In today’s episode, Colleen shares a powerful mindset shift that can make changing any habit feel easier, faster, and more sustainable: stop trying to "get it right" — just focus on getting it better.
Inspired by the concept of the iterative mindset from Dr. Kira Bobinet's research, Colleen explains why the old black-and-white idea of relapse and failure doesn’t belong in habit change—and how a simple shift in thinking can remove the shame, accelerate your progress, and help you design a lifestyle that actually fits the life you want to live.
Whether you’re working on your drinking habits, food habits, or just trying to be more intentional about your day-to-day choices, this episode gives you a fresh, more forgiving way to stay motivated without burning out.
💡 Key Takeaways:
• Every experience is an experiment. There's no "there" to get to—only the next iteration.
• Progress isn't about eliminating setbacks; it's about shortening their intensity, duration, and frequency over time.
• You don't have a problem—you have a process that you’re always refining.
• Motivation is fueled by seeing evidence of your own progress, not by achieving perfection.
• True personal power comes from staying curious and self-correcting—not judging yourself for the data points along the way.
✨ Action Step:
Instead of asking, "How do I get this right?" ask yourself:
→ "How can I get it a little better today?"
Focus on small improvements instead of chasing a final destination—and you'll build a future you’re proud to live into.
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