Plan Your Dream Wedding Without Parental Stress in 5 Steps - # 165 - Stress-free Wedding Planning

Episode Transcript
Available transcripts are automatically generated. Complete accuracy is not guaranteed.
(00:01):
Has anyone in your familystarted making decisions for you?
Are you feeling pressure to makechoices that aren't really yours?
We've seen it all.
We have mom who wantsto relive her wedding.
We have dad who wants to invite gueststhat you don't even know, either
it be from work or from his bowlingleague and that aunt who thinks

(00:23):
they get to choose your cake flavor.
We get it.
Family matters, they usually meanwell, but that doesn't make navigating
their expectations any easier.
So how do you stay respectful withoutlosing control of your big day?
Today we're giving you fivepractical steps to handle their
expectations without the drama.

(00:44):
Thanks for joining us.
Hi, I'm Sal from After Hours Events ofNew England, We'll answer these questions
and more in today's edition of theStress-free Wedding Planning Podcast.
Welcome to this edition of our podcast.
Thank you for joining usand lending us your ears.
I'm Sam from Atmosphere Productions.
Listen now and discover how toplan your dream wedding without

(01:07):
parental stress in five easy steps.
These are wedding insider secrets fora stress-free, fun and memorable day.
Our podcast helps engage couplesnavigate wedding planning complexities
while addressing family expectations.
We will guide you through the journeyof creating the perfect wedding
day without unnecessary stress.

(01:30):
By the end of this edition, you'llget concise tips on budgeting,
wedding party management, ceremony,reception, planning, and more.
Perfect for anyone planning a weddingall in 30 minutes or less, trust us.
You don't want to miss this.
Welcome to Stress-free WeddingPlanning, the podcast that will
transform your wedding planningjourney from chaotic to enchanting.

(01:50):
Sal and Sam bring over 80 years ofcombined wedding expertise and exclusive
insider information to the table.
If you're recently engaged, feelingthe pressure of wedding planning.
Struggling with family expectations, butstill dreaming of a joy filled wedding.
You've come to the right place.
Get ready to unveil thebest-kept wedding secrets.
Discover practical tips andstrategies and learn life-changing

(02:12):
lessons for a stress-free wedding.
Your unforgettable wedding day awaits.
We're here to take you on a transformativejourney of love, laughter, and memories,
so don't miss out on the podcast.
That just might change your life.
This is the Stress-free WeddingPlanning Podcast with Sal and Sam.
On today's podcast, we'll explain howto plan your dream wedding without

(02:33):
parental stress in five steps.
Hi, I'm Sal from After HoursEvents of New England, the
experts in creating a stress-freeunforgettable wedding experience.
We bring energy, professionalism,and a passion to making every
couple's big day truly special.
Visit us at After HoursEvents Of N.E. dot com.
That's After Hours Events Of N.E dot com.

(02:57):
Learn more about our experienceand journey to help you with
Stress-free wedding planning and thetrailer or pilot of this podcast.
We are here to help you cut throughthe chaos and actually get you to enjoy
your engagement because let's face it.
Wedding planning shouldbe fun, not frustrating.
Stick with us.
We're gonna give you fivepractical steps to handle family

(03:19):
expectations without the drama.
Hi, I'm Sam from the Award-WinningAtmosphere Productions.
Wedding Entertainment with ExpertKnowledge and the difference in
quality specializing in live ceremonymusicians and cocktail hour string
musicians plus lighting, and anelegant and classy presentation.
We have exactly what you need.

(03:40):
Visit us at Atmospherehyphen Productions dot com.
That's Atmosphere hyphenProductions dot com
Step one, setting boundaries early.
Before your guest listgrows into a small city.
Sit down as a couple anddecide what you both want.
What do you want for a vibe?
What are your priorities?

(04:01):
And what you absolutelydon't want is just important.
That becomes your North Star andevery decision moving forward.
You don't wanna wait until mom all ofa sudden hires your second cousin's
band or your future phone law startssending you requests for suggestions
of names that should be on that list.

