Day 2 Replay | Good with Money

This is the replay from Good with Money Workshop with Kate.  This replay is from Day 2 of the workshop. There is one more day which will be on April 24th.  You can register on this site for access to all video recordings. 

Episode Transcript

Kate Northrup (00:00):
Now we get the way back

TaKisha August (00:02):
Welcome to day two of good with money with Kate
Northrop. So happy to see youall here. My name is Takesha
August. I'm the head ofcommunity here inside of team
Kate, and we're so excited foryou to join us. Just a little
bit of housekeeping again.
If you're joining us for thefirst time or even the second,

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you can minimize or close outyour chat if you tend to be a
little overwhelmed by thatexperience, and you can select
the little caret at the bottomso that you can hide previews.
Also, if the screen, that Kateis sharing during the workshop
doesn't automatically populatefor you, there's a tab at the
top of your Zoom window that'llsay see Kate's window or Kate's

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window view or whatever it saysfor you. Just click that so you
can see her sharing her screen.You can also see her sharing
her, her face, and we're gonnaget going here. So excited to
welcome you all again and enjoy.
Have your workbook handy, haveyour pen and open your ears

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wide. Here we go.

Kate Northrup (01:13):
Hello. Thanks, Takesha. Welcome back, everyone.
I am so happy that we're allhere together for day two. I
will say, if you are here forday two and you missed day one,
you are in the perfect time atthe perfect place and you are
right on track.

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So no matter how you areexperiencing this workshop, you
are doing it right. Can we allaffirm for ourselves in this
moment, I am doing it right. Iam doing it right. Okay. So
let's do it right together.

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I'm going to open my slides, andwe are gonna dive in here. Okay.
Standby. I'm gonna share myscreen, and then I'm gonna do
this, and then I'm gonnapresent, and I'm gonna confirm
with our team that everyone cansee my slides. So in the in the

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team chat, can you just confirm?
Fantastic. Confirming thateveryone can hear me okay. I'm
feeling great today. I hope youare feeling great today. And
even if you're not, that's alsoperfect.
So let's go ahead and dive in.Oh, here we go. Okay. A brief

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review. This will be helpful.
It's grounding. What we didduring day one is the following.
We learned why now is the timeto heal your relationship with
money because of the particularinflection point that we're in
oh, I just hit myself in thechin that we're in in history,

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particularly around women andmoney, but all conscious humans
and money. Things are shiftingfast, and now is the best time
we've ever had in history foryou to be engaging in healing
your relationship with money,which is so exciting. We
discovered why healing yournervous system is the key.

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You're not going to hear thisother places and you likely
haven't before. There were somany breakthroughs around this
particular thing. Healing yournervous system has very likely
been the missing key around yourmoney life. And we talked about
the three things that thehappiest, wealthiest, most

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relaxed, and I'm going to add inmost generous people are doing
behind the scenes so you canstart doing them too. And then
finally, we turned locationservices on.
So that was your homework. Weturned location services on, and
I'm going to check-in with youon that because I know there can

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be a full wide spectrum ofexperiences as we actually do
the work to start to createsafety with our numbers. And
that was around your now point.But before we get into that, I
want to highlight a few thingsthat came up in the Facebook

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group, a few things that came upin my DMs, just some stuff in
the collective field. What's socool about doing a workshop live
like this is we are co creatingthis together in real time in
the emergent field or thegenerative field of live

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interaction.
That's why I love doing thisonce a year live because it's
new, it's fresh, and it's ontrack with where our collective
community is going and theleading edge of each of our
evolution. So here's what'sfresh. This is just like wasn't
pre planned, but I popped it inthis morning. So if you notice

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that during the live sessionlast time or during the session
this time, or really any time inyour life, impatience comes up,
judgment comes up, or boredomcomes up. These are all
invitations.
So typically, if we've studiedanything about the nervous

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system, we, have learned theF's, right? Fight, flight,
freeze, flop, fawn. And we'llthink like, Oh, I'm only
dysregulated if I'm anxious, orI'm only dysregulated if I'm
overwhelmed. But I want to saythat dysregulation and being out

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of our range of regulation orour range of resonance can show
up in some subtle, sneaky waysthat we wouldn't necessarily
obviously know are signs thatour nervous system is responding
to a fear stimulus. And some ofthose ways are impatience,
judgment, and boredom.

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So impatience is a low gradeflight response. Judgment is a
low grade fight response. Andboredom can be a low grade
freeze response. And if thosethings are coming up, the
invitation is to know that youare at an edge, and it's a good

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thing. Those are signs ofresistance.
Those are signs ofdysregulation. And it doesn't
mean you're doing it wrong. Andit also doesn't mean that I'm
doing it wrong. Okay? So I havea tendency, I'm just going to
share something from behind thescenes of my life.

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When things get really good,Mike and I have taken a couple
of, like, really beautifultrips. And these past several
years have been, things havestabilized the last two years or
so. But before then, it wasreally rocky. And I shared my
story last time about some ofthat. And so when we've taken

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these beautiful trips whereeverything goes still, and I'm
not tending to kids, I'm notworking, I'm not on social
media, like things go still, myunfortunate default is to go
into judgment.
So before I can get into fullsurrender and expansion and
pleasure and enjoyment, I gointo judgment, which is a low

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grade fight response. Now I knowit, so I know what's happening,
but I can go into this terribleplace where I'm suddenly judging
my husband for all these thingsthat are just it just feels
pretty awful inside myself. Andso I want to invite you today,
I've had a quick conversationwith my dear friend, Sarah

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Tacey, who is also a geniusnervous system healing expert
and somatic specialist. She'sbeen working in mind body
healing for over twenty years.And she also is our resident
nervous system healing expertwithin our incredible Relaxed

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Money program.
You're going to hear a tiny bitabout that, like the slightest
sliver later on today, but Iwant you to listen in when that
comes. So Sarah and I werebopping back and forth about
impatience, judgment, andspecifically boredom. And she
shared something with me thatcame from one of her teachers,
Tel Darden, who I mentionedbefore, T E L E D A R D E N. And

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it's the invitation to insteadof suffer through the edge of,
through your edge of growth, tobe with that edge. So she came
up with a couple of suggestions.
If you notice today, oops, I'm,here's my sticky note. If you
notice today that you're feelingbored or you're in the replay

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and you're feeling bored, thatcan be because in our culture,
slow can feel really hardbecause we've been so
conditioned to go fast all thetime. And so if you're feeling
bored, you could get up. Youcould keep listening, but you
could get up and jump around,right, to use your body and meet

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the desire that it has. Ifyou're feeling impatient, you
could get up and take thistraining for a walk with you.
And if you want it to go faster,you could do the training while
cleaning and then re listen tothe replay. I saw a lot of
people listen to the replay andreceive something the second

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time that they were not able toreceive the first time. So
that's very common. Or you couldto exit while walking. So if you
have a need for faster, you getto meet that need while still
being with the information.
So I wanted to offer that wisdomfrom Sarah Tacey for you if you

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notice that you're meeting youredges around some of this
material. I want us all tonotice if we are feeling like
something outside of us needs tobe different in order for us to
feel okay. When we meetjudgment, when we meet boredom,
when we meet impatience, weoften are projecting onto the

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external. Maybe you'reprojecting onto somebody in the
Facebook group. Maybe you'reprojecting onto me.
Maybe you're projecting ontosomebody on our team. Maybe
you're projecting onto somebodyin the VIP. Whatever it is,
notice if you are getting stuckon something or someone outside
of you needing to be differentin order for you to feel safe,

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relaxed, abundant, okay,whatever. And it's not wrong,
but I just want you to noticeit. When we are in a place where
we have decided that someone orsomething outside of us needs to
be different in order for us tobe okay, we are giving away our

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power to them or to that thing.
And that ain't the way torelaxed money. That is not the
way to good with money. Thatwill not be an effective path.
And so that's the time we canjust notice and say, Oh, oh,
okay. Yep.

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I'm up against my edge here. Andwhen we're up against our edge,
that's a sign of resistance. Andit's not a problem. Resistance
is not a problem. Resistance isactually a sign that you're onto
the solution.
Resistance is a sign that thesolution is already underway and

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you've met an edge, which meansyou're growing, you're
expanding. So it's actually goodnews. However, that's the time
you want to use your tools. AndI'm going to teach you a great
tool today. And when we arenoticing we're up at the edge of
expansion, and we are meetingour edge, that is when our

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conditioning will have us wantsomebody else to change or
something else to change, or ourconditioning will have us try to
fix it with our mind.
None of those are going to beeffective long term strategies.
And so I'm going to teach youtoday an effective long term
strategy that melts the edge,signals safety, and allows you

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to keep moving forward in a waythat's really healthy. Okay, I
also want to mention that thiscame up a lot in the Facebook
group. And it comes up a lot inconversations I have with our
students about money. And thatis folks feel like the solution

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to their money problems is tofind ways to have more willpower
to overcome their overspendingor overcome their tendency to
play small or, like, just needto use their willpower to be
more consistent, and ask forthat raise and just be more

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disciplined about my spending.
And I am wanting to be actuallythe bearer of good news. So I
want to be the bearer of goodnews here and tell you that
willpower and discipline areactually fairly unsustainable as
energy sources Because whenwe're relying on our willpower,

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that is a nonrenewable resource.So we, you might have read the,
article in the New York Times.It came out many years ago. It
was about decision fatigue andthe way in which by the end of
the day, we have actually runout of our decision energy.

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We no longer can make positiveconscious decisions by the end
of the day. So they talk aboutstacking important decisions in
the beginning of the day. Butwhat I'm actually offering here
is that you can get what youwant in your money life and any
other area of your life. You canget what you want without

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depending on willpower anddiscipline long term. Maybe you
need to front load a little bitof willpower and discipline.
However, long term, those arenot good strategies. What is a
good strategy long term though?You may ask. Long term, the best
strategy for getting what youwant is to rewire your neural

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patterning. Good news.
You're here today and we'regoing to work on that. And when
you do that, your patterningbecomes a match for what you
want. And then you don't have todepend on willpower or
discipline. You just notice thatnow you're acting in all these
ways that are incrediblysupportive to your financial

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dreams. And then before you knowit, you just have your financial
dreams without having to babysityour thoughts or police your
behavior or use willpower anddiscipline.
So I'd love to know in the chat,does that feel like a relief to
anybody? Just go ahead and pop aone in the chat if knowing that
you can stop using willpower anddiscipline as your primary

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strategy, if that feels like,oh, actually, collectively, can
we just let out an audible sigh?So I'm going to invite you to
just take a breath in. Yeah.Yeah.

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A reminder. Emotions come first,then we start to have conscious
thoughts and beliefs. And wheredo emotions come from? Where do
does the feeling in our bodythat we label as anger, or
grief, or sadness, or joy, wheredoes that start? Yeah, it starts

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in the nervous system.
That's why we do this work,right? I talked about going all
the way upstream to the site ofthe toxic waste dump. Doing
mindset work is like taking aDixie cup at the delta of a
river that was polluted milesand miles up and trying to,
like, scoop out the the toxicwaste at the delta is is too
late. That's going that's goinginto the ocean. So the nervous

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system healing work goes way,way upstream.
It stops the toxic waste dump tobegin with. Perhaps it even
shuts down the plant that'susing toxic chemicals to begin
with. On Earth Day, that feelslike a celebratory vision. And
it makes it so that the riverruns clear and clean. And so by

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the time you've gotten to yourthoughts and beliefs, they are
automatically more supportiveand you have the capacity to
notice them when they're off, tonotice when you're thinking
something that's not helpful,and you have the capacity to
shift it as well.
I also want to mention somethingI had mentioned Tel Darden

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already, T E L D A R D E N. Shealso is one of the mentors of
Sarah Tacey, who is our residentnervous system healing expert.
And Tell talks about thedifference between our range of
resonance versus our range ofregulation. In the nervous

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system healing world, we canhave this idea that calm is
always the way we want to feel,like I need to calm down. Then
we have this idea that regulatedis like bringing us into
equanimity at all times.
And I know from my ownexperience that actually what

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we're wanting to go for isnervous system resonance,
meaning the ability to, withsuppleness, move in and out of
parasympathetic and sympatheticand be able to feel the
aliveness of the full spectrumof human experience without

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getting stuck in a hyperresponse or getting stuck in a
hypo response. So getting stuckin a hyper is like activity, and
a hypo is like, bleh, right? Sowe're looking for resonance and
aliveness. And when we cultivateour ability for our bodies to be

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a conduit of resonance andaliveness, we actually become
living, breathing conduitsabundance, of creativity, of
life force energy, of theabundance that wants to run
through our circuitry in allforms, financially and

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otherwise. And so I wanna reallyinvite us to play around with
the idea of resonance as opposedto regulation.
I don't know. To me, the wordregulate feels very like, Right?
Versus resonance is like, thatfeels yummy. So I want I wanted

