Day 3 Replay | Good with Money

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Amazing. Welcome, everyone, to day three of Good
With Money. Good to see all ofyou. Make sure that you are
clear on your control of yourZoom experience. You can close
out the chat if you'reoverwhelmed by the chat at any
point, and you can also clickthe little carrot at the bottom

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to hide your chat previews.
Also, if you're not able to seeKate's screen when she's sharing
her slides, you can click thelittle panel at the top of your
Zoom window if you're on adesktop, and it's somewhere you
might have to swipe left orright on your phone if you're
watching us from a device. Soget yourself together, grab your
pen, your workbook, your glassof water, and here we go, day

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three of Good With Money.Welcome, everyone.

Speaker 2 (00:50):
Hey. Thanks, Takesha. Welcome back, everyone. Day
three today. This is yourcaptain speaking.
We are landing the plane. Butbefore we do,

Speaker 3 (01:06):
I have some

Speaker 2 (01:07):
really exciting things planned for you. So get
cozy, lean in, use your tools asyou need them. We talked about
last time, just a reminder, ifyou notice you are getting
distracted, allow yourself tomove your body. There's probably

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some energy that needs to move.If you're noticing yourself
going into judgment, use a tool,get up, move around, lay on the
floor.
If you're finding that you arefeeling impatient or bored, You
can take me on a walk with you.You can do the dishes at the
same time. Whatever you need todo to keep you here because your

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financial life matters. It isthe one thing that will make
everything else easier orinevitable. Thank you, Gary
Keller, for that quote.
I use it all the time. I willtell you notes from behind the
scenes. I'm actually feeling alittle nauseous. We have had

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such an expansive experiencethat the enteric nervous system
of my digestive system is justfeeling that expansion. So this
is my reminder that our body iswise, and it speaks to us in
beautiful ways that the medicalsystem often wants to try to

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silence, and it sees it as aproblem.
And I'm going to invite us tosee our body's signals as an
invitation and as love and aswisdom. I know for me, I'm up at
my edge right here with you, andit is such a pleasure, and it is
such an honor. So let's dive into day three. Alright, team. Can

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you see my slides?
Are we good here? Yes. Great.Okay. Who's ready?
Should we just take a collectivedeep breath? Let's take a
collective deep breath. Okay.Here we go. And an audible sigh.

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One more in. And an audiblesigh. Okay. If it's not a little

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weird, why do it? Alright.
Here's what we did on day two,which literally feels like it
was a hundred years ago. So ifyou need to be reminded where
we've been in time and spacelike I do, here's what we got.
We did a couple of practices,the washing machine and the

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butterfly hug. Both of those arepractices that on demand you can
use at any time to signal toyour body that you're safe so
that you can tap into yourexpanded capacity to be a
conduit for abundance and toincrease your energetic reserves

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to be able to have choice andact in new ways, learn new
material, and show up as theinevitable wealthy human that
you are. We also got intoidentifying your North Star,
which is the amount of moneyyou'd like to be earning or have

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in savings or have in your networth.
So you did that section of therelaxed money map, which was
your North Star. And then wetalked about the possible routes
to get there, and we reallybroke down one possible route,
which is increasing your income.And there were all those slides

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with the bullet points. Andthose slides with the bullet
points were our 25 levers thatyou can pull at any time to
increase the amount of valuethat you're offering in a
marketable way so that you canincrease the amount of money
you're receiving. And then wealso talked about three possible

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ways, and this is in yourworkbook, but three possible
ways that you can even tweakthose a little bit further to be
able to add more value bysolving a more specific problem,
solving a more higher, oh, howwould you say it?
You like a more specific problemor like a more complex problem

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for a higher level client. Wetalked about those things
because those are all ways thatyou can garner more income
without working harder, right? Igave the example of health coach
who helps people who havechildren with celiac as an
example of that. Okay. Takeshaalready talked about the chat.
You've got your breakthroughemoji and the workbook remains

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in the same place, which iskatenorthrup.com/workbook. We
also have been doing someincredible homework giveaways.
Now remember, the value in thehomework is not in the giveaway.
The value in the homework is thebenefit that you get from doing
the homework. So there was dayone's homework, which was your

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now point.
There was day two's homework,which is your North Star. And
then I'm going to tell you whatday three's homework is at the
end. But for now, I want toannounce our winner of the
Ariata Amethyst Mat, which isgoing to change your life when
you lay on this thing. It is sodeeply healing and an instant

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down regulator melt yumexperience. So this is going to
Kalia Jones.
Kalia Jones, or maybe it's KaylaJones. I think it's Kayla, K A I
L A H. Kayla Jones. It is timeto receive your Amethyst mat. We

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will email you to get that offto you.
And then the person who, is ourwinner for today's homework, the
due date for today's homework isSunday at midnight. So you have
all weekend and this homework isfun. It has the word magic in
it. So get ready. And the personwho wins this giveaway is going

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to get a Joovre red light.
Red light therapy is sowonderful for your nervous
system healing, for collagenproduction, for immune function,
for reducing inflammation, andit's been a really great part of
Mike's healing journey aroundhis skin. So now you want to
know what we're going to dotoday? Today, I'm going to bring

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it all together for you. Soyou'll walk away with the three
pillars of relaxed money likeand no. Pillars help us to build
stability.
And with a topic like moneythat, as we know, brings up a
lot of things, that's what we'vebeen moving through all week.
Having that kind of stability ofpillars is so helpful so we can

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locate ourselves and know whatto focus on first, second, and
third. So I'm actually going togive you that kind of map. And
then I'm going to share with youthe five high frequency
ingredients for masterful moneystewardship. And this is called

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the money magic potion.
And so you're going to use themagic money potion to build your
specific methodology for growingyour money and for having more
money flow in your life. Andthen finally, we're gonna talk
about the seven skills that thewealthiest, most relaxed, most

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generous humans have cultivatedso that you can start embodying
them right away. First of all,how fun was it last time? Oh,
you know what? I think I didn'tdo that checkbox when I shared
my screen, so let me go back anddo the checkbox.
And in the meantime, I'm goingto tell you that remember how we

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got to meet Valentina and Sarah?They are one of the finalists
from our Relaxed Money casestudy. And now you're going to
meet the fabulous Erica Jones,who is our second Relaxed Money
finalist. So Relaxed Money casestudy finalist. Here we go meet
Erica.

Speaker 4 (10:21):
Growing up, money was a really tense and taboo topic
in my home. It wasn't somethingwe celebrated, discussed or
asked others questions about.But somehow, magically, I was
supposed to be good with money.I was not. Hi, my name is Erica,
and this is my Relaxed Moneystory.
I'm a homeschool mom of three, awife, and I'm an author and

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illustrator of children's books.And while I had manifested the
artistic career of my dreams, Iwas still quite uncomfortable
doing some of the thingscritical to my business like
setting prices, paying attentionto contracts, marketing and
sales, etc. In my personal life,I would tune out meetings with
our financial advisor andcontribute to tension and budget

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meetings with my husband and Ialways felt really stressed when
it was time to pay for thingswhich happens like every day.
So, when I stumbled upon Kate'sclasses for the second time in
my life, I could tell she hadunearthed something different in
hers through her understandingof the role the nervous system
plays in our lives. It was a newconcept to me, but I could tell
it was going to help me heal myown relationship with money.

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Since becoming part of theRelaxed Money Community, I've
learned how to recognize when mynervous system needs to be
regulated and how to do that.I've been given the tools to
process past financial traumas,and I'm now more confident
discussing money with advisors,people I might owe money to, or
people who might owe money tome. I've cultivated abundance in
the form of friendships both inand outside of the community

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because I'm not feeling like animpostor anymore. I've learned
that being good with moneydoesn't start with a knack for
understanding stock market termsit starts with having a good
relationship with money, andthen flows out to how you relate
to others about money. I've alsoset up new income streams in my
art business so that I can makemore passively and consistently.

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I have learned I enjoy sellingmy books and art in person. My
husband and I have more fruitfulbudget meetings And we feel like
we are working as a team on ourfinancial future toward what
Kate calls our enough number.Tracking our progress, using the
tools provided, we haveexperienced a growth in our net
worth of 41% through paying offdebts and experiencing the

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benefits of appreciation in ourassets. One of the tangible
money wins we are most proud ofis attracting the resources in
the form of a new job benefitand other scholarships to fund
our children's collegeeducation. And it couldn't have
come at a better time becauseour oldest daughter is starting
college in the fall.
I was raised by two educators.They are no longer with us, but

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I know this continuation oftheir legacy makes them proud.
Thank you, Relax Money.

Speaker 2 (13:00):
Thank you, Erica.

Speaker 3 (13:04):
I watched that one before and it made me cry. I
thought maybe pre watching itwould would kinda like smooth
the emotion over, but it didn't.

Speaker 2 (13:14):
So beautiful. Congratulations, Erica. So
listen. There's no ceiling here.The better it gets, the better
it gets to get.
If you're having an experience,this came up on the VIP call, if

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you're having any kind ofexperience of, oh, now I'm
having this incredibleexpansion. Like for example, we
heard from somebody in our inboxthat attracted $50,000
unexpectedly. That's a big win,right? It's a big win. And there
can be this sense, and BreneBrown talks about this, of

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foreboding joy when things getgood and then we think there's a
limit.

Speaker 1 (14:36):
Okay, friends. Stand by. All right, friends. We will

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be right back. We had a littlebit of technical difficulty.
All good? It happens. But makesure that you are taking note.
There is a limit. Okay?
There's a bandwidth limit. Fool.Is real life. Isn't it good to

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remember that we're human? Okay.
Here

Speaker 3 (15:53):
we go.

Speaker 2 (15:54):
Facebook might have stopped, but that's fine. Okay,
great. We're back. I have noidea what would happen.
Remember, Takesha, how thathappened last year on day three?

Speaker 1 (16:02):
Oh my god. I know.

Speaker 3 (16:04):
Remember?

Speaker 2 (16:04):
Yeah. Alright, folks. We are powerful beyond measure.

Speaker 1 (16:09):
And human.

Speaker 2 (16:10):
And human. I'm gonna grab my slides and meet you back
on. The better it gets, thebetter it gets. So just
confirming here in team chat.You're we're still good.
Right? You can see me. Iseveryone good? Oh, except maybe
I don't have my video on.Probably, I should put my video
on.
Is my video on? Let me know. Oh,my video is on. Great. Okay.

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So just I I can't see myself,but I don't need to see myself.
That's not relevant. Fantastic.We are microcosms of an infinite
universe in a constant state ofexpansion. And sometimes we come
up against our edge, and weexplode the bandwidth of the

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internet.
And then we have to hop off fora minute, reregulate with a
dance break and a wonderfulsong, and then we come back with
even more capacity than we hadbefore. So just like babies are
born, we have an expansion andthen a contraction and then an

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expansion and then a contractionand then an expansion. And
that's how it goes for ourentire lives. So if you're
experiencing any kind of like,oh, no, this is gonna go away,
just like I told Beautiful Terryon VIP yesterday, you are the
magic. Right?

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If you're a high school musicalfan, there's a wonderful song
that's like, you are the magicin me when I hear my favorite
song. Okay. We're very deep intween musicals in our house, and
I want you to know that you arethe magic. That's not going
anywhere. That's you.
Also, some folks may have felt abit a Twitter or a flutter or

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when they tapped into theirNorth Star and their desire. And
maybe what came up for you is,oh, this is this is, too much.
Who do I think I am? I don't getto who you know, all of that
stuff. The thing is about ourdreams is that they're as unique

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as our fingerprints.
If you talk to a hundred people,each one of oh, I'm not sharing
slides right now. Oh, oh, folks.Okay. Alrighty. Here we go.
Mike, I need help. Oh, F three.Whoops. Now we're playing music.

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I'm on the wrong this is great.
Okay. Alright. Get out of this.Where's your Zoom? This is so
perfect.

Speaker 3 (19:16):
There it is. Oh gosh. This is amazing. Everybody, can
you guys now? Present now?
Yeah. Just do it for me. Yes.

Speaker 2 (19:28):
Good? The thing is that every single one of our
dreams is as unbelievably uniqueas every one of our
fingerprints. There will be nocopies. And so your financial
north star, whatever dreamyou're dreaming that money or

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savings or net worth, whateverdream you're dreaming around
money, is not a fantasy. It'snot even a dream.
It's a set of instructions. Solet's receive what our dreams
are, not as something we madeup, but something we're being

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given. You are being given a setof instructions. And as my
friend, Amber Lilliastrom says,if the dream is in you, it is
for you. So I'd love to know inthe chat, is that a helpful
reframe for anyone?
Yeah. Great. Let's do anactivity, shall we? Now for fear

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of messing up my deck again, Iam gonna go ahead and stop my
share and see what happens. Am Ijust being seen on the Zoom?
Yeah. Okay. Great. Fantastic. Solet's do an activity.

