Goals Have a Price Tag—Are You Ready to Pay It?

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Everything that we want in life does
come at some price,
and that's not a bad thing.
It's not a reason to not want it.
It's not a reason to give
up on our goals.
Instead, it's really a reason to lean
in more, figure out what
currency are we willing to pay.

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[music]
Welcome back to another episode of The
Fasting Method podcast.
This is Coach Terri Lance and
I am here solo.
Sometimes I feel like when I do a solo
episode, I'm on a little
bit of a rant, so

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I wanted to think of a way to describe
these so that they were not negative.
You know, this is not a Terri's diatribe,
but I looked up in ChatGPT
to see if it could help me find a better
definition or a better word.
And what I found is
Terri's Turbo Talk.

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So let's go for one of Terri's
Turbo Talks today.
The theme I've been thinking about wanting to
share with you has something to
do with what you are willing
to do to achieve the goals
that are important to you.
I'm trying to capture the idea
that everything we want in life,

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whether it's success,
weight loss, more knowledge,
better skills, freedom, peace,
or whatever, it really demands
an exchange, some form
of currency.
I couldn't think of a better word than this,
but when I'm talking about currency, I'm
not always talking about money.

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Certainly, some of these things we
can do some things to
achieve them that cost something financially,
but I'm really talking about currency
that isn't always money.
Sometimes it's something else
that is of value to us, like our time,
effort, attention, discipline,

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vulnerability, comfort,
or discomfort.
So in pursuing
things that we want, we exchange
something for, we invest something
in it. We give our comfort,
we give our time, we give our effort,
whatever it is, so that we
achieve the outcome that

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we're desiring.
So really, our desires don't
come for free.
To gain something that's worthwhile,
we have to give something that's
worthwhile in return.
And I think this is really important when
I think about people changing
their relationship with food

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and doing things to
change our health and our weight.
By doing fasting, by doing
time-restricted eating, we
are really giving things that we value
in order to earn
something else that is highly
valued by us.
So if we want to get better

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at something, we have to sacrifice something.
We have to put more effort in even though
it's uncomfortable, even though
it may not be fun.
If we want to build a future
that looks a particular way,
it generally involves some
type of sacrifice of ease in

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the present.
And you've heard this theme in a lot of
different episodes, if you've listened to
others or if you attend any of the TFM
meetings that I run, but
I think it's really an important part of
this journey for all of us to really be
thinking about.
Everything that we want in life does
come at some price,

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and that's not a bad thing.
It's not a reason to not want it.
It's not a reason to give
up on our goals.
Instead, it's really a reason to lean
in more, figure out what
currency are we willing to pay.
So let's say, for example, you wanted to
build confidence in something that you're

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working on or just overall confidence
in your life.
How do you do that?
You take risks.
You keep showing up even when
you don't know that you're going to be
successful yet.
If you want success, what do you invest
to earn that?
You put time into it.
You put effort into it, even when

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you don't get any credit for it, even when no
one congratulates you.
You keep investing.
One of the big reasons I wanted to talk about
this topic today is I think some of us
still struggle with kind of wanting
big things to just happen for us.
You know, changes to occur in our lives

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without effort, without
challenge, without discomfort.
And it's just really not the way it happens.
The cool thing is, is that it means that
we are not just kind of
at the mercy of chance.
You know, we don't have to just wait around
and hope our health

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changes, hope our fatty
liver improves.
We actually get to take
steps to earn
the results that we want.
So in every choice that
we're making, every decision that we make,
we're really paying into that future
that we're building.
We're laying that groundwork.

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So it's really important that we show
up, pay the price, keep
investing because, again,
those valuable things that we want,
they're not free.
They're earned.
So let's talk a little bit about some of
those and how we earn them
and what that looks like.
What I encourage people to think about

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is what is it that you want?
Knowing what's important to
you.
Do you want lower inflammation?
Do you want lower body-fat
percentage? Do you want to wear different
size clothing?
Do you want more mobility?
Do you want better health?