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to put that out there as aninvitation to start. And then I
know I'm front loading a lothere, so let's just know that
you have the replay.
Okay? These are gonna beavailable for an entire week
additionally past when I'm whenI deliver the the final live
session. So just know you haveplenty of time with this

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material. These were all nuggetsthat came up. Okay.
This one is really fun. It feelsreally good, but we're so often
conditioned to not do it. Lastnight, Mike and I were watching
Queer Eye. I don't know who's afan of the Fab Five. I'm a huge
fan of Queer Eye, and it is ashow that I watch when I need

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something that is gentle to mynervous system.
And so that's not going to makeme anxious before bed because it
always is a happy ending, and italways opens my heart. So last
night, there was a woman onnamed Sarah, and she's a single
mom of three. And they weretalking about with her the

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importance of celebratingherself. And it was such a
block, like it was such a visualblock. I could feel I could see
her body go into armoring whenthey suggested celebrating
herself for having completed herassociate's degree.
And we all do that, right? Weget to the end of we get to the

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finish line, and then we justmove the finish line. And that's
a dysregulated nervous systemfeeling unsafe with expansion.
Because if celebration meanswe've reached a new level or
we've reached a new era or a newchapter, of course, we would

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unconsciously or subconsciouslykeep moving the carrot, right?
So it's like maybe you have abusiness and you reach, you got
your first hundred ks year.
And that would be cause forcelebration, right? But instead,
we have such a tendency,especially my hyperachievers, my

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overfunctioners, will have atendency to be like, well, yeah,
but Susie on Instagram is doing200 k a year. So I just need to
put my head down and keep going.Do you see how when we avoid
celebration and gratitude andapproving of ourselves and of

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our circumstances, actually whathappens is it guarantees we
continue to stay in the samelimited band of experience that,
again, does not feel goodnecessarily, but feels like
home, because that's our moneynervous system thermostat

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bringing us back down to oursetting for how much capacity we
can feel, we can experience forabundance. Three of the most
effective strategies.
Four, expanding our capacity toreceive more and literally
actually have the experience ofit being more is approving of

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ourselves and what already is.My friend, Regina Thomas Hauer,
and she's also a teacher ofmine, says, The sooner we
approve of what is, or thesooner we celebrate what is,
what's next falls into our laps.So good. Right? So where do you

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need some of this medicine inyour life?
Where do you need more approval?Where can you celebrate how far
you've come? Last time we talkedabout the gap versus the gain
and how we want to orientourselves according to how far
we've come, as opposed to alwaysorienting ourselves according to

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how far we have to go. And thengratitude and the conscious
practice of gratitude literallychanges your brain wiring.
People who practice gratitudeexperience more joy, more
satisfaction, and as a result,more success and magnetism in

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their lives.
It sounds simple. It soundscliche, but you know what? It
works. And the data backs thisup. So and finally, there's some
beautiful, beautiful, beautifulcelebrations of synchronicity
inside the Facebook group thatI'm absolutely loving.

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You know, one woman was comingup against an edge around her
finances, and then she waswilling to do some work on that
personally and did a therapysession about it. And then
within moments after the therapysession ended, she got an email
from someone inviting her tothis very workshop. And the
universe was just guiding her.Synchronicity is one of the laws

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of the universe that shows, oh,I just did a little funny little
whistle. When we're experiencingsynchronicity in our lives, that
is a sign that we are inalignment, that we are on track.
And I'm going to get into this alittle bit more. There's a part
of your brain that helps you tosift and sort for what's

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important and what's notimportant. So stay tuned for
that. But I will tell you nowthat the more you pay attention
to and celebrate synchronicity,the more abundance will flow
into your life. So if you'vealready been experiencing
synchronicity in this workshop,put it in the chat.

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If you've already beenexperiencing synchronicity
during Good With Money, pop itin the Facebook group, send me a
DM, email our team. We want tocelebrate with you because what
we put our attention on grows.And synchronicity is one of the
biggest signs from the universe.Hey, you are super on track.

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Okey dokey.
So now you might be wondering,Okay, well, I'm dysregulated,
and I want to update my nervoussystem and my money thermostat.
So how do I actually do that?Folks, I could tell we're
starting to get really hungryfor the practical next steps.
And so today you're going to getthose. So you are in the right

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place.
A couple of quick housekeepingthings. Takesha already talked
about turning off the chat ifit's distracting for you. You'll
notice most of the session, I amnot looking at the chat. It's
distracting for me too, becausey'all are so enthusiastic, and I
love that. But I'll pop in therea little bit.
And remember to pop in youremoji in the chat if you have a

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breakthrough. And theneverything you need for this
workshop, for your replays, yourhomework, your workbook is all
at katenorthop.com/replay. Soeverything you need is all at
that link. Okay, so we had awinner for our first homework

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prize. So our first homeworkprize is an Oura Ring.
So I love my Oura Ring. I got itspecifically because of the way
they do their cyclical trackingwith the basal body temperature.
However, I found the resiliencescore to be an incredibly
helpful data piece for me. Theheart rate variability, my HRV,

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I love knowing that because yourHRV is such an important
indicator of how well yourautonomic nervous system is
doing, responding to stress andmetabolizing stress. So that HRV
is so helpful.
We are not sponsored by Aura. Iam just a big fan. So we had
Kelly Sedwick. So Kelly Sedwickis our Oura Ring winner. She

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submitted the homework for dayone, which was page 19 of Your
Relaxed Money Map.
So Kelly will be emailing you.We can't wait for you to receive
your aura ring. Now for today,at the end of the session, I
will get to what your homeworkis to submit for today. And our

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winner is gonna get an AriataBioMat, an amethyst crystal mat.
I lay on this thing.
We keep it out in our livingroom a lot of the time. I lay
down on this thing, and I justinstantly melt. If I'm, like,
wound up and feeling like, thisthing's wrong. I'm annoyed with

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my kids. I'm impatient.
I'm I just lay on that thing,and I was just like, blah in the
best way, in the best way. Andso the person who submits their
homework today, one winner, Imean, everyone's going to submit
their homework, but one winneris going to get the Amethyst
mat. And then on day three, I'lltell you later about the Juve

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red light. We also still havethe opportunity for you to join
us for VIP. I know we have a lotof VIPs in the chat.
So if you've been having anexperience with VIP that you
want to share, please go aheadand put it in the chat. I've
seen you. You've been DMing me.I know it was really powerful
for the folks who joined us. Butif you want to spend an

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additional two hours with me inan intimate group coaching
environment tomorrow for twohours and Friday for two hours,
plus keep the replays of thoseVIP group coaching sessions for
life, then go ahead and you canstill join VIP.
That's still open and availableto you. I'd love to see you in

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there. It's been really, it'sthe first time we've done it,
honestly. And I love it so much.I love it so much.
I hope you do, too. In fact, Iknow you do. Okay. And then our
podcast review giveaway is stillopen. So all you need to do to
check that out is search thepodcast Plenty on Apple Podcasts

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and Spotify, and then go aheadand follow the show or
subscribe.
Leave a review, screenshot it,and just upload that screenshot
over at katenorthrop.com/review.All these links are in the
Facebook group. We'll also makesure that they go in the replay

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email, so everything is therefor you. And a few people who
leave reviews, and we're goingto leave the review contest open
or giveaway open the entire GoodWith Money workshop. And a few
people who leave a review aregoing to get a really yummy
wellness swag bag of some of myfavorite wellness products, plus
personalized signed copies of mybooks, Do Less, and A Love

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Story.
And if you stay until the end,you are gonna get the weekly do
less planner spread. You havenever seen a planner like this
before. It will change the gamefor you. So who did the
homework? Let me know in thechat.
I'm gonna open the chat. I'mgoing in. Who did the homework?

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Okay. Great.
I'm seeing so many of you. Loveit. And even if you are
listening to the replay andyou're like, oh, I totally
missed the homework. Do thehomework. The giveaway doesn't
mean, the giveaway is lovely,but the point is for you to get
the benefit of doing thehomework, not to get the aura
ring.
So both are great. However, dothe homework, you will get

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benefit even if you have missedthe deadline for submitting it.
And so many people are gettingbenefit already. They're
realizing that they're designedto be a money magnet. They're
having breakthroughs.
One person worked through theirresistance all weekend long.

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Like we're talking intensephysical resistance, anxiety,
nausea, exhaustion. So they mettheir edge, they stayed with
themselves, they kept returningback. And by the end of the
weekend, this is somebody whowas really struggling and did

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not know how they were going tofigure out their finances, by
the end of the weekend, becausethey put loving attention on
their now point. Not their nowpoint of like, this means it's
going to be like this forever,but just their now point.
They just turned on locationservices and did their best to

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show up free of judgment, justsaying, This is a snapshot of
where I am now so that I can getto where I'm going. And trust
me, today, we're going to talkabout where you're going. We're
going to talk about yourfinancial dreams. We're going to
get to the roots available toget to your financial dreams.

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And what this person experiencedwas that out of the blue,
unexpected, this had not beensomething they were cultivating
or expecting at all.
Somebody hired them as an onlinebusiness manager for a fee that
not only covers all of theirneeds right now, it also allows
them to put some money insavings, and it also allows them

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to plan a summer vacation withtheir kids. Okay, that came out
of nowhere. And that person isjust one of many who's having
the experience of abundanceshowing up, quote unquote, out
of nowhere. But what happens iswhen you change, the world
changes. When you change yourinsides, things change on the

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outside.
We cannot wait for the outsideto change in order for us to
change. We have to start insideourselves and be self led, which
you already know, because you'rehere. So breakthroughs are
happening. It's reallybeautiful. Oh, I took my eye off
the chat.
And then we just okay, great. Sowhat came up for you, though? I

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am curious, just, you know, whatcame up for people around the
homework? Anything? Yeah.
Okay. I'm glad you're sayingthis. So for some people, shame
came up, frustration, terror. Itfelt like it was too much,
confusion. For some people, itwas really surprising.

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The numbers were actually betterthan they expected. Some people
experienced relief. So we have awide range of experiences here,
which is beautiful and makessense when you take, you know,
tens of thousands of people fromaround the world. And all of it
is right. No matter what came upfor you around this, all of it

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is right.
And if it was something thatdidn't feel good in your system,
if it was shame, if it wasjudgment, if it was fear, if it
was anxiety, what I have for youtoday is going to help you to
love yourself right across thoseedges and stay with yourself
right across those edges insteadof suffering through the edges

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or instead of backing away fromthe edges. Every time we meet
resistance, all we are meetingis a part in us that feels
scared. And I'm going to giveyou something today that is
something you can do every timeyou meet that part of yourself,

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every single time. And I hopeyou see in the chat that you are
not alone. Simply knowing thatyou're not the only one
experiencing this softens thatedge right away.
Remember, I said this already,but I'll just say it one more
time. Your resistance in theform of fear, shame, judgment,

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freak out, overwhelm, confusion,feeling like it's too much,
impatience, boredom. Yourresistance is not a problem.
It's evidence that the solutionis already underway. So here's
what we have that's more for youin store today.
I know we have already done somuch. We're receiving so much

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today, but also I'm going togive you, I'm going to walk you
through that practice to signalsafety to your body so that you
can expand your edges aroundabundance anytime on demand,
anytime you need it. I'm alsogoing to share with you four

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specific routes to get from yournow point to your North Star
when it comes to money. So fromwhere you are now financially to
where you want to go, there areonly four routes to get there.
And I'm going to help you choosewhich one is right for you
today.
So you'll know that walking outof here today, you'll have that
clear route. You're also goingto get a visceral experience of

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what financial safety feels likeso that you can Xerox it, so
that you can imprint thatfeeling onto yourselves, so that
you can come back to it over andover and over again, anytime you
need. And finally, I'm going toshare 25 income boosting levers

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that you can use on demandanytime you need them to bump up
your money, and none of themrequire you hustling harder.
Right? Because hustle is wherelife force goes to die.
And that is not what we're doingtoday. Okay? That's not that's
not the game we are playing. Weare playing the relaxed money

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game. And so nothing I'm gonnasuggest to you means sacrificing
what matters to you.
When we make a conscious choiceto lean into repatterning our
money nervous system thermostatusing nervous system healing
tools, and I'm about to shareone of my favorites with you,

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what ends up happeningautomatically, I just love this,
so I want to remind you thebenefits, is we update our
wiring, which updates ouridentity, which updates our
beliefs. We also open up allthis space and bandwidth and
capacity to learn new skills, toactually learn new strategies.

