104. Feminine Financial Power How to Lead, Receive, and Build Wealth Differently

How can you lead with feminine energy to create financial abundance and peace in your life? What if the secret to financial success is in balancing the masculine and feminine within you?”

In this empowering episode, I introduce “egg wisdom” as the biological blueprint for feminine financial leadership. I explain how feminine energy—receptivity, trust, and setting clear boundaries—can be harnessed for financial success. This episode challenges the patriarchal view of money and offers a refreshing perspective on how women, and anyone embracing their feminine energy, can become powerful financial leaders.

I encourage you to explore your financial desires and set boundaries, empowering you to create supportive financial systems. From building internal safety to stepping into feminine flow, I show how embracing the feminine can enrich every area of your financial life. This episode culminates in the strategies shared in my “Good with Money” workshop.

Tune in to learn how integrating both masculine and feminine energies can unlock your financial freedom and ease!

“The masculine asks the question, what is worth dying for? The feminine asks the question, what is worth living for?” -Kate Northrup

🎤 Let’s Dive into the Good Stuff on Plenty 🎤

(00:00) Introduction to Feminine Principle and Abundance
(01:03) Feminine Energy in Financial Leadership
(02:16) Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energies
(04:12) Internal Worth vs. External Validation
(07:19) The Egg’s Role in Fertilization and Desire
(09:11) Nurturing and Support in the Feminine
(12:01) Applying Feminine Principles to Financial Life
(13:18) Wounding Around the Masculine
(14:31) Building Safety in Financial Systems
(21:00) Possibilities for Financial Exhale

Links and Resources:

Do Less by Kate Northrup
Terri Cole

 

When Does Money Actually Feel Good?

I’ve watched a pattern play out for years, and I know you’ve felt it, too: Making good money doesn’t automatically make you good with money.

Even as my income increased, money stress never truly disappeared. I still felt a near-constant low-grade scarcity and pressure. I kept wondering:

“When do I finally get to exhale?”

And I know I’m not alone.

I’ve seen brilliant, ambitious people—earning anywhere from $50K to $300M—still feeling:
☑ Uneasy checking their bank accounts
☑ Guilty when they finally buy something just for them
☑ Confused about where their money actually goes
☑ Like they should have “figured this out” by now
☑ Unhappy and wondering if it’s all worth it

Here’s the truth: More money alone doesn’t fix this.

So what does?

Good with Money

Here’s What You’ll Learn in the 3-Day Experience:

💡 Day 1: The Surprising Key to Relaxed Money Manifestation
Why traditional money advice fails – and the nervous system shift that makes wealth flow effortlessly.

💡 Day 2: Unlocking Financial Confidence, Clarity & Magnetism
A simple 6-step process to trust yourself with money, make aligned decisions, and feel financially secure.

💡 Day 3: The Relaxed Money Blueprint
The 3 pillars for creating, keeping, and growing wealth – without stress.

This only happens once a year. Are you in?

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Episode Transcript

Kate Northrup (00:00):
So the egg decides, and she has a very

(00:04):
strong boundary against thatwhich is not for her, and yet
she is very open and receptiveto that which is for her, and
she lets it in. And when thesperm enters the egg and the
fertilization process ishappening, the egg actually has
the ability to improve andrepair the DNA of the sperm if

(00:26):
there's something wrong with it.That is the feminine principle
at work. The feminine enhanceseverything it touches. Welcome
to Plenty.
I'm your host, Kate Northrup,and together, we are going on a
journey to help you have anincredible relationship with
money, time, and energy, and tohave abundance on every possible

(00:52):
level. Every week, we're gonnadive in with experts and
insights to help you unlock alife of hunting. Let's go fill
our cups. Hi. Welcome back tothe series we're doing on
expanding your financial peace,prosperity, and pleasure.
We're talking about being goodwith money, feeling good with

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money, and doing good withmoney. It's a triple whammy, and
we are on episode six of thisseries. So if you're just tuning
in, welcome. All of theseepisodes can absolutely stand
alone, but if you want to getthe best result possible for
your abundance and expansion, Iwould listen to all of them for

(01:35):
sure. But you don't have to goback today.
Just listen to this one, thenyou can go back. So today, we're
talking about feminine energyand the feminine energy of
financial leadership. Now welive in a patriarchy. I'm not
gonna bang this drum too muchtoday because I am about the

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possibility and growth andcollective healing and
evolution. However, what is trueis for thousands of years, women
have been kept out of financialpower on purpose by governments,
monarchies, corporations, allsorts of oppressive systems.
Those systems aren't necessarilyinherently oppressive, but, you

