What if you could clear $80K in debt and attract $93K in just a few months—how would that change your life? In this episode of Plenty, Joy Asibey-Gabriel shares how she did just that and transformed her financial future through the Relaxed Money program.
In this inspiring episode of Plenty, I have the privilege of interviewing Joy Asibey-Gabriel, a women’s adornment coach and stylist, who shares her incredible journey of clearing $80K in debt and attracting $93K in just a few months. Joy opens up about the emotional and financial challenges she faced, including navigating a difficult separation and confronting her deep-seated fears about money. By diving into the Relaxed Money program, she not only cleared her debt but also opened the door to new income streams and expanded her career. This episode is a powerful testament to the life-changing potential of self-empowerment, transparency, and nervous system healing in creating lasting financial freedom.
“Avoidance is incredibly expensive, both financially and energetically. It prevents us from having mental and emotional clarity, and it messes with our magnetism.” – Kate Northrup
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00:29 Joy’s Financial Struggles
02:00 Journey of Financial Reinvention
04:25 Overcoming Financial Fear
08:26 The Impact of Relax Money Program
14:05 Transformative Conversations About Money
16:14 Clearing Debt and Emotional Weight
17:43 Avoidance and Its Costs
20:53 Navigating Post-Separation Challenges
23:39 Spiritual Growth and Connection
20:53 Navigating Post-Separation Challenges
26:24 The Importance of Somatic Work
27:33 Future Aspirations and Creative Projects
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Joy Asibey-Gabriel (00:00):
I received another $80,000, which is the
(00:04):
exact amount that I was in debt,which I love. I love that
synchronicity. That was also ahuge win. And there was a huge
win on a financial level, and itwas a huge win on an emotional
level because I had to movethrough something that I had
experienced in my past that Ithink I was still trapped
around. And to have gone throughit again and got the result that
(00:24):
I got was, again, another lifechanging, game changing moment.
Kate Northrup (00:29):
Today, we have the most inspiring story for
you. This is part of our RelaxMoney case study series, and I'm
going to introduce you to themost gorgeous, powerful woman.
Her name is Joy Asabe Gabriel.She is a women's adornment
(00:52):
specialist. She's a stylist.
She's a media figure, inToronto, and she has has an
incredible money story. So I'mgonna let her tell you the
details, but what I want you toknow is this. When she came into
this world of money healing herein my company, she was in nearly
(01:18):
6 figures in debt. She was goingthrough a separation. Things
were tricky financially.
And what she created in anunbelievably short period of
time in less than six months andhow she did it, you're going to
hear the story of how she notonly was able to eliminate those
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blessings for invoices alreadyreceived, which is what I call
debt, but how she also thenattracted and called into her
life extra income that farsuperseded her debt. So she
basically, within a six monthperiod, nearly gave herself from
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a net worth increaseperspective, a 200 k race. So
you're gonna hear the story. Thedetails are beautiful. She is a
gorgeous soul.
Enjoy this case study with joy.Welcome to Plenty. I'm your
host, Kate Northrup, andtogether we are going on a
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journey to help you have anincredible relationship with
money, time, and energy, and tohave abundance on every possible
level. Every week, we're gonnadive in with experts and
insights to help you unlock alife of plenty. Let's go fill
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our cups.
Please note that the opinionsand perspectives of the guests
on the Plenty podcast are notnecessarily reflective of the
opinions and perspectives ofKate Northrup or anyone who
works within the Kate Northrupbrand. Hi, Joy. Hello. Thanks
for being here.
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (03:03):
My pleasure. My pleasure.
Kate Northrup (03:04):
Alright. So I wanna know to start off with,
can you just, like, tell me theconstellation of your life and
your your career and just kindof, like, give us the overview
of the different pieces at play?
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (03:16):
Okay. Well, I'm a a feminine adornment
coach, so I help women expressthemselves through their
clothes, really looking at whoshe is on the inside and helping
her to bring it to the outsidewith as much joy and pleasure as
possible. So that would be mycareer piece. I'm working with
women every day and also on TV.I'm a mom of two.
(03:39):
I'm separated. And yeah. And I II'm loving life. I'm out in the
world traveling and enjoyingenjoying things.
Kate Northrup (03:50):
Amazing. And you live in Toronto? And I live in
Toronto. Yes. In Toronto.
Okay. Amazing. And what wasgoing on for you in your life,
in your career, in your money atthe time when money when Relax
Money came across your radar?
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (04:05):
Yeah. So in a in a nutshell, I was
incredibly stressed andoverwhelmed. I was waking up in
the middle of the night, like,in a panic about my finances,
specifically my debt. I like,scarcity. And I would even say,
(04:28):
like, on my knees level fear.
And I often described it tofriends as, like, feeling like
I'd hit a financial rock bottom.Like, I don't think I've ever
felt that way before. And if Iroll back two years before I had
decided to end my marriage,which was a huge decision that
felt so soul aligned. And I I Ilike to tell people that from
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that decision came so muchexpansion and more opportunities
and more energy and aliveness.And it also brought me face to
face with some things I've beenavoiding around my money and
finances, things I wasn't readyto look at, cracks that were
already there.
It brought it all to thesurface. And because I had been
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reliant on my ex's income, or hewe were a single income
household. I had left my careerwhen my children were born. I
was dependent on that. But whenit went away, that was when I
realized, like, wow.
There's a big gap here to fill,a big gap, and that's where the
debt really kicked in. Mhmm.
Kate Northrup (05:37):
And how did you hear about Relaxed Money? Like,
do you remember who you heardabout it through or where you
were and
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (05:45):
and I heard about it through you because I
had been on your email list forover, I wanna say, like, since
2017, and part of other programsyou've done. And, you know,
like, people's inboxes, like,people who come into my inbox
come and go, but you haveremained a constant. And I
remember when you relaxedlaunched Relax Money, and I
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remember telling other peopleabout it to the point where I
had a friend who had joined theprevious year. But for me, I
just felt like it wasn't theright time. But when I came up
to last year and where I was atin terms of that rock bottom
feeling, I knew, like, it justit was the right and perfect
timing to to join.
And it will even say that you Iremember had said, don't join
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this program if you're not surehow you're paying your bills
every month. Like, if you're inthat level of financial
difficulty, and that's where Iwas. And I ignored what he said,
and I'm so glad I did. For me, Iwouldn't say everyone should do
that. But for me, I knew it wasI like, I needed something to
(06:50):
jump start me, and I was readyto take that risk, and it paid
off hugely.
Yeah. Wow. Yeah. Okay.
