Telling your parents that your spouse has come out as transgender can be quite stressful; no two family dynamics are the same. In this episode, I talk to my midwestern, cisgender, former United States Navy officer, highly educated dad in his eighties about his reaction when I told him that my spouse had come out as transgender.
My favorite quote from our talk: “The only change would be our nasty attitude and that just makes no sense.”
FYI: The podcast is now available on YouTube, too.
Mentioned or related to this episode:
- Book my dad read: She's Not There: A Life in Two Genders, by Jennifer Finney Boylan
- PFLAG National for friend and family ally support
- PFLAG International for friend and family ally support
- Book I recently read and recommend: Dear Cisgender People: A Guide to Trans Allyship and Empathy, by Kenny Ethan Jones
Information for allies:
- PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF)
- GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People
- Advocates for Transgender Equality ally guide
- Human Rights Campaign ally guide
Places to look for therapy and professional support:
- Psychology Today
- Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx
More transgender families:
- YouTube Channel: Great Scotts
- YouTube Channel: Jammidodger
- TikTok: TransitionTogether
- The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women’s Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations
- Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman
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