side.
But just watching the frog, what's calming, Maybe it's Not
supporting, like my. My ability to organize,
but it was calming. At the end of the day, if you have pets,
your pets could be part of your support system of just helping
you get that rest and recovery. Because each of those other nine

(59:07):
things that I talked about are part of your support.
And so if you have a friend that you can talk to about it,
you have family members that you can talk to about it, even
if it's just here or there, it can be validating.
It can be wonderful. If you have someone like me, you can always
email me and say, I just, you know, made a

(59:29):
whole lasagna and I dropped it on, fell flat on top.
I did that once.
Oh, that was back when I actually used to make lasagna from
scratch. I'm not the noodles or anything, not the pasta, but,
you know, actually did the layers. It's kind of fun.
But then, you know, there's some pretty good frozen lasagna,
so why would I need to do the other anymore?

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But, yeah, any kind of support that you can have and sharing
your needs, it might even be with a stranger.
You don't have to have it. I mean, not that you have to just
go talk to strangers on the street, but I mentioned in one of
my episodes that I was at the doctor's office and I had
to advocate for myself to get the support of

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that person, because she was saying, here's this pile of
papers, and even if you filled out paperwork many times, so
many places will have you fill it out again.
Because maybe they're. They have a new computer system.
They're having you help them with their work.
They don't have to transfer it. Who knows?
But she handed me a bunch of things and said, bring these back.
I was doing laptops. Bring these back in your visit next week.

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And I'm like, do you know the possibility of that
actually happening, of me taking this, not forgetting?
I put it in my car,
ever making it into my house, ever getting filled
out and ever brought back. Like, there's so many possibilities
of where that could just not happen.

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It could leave my brain. And so I stood there for a little
bit, and I just said, oh, can. I don't think
I'm gonna remember to do that, but can I just fill
it out now and give it to you now? Can you put it in the file
for that doctor's appointment? And she said, sure.
So getting support any way you can. Like I mentioned

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with my son, he gets audio versions of textbooks you
might need. You're part of a book club, and you've been struggling
reading a book. Maybe you've always struggled with reading a
book. I was an English major. I used to read books left and
right. Not anymore, but now I listen to audios.
The only time that I was able to read a whole book in

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the past.
I don't know if it's been 15 years. Probably not 15 years.
It happened sometime maybe 12, 13 years ago, but was
during Hurricane Milton last year because the power was out.
And I just kept thinking, I can't do this.
I can't do that. You know, there's a lot of things you can't
do if the power's out. We have a generator, but we were just
using it for our fridge and the popcorn popper.

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Maybe I used it for the Vitamix, but can't use it
for entertainment. We don't have cellular here, so we couldn't
even use our phones for anything. We had to drive away if we
wanted to do that. So I pulled out a book
and I read it for probably an hour. I was shocked.

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But then, I don't know if grandchildren were here.
They needed something when the power came back on later.
I haven't gone back to it, but I want to.
So, anyway, I think that is it. I know I'm past an
hour. I've got to be do, do, do, do, do.
Ooh, I am. I am. I should have stopped right at 100
minutes. Maybe I could edit it to that.
But I'm gonna resist the perfectionism tendencies that I

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have and not do that. Not make it a hundred minutes.
But thank you so much for being here.
I will be back. I'll make another one.
I keep saying that, but that is my goal.
That is my accountability to you. I want to get back to two
episodes a week. I'm going to Disney World tomorrow, but I think
I can make another one before I leave so that we have
two this week, two next week. I want to get in the swing

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of that again because that's what I enjoy.
And you supported that, and I thank you for that.
My request to help me get more support, more viewers,
maybe more people reached who can be supported in their
adhd, is to share this with anyone, you know who might
benefit from it. And even if you don't think they have ADHD
or they don't think they might have adhd, I have people on my

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mailing list when I send my emails who don't have
adhd, but they have similar symptoms from their anxiety
disorder or something else. So might benefit someone else, too.
But thank you so much for being here.
I will be back. Bye. Okay, I just realized that
I was saying 100 minutes. I could edit to 100 minutes.

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I looked as I actually was editing, just trimming, and I was
looking at the 1 hour, 00. That sucks.
1 hour, 0 minutes. That's what I meant.
And maybe I will try that, but I probably won't.
But I just have to say that a lot of times after my podcast,
I'll think, oh, I didn't say this, or I think I messed that
up. That's life. That's life. But thanks so much.

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If you caught that. Yeah, I just caught it, too.
Bye.
Left for tomorrow?

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Rewind, like run the time to sing
melodies and harmonies? I'm cut short?
The silence of sound has yet been found?
But not by me.