Kate Northrup (06:59):
So you were really in a place where you were
reinventing yourselffinancially. Yeah. Yeah? So you
were in total financialreinvention. You had you how how
long had you left the workforceto be with your kids?
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (07:14):
Oh, it had been 2016. So
Kate Northrup (07:18):
Okay. Yeah. So they had been eight years. Eight
years. Eight years.
And then and then when did youstart your business up? Like,
inklings of the
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (07:28):
business in 2018 really got golden probably
2019, '20 '20.
Kate Northrup (07:32):
Okay. So it hadn't really been
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (07:34):
Yeah. It hadn't been that long. And,
also, because we had anotherincome that we relied on, I
never felt like I needed to toreally make this my thing. You
know? I had savings I wasrelying on at my ex's income.
It wasn't it was there, and itwasn't yeah.
Kate Northrup (07:50):
It didn't have to provide everything for you and
your family. Exactly. But nowyou were in a position where it
was like, okay. The the game isdifferent. My needs are
different, and I don't know howI'm gonna do this.
Yeah. Yeah. Okay. And so evenoh, go ahead.
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (08:06):
No. I was just gonna say I I really
appreciate the opportunity totell the story because I feel
like I mean, I personally knowand I know there's other women
out there who've been in thatsituation where you're still in
your marriage because of thesafety and the security
financially. And to leave can beincredibly scary. Like, what am
(08:29):
I how am I gonna keep thisgoing? This house, these bills,
these expenses.
And then when you have children,you know, it it amplifies. And
I'm not saying my story is,like, the model, but I feel like
I really moved through thatfear. And and relax money has
been, like, a big, big, big partof that journey.
Kate Northrup (08:51):
That's absolutely incredible. So there you were
reinventing yourself, feelinglike, I'm gonna ignore what Kate
said about,
Speaker 3 (09:04):
like, not joining if you don't.
Kate Northrup (09:06):
I mean, I think, like, I will say, like, my one
of the things that
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (09:11):
I
Kate Northrup (09:11):
see in my industry is people will say,
like, do whatever you have to doto join this program. Like, take
out a loan, sell your couch, youknow, whatever. And I'm fine.
However, I'm just the sort ofperson where it's like, listen.
If you're if you're not knowinghow you're gonna pay your rent,
(09:34):
like, you know, get thathandled.
But Totally. You Totally. Youyou said, actually, I know this
is for me. I know this is what Ineed. Tell me more about that,
like, about just knowing thatthis was the work that you
needed.
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (09:48):
How did you know? It's interesting because
the previous year, I had told afriend about Relaxed Money and
she joined. And for whateverreason, and I don't really
remember why, I didn't join thatyear. I think I felt like I you
know, it wasn't the right time.Whereas when I did join, it felt
so urgent.
It felt like something needed tochange. And, also, my intuition
(10:14):
was, like, now is the time. AndI'm very much about, like,
what's happening in my body. AndI felt the full body yes. I
remember when my friend said I'mgonna do Relax Money a second
year, and I thought, wow.
This is where I need to be. Italso helps that I've been in
your containers before, so Itrust you. Like, I don't trust
(10:37):
just anybody. And I was yeah, Iwas excited for what was to
come.
Kate Northrup (10:44):
That's amazing.
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (10:45):
I love that.
Kate Northrup (10:46):
So then take take me back to, like, how did you
what was your experience likeactually doing the program? Did
you show up for all the livethings? Did you do it as
replays? Like, how was that howdid
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (10:59):
that actually go down? Yeah. I think,
like, being someone who's a bitof an online course junkie I
mean, I've done so many coursesover the years. My fear for
myself was that I was gonna buyanother course and not fully
show up as happens sometimes.With this one, I was like,
that's not gonna happen.
I am attending every live call.This is in my calendar. So I
(11:22):
prioritized it. Like, it was ifI had a relaxed money call,
like, there was no way I wasn'tgonna be there unless there was
a really important reason not tobe there. I also set myself up
with accountability, which Iknow that I personally need to
show up for things.
And that felt like a realdifference for me compared to
how I've operated with onlinecourses in the past. So with my
(11:43):
friend, we made sure, like,after every live call, we would
meet afterwards. We'd digest.We'd share favorite frames. We'd
work the tools together.
That made a a big difference.And I I think as well, realizing
that all of these like,everything I was learning felt
necessary and needed. You know,sometimes you do a course and
(12:04):
you're like, well, that's niceto know. Yeah. But this was
like, no.
I can apply this right away. Ican I can start the
transformation, the healingjourney now, and it and it gets
to be, like, in small doableincrements? Like, it's not yeah.
It's not like a it's not like alike, I have to work really hard
(12:25):
at this. It just felt verynatural and effortless.
That's so cool. Yeah.
Kate Northrup (12:31):
So for you during the course of the the content
itself, like, I mean, you and Iboth know that this work
continues to live on in yourlife because there's not one day
that we're not going to interactwith money. Yeah. So it is
ongoing. But during the actual,like, live delivery of the
program and and in the fewmonths after, what were some of
(12:51):
the most important pivotaleither exercises or or ahas and
revelations that you had foryourself?
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (13:01):
Yeah. I think a big one was
understanding my nervous system,understanding where and how I've
been dysregulated, and not justin relationship to money, but,
like, throughout my entire life.So doing the money story
exercise, which I was reallyresistant to, I found very
(13:23):
helpful to go back and look atthings that have happened in my
past and how they were stillaffecting me today. I am a big
believer in, like, movingemotion through the body. That
module was really helpful justto kind of remind myself, like,
oh, this practice is important.
All of the nervous systemhealing tools, I found
(13:45):
incredibly supportive. I mean,in every module, was something.
There was an moment. I mean, I Icould keep going probably, but
then we'll be sitting here for awhile.
Speaker 3 (13:55):
Totally. And
Kate Northrup (13:56):
Yeah. How soon after you started doing the work
would you say that you had atangible shift in your So,
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (14:05):
yeah, this kind of blew me away. I joined I
joined a little bit late, so Ijoined in May. It's like a month
after Yeah. You'd started. Andin August, I had a like so I was
in debt, I mentioned.
I was actually in about $80,000of credit card debt, which was
(14:27):
something that felt incrediblyheavy, and I had a lot of shame
around it. Through the program,as we were moving through, I
started talking about it. Sofirst, I started talking about
it to my partner, which was abig deal for me because I don't
think I would have ever sharedthat with someone before because
I felt so embarrassed. I sharedit with my boyfriend when we
(14:48):
started having really honestconversations about money. I
started sharing it with otherfriends and, like, the the
ability to be more and moretransparent about exactly where
I was at.