(04:21):
Boundaries work bestwhen you set them early.
That is absolutely so important.
Think of it like laying down ablueprint before building a house.
This is important stuffto get things done right?
The key.
Be respectful.
But clear.
Say something like, "we love yourinput, but we decided to keep things

(04:41):
intimate." Or " we're handlingthis part ourselves, but we'll
definitely reach out if we need help."
Boundaries aren't aboutshutting people down.
They're about protecting your peaceand keeping your wedding aligned, what
really matters with you as a couple.
Just as a reminder, joinus on our YouTube channel.

(05:01):
Just search for the Stress-free WeddingPlanning Podcast with Sal and Sam.
Like, comment, subscribe,and get it first.
Now, step two is assigning a point person.
Every family has one.
You know that the organizer, the fixer,the comedian, and the family member that

(05:21):
says, I know a guy that can do this type.
You know them.
Instead of fighting their energy, use it.
Give them a job that keeps them involved,and out of the way, but also focused.
Let's say your future mother-in-lawis dying to get involved.
Instead of letting her run buck wildwith your seating chart, ask her to

(05:44):
research local bakeries or coordinatehotel blocks for out-of-town guests.
Something that keeps themon point, but outta the way.
This makes her feel important and keepsher out of the areas you want to control.
Think of it like, youknow the forest fires.
They do a controlled burn.
You are channeling the fire.

(06:05):
Not letting it consume everything.
And if anyone asks why they'renot involved, it's easy.
Just say, "we've alreadygot someone helping us with
that. Thanks so much though."
We've just explained setting boundariesearly and assigning a point person.
Coming up next, understanding "their"perspective, compromise strategically

(06:27):
and have the tough talks as a team.
But first.
If you have a question or concern, go nowto Facebook and join us on the Stress-free
Wedding Planning Community and now inthe Connecticut Wedding Advice Community.
You can also join uson our YouTube channel.
Just search for Stress-free WeddingPlanning Podcast with Sal and Sam.

(06:48):
Like, comment, subscribe,and get it first.
Experience the magic of your SpecialDay with Fitzner Productions, our
premier wedding videography companybased in Middletown, Connecticut.
Fitzner Productions dot com.
Our mission is to capture your lovestory candidly and authentically
creating stunning high quality videosthat you can cherish for years to come.

(07:11):
Our founder, Carson Fitznercombines technical expertise
with a passion of storytelling.
Ensuring every moment from the excitementof getting ready to the heartfelt
ceremony is beautifully documented.
We offer a range of customizable packages,including drone footage and multi-location
shoots tailored to fit your unique vision.
Let us help you relive the romance,laughter, and tears of your wedding day.

(07:34):
Visit Fitzner Productions dot com.
That's F-I-T-Z-N-E-R productions.com.
Wedding Tip Wednesday is availableon the Stress-free Wedding Planning
Facebook group page every Wednesday.
Join the group for free.
It's Wedding Tip Wednesday time.
But first, the most romantic lovestory isn't Romeo and Juliet who
died together at the end, but grandmaand grandpa who grew old together.

(07:58):
Ah, that's nice.
I like that.
Check your credit.
That's the wedding tip for this Wednesday.
Sign up for a credit card with arewards program, from airline miles to
great shopping deals, consolidating.
All wedding-relatedpurchases to this card.
It will help you accumulatethousands of reward points, which

(08:20):
could be used for your honeymoon.
And just a little side note, I did thiswith my business, American Express and got
one free round trip ticket to Australia.
So it does work!
And that's another weddingTip from Sal and Sam.
Wedding Tip Wednesday is availableon the Stress-free Wedding Planning
Facebook group page every Wednesday.

(08:40):
Join the group for free.
Welcome back.
Thanks for joining us on our discussion,on planning your dream wedding
without parental stress in five steps.
Hi, I am Sal from afterHours Events of New England.
I'm Sam from Atmosphere Productions.
We've already discussed setting boundariesearly and assigning a point person.

(09:03):
Now our next step.
Step number three, understanding"their" perspective.
Now take a breath.
When someone gets emotional or pushyabout your wedding, it's almost never
because it's about the cake or the music.
It's about their feelings.
they're feeling nostalgic oreven a little bit left behind.

