Lori Woodley: The #1 Thing Kids Need from Adults Right Now

In this powerful conversation, Darin sits down with Lori Woodley — veteran school counselor, advocate, nonprofit founder, and author — to explore how we can transform education, parenting, and even workplaces through emotional intelligence, authenticity, and radical accountability.

With 30 years of experience in schools and the nonprofit All It Takes, Lori shares what kids really need to thrive in today’s hyper-pressured, tech-driven world — and why the answer always comes back to genuine care, resilience, and presence.

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What You’ll Learn

[00:00] Welcome to SuperLife and sponsor intro
[05:21] Introducing Lori Woodley: School Counselor Advocate of the Year
[07:52] The gift of setbacks: how rejection led her to a career she loved
[09:34] Why surrendering control often opens doors we couldn’t imagine
[11:10] The pandemic’s impact on kids and why Lori started her nonprofit in 2010
[12:38] Early warning signs of mental health decline among kids
[13:52] How unrealistic expectations overwhelm educators and families
[16:01] Why Lori still believes in public schools — and how parents can advocate
[18:28] Educators aren’t mental health professionals… but they can still make a difference
[23:34] How one positive or negative comment from a teacher changes a child’s life
[25:39] Creating trusted spaces: why teachers must heal themselves too
[27:11] The “pity party” culture in staff rooms and how it spreads hopelessness
[29:07] Lori’s framework: Notice – Use – Act, and her book SEL Muscle Mastery
[35:39] Meeting people where they are, instead of “should-ing” on them
[40:26] Why autopilot keeps us stuck — and Lori’s “cross backwards” exercise
[44:03] Two steps forward: how small disruptions in routine spark transformation
[50:29] Tools for everyday life: don’t take things personally, radical accountability, noticing needs
[53:35] How appreciation styles can fracture relationships if misunderstood
[55:32] Why service-driven people struggle to receive recognition
[58:14] Hustle culture, shame, and learning to embrace rest
[01:06:10] The blame cycle between schools, parents, and kids
[01:07:24] Respect and care: why kids don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care
[01:12:00] Building belonging and attachment through simple daily gestures

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Find More from Lori Woodley

• Website: All It Takes

• Instagram: @lori.woodley

• Book: SEL Muscle Mastery

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• Instagram: @darinolien

• Podcast: SuperLife

• Website: https://superlife.com

• Book: Fatal Conveniences

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Key Takeaway

“Kids don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care. When we build cultures of authentic care — in schools, homes, or workplaces — we create the safety and connection that allow learning, healing, and tr