And I knew that I needed to dosomething in order to to manage
this debt because it wascrushing me. Like, the interest
on that every month wasunsustainable. And, you know, it
just snowballs. It gets biggerand bigger. And so I had a
(15:12):
conversation with my mom who issomeone I really look up to and
admire.
It's gonna make me cry. And sheis someone who really knows how
to steward wealth, and so doesmy grandmother. And I felt like
I was, like, the pink in thechain. And I was embarrassed to
tell her about where I was. AndI remember walking in the woods,
(15:33):
like, nervous system grounding,doing a tool before I called
her, and having a really honestconversation with her about what
was going on.
And it was so beautiful how shewas able to show up for me with
so much compassion and grace.And through that conversation,
we started looking at, okay. Howare we gonna manage this? And I
looked across different routes.And in the end, I ended up
(15:57):
renegotiating my mortgage withher because she's my private
mortgage lender.
And I got all of the money Ineeded to clear that credit card
debt by September. And I thoughtmy goal had been to clear by the
end of the year, which I thoughtwas already gonna be impossible.
So to clear that by Septemberwas huge. Like, Kate, I can't
even tell you the weight thatlifted off of my shoulders. This
(16:21):
boulder that felt like it was soheavy in my life affecting all
areas of my life.
To have that cleared was like,it felt miraculous. And,
obviously, it wasn't. There waswork that went into it, and yet,
yeah, that was huge. And thenthere
Kate Northrup (16:39):
was more that just started coming after that.
And when we think aboutobviously, there's the emotional
weight and the release of thatand and the energy that it
takes. But then also, justpractically speaking, the amount
of money you saved on interest
Speaker 3 (16:55):
Yeah. From clearing that out of me, like,
Kate Northrup (16:58):
wild. Wild.
Speaker 3 (16:59):
Yeah. Wild.
Kate Northrup (17:00):
So the savings is huge energetically, financially.
Okay. That's amazing.
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (17:06):
Go ahead. Just add going back to your
previous question, like, aboutthe modules that had the biggest
impact. Where we started talkingabout invoices for blessings
already received, the debtpiece, I think it was really
helpful for me to start lookingat things. Like, I actually
began looking at my debt andunderstanding, okay. This credit
card is paying this interest.
This one has that. This creditline is this. Like, in the
(17:30):
course, starting to really lookat my money, tracking my
expenses, that was so powerfulbecause it was one of the things
that I've been avoiding. Soavoidant to go into my bank
account, so avoidant tounderstand exactly how much I'm
spending every month, And thenespecially around the debt,
like, to really see. And evenbefore I cleared everything, I
(17:51):
started shifting things around.
So at least I was paying lesswhere I could pay less. Yeah.
Kate Northrup (17:57):
Yeah. Because there's so much money that gets
wasted from avoidance. Yeah.
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (18:02):
It's Oh, yeah.
Kate Northrup (18:03):
Is ex incredibly expensive Yeah. And
energetically. We cannotunderestimate the energetic toll
that it takes. It's like havinga static radio station on at all
times really loud. Yeah.
Like and it prevents us fromhaving mental clarity, emotional
(18:25):
clarity. It prevents it's it itit it screws up our magnetism.
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (18:29):
Yeah. Yeah. And so, like, a follow on from
that avoidance, I postseparation, I had paperwork that
I needed to do for thegovernment just to clear my new
status with the children. Andand it was about eight pages
long, and it required me to getthird party letters. And I
remember getting it and thinkingtwo years prior and thinking, I
cannot do this.
(18:51):
This is too much. Like, I was insuch overwhelm that just doing
that that exercise would havesent me over the edge. And so I
sat on it. When I finally did itin September, October, thanks to
all the tools I was working andwhat I was learning in Relax
Money, it took me about an hour,so it didn't actually take that
long. It was a perfect exampleof how, like, I was just so
(19:12):
stressed, like, my I was able tojust start expanding and
handling things.
That brought in $13,000. Yeah.One hour. One hour that I had
avoided for two years.
Kate Northrup (19:25):
Oh my gosh. That's so powerful. And I'm
like, you are you know this.It's so powerful. It's so common
Yeah.
That, you know, invoices don'tget sent. Like, the number one I
used to be a feng shuiconsultant in New York, and my
primary customers were singlewomen. And they tell me that
(19:51):
they were, like, strugglingfinancially, and then we would
go through their stacks of paperand be like, there's a $10,000
check sitting right here. Or,like, oh, are you aware that you
haven't sent these 15 invoices?Like, there's so much money
right here.
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (20:07):
Right here. And that was such a beautiful
lesson too, like, what was rightin front of me.
Kate Northrup (20:11):
The low hanging fruit. The low hanging fruit.
And then and then when we startto attend to the low hanging
fruit, it actually createsmomentum. So you said, you know,
there was the piece withclearing your debt, and then
there was this piece around thisone hour of paperwork that you
avoided for two years. And then,like, so been there.
And then and then you said otherthings came to pass afterwards.
(20:36):
So I'd love to know you know,here we are. It's about a year
later, a little less than a yearlater since you joined the
program. How are things goingwith your money? How are things
going with your business?
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (20:46):
Yeah. So well, I have one more one more,
like Please. Example that'swithin
Kate Northrup (20:52):
Love it.
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (20:53):
Yeah. I had also avoided dealing with
something. I had a officialseparation agreement, but there
was an issue post separationthat I couldn't deal with again
because I was in a lot ofoverwhelm. And it meant going
back to my lawyer and goingthrough a process and dealing
with some stuff that I startedto understand from my childhood
that was still affecting metoday, nervous system and fight
(21:15):
or flight and how I was managingmy money. When I finally was
able to hire the lawyer, gothrough the process, have the
conversations, I receivedanother $80,000, which is the
exact amount that I was in debt,which I love.
I love that synchronicity. Thatwas also a huge win. And there
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was a huge win on a financiallevel, and it was a huge win on
an emotional level because I hadto move through something that I
had experienced in my past thatI think I was still trapped
around. And to have gone throughit again and got the result that
I got was, again, another lifechanging, game changing moment.
(22:04):
And then I'll add when it comesto my business and my career.
So I started looking at havingalready been on TV as a style
expert, I started looking at howcan I continue to do what I
love? I love sharing what I dowith people. I feel very
comfortable in front of acamera. And I think we had a
session where we're looking at,like, other ways to make money.
(22:25):
Yes.
And so I thought, well, I'vedone a commercial in the past. I
could do that. That feels easyto me. I put together an acting
resume, posted it. An agentreached out to me by November,
October.
I can't remember when exactly.By December, this past December,
I did my first commercial. Sothat's like a new income stream
(22:46):
that's coming in.