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know, that's what's that'swhat's been going on. And so we
can have this false idea thatmoney then somehow, and
financial stewardship, andfinancial leadership are not
feminine, but that's wrong. Thatis completely wrong, and there's

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always a way to do anythingthat's in alignment with the
truth of who we are. Now myframework is that we all have
feminine energy and masculineenergy no matter what our gender
identity. And for many women inour community, we we resonate
with this feeling of having beenoverly developed in our

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masculine doing linear natureand being underdeveloped in our
feminine surrender andreceptivity.
That's because we live in aculture that overemphasizes
visible results, getting thingsdone, getting visible traction,
and solar energy, which isspringtime energy, starting

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things, and summertime energy,which is launching things. So
the business world, the world ofcommerce, the work world, and
anything having to do withproductivity can is very focused
on what did you get done? Oh, Ihave so much more to get done.
Oh, I haven't gotten the visibleresults yet. I'm somehow falling
behind because I haven't beenchecking the boxes, or I'm not

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climbing the ladder.
And we gauge someone's successon these external, awards for
achievement, these externalideas of what it means to be
valuable based on, you know, theForbes forty under forty list,
or the Inc, you know, Inc. Fivehundred list, or the Academy

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Awards, or whatever externalthing is like basically somebody
else or some other committee ofpeople taking their stamp of
approval and deeming youvaluable and worthy. So just so
we are clear, all of that ispretend. It is all a hologram,
and the only way we are evergoing to feel worthy and fully

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whole and enough is going to besourced from within. No amount
of accolades, awards, Ivy Leaguedegrees, zeros at the end of
your paycheck or revenue or,like, any kind of being on any
list is ever going to make youfeel sustainably like you are

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enough, like you are lovable,like you are worthy.
Now that being said, right, so Ijust I just wanna say that. And
our hypermasculine culture hasoverly identified us with those
things that are external, Butthe feminine is the invisible.
The feminine is that which canbe felt but not necessarily

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seen. The feminine is a feeling.So the masculine is a doing.
The feminine is a feeling. Ijust wanna be super clear.
There's nothing wrong withmasculine energy. I love
masculine energy. I have a lotof masculine energy in the way I
operate in the world.
I love my masculine. I also lovemy masculine dominant leading

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husband, and I love it when he'sin that energy because it helps
me to fully surrender and relax.That being said, the invitation
that I have for you, if you aresomeone who's wanting to lean
more into their feminine energy,their receptivity, the exhale,

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the part of you that wants tofeel safe and held and, like,
you don't have to do it all,then this next part is for you.
So what I wanna say is, numberone, our bodies were all
designed with an innateblueprint for feminine

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leadership. And this innateblueprint, I've talked about
here on the podcast before, butjust in case you're new here and
you haven't heard it before, itis called egg wisdom.
And egg wisdom, I learned aboutfrom my mom, doctor Christian
Northrop. I also wrote a chapterabout it in my book, Do Less. So
if you wanna learn more, gocheck out my book, Do Less. And

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here's how egg wisdom works. Soegg wisdom is the biological
blueprint for feminine magnetismand feminine leadership.
And this applies no matter whatanatomy you have, because this
is how your body was formed. Idon't care who you are, every
single one of our bodies camefrom the following thing

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happening. There was a human intheir reproductive years, and
that human ovulated. And at thetime of ovulation, an egg gets
released from the ovary, andthat egg releases an energetic
hormonal signal. So the egg is,like, hanging up, hanging out,

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up by the by the ovaries, up atthe top of the fallopian tubes
on the edge there, and it issending out a signal, and it is
saying, hey, I'm here.
And that signal is energetic andhormonal, and it can be felt all
the way down through the uterusat the cervix where if the sperm

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is showing up that particularmonth at the time of ovulation,
the sperm can feel the hormonalsignal, and the egg's signal
actually has the ability tospeed up the rate at which the
sperm swims to her. So the eggputs out a signal, but she sits

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in trust that her desire is onits way to her if it is meant
for her that at that time. Andher clear signal, her clear
desire, and her trust has theability to speed up the rate at
which the desire swims to her,which is so cool. Now once the
egg I mean, once the sperm showsup, you know what sex ed when

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you watch those videos is yousee all those sperm, like,
banging their head against theegg wall, It looks like the
strongest sperm wins, but,actually, what's happening is
the egg is choosing which spermshe wants to let in, which is so
cool. So the egg decides, andshe has a very strong boundary