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If you're feeling safe to closeyour eyes, go ahead and do that
or just have a soft gaze andtrust even if you're driving or
walking your dog or something,just know that you're receiving
this too, and then you can comeback to it. Go ahead and rub
your palms slowly over eachother and become present to the

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feeling that you feel first asthe hand touching the other hand
and then as the hand beingtouched. So practice putting

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your attention on being thetoucher and then being the
touchy. No need to turn thatinto a mind game. Just feel your
sensations.
Just slowly kind of rubbing yourhands over your hands. You could
add in breathing into your lowerback ribs as you do that. Maybe

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you could add in little gentlerub from shoulder to elbow as
you cross your arms over yourchest.

Speaker 5 (22:35):
Great.

Speaker 2 (22:37):
If you wanna bring your hands down to your sides or
perhaps one wants to go on yourheart and one on your belly.
Bring your North Star to yourconsciousness. Whatever that
amount of money was that youwanna make, your income, your

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savings, or your net worth goal.And remember, we took off the
time stamp for spaciousness andfor the exhale. Now invite into
your awareness the person whoalready has that North Star.

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So this is the person for whomthat North Star has easily found
its way to them, and they'reexperiencing it now. The amount
of income, the amount ofsavings, and or the net worth.

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And notice who is that person?Don't judge what comes through.
And if you're somebody who forwhom visualization is not
accessible, use whatever isaccessible to you even if it is
simply closing your eyes andlistening to my voice.

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There is no way to do thiswrong. So notice who is this
person who has this North Starexperience? How do they move
through the world? What's theirvibe? How would you describe

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them?
What do they feel like insidethemselves? What are they
wearing? How do they walk? Howdo they interact with others?

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How do they go about theirworkday or their playday or
whatever kind of day?
As you're receiving thisinformation, ask, what is this

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person's name describingdescribed in an essence? So what
is the name of this expandedabundance identity? What is the
name of the frequency of thisupdated money nervous system

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thermostat? Just see what comesthrough. Don't judge it.
Just receive it even if itdoesn't make sense. Is there a
name? Is there a song? Is therean image? A color?

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Thank you to your psyche forthat information. And now on the
count of five you can bring yourawareness back to your feet.
Four, maybe wiggle your hips alittle bit. Three, putting your
arms down at your side. Two,rolling your shoulders back, and

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one, opening your eyes.
So I'd love a few examples ofwhat was this expanded money
thermostat frequency? Yeah. I'mseeing somebody's name. Name was

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river. Beautiful.
Ocean tide. I was sunshine.Beautiful. So if there's more of
a general adjective that camethrough, that's fantastic. And
if there's something that's morespecific that came just to you,
somebody wrote booblicious.
So maybe your updated moneynervous system frequency is

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booblicious. When I did thisexercise for the first time, the
name that came through for mewas Betty Bounty. So when I am
noticing that I'm in lack, thatI'm, in my old neural
programming, I invite myself tostep into the frequency of Betty

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Bounty. And it really helpsbecause that's the b step.
That's the b step.
Okay. Let's go back to ourslides. Thank you for all these
shares. Keep it going in this inthe, in the chat. It's super
fun.
Alright. So hold your expandedmoney thermostat close. Write

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that down somewhere. This workaround the expanded money
thermostat is incrediblypowerful. Marie Applegate
Swanson, who's a member of ourcommunity, she came to our Relax
Money live event, and she did amore extended version of this
exercise in person with a fewmore details.
And she downloaded the updatedmoney nervous system thermostat

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of Tallulah, Empress TullulaFreya. So Empress Tullula Freya
presented herself to Marie as apossibility for stepping into
more of that expanded abundancefrequency. And then Marie ended
up, as a result of embodyingthat frequency, booking a talk

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at SXSW, which is an incrediblycoveted spot. I mean, it's a
very, very big deal to getinvited to speak at SXSW. She
also ran into a random person atthe airport who invited her to
speak on a big podcast.
And she got invited to speak ata friend's company in a very big

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situation. Her expandedfrequency of embodying Empress
Tallulah Freya started lining upall these opportunities at her
door. And today, we're going totalk about how that works. And
for any of you who are musiciansor who love music, you're going
to really, really like theanalogy. So let's go ahead and

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dive into the three pillars ofmaking, growing, and giving
relaxed money.
We're on page 33 of yourworkbook for my front row kind
of students, who really like tofollow along. We're We're on
page 33. And as I go through,I'm going to actually, I'm not
going to tell you that part yet.Just that's where we are. So

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pillar one is your financialfoundation.
We're going to walk through thethree pillars of relax Relaxed
Money so you can put this alltogether and get it working in
your life to create thefinancial life of your dreams,
or as we just determined, tofollow the directions of your

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next steps that you've beendownloading as your dream. So we
have to build the foundationfirst. We've talked a lot about
healing your nervous system. SoI'm only going to give you a
couple of extra pieces here. Oneof them is the following.
Our nervous system getsimprinted, meaning we build

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neural pathways throughemotionally significant events.
So the way our nervous systemcatalogs something as important
is if it's emotionallysignificant. Now, this can
happen in terms of emotionallysignificant things that are
painful and also emotionallysignificant things that are

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joyful. So traumas imprint thenervous system, but also joys.
And we talk a lot about traumas,and I want to invite in also the
conversation about like joysimprint our nervous system.
And there are three layers inwhich our nervous system gets
imprinted or three ways. One iswhen we experience things

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personally. So when I experiencesomething personally, and it is
it creates a heightened sense ofemotion for me, it will
repattern my nervous systembecause my survival wiring is
making sure to file that dataaway, especially if that was a

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painful event where I didn'thave the support, the resources,
or the agency or tools to dowhat I wanted to do about it to
protect myself in the moment.That will really leave a mark.
We also have collective nervoussystem imprinting.

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And collective nervous systemimprinting is not as commonly
talked about. It's when wewitness someone else who we
relate to experiencingsomething, and it based on our
mirror neurons, it leaves amark. It leaves an imprint. If

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you follow me on social media,you'll find that I do not post
very often, pretty much never. Ihave a policy to not repost
traumatic information from thenews because I know that if
someone is following me whoidentifies with the group of
people most impacted by thatparticular devastating piece of

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information, it is actuallygoing to be traumatizing for
them re see it on my feed.
Unfortunately, the way our mediasystem is based on collective
traumatic nervous systemimprinting. So this can also

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work, though, on the opposite.For those who are mothers,
illustrators, artists, for thosewho are black women, for those
who are homeschoolers, Did anyof you experience watching
Erica's story this sense ofcollective nervous system

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imprinting of joy andpossibility? I'd love to see in
the chat, did that create anexpansion for anyone? Yeah.
Yeah. Cool. And remember how Italked about before, Valentina
and Sarah's case study video topractice financial compersion,

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which is the part in our mirrorneurons that can allow us to
receive the joy and pleasure ofsomething that is happening to
someone else because our bodiesdo not believe the lie of
separation. Our bodies don'tbelieve the lie of separation.
The lie of separation says, oh,that's happening for Erica over

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there.
Must be nice. But what'sactually true and what we can
double down on in terms of ourmirror neurons is Erica's
expansion is all of ourexpansion. We have the data for
that. I talked about it on dayone. Go revisit that data.

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Get your brain repatterned towelcome in the truth that there
is no such thing as separate.One of our success is all of our
success, especially for womenbecause we're inherently
incredibly generous financiallyand especially for conscious
humans who also are too. Thebigger why why that we're doing

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this work in Good With Money isto get as many resources as in
the hands of the conscioushumans like the people right
here listening right now,whether you're live or whether
you're on the replay. You haveincarnated, this is my belief,
we have incarnated at this timeto be part of the transition
team to build a new earth thatis a more beautiful future. And

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in order to do that, it takesresources.
And so that's what we're doingright now. And then the third
layer of nervous systemimprinting is ancestral. And so
what we know from the study ofepigenetics is that we are
living out the fears and joys ofour ancestors. That can be so

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beautiful, and that can bereally heavy. My grandmother
grew up, her dad left, she wasabused, she grew up with next to
nothing in the Depressionstanding in bread lines.
She slept in a crib with abullet hole over it. She had a

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really intense life in herupbringing. When I was in my mid
to late it was my mid twenties,I started getting panic attacks
at sunset, which was so odd. Ihad I had no reason to panic
when the sun set. It wasillogical.
But every day, I was under atremendous amount of stress in

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my life because I told the storyof how I was I looked like I had
it all together on the outside,but behind the scenes, I was
kind of I was not tending to myfinances. I was not taking full
responsibility for myself. Andthen also, was in a relationship
that I was not serving meanymore. And I was getting panic

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every night at sunset because mystress and threat bucket were
overloaded. And so I was goinginto default patterning, default
neural patterning.
And I mentioned to my mom that Iwas having panic attacks at
sunset. And she said, Granny,always panicked at sunset. So I

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don't know what happened to mygrandmother. I never will. She's
not living anymore.
I won't be able to ask her thatstory. But there's something in
my body that remembers. We allhave that. We're all walking
around with the memories of ourancestors. And what's so

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incredible, and I think what'sone of the biggest miracles of
our bodies is neuroplasticity.
And neuroplasticity is all ofour ability to rewire and
repattern. And here's theliberating thing. None of us

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needs to know the content of thestory in order to repattern the
neural pathway. So when I do thenervous system healing work that
I do, I'm doing it on behalf ofmyself. Sure.
I mean, that's wonderful andthat's worth it in and of itself
because we all matter, but alsoI'm actually unlinking the

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stimulus of sunset with fear inmy body. So I'm healing seven
generations back and I'm healingseven generations forward
because for my girls, whateverpattern was in there gets freed

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up so they will be able to livetheir lives with more capacity.
Standby. I'm just really feelingmy granny right now. Shout out

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to the ancestors.
Okay. We have a range ofcapacity or a range of resonance
when we go beyond that range.And our range of capacity or our

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range of resonance is ourability to stay present in our
lives and to stay optimized inour cognitive functioning and
optimized in our biologicalfunctioning, our fitness, our
respiration, our hormone system,our endocrine system,

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reproduction, our digestion, allof it. And life is gonna life.
Right?
Like, there's gonna be stresses.There's gonna be pressure. So
we're not getting out of that.The whole goal, we talked about
this already, but the goal isnot to suddenly feel calm and
relaxed all the time. That ain'tthe goal.
The goal is to feel alive. Weare here to have a full human

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experience, which means the highhighs and the low lows and the
full spectrum of living inbetween. However, when we have a
nervous system that has a verylimited range of capacity or
range of resonance, will veryquickly and easily pop out of

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that narrow band and go into ahyper response or a hyporesponse
where we're either in fight orflight or plop, freeze, or fall.
And those responses, whilecompletely natural and normal,
are not where we're at ourhighest capacity and full

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ability to just, like, be herein life. So learning about your
range of capacity, learning howto expand your range of capacity
is absolutely critical and it isthe magical unlock.
We need to put in the reps dailywith daily nervous system
healing tools, know which onesto call upon when, and learn how

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to change our frequency at willso we are not the victims of our
external reality. We're not thevictims of the moods of the
other people in our lives. Weare not the victims of the news.
We actually are people who canappropriately respond to
internal and external stimulusand have choice, aka have power.

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More on power in a minute.
We can expand our range ofresonance, our range of capacity
through titration, which meanssmall, doable parts over time.
Putting in the reps, right? Notblowing past our limits. So many

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people in personal developmentare like, everything you want is
outside your comfort zone. Youjust have to push.
And honestly, I don't even likethe word push. People talk so
much about I need to push past.No. No. What if instead we could

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learn to read our body signalswell enough with so much
attunement that we could findour edge, stay with our edge,
signal safety at our edge,soften our edge, and find we
have more capacity with nopushing.

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That's what titration is, andthat's what titration does. And
when we do that, we become thethermostat instead of the
thermometer. If you're somebodywho walks into a room and you
suddenly can read everythinggoing on in the room, that is a

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blessing, of course, that levelof empathy and intuition is a
blessing if you're quite porous,but it also is not great if you
don't know how to determinewhat's yours and what somebody
else's. As you build yournervous system health and your

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nervous system resiliency, youactually can become the
thermostat. So the temperaturein the room changes when you
walk in the door and you canchoose to set that temperature
at the level of safety,expansion, joy, full embodied
living.
You know, there are people, weall know these people that just

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being around them feels goodbecause they are thermostats.
And we can be that too overtime. And you can not only
change your entire thermostat,you can change your money
thermostat. We've talked aboutthat. A word on time for people

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who are like, I don't have timeto do daily nervous system
healing practices.
I don't have time to, you know,I don't have time to tend to my
body. I don't have time. I'm toobusy. You don't have time not to
do these things. Ourdysregulated nervous systems are

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so good at creating a falsesense of over importance and
urgency.
For years, I thought I didn'thave time for things like these
practices. And then when Istarted doing them, I started
making a lot more money and notneeding to work nearly as

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intensely as I had before. Thedifference was not a new
strategy. The difference was Ihad expanded my relationship
with time. I had become a timebender through the very same
practices around nervous systemhealing as allow you to become a

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money expander and a moneymagnet.
So if you if you notice yourselfgetting into lack around time,
that also is a sign ofdysregulation. Okay, as I'm
going through these things, sogo back on your, worksheet to

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page 33. On a scale of one to10, when it comes to your
nervous system, where would yousay you are in terms of your
money? So like, number one wouldbe, I'm super dysregulated. I'm
always in fear and contractionaround my money.
A 10 would be, I have tremendousnervous system capacity. I'm

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most of the time, 90% of thetime, I'm feeling resilient, I'm
feeling open, I'm feelingsupple, and just put it down in
the workbook, next to nervoussystem. So one to ten, one to 10
scale. One being needs a lot ofwork, 10 being this is an area
of tremendous strength for me.So next up is money clarity.