Speaker 3 (22:48):
That is
Kate Northrup (22:48):
so cool. Yeah.
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (22:50):
And then in my business, I feel like it's
been really helpful for me justto with my nervous system
starting to settle down, I thinkthis is a really cool win for me
personally is to start movingaway from the part of me that
wants everything to be like,papa, like, perfect. And my, you
know, imperfectionist wasrunning the show and really,
(23:10):
like, settling into, like, whatdo I actually wanna do? How do I
wanna do it? And, like, really,I think tapping into more more
of who I am, which ultimately iswhat I do when I work with my
clients. It's, like, reallyconnecting to, like, who are
you?
How do you wanna show up? AndI've been doing that in my
business. So it means that rightnow, I'm on a little bit of a
(23:32):
hibernation mode. I've gonequiet, but it feels good because
I feel good about it.
Kate Northrup (23:39):
So beautiful. Yeah. Because when we're not
operating from performanceanymore, we can actually be true
to ourselves, and that requiresan internally sourced sense of
safety from our nervous systems.
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (23:53):
Yeah. Yeah. You can't fake that. I feel like
the level of first of all, like,compassion and grace I have for
myself in this journey I've beenon has increased, but also my
faith and trust. Like, the theone thing we haven't spoken
about, maybe you're gonna comeon to it, but it's, like, my
connection to the divine and thesense that I have about again,
(24:18):
just being fully connected thatwe are all one and and faith and
trust that, like, my life iscyclical.
I'm in a, like, maybe a bit of,like, a contraction at the
moment, but it's perfect. Butit's perfect.
Kate Northrup (24:30):
And and how how did that come about for you?
Like, was that expected as abyproduct of this work? Yeah.
And and and how did that landfor you?
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (24:43):
Yeah. No. I don't think I went into this
expecting that piece. I alwaysthought, well, you know, that
that might be something that I'mexploring somewhere else, but
not necessarily within thecontainer of relaxed money. And
I think the moment I reallydived into that further was the
forty days of.
Yeah. The forty day abundanceaccelerator. Accelerator. I
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mean, I have moments where Iremember doing it. I have a
nature reserve near me andsitting outside and just I mean,
in such awe.
And I remember sharing withfriends, like, I feel so much
more connected to all that isgreater than me and all that is
within me in a way that I hadn'tbefore. It was a really
(25:29):
beautiful and unexpected outcomeof this work, and I feel like
it's it's it's like foreverchanged me. I feel different.
Kate Northrup (25:39):
That's what happens when we plug ourselves
back in. Yeah. So good. I lovethat so much. Yeah.
So if somebody is consideringjoining, they're thinking about,
you know, obviously, theworkshop, good with money, but
also the program itself, andthey're feeling scared, feeling
hesitation, feeling like, ugh.I've done so many other things.
(26:00):
You know? I know that you'vebeen in the personal development
world. This is not your firstrodeo.
What might you wanna share forthem? Because it sounds like you
didn't actually have manyobjections or hesitations when
you joined, but but what mightyou share with someone who's on
the fence and hesitating? Imean, what
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (26:20):
I have been sharing because I I I've been
spreading the word about this.It's been You? So, yeah, so
transformational for me. Like,I'll tell people because a lot
of the people I know in mycircle have also done a lot of
programs. And I've said, I'vedone a lot of things.
This is easily one of the mostimportant programs I've ever
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done. And I think it's becauseit's not just about the day to
day money management. I mean,you can learn that in lots of
different places. The fact thatthis starts in the body first, I
mean, that's what really tipsthe scales for me because I
believe so much is happeninghere. The somatic work, the
nervous system, theunderstanding of the nervous
(27:01):
system, but bringing in togetherthe spiritual element, the
practical element.
I feel like even if someoneisn't in the situation that I
was in, which felt pretty urgentand and stressful, I think any
anyone can benefit from frombeing in the program. Just
understanding your relationshipto money in a new way, learning
(27:24):
new tools to steward money, oreven just connecting to money on
a level that's beyond the threed and moving into other realms.
I mean, I feel like it hits somany key important areas of of
how we live.
Kate Northrup (27:39):
Oh, good. And I'm curious for you, Joy, what's
next for you? Like, what's thethreshold that you're on, the
thing you are excited about, thething that's alive for you in
terms of your career or yourmoney or both?
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (27:53):
Yeah. I think I have a a creative
project that I'm excited tostart that is in the realm of
adornment and dressing, butreally, like, moving even
further into the pleasure piece,which lights me up so much. And
I think as part of that and justgenerally, I I'm really digging
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the idea of just, like,unmasking. Like, getting further
into who I am, letting it be ahot mess. Sometimes moving away
from the idea that things haveto be, like, perfect and
professional, and, like, just,like, more myself, more real
that really lights me up.
More that sense of, like, mywings unfolding. I mean, and
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this is, a a general answer tomaybe a specific question, but I
that's what I'm getting excitedabout. Like, who else is on the
other side? Like, who is on theother side of this? What else is
coming?
I also feel like the sense ofcuriosity, like, who knows? But
I feel like excited. Yeah.Excited. Excited to, like, see
what's on the other side.
Kate Northrup (29:02):
I love that. I love that. This is the best.
Thank you so much for sharingyour story. I didn't know really
any of those details.
Speaker 3 (29:09):
Yeah. And I'm, like, so delighted.
Kate Northrup (29:12):
I'm so excited for you. That was a fairly rapid
trajectory of Yes. Inflammation.Yeah. And I'm I'm in awe, and
I'm just, like, giving you a bigstanding ovation for what you've
created and, like, diving in sofully committed to doing the
work, finding thataccountability partner, you
(29:34):
know, really saying, like, thiswill not be one of those online
courses that's gonna collectdust, you know, with a password
in my inbox that I never open.
Like, that is what changes ourfinancial lives showing up
because our our energy will willcall in a match for abundance
(29:56):
based on how committed we are.And you're the living embodiment
of that level of commitment toyour financial well-being, and
it's just so beautiful to seeall the ways. It's like that,
you know, $80 that was an exactmatch and then wiping the dead
and then the 13,000 and all theways that you've been able to
give yourself permission to bein the season you're in in your
(30:18):
business without an unnecessaryoverlay of scarcity or false
urgency. Yeah. It's profound.
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (30:25):
Yeah. It's pretty awesome. Yeah. It's
Speaker 3 (30:28):
pretty awesome. It's pretty awesome. Okay.
Kate Northrup (30:31):
So if people wanna connect with you, learn
more about what you're doing,learn more about, you know, just
your offerings or or anything,where should they go?
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (30:39):
Yeah. So the best place to go is my website.