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So listen, like stocks are goingon sale right now, right? Things
are a little wonky in themarket, which means things are
going to be lower, which meansnow would be a great time to
lean into tools and resourcesabout how to invest your money.
The good news is there are thosetools and resources inside

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Relaxed Money.
I'll talk more about it later,but I wanted to make sure you
knew that that's coming. Andwhen you learn how to use those
tools and skills, you canactually get huge benefit. But
we can't learn those strategies.We can't implement those
strategies if we aredysregulated with a limited

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narrow band of capacity wherewe're just like, la la la la la
la la la, my nervous system justwants to keep me exactly where I
am, and therefore I cannot learnanything about the stock market
or how to invest, right? We alsofind that when we work on
repatterning our nervous systemand repatterning our neural

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pathways, feeling good actuallybecomes more available.
If you think about your moneynervous system thermostat, think
about what it felt like in yourupbringing around money. Was
feeling good the primary feelingavailable? Let me know in the

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chat. I'm seeing a lot of no's.I'm seeing a lot of no's.
Okay. So if feeling good was notthe primary feeling available,
your money nervous systemthermostat is not going to be by
default available to have youfeel good with money. But when

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you repattern your nervoussystem and work on your neural
wiring, feeling good actuallystarts to feel possible and then
starts to become automatic. Now,when all of these things happen,
when we update our wiring,update our identity, update our
beliefs, learn and practice newskills and strategies and feel

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good, we get new results. Moneyshows up.
We invest. Things change. Wemove towards becoming work
optional. All kinds of thingshappen. It's already happening
for people in this workshop, andit will happen for you too as
you keep going.
Last time we did this workshop,somebody in the Facebook group

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shared this photo from theirmorning walk with their dog. And
I had to pass it along becauseit just speaks so beautifully or
it illustrates so beautifullywhat we're talking about. She
looked at this tree, andeventually this I'm sorry.
Originally, this tree, I'm sure,was plant was planted, and it

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was like a little round treetrunk. Right?
That's how trees are. They'rethey're not square. But because
the container, the space, thecapacity that this tree has
available to grow is just thislittle square in the sidewalk,
the tree just grew up to itsedge, and then that's it. Right?

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It just was only able to fillits container, the end.
Everything outside of that is aconcrete block. This is us with
our nervous system capacityaround abundance. This picture
speaks 1,000 words. Okay, youready to go to our workbook? If

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anybody wants a little physicalreset, just let's take a deep
breath.
One more. Okay. Switching gears,page 29 of your workbook. It

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says day two at the top of it.So last time I said that there
was some extra credit homework,and if any of you did this, this
will be a review.
But if you didn't, now's thegood time. The question I had
posed is, where will you betwelve months from now if you

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maintain your current moneynervous system thermostat
setting? So if you maintain whatyou're set for right now, what's
going to happen in twelvemonths? Where will you be? And I
want you to be specific.
So write it down in yourworkbook, but also pop it in the
chat. So, we have in the sameplace, in the same month to

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month struggle I'm in now, inmore debt, frustrated. Yeah. So
be more anybody who can be morespecific, I'm gonna encourage
you to be more specific, livingpaycheck to paycheck, depending
on my mom for support. Yeah.

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So words like broke andstruggling are they are words
that might describe it, but Iwant you to get visceral here.
Meaning, the more specific wecan describe the result of
staying exactly where we are,the more activating that can

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become to make us realize, oh,well, I need to do something
different. And so I love nowwe're seeing some more
specificity here. Yeah, morespecificity. Okay, great.
Changing gears. Now, where willyou be twelve months from now?
So April 2026. April '20 '20 '6.Where are you going to be twelve

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months from now if you updateyour money nervous system
thermostat?
Not get specific, like let thisone feel good. And I want to
give you a warning, which isthat many people, I haven't
looked at the chat, but I knowthis, many people will say, I
won't be XYZ. So they'll definethe specificity of where they'll

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be if they change by what theywon't be experiencing. That's
not the way. If we want torewire our subconscious, we need
to speak in the positive,because our subconscious does
not know the difference betweenme saying, I will no longer be

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in debt, and me saying, I'll bein debt.
Right? So our subconsciousdoesn't hear the no longer. And
so I want to have you speak itin the present positive tense. I
will be in a much higher taxbracket. I will owe more taxes
than I ever have, and I willhave more than enough to pay it,

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and I will feel grateful payingit.
That one's great. I love that. Iwill be able to go to Europe.
I'll go to the beach weekly, andI'll have a new car. I'm able to
travel four times a year.
So great. These are reallyspecific. So you're doing
awesome with the specificity. Sospecificity, actually, there's a

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reason I'm not just saying thisjust because specificity
activates engagement in ouremotional resonance. And when we
activate engagement with ouremotional resonance, it actually
makes it more relevant andsalient to our subconscious.

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So it's part of rewiringourselves. The specificity helps
you to actually feel it now. Andwhat that does in your body is
it says to your body, Thisexperience is safe. So it helps
you to grow past those edges andsoften the edges of your own

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little concrete sidewalk box andexpand beyond by the specificity
of your desire. So let it bevisceral.
And we're going to do anexperience about that in a
minute. As we get into thejewels I've got for you today, I

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want to invite you to try onthese four questions. These four
questions will change your life.You have heard it before. The
quality of your life isdetermined by the quality of the
questions you ask yourself.
You want a better outcome? Askyourself a better question. So

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as we get into things today,today's going to be practical.
Today's going to be strategic.You are walking out of here with
a strategic action plan toincrease your prosperity.
That's going to be what you'llhave at the end of today. And
that might bring out some ofyour dysregulation and your fear

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patterning, and that's okay.That's welcome here. All of you
is welcome here. And here arefour questions.
So you can screenshot this anduse it anytime. Number one, ask
yourself, how could I? Right? Soinstead of I can't, how could I?
How could I?

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Instead of that's not possiblefor me or that doesn't apply to
me, ask yourself, what wouldneed to be true to make this
possible for me? What would needto be true to make this possible
for me? Curiosity, it has aresonance. Curiosity has a

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resonance, and that resonancewill soften your edges around
your current nervous systemcapacity. Curiosity in and of
itself will dissolve an edge.
What would it look like? Soinstead of like, I don't know
how or I'm, you know, peoplelike me don't XYZ, what would it

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look like if, what would it looklike if I was making money in a
way that wasn't trading hoursfor dollars? What would it look
like if I was solving a higherlevel problem and adding more
value to a higher levelcustomer? What would that look

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like? When we ask these kinds ofquestions, it automatically
primes our subconscious toanswer.
Our subconscious loves a goodquestion. It also loves a bad
question. It will just answerthe question that you give it.
So why not give it a beautifulquestion and why not use your
subconscious as the incrediblesource of magical insight that

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it can be by priming it with abeautiful, powerful question.
And then where most people willask, what do I need to do to get
XYZ?
You're smarter than that. Andyou now know to ask, who do I
need to be? Who do I need to beto achieve financial security?

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Who do I need to be to be workoptional? Who do I need to be to
have $100,000 a year in mybusiness?
Who do I need to be to becompletely financially solvent?
You don't even have to answerthese questions. Just practice
asking them. Okay. I'm gonnaturn off my slides for a minute

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here.
And as we get into an exercise,just keep those questions in
mind. So wherever you are, Iwant you to, if you're in a
place that you can do this,ahead and softly close your eyes

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or just have a soft gaze. So Iwant to make sure as we play
this, that we are hearing theaudio. I think we are not. So
just hold hold the phone.
K. Team, are we are we able tohave you you can't hear my

(52:04):
audio, can you? Because I can'thear my audio, so I can't
imagine that you can hear myaudio. Not sure what to do about
that. So, Takesha, do you mindplaying a are you able to just
play a meditative song and maybewe can figure this out later?

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Let me know if you can do that,Takisha. Yes, I know you can
hear me, which is great. Thankyou so much. And I'm going to
invite you to, as we see if wecan get some music playing, I'm
going to invite you to closeyour eyes. And Takesha, if you
are able to play a littlemeditation music, that would be
great.
And if not, the sound of myvoice will be perfect. So

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wherever you are, closed eyes,soft gaze, bring your attention
to the soles of your feet. Andbring your attention. Oh, there
it is. Okay, great.

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And bring your attention to yourseat if you are seated. As you
settle in here, let yourselfenjoy an audible sigh inhaling

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up your spine. Exhale. One moretime. As you become present to

(53:57):
the sensations inside your body,particularly the stability in
whatever your seat is touching,wherever you're sitting, or the
stability in the soles of yourfeet if you are standing.
Bring yourself to twelve monthsfrom now. It's twelve months

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from now and you have receivedyour absolute most beautiful
financial outcome. A year ago,you began investing in

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repatterning your nervous systemaround money, And now you are
reaping the rewards. You'reexperiencing the freedom. You're
experiencing the security.

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You're experiencing the relaxedabundance that you always knew
was available to you. I want youto notice where you are. You're
in a place where you feel sosafe, so luxurious, so held.

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Look around. What do you see?
What colors? What shapes? Whatdoes this environment look like?

(55:54):
Take it in. Now what do you feeltexturally?
What do you feel temperaturewise? How do the clothes that

(56:20):
you're wearing feel on yourbody? What are you wearing in
this moment of celebration ofhow far you've come, of
celebration of the healing thathas transpired, and of

(56:42):
celebration that your moneynervous system thermostat got
updated. And now this not onlyfeels beautiful, but also feels
really normal. Like, yeah, ofcourse, this is my life.
What are you wearing? What's thetexture of the fabric? Are your

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feet touching moss, sand,beautiful heated saltwater pool?
What are you feeling? What areyou touching right now?
What's the texture of themoment? Allow yourself to enjoy

(57:31):
it. Now what do you hear? Whatsounds? Is it the rustling of
the leaves with a light breeze?

(57:54):
Seagulls on the shore, ababbling brook. What are you
hearing? The laughter of yourguests in another room, your

(58:16):
children giggling. What's thesound of this moment? What are
you noticing are the aromas inthe space?

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Are you smelling the earthiness,oil? As you walk in your garden,
are your roses in bloom? Is itthe salt air fresh pot of
coffee, hibiscus tea, Signaturearoma of your favorite spa.

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What's present for the aroma?Breathe it in.
And finally, what do you taste?Perhaps you're sipping your

(59:34):
favorite adaptogenic seltzer outof a wine glass, and it's fizzy
and effervescent in your mouth.Maybe it's your favorite fruity
botanical tea. Maybe you're at asteak dinner. What are you

(59:58):
tasting right now?
What does abundance taste like?Favorite. Favorite like you
would a warm, juicy, freshlypicked wild strawberry at the

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peak season. Now revisit. Whatare you seeing?
What are you feeling? What areyou touching? What are you
hearing? What are you smelling?And what are you touching and

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tasting?
Let those sensations imprintyour body, imprint your nervous
system cells. Expand thefeeling. Let it feel good. Know

(01:01:28):
you can come back to thosesensations anytime because they
are part of you now. Bring yourattention back to the soles of
your feet, back to where yourseat hits the chair.
Maybe give your shoulders aroll, your hips a little wiggle.

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Taking a breath in, coming backto our space together, and in
your own time, fluttering youreyes back open. Thank you. A

(01:02:14):
reminder that that meditation ispart of this replay. So you're
welcome to come back to it asoften as you'd like while the
replays are available.
That felt so nice. I'm justgonna just gonna yeah. Oh, good.

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That felt really good. Thanksfor going there with me.
Now I'd love to ask, is thereanybody who experienced during
that a reason why they can'thave what they want? And if you

(01:02:57):
did you can just say me, wedon't have to give more energy
to the reason. But, and so I'mseeing some people, so if part
of your experience, which iswelcome, the whole experience is
perfect. There is no right wayto do this. There is no wrong
way to do this.
So simply by being here, you arereceiving the experience that is

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ideal for you. And if somethinghas come up in terms of the
reason that you can't have whatyou want, I'm gonna ask you, is
that reason Let's pretend thereason was I don't know how.

(01:03:43):
Right? So I want x y z. Youknow, I wanna have a hundred
thousand dollar business.
I wanna have ten k months. Iwanna have a net worth of a
million dollars or whatever itis. Right? And what came up for
you is I don't know how. Is thatbased on the past, the present,

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or the future?
So those reasons that we can'thave what we want, is it based
on the past, the present, or thefuture? Mhmm. Great. So for
those of you who are saying thepast, correct. Yeah.
What you just envisioned, youhaven't had before. So it makes

(01:04:30):
sense that your past would tellyou, I don't know how. Because
that's true. In the past, youdidn't know how. For those who
said it's in the present,correct.
Thoughts about why we don't getto have what we want are based

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in the past, and they are basedin the present. And the thing is
that we are living currently ina reality that our past self
created. So our past self wasacting a certain way. They had a

(01:05:14):
certain way of being that thencreated certain ways of doing
things that now has created anexperience of what we are having
right now, today in our lives.And that was based on the past.
So the past self, our past self,and and partially our ancestral

(01:05:35):
programming as well, is creatingour present reality. And then we
keep looking to the past and thepresent for what's possible for
us, and our past and presentself tells us what's possible
for us. And then we wonder whywe keep ending up with the same

(01:05:58):
money blocks, with the sameincome ceiling, getting a bunch
of money, then finding ourselvesin debt again, getting a bunch
of money, then overspending, ornot able to ever get past a
particular situation in ourmoney life and, honestly, in our
love life. Like, this is thereason why people find that they

(01:06:19):
keep dating the same person overand over and over again. It's
because the reasons we have forwhy we can't have what we want
are from the past and thepresent.
And then we wonder why we can'tever create something new. It's
because we just keep Xeroxingthe past and the present. Would

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it be helpful to know a way tointerrupt that cycle? Would that
be helpful for you? Yeah.
Okay. Great. Let's do it now,shall we? I'm going to teach you
one of my absolute favoritenervous system healing tools.

