December 23, 2025 • 10 mins
As the year comes to a close, there’s often pressure to reflect, reframe, and rush into hope.
This final episode of Mid Week Tease offers something different: a pause. In this episode, Adelle invites you into a soft, honest moment of witnessing, not to extract lessons or tidy the year up neatly, but to honor what the year truly held. This is a conversation for anyone who feels emotionally tired, quietly proud of surviving, or unsure how to carry this year forward. In this episode, we explore:
It’s a deep exhale. Listen when you need permission to pause before moving on.
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This final episode of Mid Week Tease offers something different: a pause. In this episode, Adelle invites you into a soft, honest moment of witnessing, not to extract lessons or tidy the year up neatly, but to honor what the year truly held. This is a conversation for anyone who feels emotionally tired, quietly proud of surviving, or unsure how to carry this year forward. In this episode, we explore:
- When the year didn’t turn out the way you expected and why that doesn’t mean it failed
- The invisible things you survived without recognition
- Relationships you outgrew or quietly grieved
- Releasing versions of yourself that could no longer keep up
- Fatigue that comes from carrying too much, not from laziness
- Three things you’re laying down
- One thing you’re proud of surviving
- One truth you’re carrying forward
It’s a deep exhale. Listen when you need permission to pause before moving on.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Midwik Teas with me adele Jangle, where
I share some random and not two random thoughts on things.
And in this episode, I want us to pause before
we start thinking about next year, you know, before the
words like hope, what else do we say? Vision goals?
(00:24):
Before even those words enter the room. I want us
to pause, right. This is the final Midweek Teas episode
of the year, and I really don't want it to
sound like a wrap up. When I was thinking about
what I want to leave you with, I wanted to
leave you with a deep exhale, you know what I mean?
(00:47):
Because the truth is this year doesn't need to make
sense yet, right. We don't need to sit here and
start extracting lessons, which I think I used to do
every other year before this. I don't think we need
to reframe the year. I don't think we need to
turn the pain we experienced this year into wisdom. I
(01:11):
just want us to exhale and to like tell the truth.
I mean, for status. For many of us, this year
didn't look the way we thought it would, and we
have been conditioned to believe that when things don't unfold
the way we imagined, that something must have gone wrong.
(01:32):
But what I've come to learn is sometimes a year
doesn't fail in quotes. It reveals, you know, it reveals
what was unsustainable, It reveals what was misaligned, It reveals
what was costing you more than giving back. And we
(01:54):
round this off to failure because it doesn't always look
impressive on the outside, you know what I mean. It
doesn't look glamorous because sometimes it looks like stillness or loss,
or even walking away without applause. So if you're listening
to this and your year feels a bit unclear or
(02:14):
unresolved or unfinished, that doesn't mean it was wasted. It
just means it was real. I feel like this is
more real than what you're probably gonna see on social media, right.
I think that there are things you survived this year
that no one clapped for. At least that's one hundred
(02:38):
percent true for me. There are so many moments where
you showed up when you were exhausted. There are so
many days when you kept going without being certain why
or even knowing what the end result is going to be.
There's so many nights that you cry privately and you
(03:01):
still got up in the morning and you showed up.
You survived things this year that you never imagined would
land in your life. And you did this surviving without
announcing it, without it being celebrated, and without slowing your
pace or the world down. And I feel like that
kind of survival really does change you, Like it softens
(03:26):
some parts of you, but it also hardens other parts
of you. And it also leaves a fatigue, an exhaustion
that has nothing to do with laziness. This year may
also have asked you to grieve people who are still alive.
(03:47):
I am smack in the middle of this, you know,
grieving friendships that just no longer fit with who you are,
Grieving connections that required you to shrink ay that one,
oh my word, that one. Hey, Grieving relationships that you
(04:10):
loved but you know you knew that you just couldn't keep.
Maybe this year you outgrew people and that is not betrayal,
you know, and grieving those endings doesn't make you dramatic,
if anything, like, I applaud you because you have to
(04:31):
let yourself process those feelings. It just means that you
are honest enough to notice when something no longer matches
who you're becoming. And some versions of you had to
end so this current version of you could breathe, and
that meant that many relationships and friendships had to end
(04:51):
with those previous versions of you. And you know, like
that kind of release. What I'm learning is that it's
never clean, it's never black or white. It's tender, you know,
very delicate. It's confusing way and it lingers. Another thing
you might be feeling at the end of this year
(05:14):
is a tiredness that sleep hasn't fixed. You know what
I'm talking about, And if that's you, I want you
to know that you're not lazy, you're not unmotivated, you
are not broken. You may have just been carrying too
(05:35):
much and too much emotionally, relationally, internally. You've been holding
it together. You've been trying to make sense of the unseat,
You've been managing expectations that were never yours to begin with.
