September 7, 2025 • 46 mins
This week on Legally Clueless, we step into Part 1 of Audrey June’s story. She takes us back to her childhood in Migori County, the joy, the bond with her siblings, the love in her family, and then the cracks that began to appear. From her parents’ separation, to the loneliness she felt as a child, and the strength she witnessed in her mother as she fought to rebuild their lives. Part 2 of her story, where joy and unimaginable heartbreak collide, will be out next week.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
My name is adele On Younger and welcome to another
episode of Legally Clueless. No, seriously, i have no clue
what I'm doing, but I'm pretty sure I'm not the
only one. Hey, you welcome to this episode of Legally Clueless.
This is what's coming up.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
Having married my mom young before she went for college,
it kind of felt like my father's family did not
feel my mom was the best wife for him because
of who my father was in that moment, someone was
brought for him. So it was like, this my mom,
and then there's another wife that has come into the picture,
someone who is more educated at saying that time, someone
that this family felt who was worthy of my dad.
(00:42):
I came home from school and my mom was not there.
So what I noticed in that moment is that while
we were leaving, my grandma was chasing us, screaming, Oh,
she's living with the children, or she's stealing the kids.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
Ooh. This is gonna be one of those very memorable stories.
Is Audrey and her story is coming up a little
late in this episode, part one of it, so buckle
up for that. But before we get there, if you
are an OG member, I've got nothing but love for
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Not to see the final one forever, the final one
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there are three sessions that you're going to be signing
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(02:02):
Mm hm. Imagine you're not the only one who is
finding it tricky to navigate that space, or you're finding
your childhood trauma is showing up in the workplace, in
your business, in your relationships, in your friendships. Yeah, it's
time for us to sort it out nice and early
before December when we have to go and hang out.
Speaker 3 (02:23):
With the triggers. The triggers when it comes to childhood traumas.
So make sure you listen to the midwig Te's on Wednesday.
You sign up for news letters so you don't miss
out on the announcement, and you book your slot because
not only is it the last one for the year,
but of course group therapy is very intimate, very limited numbers,
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so the quicker you book your slot, the better. Okay,
let's head into one hundred African stories, and this week
on the podcast, we're stepping into Audrey June's story. So
she's gonna take us back to her childhood, the joy,
the born with her siblings, the love in her family,
and then when the cracks began to appear. All right,
(03:08):
I don't want to give too much away, but this
is one episode that very many of us are going
to connect with.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
A hundred African stories are legally clueless stories from Africa.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
So my name is Audrey. I was born in a
town in Megory County called Rongo. I'm a first born
in a family of Fife, including my late brother. I'd
say I was born in a very happy family. Like
all fairy tales begin, there's always the good and then
something happens. But my childhood was basically very good. My
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brother and I we were kind of like twins, i'd say,
so we were born seventeen months apart. I was born
June of this year. I was born the following year November,
so a difference of a few months here and there.
And my sister was born I think three years later,
Like all of us were born in a span of
three years. So I'd say my mom was the end
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of that time. But you know, I mean, I would
not say that there was anything wrong with my life
then my brother was there. I was happy was born.
You know, when you when you're a young child and
then you get like a sibling, they're the best thing
to ever happened to you. Any joke of them being
taken or anything happening to them, you cannot even imagine that.
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My mom and dad they met young. They were like
a very young couple who met and they fell in love,
and like less than a year later, I was born,
less than seventeen months later, My brother was born three
years later, my sister was born, So they were it
was a very young marriage or very young people. And
just allowed me to say that my father is a
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firstborn of like thirty kids. I weren't going to the
details of that, but being the firstborn of that many
children because his father had like pretty a cool number
of wife, so much was expected of my dad. And
I feel like having married my mom young, before she
went for college or like got something to do with
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her life, it kind of felt like my father's family
did not feel my mom was the best wife for you.
It looked like there wasn't so much value she was
adding if you look at it, because this is the
first bone of like very many kids, and a lot
of expectation is put on him in terms of work,
you know what it brings to the table. And then
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now my mom is here, she's young, she has small kids.
I didn't feel like she Like, looking at it from
an adult perspective, I don't think she was so welcomed
in this family. And as a young child, you don't
know that. I'm telling you this from me being an
adult now. So she wasn't up in this marriage. In
my opinion, she was maybe frustrated or maybe not hard.
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And again, because of who my father was in that moment,
someone was brought for him. So it was like this
my mom, and then there's another wife that us coming
to the picture, someone who is more educated at saying
that time, someone very cooler, someone you know, someone that
this family felt who was worthy of my dad. So
the reason why I'm saying this is because this wonderful
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fairy tale of me and my siblings and our little family,
it kind of starts to crumble, you know, with a
third party or like someone else coming in. It means
it starts to crumble their cracks coming in, and now
that bleas and happiness. Because my dad is a very
very interesting person. He would take us on walks, you know,
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carry us on his neck, to go and watch sunset,
you know, go and see badness, would go shopping. It
was such a wonderful time. But when this other person
came in, it's like there was a shift. So I
I'm not really privy of the time. I don't want
to use exact years because it's like I can't remember clearly,
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but I know it's a time before to a seven
and a time after, So I'll be referencing to A
seven as my middle time, So anything after and anything before.
So I remember a time before to a seven. I
came home from school and my mom was not there,
and so I had my younger siblings with me. You know,
I'm the first born in as much as I'm young,
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I need to know what was going on. I need
to take care of the rest so my mom doesn't
come home. I noticed that my grandma is taking care
of us. She's cooking, and then she's bathing us, and
then she takes us to sleep later in the night.
And you know, me, as a child, I think I
had a bond with my mom, so her not being
around it was so traumatic for me. So I'm just wondering,
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why is she Day one, she's not around. Day two,
she's not around. And again, I really cannot tell how
many days she was away, but me right now feels
like it was fourteen days. Ever since I've grown up,
in my mind, I just took it as fourteen days,
so I'd say she was away for fourteen days. So
on the fourteenth day, I'm in school, I'm playing like,
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you know, you're worried, and then you're not, Like I was, like,
she's not coming back, she's not communicating. I don't know
where she is. We are young going to sleep with
my siblings. I'm so scared, Like they're asleep, but I'm awake,
and I'm not sure if I was between age five
to seven, somewhere there about on the fourteenth day, I
see her in school and I'm like, ooh, finally she's here.
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And when she says when she comes, she's like, hey,
go get your bro. Because my sister was young, she
hadn't started school, so me and my bro were in school.
I think I was maybe in class three or class two.
And for me seeing my mom after such a long time, yeah,
it's you know, it's such a good thing. And I'm
so happy. So I go get my bro and she's like,
(08:50):
we're going on a journey. I'm happy. I'm estatic. I'm like,
now this is it. So we go home and when
we get to the house, I realize that everything is
packed up, every single thing except maybe utensils and their seats,
but every single thing is packed up, and she has
like bananas and sweets for us, and we're just happy.
(09:11):
Everything is just the way it should be. And she's like,
I can't everyone to carry a bag. She had a
bag for me, a bag for my bro. My sister
was very young. She's like, we're going. So we're going,
you know, and I'm so happy. I don't even care
where we're going, but we're going. So what I noticed
in that moment is that while we were leaving, my
grandma was chasing us, screaming, oh, she's living with the children,
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or she's stealing the kids. But for me, it's such
a happy moment. I'm jumping. I'm like, you know, it's
it's adrenaline. It's so exciting. And my mom is like,
walk first and don't look back. So we're going, and
we're going. So we went up to the bus stop
with my grandma chasing. It was like a all movie thing,
by the way, and we get there and we get
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in for a bus. And that day, now that I'm
an adult, is the day my mother left my father. Basically,
I didn't realize it was a divorced kind of it
was like the day my family was breaking. But for me,
it was one of those wonderful days that we were
going on this journey and I didn't I didn't see
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I didn't see like anything wrong with it. But now
later on I realized that was the last time I
ever was at our home because we never really went back,
come to think, coming to think about it, So we
went to my mother's place now my maternal grandmother, and
it was all you know, when you're a child, you're
not processing this day. I'm processing right now. Yes. So
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we got there, and I think after three months or more,
my father comes because when people in marriage, I think
they disagree. There's always trying to talk, you know, maybe
to get her to come back. I really don't know
what the adults were speaking about, but he came after
some time. So when it came, my brother and my
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father were best friends. They loved each other. I mean,
my father loved all of us, but there was just
something about my brother because you know, he was the
only boy. So they just had this thing. So my
father comes on and there's this communication, you know, adults
are speaking, and then at the end of the day,
my brother insists that he has to go back with
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my dad. It was I can't remember the exact time,
but they went back together. So I remained with my
sister on our mother's side, and my brother went with
my dad on the other side. So basically, my brother
is with my paternal grandma and me and my sister
were with my maternal grandma and my mom. During this time,
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I think she was looking for jobs to do. She
would travel to Nairobi come get some work to do
for a few months, then she would come back home.