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And this is a go to for when younotice that you're in a habitual
thought pattern, when you'reimpatient, judgmental, feeling
anxious, feeling overwhelmed, oreven when you've experienced a
financial expansion and you wantto lock it in.
So nervous system healing toolscan be used essentially anytime

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we want to, stay with our edge,anytime we want to metabolize
stress, or anytime we want toanchor in something beautiful.
So really they can be used forso many things all around
repatterning ourselves tohabitually operate in the state

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of being and the state of doingthat we desire to be able to
have what we want to have. Sothis one is called the butterfly
hug. But before we do it, I'mgoing to teach you an assessment
tool. So we can assess ournervous system at any given time
to see its current state ofcapacity.
And one of my favorite ways todo that, and for our VIPs, you

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got this one early on Friday,but we're going to learn it
together now. So go ahead andput your feet, about hip width
distance apart and point yourfingers in front of you, kind of
like you're in that Charlie'sAngels picture. And so you're
going to point your fingers infront of you and just rotate and

(01:08:35):
notice where you point So do ita couple of times so you can
just kind of work out the kinks.You don't want to crank your
back here. This is not forstretching.
This is just for noticing yourcurrent range of motion. Okay,
cool. Now keep your feet wherethey are. And if you're not able
to stand, this can be doneseated. Sitted.

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Sitted. Now you're going to takeyour arms and you are going to
cross them over your shoulders.So cross your arms over your
shoulders. It doesn't reallymatter which one is on top or
below, but I usually do myhabitual side. There's probably
benefits for doing your nonhabitual side, but habitual side

(01:09:16):
is fine today.
And then you are going to simplytap opposite side shoulders. You
can stay with my cadence. Youcan do it a little slower. You
can do it a little faster. Ifyou feel like you could use a

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little extra intensity of thisnervous system healing, you
could close your eyes and justsee what that feels like.
For some of you, though, that'sgoing to create dizziness, so
that would not be a positiveresponse. So you can keep your
eyes open if that createddizziness for you. Maybe we'll
just do a few more. Notice whathappens with your breathing as

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we do our butterfly hug. Right.
Take an integrating breath.Nice. Now let's go back to our

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assessment tool. Put your armsback out in front of you, your
pointer fingers, and then goahead and rotate and see, did
you get any more range of motioncompared to before? So was it an
increase, neutral, so noincrease or decrease?

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If it was an increase, awesome.That's going to be a supportive
tool for you. If it was even ifit was slight. If it was a
neutral, you could come back tothat one another time. If it was
a decrease, then but you knowthat last time you enjoyed the

(01:11:09):
washing machine exercise, I'mjust going to finish us off with
a second tool for those who hada decrease.
It's not the most optimal thingto end on a decrease, so we're
just going to do the washingmachine again, which is what we
did last time. And this one isyou would have, so you'll do an
assessment again. So I'm justgiving you two tools for the

(01:11:30):
price of one. So you can do yourassessment here and just do an
assessment again. It's reallyhelpful to do an assessment
before a tool because it reallyhelps you to see with your
nervous system, was thissupportive or not?
Because every nervous system isdifferent. And an increased
range of motion means that youhave expanded your capacity in

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your nervous system because whenour bodies are dysregulated, our
bodies constrict and armor up.So a decreased range of motion
means that your body is having asignal of a fear response of
some kind. And so an increasedrange of motion, especially at a

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site of rotation, We tend toarmor up around our sites of
rotation. So when we increaseour range of motion in terms of
our rotation, it means thatwe've increased our capacity.
Okay. So we're gonna do thewashing machine again. And this
one was just flopping back andforth with your arms. So we'll

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do the washing machine a fewtimes. You could add in some
audible breaths.
You might want to put your feeta little wider. You can keep
your face facing forward on thisone. Sometimes the rotation

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requires looking forward so youdon't get dizzy. Everybody's a
little bit different. Okay.
Now let's see how that did forus. So put your pointer fingers
out. Let's see. Okay. Increase,decrease, nothing.

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Amazing. That's a very highpayoff tool for me. Doesn't mean
it's gonna be for everyone. Butnow you have the butterfly hug,
and you have the washingmachine. So these are two
excellent tools to put into yourtoolbox, and you can use them
for when you wanna anchor in awin, if you wanna anchor in an

(01:13:42):
expansion, if you want to anchorin a realization or a
breakthrough, if you want tometabolize stress and move past
a feeling of resistance thatshows up in a lot of different
ways that we've already talkedabout, and if you want to just
build to learn something new, toshow up in a more present way,

(01:14:02):
to transition from work to home,there's so many different ways
we could use them.
And we get way more into usecases of specific nervous system
healing tools for specificmoments around your money in
relaxed money, but I wanted tomake sure you had some to walk
away with. Okay, great. So nowif you had something come up,

(01:14:30):
remember we talked aboutsomething that came up around a
reason you couldn't have whatyou wanted to have. If you are
present to that right now, doesit feel more true or less true
than before? So when I askedyou, do you have a reason that

(01:14:54):
you can't have what you want?
Okay. So I'm seeing from peoplethat it feels less true. Yeah.
Do you see how that works? And Iwant to ask you, did you change
or did your circumstanceschange?
Did anything in your externalcircumstances change? No. That

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was, like, five minutes ago.Nothing outside you've changed.
You changed.
Do you feel how powerful thatis? So you had a thought. And,
you know, maybe on a scale ofone to 10, it was like a six of
a limitation, a reason you can'thave what you want. It's not
helping you out. I promise youthat.

(01:15:38):
Telling ourselves why we can'thave what we want is not a
useful strategy. But instead ofgoing in and trying to prove
ourselves wrong and meet ourmind at the level of the mind,
which can usually lead to usplaying mind games with ourself
and spiraling out in the land ofthe intellect and sort of like
that, you know, my mind is not agood neighborhood to go alone at

(01:16:01):
night. I think that's an AnnLamott quote. I love her
writing. Anyway, so when we usethe mind to try to fix our mind,
we often just get ourselves inthis little intellectual knot,
intellect knot.
Instead of, let's signal safetyto the body. And then when you

(01:16:23):
revisit the thought, it's kindof like, oh yeah, actually that
doesn't feel true anymore. I'mjust gonna keep on staying tuned
to abundance.fm so I can receiveall the beauty and all the
goodness and all the gifts thatalready have my name on them,
but I wasn't available to evennotice when I was in a state of

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dysregulation, when I didn'thave access to my resonance,
when my receiver was not turnedon. So doing practices like the
butterfly hug and many of thetools that we use for this
healing work actually change ourfrequency so that we become
receivers for everything thatwas already available, right?

(01:17:08):
Like, in this moment, if you hada radio, you could pick up a hip
hop station, a Latin station, acountry station, a, you know,
soft and easy favorite station.
All those stations are availablein the airwaves right now. We
are receivers. There are a lotof different realities operating

(01:17:29):
right now, and they're allavailable. But we have to learn
to tune our receiver to thestation we want. And the station
I love to talk about, one of myfavorite stations to listen to,
is abundance.fm, wheresynchronicity shows up
constantly, where you get theright piece of information or

(01:17:53):
the right connection or theright introduction or the right
book at exactly the moment youneeded it.
That happens when we areconsistently, every single day
updating our wiring throughthese kinds of practices and
through this kind of community.Isn't that exciting? Yeah. Cool.

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Okay.
I think so too. Okay, we'regonna go back to the slides. In
a minute. It's a good moment tofeel your feet on the ground as

(01:18:44):
I activate my tech muscles.Weird.
I do not have my slides anymore,but I can get them back. So just
hang tight here with me for aminute. Feel your feet on the

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ground. Give yourself a littlewiggle. Here we are, and I was
on this slide.
I'm gonna share. Here we are.Great. K. Cool.

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Team, we good here? Just wannamake sure you can see my slides.
Yeah, okay, great. Thank you.One thing that came up for some
folks around taking a look attheir numbers on the now point
in the workbook on page 19 is afeeling of shame.

(01:19:50):
And now that I have worked withthousands and thousands of
people around their money andand in my own healing journey, I
can tell you that financialshame is common. I've yet to
meet anyone who hasn't, at somepoint and sometimes over again
at new levels, experienced somedegree of financial shame. And I

(01:20:14):
wanted to offer to you thatthere's a little exercise that
you can do to help dissolveshame. One of them is the
butterfly hug and the washingmachine and being here in this
space. But I also want to offeranother, and that is that if you
share your shame with someonesafe, it does tend to dissolve

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the shame.
Shame is like a big old anvilwaiting us down and preventing
us from moving forward towardsthe bright financial future that
we desire, and that really isour birthright. And so what
shame kind of festers and growswhen we keep it to ourselves.

(01:21:00):
But when we share it withsomeone safe, it diffuses its
power and it dissolves theshame, and then we're able to
reclaim all this energy to beable to move forward. And so if
you have been experiencingfinancial shame and any shame
came up from the numbers thatyou did on your worksheet, I
want to invite you to findsomeone safe to share it with.

(01:21:25):
Now, sharing it in the Facebookgroup is not sharing it with a
safe person.
I'll tell you why. That Facebookgroup has nearly 8,000 people in
it who are all wonderful, youare them, but you don't know
them. So that's not actuallysafe. That's not the exercise.
What I mean is to find oneperson in confidence to tell.

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I got a beautiful voice memofrom somebody in this workshop
last week. I know, I know her.Just sharing some of the behind
the scenes, and she was feelingsome kind of way about it. But
she was able to share it withme, and I was able to reflect
back immediately, like, yeah,it's common. Right?
Like, it's common. And justknowing where you are turned on

(01:22:14):
location services. Right? Now weknow our now point. And if we
can dissolve the shame bytelling a safe person, I was
that safe person for this human,because it was a one on one
interaction, it enabled her tofree up all this energy and be
able to move forward.
Right? So my safe person was awoman named Janice. She was a

(01:22:36):
woman back when I was in a lotof debt and I originally got
clear on my numbers. Was like,Oh, God, I had so much shame
about it. And I told Janice, andJanice helped me to feel like,
Oh, I'm not a complete screw up.
I, this is okay, we can moveforward from here. So it was a
compassionate space. I'm goingto encourage you to tell a

(01:22:59):
friend, tell a loved one,someone you know loves you
unconditionally. Do not tellyour naysayers, right? Like,
don't tell somebody who you'vehad experiences in the past
where they're negative and theysay not helpful things.
That is not a safe person. Asafe person is that friend who
you could tell them anything andthey will never judge you. So
find that person. And the otherthing that might be helpful is

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if anybody here is experiencingfinancial shame, or has in the
past, can you just go ahead andlet us know in the chat? If you
are don't say what the shame is,but just say like, Yeah, I Yes,
yes.
Okay, great. So do you see howmany people are and for those of
you listening to the replay, Ijust want to let you know, the

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chat is going wild with peoplesaying me and yes. How does it
feel? How does it feel to seeall of these other people who
also have or are experiencingfinancial shame? Yeah, it feels
freeing, right?
That I'm not alone. It lightensit a bit. Yeah, exactly.

(01:24:07):
Exactly. So I wanted to offerthat for anyone to be able to
just dissolve the shame and beable to reclaim the energy that
has been being leaked towardsshame.
I'm gonna go back. Okay. As soonas I click over on the slide,

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there's gonna be music and avideo playing. So I wanna to
make sure that I have shared myslides with the proper setting.
And then we're going to get intothat.
One of the places that this canOh, good, I've already shared.
Okay, great. That's so exciting.One of the places that is so
powerful around this ability tohave community to melt our edges

(01:24:52):
and co regulate is at an eventwe do one time a year called
Relaxed Money Live. And peoplehave a lived experience in forty
eight hours of upgrading theirmoney nervous system thermostat
to the next level because of thepower of getting into the room.

(01:25:12):
What? Okay. Hold on. How didthat happen? Okay.
Stand by folks. I appreciateyour patience with my tech. A
lot of windows. Okay. All right,here we go.

(01:25:37):
I'm going try one more time.There it is. Okay, great. So
when we get in the room withother people who are also
playing a big game and who arecommitted to healing on this
level, it really changes things.So I'm going to play a little
video to give you a sneak peekat the energy that happens at
this event.