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Of course, we can't create anempire or we can't create our
incredible abundance withoutactually looking at our numbers
and creating safety in ournumbers as well. And so there
are some aspects of moneyclarity that I want to highlight
here. One is fleshing out yourNowPoint with additional key

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metrics that help you gauge yourfinancial health. So our
NowPoint in the Relaxed MoneyMap is a wonderful starting
point. It gives you a real broadoverview of a general financial
starting point, but it's not allthe key metrics you would need.
And when it comes to yourfinancial health, getting to

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know your full picture as youincrease your capacity to feel
safe and powerful while doing sois going to be really important,
as well as crafting a spendingplan. And by the way, I just I
hope you can hear in the tone ofmy voice how exciting financial
clarity can be. It will give youso much energy when you finally

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look at your numbers. It reallywill. I know that it's been a
little tricky for some folks inthe workshop and it was tricky
for me for years.
I avoided doing this work foryears because I was too ashamed
to get help. But then once I gothelp, even though I didn't
technically have the money topay for it, I paid for it with,

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you know, on a credit cardbecause I knew that I would
accelerate my results faster ifI got help. And I'm so glad I
did because then I unlocked thissource of energy that I didn't
realize how much bandwidth myavoidance was taking up. I
didn't realize how manyunnecessary financial

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emergencies I was creating bybeing financially disorganized
and financially avoidant. Imean, it was a ginormous hole in
my money leaky bucket.
It was the biggest hole I had,for sure. And then when I
started doing the key metrics,when I started crafting my

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spending plan, and that helpedme feel safe and was aligned
with my values, and when Istarted actually tracking my
progress about every ninety daysso I could see, Oh, wow, I am
making progress. And then Icelebrated along the way, it
changed everything. And I had somuch more bandwidth and energy

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to then put towards reaching myfinancial goals. Whereas before,
I was just, like, leaking it outconstantly, and I felt anxious
and exhausted all the time.
I don't want that for you. Idon't want that for you. That
ain't for you. This is for you.Financial clarity will give you
so much power back.
So where are you with your moneyclarity? Scale of one to 10. One

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is I what even is money? I, youknow, one of like, have no idea
what like, what? 10 is I knowevery number, you know, within a
few dollars and cents here,right, give or take.
I have a a beautiful spendingplan. You know, I have tracking
software. I know what's goingon. So where are you on a scale

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of one to 10 with your moneyclarity? Switching gears now
into money and emotions.
Our emotions are tools, notadversaries, and feeling them is
the solution, not the problem.When I got emotional about my
grandmother just a few minutesago, did you notice how I didn't

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apologize? Now I didn't expectthat. I've told that story a
million times. I don't know whyall of a sudden today, it made
me so emotional.
That's not a problem. There wassomething, some pattern, some

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energy that my body was holdingthat wanted to be released. So I
felt the feeling. And I stayedpresent, and I dabbed my eyes,
and I returned to you. We'vebeen so conditioned to believe
the false idea that our emotionsare a problem.

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Right? How many people weretold, go back upstairs and don't
come back until you have a smileon your face? Or, if you cry,
I'll give you something to cryabout. Yeah. Do you know why?
Because caregivers weren'traised by someone who had the

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capacity to be with their ownemotional discomfort, and it can
really feel like if I allowmyself to feel this feeling,
let's say you have an emotioncome up, some tears come up,
some rage come up, some griefcome up. It can really, it feels
so true. And believe me, I'm anincredibly emotional person. So

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I get it where it feels like ifI fully take the quirk off here
and allow myself to feel this,I'm going to go into a hole and
I'm never going to come outagain. If I start crying, I will
never stop.
Or if I allow my anger toactually come up and out of my

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body, I'm gonna torch thisentire effing world. Right?
Anybody feel that way? Yeah. Itfeels like the emotion would
drown me.
Here's what's actually true.First of all, titration, you
know? So if you don't have a lotof practice feeling your
feelings, you can give yourselffifteen seconds. So maybe you

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need to give yourself fifteenseconds and then use a tool to
reregulate or maybe evendistract yourself. Sometimes
distraction can actually be asign of health.
You know? We can just do theamount that we can do, and then
we can build that muscle to gofurther over time. I will also
share that my experience is thatan emotion takes about ninety

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seconds to feel all the way inand all the way through. When I
give myself over, I mean, nowwould not have been the most
appropriate moment to givemyself over fully to whatever
was coming up about my granny.But later on, the other day when
I was watching the case studies,I went into just a full
emotional release.

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It wasn't, I wouldn't say it wassad or happy. It was just like
emotion. It doesn't even, wedon't even have to label it. How
liberating is that? It's just anenergy.
It's an energy in our body thatwants to move. E motion,
energetic motion. So you canjust let yourself feel the

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feeling. You can go scream intoa pillow in the closet. You can
go cry.
You can put on a grief song. Youcan put on an anger song and you
can just go for it. And probablywithin ninety seconds, the
feeling will change and youdon't need to tell a story about
it and you don't need to evenlabel it as anything other than

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just some energetic movementthat needed to happen. And
what's so cool is every time youdo that, it helps clear your
nervous system. So feeling ourfeelings is a very effective

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nervous system healing tool.
And what's amazing is that forthose who feel exhausted and
burned out a lot of the time,There's some beautiful work by
Emily and Amelia Nagoski, whowrote a book called Burnout. And
in that book, they talk aboutthat we have all of these

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emotional stress loops fromintense experiences that we've
had throughout our lives, not tomention the collective nervous
system imprints and theancestral nervous system
imprints. So we're carryingthose things around in our
energetic and emotional body.And it's like 35,000,000 tabs

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open on our emotional stressbrowser because no one ever told
us that actually when you have afight with your spouse, the best
move isn't to go just like makedinner and stew about it. The
best move is to go scream into apillow in the closet or go for a

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run or do any number of otherthings that will close an
emotional stress loop to bringyou back that energy that's
wasted by keeping that amount ofbandwidth open in your emotional
browser.
And so feeling our feelings isone of the most effective tools
for metabolizing stress to buildour capacity to be here as fully

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present, fully functional, fullyoptimized beacons of life force.
So we also can do somethingcalled parts work. And I've done
some training in internal familysystems, otherwise known as
parts work. Some of you might befamiliar with this work. And my

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theory is that parts work isvery related to our nervous
system neural programming, Andthat the different parts of us,
whether they're the protectorparts or the, and by the way, in
parts work, the idea is that wehave different parts of us.

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So there's the part of me that'stalking right here and I'm
really present, I'm not thinkingabout other things. And then
after I get off of thisworkshop, there may be a younger
part or a protector part or someother kind of part that it
starts to need some attention.And my theory is that those

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parts are actuallyinterconnected to the neural
pathways that got connected atthose particular moments in our
life when we didn't have thesupport or the tools or the
resources or the space to fullyprocess an emotional experience
at that time. So it gets likestuck, like a little tangle in a

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necklace, if our nervous systemwere a whole bunch of chained
necklaces all twirled together,right? So when we do parts work
and we meet with the part ofourselves that needs that
attention, and it's often ayounger part, but it can have
all sorts of right?
So there's this one part of methat comes up sometimes in our
marriage, for example, calledthe tallyer. When I'm stressed

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out, when my stress and threatbucket gets overloaded, when
I've not had enough space ortime, or I just haven't been
doing my my emotional metabolismpractices and my stress
metabolism practices, sometimesI find myself in a default
neural patterning that is mytally or part that can get into

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like, well, you put the kids tobed, but I did the tit for tat.
It's like, bleh, right? Thatpart of me just needs a little
love and attention andcompassion. It's not bad or
wrong.
It's just a part. And when Ibring my love and attention to
that part, it can unchink. Itthat little tangle in my

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necklace can and then there'smore flow. Then I can go back to
being the conduit of life forcethat I was meant to be, that you
were meant to be. And so partswork can be an incredibly
helpful tool around money andyour emotions.
So now going into emotions onpage 33 of your workbook, where

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are you, would you say, withmoney and your emotional
intelligence? Is it a one? Thisarea needs a lot of work. Is it
a 10? Obviously, it's verylikely something in between for
you.
So go ahead and put the numberthat is appropriate next to
money and emotions for you. Nextup is your money story. Did

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anybody, here read my firstbook, Money, A Love Story?
Anyone? Maybe we have some yeah.
Okay. So we have a few peoplewho read who read that. And,
your money story will run yourlife unless you decide to
rewrite it and update it. Andwe've been talking about how we
can rewrite our money storythrough nervous system healing,

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because by default, we arerunning our default nervous
system wiring, which createsdefault behaviors, which creates
a default story that you are notthe narrator of. You're just
like at the whims of your oldprogramming, much of which you
never chose, you just inherited.

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So when we want to change ourbeliefs, we need to learn how to
dump our stress and threatbucket and build the capacity
for the energetically expensiveactivity of letting beliefs go
and embracing new beliefs. Soremember we talked about that
your nervous system is like yourbody's electrical system. And if

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I bought an old home and, youknow, in the town I grew up in,
there are a lot of homes all theway back from the sixteen
hundreds, but a lot of them arefrom the seventeen hundreds, the
eighteen hundreds. If you buy ahistorical home and you wanna
update the electric, it'sexpensive. Right?
Because you gotta get anelectrician in there, and then
you gotta take down the drywall,and they have to do the

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rewiring, and then the new newnew wires, and then the new
coating and redo the wiring andredo the drywall, redo the
wallpaper, all that stuff. It'slike expensive. In our bodies,
it's the same way. And insteadof costing money, it costs
calories, literally energy. Andif we are in survival mode,

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meaning our stress and threatbucket is overloaded, our
nervous system, our survivalwiring will not allow us to
expend the calories to embrace anew belief.
In fact, when someone suggests anew belief or a new paradigm
that's in opposition to ourneural patterning, we may

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experience that as a threat. AndI know there are people during
this training who have alreadyexperienced things that I've
said as a threat. And I knowthere are people for whom that's
resulted in you feeling pissedoff and wanting to attack me or
our team. That is not becausewe're here to harm you. That's

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because nobody is out here, likevery few of us are out here
teaching how to dump theemotional stress and threat
bucket to free up the caloriesto be open to a new idea.
Yeah. That's all it is. So youcan be mad at me all day long,

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but I just want you to know I'mnot the problem. I'm not the
problem. Your capacity forconsidering something new is the
problem, but I've given youplenty of solutions.
So actually now there's not aproblem, right? When we practice
increasing our nervous systemcapacity daily with drills and
tools like I've been leading youthrough, we can engage in belief

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updating, which is the B part.And then we have the internal
infrastructure to supportlearning new practices, learning
new strategies, learning newskills, which is the do part,
which gives us a new result,which is the have part. So
Bridget Simmons is an amazingmember of our community, And she
had a really hard financialyear, the year that she joined

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us in Relax Money. However, thiswas very recently.
This was like about a week ortwo again, a week or two ago. As
of 09:00 that morning, she hadjust received a $30,000 sale.
All at once, $30 deposited. Andit came in a really easy way.

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And so what had started as astruggle to make the monthly
payments for the programactually transformed into a
really confident investment fromsomeone else at twice her
previous rate from a pastclient.
So this past client hadpreviously paid half as much,
but now was happily, easefullyinvesting twice as much. And

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that was the power for her ofthis nervous system identity
work because she was also ableto receive it in a really normal
moment in her life with ease ofjust like, yeah. It's a Tuesday,
and someone's depositing $30into my bank account, and it was
freaking easy. No hurrah. No bigta da.

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I mean, yes, it can feel likethat, but it doesn't have to be
like a whole thing. And that'swhat I love about this kind of
rewiring work. So for your moneystory, how's it going with your
money story? What's yourrelationship with your money
story? And something else cameup that I wanna address here as
you're doing your rating on ascale of one to 10 with your

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money story.
One is it needs a lot of work.10 is I've I've really rewritten
my money story, and I'm freakingproud of myself, which I love.
Two things I wanna say aboutthis. One is that our old
identity and this is gonna beconnected to what I'm saying
next about money and beliefs.Our old money identity is like a

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woobie.
And what I mean by a woobie islike your little baby blanket.
So our daughter our oldestdaughter has this little, like,
what do you call them? With thebabies, the little I don't know.
I can't remember. Anyway, well,let's just call it a security
blanket for the lack of a betterword.
But she has this little whoobie,and she really likes to have it

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with her. And we can get hookedon our past stories and our past
identities like a littlesecurity blanket, like a little
whoobie. And we can really holdtight to them as though our past

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and our past identity markers orlabels are our sense of safety.
And that can be true for awhile, but eventually,
oftentimes, those become aprison. And there's a point at
which they are no longer keepingus safe, they are keeping us
stuck.