So we were fully living with our grandma. She was
taking care of us. So after you know the way
currently the co parenting, I think maybe they came up
with something of that sort. But back before two seven,
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maybe it wasn't called co parenting per se. But I
realized that after maybe a few months, my dad would come.
We'd meet at a certain restaurant, we'd play with my siblings.
He would come with my brother and then my mom
would go with us in this restaurant and we'd sit there,
we'd eat, talk, you know, play, and then in the evening,
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my brother and my father would go back, and then
me and my sister and my mom we'd go back
to my grandmother's place. So this went on for about
like I'd say, twice in a year. It happened twice
in a year, and then now the third time that
we met with my dad, my sister also insisted on
going on the other side. For some reason, I never
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left my mom. I just felt safe on this side.
I didn't even know what was there on the other side,
but in my head I was like, I'm not trying this.
So every time we'd meet, for me, I always felt
safer with my mom on this other side. So the
next time my sister also went, so I remained by
myself on this other side. Being alone, it wasn't easy
to be honest, I suffered loneliness as a child. One
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thing I also realized is that I'd find a reason
why this is happening. We were happy, we were living
together out of nowhere, we are here now, this separation.
I don't understand what's going on. There's no adult explaining
this to me. So as a child, you try to
come up with an explanation. And for me, I was like,
this has to be something I did. This has to
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be something. Maybe I didn't do my own mark on time,
maybe I didn't watch my socks. There has to be
something I did that made my fairy tale just go
to hell and everything just went bad. So I remember
those times when I was alone. I would watch other
children play, but not go there to play with them.
I would just sneak by the fence, look at them playing,
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and then imagine that I'm playing with my brother and
my sister and just enjoy that, not like involved myself.
I basically became someone who doesn't I'm in a crowd,
but I'm not in that crowd. I'm just there's me
and then there's everyone else. And there's a time that
I saw a child that looked like my bro and
I was convinced they look the same, they talk the same,
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even I was sure the name was the same. So
I would stok this child. I didn't know it was
a stalker. Honestly, to me, it wasn't really stalking, come
to think about it. But me now, after watching all
the movies, I know I was a stalker. I would
watch him play. I would follow him around. Literally, I
would go to their place and I would be watching
him from like the fence, everything he does, and I
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would feel so happy. And then I would tell my
mom I think I saw someone who looks like Warren.
And I think maybe because she's an adult, she's like,
you know, this is just a child. But it was
a real thing for me. It made me feel so
good that there's someone out there like I would feel
like he's here with me. People really don't think so
much about the bond that siblings have, and I think
in my case, because this person came into my life.
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Basically when I was a child, we were moved to
Insteran siblings. It was really really close to me, and
so I would really miss them. I would really really
want to be with them. So I heard this thing
in my head where I created a family in my
head and we were together and we were happy. I
just folded inwards, like for me, I have this happy
life inwards, but outside I'm really I'm not having a
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good time. So fast forward. I think within all these
negotiation and talking and trying to mend this marriage, it
was agreed that I should go to a boarding school.
And I think also during this time, my paternal grandma
may have soul rest in peace. She died, so my
sister and my brother they didn't have someone to take
care of them. Because my sister was young, she came
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back to stay with us, but because my bro he
had really started school, he had to go and stay
with my step mom, so again he was there alone.
And then all my sister joined me on this side,
and a few months later I was shipped to boarding school.
To speak about boarding school, even though it wasn't the best,
but what I would like to say is that the
same year that I went to boarding school, my mom
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got a bit of a stable job. It then Sony
Sugar Company. I don't know if you're worried with Sony
Sugar Company, but yes, so she got a job there.
So when she got that job, it meant she had
stability for one. It meant now there's no reason why
her kids are scattered all over the place. So it
means all of us we need to come together and
now be a family. I cannot explain to you how
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excited I was because of that, because imagine, after all
these breakups and all these emotions and loneliness, I'm shipped
off to a boarding school in the end of the world.
I'm still alone. That feeling is still with me. But
then now my mom tells me, when you close school
this town, you're coming home and your brother will be
there and your sister will be there. I was the
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happiest I remember was in satentday six. Now I do
remember that. So I came home for half time, and
the following day my brother came. Have you ever like
I think for me when I was growing up, if
I missed you and I saw you, I would cry.
It happened all the time. It's like my way of
telling you have you been like why would you do
this to me? I had like a very crazy attachment
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to people. So when I saw him, I just started crying.
And I think maybe because it's a boy or something,
he was just wondering what is wrong with this one?
So he came and he sat next to me and
he gave me, I remember, a biscuit, and then I
gave him like a switch. Our bond just began again
and we started jumping all over the place, and that
is how we reconnected. It was just like I've not
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seen you for two years, but I remember had not
seen him for accomplished two years for me to see
him on that day, and then the following day my
sister came. So once again we're reunited with our mom.
Everything seems to be getting back to normal. So when
we're with our mother, you know, it's still coparenting essentially
because my dad is not home. He comes once in
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a while, he buys us things when he comes. It
takes us out when he comes. But now we are
a family. Now we are with our mother. You know,
she's trying everything. Now. My sister and my brother enrolled
in a school in the town we were living in
near Sonny Sugar, and I'm still in that boarding school.
I'm I'm about to go to Stanardy seven. So anyway,
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so fast forward. I finished my Snardy eighth. My brother
is also continuing with this school, and my sister I
think by then she already started school as well. So
my bro was a very bright person, very very bright.
I think if I remember him, I remember him by
being someone who knew how to fix everything. Tell me
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why a child knows how to make a radio work
or how to make Christmas lights. You know, he would
just do all these crazy things that would make me think, wow,
like this person is so bright, and even in school,
you would do so well. It was always number one,
you know. If he is not in a good mood,
then it's maybe number two. But he was such a
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bright child, and even my sister is very bright. Let me, okay,
not to brag or anything, but I think it's just
something we have. Maybe it comes from my mom. And
I just want to go back a little bit to
tell a bit of my mom's story because it's relevant
for this story. My mom was a housewife for thirteen
years by the time I joined for one. That is
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when she was like, I'm going back to school. You
remember the reason why she wasn't so cool for this family.
The reason why all this went south was because she
had done her phone for but she did not go
to college. So I think she was applying and applying
for colleges because she had done well. She had done
well in her casecy examination. By twenty thirteen, she got
a call to go and study for teaching in Carisa,
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and we were so happy. My mom was very happy.
But she had nothing really to like for school fee
or anything. And I remember the night she was going.
All of us three we took her to the bus
stop with her bag and she told me, Audrey, I'm
going there. I don't have school fee, I don't have anything.
I'm going to tell that Dino students to give me
a week to figure things out. I just don't want
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them to think I'm not coming, because you know, when
you get a late and then you don't respond, they
might just assume one of men you who don't show.
So she wanted to show that woman is the strongest
person I've ever met in my life. The way she
rose from all this. She decided I'm going to make
my life right. And that night we beat her goodbye
and she went to Garissa. Garrisa was crazy during those times.
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And all this while I'm in high school. My mom
is in Garrisa trying.
Speaker 1 (20:32):
You know.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
She would do her to get money to pay for school,
for you, to pay for hosteale, for accommodation and everything.
And still she will send me pocket money in school.
Like that's a hustler right there. My mom is such
a hustler. So she's gone to college and she's working
really hard. By the way, and the reason why I'm
talking about this is because she's a very bright person.
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By end of twenty fourteen, she graduated with distinctions. After
giving birth to all of us. Thirteen years later, she
graduated top of a class and we were so happy. Well,
we could not go to Garisa for the graduation because
you know, all of us, there's not enough money. You know,
we were just trying to live by the little that
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we had. My dad would show sometimes sometimes not. My
father is a wonderful person. I also want to say
that because people might think from this story he is
a bad person. No, we have a wonderful relationship. Things
do happen in life, you know, sometimes adults they make
decisions that are not great. But at the end of
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the day, you understand these were young people. Me right
now understands my father was twenty five, my mom was
twenty when they came together. Those are children, I mean
jen Z's for then. Really it's really crazy, So I
totally understand where they come from. So my mom graduates
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top over class in twenty fourteen, and we were so happy,
and you know, she's funny and she's brilliant, and I
can't just believe she's my mom. So in that same year,
my brother, No, now, in twenty thirteen, my brother did
his CASEYP examine e Fron. We knew he was gonna
get a good school because you know, this is him.
He gets like five hundred marks on some days for
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nineteen nine or some days. So it wasn't like we
didn't know he was gonna get into a good school.
