September 10, 2025 • 18 mins
Why do some relationships feel like home even when they hurt us? Why do we cling to people who echo the very wounds we’ve been trying to escape? In this episode of the Mid Week Tease, we unpack how childhood trauma shapes the way we love, the way we trust, and the bonds we form, even the ones that break us. From understanding trauma bonds, to relearning trust, to breaking generational cycles, this is a heartfelt conversation on rewriting how we connect.
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CHILDHOOD TRAUMA.
Some of the issues we’ll be tackling include:
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✨ We’ll explore:
- How childhood sets the blueprint for love and trust
- What trauma bonds are and why they feel so magnetic
- The difference between trauma bonding and shared vulnerability
- Small steps to rebuild trust in relationships
- How to stop passing trauma to the next generation
- What love looks like beyond trauma
We’re excited to share that our final 3-part group therapy of 2025 is back! This time, we’re partnering with Shamiri Health, and 3 accredited psychologists will guide us through the theme:
CHILDHOOD TRAUMA.
Some of the issues we’ll be tackling include:
- How trauma manifests and how to recognize it
- Signs of childhood trauma we often miss
- Common trauma responses and how to manage them
- How trauma shapes our relationships and bonds
- Inner child dialogue — reconnecting and healing
- Building self-compassion in the aftermath of pain
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Midwick Te's with me adele or Jangle,
where I share some random and not too random thoughts
on things. And in this episode, let's talk about something
that we experienced in childhood that is still a passenger
with us in adulthood. I'm nothing, but it's actually like, hey,
(00:23):
it's too much stress. Right. So I've been sitting with
a question for the last couple of weeks as I
try and navigate understanding whether a relationship in my personal
life is healthy or needs to go. And the question
is why do some relationships feel like home even when
(00:44):
they hurt us? Like why do we cling so tightly
to people who who remind us of like the very
wounds we've been trying to escape? And so in this episode,
I want to unpack how childhood trauma shapes the way
we love, the way we try, and the bonds reform
even the ones that break us. On a personal note,
(01:05):
before I dig deep into what my research has shown me,
I find that I seem to be more comfortable in
relationships where I am having to overperform to have my
emotional needs met. Doesn't make sense, so almost like I
will naturally pick somebody who's emotionally unavailable, and I have
(01:30):
to go back inside in my head and be like whoa, whoa,
hold up, hold up, Like that's normal because of your
childhood experiences. But it's not healthy and you don't need
to be doing that anymore, you know. I also find
that the overperforming just kind of merged with my people
(01:54):
pleasing and it takes me a while to catch myself
and be like, oh my god, I'm doing this thing again,
and it's directly linked to my childhood daddy issues where.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
They are something.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
So I want us to look at out childhood as
being the first classroom right where we learn how to
love and how to be loved right. And so if
in your childhood love was conditional, we may grow up
chasing validation or constantly trying to earn love. Ooh okay,
I'm shouting. I'm even shouting for myself, constantly trying to
(02:40):
earn love that part, you know. And so if trust
was broken earlier on in your life, you may find
that you enter adulthood with the assumption that people will leave.
And so at this point of the episode, I want
you to pause and just reflect on this. What lessons
did your childilhood silently teach you about love, about trust,
(03:06):
and about safety.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
What are those things?
Speaker 1 (03:09):
And if you feel comfortable sharing, you can drop your
answers to that question in the common section wherever you're
listening to this on. I see this term thrown around
like trauma bonding, but I think we can look at
it as when your nervous system confuses intensity for intimacy.
Have you ever been in that situation? Have you ever
(03:32):
been in that situation? Like things are so hot that
you don't even realize this hotness is not healthy? Right?
You might think this is love on fire, this is intimacy.