It's blackladyofleisure.com, orInstagram. That's another great
place. Same handle, black ladyof leisure.
Kate Northrup (30:48):
Amazing. So we'll put all of that in the show
notes. I appreciate you so much.Thank you for being a part of
our community.
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (30:55):
Oh my gosh. Thank you. I can't thank you
enough. This has been amazing.
Kate Northrup (30:59):
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I received another $80,000, which is the
(00:04):
exact amount that I was in debt,which I love. I love that
synchronicity. That was also ahuge win. And there was a huge
win on a financial level, and itwas a huge win on an emotional
level because I had to movethrough something that I had
experienced in my past that Ithink I was still trapped
around. And to have gone throughit again and got the result that
(00:24):
I got was, again, another lifechanging, game changing moment.
Kate Northrup (00:29):
Today, we have the most inspiring story for
you. This is part of our RelaxMoney case study series, and I'm
going to introduce you to themost gorgeous, powerful woman.
Her name is Joy Asabe Gabriel.She is a women's adornment
(00:52):
specialist. She's a stylist.
She's a media figure, inToronto, and she has has an
incredible money story. So I'mgonna let her tell you the
details, but what I want you toknow is this. When she came into
this world of money healing herein my company, she was in nearly
(01:18):
6 figures in debt. She was goingthrough a separation. Things
were tricky financially.
And what she created in anunbelievably short period of
time in less than six months andhow she did it, you're going to
hear the story of how she notonly was able to eliminate those
(01:42):
blessings for invoices alreadyreceived, which is what I call
debt, but how she also thenattracted and called into her
life extra income that farsuperseded her debt. So she
basically, within a six monthperiod, nearly gave herself from
(02:05):
a net worth increaseperspective, a 200 k race. So
you're gonna hear the story. Thedetails are beautiful. She is a
gorgeous soul.
Enjoy this case study with joy.Welcome to Plenty. I'm your
host, Kate Northrup, andtogether we are going on a
(02:25):
journey to help you have anincredible relationship with
money, time, and energy, and tohave abundance on every possible
level. Every week, we're gonnadive in with experts and
insights to help you unlock alife of plenty. Let's go fill
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our cups.
Please note that the opinionsand perspectives of the guests
on the Plenty podcast are notnecessarily reflective of the
opinions and perspectives ofKate Northrup or anyone who
works within the Kate Northrupbrand. Hi, Joy. Hello. Thanks
for being here.
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (03:03):
My pleasure. My pleasure.
Kate Northrup (03:04):
Alright. So I wanna know to start off with,
can you just, like, tell me theconstellation of your life and
your your career and just kindof, like, give us the overview
of the different pieces at play?
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (03:16):
Okay. Well, I'm a a feminine adornment
coach, so I help women expressthemselves through their
clothes, really looking at whoshe is on the inside and helping
her to bring it to the outsidewith as much joy and pleasure as
possible. So that would be mycareer piece. I'm working with
women every day and also on TV.I'm a mom of two.
(03:39):
I'm separated. And yeah. And I II'm loving life. I'm out in the
world traveling and enjoyingenjoying things.
Kate Northrup (03:50):
Amazing. And you live in Toronto? And I live in
Toronto. Yes. In Toronto.
Okay. Amazing. And what wasgoing on for you in your life,
in your career, in your money atthe time when money when Relax
Money came across your radar?
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (04:05):
Yeah. So in a in a nutshell, I was
incredibly stressed andoverwhelmed. I was waking up in
the middle of the night, like,in a panic about my finances,
specifically my debt. I like,scarcity. And I would even say,
(04:28):
like, on my knees level fear.
And I often described it tofriends as, like, feeling like
I'd hit a financial rock bottom.Like, I don't think I've ever
felt that way before. And if Iroll back two years before I had
decided to end my marriage,which was a huge decision that
felt so soul aligned. And I I Ilike to tell people that from
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that decision came so muchexpansion and more opportunities
and more energy and aliveness.And it also brought me face to
face with some things I've beenavoiding around my money and
finances, things I wasn't readyto look at, cracks that were
already there.
It brought it all to thesurface. And because I had been
(05:17):
reliant on my ex's income, or hewe were a single income
household. I had left my careerwhen my children were born. I
was dependent on that. But whenit went away, that was when I
realized, like, wow.
There's a big gap here to fill,a big gap, and that's where the
debt really kicked in. Mhmm.
Kate Northrup (05:37):
And how did you hear about Relaxed Money? Like,
do you remember who you heardabout it through or where you
were and
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (05:45):
and I heard about it through you because I
had been on your email list forover, I wanna say, like, since
2017, and part of other programsyou've done. And, you know,
like, people's inboxes, like,people who come into my inbox
come and go, but you haveremained a constant. And I
remember when you relaxedlaunched Relax Money, and I
(06:05):
remember telling other peopleabout it to the point where I
had a friend who had joined theprevious year. But for me, I
just felt like it wasn't theright time. But when I came up
to last year and where I was atin terms of that rock bottom
feeling, I knew, like, it justit was the right and perfect
timing to to join.
And it will even say that you Iremember had said, don't join
(06:30):
this program if you're not surehow you're paying your bills
every month. Like, if you're inthat level of financial
difficulty, and that's where Iwas. And I ignored what he said,
and I'm so glad I did. For me, Iwouldn't say everyone should do
that. But for me, I knew it wasI like, I needed something to
(06:50):
jump start me, and I was readyto take that risk, and it paid
off hugely.
Yeah. Wow. Yeah. Okay.
Kate Northrup (06:59):
So you were really in a place where you were
reinventing yourselffinancially. Yeah. Yeah? So you
were in total financialreinvention. You had you how how
long had you left the workforceto be with your kids?
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (07:14):
Oh, it had been 2016. So
Kate Northrup (07:18):
Okay. Yeah. So they had been eight years. Eight
years. Eight years.
And then and then when did youstart your business up? Like,
inklings of the
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (07:28):
business in 2018 really got golden probably
2019, '20 '20.
Kate Northrup (07:32):
Okay. So it hadn't really been
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (07:34):
Yeah. It hadn't been that long. And,
also, because we had anotherincome that we relied on, I
never felt like I needed to toreally make this my thing. You
know? I had savings I wasrelying on at my ex's income.
It wasn't it was there, and itwasn't yeah.
Kate Northrup (07:50):
It didn't have to provide everything for you and
your family. Exactly. But nowyou were in a position where it
was like, okay. The the game isdifferent. My needs are
different, and I don't know howI'm gonna do this.
Yeah. Yeah. Okay. And so evenoh, go ahead.