But early twenty fourteen, I come home from after first
after and he's like, guess what. So I'm like, I
can't kiss, just tell me what it is, and it's like,
come let me show you. And then it gives me
this letter from a Lance High school whoa I was
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so happy, and my mom was the happiest. You know,
she has struggled with us to go to go back
to school, to fed for, to find for herself, to
ensure we're dressed and eating. Now my brother's going to
Alliance High School and her she's doing well already, she's
almost graduating now, you know, end of twenty thirteen, my
brother does his case CPE. End of twenty fourteen, my
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mom is going to graduate. So this is a time
when she's in college. Still. I was the happiest, and
my brother was so happy. I think he didn't think
you'd get Alliance. Maybe Man was something close or the
schools that were great back then, but Alliance is not
something we thought as a family. And considering everything we
had gone through, there was like a cheirry on top,
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like God was giving us a cake and then he
puts like a chairy on top, like everything was just perfect.
So first forward again, now in twenty fourteen, my brother
is taken to a Lance High school. My mom takes him.
My dad was there because you know, my dad has
taken us to school, all of us. He did provide
school fee, yes he did. He was He would come
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home maybe once in a while, but our school fee
was paid. He would send money for upkeep, so I
in my mind I think maybe adults disagree, But for him,
he decided for my kids, I'm going to be here
so that I have to mention, yes, so my brother
is taking to Alliance High School, the school of these dreams.
He would tell us stories for days. I mean the
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first time he came home from a Lance, I think
he carried everything he had just to show us, Like
the weekend things you wear, how do you call those?
I remember mine to be a weekend dress. So for
him maybe it was like shirts and blazers. He came
home with everything books that are like a Lance high school,
Like it was a whole thing. In our family. We
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were so happy. And you would tell us where they sleep,
what they eat. I'm like, are you in school, you know?
Because for me, I was in nice school in Yansa,
So I'm like, I can't relate with this. You know,
this is so cool. Like you would tell me the
way they have sausages in the morning. I'm like, bro
sausages for us in the morning, It's like nothing, literally,
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And he would tell me where they sleep, how the
dormitories are he tells me, I go to school with
an ambassador's child. I'm like, wait for real. And he
tells me how to Daney's classmates. Like he do so cool?
You tell me, you know my desc mate is an
Empy son. All these stories and we were just like wow,
it was just our thing, you know. It made us
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so happy. I'd never been to a Lance school even today,
I've not been to a Lance high school. But from
what you will tell me, I knew that place was heaven.
Literally for me, that was heaven. And he was so
excited about it. You tell us about his dreams. You know,
he wanted to become an head boy by from one
to one and I'm like, are you not ambitious? But
again that is him. He loved to get on. There
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was a leader. It was someone who just he made
friends easily compared to me. Yeah, so he's in Aliance
High School. We're happy my mother that year twenty fourteen
and graduates with distinction. Tell me why we're not happy?
Everything is just perfect? So now, my mom, you know,
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teaching the way it is right now. When you finish,
there's no guarantee you're going to get a job immediately.
It's never there's some people who finished like nine years ago,
they don't even have a job to date. And even
my mom, the people that she went to school with
who don't have jobs to date in the TC. But
case what, my mom gets called for an interview. She's
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just going because you know, I'm done with school, love
my papers, now why not go for an interview. So
she goes. A few days later, she gets a call
and actually it's getting She's getting the job again. I
come from school now in twenty fifteen. And my brother
is like, Casewood, now, I'm in from four in twenty fifteen,
I'm in from four Giesswood. And I'm like, tell me already,
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and he's like, mom has gotten a job. Now. That
was the best because now we were just imagining. There's
no more living on scraps because my mom used to
do her to also feed us. There is no more
not being sure of supper. There's no more not being
sure of, you know, whether there's gonna be a meal tomorrow.
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She's going to have a stable job now. And when
my mom got that call and she went to reporting
the school she was posted in because now you know,
we were living in Megory County all this time, and
then she got posted to Kisumu County, so we were
going to live in a whole different town. I could
not stop imagining asly moving to kisum I was like,
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I cannot wait to move to Kisumu. Now this is
like October of twenty fifteen. My brother is in home two.
I'm about to do my case sy examination and everything
is working out perfectly if you think about it. So
my mom gets posted, she goes to kisum but now
she's commuting. She's like going there for a week and
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then over the weekend she comes back home. I mean
the first salary my mother got, she was like, guys,
come here, we're going to spend this money. There's no
like anything you want to tell me. It wasn't a
lot of money, obviously, but she said, we're not saving
anything from this money. We're going to eat what we want.
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We're going to do whatever we want, anything you want.
That is how much we had waited for a breakthrough, honestly.
And now my brother was like, now I can't go
to an Auerrobi and I can look who like the
other kids you know being in Atlines high school and
you're not coming from such a well of family. There's
that difference. You literally can see I'm not as cool
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as these kids. But now my mom has a job. Ah,
I'm going to dress the way I want. And I
remember that time. My brother was buying a lot of things,
a cool bag, you know, a cape. Who is he
was just trying to now be the person that we
always wanted to be, you know, someone who does not
lack like I cannot explain to you the joy that
we had in that time. And nobody would believe my
(28:47):
mom got a job. Actually, they were like, did you
pay something? Did you do something? But I can't tell
you right now. She did not do anything. It was
a miracle for all of us. It was a wonder
like what do you when you graduated? Is not a
year and you have a job. People have been waiting
for this job for years. How did this happen? So
now December of twenty fifteen, so my brother is informed too.
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I've already done my case, he say, I'm home just chilling,
you know, having a good time. My mom is not around,
she's working in Kisumu County. But we have a plan
that in December all of us are moving there because
now there's no point of us living here. And my
dad will love to know come with us on the
other side, because you know where your mom stays basically
is where you stay. Yes, so it's December, and back
(29:35):
in the day our Christmas, it used to be basic.
Let me just tell you the truth. My mom would
cook for us, like eggs and spaghetti. We drink some
juice and call it a day. And it was such
a happy time for me. I mean, it was just
our thing. We don't have a lot of money, but guys,
on Christmas, we're cooking chaparties, we're cooking eggs, and we're
(29:57):
making spaghetti and that was our signature Christmas dish. But
now this is here. My mom has money, Like, don't
forget she has money that hers. She doesn't have to
call someone else for money. Like, we have a lot
of money basically, so we're going to eat at different
Christmas this time around. She was like, guys, come here,
tell me what you want. And I specifically remember even
(30:22):
what happened on that day because my mom was like
he gave my brother the highm card. She was like,
call there and check if there's money. If there's money,
we draw this amount of money so that all of
us can go shopping. That was twenty third, December twenty fifteen.
So my brother goes and then he comes back. You know,
he's swag and now he's wearing a caperhood and his
(30:43):
voice is just starting to break because you know he's
the home. Two boy and girls are overring around our gate,
you know, because there's a cute boy there, and he's like, oops,
there's no money. And then he's like, oh, I'm kidding,
there's money. I cannot forget that particular day. My mom
is like, let's go shopping. On twenty third, we went shopping.
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We were just buying things because now we have money,
we can't pick whatever we want from the shelf. We
are away from living like the hard life is past us.
Now we're basically rich in our own standards. Yeah, so
that's twenty third, we go shopping for things, and then
there's twenty fourth. So what happened was during this period
(31:26):
one of my grandmother's died. You remember I told you
my dad is like a first bone of thirty children.
My grandfather had like plenty of wives and so one
of them, unfortunately had passed on during this period. So again,
there was like us going home in our rural home
because of the funeral plannings and everything. So on Christmas
(31:46):
Day we have like a feast and my brother's friends
are over, my friends are here. We are having a
good time. My little sister is there. Nothing seems to
be wrong in my life right now. As an adult,
I'm afraid of happiness because from that period, you can't
tell the much happiness we had, you know, and then
(32:09):
that happiness was just young, the way It's like you
were standing on a rug and then someone pulled it off.
So sometimes I do not associate happiness with good things.
I'm like, this is too good to be true. There's
a part of me that is like that, but I'll
get to that later. Because the days leading to the
passing of my brother, I feel like they were extremely happy.
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They were surreal, like it wasn't supposed to be that happy.
Because even his birthday, my brother was born on the
twenty ninth of November nineteen ninety nine, I remember blowing
a candle and being like, may you live a thousand years.
Looking back, I'm like God must have been like, are
(32:53):
you sure, because literally my brother had like a month
to live from that day, thinking about it from countdown
point of view, I just didn't know it his birthday.
We were happy, we were celebrating, like you know, saying
these cute words we say on birthdays. But I just
didn't know. We're on a countdown and it's literally days left,
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and these days leading to that day, everything seemed perfect.
The laughter was even louder, like you'd feel the bond
was even tighter, like there's just something you look at
it after something has happened, though in the moment you don't,
but after you look back, like wow. We were laughing louder,
(33:37):
We were making even funnier jokes. We were spending so
much time together. We were happy before this happened. So anyway,
Christmas Day perfect. So on the twenty sixth, me and
my mum we left home because we needed to go
to a rural home again because of all this funeral
planning that is going on for my grandmother. And that
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is twenty sixth now, I spend the entire day there.