You might feel magnetically tied to someone who hurts you,
and you don't recognize how unhealthy this situation is. And
(03:58):
I'll tell you why, because I've seen this with people
who are close to me in my life, and I
actually saw it with myself until I had to call
myself on AGM and be like, babes, we're not going
to be moving like this anymore. Chaos can feel very
familiar and it can even feel safe. So in your childhood,
if let me take mine for example, So I grew
(04:19):
up for some time in a home where my dad
was physically abusive to my mom, he had an alcohol problem, etc.
Being in that environment made me hyper vigilant, made me
put together a toolbox or a toolkit to know how
to either try and detect when my dad was going
(04:39):
to move from being happy drunk to being physical drunk,
right violent drunk, to try and see what's within my control.
Imagining as a child, what are the things in my
toolbox or my toolkit that I can pull out that
will keep my dad entertained and happy so that we
avoid the violent drunk. That toolkit I carried with me
(05:03):
everywhere even into adulthood. And because that toolkit represented safety,
I felt more comfortable in chaos because I had trained
all my childhood on how to maneuver it. But when
you bring me peace, when you bring me ease, when
(05:25):
you bring me love in its purest form, I would
feel the stabilized because I don't have a toolkit for
that one. In fact, there's a quote that talks about healing.
It's I'm going to paraphrase it, but what it says
is that you don't heal so that you can handle
your dark days. You heal so that you know how
to handle the lights. Because sometimes the chaos. You keep
(05:48):
repeating that pattern because in childhood, that was your familiar,
that was you safety. And so you'll even sometimes call
this chaos passion, right, And you'll call people who are
healthier or more securely attached, you'll call them boring, because
this toolkit of yours and this years of experience is
(06:12):
what you think is safe. I have another question for
you that I want you to ask yourself. You can
journal about it, you can drop it in the comments.
Can you recall a time when you confused chaos or
inconsistency for love?
Speaker 2 (06:28):
How did that play out? Now?
Speaker 1 (06:31):
Not every deep connection is a trauma bond, right, And
I feel like sometimes it's so difficult to even figure
it out at the beginning. And that's what I'm currently
doing with this particular relationship that I'm trying to be like,
it was safe, This was a safe space for me
for a very long time. It's a very healthy space
for me for a very long time. But then, and
(06:53):
if you're on a journey of healing, you'll know this.
There's a level of enlightenment that you get to that
then you look at things that you thought were healthy
and you're like, oh my goodness, this shouldn't be in
my life, you know what I mean? So how do
you tell the difference? I feel like an unhealthy situation
thrives in secrecy and fear and shame, and you even
(07:16):
almost feel it, eh inside, you feel this is not
safe for me. It's almost is like your nervous system
sends you little pangs. At least for me, that's what happens.
Speaker 2 (07:28):
And I'm like, something.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
Is off here, even before I have thought about it
and processed it in my mind. I think a healthy
space really thrives in honesty, in respect, in empathy, and
in compassion. So an unhealthy space will ask you to
shrink yourself to keep the peace, and a healthy one
(07:50):
will just ask you to show up fully, flaws and all.
And so at this point, my third question to you
is to think about one born currently in your life.
Does it leave you feeling smaller or safer? You can
journal about that back to our childhood. So when betrayal
(08:10):
happens in childhood, it's so difficult to trust in adulthood,
it feels like you're walking on glass.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
And I really.
Speaker 1 (08:19):
Actually think I really struggle to trust because of different
experiences I went through in my childhood I find that
like my nervous system gets stuck on high a lot.
It's looking for a sign to show.
Speaker 2 (08:35):
Me that it you need to duck. This person is
about a full of first.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
One on you get out of here quick, you know.
But I have to credit myself for the work that
I'm doing with my therapist in just relearning to trust
right and understanding that trust doesn't happen in one big leap.
