Dating someone with an avoidant attachment style can leave you second-guessing yourself, waiting for scraps of connection, and telling yourself stories that keep you in pain. I’ve been there, and I know how easy it is to cling to beliefs that feel comforting in the moment but ultimately keep you stuck. In this episode, I’m breaking down the three most common lies you tell yourself in this dynamic—and the truth that will set you free.
✨ Inside the episode, you’ll discover:
- Why the belief “If I’m patient enough, they’ll eventually love me the way I need” keeps you settling for crumbs instead of receiving real intimacy
- How internalizing their distance as “something is wrong with me” reinforces old childhood wounds
- The painful trap of “If I just love them enough, I can fix them”—and what actually heals relationship patterns at the root
If this feels familiar, I want you to know you are not broken, and it’s never too late to rewire your attachment style. You are so worthy of a love that is safe, secure, and consistent.
✨ P.S. — Did you know I have a private podcast, Secure.Soft.Magnetic? It’s exclusive content you won’t hear anywhere else—bite-sized episodes with the exact tools and mindset shifts to help you embody secure attachment and show up with confidence in dating and relationships. Normally $27, but this month it’s just $7 with the code SECURESEPT.
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And if you’re ready to take this work even deeper, I’d love to personally invite you to apply to the Empowered.Secure.Loved Program. This is where I walk you step by step through the process of healing attachment wounds so you can finally create the healthy love you deserve.
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🔗 Additional Episode Links:
- Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz → https://drmorgancoaching.com/quiz
- Follow me on IG → @drmorgancoaching
- Grab my book: Grab my best selling book Love Magnet
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