In the evening, we're going back home. That is the
last time I texted my brother I can remember. I
was like, hey, where we are. There's no lights? Do
you have lights? At home and he texted back no
by candles. That was it. But I didn't know then
that that would be the last text I ever get
from him. So we go back home. Nothing seems weird.
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And that night, the night of twenty six, I was sick.
I was really sick. Whatever I'd eaten that date wasn't
going down. And that night I was feeling like someone
was watching me sleep, but I didn't know. Maybe it
was the Angel of death, like choosing who is going
to take away from us that day because we used
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to be sleep in the same room and I had
this feeling that someone was watching me. And I'd woken
up so many times at night, even heim he had
taken me out of our house quite a number of times.
But premonitions are weird because you do not know this
is a demolition until something terrible has happened. Like it's
(35:04):
like a bell that is warning you of something, but
there's nothing you're going to do about what is about
to happen. It's a warning that you don't even know
is a warning. I was feeling so sick that night.
I was feeling like someone is watching me in my sleep.
The following morning. Now on twenty seventh morning, we had
a normal breakfast. Actually were sitting on a table telling stories, eating.
(35:28):
I can remember we're eating sweet bananas, we were having YIDERI,
we were having tea. We were just having a random
family morning. And because my mom has money, I have
to reference this money thing heavily. My brother was like,
you need to buy me a suit. I think now
I have everything I have, like sneakers, I have whod is,
(35:49):
but I don't have a suit. And my mom is like,
don't worry about it. It's a suit you want. You're
going to get a suit. And it's just a normal morning.
But for me, I feel sick. And my mom suggests,
when we were done with first you need to go
and buy some malaria medicare show. She gives me money
and she leaves. So that day they were still going
for this burraal thing that is going on at home.
(36:09):
So my mom leaves with my dad in the morning
because my dad was home on that particular day. So
later they were supposed to go with my brother, but
you know, he was sluggish, being a teenager. He was
just doing things slowly, so they went before him. So
he leaves and me and my sister were on now rand.
I think I was plaiting my sister's hair around doing
it something of that sort. And he's in a purplehood.
(36:33):
He was wearing blue jeans. He was wearing some white
purpose sneakers, if I can't recall. And so he gets
out of the gate. We used to really tease him
because you know, his voice is just breaking and he
looks fine. He was such a handsome boy. So we're like, hey,
where are you going? What are you going to see?
You know, we're just being sisters, you know. Me and
(36:54):
my sister were like, wait, and you look so cute.
You have to be meeting this and these girls, we
knew a few girls that were hovering around or a gate.
So we're just teasing him about it, and he's like, no,
I'm not going anywhere. I'm just going to join mom
and dad over there because there was the rural place
trying to organize the whole funeral thing. And I'm like, see,
you leave us with some money. You look like you
(37:16):
have money. It was just a joke thing among siblings,
and it's like, let me give you money, and he
took his wallet and he just did this, and I
think that e both came out of it, which you
were so glad to take. And we lived in a
place where it was like a hill, so when you're
coming home, it's like you're climbing, and when you're going
it's like you're going down like this. So he's walking
(37:38):
away and I didn't know he's walking away forever literally,
because we're laughing and he's going and he's like, i'll
see you guys in the evening and we're like bye bye,
bye bye, and is walking away and he's going. And
I have no idea that up until today, I would
never see him walk up that hill coming up. So
(38:01):
I do, and do my sisters. Yeah, we spend time together.
Thing later that they go to the chemist. I buy
this Ma Laia mates, which I don't think I took.
So around four, my mom comes back and she's like,
have you guys heard from your brother? And I'm like, no,
you guys are supposed to meet and she's like, for
some reason, he didn't come. And then I'm like, you know,
(38:23):
he maybe met his friends and they went they did
a did tour thing and he's going to come home.
And my mom is like, yeah, sure, I know your
blueby is going to explain to me where he is,
you know, African moms and stuff. So for some reason,
we sit in the house. It's four and we just seated.
It's like we are gathered. No one is playing. I'm
(38:45):
not even watching TV. We just seated. So we're sitting
here for I'm not sure how long we were sitting here,
and then someone knocks at the gate, so I go
to check it. That is maybe around five or five
thirty because now it's starting to get dark, and he's
not picking his calls. Actually wasn't picking his calls, and
then at some point his phone went off. So I
(39:07):
go to the gate and I find this boy is
there and he's like, Hi, I didn't like this particular
boy because you know, I was also a teenager, so
I had issues with boys in the in the neighborhood
for whatever reason. But it's like, I need to see
you because it's about your brother. And when I hear
my brother, I'm like what and my heart keeps a
bit literally like he hasn't even said what has happened,
(39:29):
but something just happens. And I ran to the house
and I'm like, mom, there's a boy here, and he
says it's something about worried. So my mom comes out
and he's like what And this boy is like, so
someone has called me. They have said they want to
speak to the mother or the father of Warren, who
is a phone two boy at a Line's high school.
(39:51):
And my mom is like who who is the number?
And this guy came with the number written, so he
gives my mom this thing that is written, and my
mom is like, get my phone, get my phone. So
my mom calls this person and it's like, Hi, my
name is this and that I'm at the hospital. Now
that small town that I was born in Rome Goo
(40:12):
town now the hospital was there. It was like maybe
twenty minutes from where we lived. Sonny sugar the time difference,
and he's like, are you the mom to Warren? Yessin,
he's a boy from a Lane high school. Yes. My
mom is like can you just pick up? What has happened?
And the guys like he has been involved in a
little accident and need you to come everything. I mean,
(40:37):
it's like there was a happy time and then now
these are not happy time. Something has just happened. My
stomach is in nts, my legs can't hold me, I
can't think, my mom is like, get my jacket. I
don't even remember if my mom wore shoes because she
was like, I need to go, and she tells me.
(40:57):
You know, when my mom came at four, she came
home with my dad's it was like it was going off.
So it was like, you might put this phone on
charger for your dad when he comes home, you'll give
it to him. But now she's rushing to the hospital.
She's like, I know your father and now will not
be in communication. Is going to come here for this phone,
tell him this and this has happened, to come to
this and this place, and my mom leaves. It's around six.
(41:22):
I was cooking some meat in the kitchen. I had
to go on switch off the cast because now you
can't think, you can't sit, you cannot do anything. Your
world is just that because when someone says someone is
in an accident, you're trying to think, like which kind
of accident? Is it a broken leg?
Speaker 1 (41:40):
Is it?
Speaker 2 (41:41):
Like if it is a broken leg, my brother should
be speaking to us, telling us what happened, So it
has to be something slightly serious. How serious it is?
So my mom goes, We're left with my sister. We
just went and we sat down holding one another's hand.
I think we were trying to pray. I don't remember
what we were trying to do, but you know, we're
just trying to say something to God, Like God, I
(42:01):
beg you, let it be something that's manageable. Let it
not be what we are thinking. So remember, I know
that from where we live to the hospital is twenty minutes,
so I'm calculating in my head my mom must have
reached right now, so I'm calling her, but she's not picking.
This worries me because now it means something sinister is
(42:23):
going on here. I mean accidents, well fine, but which kind?
Time is going so flough. I've never felt that anxious
in my life, Like I don't know what to expect,
and I don't know what has happened. This is my brother,
my only brother. I do not want to imagine the worst.
The worst is at the back of your head. But
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you're like, we're not going back there today. So around seven,
my mother is not picking her calls. My dad is
not yet home. His phone is with me. It's fully child,
but it's with me, And like, there's no way I
can even call my father. There's just a weird thing
going on there. So I get a text from a
(43:03):
cousin of mine who is like instant ety five, and
she sends me a text saying Version is dead. When
I read that, I think, first of all, I dropped
the phone and I was screaming. So when I was screaming,
my sister started screaming. She's like, what has happened? And
I'm like, read that.
Speaker 1 (43:23):
Missing Catch more African stories in the next episode of
Legally Cue. That was part one of Audrey's story. Part
two is going to be out next week, so remember
to subscribe on whatever podcast streaming platform you're listening to
this on, because trust me, you do not want to
miss out on part two. I just feel like, obviously
(43:45):
I have spoilers, but I feel like Audrey has this
very clear way of sharing a story, that she's telling
you what's happening at the same time she's giving you
so many life lessons. One key takeaway from me is
how deeply children feel family fractures. Many of us think
(44:07):
children don't notice things, they don't feel things, and in fact,
earlier this week I was reading an article about how
when parents separate, the children may start showing signs of
anxiety in somatic ways. So you'll find kids complaining of
like consistent stomach achs, etc. And you might be treating
(44:28):
it as just a physical symptom, but these like a
psychological reason backing it. Isn't that something you know? So
even when adults think that kids are too young to understand,
they do. I mean when Audrey was talking about loneliness,
longing for her siblings, and even just the resilience she's
(44:49):
built along the way is just like such a powerful
reminder of how much our early environments shape us, which
is why we're taking childhood traumas so seriously in our
upcoming group therapy session that we're going to give you
more information about on Wednesday now. In part two of
Audrey's story, yeah, we learn exactly what happened to her
(45:13):
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My name is adele On Younger and welcome to another
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only one. Hey, you welcome to this episode of Legally Clueless.