(09:09):
against that which is not forher, and yet she is very open
and receptive to that which isfor her, and she lets it in.
And when the sperm enters theegg and the fertilization
process is happening, the eggactually has the ability to
improve and repair the DNA ofthe sperm if there's something

(09:32):
wrong with it. That is thefeminine principle at work. The
feminine enhances everything ittouches. It brings the throw
pillows. It adds in a floralarrangement.
It makes everything morebeautiful, more nourishing, more
yummy, more delicious becausethe feminine asks the question,

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what is worth living for? Themasculine asks the question,
what is worth dying for? And sowhen that sperm comes in and now
we have a fertilized egg, andpossibly the egg has repaired
the sperm's DNA, now the eggalso has the nutrients to feed

(10:16):
both the sperm and the egg forseveral days as it makes its
journey down the fallopian tubeall the way down into the uterus
where it can then embed into theuterine lining, which is its
next source of nutrients throughthe gestation period. And so
that is also the feminine atwork. The nutrienting, the

(10:39):
bringing the extra resources toimprove upon, to feed, to make
us feel safe, to make peoplefeel like, oh, it's okay for me
to stay here, like, someone'sgonna feed me, someone's gonna
take care of me.

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That's also the feminine atplay. And so what have we
learned from this? Oh, there'sone more thing, actually. And a
and a wonderful woman at arecent speaking gig I did gave
me this last piece. And, she issomeone who had experienced
pregnancy loss, And so shefound, my discussion of egg

(11:20):
wisdom triggering, and Iunderstand that.
And then she brought in thisadditional piece of wisdom,
which I'm so grateful for. Sothis is officially part of egg
wisdom now. And that is thefollowing. The feminine
principle, the feminine alsoknows when to let go when
something is not viable. Thefeminine knows when to say, this

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isn't going to work out, and tolet things pass through and go
back to the earth, back into thegrand pot of fertilizer, of
compost to create new life.
And I I thought that piece wasreally beautiful. So what we

(12:04):
have learned today about thefeminine principle is the
following. The feminine puts outa clear signal. She trusts that
what she desires is on her wayto her, and she does not need to
run all over kingdom come andmake a million phone calls and
go out and do a million thingsin order to make it happen. She
puts out a clear signal.
She sits. She waits in trust.That signal tells her desire

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where she is. It actually speedsup the rate at which her desire
comes to her. She has a greatstrong boundary for what is not
for her, but she is veryreceptive and open to that which
is a fit for her desire.
She has the ability to improveupon the desire when it shows
up. She brings snacks andnutrients for the full journey

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all the way down, and she knowswhen it's time to let go. So how
can you apply that to yourfinancial life? What is your
clear desire? What are yourboundaries?
What are you available for? Whatare you not available for? Is
there any way in which you areblocking what is for you because

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it doesn't feel safe to receive?Now for those of us who have
wounding around the masculine,and this is something I
personally have worked on foryears, My friend Terry Cole is
working on a book about daddyissues, and I was honored to be,
interviewed for this bookbecause so many of us have
wounding around the masculine,whether it's just the masculine

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in our culture, from a workenvironment, from some sort of
authority environment, from ourown fathers, and the ways in
which the wounded masculine hasimpacted us. And the wounded
masculine can create a situationin which we show up in our
wounded feminine.
And our wounded feminine lookslike collapse, dissociation,

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hysteria, though there's nothingwrong with feeling your
feelings, overblame, andvictimization. So and many other
things, but those are someexamples. And so it's up to us
not to expect, again, the worldaround us to change, but to
simultaneously call in what wedesire, ask more of the world

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while shifting our internalenvironment, while shifting our
own signal. And that's the workof stepping into our wise
feminine. Our wise femininewhere we are building the
structures to feel safe andsupported inside our nervous

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system, inside our somatic body,and then also on the three d
front in our financial systems.
One of the most powerful waysthat you can support yourself to
step into your wise, receptivefeminine around your financial
leadership is to build safety inyour nervous system so you feel

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good with money, so you are goodwith money, and so that you can
do good with money, and tocreate solid, easeful financial
systems so you have thatstructure to hold you and your
money for peak feminine flow.Now is setting up structures and

(15:28):
systems a bit more of amasculine activity? Yeah. It is.
And you know what?
Each of us needs to create theinternal marriage of the
masculine and the feminine inorder to be in our fullest
expression as humans. This isnot about you getting all your
needs met for the masculineexternally. When you build it

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inside yourself, you're able tofreaking relax and exhale. You
know, years ago, Mike and I,we've had this dance going on,
for years that we don't fallinto the trap very often
anymore, but, years ago, wewere, like, constantly in the
trap. And the trap was thefollowing.
I had a wound around not feelingsupported, not feeling held, not

(16:14):
taken care of, not feeling takencare of. Had to do, you know,
with my upbringing. Mike had awound around feeling like he was
never enough. And I would end upfeeling unsupported, which would
make him feel like he wasn'tenough. And then he would end up
feeling like he wasn't enough,which would make me feel
unsupported.