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It will require a leap of faith.It will require an ego death. It
will feel uncomfortable to letgo of the old identity. And if
you join me in Relaxed Money, Iwill hold your hand, and
sometimes I'll remind you, heythere. I'm going to give you

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permission to just let thatstory go.
Because there comes a point inour development when we've built
enough nervous system capacity,we've done enough rewiring where
an entirely new possibility isnow present, where we can create
the future from the futuredesire as opposed to Xeroxing

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the our current reality from thepast and from what we've known
before. And that does requireletting go of the trapeze of,
like, what would happen if Ididn't identify as that anymore?
Who would I be then? And thatgets really cool, and that gets

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really exciting. Okay.
Now your money and your beliefs.So humans are money are are
money making machines. We aremoney making machines, and we
are also meaning makingmachines. Our minds love to make
meaning out of everything. Andso we will make meaning out of

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all of it.
But one of the ways we holdourselves back is by doubling
down on the gripping, on theconstriction, and on our
secrets. I did a podcast episodeabout a year ago about the cost

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of our financial secrets. Hidingcredit card debt from our
spouse, hiding purchases,putting purchases on multiple
credit cards, not telling peopleabout how much we make, how much
we owe. And I'm not saying youowe your financial details
details to the general public,but oftentimes, we're keeping

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our secrets from ourselvesbecause we've made our numbers
mean something. Our numbersdon't have to mean anything at
all.
Math is neutral. Right? Like,when I do long division, oh my
gosh, I can't do long division,but let's pretend I could do

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long division. The answerdoesn't mean anything. Right?
It's a number. But we can,instead of attaching meaning to
our financial past, instead ofattaching meaning to a number,
we can actually just liberateourselves and forgive our
financial past, forgiveourselves for the financial

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past, forgive the other peoplewho contributed, whether it's an
ex husband, our father, ourstepmother, what you know, the
con artists that we married whotook our money. Like, there's
the stories are vast. Andforgiveness is a verb. My
therapist and coach, Ann Davin,told me this one time during a

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session.
Forgiveness is a verb, meaningwe can be in an act of
devotional forgiveness allthroughout our day, all
throughout our day. And when wehold ourselves or someone else
to a lack of forgiveness, right,when we hold a grudge, I'm sure

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you've heard this before, butit's a it's a good one. It's
poignant. When we are holding agrudge, it's like taking poison
and expecting someone else todie. So who in your financial
past do you need to forgive?
Most especially, it's probablyyourself. Money and beliefs. Go

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back to page 33. Scale of one to10. Where do you fall?
Great. Now we're gonna move intopillar two. So pillar two starts
in your workbook on page 34.We're moving on to page 34. For
anybody who wants a littlestretch break, especially we

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just had a conversation aboutforgiveness, you may want to
just rotate your shoulders, openyour heart.
Maybe give your heart a littlespace on the back too. Cool.
Moving into pillar two. So wedid pillar one, which was

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foundations. Now we're in pillartwo, which is aligning with
abundance.
And the first aspect of pillartwo, aligning with abundance, is
manifesting. I love readingabout manifesting. I've been a
student of manifesting since Iwas 14 years old, and my mom was

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mailed in the mail cassettetapes from my granny, Edna
Northrop. Edna is so in thehouse today. My granny, it was
like 19 let's see, it would havebeen 1994 and 1994 no, that's
not true.
Anyway, whatever. It doesn'tmatter. Probably 1996. And my

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granny had discovered thisincredible entity being
channeled by this woman namedEsther Hicks. And this entity
was named Abraham.
And granny somehow, who knows,she's just out and about, she
discovered Abraham Hicks in1996. And she started mailing my
mom cassette tapes that we wouldlisten to in my mom's Mazda

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minivan. And I remember my momtelling me the power of holding
pure positive intent. She said,if you can hold a thought for
seventeen seconds of purepositive intent, you will
activate the universe and beginto make that thing so. Now, I

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was 14, so I didn't knowanything about anything.
And I was just like, cool. So Istarted practicing at that age.
And what I didn't understand,though, because it wasn't being
described this way to me, and Idon't think most people
understood, is that it wasn'tabout holding the thought. So I
would try to, like, like, holdthe thought, you know, like with

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my mind and like steam comingout of my ears. Actually, now,
with decades of practice andlearning, I've understood that
it's not about holding thethought.
It's about holding thefrequency. It's not a game of

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the mind. It's a game of, orI'll say it's not just a game of
the mind, it's a game of theentire body, which includes the
mind, but it also includes ourheart and it also includes the
rest of us. And so I startedmanifesting in a very different
way. And what I've come tounderstand is that we don't

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attract what we want.
We attract what our nervoussystem feels is safe for us. And
often what our nervous systemfeels is safe for us is at odds
with what we want. I was talkingto my friend Patrice Washington
yesterday for an event that shewas having. Give me a shout out

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if you were there. And she said,she asked me the question, what
about when our the money we'veprayed for doesn't feel safe in
our nervous system?
And if you haven't noticed,that's literally the point of
this entire training. It wassuch a good question. And so

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we've been describing this, butwhen you learn manifesting from
someone who doesn't get it aboutneeding our body to feel safe in
order to call in what we wantand who tells you it's all about
the mind and the power of themind, they're missing 80% of our

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potential. We know that 80% ofthe communication between the
brain and body runs from thebody to the brain and only 20%
runs from the brain to the body.So I'm going to keep reading all
the manifesting books andlistening to all the things, but
I got to tell you, I basicallyhave never heard any of the

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experts out there talking abouthow important our body is in the
manifesting process, and no onetold me this.
I figured it out myself. Ournervous system is a tuning fork.
Just like if you walk into aguitar shop and if it's silent

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in there, maybe you're thereafter hours. So you walk into
the guitar shop, If you strumthe c string on a guitar, the
rest of the c strings start tovibrate. We live in a
vibrational universe.

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Our bodies are made of 99.9%space. And the fact that it
appears that we are solid matterjust has to do with the rate at
which the particles that make usup are vibrating. And when I
talk about frequency, that's notwoo. Frequency is the truest

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thing there is. Everything has afrequency.
There's a frequency of my voiceright now. There's the frequency
of your heartbeat. There's thefrequency of the light running

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through your nervous systemright now in electrical
currents. It all has afrequency. And so when we change
our internal frequency, whichrequires feeling safe first.
What's really cool is all and weare starting to strum our inner

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guitar on the middle c. I don'tthink a guitar has a middle c, I
think it's just a c. But anyway,like, let's say there was a big
piano, maybe there's a gorgeousSteinway in this music shop and
you hit the middle c real loud,all the guitar c's will start to
So so when you start to hit thatin your body and you practice,

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everything that's a match forthat will start showing up just
like it did for Marie Swansonwith Empress Freya Tallulah,
Empress Tallulah Freya. Shestarted vibrating in the
frequency of Empress TallulahFreya, and she got booked at
South by Southwest. And she raninto somebody with a big podcast

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in the airport who asked her tospeak.
And then she got booked at thisbig corporation in Miami and,
but it ain't got it ain't got itain't got it on. Right. That's
what happens. That is whatmanifesting is. It's not like
closing our eyes and steamcoming out of our ears, trying
to hold on to a thought forseventeen seconds.
It's a feeling. And we know thefrequency we're operating at

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based on how we feel. But manypeople in the manifesting space,
in the abundant space will say,well, you just need to change
your frequency. So just changeyour frequency. And it's like,
I'm sorry.
If my body is in a state ofpanic and I feel fundamentally
unsafe and like I'm gonna die, Ican't just, like, change my

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frequency. No. We have to signalsafety to our nervous system,
which makes more channelsavailable. So that's why we do
these nervous system drills.Okay.
On a scale of one to 10, what'syour relationship with
manifesting right now? Scale ofone to 10, put it down on page

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34 of your workbook. We're goingto get into the next one, money
makeover. So my grandfather, hewas married to Edna. His name
was Wilbur.
And GW Northrop said, how we doit is what we get. So you'll
hear people in the coachingspace say the come from matters.

(01:20:10):
If you've been around twoentrepreneurs who were given the
same strategy for sales, Maybethey were given the same script
for sales calls, and they weregiven the same framework for
sales calls. One of them isoperating in fear and lack and

(01:20:34):
desperation, and their nervoussystem is really set for the
thermostat of lack and I'mscared around money. And the
other one has been in relaxedmoney, doing the money and good
with money, doing the work andgood with money, and they've
been updating their moneythermostat, and they show up for
that call.

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You better believe that the onewho shows up in constriction and
fear and lack and I'm desperateand you gotta buy this is gonna
have a really differentconversion rate than the one who
shows up and is like, Hey, like,here I am, here's how you're
going to feel when we do thisthing. This is what's going to

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happen. What do you think? Youknow, I mean, maybe they should
be, I don't even know who thatcharacter is. I don't know who
talks that way.
But there's a difference in howwe do things. So two people can
be doing the exact same thing,but get wildly different
results. That's why we don'tstart with tactics in my

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programs. We never start withtactics because how we do it is
what we get. And if we don'tchange the internal settings
first, you're not going to getthe results no matter how well
you follow the strategy.
Or if you do get the results,they will not last because you
haven't built the energeticcapacity to hold them. Alignment

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really matters when it comes tohow we do things. I'm going to
make a little drawing here.Okay. Can you still all see me?
I think so. It's taken me threedays, but I am a tech whiz.
Okay. So my kids have theseblocks. You might have had them

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as a child.
Maybe your kids have them now.But they have a little hole in
the top, and you put a marblein. Do you know what I'm talking
about, those blocks? Okay. Soyou line a bunch of them up, and
there's a hole in the top thatgoes all the way through.

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And if you line them up, amarble comes a marble comes
through. If you don't know whatI'm talking about, don't worry
about it. So I'm gonna draw it,and that'll make it clear. So if
I have a bunch of these blocksthat have a hole right through
the middle of it, and I stackthem up, and they're misaligned,

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the marble, even if you drop amarble in here, it's basically
gonna get stuck because thehole's not lined up. Versus if
you line all your blocks up hereand you drop the marble in, all
the holes are lined up, it comesout the bottom.

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Glad you think I'm a good shark.So that's what alignment is.
Many times, we can be showing upand doing the right things.
We're doing the Instagram reels.We're building our email list.
We're, using the right words tonegotiate a higher salary,

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whatever it is. But if behindthe scenes, we have misalignment
in the way we are actuallyfeeling about money, or maybe we
are having financial secrets,Maybe we're out here as a health
coach telling people to movetheir bodies and eat whole

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foods. But behind the scenes,we're actually, know what,
that's like a very maybe that'snot a great example. I'm going
to use myself as an example.It's better.
Back in the day, in my earlytwenties, when I was making good
money, I was not caring for itbehind the scenes. So I had no

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problem bringing it in, but thenI wasn't actually aligned
because I didn't have thesystems to care for it, and I
was being avoidant. I wasn'tbeing financially a grown up,
which it turns out, I thinkbeing a financial grown up is
actually really fun. I used tobe avoidant because I thought it
meant being boring and. Butactually being a financial

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grownup is incredibly powerfuland actually quite sexy.
And so I had all this financial,I had all this misalignment. It
makes all kinds of sense to methat once I built the financial
systems, once I got myselfnervous system healthy enough
and got the support to coregulate with someone safe and

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look at my numbers and starttracking things and build a
savings plan, it makes all kindsof sense to me that then my
income tripled. Because now Ihad alignment and the come from
matters. My grandpa, mygranddad, I never met him, but
he he died before I was born.But I I quote him all the time.

(01:25:58):
How you do it is what you get.Alignment matters. So are you
experiencing any misalignment inyour financial life right now?
Is there something going on infront of the scenes that's not a
match for what's going on behindthe scenes? And if that's the
case, it's okay, but this isjust your moment to note it and

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then do something to take careof it.
So this is your money integritycheck. Alignment is the same
thing as integrity. Am I inintegrity? This does not mean
perfection. Right?
Do I still occasionally havefinancial stress? Yeah. I do.