This is what's coming up.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
Having married my mom young before she went for college,
it kind of felt like my father's family did not
feel my mom was the best wife for him because
of who my father was in that moment, someone was
brought for him. So it was like, this my mom,
and then there's another wife that has come into the picture,
someone who is more educated at saying that time, someone
that this family felt who was worthy of my dad.
(00:42):
I came home from school and my mom was not there.
So what I noticed in that moment is that while
we were leaving, my grandma was chasing us, screaming, Oh,
she's living with the children, or she's stealing the kids.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
Ooh. This is gonna be one of those very memorable stories.
Is Audrey and her story is coming up a little
late in this episode, part one of it, so buckle
up for that. But before we get there, if you
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group therapy coming up. It's a final one for the year.
Not to see the final one forever, the final one
(01:38):
for the year. It's coming up really soon. So this
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there are three sessions that you're going to be signing
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Mm hm. Imagine you're not the only one who is
finding it tricky to navigate that space, or you're finding
your childhood trauma is showing up in the workplace, in
your business, in your relationships, in your friendships. Yeah, it's
time for us to sort it out nice and early
before December when we have to go and hang out.
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With the triggers. The triggers when it comes to childhood traumas.
So make sure you listen to the midwig Te's on Wednesday.
You sign up for news letters so you don't miss
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so the quicker you book your slot, the better. Okay,
let's head into one hundred African stories, and this week
on the podcast, we're stepping into Audrey June's story. So
she's gonna take us back to her childhood, the joy,
the born with her siblings, the love in her family,
and then when the cracks began to appear. All right,
(03:08):
I don't want to give too much away, but this
is one episode that very many of us are going
to connect with.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
A hundred African stories are legally clueless stories from Africa.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
So my name is Audrey. I was born in a
town in Megory County called Rongo. I'm a first born
in a family of Fife, including my late brother. I'd
say I was born in a very happy family. Like
all fairy tales begin, there's always the good and then
something happens. But my childhood was basically very good. My
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brother and I we were kind of like twins, i'd say,
so we were born seventeen months apart. I was born
June of this year. I was born the following year November,
so a difference of a few months here and there.
And my sister was born I think three years later,
Like all of us were born in a span of
three years. So I'd say my mom was the end
(04:11):
of that time. But you know, I mean, I would
not say that there was anything wrong with my life
then my brother was there. I was happy was born.
You know, when you when you're a young child and
then you get like a sibling, they're the best thing
to ever happened to you. Any joke of them being
taken or anything happening to them, you cannot even imagine that.
(04:31):
My mom and dad they met young. They were like
a very young couple who met and they fell in love,
and like less than a year later, I was born,
less than seventeen months later, My brother was born three
years later, my sister was born, So they were it
was a very young marriage or very young people. And
just allowed me to say that my father is a
(04:52):
firstborn of like thirty kids. I weren't going to the
details of that, but being the firstborn of that many
children because his father had like pretty a cool number
of wife, so much was expected of my dad. And
I feel like having married my mom young, before she
went for college or like got something to do with
(05:13):
her life, it kind of felt like my father's family
did not feel my mom was the best wife for you.
It looked like there wasn't so much value she was
adding if you look at it, because this is the
first bone of like very many kids, and a lot
of expectation is put on him in terms of work,
you know what it brings to the table. And then
(05:34):
now my mom is here, she's young, she has small kids.
I didn't feel like she Like, looking at it from
an adult perspective, I don't think she was so welcomed
in this family. And as a young child, you don't
know that. I'm telling you this from me being an
adult now. So she wasn't up in this marriage. In
my opinion, she was maybe frustrated or maybe not hard.
(05:58):
And again, because of who my father was in that moment,
someone was brought for him. So it was like this
my mom, and then there's another wife that us coming
to the picture, someone who is more educated at saying
that time, someone very cooler, someone you know, someone that
this family felt who was worthy of my dad. So
the reason why I'm saying this is because this wonderful
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fairy tale of me and my siblings and our little family,
it kind of starts to crumble, you know, with a
third party or like someone else coming in. It means
it starts to crumble their cracks coming in, and now
that bleas and happiness. Because my dad is a very
very interesting person. He would take us on walks, you know,
(06:42):
carry us on his neck, to go and watch sunset,
you know, go and see badness, would go shopping. It
was such a wonderful time. But when this other person
came in, it's like there was a shift. So I
I'm not really privy of the time. I don't want
to use exact years because it's like I can't remember clearly,
(07:03):
but I know it's a time before to a seven
and a time after, So I'll be referencing to A
seven as my middle time, So anything after and anything before.
So I remember a time before to a seven. I
came home from school and my mom was not there,
and so I had my younger siblings with me. You know,
I'm the first born in as much as I'm young,
(07:23):
I need to know what was going on. I need
to take care of the rest so my mom doesn't
come home. I noticed that my grandma is taking care
of us. She's cooking, and then she's bathing us, and
then she takes us to sleep later in the night.
And you know, me, as a child, I think I
had a bond with my mom, so her not being
around it was so traumatic for me. So I'm just wondering,
(07:44):
why is she Day one, she's not around. Day two,
she's not around. And again, I really cannot tell how
many days she was away, but me right now feels
like it was fourteen days. Ever since I've grown up,
in my mind, I just took it as fourteen days,
so I'd say she was away for fourteen days. So
on the fourteenth day, I'm in school, I'm playing like,
(08:08):
you know, you're worried, and then you're not, Like I was, like,
she's not coming back, she's not communicating. I don't know
where she is. We are young going to sleep with
my siblings. I'm so scared, Like they're asleep, but I'm awake,
and I'm not sure if I was between age five
to seven, somewhere there about on the fourteenth day, I
see her in school and I'm like, ooh, finally she's here.
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And when she says when she comes, she's like, hey,
go get your bro. Because my sister was young, she
hadn't started school, so me and my bro were in school.
I think I was maybe in class three or class two.
And for me seeing my mom after such a long time, yeah,
it's you know, it's such a good thing. And I'm
so happy. So I go get my bro and she's like,
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we're going on a journey. I'm happy. I'm estatic. I'm like,
now this is it. So we go home and when
we get to the house, I realize that everything is
packed up, every single thing except maybe utensils and their seats,
but every single thing is packed up, and she has
like bananas and sweets for us, and we're just happy.
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Everything is just the way it should be. And she's like,
I can't everyone to carry a bag. She had a
bag for me, a bag for my bro. My sister
was very young. She's like, we're going. So we're going,
you know, and I'm so happy. I don't even care
where we're going, but we're going. So what I noticed
in that moment is that while we were leaving, my
grandma was chasing us, screaming, oh, she's living with the children,
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or she's stealing the kids. But for me, it's such
a happy moment. I'm jumping. I'm like, you know, it's
it's adrenaline. It's so exciting. And my mom is like,
walk first and don't look back. So we're going, and
we're going. So we went up to the bus stop
with my grandma chasing. It was like a all movie thing,
by the way, and we get there and we get
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in for a bus. And that day, now that I'm
an adult, is the day my mother left my father. Basically,
I didn't realize it was a divorced kind of it
was like the day my family was breaking. But for me,
it was one of those wonderful days that we were
going on this journey and I didn't I didn't see
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I didn't see like anything wrong with it. But now
later on I realized that was the last time I
ever was at our home because we never really went back,
come to think, coming to think about it, So we
went to my mother's place now my maternal grandmother, and
it was all you know, when you're a child, you're
not processing this day. I'm processing right now. Yes. So
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we got there, and I think after three months or more,
my father comes because when people in marriage, I think
they disagree. There's always trying to talk, you know, maybe
to get her to come back. I really don't know
what the adults were speaking about, but he came after
some time. So when it came, my brother and my
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father were best friends. They loved each other. I mean,
my father loved all of us, but there was just
something about my brother because you know, he was the
only boy. So they just had this thing. So my
father comes on and there's this communication, you know, adults
are speaking, and then at the end of the day,
my brother insists that he has to go back with
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my dad. It was I can't remember the exact time,
but they went back together. So I remained with my
sister on our mother's side, and my brother went with
my dad on the other side. So basically, my brother
is with my paternal grandma and me and my sister
were with my maternal grandma and my mom. During this time,
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I think she was looking for jobs to do. She
would travel to Nairobi come get some work to do
for a few months, then she would come back home.
