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October 17, 2025 48 mins
Delanie Fischer chats with Elliott Connie, Psychotherapist and renowned leader in the field of Solution Focused Brief Therapy, about shifting the questions we ask ourselves in order to transform our lives. They discuss the difference between comfort and happiness, how to go deeper in times of indecision and struggle, and simple practices and rituals that create lasting change. Discussed in this episode:  SFBT and The Diamond Approach Rejecting Perfect Timing Syndrome  Has What You Want Changed? And Can You Trust It? The Worst Question We Ask Ourselves Comfort vs. Happiness (and Why Comfort Can Kill Us) Will Therapy As We Know It Become Obsolete? Can't Do It In The Ideal Way? Do It A Little Bit. What's Your Version of Sunday Pizza Night? Capitalism, Social Media & Pursuing What Matters The Toughest Life Lesson Elliott's Learned ---- If Self-Helpless has supported you in some way, a quick 5-star rating or review (if you haven’t already) means so much! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416 Free goodies including The Quote Buffet and The Watch & Read List: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/ Ad-free episodes now available on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Your Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com ---- Episodes related to this topic: Release Your Perfectionism Handbrake: Power Planning, Clean Rest, and Demystifying Procrastination with Sam Laura Brown: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/22e1c287/release-your-perfectionism-handbrake-power-planning-clean-rest-and-demystifying-procrastination-with-sam-laura-brown Cracking The Code To Behavior Change: Troubleshooting Tiny Barriers That Destroy Big Goals with Molly Maxwell: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/24e651e8/cracking-the-code-to-behavior-change-troubleshooting-tiny-barriers-that-destroy-big-goals-with-molly-maxwell 10 Fascinating Tricks For More Wins And Improved Well-Being with Janice Kaplan: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/23c60009/10-fascinating-tricks-for-more-wins-and-improved-well-being-with-janice-kaplan Need a Strong Dose of Optimism? 5 Tips for an Instant Perspective Shift with Bill Burke: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/255fd6bc/need-a-strong-dose-of-optimism-5-tips-for-an-instant-perspective-shift-with-bill-burke Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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