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And what do I do when I havefinancial stress? I use the very
same tools that I teach to ourstudents in Relax Money to
rebuild my capacity, dump mystress and threat bucket bucket,
and come back to the truth ofwho I am.
That's integrity. Integritydoesn't mean you don't ever fall
off the the wagon. Integritymeans that when you do fall off

(01:27:08):
the wagon, you actually behindthe scenes are walking the walk.
And if you're having troublemaking money or if you're having
trouble keeping money or ifyou're having trouble feeling
safe with money, there may be anintegrity issue. I had the,
unusual experience of growing upbehind the scenes in the

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personal development world.
So I many of the people thatyou've been listening to for
decades would like, stay at myhouse or, you know, we're just
around. I was around these folkswho were giantly famous
luminaries in the personaldevelopment industry, the
spiritual world, and that in thehealth and wellness world. And
it was, educational for me towatch the ways in which we like

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to pedestalize people, butactually, behind the scenes,
there's not always a completematch with what things look
like. But when there is acomplete match or, you know, a
mostly match, right, whensomeone is actually embodying
the work, oh, it's delicious tobe around. It really is.

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And those are the only kind ofteachers that I'm interested in.
And when you are fully a matchin front of the scenes and
behind the scenes, I'm notsaying necessarily as a personal
development teacher, you don'tyou don't have to be that. But
I'm just saying, like, if youare in alignment, people will
feel it. They'll feel thatresonance. They'll feel that

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marble drop, and they'll they'llwanna work with you.
They'll wanna give you money.That's why for somebody like
Erica, you know, there was adirect relationship to her
showing up with her money in anew way, healing her financial
trauma, and then attractingthese opportunities and

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scholarships to be able to showup in a bigger way financially
and then increase her family'snet worth by 41% and be able to
have their assets start to grow.That's because she did the work
behind the scenes to get intototal alignment. That's how it

(01:29:23):
works. It's really, really cool.
So where are you in terms ofyour money makeover? I call that
a money makeover because it'slike having everything match in
front of the scenes, behind thescenes, the way we be, do, and
have. Is it a match? Are weoperating in abundance on all
those potential levels? So rateyourself on a scale of one to 10

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in terms of your alignment andyour money integrity, which is
the money makeover section.
Okay, now we're going to go intomoney, sex, and power, which is
absolutely one of my favoritethings to talk about. I was
going to come check out thechat, but I'm going to keep
moving on here so that we don'tget distracted. So the second
chakra is our power center. It'swhere babies come from. It's

(01:30:12):
where many orgasms come from,although you can absolutely have
a full body orgasm.
It is our power center. It iswhere it is the energy center in
our body that's related to theway we operate in terms of

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money, sex, and power. It's thespot that has the greatest
potential for opening andactivation. However, in our
culture, sexual energy and moneyhave also been used as weapons.

(01:31:01):
So there can be a lot ofwounding, a lot of armoring, a
lot of protective outputs inthis area.
And I don't tread here lightly.You know, the percentages of
sexual abuse in our culture forwomen, but also for men are

(01:31:23):
staggering. And so if there's aprotective output around your
second chakra because of ahistory of abuse around money or
sex or any kind of patterning,even if it wouldn't, if you
wouldn't label it as abuse.There is an invitation for an

(01:31:43):
opening here and power just likemoney is neutral. Power is the
ability to do something or actin a particular way.
And we've seen, ways of usingpower in the world that aren't
so beautiful. And yet, more andmore, we're seeing ways of

(01:32:10):
operating and being in power inways that are really beautiful
and equitable, that aregenerative, and that give more
people access to power. So thispart of our lives, this part of
our our our bodies, this part ofour energy field is so fertile,

(01:32:35):
literally and figuratively, andwe can reclaim it. And so when
we get into a beautifulrelationship with our money and
with our power and we reclaimthe power that's available in
relationship to our sexuality,in relationship to money, and in
relationship to power, it is aprofound act of reclamation,

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especially if you are part of agroup that historically has been
marginalized. Audra Lorde hasabsolute beautiful work.
Her essay, the uses of theerotic as power is one of the
most powerful. I can come upwith a better word, but, really,
it is one of the most powerfulpieces of writing you could ever

(01:33:23):
read around pleasure and powerand the erotic, Life force
energy. There's so much here. Wecould do a three day workshop
just on this, but I hope that atleast you're feeling the
aliveness and the potentialhere. What we're talking about

(01:33:45):
is life force, source energy,creativity, adding value, and
abundance.
It's all the same thing. It'sthat which makes us come alive.
I talked about the book, 10x isEasier than 2x, and we can have
this illusion that, money islimited, right? Like, money is a

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limited, in limited supply, Andif I have more, I'm
automatically taking fromsomeone else. That's not
actually how the economy works.
And we talked plenty about thatin day one. So if you're still
feeling like, I don't believeyou, that's okay. Use a nervous
system tool, build up somecapacity, and go back and listen

(01:34:31):
to the data at the beginning ofday one. Cool example about how
money is created, not taken. Howvalue is created, not taken.
So if you were someone who knewhow to fix up a vintage car,

(01:34:52):
maybe you got an old beat upvintage car that the engine was
broken, and it didn't workanymore, and the paint was all
banged up, and it needed, youknow, a few bells and whistles,
new new wheels, and stuff likethat. And you put in the time
and energy to do that becauseyou know how and you have the
expertise and you have abackground in understanding how

(01:35:13):
car mechanics work and which Iobviously don't because I don't
even know how to talk about thisexample, but let's pretend you
did. And now you have thisgorgeous vintage robin egg blue
car and you go to sell it. Thevalue you've created, the money

(01:35:35):
that you're given from this car,for this car, was absolutely
created from your ingenuity,from your expertise, from your
education, from your skills. Youweren't taking that money from
someone else.
You created value wherepreviously there was none, and
now there's more. That's how weall are. We take the unseen, the

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energy, the idea, the creativethe creative solution that no
one had ever thought of before,the book idea that no one had
ever written before, And then webring it through our mind and
our body as we're fixing theengine or typing at our
computer. And we turn nothinginto something, and then that

(01:36:23):
helps someone else live agreater life in some way or
solves a problem that they have.And then we've instantly created
more value because we'retranslating life force energy,
creativity, and source intosomething tangible here on
planet Earth in the three dhuman realm that will make a
tangible difference in somebodyelse's life that they value.

(01:36:45):
That's how this works. That'swhat we're talking about. This
is alchemy. So rate yourself nowon a scale of one to 10 in terms
of your relationship with yoursecond chakra, money, sex, and
power. Oh, I almost had a sip ofcoffee.
Think we can all agree I don'tneed any more coffee. I'm gonna
have water. You know, we'regonna hear from Wendy later, so

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I'm gonna pause on that. Okay.We're in pillar three now.
We've done pillar one, which wasfoundations. Pillar two,
aligning with abundance, whichwas more of the energetics. And
now pillar three is moretactical, more tangible. So the
first aspect of pillar three issomething I'm going to share

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with you called your money magicpotion. Filling this out and
handing it in or submitting itis going to be your homework for
day three.
So listen up. I believe team didwe make a did we ended up making
a printable, like a fillable PDFfor for this if they go to

(01:37:55):
katenorthof.com/homework? Justgonna check-in with the team on
that. So the money magic potionis the five ingredients of mask
yes, it's printable but notfillable. Great.
So if you go tokatenorthop.com/homework, you
have a printable PDF of this.This is not in the workbook, but

(01:38:17):
we did put a printable PDF foryou. And you can just don't have
to use that PDF to submit yourhomework. We'll talk about it
later, but, you could just writeit down on a piece of paper and
submit the screenshot. So theseare the five ingredients of
masterful money stewardship soyou can grow what you have and
attract even more.

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Number one is a vision for whatmore money means in your life
that moves you on a heart level.We already did this yesterday.
So number one is a review, whichis what does more money mean in
my life that moves me on a heartlevel? Maybe you have a

(01:39:00):
particular cause that reallymoves you. You know, Scott
Harrison has an incrediblecharity called Charity Water,
where his story about how hecreated this and his ability to,
this organization's ability tochange the world, especially the
lives of women and girls becauseof the way access to clean water

(01:39:22):
changes their lives and theiraccess to education, it moves me
on a deep level.
So for mine, I could say thatthe vision for what more money
means in my life that moves meon a heart level might be that I
could not only give my daughtersaccess to the most beautiful

(01:39:43):
education that I could imagine,but also number two is a vision
for what more money for youmeans in terms of positive
impact for the collective. Like,who does it flow through you to
that also moves you on a heartlevel? So number one is how's
the money going to impact mespecifically in a way that moves

(01:40:05):
me emotionally? And then numbertwo is, and then once my
ecosystem has been replenished,where's that money then that's
going to inevitably grow? Howwill that financial growth, how
will me achieving my visionfinancially impact others in a

(01:40:27):
positive way?
Maybe you can buy your mom ahouse. Maybe you can contribute
to causes that really speak toyou. Maybe you can offer
scholarships. There's so manypossibilities here, and and feel
free to go ahead and, put yourpossibilities in the chat.
Number three is an income streamor several for the money to flow

(01:40:54):
into your at least one of whichthat is leveraged, aka not
trading hours for dollars.
So it just so happens to be thatI was watching Takesha's
Instagram stories yesterday, andTakesha is the queen of multiple
streams of income, and I lovethat. I'm a huge believer in
multiple streams of income. Ihave had multiple streams of

(01:41:16):
income since my teen years,believe it or not. And one of
the ways that I make money andthat Takesha was mentioning is
through a direct sellingbusiness or network marketing.
So that can be an example of astream of income that is not

(01:41:37):
trading hours for dollars.
Maybe you're investing in realestate, and that's not trading
hours for dollars. Maybe you'vewritten a book, and it's sold
all the time, or you've you've,composed a piece of music, and
it's sold all the time, and soyou're earning royalties from
that. So those are all examplesof leveraged income. So you're

(01:41:59):
not going to come out of thegate with multiple streams of
income. You know, one is whereyou want to start, but over
time, you wanna be thinkingabout multiples.
Number four is having a strong,loving container for your money
with a clear system forstewarding it, aka caring for
it. So often we say, yeah. Ofcourse, I want more money. Of

(01:42:23):
course, I want more money. Andyet there's no clear system for
it to be well taken care of.
You know, maybe your businessaccount is all glommed in with
your personal account andthere's no clear division
between your personal life andyour business finances. Maybe,
you know, you actually areliterally balling up wads of

(01:42:44):
cash and sticking them inpockets and you lose track of
them. There's all sorts of funnythings that people do with money
that that aren't really aloving, clear container. And I
like to make the analogy. If youwanted your children to feel
safe and cared for, you wouldn'tjust, like, let them run all
over the planet if they wereyoung children without any

(01:43:08):
guidance or without anyboundaries.
It's the same with our money.Just like children feel safe
with consistency and with goodboundaries, our money feels safe
with consistency and with goodboundaries. So having a clean,
clear, loving container for yourmoney, meaning I know what

(01:43:30):
accounts I have. I know how muchI transfer here, there, and
everywhere. I have a plan forit.
It makes you more magnetic tomoney because the money is like,
oh, that that person thatperson, I'm gonna be safe over
there. And then number five is away or ways to get your money
working for you instead of onlyworking for your money. So if

(01:43:53):
you have a job and there's afour zero one k at that job, you
wanna max out your contributionso that some so that you know,
that's basically free money ifyour employer has a match of any
kind. And then that money goesinto the market, and it is
growing on your behalf at willwith the market. Real estate

(01:44:15):
investments, there's all sortsof different asset classes that
you can invest in to make yourget your money growing.
And you do not the biggest mythis that you already have to have
tons of money to be an investor.That is a myth. You can start
with $5 a month. It's powerful.Okay.
So with your oh, that wasn'tokay. Great. That was just your

(01:44:44):
money magic potion. Now we'regetting into what's on page 34.
Your enough number.
Okay. So your enough number isconnected to the concept of
sufficiency. If anybody here hasnot read the book, The Soul of
Money by Lynn Twist, I 10 out of10 recommend it. Sufficiency is
the concept of the real feelingthat it's enough. We are so

(01:45:12):
programmed in this bizarre wayby our hyper commercialized
culture and our inability toeven celebrate what already is
and our dopamine wiring that hasus just being the hungry ghost
craving more to constantly feellike, I just need more.
I just need more. I just needmore. And this is rampant. It

(01:45:34):
can be rampant among highearners. I'm not saying that
becoming a high earner makes youthis way, but I think it's
symptomatic of our greaterculture, which is like, we don't
know how to just be with whatis.
Why? Because our nervous systemsare so jacked up. How many

(01:45:55):
people grew up in an environmentwhere your parents or your
caregivers talked about like,wow, isn't it so great that we
have enough? You know, like wasanybody in an environment with a
caregiver who had an incrediblysettled nervous system connected
to sufficiency? Cool.