It's like a series of many small experiments, you know,
so setting a boundary and then you see it been respected,
(09:01):
Or you're allowing someone to show consistency over time. You know,
you're giving them grace and you're giving them a prolonged
time period. You're not just judging them off of ten seconds,
you know. I think another small experiment is like looking
inward and self soothing when you feel triggered, instead of
(09:21):
shutting down or lashing out or even abandoning yourself, like
just go inside immediately you feel triggered, go back inside
and be like, where is this coming from? And once
you figure out that, oh, it's because of that thing
that happened to me in my childhood, self soothe and
remind yourself that you're in a safe place, and you're
(09:42):
choosing healthier paths. So that tool, kid, that you built
up in childhood, you no longer need it, you know,
just soothe yourself out of it, and then you have
to break the cycle, isn't it, Because honestly, unheals trauma
from our childhood. It doesn't just live in us, like,
it's not just localized to inside us.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
It spills into.
Speaker 1 (10:04):
Like how we parent, how we are with our partners,
how we are with our friends, And without noticing it,
you could actually pass on your wounds to the next generation.
I mean when we talk about mother wounds, these are
passed down across generations. So healing doesn't only free you,
(10:25):
it frees the people besides and coming after you. It's
pressing a pause button. It's rewriting the script. It's saying
we're going to choose differently. It's stopping the cycle. My
question here to you is what's one inherited pattern that
you refuse to pass on? For me, I haven't answered
(10:48):
any of the other questions. Will let me answer this one.
For me, it has to be self betrayal at the
altar of relationships right with men, intimate relationships with men.
Speaker 2 (11:03):
That's what I mean, I.
Speaker 1 (11:04):
Think, for the longest time, I've seen women in my
lineage forget who they are, forget their dreams, forget even
that their emotions matter, all in the name of preserving
a relationship with a man. That is not a pattern
I want to pass on or continue. It's not something
(11:26):
I want for myself, and I don't have kids of
my own, but I always think I have two nieces.
I always want them to have an example of a
woman who intentionally broke free from childhood trauma and decided
(11:46):
to live a big life, no matter how uncomfortable healing God,
no matter how scared she was. I want them to
have that example, and then I want that freedom for me.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
You know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (11:59):
But let's get back It's love. What does love without
trauma feel like?
Speaker 2 (12:07):
I've experienced this.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
I'm so glad I have, and honestly, I don't think
I would have without therapy. It feels like ease. There
are parts of it that feel uncomfortable because it may
demand that you face yourself, but it feels like ease.
It feels like joy without dread. You're not happy, but
also thinking at the back of your mind like okay,
(12:29):
when is this going to you know, when's the others
you're gonna draw. It feels like safety without any strings attached.
And I genuinely think we all deserve that. You deserve that,
and I want to share with you one of my
favorite affirmations, I am worthy of love that doesn't ask
me to bleed to prove it. Ah, you have your
(12:52):
homework lined up for you from this episode. There's a
couple of questions that you need to sit with. If
you love journaling, I would say pick one of the
questions I've shared with you every day and journal your
answer to it. If you feel moved, to drop your
answer in the common section. But please don't let this
(13:14):
episode go without you answering those questions. So many of
us adults are carrying so much brokenness and are living
such limited, small, uncomfortable, painful lives because we are still
carrying hurt from our childhood. And one of the things
(13:36):
I want us here at legally clueless to do for
you is to ensure that we help you break free
from that. Honestly, you deserve to live a big life.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
You be here.
Speaker 1 (13:49):
I hope I don't get emotional, but like you deserve
to live a big life. You deserve freedom from your trauma,
and you deserve to stop that cycle. And the only
way you're gonna stop it is by healing yourself. Right. Ah.
I feel so deeply about this topic. But if today's
(14:12):
episode truly resonated with you, I want you to know this.
You don't have to walk through this healing alone. I
know it can be scary to do it alone. You
don't have to. We have our final three part group
therapy of twenty twenty five coming up. Okay, we're doing
this in partnership which Shamiri Health. We'll have three accredited
(14:33):
psychologists who will guide us through deep conversations on the
theme childhood trauma. Some of the issues that we're going
to tackle together is how trauma manifests and how to
recognize it, because I think we really battle with that,
like is this that trauma thing?