(09:25):
Try to put yourself in their shoes.
A parent might be grieving the fact thatyou've grown A sibling might be feeling
left out because the attention is on you.
Even weird requests often come froma place of wanting to feel connected.
For example, if Dad insists on walking youdown the aisle to his favorite song from

(09:46):
1984, maybe it's not just about the song.
Maybe it's about having that meaningfulmoment together before you get married.
You don't have to say yes to everyrequest, but understanding why somebody's
asking can help you to respond withgrace instead of defensiveness.
and step number four.
Compromise Strategically.

(10:08):
Here's the truth.
You can't win every battleand still have your sanity.
Just not gonna happen, but you canchoose the ones worth fighting for.
Strategic compromise isthe name of the game.
So your future father in lawwants to give a 15 minute toast.
Maybe you gently suggest a speechat the rehearsal dinner instead.

(10:28):
That's a win-win.
If it's a small detail that doesn'tchange the heart of the day, let it go.
If it's something that will keep you upat night, like your ceremony vows, the
music, the timeline, stand your ground.
Think of it like a budget.
You only have so much emotional energy.
Spend it where it counts.

(10:50):
Step five.
Have the tough talks as ateam ? When conflicts come
up, and trust me, they will.
You gotta face them as a united front.
"We", that's your partner and yourself.
"We", "we've decided".
That's the wording that you have to use.

(11:10):
It's not, " this is my decision" or"this is his decision" or "her decision".
"WE" is the most powerfulphrase in wedding planning.
It shows your families that you'remaking decisions together as one that
you are not just folding under pressureor pitting one side against another.
You are a united front, and if oneof you is more of a, peacekeeper

(11:35):
type, don't leave them hanging.
Protect them, have their back.
Even if it's just a quick, "we'reboth on board with this." It also sets
the tone for your future marriage.
Teamwork and communication,that's what it's all about.
And shared decision making.
That's the good stuff right there.
Finally, your wedding should reflect you,not a mashup of family agendas, distant

(12:01):
cousin requests or childhood expectations.
This is your celebration and itshould feel like a joyful reflection
of who you are as a couple.
When you apply these five steps,boundaries, delegation, empathy,
compromise, and teamwork, you createa space where your loved ones can feel
valued without hijacking your vision.

(12:23):
And here's a bonus.
When your family sees how confident andunified that you are, they tend to relax.
People push less whenthey feel gently guided.
So by leading with love and withclarity, you are setting the tone
for a peaceful, unforgettable day.

(12:44):
Now as you spend the next week planningyour wedding, if you want me, Sal, or
our community of stress-free engagedcouples and wedding experts to answer any
wedding-related questions, then join us inthe Stress-Free Wedding Planning Facebook
group.
Once you're in, go ahead and shareyour concerns and worries, and
we'll let you know if you are onthe right track or if there are

(13:04):
things you need to work on.
The link to join us is in theshow notes of this edition, or
go to Facebook and search for theStress-Free Wedding Planning community.
Remember to do something nice forsomeone today, and if you can't,
then do something nice for yourself.
If you've enjoyed what you've justheard, leave a review and share it
with a friend or someone who wouldbenefit from this information.

(13:25):
Until next time, it's TTFN.
Ta-ta for now.
Thank you for listening to this edition.
A new edition is released every Wednesday.
Subscribe and get it first.
We'll catch you then.
Ciao!
The Stress-free Wedding PlanningPodcast is produced and copyrighted by
Atmosphere Productions in associationwith After Hours Events of New England.

All Episodes

Plan Your Dream Wedding Without Parental Stress in 5 Steps - # 165

Episode Transcript

Popular Podcasts

On Purpose with Jay Shetty

Crime Junkie

Cardiac Cowboys

.css-15opob5{left:0;position:absolute;top:0.8rem;} All Episodes

.css-14f5ked{margin:0;word-break:break-word;display:-webkit-box;-webkit-box-orient:vertical;box-orient:vertical;-webkit-line-clamp:2;overflow:hidden;}Plan Your Dream Wedding Without Parental Stress in 5 Steps - # 165