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One person says my dad. I lovethat for you. So some people
did, but it's it's not themajority. And so connecting to
that sense of sufficiency is sopowerful. How do we find our
enough number?
Well, we connect in with ourvalues. What really matters to
us? Money wants to be used inalignment with our values. When

(01:46:40):
we're spending a bunch of moneyon shit that doesn't matter to
us because we're so caught up inkeeping up with the Joneses and
false status and trying tocreate belonging through all the
bullshit of of buying things orgoing to the right school or
living in the right neighborhoodor blah blah blah. Like, it's
all a house of cards built onsand.
However, when we get super clearon what matters to us and then

(01:47:05):
we build our financial lifearound that, it adds so much
stability and fertilizer, andthat sense of sufficiency and
satisfaction pretty much comesautomatically. And then we can
ask ourselves how much actuallyis enough. It turns out for many
people a long time ago, theypassed the enough number, but

(01:47:26):
their nervous system thermostatis set to running And it's set
to not being enough yet,personally feeling a lack of
being enough and then actuallyfeeling like there's still not
enough. There's still notenough. There's still not
enough.
And so if you can actually dothe math, and I have an equation
for this to figure out whatactually is enough for me, for

(01:47:49):
my dreams, then you can build inthis sense of sufficiency that
actually makes abundance moreimmediately available. And one
of the aspects of this iscreating abundance agreements.
We do have a specific processfor this inside my program,
Relaxed Money, whereby youactually are building a custom

(01:48:13):
set of abundance agreements tothen guide your life. Because
when you make decisionsaccording to your actual values
and your agreements to yourself,it becomes really easy to feel
abundant. And then when youalready are feeling abundant,

(01:48:33):
right, frequency tuning fork,music store, and you're hitting
that middle c, all the middle Cscome out of nowhere.
Everything that's a match forthat level of abundance that's
easier to find because you'reoperating according to your
abundance agreements shows upout of the woodwork. So where
are you with your enough number?Do you know what it is? Are you

(01:48:56):
living according to it? Are youbuilding toward it?
Rate that on a scale of one to10, and then we're gonna get
into cash flow management. Socash flow management is fun. Are
you open to that being true?Cash flow management is fun. I
used to avoid it, avoid it,avoid avoid it, years, years,

(01:49:19):
years, years, years.
And And then when Mike and I gottogether, we committed to doing
our money dates, and then wewould skip them, and we would go
to the movies instead, and wewere really avoided about it
together. And then finally, wegot devotional about it and
started doing regular moneydates, and now I love them. I

(01:49:39):
freaking love our money dates.It's actually one of my favorite
things that we do a couple timesa month, weekly a couple times a
month. Your clear financialsystems will be attractive to
abundance.
So the question is, whataccounts do I need? How do I
divvy it up? What's the cadenceof my financial check ins? How

(01:50:00):
am I going to check? When am Igoing to check?
In what energy am I going tocheck? Because being in an
energy of fear and lack andchecking from that place, like
being hypervigilant about it, isalso not the path. So it's not
about avoidance and it's notabout hypervigilance. It's about
some beautiful resonancesomewhere between those two. And

(01:50:23):
are you doing money dates?
Those are some questions that Iwould recommend asking yourself.
What are you modeling for yourkids around money, and what are
you teaching them explicitly?And then what are you teaching
them implicitly implicitlybecause they're hearing you or
they're watching you or they'refeeling you. I think all of us

(01:50:46):
parents know that, it reallydoesn't matter what you tell
your children. It matters whatyou model.
It matters what you're doing,saying, and feeling in the
moments when you think they'renot watching. This is your
legacy. Is it something youwanna pass along? They're

(01:51:07):
inheriting more than just money.Right?
Some kids won't inherit money,but we all inherit something.
Now managing money with apartner can really bring up some
stuff. Unfortunately, moneyfights and money tension is the

(01:51:27):
is the number one cause ofdivorce. It was in my family. My
parents were just on majorlydifferent pages when it comes to
money, they still are, which hasgiven me a wonderful opportunity
to make a clear decision abouthow I want to be.
But I see how it's so brutal formany people managing money with

(01:51:49):
a partner. And it doesn't haveto be that way. We have story
after story inside RelaxedMoney, and I'm gonna tell you
one in a little bit, aboutactually creating a beautiful,
even pleasurable relationshipwith your partner around money
where you're on the same teamand you're actually excited to

(01:52:09):
do this together. Also operatingwith financial stewardship as
self care. So when I was in abunch of credit card debt, all
of the professionals that I wasreferring to and I was listening
to their stuff, they just allmade me feel like, oh, so bad
about myself and shame and guiltand ugh.

(01:52:30):
And instead, I thought, what ifinstead of treating my financial
life as drudgery or somethingthat I just have to do to be
responsible? What if I treatedit like self care? What if I put
it in the same category as Iwould put a pedicure or a warm
cup of tea or a meditationpractice? And when I reframed it

(01:52:55):
that way, I changed how I wasshowing up and the results
changed. I ended up feeling likeit was really fun.
And so that's what I invite youto consider. So Sadhya is one of
our Relax Money students, andnot only did her business nearly
double compared to the previousyears, which is really cool, the

(01:53:19):
biggest thing was that herhusband and her stopped fighting
about money. She used to noteven be able to talk about it
with him because he was intotal, avoidance, but now they
are together on team abundanceand her husband supports her
business, which used to reallybe a source of tension in their
marriage. So she said that RelaxMoney didn't just save my

(01:53:42):
business, it saved my marriage.And I will tell you, I have a
hundred stories where this camefrom.
And as a child of divorce, Ican't even tell you how powerful
it is to be able to pass alongthe tools and the support that

(01:54:03):
my parents didn't have to get onthe same page, to heal together
around this topic so that newfinancial legacies can be
created. Okay. So where are youin terms of your cash flow
management? Scale of one to 10.Where would you where would you
say you would fall?

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Now we're going to get intomaking more money. People love
talking about making more money,so this is a sexy one. Who here
does not want to make moremoney? Anyone? Anyone not wanna
make more money?
Okay. I see nobody. So perfect.Abundant empress sovereigns make
more money by adding more value,not by working more hours. We've

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talked about that.
So how does one leverage theirtime and energy to get paid more
than once on the work they do?How do we start seeing and
tapping into money everywhere?I'm asking these questions. I'm

(01:55:10):
not gonna answer them all today.But I'm asking these questions
so that we can activate yoursubconscious and you can start
programming yourself to look forthe answers.
You'll be amazed how all of asudden an opportunity is going
to present itself to you. Andyou're going to be like, wait a

(01:55:31):
second. That lady was talkingabout seeing and tapping into
money everywhere, and now I'mhaving all these opportunities
come out of nowhere. That's howit happens when we ask this kind
of powerful question. So thereare two sides of what's called
the cash flow quadrant.

(01:55:53):
Robert Kiyosaki created thisframework. I'm not an exclusive
across the board fan of what hedoes, but this particular piece
I think is helpful. So he talksabout being an employee or being
self employed, and employees andself employed people tend to
have non leveraged income,meaning their income is

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connected to how many hours theywork versus business owners and
investors who are able todisconnect the amount of effort
they put in from the amount ofincome they make. So you wanna
be thinking about how can I movefrom being only making my income

(01:56:41):
in the employee or self employedcategory to start thinking
through how could I become abusiness owner where I'm I I own
a system that's working for mewhether I'm working or not? How
can I become an investor where Itake my money and then I invest
it in assets, things like realestate, stocks, bonds, crypto,

(01:57:06):
other businesses?
So I'm investing it in assetsthat then grow that money for me
when I'm not working. That'sgonna be a new concept for some
people. For some people, you'realready doing it. It's important
to include because it'spractical, and it will liberate
you from the rat race. So whereare you in terms of making more

(01:57:29):
money, especially from aleveraged perspective?
On a scale of one to 10. Writeit down. K. I'm gonna stop for a
washing machine break. So youcan go ahead and use whatever
tool you'd like to do.
I'm gonna do my washing machinehere. Just digest a little bit.

(01:57:59):
Regain some capacity. Okay.Awesome.
So now we're going into invoicesfor blessings already received,
formerly known as debt. Invoicesfor blessings already received
is what I like to call whatother people call debt. Because

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all it is is an outstandinginvoice that you owe money for
from something you already gotto receive. And quite frankly,
having debt is a privilege.There are many places in the
world that you are not able toactually purchase anything or
receive anything unless you havethe cash.
Now we can talk about if that'sa good thing or if that's a bad

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thing, but I'm just telling you,don't take it for granted
because it's not how every placeworks. For example, if you went
to college and you took outstudent loans and you received
your education ahead of time,and then you're paying that back
over time, you got theeducation, and now you have an

(01:59:02):
invoice for a blessing alreadyreceived. So cool. Hopefully,
that helps to release some ofthe weight around it. And I
think that Louise Hay may haveoriginally coined this term, but
I can't find any place where shesaid it.
So but I'm just gonna give giveLulu a shout out. The truth

(01:59:23):
about debt is that it's neitherbad or good. It's just math. You
receive something and now youneed to pay for it later. That's
it.
Just the facts, ma'am. Just thefacts. There are also secret
ways to use debt to make moremoney. And folks who are

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conditioned to believe that alldebt is bad are not able to
utilize these secret strategies,and that's a bummer. That's a
perfect example of if you wereconditioned that all debt is
bad, you will not even consideror look for or be open to

(02:00:10):
opportunities to use it to beable to make more money.
And you will shut all of thatdown, and you will stay small
unnecessarily. And you may notlike me saying that not all debt
is bad, and you might disagreewith me, and that's okay. But
just know that there's a wholeworld of people using debt in

(02:00:30):
ways that actually make themmoney in super smart ways. In
fact, the entire financialindustry is doing that, and
that's possible for you too. Soa lot of people ask, how do I
prioritize what I pay first?
Is it possible to eliminate debtwhile still feeling abundant? Or

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do I have to be in deprivationuntil I pay off my invoices for
blessings already received? Andone of the things I wanna offer
around this is that we canrewire our dopamine circuitry
around spending money and savingmoney. So for many people who
have a history of overspendingand ending up in consumer debt,

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there's a dopamine hit fromshopping, whether it's for
themselves, for their children,whatever. It may be totally
unconscious.
And so that dopamine circuitryin our body, in our brain, is
the circuitry of wanting. Andthe dopamine circuitry says, I
want, I want, I want, I want.And it it, leads our behavior

(02:01:39):
towards doing something likegoing to Target and filling our
cart with $300 of items, eventhough we only plan to go in
for, you know, a pack of toiletpaper. Interestingly enough,
there's another part of ourcircuitry called, the having
circuitry, and it has to do withthe way oxytocin moves through

(02:02:00):
our body and some other bondinghormones and some different,
some different neurochemicals.The dopamine circuitry never is
satisfied.
So even though it will lead usto eat the sugar or smoke the
or, you know, inhale the cocaineor go to Target and buy a bunch
of things or aimlessly shop onour phone. By doing the action

(02:02:25):
step it wants us to do, it neversatisfies it. It's a hungry
ghost. Versus when we activatethe having circuitry by learning
to rewire our relationship withspending and saving using some
of the nervous system healingtools, what we do is we end up

(02:02:47):
moving into a completelydifferent wiring in our brain
where satiety, where a sense ofI have enough is actually
readily available right now. Andthere are specific ways that we
can do that that will totallychange your life and that will
make eliminating consumer debtreally pretty freaking easy.

(02:03:08):
So how about your relationshipwith invoices for blessings
already received? Give it a oneto a 10. What's your what's your
rating there? And now we'regonna move into cyclical money
management. So cyclical moneymanagement, for anyone who read
my book, Do Less, this will feelfamiliar.

(02:03:29):
And this is about using therhythm of nature, using the
rhythm of abundance of the earthand the cosmos to guide our
financial action steps. Andthere are four phases
responsible for all life onearth plus gravity, And they are

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the ultimate feminine energymanagement system, and they are
also the ultimate feminine moneymanagement system. Oops. And
that was all I had to say onthat apparently. There is a
proper season in our body everymonth if we are having a
menstrual cycle or with thelunar cycle every single month.

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There's the proper time forplanting financial seeds.
There's the proper time forcross pollinating and building
abundant flow with others.There's a proper time for detail
work and bookkeeping andcrossing our t's and dotting our

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i's and all of that stuff. Andthere's a proper time for the
pause and connecting to ourintuition. And when we operate
in concert with the ultimatefeminine money management
system.
Just like when we plant ourcarrots in concert with the
biodynamic farming system thathas to do with the lunar cycles,

(02:04:57):
we get more abundance becausealigning with our nature always
results in more easefulabundance. It gets rid of
friction, and it adds a lot offlow. So where are you at in
terms of cyclical moneymanagement? Rate yourself from a
one to a 10 in terms of cyclicalmoney management. And now we're

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going to get into our final one,which is wealth secrets.
So there are secret ways thatpeople experiencing wealth think
and do things that other folksdon't. But why would we keep
those things a secret? Let'sjust let everyone know. And the

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primary question that a wealthyperson will ask is, how can I
get my money working for meinstead of working hard for my
money? Because wealth means morethan just having a lot of money.
Wealth also means the freedom todo what you wanna do with your
most precious asset, which isyour time. So asking how can I

(02:06:06):
get my money working for meinstead of working hard for my
money is one of the smartestquestions we can be asking? And
it comes down to your freedomnumber. And your freedom number
is the amount of money that youneed to have in assets in order
to be making enough money onthat money to be work optional,

(02:06:31):
to live without needing to workanymore. But you may very likely
want to keep working.
I very likely will want to workand do this forever. So the
financial freedom equation canhelp us get there. And our
financial freedom equation iswhen your passive or residual

(02:06:52):
income, so income from a networkmarketing business, income from
businesses that don't requireyou to work in them, income from
real estate investments, whetherit's cash flow from short term
rentals or long term rentals,dividends, interest from your
investments in stocks and bonds,these are all examples of

(02:07:13):
passive or residual income,income from royalty income. When
all of that income that doesn'trequire you to trade hours for
dollars is greater than or equalto your living expenses, you are
officially financially free. Andpeople do this at all income
levels because there's twolevers you can pull here.