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (08:06):
No. I was just gonna say I I really
appreciate the opportunity totell the story because I feel
like I mean, I personally knowand I know there's other women
out there who've been in thatsituation where you're still in
your marriage because of thesafety and the security
financially. And to leave can beincredibly scary. Like, what am
(08:29):
I how am I gonna keep thisgoing? This house, these bills,
these expenses.
And then when you have children,you know, it it amplifies. And
I'm not saying my story is,like, the model, but I feel like
I really moved through thatfear. And and relax money has
been, like, a big, big, big partof that journey.
Kate Northrup (08:51):
That's absolutely incredible. So there you were
reinventing yourself, feelinglike, I'm gonna ignore what Kate
said about,
Speaker 3 (09:04):
like, not joining if you don't.
Kate Northrup (09:06):
I mean, I think, like, I will say, like, my one
of the things that
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (09:11):
I
Kate Northrup (09:11):
see in my industry is people will say,
like, do whatever you have to doto join this program. Like, take
out a loan, sell your couch, youknow, whatever. And I'm fine.
However, I'm just the sort ofperson where it's like, listen.
If you're if you're not knowinghow you're gonna pay your rent,
(09:34):
like, you know, get thathandled.
But Totally. You Totally. Youyou said, actually, I know this
is for me. I know this is what Ineed. Tell me more about that,
like, about just knowing thatthis was the work that you
needed.
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (09:48):
How did you know? It's interesting because
the previous year, I had told afriend about Relaxed Money and
she joined. And for whateverreason, and I don't really
remember why, I didn't join thatyear. I think I felt like I you
know, it wasn't the right time.Whereas when I did join, it felt
so urgent.
It felt like something needed tochange. And, also, my intuition
(10:14):
was, like, now is the time. AndI'm very much about, like,
what's happening in my body. AndI felt the full body yes. I
remember when my friend said I'mgonna do Relax Money a second
year, and I thought, wow.
This is where I need to be. Italso helps that I've been in
your containers before, so Itrust you. Like, I don't trust
(10:37):
just anybody. And I was yeah, Iwas excited for what was to
come.
Kate Northrup (10:44):
That's amazing.
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (10:45):
I love that.
Kate Northrup (10:46):
So then take take me back to, like, how did you
what was your experience likeactually doing the program? Did
you show up for all the livethings? Did you do it as
replays? Like, how was that howdid
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (10:59):
that actually go down? Yeah. I think,
like, being someone who's a bitof an online course junkie I
mean, I've done so many coursesover the years. My fear for
myself was that I was gonna buyanother course and not fully
show up as happens sometimes.With this one, I was like,
that's not gonna happen.
I am attending every live call.This is in my calendar. So I
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prioritized it. Like, it was ifI had a relaxed money call,
like, there was no way I wasn'tgonna be there unless there was
a really important reason not tobe there. I also set myself up
with accountability, which Iknow that I personally need to
show up for things.
And that felt like a realdifference for me compared to
how I've operated with onlinecourses in the past. So with my
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friend, we made sure, like,after every live call, we would
meet afterwards. We'd digest.We'd share favorite frames. We'd
work the tools together.
That made a a big difference.And I I think as well, realizing
that all of these like,everything I was learning felt
necessary and needed. You know,sometimes you do a course and
(12:04):
you're like, well, that's niceto know. Yeah. But this was
like, no.
I can apply this right away. Ican I can start the
transformation, the healingjourney now, and it and it gets
to be, like, in small doableincrements? Like, it's not yeah.
It's not like a it's not like alike, I have to work really hard
(12:25):
at this. It just felt verynatural and effortless.
That's so cool. Yeah.
Kate Northrup (12:31):
So for you during the course of the the content
itself, like, I mean, you and Iboth know that this work
continues to live on in yourlife because there's not one day
that we're not going to interactwith money. Yeah. So it is
ongoing. But during the actual,like, live delivery of the
program and and in the fewmonths after, what were some of
(12:51):
the most important pivotaleither exercises or or ahas and
revelations that you had foryourself?
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (13:01):
Yeah. I think a big one was
understanding my nervous system,understanding where and how I've
been dysregulated, and not justin relationship to money, but,
like, throughout my entire life.So doing the money story
exercise, which I was reallyresistant to, I found very
(13:23):
helpful to go back and look atthings that have happened in my
past and how they were stillaffecting me today. I am a big
believer in, like, movingemotion through the body. That
module was really helpful justto kind of remind myself, like,
oh, this practice is important.
All of the nervous systemhealing tools, I found
(13:45):
incredibly supportive. I mean,in every module, was something.
There was an moment. I mean, I Icould keep going probably, but
then we'll be sitting here for awhile.
Speaker 3 (13:55):
Totally. And
Kate Northrup (13:56):
Yeah. How soon after you started doing the work
would you say that you had atangible shift in your So,
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (14:05):
yeah, this kind of blew me away. I joined I
joined a little bit late, so Ijoined in May. It's like a month
after Yeah. You'd started. Andin August, I had a like so I was
in debt, I mentioned.
I was actually in about $80,000of credit card debt, which was
(14:27):
something that felt incrediblyheavy, and I had a lot of shame
around it. Through the program,as we were moving through, I
started talking about it. Sofirst, I started talking about
it to my partner, which was abig deal for me because I don't
think I would have ever sharedthat with someone before because
I felt so embarrassed. I sharedit with my boyfriend when we
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started having really honestconversations about money. I
started sharing it with otherfriends and, like, the the
ability to be more and moretransparent about exactly where
I was at.
And I knew that I needed to dosomething in order to to manage
this debt because it wascrushing me. Like, the interest
on that every month wasunsustainable. And, you know, it
just snowballs. It gets biggerand bigger. And so I had a
(15:12):
conversation with my mom who issomeone I really look up to and
admire.
It's gonna make me cry. And sheis someone who really knows how
to steward wealth, and so doesmy grandmother. And I felt like
I was, like, the pink in thechain. And I was embarrassed to
tell her about where I was. AndI remember walking in the woods,
(15:33):
like, nervous system grounding,doing a tool before I called
her, and having a really honestconversation with her about what
was going on.
And it was so beautiful how shewas able to show up for me with
so much compassion and grace.And through that conversation,
we started looking at, okay. Howare we gonna manage this? And I
looked across different routes.And in the end, I ended up
(15:57):
renegotiating my mortgage withher because she's my private
mortgage lender.
And I got all of the money Ineeded to clear that credit card
debt by September. And I thoughtmy goal had been to clear by the
end of the year, which I thoughtwas already gonna be impossible.