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Okay. So that is an event thathappens in February 2026 in
Nashville, Tennessee. No detailsare out yet, but I wanted to
have you keep an eye out for itbecause it is one of those
moments where we can update andupgrade really fast as a

(01:26:47):
continuation of the seeds thatwe're planting right here today.
Let's go back to our workbook.Let's wiggle it out, maybe give
it a little bounce, little shakyshake, transitioning, and you
are going to go to page 30 ofyour workbook.

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So go ahead and turn to page 30,and this is your fill in the
blank moment. So this is a verygrounding moment. We are coming
back to the linear path of theworkshop. We are coming back
into the grounded activity offilling in a workbook. So money
is made up.

(01:27:29):
It is a simple stand in for whatwe value. Human beings made up
the system thousands of yearsago. You know, it used to be a
barter system where it'd belike, okay, cool. So I have this
one cow and you have these twosheep and let's trade. But what
if then the person with thesheep doesn't want the cow?
What if the person with thesheep actually wanted vegetables

(01:27:51):
from the person down the roadinstead? So we came up with
currency as a way to have astand in for value so that we
could trade essentially thecurrency, which is the stand in
for what we value, not the thingitself. Now money is actually
neutral. Money is neither goodnor bad. It is a neutral

(01:28:17):
substance like fertilizer.
It just grows what you put iton. So if you put fertilizer on
beautiful peonies, they willabsolutely blossom and grow. If
you put fertilizer on crabgrass,it will absolutely grow. And

(01:28:41):
that's a little bit of a hardanalogy, I have to be honest,
because I don't believe there'slike any bad plant. But if you
have a garden, you do know thatthere are the seeds that you
planted and the plants youplanted and there are weeds.
And if you put fertilizer on it,everything will grow just
whatever you put it on. Sopeople with more money are not

(01:29:02):
inherently good or bad, butadding money to any particular
substrate tends to fertilize andenhance what's already there. So
if you add more money to someonewho's conscious and awake and
aware and has a beautiful,generous giving heart, the money
tends to expand their capacityto be that way. And same with

(01:29:26):
the opposite. So what are wetuning our receivers for?
And what are we gatheringevidence for? In life, we can
either be gathering evidence forwhat we want, or we can be
gathering evidence for what wedon't want. We actually do have

(01:29:48):
a choice. And there's a part ofour brain that is always sifting
and sorting. We have like400,000,000,000,000 pieces of
information available to us atany given time.
And so our brain needs to do aserious sifting and sorting
process to make sure that we'renot just massively

(01:30:09):
overstimulated and not able totake action on anything that's
coming in. And so it sifts itway down. It narrows it way down
through something called thereticular activating system.
There's a part of our brain thatessentially is looking for
salience, like, Is thisimportant? Salience means this

(01:30:29):
is important, this matters.
And we can train our reticularactivating system to be paying
attention for information thatproves our desire is on its way,
that we get to have what wewant, or we can be training our

(01:30:52):
reticular activating system foreverything that's terrible,
everything that's bad, and whythe world is going to hell in a
handbasket. Now, at any giventime, there's a whole balance of
stimulus and information goingon around the world. But if we
want to be part of creating amore beautiful world, if we want

(01:31:13):
to be part of creating the newearth, it's actually our
responsibility. It is ourresponsibility to be devotional
around what we put our attentionon. And the cool thing is when

(01:31:34):
you actively put your attentionon that which you want to see
more of, you get more of whatyou want to see.
That's why I encourage you atthe beginning today to begin to
celebrate and noticesynchronicity. That's your
reticular activating system.Because if I'm thinking like,

(01:31:56):
Okay, cool. So I'm reallyinterested in growing my
podcast. I'm really interestedin growing my podcast.
So I'm going to consciouslystart to celebrate other female
podcasters. I'm going to startto look at and start to pay
attention to and start seedingmy subconscious, which is always

(01:32:20):
sifting and sorting for whatit's going to present to me as
information and opportunities,I'm going to start to
consciously put my attention onsuccessful female podcasters.
And I guarantee you, I willstart getting more introductions
through, you know, the freakingalgorithm that's listening to us
all the time. They'll be surfsto me. And then we can start to

(01:32:44):
use the universe, use the world,use our external experience as
the algorithm that is constantlyfeeding back to us that which
we've been putting our attentionon.
Now, the reticular activatingsystem is also neutral. So it
will sift and sort negativityfor you to prove all the

(01:33:09):
terrible things. And it willsift and sort that which is
supportive of your mostexpansive becoming, which I
promise. And we talked aboutthis on day one. But when you
activate your reticularactivating system to be in
support of your most expansive,powerful self, you are for sure

(01:33:32):
doing better for others on theplanet.
You cannot get sick enough,broke enough, or miserable
enough to help people who arestruggling. However, when you
are consciously activating yourpower, consciously healing, and
consciously showing up with yourbig, open heart, you can't help

(01:33:53):
but a positive influence inother people's lives. And so
part of how we activate thereticular activating system is
being in workshops like this,being around community like the
community in this group, doingthe homework and doing the
nervous system healingtechniques so that when you find

(01:34:17):
yourself in a negative tailspin,when you find yourself going
into a spiral, doesn't meanyou're bad, it doesn't mean
you're screwing up, but it doesmean that you need to signal
safety to your body so you canbuild the capacity to come on

(01:34:40):
back to the path of what youwant instead of beating the drum
of what you don't want. And yourreticular activating system is
there to support you everysingle step of the way. So it
can do the sifting and sortingfor you, but you have to train
it.
Some of us, actually everysingle one of us, every single

(01:35:05):
one of us has things we say wewant, and then we get a
secondary gain from not havingthem. So for example, four
years, I wanted to be infinancial solvency. I wanted to

(01:35:26):
stop overspending, and I wantedto dissolve my debt, otherwise
known as invoices for blessingsalready received. I wanted that.
However, it took me severalyears to actually do it.
Why do you think that is? Why isit that we can't just snap our

(01:35:49):
fingers and get what we wantimmediately? Well, you know,
we've talked about all theneural patterning, but there's
another piece in here that'shelpful to begin to understand,
and that is called secondarygain. And secondary gain is
something that we get toexperience and be or not
experience and not be as aresult of not actually getting

(01:36:13):
what we want. So for me, I andI'm going to keep an eye on the
chat here because I want to seeif this is a breakthrough for
everyone.
For not everyone, anyone. When Iwanted to get financially
powerful and play a bigger game,my secondary gain for not
actually doing that so mysecondary gain for continuing to

(01:36:36):
spend more than I made was thatactually, I didn't have to be a
financial adult. So thesecondary gain was I got to
continue to act like a child onsome level. And there was a part
of me that liked that. However,eventually, the part of me that

(01:37:00):
wanted to be in my fullfinancial power was able to get
stronger than the part of methat wanted to play small so I
could not have to takeresponsibility fully for my
life.
Is this resonating with anyone?What do you think your secondary
gain is? Just let me know.Anybody know off the top of your

(01:37:24):
head? Oh, the chat's actuallygoing too fast for I get to
complain.
My secondary gain is I get tocomplain. You know what a sneaky
one is? This comes up for a lotof people. Many close
relationships, especially infamilies, are bonded through

(01:37:44):
mutual pain and a connectionabout mutual suffering. And so
the secondary gain that manypeople have from not healing
their financial lives is thatthere's a connection to their
family of origin that comes fromthe collective experience of

(01:38:05):
financial struggle and lack.
And actually, there can be somelevel where it feels like
betraying your family if you goand break that pattern. And that
is something that you can signalsafety to your nervous system
through, because the truth iswhen we heal our own patterns,
we heal seven generations backand seven generations forward.

(01:38:27):
And we know this from thescience of epigenetics and the
way in which our DNA passesalong traumas and joys
ancestrally. So we actually areupdating our legacy when we do
this work in real time on behalfof our children and then also on
behalf of our ancestors who didnot have the resources, the

(01:38:50):
support, the technology, or theaccess to education to know this
stuff. So if you're feeling likeyou're up against an edge and
your secondary gain is stayingconnected to your family in the
disordered behavior around moneyor the disordered thinking
around money or operating, knowthat you going out and being the

(01:39:12):
first is actually healing toeveryone in the entire lineage.
And you get to be the one to bethat liberation on behalf of the
collective. Some of them willcome with you and some of them
won't. And that is there is,that's just true. We can get
into that another time. Okay.

(01:39:34):
We already talked about that. Myfriend and mentor Barbara Hewson
says our ambivalent relationshipwith money is related to our
ambivalent relationship with ourpower. Our ambivalent

(01:39:54):
relationship with money isrelated to our ambivalent
relationship with our power. Ifyou're a woman listening to this
right now and you're afraid ofstanding out, you're afraid of

(01:40:14):
being as powerful as you knowyou can be, you're afraid of
being visible, being financiallypowerful. I want you to know it
makes sense.
Right? We have a long historythat lives in our DNA of women
having been unsafe when they arepowerful. The witch wound,

(01:40:38):
there's so many layers here. Soif you come up against an edge
where it feels unsafe to bevisible, to be powerful, to
really go for it, it makessense. It's not your fault, but
it is your responsibility to dothe work to shift it.

(01:40:58):
And that's obviously why you'rehere. So congratulations, you're
already doing it. And every timea woman comes up against her
edge of capacity around herpower, and then she signals to
her body and she that she'ssafe, and then she expands her
capacity, she softens her edgein that moment. She actually not

(01:41:22):
only changes her own life, shemakes it more possible for
another woman because our bodiesare constantly reading the room.
So whether it's on social media,whether it's in person, in your
networking group, in youroffice, in your industry, in
your family, in your friendgroup, when one woman expands,

(01:41:45):
it actually through collectivemirror neurons, through the
process in which when we seeanother person we relate to,
when we see them experiencingsomething scary, it actually
creates collective nervoussystem imprints.
But when we see someone who werelate to going for it and

(01:42:09):
expanding past their previousedge, it actually changes our
neural patterning and it makesit more possible for us. So you
going first actually shiftseverything on behalf of everyone
that you touch in your corner ofthe world. It's so exciting.

(01:42:33):
It's so exciting. But only if wepractice something I call
financial compersion.
I'm not going to tell you whatthat is right now. I'm just
going to leave it there.However, I'm writing it down.
And there's a moment at the endof today's training where I'm
going to teach you how topractice financial conversion,

(01:42:54):
and we're going to have anopportunity to practice it
together. So know that that's onits way.
Okay, Every time we wantsomething, but our current
programming is telling us wecan't have it, because if I go
for it, then my family willdisown me, or I don't know how,

(01:43:16):
or if I go for it, you know, XYZthing is happening. There is
something that our neuralpatterning is trying to keep us
safe from experiencing. I'mgonna give you a practical
example, and then I want you toget clear on your specific
example. Years ago, I wasthinking about using my voice in

(01:43:40):
a more powerful way and sharingmore of what felt true to me
publicly on social media. Like,I could tell I was holding back.
And I knew that that wasn'tpossibly the best use of me in
this lifetime. I just knew thatthere was more available. And I
had a wonderful coach. Her nameis Ra Gottes. And Ra had me

(01:44:02):
actually identify whatspecifically was the fear of
what would happen if I went forit.
And I said, Well, I'm afraid ofwhat people think. And she was
like, No, no, no, no, no. That'snot specific enough. Who? Whose
voice is it?

(01:44:22):
And when she pushed me, which iswhat love can do, love can just
lovingly hold our little toesiesto the fire. And that's what I'm
going to do with you today. Sheheld my toes to the fire and she
said, No, no, no, whospecifically? And what was so
ridiculous is that when Ispecifically, I articulated who

(01:44:45):
I was afraid of. It was this onerando lady on the Internet who
had a tendency to write negativecomments on whatever I shared.
And I was holding back on myentire expression, not only on
social media, but also on mypodcast and my blogs and my
emails and my programs, becauseof this one negative Nelly

(01:45:06):
online, who honestly, like, Ididn't even respect. I didn't
even really care. But I wasletting the subconscious, hazy
fear that had no name hold meback. It's like this feeling
that there's a monster in yourcloset. Right?

(01:45:27):
And you don't want to open thecloset because it's like, it
feels scary. But then when youopen the closet and you turn the
light on, you realize there's nomonster in there. And so I want
to ask you, what specifically isyour current programming keeping
you safe, quote unquote, safefrom experiencing? Okay. Then

(01:45:49):
I'll put a divide or separationbetween my husband and I.
I'm afraid of what a former bosswill think. I'm afraid of what
Tony, Donna and Jen will say.Okay, for those who are saying
fear of failure, I'm going tocome back to you because there's
actually more there. Somebody'ssaying I will be humiliated.
Leonardo, I want you to even bemore specific.