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And that was a really ugly dancethat made us both not get our
needs met for years. One day, Iremember so clearly, we had
these big couches. We had a bigliving room. And, at the time,
and we were sitting across fromeach other on our couches in the
living room. We insisted onbuying white couches for years

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even though we had smallchildren.
It was fully insane. So, anyway,we're sitting on the couches. We
were probably sitting six feetfrom each other, but it felt
like we were sitting six milesfor each other from each other.
I was just, like, so mad at him.And in that moment, because of
doing some internal familysystems work, some of which I
share inside Relax Money, someof these processes that I

(17:17):
learned over time, I wentinside, and I did a process that
I do.
And I realized that because Ididn't have the circuitry to
even recognize support when itshowed up because of the way my
nervous system developed, therewas nothing Mike could ever do

(17:38):
to make me feel supported. Like,no matter how much he showed up,
no matter how many times he tookout the trash, no matter how
much safety and how many systemsand how much he was holding the
logistics of our life, which, bythe way, he was, he could have
been spending morning untilnight, all day, every day
handling everything, and I stillwas not gonna feel supported

(18:02):
because I didn't have thereceptor sites internally to
feel supported. So that was anexample where I had an
incredibly capable man operatingin his masculine, often, showing
up, supporting me in, like,beautifully healthy masculine
ways, and I could not feel it. Icouldn't even be aware, I was

(18:26):
not even aware of all of theways he was supporting me
because my own circuitry waslacking in that area. So I
needed to do my own work overtime to begin to build the
circuitry, the internal matchfor safety and security, for
feeling held from the insidewith my relationship with my

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nervous system, the Earth,mother nature, the great mother,
the great father.
I did a lot of differentpractices daily tapping into
those greater sources of supportwith a capital s source. And
then wouldn't you believe it?All of a sudden, I could feel
all the ways that I was alreadyheld and supported by Mike, that

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I was already held and supportedexternally, but I I couldn't see
those things. Those things werenot apparent to me until I did
that internal work. So what I'msaying here around the the the
internal marriage of themasculine and the feminine is if
you're someone who wants to bemore fully expressed in their

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feminine and feel more relaxedand feel more luscious and feel
more juicy and feel more openand receptive and more trusting
and surrendered, one of the waysyou can do that is actually by
expressing your healthymasculine, not your wounded
masculine where you have to holdit all together and do

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everything to be a good girl orgood boy and get that external,
you know, stamp of approval andthose gold stars, but your
healthy masculine, the part ofall of us that wants to allow
people to feel held and safe inour presence, to be able to hold

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safe space.
And you can set up yourfinancial systems from that
place, and you can build nervoussystem capacity to feel safe
with money from that place. Andwhen you do, there are so many
chances for feminine surrenderall throughout your life, and

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the flow of money, the flow ofabundance in all sorts of forms
begins to open up in a muchbigger way because now there is
that masculine support. There isthat masculine structure in
order to allow you to feel heldand safe. The feminine flow

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requires the masculine structureand support. And the good news
is you do not have to wait for asingle thing to change or for a
single person to show upexternally in order for you to
experience the beautifulmarriage of both.
So I hope this gets you excitedabout all the possibilities for
the exhale in your financiallife and inspires you to take

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some steps around, expandingyour feminine energy in your
financial leadership, whetherit's in your personal life, in
your business, or both. So thatwas episode six in our financial
expansion series, and we arecoming in with episode seven,

(21:46):
which will be our final episodein this series. And it is about
the key lessons that we learnedin the last year while expanding
our business to nearly 3,000,000in revenue and over 30% profit
margins. And I'm really excitedto share those behind the scenes
lessons with you in the nextepisode. See you then.

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Once a year, I teach a moneyworkshop that is an absolute
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good with money, be good withmoney, and do good with money.
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(22:26):
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(22:50):
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