So we were fully living with our grandma. She was
taking care of us. So after you know the way
currently the co parenting, I think maybe they came up
with something of that sort. But back before two seven,
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maybe it wasn't called co parenting per se. But I
realized that after maybe a few months, my dad would come.
We'd meet at a certain restaurant, we'd play with my siblings.
He would come with my brother and then my mom
would go with us in this restaurant and we'd sit there,
we'd eat, talk, you know, play, and then in the evening,
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my brother and my father would go back, and then
me and my sister and my mom we'd go back
to my grandmother's place. So this went on for about
like I'd say, twice in a year. It happened twice
in a year, and then now the third time that
we met with my dad, my sister also insisted on
going on the other side. For some reason, I never
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left my mom. I just felt safe on this side.
I didn't even know what was there on the other side,
but in my head I was like, I'm not trying this.
So every time we'd meet, for me, I always felt
safer with my mom on this other side. So the
next time my sister also went, so I remained by
myself on this other side. Being alone, it wasn't easy
to be honest, I suffered loneliness as a child. One
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thing I also realized is that I'd find a reason
why this is happening. We were happy, we were living
together out of nowhere, we are here now, this separation.
I don't understand what's going on. There's no adult explaining
this to me. So as a child, you try to
come up with an explanation. And for me, I was like,
this has to be something I did. This has to
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be something. Maybe I didn't do my own mark on time,
maybe I didn't watch my socks. There has to be
something I did that made my fairy tale just go
to hell and everything just went bad. So I remember
those times when I was alone. I would watch other
children play, but not go there to play with them.
I would just sneak by the fence, look at them playing,
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and then imagine that I'm playing with my brother and
my sister and just enjoy that, not like involved myself.
I basically became someone who doesn't I'm in a crowd,
but I'm not in that crowd. I'm just there's me
and then there's everyone else. And there's a time that
I saw a child that looked like my bro and
I was convinced they look the same, they talk the same,
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even I was sure the name was the same. So
I would stok this child. I didn't know it was
a stalker. Honestly, to me, it wasn't really stalking, come
to think about it. But me now, after watching all
the movies, I know I was a stalker. I would
watch him play. I would follow him around. Literally, I
would go to their place and I would be watching
him from like the fence, everything he does, and I
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would feel so happy. And then I would tell my
mom I think I saw someone who looks like Warren.
And I think maybe because she's an adult, she's like,
you know, this is just a child. But it was
a real thing for me. It made me feel so
good that there's someone out there like I would feel
like he's here with me. People really don't think so
much about the bond that siblings have, and I think
in my case, because this person came into my life.
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Basically when I was a child, we were moved to
Insteran siblings. It was really really close to me, and
so I would really miss them. I would really really
want to be with them. So I heard this thing
in my head where I created a family in my
head and we were together and we were happy. I
just folded inwards, like for me, I have this happy
life inwards, but outside I'm really I'm not having a
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good time. So fast forward. I think within all these
negotiation and talking and trying to mend this marriage, it
was agreed that I should go to a boarding school.
And I think also during this time, my paternal grandma
may have soul rest in peace. She died, so my
sister and my brother they didn't have someone to take
care of them. Because my sister was young, she came
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back to stay with us, but because my bro he
had really started school, he had to go and stay
with my step mom, so again he was there alone.
And then all my sister joined me on this side,
and a few months later I was shipped to boarding school.
To speak about boarding school, even though it wasn't the best,
but what I would like to say is that the
same year that I went to boarding school, my mom
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got a bit of a stable job. It then Sony
Sugar Company. I don't know if you're worried with Sony
Sugar Company, but yes, so she got a job there.
So when she got that job, it meant she had
stability for one. It meant now there's no reason why
her kids are scattered all over the place. So it
means all of us we need to come together and
now be a family. I cannot explain to you how
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excited I was because of that, because imagine, after all
these breakups and all these emotions and loneliness, I'm shipped
off to a boarding school in the end of the world.
I'm still alone. That feeling is still with me. But
then now my mom tells me, when you close school
this town, you're coming home and your brother will be
there and your sister will be there. I was the
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happiest I remember was in satentday six. Now I do
remember that. So I came home for half time, and
the following day my brother came. Have you ever like
I think for me when I was growing up, if
I missed you and I saw you, I would cry.
It happened all the time. It's like my way of
telling you have you been like why would you do
this to me? I had like a very crazy attachment
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to people. So when I saw him, I just started crying.
And I think maybe because it's a boy or something,
he was just wondering what is wrong with this one?
So he came and he sat next to me and
he gave me, I remember, a biscuit, and then I
gave him like a switch. Our bond just began again
and we started jumping all over the place, and that
is how we reconnected. It was just like I've not
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seen you for two years, but I remember had not
seen him for accomplished two years for me to see
him on that day, and then the following day my
sister came. So once again we're reunited with our mom.
Everything seems to be getting back to normal. So when
we're with our mother, you know, it's still coparenting essentially
because my dad is not home. He comes once in
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a while, he buys us things when he comes. It
takes us out when he comes. But now we are
a family. Now we are with our mother. You know,
she's trying everything. Now. My sister and my brother enrolled
in a school in the town we were living in
near Sonny Sugar, and I'm still in that boarding school.
I'm I'm about to go to Stanardy seven. So anyway,
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so fast forward. I finished my Snardy eighth. My brother
is also continuing with this school, and my sister I
think by then she already started school as well. So
my bro was a very bright person, very very bright.
I think if I remember him, I remember him by
being someone who knew how to fix everything. Tell me
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why a child knows how to make a radio work
or how to make Christmas lights. You know, he would
just do all these crazy things that would make me think, wow,
like this person is so bright, and even in school,
you would do so well. It was always number one,
you know. If he is not in a good mood,
then it's maybe number two. But he was such a
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bright child, and even my sister is very bright. Let me, okay,
not to brag or anything, but I think it's just
something we have. Maybe it comes from my mom. And
I just want to go back a little bit to
tell a bit of my mom's story because it's relevant
for this story. My mom was a housewife for thirteen
years by the time I joined for one. That is
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when she was like, I'm going back to school. You
remember the reason why she wasn't so cool for this family.
The reason why all this went south was because she
had done her phone for but she did not go
to college. So I think she was applying and applying
for colleges because she had done well. She had done
well in her casecy examination. By twenty thirteen, she got
a call to go and study for teaching in Carisa,
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and we were so happy. My mom was very happy.
But she had nothing really to like for school fee
or anything. And I remember the night she was going.
All of us three we took her to the bus
stop with her bag and she told me, Audrey, I'm
going there. I don't have school fee, I don't have anything.
I'm going to tell that Dino students to give me
a week to figure things out. I just don't want
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them to think I'm not coming, because you know, when
you get a late and then you don't respond, they
might just assume one of men you who don't show.
So she wanted to show that woman is the strongest
person I've ever met in my life. The way she
rose from all this. She decided I'm going to make
my life right. And that night we beat her goodbye
and she went to Garissa. Garrisa was crazy during those times.
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And all this while I'm in high school. My mom
is in Garrisa trying.
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You know.
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She would do her to get money to pay for school,
for you, to pay for hosteale, for accommodation and everything.
And still she will send me pocket money in school.
Like that's a hustler right there. My mom is such
a hustler. So she's gone to college and she's working
really hard. By the way, and the reason why I'm
talking about this is because she's a very bright person.
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By end of twenty fourteen, she graduated with distinctions. After
giving birth to all of us. Thirteen years later, she
graduated top of a class and we were so happy. Well,
we could not go to Garisa for the graduation because
you know, all of us, there's not enough money. You know,
we were just trying to live by the little that
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we had. My dad would show sometimes sometimes not. My
father is a wonderful person. I also want to say
that because people might think from this story he is
a bad person. No, we have a wonderful relationship. Things
do happen in life, you know, sometimes adults they make
decisions that are not great. But at the end of
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the day, you understand these were young people. Me right
now understands my father was twenty five, my mom was
twenty when they came together. Those are children, I mean
jen Z's for then. Really it's really crazy, So I
totally understand where they come from. So my mom graduates
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top over class in twenty fourteen, and we were so happy,
and you know, she's funny and she's brilliant, and I
can't just believe she's my mom. So in that same year,
my brother, No, now, in twenty thirteen, my brother did
his CASEYP examine e Fron. We knew he was gonna
get a good school because you know, this is him.
He gets like five hundred marks on some days for
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nineteen nine or some days. So it wasn't like we
didn't know he was gonna get into a good school.
But early twenty fourteen, I come home from after first
after and he's like, guess what. So I'm like, I
can't kiss, just tell me what it is, and it's like,
come let me show you. And then it gives me
this letter from a Lance High school whoa I was
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so happy, and my mom was the happiest. You know,
she has struggled with us to go to go back
to school, to fed for, to find for herself, to
ensure we're dressed and eating. Now my brother's going to
Alliance High School and her she's doing well already, she's
almost graduating now, you know, end of twenty thirteen, my
brother does his case CPE. End of twenty fourteen, my
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mom is going to graduate. So this is a time
when she's in college. Still. I was the happiest, and
my brother was so happy. I think he didn't think
you'd get Alliance. Maybe Man was something close or the
schools that were great back then, but Alliance is not
something we thought as a family. And considering everything we
had gone through, there was like a cheirry on top,
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like God was giving us a cake and then he
puts like a chairy on top, like everything was just perfect.