So of course you're tired, and there is nothing wrong
with you feeling that. So before we move forward, I
(05:59):
want us to have a small moment of intention, just
you and I in this moment, and I want you
to ask yourself these three things. Number one, what are
the three things that you are laying down? You know
that you are releasing you don't need to explain them.
(06:23):
Just what are the three things that you are releasing?
I can share one of mine with you. I am
releasing the urge to abandon my emotional needs for love
or for acceptance. I am not only laying it down,
(06:47):
I am throwing it on the floor. So what are
your three things? The next thing I want you to
ask yourself, what is one thing you are proud of surviving,
not achieving, but surviving. The third thing, what is one
(07:12):
truth you are carrying forward with you, something that you
know now about yourself, about life, about your limits. I'll
answer this one. Oh, I just know I am powerful,
(07:34):
beyond my wildest dreams, beyond my capacity to imagine. I
am so powerful even when I feel weak, even when
I feel broken, I am so powerful. That is one
(07:54):
truth and carrying forward with me. And when you're answering
these three questions, I want you to know that this
is You're not listing things that you're gonna fix, okay,
you are just acknowledging things. So like, even if you
choose to say them out loud, if you choose to
(08:14):
drop them in the common section, if you choose to
write them, They're not for you to fix. You're just acknowledging,
all right, So as the year closes, I want you
to know this. You don't have to make sense of
everything tonight. You don't have to make sense of the year. Please.
(08:37):
I know that's what we're all posting on socials, But
you don't have to. You don't have to be hopeful yet.
You can sit in confusion if that's what twenty twenty
five gifted you. You don't have to be excited about
what's next. Some of us are just too tired to
be excited. I don't. I mean, the only thing I'm
(09:01):
excited about is meeting this new version of me and
seeing what she gets up to in twenty twenty six.
But I'm just so tired. I'm not even excited for
like work or projects. I'm just like, hey, I'm tired.
I want you to know that it is enough that
(09:22):
you are here at the end of the year. You're breathing,
you're listening, you're still open, and I just want you
to know that even if you're sitting at the end
of the year feeling like the year is unfinished or unresolved,
or confusing, feeling that you're not yet hopeful enough or
(09:45):
feeling tired or exhausted. I want you to know that
I see you, and we will cross into whatever comes
next gently and on our own time. It doesn't have
to be January first. I am just so happy that
(10:08):
you're here and that counts for a lot. And if
this episode resonated with you, number one, Merry Christmas, and
number two, share it with someone that you love. Thanks
for listening to the midwik TI's a Legally Clueless Africa production.
Episodes go out every Wednesday, and you can learn more
(10:31):
about us by going to legally Clueless Africa dot com.
Welcome to the Midwik Teas with me adele Jangle, where
I share some random and not two random thoughts on things.
And in this episode, I want us to pause before
we start thinking about next year, you know, before the
words like hope, what else do we say? Vision goals?
(00:24):
Before even those words enter the room. I want us
to pause, right. This is the final Midweek Teas episode
of the year, and I really don't want it to
sound like a wrap up. When I was thinking about
what I want to leave you with, I wanted to
leave you with a deep exhale, you know what I mean?
(00:47):
Because the truth is this year doesn't need to make
sense yet, right. We don't need to sit here and
start extracting lessons, which I think I used to do
every other year before this. I don't think we need
to reframe the year. I don't think we need to
turn the pain we experienced this year into wisdom. I
(01:11):
just want us to exhale and to like tell the truth.
I mean, for status. For many of us, this year
didn't look the way we thought it would, and we
have been conditioned to believe that when things don't unfold
the way we imagined, that something must have gone wrong.
(01:32):
But what I've come to learn is sometimes a year
doesn't fail in quotes. It reveals, you know, it reveals
what was unsustainable, It reveals what was misaligned, It reveals
what was costing you more than giving back. And we
(01:54):
round this off to failure because it doesn't always look
impressive on the outside, you know what I mean. It
doesn't look glamorous because sometimes it looks like stillness or loss,
or even walking away without applause. So if you're listening
to this and your year feels a bit unclear or
(02:14):
unresolved or unfinished, that doesn't mean it was wasted. It
just means it was real. I feel like this is
more real than what you're probably gonna see on social media, right.
