November 21, 2025 • 50 mins
Delanie Fischer chats with licensed therapist and relationship specialist, Dr. Joy Berkheimer, about the challenges and rewards of adult friendships. Dr. Joy shares practical strategies for finding new friends as an adult, building trust, navigating conflict, and knowing when it’s time to let a friendship go — all while honoring your own capacity, interests, and boundaries.
Discussed in this episode:
Find Your Purpose, Find Your People
Clarify Desire & Capacity: Close Friend or a Casual One?
7 Ways to Make New Friends as an Adult
3 Apps That Help You Build Aligned Friendships
Effective Conversation Skills for New Friendships
When "Letting It Fizzle" Doesn't Work
Friendship Breakups: Talking vs. Blocking
Let’s Talk About the Term “Best Friend”
Setting New Boundaries in Old Friendships
Friendship Takes Many Forms: The Remarkable Life of Ibelin
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