(01:46:11):
Be humiliated by whom, doingwhat, like be specific. So for
somebody, it's my mother. Forother people, it's my mother. If
it's not one thing, it's yourmother. I mean, that's going to
be true for everyone, right?
Yeah. Okay. So once you havearticulated who specifically or

(01:46:32):
what specifically are you tryingto keep safe from experiencing,
that can help to dissolve someof the weight of that. Another
example from my own life is Irealized that part of what was
holding me back in my career andgoing for it was that growing

(01:46:53):
up, when I was, kind of cominginto my, like, preteen years, so
actually about the same age mydaughter is now, 10, 11 or so,
my mom got famous ish. And shestarted being on Oprah and,
like, the Phil Donahue show, andher books were New York Times
bestsellers.
And I started getting attentionfor my mom showing up all over

(01:47:17):
PBS and all over the place. Andother kids teased me for it, and
I didn't feel like I had choiceabout the attention that I was
receiving because it wasn'tsomething I had done. And folks
made all sorts of assumptionsabout that and what it meant for
me, and it continued on. And itmade me feel separate from my

(01:47:38):
group of friends. Like, I alwaysjust wanted to be one of the
girls.
I really wanted to belong. Iwanted my mom to be like the
other moms. I wanted to justkind of, like, blend in. And all
of this experience of my mom'scareer created a situation in
which I felt like I was made tofeel separate somehow. And I
didn't like it.

(01:47:58):
So I could feel as my businesswas growing that there were
opportunities to take myselfmore seriously and go bigger,
but I wasn't doing it. I washolding back. And when I did
this specific exercise and askedspecifically, what is your
current programming keeping yousafe from experiencing? What I

(01:48:19):
realized is that it was keepingme safe from re experiencing the
feeling of being separate fromthis particular group of
girlfriends that I was part ofgrowing up that I'm still part
of. We are in a text chain.
We see each other a couple timesa year. It's wonderful. And I
was telling the only slightlyconscious story that if I really

(01:48:44):
went for it, I would then nolonger belong in that group, and
I would feel loss andabandonment. And I realized by
just opening the closet andturning on the light, that
actually what's true is thesewomen love me no matter what.
They don't care what I'm doingin my career.
I mean, they celebrate it, butthat's not why they love me. And

(01:49:05):
for those couple of dinners orgirls trips a year, I don't need
to hold back my entire career sothat I can have some kind of
shrinking for those events. LikeI can just be all of me, and
they love all of me, and I getto belong with them because of
our shared history. It hasnothing to do with my career or

(01:49:25):
how big I go. So it's so helpfulonce we begin to do the nervous
system healing work to thenhave, then we have more capacity
with our cognitive brain to lookat these thoughts and be like,
actually, that doesn't reallymake a whole lot of sense.
Okay, you know what? I'm notgoing to hold back my entire

(01:49:46):
career. So during this onedinner a year, I'll have this
sense of love that's actuallyavailable no matter what. Right?
So I know I'm not the only onewho has this.
And so you're doing such abeautiful job sharing this in
the chat, and you can keepsharing it in the Facebook group
again, also. As you're readingthrough, as you're experiencing

(01:50:09):
this, and then after today'sworkshop, what you're going to
see is that what scares you isthe same thing that scares
everyone else. Being left out,having a sense of abandonment,
being embarrassed. Being judged.Those are like, these fears are

(01:50:32):
absolutely universal, whichmakes them feel less of a big
deal.
It's like, Oh, wait. So everyhuman being is wired exactly the
same? Yep, pretty much. Prettymuch. We're all just we we crave
belonging.
We crave safety. We craveconnection. We crave love.

(01:50:53):
Awesome. Okay, cool.
So what scares us is just goingto be the opposites of those
things. And so how do we come upagainst those edges of fear? We
add more love. We add moreconnection. We add more safety.
That's what we're already doingin this workshop. Now for those
people who said, I'm afraid offailure, The thing is, we're not

(01:51:19):
actually afraid of failurebecause you have failed plenty
of times. I have failed plentyof times. Anybody out there in
the world who you admire,whether it's a filmmaker or a
celebrity or an author, everysingle person has, quote
unquote, failed many, manytimes. That's universal.

(01:51:41):
So it's not the failure that wefear, it's what we are making
the failure mean about us. So ifyou said, I'm afraid of failure,
I want you to go a little deeperand ask yourself, okay, well,

(01:52:02):
what would I make a failuremean? You know, in my own life,
we've had events that we soldwhere no one bought a ticket.
We've had launches that weexpected 100 people to sign up,
and we had two. We have hadprograms just literally where
it's crickets.
We have had our email open ratestank overnight. We've had tech

(01:52:26):
issues. I have given speakinggigs where I bombed. I have
given webinars where I bombed. Ihave failed so many times.
But the thing is, every singletime I fail or I just don't get
the result that I expected, Ihave information I've now
learned. And if I can approachit with the increased capacity,

(01:52:52):
the increased energetic capacitythat we've been working on
building, if I can approach itfrom that vantage point and I
can work on my nervous systemhealing tools and then show up
with more peripheral vision tosee the truth, what the truth is
is that every time we get anykind of result, whether it's

(01:53:15):
what we wanted or what we didn'twant or what we expected or what
we didn't expect, we are gettinggreat information. So when I do
a webinar and I bomb, right? Andno one makes us no one buys, I
now can go back and say, oh,it's so interesting. Okay.
Now I know that doing x y zthing doesn't work. So that's

(01:53:38):
great information to moveforward. This is your invitation
to view failure as compost.Okay? When I make a meal and my
children leave little bits andpieces on their plates, I don't
go into a shame spiral of like,I have failed as a mother.

(01:54:03):
I have failed as a cook. No. Weput it in the compost bin, all
those little bits and scraps,and then all the leftover that
didn't get utilized goes backinto the earth to fertilize new
growth. That is all quoteunquote failure is. It is
fertilizer to grow new neuralpatterns, to grow new ways of

(01:54:32):
being.
So I hope that that, thatinvitation and that reframe is
helpful for you. We're going tonow go back into our relaxed
money map. So if you need tojust do a little shake
transition, we are going to moveback. We're going to go to page
20 in your workbook, which ispart two. It is your North Star.

(01:54:54):
And this is going to be yourhomework today. So homework
today is going to be page 20. Atthe end, I'll remind you how to
submit it. So remember, lasttime we talked about if I want
to go from Miami to LEGOLAND, Ihave to turn on location
services. And we did our nowpoint from page 19 of the

(01:55:16):
workbook, which was the firstpart, part one of your Relaxed
Money map.
Today, we're doing part two,which is your north star, your
financial north star. It's whereyou're going. Right? So I put in
LEGOLAND in my GPS becausethat's where I wanted to go. So

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last time we did our currentlocation, this time we're doing
our desired location.
I'm calling it our North Star.Part two, your North Star. So my
North Star, Fill in on yourworkbook, page 20, a specific
amount of money that you wouldlike to have in annual income,

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in your savings, or in your networth. That's what you're going
to fill in on the top of page20. So it's a specific amount in
annual income, savings, or networth.
You will have a tendency to wantto put by when. And I'm going to

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invite you to take off thetimestamp. Everyone loves to
talk about SMART goals that arespecific, measurable, blah,
blah, blah, blah, blah, and timebound, the T. Here's the thing.
When we put a time limit on ourgoals, it often creates anxiety
and dysregulation.

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Why? Why? Why would we add insomething that's going to add
extra dysregulation to a worldthat is already a bit
dysregulating? So this is not atimeline. This is just, what do
you want?
What do you want? Okay. So writeit down. And if you are having
trouble with this, I'm going toask you a question. And that

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question is, if anything werepossible quickly, easily, and
now, and I knew I couldn't fail,and I knew that everyone in my
life would benefit and becompletely psyched for me, what
would I want in either annualincome, a total amount of

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savings, or my net worth?
And if you want to put a numberfor all three, you know, go for
it. That'd be great. Now, I'mgoing to go back to my flip
chart, I think. Yeah. So we willhave a real tendency to avoid

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putting down a number becausethat's our old neural
patterning.
So our old neural patterningwill show up as vagueness. So a
lot of people will say you'llsay, what do you want with your
money? Oh, I want financialfreedom. I want security. Well,

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what would what would you needto have in numbers in order to
have that?
I don't know. I never thoughtabout it. Right? So vagueness is
a way we deflect our desires andkeep ourselves safe. Vagueness
is a way we stay in our comfortzone instead of in expansion.

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But the thing is, how will youknow if you've achieved
financial freedom? How will youknow if you've achieved
security? How will you actuallyknow if you have the safety you
desire if you haven't put anumber to it? So what does the
number what does freedom thefreedom you seek, the security

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you seek, being work optional,what does all of that mean in
actual numbers? And that's whatyou're gonna put on page 20.
So as an example, you would put,I my North Star is $500,000 in
annual income. Or my North Staris $60,000 in savings total. Or

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my North Star is $500,000 in networth. So that's what I meant by
that. Okay.
Now when you achieve your NorthStar so once you get to your
North Star, how will you feel?How will you feel? And you can
put this down on the side. Wedon't really have a spot for it

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on the piece of paper, but youcan just write it wherever. So
how are you gonna feel when youget there?
What would you be able to feelthat you don't feel like you can
feel now? What would youexperience? What would you be
able to experience at that pointthat you can't experience now or
think you can't experience now?Right? So I'm seeing safety,

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freedom, safe, I'd be relaxed,calm, safety, freedom.
Everyone says safe and free.Right? I wanna be safe. I wanna
be free. So what would you beable to experience?
What would you feel? What wouldyou be able to do? What would
you be able to do? And whatwould you have? What would you

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have?
Yeah. Okay. Great. Awesome. Sofor many of the people who are
sharing, the way all of theirexperiences here oh, I'm sorry.
All of the words they're usingare not actually, for the most
part, things that cost money.Why is that? Because nobody

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actually just, like, wants moneysitting in the bank. Money
sitting in the bank is not whatwe're interested in. We're
interested in a state of beingthat we crave.
And what we think is that havinga certain amount of money will
allow us to feel a way that wedon't have access to feeling

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now. Now the great unlock, thebig secret, is that in order to
be able to feel the way we wantto feel, all we need to do is
practice feeling that way now,which is so wild and crazy, but

(02:01:45):
it's true. Let me see if I canfind my slides again. I don't
know why these keep going away,and I really do appreciate
everyone being patient with me.Right.

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So just keep working on thatpage in your workbook, and I
will pull up my slides overhere. K. Great. If you need

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something to do while I find myspot, feel your feet on the
ground. K.
Here it is. Alright. Cool. SoI'm finding myself sort of

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adorable right now. Here we go.
Alright. Team, are we good? Arewe good here? All good now, I
think. I'll just getconfirmation.
So the only way you're gonna getto your North Star number is if
you give your relaxed money map,meaning the part two North Star,

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what it needs by being theperson it needs you to be now.
So the key to this is, okay,most people look at a number
like what you wrote in and askthemselves, what do I need to
do? But the truth is if youwanna reverse engineer that

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number, it is far more importantto take a look at, okay, so not
what are the people doing whohave a net worth of $500,000,
but who are they being? BecauseI guarantee you, if you took
ten, twenty, one hundred peoplewho all have the income level

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that you want, the net worththat you want, the savings that
you want, the things they did toget there would vary widely. But
the person they were being tobecome the kind of person who
did the kind of things to thenhave what they want to have
would have a lot more in common.

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So the only way you're gonna getto your number is if you be the
person who already has it.That's the great unlock. We
think that we don't get to feelthe certain way we want to feel
until everything in our life isthe way we want it to be. I

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thought that, too. I thought Ididn't get to relax until Mike
was not sick.
I said, Until my husband iswell, I do not get to relax. And
you know what? That was makingme sick, which would have
prevented me completely frombeing able to make income. That
would have definitely not beenthe way to go. So in order to

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have what we want, we have tostart acting the way right now
from the beginning, which has tocome from feeling that way right
now.
So if you wanna feel free, ifyou wanna feel safe, if you
wanna feel secure, you need topractice feeling that way now.

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Because the more you practicefeeling that way now, the more
those neural patterns getrewired because we get really
good at what we practice. Youalready know that. We get really
good at what we practice, yetmost people are out here
practicing feeling anxious,practicing feeling overwhelmed,
practicing feeling annoyed andirritated at the world. But

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instead, you can revolutionizeyour entire life by practicing
feeling the way you want tofeel, which will make acting the
way you need to act to have thethings you want to have
completely inevitable.
And you do that with nervoussystem healing first. When you

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give yourself permission to feelthe way you want to feel now,
you'll get to your North Starfaster, but it has to start
inside us first. You alreadyknow this by now. I'm going to
repeat it. If you're waitinguntil your financial
circumstances change, thenyou're going, you're giving your
power away to money.