Speaker 2 (14:50):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (14:50):
What is it I'm dealing with here? You know, We're
also going to look at signs of childhood trauma we
often miss. We're gonna look at common trauma responses and
how to manage them. Let me tell you, I see
this in so many adults, even in myself. Someone reacts
or I react, and I can tell Adele. This is
(15:11):
a trauma response, and I can even thread it to
what happened to me in childhood and why I'm reacting
like this at my big age of thirty six. Another
issue we're going to tackle is how trauma shapes our
relationships and bonds. We're going to talk about inner child dialogue,
reconnecting and healing that in a child. We're also going
(15:33):
to talk about building self compassion in the aftermath of pain.
These are some heavy topics, but let me tell you
the freedom that awaits you after we've gone through these
three group therapy sessions. Ah, hey, I really want that
for you. I really want that for you. So the
three dates that our group therapy is going to be
(15:55):
happening is on the eleventh of October, the eighth of November,
and the of December. Tickets are four thy five hundred
bob and that covers all three sessions, plus the snacks
that will come in the sessions, plus any of the
resources that we'll share with you during the session. So
it's quite a steal. And since it's group therapy, we're
(16:17):
very limited, very limited tickets, but you can get your
ticket right now through the link in our show notes.
Go to our website legally Clueless Africa dot com or
just go directly to Husslesassa.
Speaker 2 (16:30):
Remember, this is the last group.
Speaker 1 (16:31):
Therapy of the year, and I'd really love for you
to be part of it. And not only that. If
there is someone in your life who you feel either
you want to go through this healing journey with them,
or you want to make them aware of this opportunity
because you love them so much, share the opportunity with them.
Either share this episode or share link to our group
(16:56):
therapy tickets page. It was so touchy our last cohort
that we did, I think from March, April and May.
It was so touching to see some women came with
their best friends and I just thought, this is so wonderful.
Speaker 2 (17:12):
Our last wellness talk.
Speaker 1 (17:14):
We had a couple come guy and girl who wanted
to strengthen their relationship. Our last group therapy, we also
had a couple come in and yeah, so you don't
have to do it only alone.
Speaker 2 (17:28):
If there's someone you love and you're.
Speaker 1 (17:30):
Like, oh, we need to do this together, share this
with them. And as I always say, I don't know
if I say it in this show, but I always
say it on our Monday Show. I truly appreciate you,
I really do, and I believe that you have every
single thing it takes to heal. Thanks for listening to
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(17:53):
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Welcome to the Midwick Te's with me adele or Jangle,
where I share some random and not too random thoughts
on things. And in this episode, let's talk about something
that we experienced in childhood that is still a passenger
with us in adulthood. I'm nothing, but it's actually like, hey,
(00:23):
it's too much stress. Right. So I've been sitting with
a question for the last couple of weeks as I
try and navigate understanding whether a relationship in my personal
life is healthy or needs to go. And the question
is why do some relationships feel like home even when
(00:44):
they hurt us? Like why do we cling so tightly
to people who who remind us of like the very
wounds we've been trying to escape? And so in this episode,
I want to unpack how childhood trauma shapes the way
we love, the way we try, and the bonds reform
even the ones that break us. On a personal note,
(01:05):
before I dig deep into what my research has shown me,
I find that I seem to be more comfortable in
relationships where I am having to overperform to have my
emotional needs met. Doesn't make sense, so almost like I
will naturally pick somebody who's emotionally unavailable, and I have
(01:30):
to go back inside in my head and be like whoa, whoa,
hold up, hold up, Like that's normal because of your
childhood experiences. But it's not healthy and you don't need
to be doing that anymore, you know. I also find
that the overperforming just kind of merged with my people
(01:54):
pleasing and it takes me a while to catch myself
and be like, oh my god, I'm doing this thing again,
and it's directly linked to my childhood daddy issues where.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
They are something.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
So I want us to look at out childhood as
being the first classroom right where we learn how to
love and how to be loved right. And so if
in your childhood love was conditional, we may grow up
chasing validation or constantly trying to earn love. Ooh okay,
I'm shouting. I'm even shouting for myself, constantly trying to
(02:40):
earn love that part, you know. And so if trust
was broken earlier on in your life, you may find
that you enter adulthood with the assumption that people will leave.
