“Blame has never led to a productive or constructive resolution to a problem.”
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We can feel negative emotions coursing through our veins.
Anger, fear, sadness—when we find ourselves in these emotional states, our body is overtaken by a very distinct wavelength of feeling. There is no denying it.
So our minds start to believe that there’s actual reason to be mad, scared, and sad. However, if we take a step back and assess our reality through direct observation, we can see the truth.
For today’s episode, I brought on the expert for this direct observation model: Dr. Timothy Hayes.
Timothy J. Hayes, Psy.D., is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist. With over thirty years of successful experience doing therapy with individuals and families, Dr. Hayes integrates mind/body energy techniques into a client-friendly model.
This model is based on the observation that people possess within themselves all the resources necessary to deal effectively with a wide variety of problems and challenges they may be facing. Hayes has become widely known for his successes in relieving the symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
Download this episode today to hear all of learn how to reframe your mind.
“We’ve been taught to believe our anger means we’re right.”
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Highlights
- Sometimes you just need to look at your challenges from a different angle.
- Be aware of when you generate perspective from a place of anger or fear.
- It doesn’t magic wand, just commitment to using the tools.
- Understand that everything you do, you have good reasons for doing them.
- Question everything you think you know, and step into the moment with direct observation.
- Use breath exercises to train your body that situations aren’t life-threatening.
- You can’t control the emotions and reactions of anyone but yourself.
- Use tools by stepping outside your conscious, logical mind.
- You’re not afraid of the unknown, you’re afraid of the negatives you project into the unknown.
“The answer to your problem is not in the conscious, logical realm.”
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