Today, we're tackling some tough listener questions. We're joined by Tara Buchanan, good friend and cohost of the Behind Our Smiles podcast.
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From the Bible
The mandrakes send out their fragrance, and at our door is every delicacy, both new and old, that I have stored up for you, my beloved. Song of Songs 7:13
I am a wall, and my breasts are like towers. Thus I have become in his eyes like one bringing contentment. Song of Songs 8:10
So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. Genesis 1:17
And the Lord God commanded the man, "You are free to eat from any tree in the garden; but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat from it you will certainly die." Genesis 2:16–17
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 1 Corinthians 13:4–7
For although they knew God, they neither glorified him as God nor gave thanks to him, but their thinking became futile and their foolish hearts were darkened....Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another....Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural sexual relations for unnatural ones. In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed shameful acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their error. Romans 1:21,24, 26–27
Resources
- Behind Our Smiles Podcast, with Tara & Joe Buchanan
- Struggling with Sex in Marriage? Here's What To Do First. - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Sensate Focus Therapy | Cornell Health
- Everything You Need to Know About Sensate Focus Touch by Linda Weiner, LCSW | YouTube
- The Back Door (my take on anal sex) • Bonny's Oysterbed7
- Why I Took My Breast Implants Out - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Are Breast Implants Bad for You? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Should Christians Get Plastic Surgery? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Episode 111: Accepting Your Body - Sex Chat for Christian Wives
- Is Anal Sex Okay? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Episode 31: Listener Questions - Sex Chat for Christian Wives (including anal sex)
- Q&A with J: Pegging. Is It Okay? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Finger Cots | Ama
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