And so at this point of the episode, I want
you to pause and just reflect on this. What lessons
did your childilhood silently teach you about love, about trust,
(03:06):
and about safety.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
What are those things?
Speaker 1 (03:09):
And if you feel comfortable sharing, you can drop your
answers to that question in the common section wherever you're
listening to this on. I see this term thrown around
like trauma bonding, but I think we can look at
it as when your nervous system confuses intensity for intimacy.
Have you ever been in that situation? Have you ever
(03:32):
been in that situation? Like things are so hot that
you don't even realize this hotness is not healthy? Right?
You might think this is love on fire, this is intimacy.
You might feel magnetically tied to someone who hurts you,
and you don't recognize how unhealthy this situation is. And
(03:58):
I'll tell you why, because I've seen this with people
who are close to me in my life, and I
actually saw it with myself until I had to call
myself on AGM and be like, babes, we're not going
to be moving like this anymore. Chaos can feel very
familiar and it can even feel safe. So in your childhood,
if let me take mine for example, So I grew
(04:19):
up for some time in a home where my dad
was physically abusive to my mom, he had an alcohol problem, etc.
Being in that environment made me hyper vigilant, made me
put together a toolbox or a toolkit to know how
to either try and detect when my dad was going
(04:39):
to move from being happy drunk to being physical drunk,
right violent drunk, to try and see what's within my control.
Imagining as a child, what are the things in my
toolbox or my toolkit that I can pull out that
will keep my dad entertained and happy so that we
avoid the violent drunk. That toolkit I carried with me
(05:03):
everywhere even into adulthood. And because that toolkit represented safety,
I felt more comfortable in chaos because I had trained
all my childhood on how to maneuver it. But when
you bring me peace, when you bring me ease, when
(05:25):
you bring me love in its purest form, I would
feel the stabilized because I don't have a toolkit for
that one. In fact, there's a quote that talks about healing.
It's I'm going to paraphrase it, but what it says
is that you don't heal so that you can handle
your dark days. You heal so that you know how
to handle the lights. Because sometimes the chaos. You keep
(05:48):
repeating that pattern because in childhood, that was your familiar,
that was you safety. And so you'll even sometimes call
this chaos passion, right, And you'll call people who are
healthier or more securely attached, you'll call them boring, because
this toolkit of yours and this years of experience is
(06:12):
what you think is safe. I have another question for
you that I want you to ask yourself. You can
journal about it, you can drop it in the comments.
Can you recall a time when you confused chaos or
inconsistency for love?
Speaker 2 (06:28):
How did that play out? Now?
Speaker 1 (06:31):
Not every deep connection is a trauma bond, right, And
I feel like sometimes it's so difficult to even figure
it out at the beginning. And that's what I'm currently
doing with this particular relationship that I'm trying to be like,
it was safe, This was a safe space for me
for a very long time. It's a very healthy space
for me for a very long time. But then, and
(06:53):
if you're on a journey of healing, you'll know this.
There's a level of enlightenment that you get to that
then you look at things that you thought were healthy
and you're like, oh my goodness, this shouldn't be in
my life, you know what I mean? So how do
you tell the difference? I feel like an unhealthy situation
thrives in secrecy and fear and shame, and you even
(07:16):
almost feel it, eh inside, you feel this is not
safe for me. It's almost is like your nervous system
sends you little pangs. At least for me, that's what happens.