So first forward again, now in twenty fourteen, my brother
is taken to a Lance High school. My mom takes him.
My dad was there because you know, my dad has
taken us to school, all of us. He did provide
school fee, yes he did. He was He would come
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home maybe once in a while, but our school fee
was paid. He would send money for upkeep, so I
in my mind I think maybe adults disagree, But for him,
he decided for my kids, I'm going to be here
so that I have to mention, yes, so my brother
is taking to Alliance High School, the school of these dreams.
He would tell us stories for days. I mean the
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first time he came home from a Lance, I think
he carried everything he had just to show us, Like
the weekend things you wear, how do you call those?
I remember mine to be a weekend dress. So for
him maybe it was like shirts and blazers. He came
home with everything books that are like a Lance high school,
Like it was a whole thing. In our family. We
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were so happy. And you would tell us where they sleep,
what they eat. I'm like, are you in school, you know?
Because for me, I was in nice school in Yansa,
So I'm like, I can't relate with this. You know,
this is so cool. Like you would tell me the
way they have sausages in the morning. I'm like, bro
sausages for us in the morning, It's like nothing, literally,
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And he would tell me where they sleep, how the
dormitories are he tells me, I go to school with
an ambassador's child. I'm like, wait for real. And he
tells me how to Daney's classmates. Like he do so cool?
You tell me, you know my desc mate is an
Empy son. All these stories and we were just like wow,
it was just our thing, you know. It made us
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so happy. I'd never been to a Lance school even today,
I've not been to a Lance high school. But from
what you will tell me, I knew that place was heaven.
Literally for me, that was heaven. And he was so
excited about it. You tell us about his dreams. You know,
he wanted to become an head boy by from one
to one and I'm like, are you not ambitious? But
again that is him. He loved to get on. There
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was a leader. It was someone who just he made
friends easily compared to me. Yeah, so he's in Aliance
High School. We're happy my mother that year twenty fourteen
and graduates with distinction. Tell me why we're not happy?
Everything is just perfect? So now, my mom, you know,
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teaching the way it is right now. When you finish,
there's no guarantee you're going to get a job immediately.
It's never there's some people who finished like nine years ago,
they don't even have a job to date. And even
my mom, the people that she went to school with
who don't have jobs to date in the TC. But
case what, my mom gets called for an interview. She's
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just going because you know, I'm done with school, love
my papers, now why not go for an interview. So
she goes. A few days later, she gets a call
and actually it's getting She's getting the job again. I
come from school now in twenty fifteen. And my brother
is like, Casewood, now, I'm in from four in twenty fifteen,
I'm in from four Giesswood. And I'm like, tell me already,
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and he's like, mom has gotten a job. Now. That
was the best because now we were just imagining. There's
no more living on scraps because my mom used to
do her to also feed us. There is no more
not being sure of supper. There's no more not being
sure of, you know, whether there's gonna be a meal tomorrow.
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She's going to have a stable job now. And when
my mom got that call and she went to reporting
the school she was posted in because now you know,
we were living in Megory County all this time, and
then she got posted to Kisumu County, so we were
going to live in a whole different town. I could
not stop imagining asly moving to kisum I was like,
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I cannot wait to move to Kisumu. Now this is
like October of twenty fifteen. My brother is in home two.
I'm about to do my case sy examination and everything
is working out perfectly if you think about it. So
my mom gets posted, she goes to kisum but now
she's commuting. She's like going there for a week and
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then over the weekend she comes back home. I mean
the first salary my mother got, she was like, guys,
come here, we're going to spend this money. There's no
like anything you want to tell me. It wasn't a
lot of money, obviously, but she said, we're not saving
anything from this money. We're going to eat what we want.
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We're going to do whatever we want, anything you want.
That is how much we had waited for a breakthrough, honestly.
And now my brother was like, now I can't go
to an Auerrobi and I can look who like the
other kids you know being in Atlines high school and
you're not coming from such a well of family. There's
that difference. You literally can see I'm not as cool
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as these kids. But now my mom has a job. Ah,
I'm going to dress the way I want. And I
remember that time. My brother was buying a lot of things,
a cool bag, you know, a cape. Who is he
was just trying to now be the person that we
always wanted to be, you know, someone who does not
lack like I cannot explain to you the joy that
we had in that time. And nobody would believe my
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mom got a job. Actually, they were like, did you
pay something? Did you do something? But I can't tell
you right now. She did not do anything. It was
a miracle for all of us. It was a wonder
like what do you when you graduated? Is not a
year and you have a job. People have been waiting
for this job for years. How did this happen? So
now December of twenty fifteen, so my brother is informed too.
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I've already done my case, he say, I'm home just chilling,
you know, having a good time. My mom is not around,
she's working in Kisumu County. But we have a plan
that in December all of us are moving there because
now there's no point of us living here. And my
dad will love to know come with us on the
other side, because you know where your mom stays basically
is where you stay. Yes, so it's December, and back
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in the day our Christmas, it used to be basic.
Let me just tell you the truth. My mom would
cook for us, like eggs and spaghetti. We drink some
juice and call it a day. And it was such
a happy time for me. I mean, it was just
our thing. We don't have a lot of money, but guys,
on Christmas, we're cooking chaparties, we're cooking eggs, and we're
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making spaghetti and that was our signature Christmas dish. But
now this is here. My mom has money, Like, don't
forget she has money that hers. She doesn't have to
call someone else for money. Like, we have a lot
of money basically, so we're going to eat at different
Christmas this time around. She was like, guys, come here,
tell me what you want. And I specifically remember even
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what happened on that day because my mom was like
he gave my brother the highm card. She was like,
call there and check if there's money. If there's money,
we draw this amount of money so that all of
us can go shopping. That was twenty third, December twenty fifteen.
So my brother goes and then he comes back. You know,
he's swag and now he's wearing a caperhood and his
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voice is just starting to break because you know he's
the home. Two boy and girls are overring around our gate,
you know, because there's a cute boy there, and he's like, oops,
there's no money. And then he's like, oh, I'm kidding,
there's money. I cannot forget that particular day. My mom
is like, let's go shopping. On twenty third, we went shopping.
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We were just buying things because now we have money,
we can't pick whatever we want from the shelf. We
are away from living like the hard life is past us.
Now we're basically rich in our own standards. Yeah, so
that's twenty third, we go shopping for things, and then
there's twenty fourth. So what happened was during this period
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one of my grandmother's died. You remember I told you
my dad is like a first bone of thirty children.
My grandfather had like plenty of wives and so one
of them, unfortunately had passed on during this period. So again,
there was like us going home in our rural home
because of the funeral plannings and everything. So on Christmas
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Day we have like a feast and my brother's friends
are over, my friends are here. We are having a
good time. My little sister is there. Nothing seems to
be wrong in my life right now. As an adult,
I'm afraid of happiness because from that period, you can't
tell the much happiness we had, you know, and then
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that happiness was just young, the way It's like you
were standing on a rug and then someone pulled it off.
So sometimes I do not associate happiness with good things.
I'm like, this is too good to be true. There's
a part of me that is like that, but I'll
get to that later. Because the days leading to the
passing of my brother, I feel like they were extremely happy.
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They were surreal, like it wasn't supposed to be that happy.
Because even his birthday, my brother was born on the
twenty ninth of November nineteen ninety nine, I remember blowing
a candle and being like, may you live a thousand years.
Looking back, I'm like God must have been like, are
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you sure, because literally my brother had like a month
to live from that day, thinking about it from countdown
point of view, I just didn't know it his birthday.
We were happy, we were celebrating, like you know, saying
these cute words we say on birthdays. But I just
didn't know. We're on a countdown and it's literally days left,
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and these days leading to that day, everything seemed perfect.
The laughter was even louder, like you'd feel the bond
was even tighter, like there's just something you look at
it after something has happened, though in the moment you don't,
but after you look back, like wow. We were laughing louder,
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We were making even funnier jokes. We were spending so
much time together. We were happy before this happened. So anyway,
Christmas Day perfect. So on the twenty sixth, me and
my mum we left home because we needed to go
to a rural home again because of all this funeral
planning that is going on for my grandmother. And that
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is twenty sixth now, I spend the entire day there.
In the evening, we're going back home. That is the
last time I texted my brother I can remember. I
was like, hey, where we are. There's no lights? Do
you have lights? At home and he texted back no
by candles. That was it. But I didn't know then
that that would be the last text I ever get
from him. So we go back home. Nothing seems weird.