(02:07:34):
One of them is you can increaseyour passive or residual income
by learning to be an investor,learning business systems, so
learning how to make a salesmachine that works without you
or with very little of you, youcan also lower your living
expenses. So there's a movementcalled the FIRE movement,
Financial Independents RetireEarly. A lot of those people

(02:07:56):
really operate with profoundfrugality, and they bring their
living expenses way, way, way,way, way, way down so that they
don't need much money to live.That's a choice. It's not a
choice I would make.
I actually don't want to cut myliving expenses to nearly
nothing, but it is a choice outthere. And so what we all can
do, though, is we can use theeighth wonder of the world. Does

(02:08:19):
anybody know what the eighthwonder of the world is? Yeah.
Great.
It's compound interest. So I'mgonna tell you a story to
illustrate this. Back in theday, there was a king, and this
king asked a very smart man whohad come to give him a gift in

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his kingdom, and he wanted toreward the smart man for his
contributions. And the smart mansaid the king said, what do you
want? I'll what do you want?
And the smart man said, I, thesage, I would like you to give
me one grain of rice and thendouble what I had the previous
day, every day, for thirty days.And the king was like, what?

(02:09:07):
Like, what are you talkingabout? That's ridiculous. But
okay.
Because he thought one grain ofrice and then two, okay, four,
like, that's gonna amount tonothing. Great. No problem. What
was so amazing, because the sageknew what he was doing,
obviously, is that on day 12, bythe twelfth day, he had 2,048

(02:09:27):
grains of rice. By the sixteenthday, he had 32,768 grains of
rice.
And by the thirtieth day, thekingdom had gone bankrupt
because he had over a billiongrains of rice, which was bags
and bags and bags and bags andbags, and they couldn't pay him.

(02:09:54):
That's the power of compoundinginterest. So you can go to
investor.gov, and you can popsome numbers in and play around
with this. You could probablyalso do it with ChatGPT and put
in, okay, cool. So if I wantedto play around with how my money
could grow with compoundinginterest, whereby you earn

(02:10:18):
interest on what you had inthere before, so it just builds
and builds and builds andbuilds.
If I put in a thousand dollarsand I contributed only a hundred
dollars additional a month forten years at an estimated
interest rate of 8%, which isabout the average return of the
stock market, and thecompounding was monthly, I

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wonder how much money that wouldturn into. Well, here's what it
would be. Over ten years, yourthousand dollars would turn into
$20,514 by only contributing$100 a month. Now you can see

(02:11:03):
for the first five years or so,it does not seem that
interesting. It's a littleboring, in fact.
In fact, it would not satisfythe dopamine receptors. Right?
It wouldn't give you that hit.But if you can build up your
having circuitry over time sothat you're feeling satisfied in

(02:11:25):
other ways, you'll just allowyour money to be able to grow,
and it is free money. And thatis the eighth wonder of the
world.
So what do you think the best,smartest, highest return on
investment possible is? What dowe think? Tell me in the chat.
Mhmm. Correct.

(02:11:47):
It's yourself. No stock, nobusiness, no amount of Bitcoin
is ever going to outperforminvesting in yourself. And I
have this on good, what do youcall it? What's that expression?
Good faith or anyway, whatever.
I've talked to some of thesmartest financial minds in the

(02:12:08):
world, fractional CFOs,financial planners who, you
know, work with billions ofdollars in assets, and everyone
agrees. You are by far thesmartest, highest return on
investment investment possible,which is good news because
you've been here investing inyourself. So congratulations. Do

(02:12:29):
a little dance. Give it ashimmy.
And while we're doing that, goback and on pages thirty three
and thirty four, if you have acolored pencil or a highlighter
or a marker, you can color inthe numbers, the items that you
had a one through a three inred. If you do not have colored

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things nearby, it is totallyfine. Just write the word red
next to those items. If you hada four to seven score on your
item, color it in yellow. And ifyou had a score of eight to 10,
color it in green.

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Okay? And by the way, I know ourcommunity well enough to know
that some of you might bewondering about investments that
are ethical and that are inalignment with your values.
There's an entire world oflearning how to invest in a way
that is ethical, that is inalignment with your values. And
notice if your nervous systemstarted sending you into

(02:13:34):
negativity around it's notpossible to be a savvy investor
and be aligned with my values atthe same time, and people who've
gotten wealthy from investmentsare doing so off the backs of
other people and off the back ofthe earth. I just want to call
that out in case that was goingon for anyone.

(02:13:56):
And instead, ask yourself abetter question. How could I
invest my money in assets thatalign with my values and make my
investing a prayer and also reapthe rewards of those
investments? Okay. Great. Socolor in your circles.

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One to three would be a red.Four to seven would be a yellow.
Eight to 10 would be a green.And if you don't have colors,
just write the color next to it.Now inside Relax Money, we go
through every single one ofthese.
And by the end of the program,you'll have all greens. That's

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the whole idea because there'snot one of these that will work
completely on its own. But whenyou get all of it working
together, you are cooking withgas, and you really can go and
friction reduces and flowincreases, and this is where
true abundance lies. So I'mgonna have us listen to the

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beautiful Wendy Snyder. I'mgonna make sure that I'm sharing
my sound, and she is our finalcase study finalist.
So we're gonna have a littlebreak with Wendy here. Listen to
her beautiful story of how shegot all this working for her in
her life. And remember,financial conversion. As you're

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listening to Wendy, let this betrue for you too.

Speaker 5 (02:15:34):
A few years ago, I was completely burnt out. On the
outside, things looked great. Ihad a purpose driven career that
I loved as a positive parentingeducator and coach, and a
husband who fully supported mydream. But inside, I was
exhausted because I wasn't eventaking a paycheck. I was working
constantly, often still writingemails or social posts at 8PM

(02:15:55):
and wondering why it felt sohard to make money doing what I
loved.
Something in me knew there was adeeper layer, something
unconscious that was blockingthe financial ease that I
craved. When I worked corporate,earning felt simple, but selling
my own offers, especially onesthat support family and kids,
felt heavy and sticky. Then Ifound Kate and the Relax Money

(02:16:15):
program and everything changed.Kate helped me uncover
unconscious beliefs I didn'teven realize were running the
show, like thinking money wasbad or that rich people were
greedy. She helped me notice theway I avoided looking at my
numbers and how I was sometimesspending money to emotionally
numb.
Most importantly, she helped meregulate my nervous system, to
feel safe receiving money, andto rewrite the story I had

(02:16:38):
around earning and abundance.Now, our business is profitable,
I take a consistent paycheck, myhubs and I have regular
financial dates, we work with aprivate budgeting coach, and
we've implemented a profit firstsystem in our company. I finally
feel healthy around money. Andthe cherry on top? I'm now
teaching my teenage kids how tobuild wealth from a place of
integrity and calm, modelingabundance instead of fear and

(02:17:00):
scarcity.
I will be forever grateful toKate and Mike and Relax Money
for changing my life. If youwant more peace and power and
abundance in your financiallife, this program is absolutely
for you.

Speaker 2 (02:17:13):
Thank you, Wendy. I love that. So a reminder that
you get to vote for theseamazing humans inside the
Relaxed Money Case StudyFinalist contest. We'll be
posting their videos, all three.So we had Sarah and Valentina,

(02:17:33):
we had Erica and Wendy, and youcan vote in the Facebook group.
So those will be up thisafternoon in the next, you know,
twenty minutes or so. So go inthere, vote for your favorites,
rewatch them, support theseincredible humans, and they can
win a VIP half day with me andMike, a Relax Money Live, VIP

(02:17:59):
ticket, and a Relax Money Liveticket. So those are our amazing
prizes. So I just wanna thankyou for any amount of time
you've spent with me here eitherlive or on the replay. We've
been on such a journey, and it'sjust been an absolute honor to
be here with you.
We are not done yet, however. Soremember I said that for our

(02:18:23):
final homework for the day, forday three, you can submit a
screenshot of your money magicpotion. And if you go over to
katenorthrup.com/homework,there's a PDF of this. But
remember, it's your money visionfor you that speaks to your
heart, that does something foryou emotionally. It's your money
vision that is connected to theworld.

(02:18:46):
It's an income source, at leastone, a container or a system for
your money, and the vehicle foryour money to make more money.
So each of these can just be asentence or a couple of words.
You don't have to write a novelhere, and then you're going to
submit it atkatenorthift.com/homework. And
when you do, you're going to getentered to win the top of the

(02:19:07):
line, incredible red light panelthat has so many health
benefits. We absolutely loveours.
So I have one last practice togo through with you. If you
would like to step through thisportal with me, I'm gonna stop
sharing my screen, and I'm goingto have Takesha, if you'd be

(02:19:30):
game, play a little music forus. So if you can close your
eyes. Do so. Notice your feet onthe ground.

(02:19:55):
Bend your breath all the waydown into your root. Bring your
breath, your lower back ribs. Inyour mind's eye or just listen

(02:20:28):
to my voice, I'm gonna inviteyou to take a little walk
someplace safe, someplacebeautiful. Maybe this is a place
that you've been before, ormaybe it is a place that you've

(02:20:50):
only ever imagined. Oh, and youare just looking at a walk that
decompresses you, a walk thatreleases stress, a walk that
helps you to remember who youreally are.

(02:21:12):
And as you're walking, younotice that on the path there's
someone walking towards you.There's just an instant feeling
of warmth that this person isimportant, that this person is

(02:21:33):
safe and as you get closer tothem and you look at their face,
you realize that this person isyou, but an older version of
you. You notice the lines ontheir face and how beautiful

(02:22:00):
they are. The softness of theirskin, the way that as this
person takes your hands intheirs, the skin on the back of
their hands is almosttransparent, paper thin and yet

(02:22:23):
luminous. You look in their eyesand the sides of their eyes
crinkle in the most beautiful,wise smile.
Those eyes that have seendecades. That face that has

(02:22:45):
smiled a billion times andyou're so happy to see this
person. It's such an answeredprayer. They just look at you
and say, have an importantmessage. I have an important

(02:23:11):
message for you and it's aboutabundance.
It's about you and your moneyand abundance, and they lean in
and they whisper it to you rightnow. Whatever they've shared, it

(02:23:48):
feels just right. You say thankyou. You have fully received the
message. And now they reach onehand into their pocket and pull

(02:24:10):
something out and drop it inyour open palms.
It's a gift that they've broughtfor you, especially for you.
They've been saving it for thisexact moment. Feel the weight of

(02:24:35):
it in your hands, the texture,the temperature. Closing your
palms around this gift,receiving, letting it fully be

(02:24:58):
yours, knowing it was meant foryou. You look in the eyes of
your older future self and againsay thank you.

(02:25:21):
And they say, oh, just one morething. I need to tell you to let
go of this one thing. You can bedone with it now. Listen for

(02:25:42):
what it is. And as you hearthem, you can feel that as they
tell you to let go of it, it'salready gone.
It is done. You have already letit go. You are already

(02:26:13):
liberated. Your future self putstheir hands on your shoulders,
pulls you in for the warmestembrace. The kind of hug that
just has you fully, fully letgo.

(02:26:38):
Breathe it in. You releaselooking in their eyes one more
time. They let you know thatthey are here for you anytime
you need them. Anytime at all.You can come back here anytime.

(02:27:05):
You say thank you again. Youturn and start walking back
along the path that you camehere on. It's one step after
another. Walking back gently.Walking back fulfilled.