Speaker 2 (07:28):
And I'm like, something.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
Is off here, even before I have thought about it
and processed it in my mind. I think a healthy
space really thrives in honesty, in respect, in empathy, and
in compassion. So an unhealthy space will ask you to
shrink yourself to keep the peace, and a healthy one
(07:50):
will just ask you to show up fully, flaws and all.
And so at this point, my third question to you
is to think about one born currently in your life.
Does it leave you feeling smaller or safer? You can
journal about that back to our childhood. So when betrayal
(08:10):
happens in childhood, it's so difficult to trust in adulthood,
it feels like you're walking on glass.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
And I really.
Speaker 1 (08:19):
Actually think I really struggle to trust because of different
experiences I went through in my childhood I find that
like my nervous system gets stuck on high a lot.
It's looking for a sign to show.
Speaker 2 (08:35):
Me that it you need to duck. This person is
about a full of first.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
One on you get out of here quick, you know.
But I have to credit myself for the work that
I'm doing with my therapist in just relearning to trust
right and understanding that trust doesn't happen in one big leap.
It's like a series of many small experiments, you know,
so setting a boundary and then you see it been respected,
(09:01):
Or you're allowing someone to show consistency over time. You know,
you're giving them grace and you're giving them a prolonged
time period. You're not just judging them off of ten seconds,
you know. I think another small experiment is like looking
inward and self soothing when you feel triggered, instead of
(09:21):
shutting down or lashing out or even abandoning yourself, like
just go inside immediately you feel triggered, go back inside
and be like, where is this coming from? And once
you figure out that, oh, it's because of that thing
that happened to me in my childhood, self soothe and
remind yourself that you're in a safe place, and you're
(09:42):
choosing healthier paths. So that tool, kid, that you built
up in childhood, you no longer need it, you know,
just soothe yourself out of it, and then you have
to break the cycle, isn't it, Because honestly, unheals trauma
from our childhood. It doesn't just live in us, like,
it's not just localized to inside us.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
It spills into.
Speaker 1 (10:04):
Like how we parent, how we are with our partners,
how we are with our friends, And without noticing it,
you could actually pass on your wounds to the next generation.
I mean when we talk about mother wounds, these are
passed down across generations. So healing doesn't only free you,
(10:25):
it frees the people besides and coming after you. It's
pressing a pause button. It's rewriting the script. It's saying
we're going to choose differently. It's stopping the cycle. My
question here to you is what's one inherited pattern that
you refuse to pass on? For me, I haven't answered
(10:48):
any of the other questions. Will let me answer this one.
For me, it has to be self betrayal at the
altar of relationships right with men, intimate relationships with men.
Speaker 2 (11:03):
That's what I mean, I.
Speaker 1 (11:04):
Think, for the longest time, I've seen women in my
lineage forget who they are, forget their dreams, forget even
that their emotions matter, all in the name of preserving
a relationship with a man. That is not a pattern
I want to pass on or continue. It's not something
(11:26):
I want for myself, and I don't have kids of
my own, but I always think I have two nieces.
I always want them to have an example of a
woman who intentionally broke free from childhood trauma and decided
(11:46):
to live a big life, no matter how uncomfortable healing God,
no matter how scared she was. I want them to
have that example, and then I want that freedom for me.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
You know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (11:59):
But let's get back It's love. What does love without
trauma feel like?
Speaker 2 (12:07):
I've experienced this.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
I'm so glad I have, and honestly, I don't think
I would have without therapy. It feels like ease. There
are parts of it that feel uncomfortable because it may
demand that you face yourself, but it feels like ease.
It feels like joy without dread. You're not happy, but
also thinking at the back of your mind like okay,
(12:29):
when is this going to you know, when's the others
you're gonna draw. It feels like safety without any strings attached.