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If you're waiting for everythingto change financially in order
for you to feel the way youwanna feel, you are giving your
power away to money, and you aresaying money is more powerful
than I am. And anytime we giveour power away to something
outside of us, we are letting ithave power over us. And that's

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not what money is for. Money isfor us to exchange value for
value. It's a currency system.
Money doesn't want to have powerover you. Money doesn't want to
have that much power. That isnot its proper use. Money is
here to align with our values sothat we can make our spending a

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prayer and create a morebeautiful world. So who is ready
to stop giving their power awayto money?
Who's ready? You want to tell mein the chat? Who's ready to stop
giving their power away tomoney? Yeah. Amazing.
Okay, I am so with you. So inorder to do that, we need to

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answer the following questions.And I want to know what does
having that North Star numberget you? What does having that
North Star number get you? Andwhat does it make possible for
you that really moves you on aheart level?
Really moves you on a heartlevel. And then even further,

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you can really ramp up yourability to manifest and
magnetize when you connect yourdesire with how that serves
humanity, or the rest of theworld, the planet, the animals,
whoever. So what does your NorthStar number get you? What does
it make possible for you thatreally moves you on a heart

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level? What we know is that theelectromagnetic field of our
heart is like 65 times largerthan the electromagnetic field
of our brain.
So our heart is communicating at65 times the power of our brain.
When we walk into our room, ourheart walks in first. When we

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connect our desires to ourheart, there's actually an
entire group of nervous systemcells in our heart. There's so
much evidence that our heartactually has its own
consciousness, that our heartactually holds memories. And so
activating our heart, the partof us that feels, that connects

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to something with that sense ofthis is meaningful to me, this
matters.
When we add that into ourdesires, then we're cooking with
yes, right? So in addition, weare meant to be conduits of
abundance. We are meant to callin divine radiant substance,

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life force energy, creativeenergy, inspiration, innovation,
and pull it through us, throughour minds, through our hearts,
through our bodies, and make itmanifest in the world. And that
impacts other humans, otherbeings. It can impact the entire

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planet.
My friend Mickey Agarwal is agreat example of this. She had
this idea when she found outthat there's a certain kind of
mushrooms that can eat plastic.She went about creating a
company based on plastic eatingmushrooms because of our single

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use plastic issue on the planet.And she has created a company
with their first product being adiaper that is self eating
because it includes plasticeating mushrooms. And it just
like literally disintegratesthrough this process.
So cool. That's an example ofher connecting her desire, and

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she she has had multiple 10exits. She does very well
financially. She's an example.She's coming up on the Plenty
podcast in a couple of weeks.
She's an example of someonewhose North Star moved to her
much more quickly because sheconnected into what matters to
her and allowed it to beconnected to how is that going
to serve others? How does thatgo beyond me and my own needs to

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the needs of others? And manywomen are super, super wired
this way anyway. But the thingis, we have to understand is we
don't want money for money.After our basic needs are met,
it's really not a goodmotivator, and it really doesn't
make us any happier.
But you want to know what doesmove the needle on our
happiness? A sense of purpose, asense of agency, a sense of

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connection, and a sense ofcontribution. All of those
things really bring ustremendous amounts of joy. So
let's connect our North Starnumber to those things, and it
will amplify the rate at whichthat number reaches us. I don't
even want to say the rate atwhich we reach that number
because I want you to realizethat you are a living, breathing

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magnet, And that which you seekis also seeking you.
And it can find you much moreclearly when you connect in to
what truly matters, because thatis what money is for. That is

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what money wants to move in thedirection of. There are four
possible routes that you can getto your North Star. One is you
can increase your income so thatthe difference between your
income and your expenses isgreater. So you have more

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monthly cushion, like moreleftover at the end of the
month, so you can increase yourincome.
Two is you can decrease yourexpenses, and that also helps
you have more left over at theend of the month. Three is you
can decrease your liabilities,like your credit card debt, or I
like to call it invoices forblessings already received. When

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you decrease your liabilities,then you have more leftover,
right? Because you're not payingthe, student loans or you're not
paying your credit cards orwhatever. Or number four, you
can increase your assets,meaning the things that Britt
put money in your pocket, byusing the increased monthly
cushion.

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So the increased differencebetween your monthly expenses
and your monthly income, whenyou make that difference bigger,
you have more monthly cushion tothen invest in assets like
stocks, bonds, real estate,businesses, crypto, all those
things are assets. That'sanother conversation for another

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day. But just know that it'spart of our Relaxed Money
curriculum to learn how toinvest in assets to get your
money growing for you. So thoseare your options. So you can
increase your income, you candecrease your expenses, you can
decrease your liabilities, andyou can increase your assets.
Pick one to focus on first. Pickone to focus on first. So this

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is on page 20 of your workbook.You're just going to check off
the one that you are going tochoose to focus on first. Now
let's say you're going to choosethe route of increasing your
income because increasing yourincome is the one thing that
does make everything else easieror inevitable.

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Increasing your income allowsyou to have more money to invest
in assets. It allows you to havemore monthly cushion left over
to be able to pay off yourinvoices for blessings already
received. So let's just go withthat one as our example. So how
is money exchanged? Money isexchanged in exchange for the
perceived value of the exchange,right?

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It is also exchanged accordingto a sense of mutual trust,
which is baked into theperceived value. And it is also
related to energetic trust andemotional trust. So when you
make an investment, like let'ssay you go and invest in a

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coach, Okay? You are investingin that coach because of the
perceived value of theirexpertise, their mentorship, and
the information or modeling thatthey can pass along to you. And
it's also based on a sense ofmutual trust and value.
And there's a trust in theenergy, and there's an emotional

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trust there as well. So that'show money is exchanged. I
mentioned this before, but moneyis just a stand in for what we
value. Money is just a stand infor what we value. And so if you
want to increase your income,you need to add more value.
If you want to increase yourincome, you need to add more

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value to somebody else's life.And one of the best ways to do
that is to start with valuingyourself more. One of the best
ways to do that is to work onhealing your nervous system,
because when you heal yournervous system, you become more
present to the truth, which isyou are an infinitely worthy,

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valuable human being whose giftsare unimaginable and so
brilliant and beautiful, andthat your sheer existence on the
planet makes it a better place.And then you can go out and take
that feeling to the market inmore specific ways, which I'm
about to get into. You can makea list of ways that you can add

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more value in your currentbusiness, your current job, or
something else entirely.
So if you have your ownbusiness, there are a lot of
ways that you can add value toyour current customer and
clients' lives. I'm going to getinto a list in a minute. If you
have a job, if you work incorporate, in a small business,
this still applies to youbecause you can add value in

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your company. One of ourstudents of Relax Money, Patty
Alfonso, came into the programafter needing to shut down a,
what used to be a multi 6 figurebusiness. Because of COVID, a
bunch of things happened, andshe ended up going to get a job.
In that particular job, first ofall, she was able to find

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herself a job after a toxic one.She found herself a new job and
instantly gave herself a $25,000raise. And because she added so
much value in that job, she gother full bonus six months early,
and they gave her a 5% pay raisebecause she was adding so much
more value inside the company.So there are so many ways to do

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this. The questions to askyourself are, and these are on
page 30 in your workbook, by theway, so you don't have to write
every single one of them down.
But the questions are, what dopeople already thank me for?
What do people already thank mefor? That's a way you could add

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value, right? Because if peopleare already thanking you for it,
you're probably already addingvalue there. What have they
already asked me for adviceabout?
What have they already asked mefor advice about? What do people
come to me for? Like,consistently, even if it's my
friends, even if it has nothingto do with what I do for work,

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what do people consistently cometo me for? What problems do you
see in the world that drive youcrazy or break your heart? What
problems have you already solvedfor yourself That would be a

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valuable problem to solve forsomebody else.
And what transformation have youalready undergone in your own
life that you could teachsomeone how to walk through?
Those are all going to point youin the direction of how you can
add more value. Spend some timewith this. You know, if you're

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listening to the replay, pausehere. Spend give put a timer on
for fifteen, twenty minutes,like really get in here.
There is gold in thesequestions. Now, you can increase
your ability to make more moneyby doing some of the following.

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You can go ahead and take ascreenshot of this slide. By
easing people's path. So forexample, I hired a life coach
about a year ago because I washaving some real energy and
digestion problems, and I wasgetting a fever every single
month.
It was ridiculous. I knew shehad all these online programs
that I could have bought forlike a couple hundred bucks. But

(02:20:13):
you know what? I just wanted tohire her directly because I just
wanted her to give me just thehigh level stuff that I could do
personally. I was willing to payher so much more money for that
one hour of time than it wouldhave cost me to buy her online
programs, but I didn't want togo through all that stuff.
I just wanted one hour of hertime personally to walk me

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through the most relevant stufffor me. She eased my path and
sped up my success, and she alsoprovided me an exclusive
experience. So those are allthree examples. You can save
people time, money, or energy.You can provide specialized
knowledge, right?
How could you providespecialized knowledge that you

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have that other people don'thave? How could you simplify
something for people? Right?Like, we have a relaxed money
cash flow management system thatsimplifies money management for
people. It takes a lot of theguesswork out.
Could you make something morefun and entertaining to add more

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value? Could you make it moreconvenient? For example, a
company like HelloFresh. Right?HelloFresh makes making dinner
really convenient.
They send you all the prechopped, pre measured
ingredients with the recipe, andyou just put it all together.
You don't have to think through,do I have the right ingredients?
How much do I do? What recipeshould I do? No.

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So like bing, bang, boom, badabing, much more convenient.
Making dinner convenient. Canyou help people get the results
with less stress and lesseffort? And can you do it
differently than other people?Can you how can you do it
differently than other peopleare doing it?

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A whole other page of ideas. Youcan screenshot this to save it.
You could train people to getthe same result over and over
again. Right? So instead of youneeding to be there, you could
train people to be able to getthe same result for themselves.
You could consult with people,you could provide

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accountability, you can do donefor you services or done with
you services. You could providecoaching one on one or in a
group. You could offer tools ortemplates, right? Like maybe you
have an amazing template forprompts for AI that gets you

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incredible results in less time.Those sorts of tools and
templates are incrediblyvaluable.
You've done the work, you've putin that groundwork, and now you
could offer that because that'sreally valuable. You can offer
people support, you can offeryour network or your resources,
and you could even apply yourskill set to a whole new problem

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or industry. So these arepossibilities to really get you
thinking. Now, if something'scoming up for you where it says,
I don't have any of theseskills, this won't work for me,
that's where I'm going to inviteyou to go back to those four
questions. How could this workfor me?
What would this look like forme? How could this be possible?

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And who would I need to be inorder for this to be possible
for me? Now as a bonus, this ison page 31. If you're stuck or
you want more input, you cantext 10 people with the
following question.
Hey there, can you answer asuper quick question with the

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first thing that pops into yourhead? Now wait for their
response. You'll get a lot moreresponses if you leave them with
a cliffhanger of curiosity likethat, which is just a hot
marketing tip. Wait for theirresponse. And when they respond
with yes, or sure, or of course,you say, what's one way that I
add value to the world or yourlife that you think I probably

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take for granted?
See what people respond with,and there will be some gold in
there. See what is in common. Ihave a warning for you, and that
is that the most valuable thingyou contribute will very likely
be something that feelseffortless, and therefore,
you'll be likely to discount it.You will be likely to discount

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it. The fact that somethingfeels easy to you makes it feel
less valuable to you becausewe've been conditioned that in
order to make money, things haveto be hard and we have to
sacrifice.
The whole banging the drum oflike, hard work is the only way
to succeed makes the opposite.When something feels easy, if

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we're adding value somewherethat feels easy and then we make
money for it, then we suddenlystart to feel guilty and like
that's wrong. And so we avoidopportunities to make money in
ways that feel easy. And infact, when there are
opportunities right in front ofus, our reticular activating
system can't even see thembecause we've programmed our

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subconscious to believe thatmaking money has to be hard. So
we don't even see all the valuewe could offer.
That feels really easy.Practical example of this, my
sister texted me a similarquestion as the one on the last
slide about how she really makesa difference in her clients'

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lives. And I'm not her client,but I'm her sister. So I've
received her gifts many times.And I was able to provide to her
exactly what it was.
I think she's like an incredibleintuitive, but specifically, she
has a laser focused intuitionthat helps people to grab onto
the diamond of, like, the thingthat they need to focus on that

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cuts away all the extradistraction and, like, helps
them to know to double down onthis, and everything else is a
distraction. And she asked mefor an example of when that had
been helpful to me, and it wasrecent. I was comparing myself
to another person who teachesabout money, and I was feeling
like maybe I needed to be morelike him. And I was kind of,

(02:26:27):
like, in my head about it, and Iwas feeling a little wah wah.
And she just, out of nowhere,was like, hey, I noticed that
folks who come to your eventsor, you know, are giving you
feedback, give you feedbackabout how safe they feel with
you and how safe they feel andhow loved they feel in your

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community.
And I was telling myself thisstory that maybe I needed to be
more aggressive. Maybe I neededto get in people's faces more.
But she instantly, with herdiamond laser insight, was able
to come in and give me the exactreflection I needed to save me
so much time and energy anddistraction from trying to be a
different way. She saved me alot of time, money and energy.