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And that night, the night of twenty six, I was sick.
I was really sick. Whatever I'd eaten that date wasn't
going down. And that night I was feeling like someone
was watching me sleep, but I didn't know. Maybe it
was the Angel of death, like choosing who is going
to take away from us that day because we used
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to be sleep in the same room and I had
this feeling that someone was watching me. And I'd woken
up so many times at night, even heim he had
taken me out of our house quite a number of times.
But premonitions are weird because you do not know this
is a demolition until something terrible has happened. Like it's
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like a bell that is warning you of something, but
there's nothing you're going to do about what is about
to happen. It's a warning that you don't even know
is a warning. I was feeling so sick that night.
I was feeling like someone is watching me in my sleep.
The following morning. Now on twenty seventh morning, we had
a normal breakfast. Actually were sitting on a table telling stories, eating.
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I can remember we're eating sweet bananas, we were having YIDERI,
we were having tea. We were just having a random
family morning. And because my mom has money, I have
to reference this money thing heavily. My brother was like,
you need to buy me a suit. I think now
I have everything I have, like sneakers, I have whod is,
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but I don't have a suit. And my mom is like,
don't worry about it. It's a suit you want. You're
going to get a suit. And it's just a normal morning.
But for me, I feel sick. And my mom suggests,
when we were done with first you need to go
and buy some malaria medicare show. She gives me money
and she leaves. So that day they were still going
for this burraal thing that is going on at home.
(36:09):
So my mom leaves with my dad in the morning
because my dad was home on that particular day. So
later they were supposed to go with my brother, but
you know, he was sluggish, being a teenager. He was
just doing things slowly, so they went before him. So
he leaves and me and my sister were on now rand.
I think I was plaiting my sister's hair around doing
it something of that sort. And he's in a purplehood.
(36:33):
He was wearing blue jeans. He was wearing some white
purpose sneakers, if I can't recall. And so he gets
out of the gate. We used to really tease him
because you know, his voice is just breaking and he
looks fine. He was such a handsome boy. So we're like, hey,
where are you going? What are you going to see?
You know, we're just being sisters, you know. Me and
(36:54):
my sister were like, wait, and you look so cute.
You have to be meeting this and these girls, we
knew a few girls that were hovering around or a gate.
So we're just teasing him about it, and he's like, no,
I'm not going anywhere. I'm just going to join mom
and dad over there because there was the rural place
trying to organize the whole funeral thing. And I'm like, see,
you leave us with some money. You look like you
(37:16):
have money. It was just a joke thing among siblings,
and it's like, let me give you money, and he
took his wallet and he just did this, and I
think that e both came out of it, which you
were so glad to take. And we lived in a
place where it was like a hill, so when you're
coming home, it's like you're climbing, and when you're going
it's like you're going down like this. So he's walking
(37:38):
away and I didn't know he's walking away forever literally,
because we're laughing and he's going and he's like, i'll
see you guys in the evening and we're like bye bye,
bye bye, and is walking away and he's going. And
I have no idea that up until today, I would
never see him walk up that hill coming up. So
(38:01):
I do, and do my sisters. Yeah, we spend time together.
Thing later that they go to the chemist. I buy
this Ma Laia mates, which I don't think I took.
So around four, my mom comes back and she's like,
have you guys heard from your brother? And I'm like, no,
you guys are supposed to meet and she's like, for
some reason, he didn't come. And then I'm like, you know,
(38:23):
he maybe met his friends and they went they did
a did tour thing and he's going to come home.
And my mom is like, yeah, sure, I know your
blueby is going to explain to me where he is,
you know, African moms and stuff. So for some reason,
we sit in the house. It's four and we just seated.
It's like we are gathered. No one is playing. I'm
(38:45):
not even watching TV. We just seated. So we're sitting
here for I'm not sure how long we were sitting here,
and then someone knocks at the gate, so I go
to check it. That is maybe around five or five
thirty because now it's starting to get dark, and he's
not picking his calls. Actually wasn't picking his calls, and
then at some point his phone went off. So I
(39:07):
go to the gate and I find this boy is
there and he's like, Hi, I didn't like this particular
boy because you know, I was also a teenager, so
I had issues with boys in the in the neighborhood
for whatever reason. But it's like, I need to see
you because it's about your brother. And when I hear
my brother, I'm like what and my heart keeps a
bit literally like he hasn't even said what has happened,
(39:29):
but something just happens. And I ran to the house
and I'm like, mom, there's a boy here, and he
says it's something about worried. So my mom comes out
and he's like what And this boy is like, so
someone has called me. They have said they want to
speak to the mother or the father of Warren, who
is a phone two boy at a Line's high school.
(39:51):
And my mom is like who who is the number?
And this guy came with the number written, so he
gives my mom this thing that is written, and my
mom is like, get my phone, get my phone. So
my mom calls this person and it's like, Hi, my
name is this and that I'm at the hospital. Now
that small town that I was born in Rome Goo
(40:12):
town now the hospital was there. It was like maybe
twenty minutes from where we lived. Sonny sugar the time difference,
and he's like, are you the mom to Warren? Yessin,
he's a boy from a Lane high school. Yes. My
mom is like can you just pick up? What has happened?
And the guys like he has been involved in a
little accident and need you to come everything. I mean,
(40:37):
it's like there was a happy time and then now
these are not happy time. Something has just happened. My
stomach is in nts, my legs can't hold me, I
can't think, my mom is like, get my jacket. I
don't even remember if my mom wore shoes because she
was like, I need to go, and she tells me.
(40:57):
You know, when my mom came at four, she came
home with my dad's it was like it was going off.
So it was like, you might put this phone on
charger for your dad when he comes home, you'll give
it to him. But now she's rushing to the hospital.
She's like, I know your father and now will not
be in communication. Is going to come here for this phone,
tell him this and this has happened, to come to
this and this place, and my mom leaves. It's around six.
(41:22):
I was cooking some meat in the kitchen. I had
to go on switch off the cast because now you
can't think, you can't sit, you cannot do anything. Your
world is just that because when someone says someone is
in an accident, you're trying to think, like which kind
of accident? Is it a broken leg?
Speaker 1 (41:40):
Is it?
Speaker 2 (41:41):
Like if it is a broken leg, my brother should
be speaking to us, telling us what happened, So it
has to be something slightly serious. How serious it is?
So my mom goes, We're left with my sister. We
just went and we sat down holding one another's hand.
I think we were trying to pray. I don't remember
what we were trying to do, but you know, we're
just trying to say something to God, Like God, I
(42:01):
beg you, let it be something that's manageable. Let it
not be what we are thinking. So remember, I know
that from where we live to the hospital is twenty minutes,
so I'm calculating in my head my mom must have
reached right now, so I'm calling her, but she's not picking.
This worries me because now it means something sinister is
(42:23):
going on here. I mean accidents, well fine, but which kind?
Time is going so flough. I've never felt that anxious
in my life, Like I don't know what to expect,
and I don't know what has happened. This is my brother,
my only brother. I do not want to imagine the worst.
The worst is at the back of your head. But
(42:43):
you're like, we're not going back there today. So around seven,
my mother is not picking her calls. My dad is
not yet home. His phone is with me. It's fully child,
but it's with me, And like, there's no way I
can even call my father. There's just a weird thing
going on there. So I get a text from a
(43:03):
cousin of mine who is like instant ety five, and
she sends me a text saying Version is dead. When
I read that, I think, first of all, I dropped
the phone and I was screaming. So when I was screaming,
my sister started screaming. She's like, what has happened? And
I'm like, read that.
Speaker 1 (43:23):
Missing Catch more African stories in the next episode of
Legally Cue. That was part one of Audrey's story. Part
two is going to be out next week, so remember
to subscribe on whatever podcast streaming platform you're listening to
this on, because trust me, you do not want to
miss out on part two. I just feel like, obviously
(43:45):
I have spoilers, but I feel like Audrey has this
very clear way of sharing a story, that she's telling
you what's happening at the same time she's giving you
so many life lessons. One key takeaway from me is
how deeply children feel family fractures. Many of us think
(44:07):
children don't notice things, they don't feel things, and in fact,
earlier this week I was reading an article about how
when parents separate, the children may start showing signs of
anxiety in somatic ways. So you'll find kids complaining of
like consistent stomach achs, etc. And you might be treating
(44:28):
it as just a physical symptom, but these like a
psychological reason backing it. Isn't that something you know? So
even when adults think that kids are too young to understand,
they do. I mean when Audrey was talking about loneliness,
longing for her siblings, and even just the resilience she's
(44:49):
built along the way is just like such a powerful
reminder of how much our early environments shape us, which
is why we're taking childhood traumas so seriously in our
upcoming group therapy session that we're going to give you
more information about on Wednesday now. In part two of
Audrey's story, yeah, we learn exactly what happened to her
(45:13):
brother and she has more life lessons to show with us.
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