And I genuinely think we all deserve that. You deserve that,
and I want to share with you one of my
favorite affirmations, I am worthy of love that doesn't ask
me to bleed to prove it. Ah, you have your
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homework lined up for you from this episode. There's a
couple of questions that you need to sit with. If
you love journaling, I would say pick one of the
questions I've shared with you every day and journal your
answer to it. If you feel moved, to drop your
answer in the common section. But please don't let this
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episode go without you answering those questions. So many of
us adults are carrying so much brokenness and are living
such limited, small, uncomfortable, painful lives because we are still
carrying hurt from our childhood. And one of the things
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I want us here at legally clueless to do for
you is to ensure that we help you break free
from that. Honestly, you deserve to live a big life.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
You be here.
Speaker 1 (13:49):
I hope I don't get emotional, but like you deserve
to live a big life. You deserve freedom from your trauma,
and you deserve to stop that cycle. And the only
way you're gonna stop it is by healing yourself. Right. Ah.
I feel so deeply about this topic. But if today's
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episode truly resonated with you, I want you to know this.
You don't have to walk through this healing alone. I
know it can be scary to do it alone. You
don't have to. We have our final three part group
therapy of twenty twenty five coming up. Okay, we're doing
this in partnership which Shamiri Health. We'll have three accredited
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psychologists who will guide us through deep conversations on the
theme childhood trauma. Some of the issues that we're going
to tackle together is how trauma manifests and how to
recognize it, because I think we really battle with that,
like is this that trauma thing?
Speaker 2 (14:50):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (14:50):
What is it I'm dealing with here? You know, We're
also going to look at signs of childhood trauma we
often miss. We're gonna look at common trauma responses and
how to manage them. Let me tell you, I see
this in so many adults, even in myself. Someone reacts
or I react, and I can tell Adele. This is
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a trauma response, and I can even thread it to
what happened to me in childhood and why I'm reacting
like this at my big age of thirty six. Another
issue we're going to tackle is how trauma shapes our
relationships and bonds. We're going to talk about inner child dialogue,
reconnecting and healing that in a child. We're also going
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to talk about building self compassion in the aftermath of pain.
These are some heavy topics, but let me tell you
the freedom that awaits you after we've gone through these
three group therapy sessions. Ah, hey, I really want that
for you. I really want that for you. So the
three dates that our group therapy is going to be
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happening is on the eleventh of October, the eighth of November,
and the of December. Tickets are four thy five hundred
bob and that covers all three sessions, plus the snacks
that will come in the sessions, plus any of the
resources that we'll share with you during the session. So
it's quite a steal. And since it's group therapy, we're
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very limited, very limited tickets, but you can get your
ticket right now through the link in our show notes.
Go to our website legally Clueless Africa dot com or
just go directly to Husslesassa.
Speaker 2 (16:30):
Remember, this is the last group.
Speaker 1 (16:31):
Therapy of the year, and I'd really love for you
to be part of it. And not only that. If
there is someone in your life who you feel either
you want to go through this healing journey with them,
or you want to make them aware of this opportunity
because you love them so much, share the opportunity with them.
Either share this episode or share link to our group
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therapy tickets page. It was so touchy our last cohort
that we did, I think from March, April and May.
It was so touching to see some women came with
their best friends and I just thought, this is so wonderful.
Speaker 2 (17:12):
Our last wellness talk.
Speaker 1 (17:14):
We had a couple come guy and girl who wanted
to strengthen their relationship. Our last group therapy, we also
had a couple come in and yeah, so you don't
have to do it only alone.
Speaker 2 (17:28):
If there's someone you love and you're.
Speaker 1 (17:30):
Like, oh, we need to do this together, share this
with them. And as I always say, I don't know
if I say it in this show, but I always
say it on our Monday Show. I truly appreciate you,
I really do, and I believe that you have every
single thing it takes to heal. Thanks for listening to
The Midwikti's a Legally Clueless Africa production. Episodes go out
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every Wednesday, and you can learn more about us by
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