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And her reflection was, wow,that's so interesting because
that was effortless for me.
So oftentimes the way that wecan offer the biggest value is
going to feel somewhateffortless and therefore we will
discount it, which is why weneed coaches and community to
help mirror back to us what isvaluable that we offer. So

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Annie, my sister, Anne C.Moller, shout out to you. This
is called your free space. Soyour free space is that place
where you can offer unbelievablevalue that you may take for
granted.
But I don't want you to take itfor granted. What is your free
space? Texting people in yourlife will help you. Now there

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are a couple of levers to helpincrease the value you provide
while decreasing the time ittakes to create that value. And
this is on workbook page three.
I do want to say I made an erroron workbook page three. So at
the bottom, there's a fourththing. You can just cross it
out. I didn't include it on theslide. It doesn't mean that it's
wrong.

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It just means that doing thatfourth thing won't necessarily
decrease the time it takes toadd that value. The way that you
can increase the value youprovide while decreasing the
time it takes to create thatvalue, meaning not trading hours
for dollars, is to solve ahigher level problem. So if you

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can solve a higher level problemfor people, they will pay you
more. Not for more time, butjust for the higher level
problem. Right?
So let's say I am a healthcoach, and I know how to support
families with kids with celiacto navigate the world in a

(02:28:59):
gluten free way. That's a higherlevel problem than just like,
I'm a health coach for kids, formoms and, you know, parents,
right? Very different higherlevel problem. You'll get paid
more for that. You could solve amore specific or specialized
problem.
I guess that's sort of a similarexample. You could solve a

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problem for a different kind ofperson that values that solution
even more, Right? So in thebook, 10x is Easier Than 2x,
there's a great example of afreight company that was
offering freight services to allkinds of companies. They had a
couple of companies that had atype of freight that was really,

(02:29:41):
like, fragile in terms of itrequired a specific amount of a
specific temperature, a specificdelivery procedure. It required
all this specific, like, highlyspecialized ways of treating
that delivery.
And so that company knew thatthose companies that needed that
highly specialized freightdelivered, that company knew

(02:30:03):
that those clients would paymore. So they took their
attention off of being thefreight company to everyone and
put their attention on being thefreight company for these
specialized companies that hadtheir highly valuable, highly
volatile freight that needed allthese special considerations. So

(02:30:24):
hopefully, those give you someexamples to apply to your own
life. This whole conversationinvites you to start seeing all
the possibilities that you canmake more money without trading
time for it. We're just gettingstarted with that conversation.
There's so much more to come,but, I hope that that's opening

(02:30:45):
some things up for you. And thatreally is the conversation about
leverage, which means gettingpaid multiple times for the same
number of hours worked. Gettingpaid multiple times for the same
number of hours worked. Peopleare not, and I'm about to give
you a really powerful example,people aren't paying you for how

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long it takes you to solve theirproblem or provide their
solution. They're paying you forhow valuable the solution is.
And when you speak to whatpeople already want, this
becomes a lot easier. Okay?Here's an example. A couple
years ago, I came back fromMaine to Miami, and in our
condo, the air conditioning wasbroken. Now, you do not want to

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be in a condo in Miami in Augustwith no air conditioning.
It was freaking hot. So wecalled in an air conditioning
guy. He was there within acouple of hours, and it took him
about fifteen minutes to fix theair conditioning. I think it
costs, I don't know, $800 orsomething. I was thrilled to pay

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him.
I didn't think, oh, gosh. Wow.It only took him fifteen
minutes. I'm not going to pay$800 for something that took him
fifteen minutes. No.
I was thrilled that it only tookhim fifteen minutes. I was
thrilled to have hired the bestair conditioning guy and pay for
all his previous years ofexperiment not experimenting,

(02:32:15):
of, experience so that I couldget cool fast. You can get paid
more to deliver a high valuesolution to the right person at
the right time. They do not carehow long it takes you to get
them that solution. In fact, itis more valuable if you deliver

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it faster.
And when you relate to peoplefrom the level of your power,
meaning your years ofexperience, your years of
expertise, your years ofeducation, your years of
practice and study, When yourelate to someone from the level

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of your power and talk to them,like in any kind of sales
conversation, in any kind ofdiscovery call, in any kind of
pitch, in any sales environment,when you are talking to a
potential customer, whether youare in your own business or you
work for someone else, if yourelate to someone else at the

(02:33:22):
level of their power and you'retalking to them from the level
of their power, you will be morelikely to make the sale. You
will be more likely to receivemoney. And we so often do this
thing where we're like, Oh, I'mgoing to charge less because
that person can't afford it, orI'm afraid that they won't want
to pay for it or what, that'syou getting in someone else's

(02:33:47):
pocketbook. Get out of theirpocketbook, talk to them at the
level of their own power andtheir own dignity, give them the
dignity of making their ownpowerful buying decision and
getting the transformation thatcomes from a transaction that
they've consciously decided tomake because of their own desire

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to solve a problem that they'realready aware that they have.
Okay? We so often hold back ourearning potential because we're
all up in people's pockets andpurses and trying to make buying
decisions for them. Andhonestly, not only is that
keeping you financially small,it is also this strange, sneaky

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way of having this falsesuperiority complex that you
could possibly know better abouthow someone else should or
shouldn't spend their money orhow they might or might not want
to. Give people the dignity oftheir own buying decisions,
relate to them on the level oftheir power, and get out of
their purse. So what do you donext?

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You're going to go through yourlist of possible ways to add
value. You're going to chooseone and you're going to flesh it
out. You're going to spend sometime with a notebook, get in
there, Use a nervous systemhealing tool, build capacity,
and then revisit this.Obviously, after this workshop,
we've been here and, you know,this has been a full time

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together, and we're almost atthe end. However, you can take
this to the freaking bank.
Okay? And then you're going totake the first next step. You'll
send the email. You'll make theFacebook post about your beta
group. You'll gather thecommittee in your office.
You'll write the text. All youneed to do is just the next

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right thing. We worked with abeautiful human on this during
our VIP, and you can do this,too. So an example is we knew
that we had all these customersasking us for a course. This was
back in 2012.
And I kept telling them thatthey needed to wait until my

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book, Money, A Love Story, cameout, until Brilliant Mike, my
husband, was like, Hey, whydon't we just make a course so
that they can have access to itnow instead of waiting for when
your book is published, whichwas like nine months later? And
so in one weekend, we puttogether a simple sales page. We

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put together the PayPal link. Wedid the whole thing. We sent out
a couple of emails.
We monetized before we made it.We made all of these sales. I
don't remember, we made $20,000for the first course. It was
crazy. It was a $97 product.
And we did that because weweren't waiting for it to be
perfect. We were just taking thenext right step. You don't have

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to know every single step. Allyou need to do is ask yourself,
who do I need to be? And whenyou're being that person, when
you're asking yourself, whatwould the abundant empress or
sovereign do?
You will be guided. Yoursubconscious will find the exact

(02:37:06):
right next step for you. Focuson the people who need what you
have to offer because moreincome will often mean more
impact. So if you can focus onwhere is there a need that I can
meet, you're gonna be on theright track. Now okay.
Now this is I'm gonna play thisin a minute. This is the part.

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We're gonna have a moment todigest, and we are nearing the
end of this segment. We're juston the home stretch here. I want
you to now practice financialcompersion.
Okay? This is something I cameup with. Compersion is when
somebody gets pleasure whentheir partner has pleasure. Now

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in the world of the online spaceand being able to see what other
people are doing in the world ofcelebrity or even the world of
your neighborhood, we have atendency to look at other people
and see what they have or seewhat they're experiencing and be
like, oh, nice for you. Must benice.
And go into lack and limitationand let the fact that they're

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having that mean that we can't.I'm going to invite you to turn
on your receptor sites to beavailable, to open up to
receiving and let watching thesetwo beautiful humans be evidence
that you get to have it too. Andeven take it one step further

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and see what it would feel likein your body as you're listening
to Valentina and Sarah's storyto feel what it feels like in
your body to open up to thiskind of abundance and
receptivity. That's financialconversion. That is they're

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having it, and I am too.
So I'm gonna play the video.Let's make sure the video Hi.

Guests (02:39:05):
We are Sarah and Valentina.

Kate Northrup (02:39:07):
So I'm just gonna pause. Did that video did you
hear the audio when I playedthat? Great. Oh, look at us.

Guests (02:39:14):
Okay. We are a couple on a journey to redefine our
relationship with money. When wejoined Relax Money last year, we
were off our corporate jobs. Wewere starting a new business,
and we were living over savings.We were anxious.
Money felt heavy, like somethingwe didn't wanna look at, even

(02:39:38):
scary. Before relaxed money, Iavoided looking at my numbers. I
thought tracking expenses wouldmake me feel trapped. Kate
taught me that financialawareness actually creates
freedom. Now we do quarterlyfinancial snapshots and we have
weekly money days where wecheck-in, plan, and make
decisions without stress.
We also learned how to regulateour nervous systems around

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money. This wasn't just theory.We've been practicing daily for
almost a year now, and theimpact has been huge. Even
during one of the most stressfultimes of our lives, Sarah's
eczema, which always flared upunder stress, never showed up.
Today, we are in a beautifulplace in Colombia, surrounded by
nature and abundance.
Our business is growing, andmost importantly, we've learned

(02:40:24):
that our well-being andworthiness aren't tied to our
bank account balance. As someonewho identifies as gender non
conforming, something thatreally drew me to this program
was Kate's inclusivity. Not onlyin her language, but in how she
really able to participate fullyin all the offerings, but also

(02:41:00):
ask our questions individually,and it made all the difference.
If you are considering RelaxMoney, do it. It's so much more
than just a program.
It truly is a transformation,and it's one of the best
investments we've ever made.

Kate Northrup (02:41:24):
Amazing. So you're gonna have an opportunity
in the Facebook group to vote onour Relaxed Money case study
finalists. So these folks havethe opportunity to win a couple
of great prizes. One of them isa half day VIP session with me
and Mike. Another one is a VIPRelax Money Live ticket, and

(02:41:48):
another is a Relax Money Liveticket.
And in the Facebook group, we'regoing to be posting Sarah and
Valentina's video as well as thetwo videos I'm going to play
during the next workshop. Sokeep an eye on those. Now you
know how to increase yourincome. So we really went into
that today. You have a lot towork with there.

(02:42:10):
And I know it's a lot to digest,and I believe in you. I know you
have what it takes to take thisinformation and take it to the
bank. So how do the rest ofthese pieces fit together with
rewiring the nervous system,beliefs work, money management,
money stewardship, and alsogetting your money to work for

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you so you can grow wealth andhave an impact in a relaxed way?
Well, you are going to find outnext time. I'm gonna put it all
together for you next time.
So day two's homework is to fillout part two of the Relaxed
Money Map, your North Star. Soyou're going to fill it out. The

(02:42:55):
deadline is this Thursday, April24 at midnight, and you can
submit it at katenorthrup.com.You're going to be entered to
win an Ariata Amethyst Mat forfar infrared healing. It is so
beautiful.
It is so relaxing. Now, daythree of wide receiver, you're

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going to learn the three pillarsof relaxed money. So how to
build systems that don't justorganize your money, but also
amplify your abundance onrepeat. You're going to learn
the five ingredients ofmasterful money stewardship. And
you're also going to learn theseven high impact skills that

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the wealthiest, most abundant,most generous, most relaxed
people are utilizing so that youcan use them in your own life.
Now, it is show up bonus time.So when you go over to
katenorthrop.com/goodlive2,you'll get our Do Less Weekly

(02:44:04):
Planner spread. You can use thisspread. It is the same spread.
Oh, my planner is not on mydesk, but it's the same spread I
use every single week to plan myweek in concert with my body and
with the cosmos.
This is the ultimate starterplan for body first, business
and bank account second, andthere's a whole section here for

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making a to do list for theuniverse that is unbelievably
powerful. So you stayed untilthe end, You are a rock star.
You get goodies. And I am goingto see you for day three on
Thursday at noon. So let's goahead and dance.

(02:44:50):
If you wanna dance and celebratewith me, please stay and do
that. I'm gonna put on a song.I'm gonna make sure my audio is
shared. And then we're going tooh, yes. Wait.
Yes. Okay. I'm gonna make suremy audio is shared. This was

(02:45:11):
fun. This was fun.
This was full, and this was fun.So here we go. Let's make sure.
Can you Can we hear that okay?Yeah?
Okay, great. So I'm gonna justinvite you to bend your elbows
and your knees. I wanna say ashout out to my friend, Doctor.

(02:45:34):
Jeff Kern, the founder ofPranashakti, for helping me with
his dance guidance at the end tohelp us all digest. So use your
elbows, use your knees, justkind of bending.

(02:46:47):
Okay. Back to your elbows andyour knees. Ending contract.
Inhale. I can think of Maybejust roll your shoulders around.

(02:49:18):
Thank you, everyone. I'll seeyou Thursday.