I think that there are things you survived this year
that no one clapped for. At least that's one hundred
(02:38):
percent true for me. There are so many moments where
you showed up when you were exhausted. There are so
many days when you kept going without being certain why
or even knowing what the end result is going to be.
There's so many nights that you cry privately and you
(03:01):
still got up in the morning and you showed up.
You survived things this year that you never imagined would
land in your life. And you did this surviving without
announcing it, without it being celebrated, and without slowing your
pace or the world down. And I feel like that
kind of survival really does change you, Like it softens
(03:26):
some parts of you, but it also hardens other parts
of you. And it also leaves a fatigue, an exhaustion
that has nothing to do with laziness. This year may
also have asked you to grieve people who are still alive.
(03:47):
I am smack in the middle of this, you know,
grieving friendships that just no longer fit with who you are,
Grieving connections that required you to shrink ay that one,
oh my word, that one. Hey, Grieving relationships that you
(04:10):
loved but you know you knew that you just couldn't keep.
Maybe this year you outgrew people and that is not betrayal,
you know, and grieving those endings doesn't make you dramatic,
if anything, like, I applaud you because you have to
(04:31):
let yourself process those feelings. It just means that you
are honest enough to notice when something no longer matches
who you're becoming. And some versions of you had to
end so this current version of you could breathe, and
that meant that many relationships and friendships had to end
(04:51):
with those previous versions of you. And you know, like
that kind of release. What I'm learning is that it's
never clean, it's never black or white. It's tender, you know,
very delicate. It's confusing way and it lingers. Another thing
you might be feeling at the end of this year
(05:14):
is a tiredness that sleep hasn't fixed. You know what
I'm talking about, And if that's you, I want you
to know that you're not lazy, you're not unmotivated, you
are not broken. You may have just been carrying too
(05:35):
much and too much emotionally, relationally, internally. You've been holding
it together. You've been trying to make sense of the unseat,
You've been managing expectations that were never yours to begin with.
So of course you're tired, and there is nothing wrong
with you feeling that. So before we move forward, I
(05:59):
want us to have a small moment of intention, just
you and I in this moment, and I want you
to ask yourself these three things. Number one, what are
the three things that you are laying down? You know
that you are releasing you don't need to explain them.
(06:23):
Just what are the three things that you are releasing?
I can share one of mine with you. I am
releasing the urge to abandon my emotional needs for love
or for acceptance. I am not only laying it down,
(06:47):
I am throwing it on the floor. So what are
your three things? The next thing I want you to
ask yourself, what is one thing you are proud of surviving,
not achieving, but surviving. The third thing, what is one
(07:12):
truth you are carrying forward with you, something that you
know now about yourself, about life, about your limits. I'll
answer this one. Oh, I just know I am powerful,
(07:34):
beyond my wildest dreams, beyond my capacity to imagine. I
am so powerful even when I feel weak, even when
I feel broken, I am so powerful. That is one
(07:54):
truth and carrying forward with me. And when you're answering
these three questions, I want you to know that this
is You're not listing things that you're gonna fix, okay,
you are just acknowledging things. So like, even if you
choose to say them out loud, if you choose to
(08:14):
drop them in the common section, if you choose to
write them, They're not for you to fix. You're just acknowledging,
all right, So as the year closes, I want you
to know this. You don't have to make sense of
everything tonight. You don't have to make sense of the year. Please.
(08:37):
I know that's what we're all posting on socials, But
you don't have to. You don't have to be hopeful yet.
You can sit in confusion if that's what twenty twenty
five gifted you. You don't have to be excited about
what's next. Some of us are just too tired to
be excited. I don't. I mean, the only thing I'm
(09:01):
excited about is meeting this new version of me and
seeing what she gets up to in twenty twenty six.
But I'm just so tired. I'm not even excited for
like work or projects. I'm just like, hey, I'm tired.
I want you to know that it is enough that
(09:22):
you are here at the end of the year. You're breathing,
you're listening, you're still open, and I just want you
to know that even if you're sitting at the end
of the year feeling like the year is unfinished or unresolved,
or confusing, feeling that you're not yet hopeful enough or
(09:45):
feeling tired or exhausted. I want you to know that
I see you, and we will cross into whatever comes
next gently and on our own time. It doesn't have
to be January first. I am just so happy that
(10:08):
you're here and that counts for a lot. And if
this episode resonated with you, number one, Merry Christmas, and
number two, share it with someone that you love. Thanks
for listening to the midwik TI's a Legally Clueless Africa production.
Episodes go out every Wednesday, and you can learn more
(10:31):
about us by going to legally Clueless Africa dot com.
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