(02:27:33):
Walking back renewed. And as youreturn to the place you started,
you start to feel your feet onthe ground, wiggling your toes,
moving your fingers, moving yourspine, rolling your shoulders

(02:27:59):
back, refreshing your postureand opening your eye. So feel
free to share if you want toshare what you received. What
did you hear? And I'm going togo ahead and go back to my

(02:28:22):
slides.
So Takesha, if you want to goahead and bring the music down.
So beautiful, these shares.Alright. We just went into the
portal together one last time,and I'm gonna bring it on home.
On the first day, I told you astory about my getting hit by a

(02:28:46):
car in October 2022.
I remember the datespecifically. It was October 25.
This picture is me in themiddle, blissfully in complete
denial about what a big dealthis was. And this is Mike on
the right after the first of twosurgeries. And what I didn't

(02:29:08):
tell you is that behind thescenes, we had some stuff going
on in our company whereby we hadalready needed to delay a launch
for two to three months.
So we were ending we weregetting close to the end of our

(02:29:33):
financial runway, and we weregearing up for a launch when
Mike got hit by a car. And wehad a choice about that. Once
again, we were met with achoice. And I went to the
hospital. On one of the days Iwas going back and forth, thirty

(02:29:57):
minutes each way to and from thehospital in Miami, hanging with
the kids, trying to help them,you know, feel steady while
their dad was gone for a week.
And I got to the hospital, I wasgoing to visit Mike and do lead
my mastermind call from thehospital. But I was flustered,

(02:30:18):
and there was traffic, and Icouldn't find parking, and I was
late, and dah dah dah. And Mike,when I got there, suggested that
I let the mastermind know that Ineeded to reschedule because my
husband had just gotten hit by acar and probably that sufficed

(02:30:38):
as a good enough reason to needto postpone something. And while
previous times I wouldn't havebeen available for that
suggestion, I would have justgrinned and pushed through and
and pretended not pretendedeverything was fine, but at
least, like, shown up and donethe show that I was supposed to

(02:30:58):
do. Instead, I crawled into hishospital bed after I messaged my
mastermind, and I promptly fellasleep.
If any of you are fellow anxioussleepers who need blackout

(02:31:19):
curtains and earplugs and theroom to be at a certain
temperature and everything to becompletely silent, you know what
a freaking miracle it is to justlie down and fall asleep. The
level of down regulation andnervous system safety required

(02:31:42):
to just fall asleep in themiddle of a room in the hospital
is astounding. And what I knewbased on this experience is that
when I woke up from that nap andlooked around, I was like, wow,
something's different this time.I'm not operating on high alert.

(02:32:08):
And Mike and I knew that thiswas really an invitation to
repattern, to revisit old waysof being from a higher level of
consciousness, to reallypractice our new wiring, our new
thermostat, our new nervoussystem capacity.

(02:32:31):
What happened is we delayed thelaunch, which was a miracle in
and of itself because in thepast, I had just soldiered on.
We delayed the launch and Ifound this place in me, this
deep well of profound trust insource with a capital s. And I

(02:32:53):
said, no more, no more am Igoing to push through when my
husband's in the hospital? Nomore am I going to push through
when my babies just need apresent mom? No more.
And I decided to no longer letthe fear settings that had
operated for so long run mylife. I found the capacity for

(02:33:19):
choice. Viktor Frankl has abeautiful quote, which is,
Between stimulus and response,there is a space. And in that
space is our power to choose ourresponse. And in our space, in
our response lies our growth andour freedom.
That space is not alwaysavailable to us, but that space

(02:33:46):
to choose our response becomesavailable when we heal our
nervous systems enough and buildthe capacity somatically so that
we can actually have the powerof choice, so that we can
reclaim our true power. We werenot put on this earth to

(02:34:09):
experience financial stress andlack and pressure. We were not
put on this earth to let fearput a damper on our life force,
our entire lives. Abundance isactually our true nature. If you
look outside, if you spend timein the forest, if you spend time
in the ocean, what will be trueis you'll reconnect with your

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true nature.
We are nature. Nature is aninfinitely abundant system, all
interconnected. That's who weactually are. That's our true
source of power. Now if you stayon the path of expansion, fear
and restriction will absolutelycome up.

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That's no doubt about that.Right? Like, there's no time
when we get out of being human.That's gonna happen. However, in
that moment, lying in thathospital bed, there was profound
shift where I no longer wasletting fear lead.
Something else took over.Something else took over, and it

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was that power to have a choice.And when we grow our nervous
system capacity as we've beendoing, that is precisely how you
access that choice. So you havea choice right now. You can be
the kind of person who continuesto operate in old money nervous

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system thermostat behavior, who,just goes back to their default
programming, who says, yeah,well, that's that's nice, but
I'm not I'm not changing.
I'm doubling down. Or you canchoose to rewire your nervous
system and begin to operate inyour new money nervous system

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thermostat, and you can choosethe path of prospering through
that choice. Now at this point,are you gonna be the kind of
person who looks at the rest ofthe world, looks at other
people, and points to all thereasons outside themselves that
they can't have what they wantand why things are the way they
want? Or are you going to be thekind of person who, despite the

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realities of systemic inequity,also takes radical
responsibility and finds thepower that's accessible within
them twenty four seven to beable to take radical
responsibility for theirfinancial well-being with the

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things they can control. Are yougonna be the kind of person who
looks through the world throughthe lens of problems and just
whines and complains and findscomfort and security through
bonding with other people,through everything that's hard?

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Or are you going to be the kindof person who operates looking
through the lens of possibilityand potential and all the
abundant opportunities andresources that have literally
always been there just waitingfor you to turn tune your

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frequency to what's available.Are you gonna be the kind of
person who comes to a freetraining like this and just is
like, well, cool, and doesnothing about changing their
reality? Or are you gonna be thekind of person who takes

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everything they've learned withthe way my team and I have
literally just handed you thekeys to your prosperous
financial future and says, yeah,give me that key. I'm ready to
open the door. So if you're thatkind of person, my team and I

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are on the other side of thedoor waiting to welcome you in
to Relaxed Money.
And Relaxed Money is basicallywhere I give you the trainings,
the tools, the systems, thenervous system healing drills,

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how to put it all together withthe support and community and
coaching and integration so thatyou can change your nervous
system thermostat and learn howto become a total pro at making
money, keeping money, stewardingmoney, growing money, and being

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a generous conduit for the restof the world. That's what this
is all about. It is not just amindset course. This is not
fluff on just change yourthoughts, change your beliefs.
You know that by now.
It's not your basic budgetingprogram or your average personal
finance program where I'm justgoing to give you the latest

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tools and tricks to save moneyon your groceries and go into
deprivation so that you can, youknow, someday or maybe never
actually live your financialdreams. It's not just about how
to make more money withoutsharing the actual tools to
steward that money. And it's notjust about manifesting an
energetics, and I'm not going totell you, like, just change your

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frequency. And it's not somekind of disembodied spiritually
bypassed program where we'regonna ignore your body, where
we're gonna ignore systemicrealities, and I'm just gonna
tell you, you know, be in goodvibes. It's not any of those
things, which you know by now.
Relaxed Money is the only placewhere you're gonna get the

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complete soup to nuts holisticintegrated blueprint for your
entire holistically abundantfinancial life that's fully
embodied and also fullypractical. There is no other
place in the world that teachesall of this in an integrated

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holistic way all in one place.You will only find it here. We
start with the B, right? Becausethe B matters.
How you do it is what you get.We start with growing your
nervous system capacity. Then weget into the do. All the
strategies where you actuallywill be able to make more money,

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keep more money, savingstrategies, cash flow management
systems, all of that stuffmatters and how to grow your
money. And then also inevitably,we do that, when we become, when
we be the kind of person thatour North Star needs us to be,
and then we start to be able todo the things we inevitably have

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what we want.
This program really allows youessentially to upload the codes,
the frequencies, the nervoussystem thermostat, plus the
strategy and tactics to be ableto actually experience abundance
now instead of later or possiblynever. You don't have to wait

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forever. This can be yourreality now. This is what we
create now when you're able touse these strategies and heal
your nervous system. The programis delivered via thirteen live
modules.
I teach them live. So it'sinteractive, it's engaging. And

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then we have all the processes,the maps, the tools, the
templates, the checklist,everything you need to actually
operationalize this way of beingand this way of doing money in
your life. We also are not goingto leave you alone with this. We
have support, community, andcoaching for an entire year.

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Group coaching with me,community headed up by our
amazing Takesha and our residentnervous system healer, Sarah,
who every single month, SarahTacey, guides our community in
upgrading their nervous nervoussystem capacity for abundance.
And then a live event. So RelaxMoney Live is also coming up. So

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I could keep talking about it,but now it is your time. In just
a few short days on Monday, thedoors are gonna open to our only
live cohort of relaxed moneythis year.
And if you're still herewatching, I think you and I both
know that there is a reason why.This is relevant for you. Right?

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Like, this is an area that youare feeling called to expand in,
and it's so exciting. It is soexciting.
It is your time. So if that isyou, if you know that this is an
area you want to grow into,relaxed money is very likely

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your next step. And I'm going toask you to save the date for
Monday, April 28, because I'mgoing to be going live with an
opening ceremony where we'll getinto everything that's in the
program. What do you get? What'sin there, what are the
deliverables.
We can answer all of yourquestions, and we can help you

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to determine if this is rightfor you. And, also, I'll go into
how we can help you no matterwhat stage of that inner and
outer wealth inventory you're atthat we did. Remember that
pyramid that we did on the firstday? So no matter what stage
you're at, I'm gonna explain howwe can help you. So you're gonna

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see this link right here on yourscreen.
That's for the people who knowalready, I want to get to the
front of the line. I want toknow what this is. I want to get
in the door before everyoneelse. So you'll just go to
relaxmoney.com/priority. So atthat link, you'll just go ahead

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and put your email.
And then when we open the doorson Monday, you'll get the
information. Sorelaxmoney.com/priority. But
now, in the meantime, I justwant you to save the date.
Monday, April 28 at nooneastern, I'll be going live for

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a bonus session. It'll be anopening ceremony.
It'll be a q and a. I'll giveyou the full details of Relax
Money, and it is at the linkyou're on right now. So that's
what's happening next. We do theentire Good With Money training,
our team does, for this periodof time. I feel like we've been

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in a portal together for ahundred years.
And then for those who want todo this work with my team and I,
we move to diving in in RelaxMoney. So after the doors close
to Relax Money on May 1 atmidnight, which is next
Thursday, our team will shiftour focus and get into working

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with those who want to be partof this community to heal their
nervous systems around money, tolearn about money stewardship
strategy, all of it, plus a liveevent. So I'm gonna see you
Monday for the bonus live, andI'll share special case studies,
bonuses, special prizes, and allof the yummy details then. We've

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had over 42,000 people here inGood With Money. This is by far
the biggest event we have everdone.
It's some days blown mycircuits, and I've seen from you
in the Facebook group, and I'vegotten the DMs. It has blown
your circuits too. And so myinvitation for you is to take
really good care of yourselfbefore now between now and

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Monday. The results we'vereceived, the feedback is more
than we've ever received before.Our minds are blown.
It's a really good time to leaninto your nervous system
healing, to rewatch the replays,submit your homework. We are
just absolutely blown away. Andyou're here because you already

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know that abundance is yournatural state, and you are ready
to claim it. Should we say ittogether? Abundance is my
natural state, and I am ready toclaim it.
It's really been such an honorto mentor you and coach you
during this workshop. And Iwanna say that whatever path you

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choose moving forward, please donot do it alone. People struggle
for way too long because they'retrying to figure this out on
their own. I did that for years,and it held me back
significantly. Over the years, Ihave invested thousands of

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dollars since then inmentorship, coaching, therapy,
healing, certifications, andhours of reading and trainings.
And when you join Relax Money, Iwill not hold any of that back.
Now for some of you, I'm yourteacher, and that's wonderful.

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But for some of you, I'm notgonna be your person, and that's
okay too. But what I want to sayto you is, and I want to implore
you, this work matters. Yourfinancial life matters.
So please do not go it alone.Find your person, find your
coach, find your mentor, anddouble down and dive in with

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them so that you can get whatyou want. Your thriving unlocks
thriving for others. Ourliberation is all wound up with
one another. And so please don'tgo this alone.
Your financial abundance mattersin a huge way and I already said

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it, it is the one thing thatmakes everything else easier or
unnecessary in your life. Yourparenting, your health, your
relationships, your sex life,your sense of general well-being
is all enhanced by yourrelationship with abundance. And

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when you step into it, it makesit more available to everyone.
We talked about that with TaylorSwift and Shakira and Beyonce.
And if I'm your person, I wouldbe absolutely honored to support
you in your journey.
And I will see you Monday forwhat's next. But first, we're

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gonna dance. So if you've madeit this far with me, we're gonna
dance, and I'm gonna invite youto experience something that
will actually activate and dumpa whole bunch of nitric oxide in
your brain and body and help youto integrate and accelerate the

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learning that you've done. Sothis is what I'm going to lead
you through. My friend, Doctor.
Deb Kern, helped me with this,and it was inspired by Doctor.
Zach Bush, and he has this fourminute workout, and I'm adapting
it today. I'm gonna go ahead andmake sure my audio is shared,

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and we're going to dance it outtogether one last time in Good
With Money. So just followalong, make it your own, and
here we go. Okay?
Can you hear that? Okay. Great.We're just gonna start with an

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easy I've been grinding so longbeen trying to shit I see you,
little cat. Take it out your ownspace.
We're just gonna Alright, folks.I am Alex Brown. This was a

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profound pleasure. I

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will see you back here on Monday.

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I love you. Bye. One more.

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See you Monday.