So to clear that by Septemberwas huge. Like, Kate, I can't
even tell you the weight thatlifted off of my shoulders. This
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boulder that felt like it was soheavy in my life affecting all
areas of my life.
To have that cleared was like,it felt miraculous. And,
obviously, it wasn't. There waswork that went into it, and yet,
yeah, that was huge. And thenthere
Kate Northrup (16:39):
was more that just started coming after that.
And when we think aboutobviously, there's the emotional
weight and the release of thatand and the energy that it
takes. But then also, justpractically speaking, the amount
of money you saved on interest
Speaker 3 (16:55):
Yeah. From clearing that out of me, like,
Kate Northrup (16:58):
wild. Wild.
Speaker 3 (16:59):
Yeah. Wild.
Kate Northrup (17:00):
So the savings is huge energetically, financially.
Okay. That's amazing.
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (17:06):
Go ahead. Just add going back to your
previous question, like, aboutthe modules that had the biggest
impact. Where we started talkingabout invoices for blessings
already received, the debtpiece, I think it was really
helpful for me to start lookingat things. Like, I actually
began looking at my debt andunderstanding, okay. This credit
card is paying this interest.
This one has that. This creditline is this. Like, in the
(17:30):
course, starting to really lookat my money, tracking my
expenses, that was so powerfulbecause it was one of the things
that I've been avoiding. Soavoidant to go into my bank
account, so avoidant tounderstand exactly how much I'm
spending every month, And thenespecially around the debt,
like, to really see. And evenbefore I cleared everything, I
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started shifting things around.
So at least I was paying lesswhere I could pay less. Yeah.
Kate Northrup (17:57):
Yeah. Because there's so much money that gets
wasted from avoidance. Yeah.
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (18:02):
It's Oh, yeah.
Kate Northrup (18:03):
Is ex incredibly expensive Yeah. And
energetically. We cannotunderestimate the energetic toll
that it takes. It's like havinga static radio station on at all
times really loud. Yeah.
Like and it prevents us fromhaving mental clarity, emotional
(18:25):
clarity. It prevents it's it itit it screws up our magnetism.
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (18:29):
Yeah. Yeah. And so, like, a follow on from
that avoidance, I postseparation, I had paperwork that
I needed to do for thegovernment just to clear my new
status with the children. Andand it was about eight pages
long, and it required me to getthird party letters. And I
remember getting it and thinkingtwo years prior and thinking, I
cannot do this.
(18:51):
This is too much. Like, I was insuch overwhelm that just doing
that that exercise would havesent me over the edge. And so I
sat on it. When I finally did itin September, October, thanks to
all the tools I was working andwhat I was learning in Relax
Money, it took me about an hour,so it didn't actually take that
long. It was a perfect exampleof how, like, I was just so
(19:12):
stressed, like, my I was able tojust start expanding and
handling things.
That brought in $13,000. Yeah.One hour. One hour that I had
avoided for two years.
Kate Northrup (19:25):
Oh my gosh. That's so powerful. And I'm
like, you are you know this.It's so powerful. It's so common
Yeah.
That, you know, invoices don'tget sent. Like, the number one I
used to be a feng shuiconsultant in New York, and my
primary customers were singlewomen. And they tell me that
(19:51):
they were, like, strugglingfinancially, and then we would
go through their stacks of paperand be like, there's a $10,000
check sitting right here. Or,like, oh, are you aware that you
haven't sent these 15 invoices?Like, there's so much money
right here.
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (20:07):
Right here. And that was such a beautiful
lesson too, like, what was rightin front of me.
Kate Northrup (20:11):
The low hanging fruit. The low hanging fruit.
And then and then when we startto attend to the low hanging
fruit, it actually createsmomentum. So you said, you know,
there was the piece withclearing your debt, and then
there was this piece around thisone hour of paperwork that you
avoided for two years. And then,like, so been there.
And then and then you said otherthings came to pass afterwards.
(20:36):
So I'd love to know you know,here we are. It's about a year
later, a little less than a yearlater since you joined the
program. How are things goingwith your money? How are things
going with your business?
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (20:46):
Yeah. So well, I have one more one more,
like Please. Example that'swithin
Kate Northrup (20:52):
Love it.
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (20:53):
Yeah. I had also avoided dealing with
something. I had a officialseparation agreement, but there
was an issue post separationthat I couldn't deal with again
because I was in a lot ofoverwhelm. And it meant going
back to my lawyer and goingthrough a process and dealing
with some stuff that I startedto understand from my childhood
that was still affecting metoday, nervous system and fight
(21:15):
or flight and how I was managingmy money. When I finally was
able to hire the lawyer, gothrough the process, have the
conversations, I receivedanother $80,000, which is the
exact amount that I was in debt,which I love.
I love that synchronicity. Thatwas also a huge win. And there
(21:38):
was a huge win on a financiallevel, and it was a huge win on
an emotional level because I hadto move through something that I
had experienced in my past thatI think I was still trapped
around. And to have gone throughit again and got the result that
I got was, again, another lifechanging, game changing moment.
(22:04):
And then I'll add when it comesto my business and my career.
So I started looking at havingalready been on TV as a style
expert, I started looking at howcan I continue to do what I
love? I love sharing what I dowith people. I feel very
comfortable in front of acamera. And I think we had a
session where we're looking at,like, other ways to make money.
(22:25):
Yes.
And so I thought, well, I'vedone a commercial in the past. I
could do that. That feels easyto me. I put together an acting
resume, posted it. An agentreached out to me by November,
October.
I can't remember when exactly.By December, this past December,
I did my first commercial. Sothat's like a new income stream
(22:46):
that's coming in.
Speaker 3 (22:48):
That is
Kate Northrup (22:48):
so cool. Yeah.
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (22:50):
And then in my business, I feel like it's
been really helpful for me justto with my nervous system
starting to settle down, I thinkthis is a really cool win for me
personally is to start movingaway from the part of me that
wants everything to be like,papa, like, perfect. And my, you
know, imperfectionist wasrunning the show and really,
(23:10):
like, settling into, like, whatdo I actually wanna do? How do I
wanna do it? And, like, really,I think tapping into more more
of who I am, which ultimately iswhat I do when I work with my
clients. It's, like, reallyconnecting to, like, who are
you?
How do you wanna show up? AndI've been doing that in my
business. So it means that rightnow, I'm on a little bit of a
(23:32):
hibernation mode. I've gonequiet, but it feels good because
I feel good about it.
Kate Northrup (23:39):
So beautiful. Yeah. Because when we're not
operating from performanceanymore, we can actually be true
to ourselves, and that requiresan internally sourced sense of
safety from our nervous systems.
