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January 30, 2023 78 min

Episode 299 is about generational traumas and experiences, and how we cope with it differently in our varying paces as individuals.

As we grow older, we may not even realize that we are living with the effects of generational traumas. Our coping skills are programmed into us by our parents, siblings and other environmental factors — even if it doesn’t seem like we’re hearing it directly from them. Each generation has nuances, but the bottom line is that we must break these patterns if we want to move forward.

Generational trauma is defined as the psychological consequences of traumatic events that are experienced by a second or subsequent generation through inherited family systems. This form of intergenerational trauma can lead to physical, emotional and mental health problems.

Today, Paul Cope, a highly accomplished consultant, coach, business owner and corporate lawyer possessing a powerful transformative presence with the ability to provide insights that are invaluable to any organization — reminds us of the impact of generational trauma and how we must cope with it. He shares that as humans, we are hardwired to deal with crises and trauma by connecting socially with other people in our community. As a result of our experiences with trauma and loss, it may be difficult for us to trust others or reach out when we need help, hence why he wrote the book How to Solve Any Problem in Life.

Just like Paul, we want to help guide men in whatever it is that they might be going through.


9:28-11:00 Programming From Parents

00:11:13 Programming Experiences

11:58-14:17 IAN GOLD - Programming

00:14:35 Don’t Cry

15:22-16:59 IAN GOLD

00:17:03 Compassion

00:18:04 Programming of Past Generations

00:20:54 Every Parent Says the Same Thing

22:16-26:05 IAN GOLD

00:29:54 That’s Just the Way It’s Done

31:05-37:16 IAN GOLD

00:37:46 How We Feel About Ourselves Inside

00:41:13 We Are All Flawed

00:41:42 Must Have Duality in Your Life

42:42-46:38 IAN GOLD

00:46:50 Depression and Anxiety

00:48:40 You Must Look After You First

53:37-56:54 IAN GOLD

00:57:16 All the Reasons You Can’t Make Time for You

00:58:17 Extrovert vs. Introvert

00:58:47 Change the Question You Put In Your Search Engine

00:59:18 IAN GOLD - Language and Environment

01:08:00 IAN GOLD - Rocket Boosters Peeling Off

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