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (23:53):
Yeah. Yeah. You can't fake that. I feel like
the level of first of all, like,compassion and grace I have for
myself in this journey I've beenon has increased, but also my
faith and trust. Like, the theone thing we haven't spoken
about, maybe you're gonna comeon to it, but it's, like, my
connection to the divine and thesense that I have about again,
(24:18):
just being fully connected thatwe are all one and and faith and
trust that, like, my life iscyclical.
I'm in a, like, maybe a bit of,like, a contraction at the
moment, but it's perfect. Butit's perfect.
Kate Northrup (24:30):
And and how how did that come about for you?
Like, was that expected as abyproduct of this work? Yeah.
And and and how did that landfor you?
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (24:43):
Yeah. No. I don't think I went into this
expecting that piece. I alwaysthought, well, you know, that
that might be something that I'mexploring somewhere else, but
not necessarily within thecontainer of relaxed money. And
I think the moment I reallydived into that further was the
forty days of.
Yeah. The forty day abundanceaccelerator. Accelerator. I
(25:06):
mean, I have moments where Iremember doing it. I have a
nature reserve near me andsitting outside and just I mean,
in such awe.
And I remember sharing withfriends, like, I feel so much
more connected to all that isgreater than me and all that is
within me in a way that I hadn'tbefore. It was a really
(25:29):
beautiful and unexpected outcomeof this work, and I feel like
it's it's it's like foreverchanged me. I feel different.
Kate Northrup (25:39):
That's what happens when we plug ourselves
back in. Yeah. So good. I lovethat so much. Yeah.
So if somebody is consideringjoining, they're thinking about,
you know, obviously, theworkshop, good with money, but
also the program itself, andthey're feeling scared, feeling
hesitation, feeling like, ugh.I've done so many other things.
(26:00):
You know? I know that you'vebeen in the personal development
world. This is not your firstrodeo.
What might you wanna share forthem? Because it sounds like you
didn't actually have manyobjections or hesitations when
you joined, but but what mightyou share with someone who's on
the fence and hesitating? Imean, what
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (26:20):
I have been sharing because I I I've been
spreading the word about this.It's been You? So, yeah, so
transformational for me. Like,I'll tell people because a lot
of the people I know in mycircle have also done a lot of
programs. And I've said, I'vedone a lot of things.
This is easily one of the mostimportant programs I've ever
(26:41):
done. And I think it's becauseit's not just about the day to
day money management. I mean,you can learn that in lots of
different places. The fact thatthis starts in the body first, I
mean, that's what really tipsthe scales for me because I
believe so much is happeninghere. The somatic work, the
nervous system, theunderstanding of the nervous
(27:01):
system, but bringing in togetherthe spiritual element, the
practical element.
I feel like even if someoneisn't in the situation that I
was in, which felt pretty urgentand and stressful, I think any
anyone can benefit from frombeing in the program. Just
understanding your relationshipto money in a new way, learning
(27:24):
new tools to steward money, oreven just connecting to money on
a level that's beyond the threed and moving into other realms.
I mean, I feel like it hits somany key important areas of of
how we live.
Kate Northrup (27:39):
Oh, good. And I'm curious for you, Joy, what's
next for you? Like, what's thethreshold that you're on, the
thing you are excited about, thething that's alive for you in
terms of your career or yourmoney or both?
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (27:53):
Yeah. I think I have a a creative
project that I'm excited tostart that is in the realm of
adornment and dressing, butreally, like, moving even
further into the pleasure piece,which lights me up so much. And
I think as part of that and justgenerally, I I'm really digging
(28:17):
the idea of just, like,unmasking. Like, getting further
into who I am, letting it be ahot mess. Sometimes moving away
from the idea that things haveto be, like, perfect and
professional, and, like, just,like, more myself, more real
that really lights me up.
More that sense of, like, mywings unfolding. I mean, and
(28:42):
this is, a a general answer tomaybe a specific question, but I
that's what I'm getting excitedabout. Like, who else is on the
other side? Like, who is on theother side of this? What else is
coming?
I also feel like the sense ofcuriosity, like, who knows? But
I feel like excited. Yeah.Excited. Excited to, like, see
what's on the other side.
Kate Northrup (29:02):
I love that. I love that. This is the best.
Thank you so much for sharingyour story. I didn't know really
any of those details.
Speaker 3 (29:09):
Yeah. And I'm, like, so delighted.
Kate Northrup (29:12):
I'm so excited for you. That was a fairly rapid
trajectory of Yes. Inflammation.Yeah. And I'm I'm in awe, and
I'm just, like, giving you a bigstanding ovation for what you've
created and, like, diving in sofully committed to doing the
work, finding thataccountability partner, you
(29:34):
know, really saying, like, thiswill not be one of those online
courses that's gonna collectdust, you know, with a password
in my inbox that I never open.
Like, that is what changes ourfinancial lives showing up
because our our energy will willcall in a match for abundance
(29:56):
based on how committed we are.And you're the living embodiment
of that level of commitment toyour financial well-being, and
it's just so beautiful to seeall the ways. It's like that,
you know, $80 that was an exactmatch and then wiping the dead
and then the 13,000 and all theways that you've been able to
give yourself permission to bein the season you're in in your
(30:18):
business without an unnecessaryoverlay of scarcity or false
urgency. Yeah. It's profound.
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (30:25):
Yeah. It's pretty awesome. Yeah. It's
Speaker 3 (30:28):
pretty awesome. It's pretty awesome. Okay.
Kate Northrup (30:31):
So if people wanna connect with you, learn
more about what you're doing,learn more about, you know, just
your offerings or or anything,where should they go?
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (30:39):
Yeah. So the best place to go is my website.
It's blackladyofleisure.com, orInstagram. That's another great
place. Same handle, black ladyof leisure.
Kate Northrup (30:48):
Amazing. So we'll put all of that in the show
notes. I appreciate you so much.Thank you for being a part of
our community.
Joy Asibey-Gabriel (30:55):
Oh my gosh. Thank you. I can't thank you
enough. This has been amazing.
Kate Northrup (30:59):
Once a year, I teach a money workshop that is
an absolute game changer forambitious humans who are ready
to not only make good money,which they may already do, but
also to feel good with money, begood with money, and do good
with money. So if that's you, ifyou are ready to heal your
relationship with money, ifyou're ready to have rock solid
(31:23):
financial systems that allow youto feel held and receptive and
in flow. And if you are ready tounlock the abundance that really
wants to pour into your life,join me for good with money.
This only happens once a yearand you can reserve your spot
over at katenorthrup.com/good.This is your time.
(31:50):
Your financial power and easeawait. Join us at
katenorthrup.com/good.
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