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Do you want to be free of type
two diabetes?
And then think about why is it important
to you. So just saying, "I want
this," often doesn't really
motivate us. But WHY is
it important to you?
What would it mean if you achieved
that thing, or had that thing present

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in your life, or got rid of that thing
in your life?
What will it add, or remove,
or prevent, or delay for your
life?
So let's say for example, you
want to lose 100 pounds because
you know that the strain
that that's putting on your knees and your
hips is making it more

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and more challenging for you to be pain
free. It's making it more and more
challenging for you to
have stamina, to be able to
engage in activities, to travel,
to exercise, to do other
things that might be enjoyable.
So you know that losing that
weight can help relieve some of that pressure

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on the knees and the hips, your back,
your feet, help you feel more
able to be more mobile, help you to engage
in more things.
So then think about what currency
are you willing to invest?
Now, sometimes you have maybe
heard me talk about this, but sometimes

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it is financial currency.
Will you hire a coach?
Will you join the Community?
Will you pay for
something that can
help you?
But there are a lot of ways of investing
that don't actually mean spending
more money.

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Are you willing to put time into
it? Are you willing to put some discomfort,
some delayed gratification?
Are you willing to
handle a social situation differently?
Even though your family and friends
are eating certain food, are you willing

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to not eat that food or not eat
at the event?
What currency are you willing
to invest?
So let's say, for example, one of the things
you know is that you have a lot of
inflammation and you really want to
have a decrease in inflammation
for pain, for your
ability to lose weight more freely,

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and to maybe prevent
continued health problems,
autoimmune problems, and
problems with your mobility, and problems
with your joint health, and things
like that. So what currency
are you willing to invest
to achieve decreasing

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your inflammation?
Are you willing to skip a few meals?
Are you willing to skip a few meals every
week for a while?
Are you willing to forgo some
highly processed foods
or some particular ingredients
that you know result
in inflammation for you?

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Let's say, for example, one of the things you
want to work on is better sleep.
You believe that, if you slept
better, if you had better quality of sleep,
that you would feel better, your
work day would go better, you would
have more patience with people, and,
again, your body would be able to release
weight and heal better.

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What currency are you willing
to invest to get better
sleep?
Will you turn the iPad off
after dinner?
Will you go to bed early enough,
or are you going to stay up and watch
Netflix?
There's that exchange.
Would I love to just lie in bed and watch

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Netflix?
Of course.
But if what is really important to me is
better sleep, I have to be willing
to maybe sacrifice a few episodes,
turn it off earlier, forgo
the entertainment value of it
in order to provide myself that
opportunity to improve my sleep.

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Let's say you already know what you want,
and you know that something that will help
you to achieve it is to do more fasting
than what you're currently doing.
Or if you're brand new to this, to learn
how to fast.
So let's think about fasting.
What does it cost?
What is the exchange that you

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might need to make in order to
build your fasting muscle?
For many of us, it is we have to
break up with the habits of eating.
Some of us are very used to, "These
are my meal times," "These are my snacks,"
"This is what I always do," and we
have to change those habits.
Some of us have created a habit

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of snacking in the evening while we're
relaxing.
If we want to learn how to fast and
achieve the other goals through fasting,
we're going to have to let go
of that habit.
We are going to have to probably face
some discomfort, some
boredom, some uncertainty
about what to do instead.

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That's the currency.
Now the nice thing, again, is we can
figure it out. We can find other
ways to occupy ourselves.
We can learn to meditate, to relax.
We can go to sleep earlier.
There are all kinds of things that we can do
to change that old habit.
We are not a victim to those habits.

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Again, if we're working on creating
our fasting muscle and getting our
fasts to be something that we feel
successful doing, thinking about,
what will we exchange for it?
Sometimes it might mean we don't
attend social events while we're fasting.
For some of us, it might mean we still attend
the events and we don't eat at the events.

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What is the currency here?
It's awkward.
It's hard to not eat while other people
are eating. We have to navigate people asking
or people wondering, people criticizing.
What is it worth to us?
I've gotten to the point now where I
sometimes will go to social events
and not eat because I'm fasting,

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and I feel very comfortable now with how I
handle it around the people that
I would do that with.
So again, thinking about if you
are saying, "Yes, I want to fast
more," "I want to do three 42s,"
or, "I want to learn how to get three 24s
every week for a while and then maybe move
up from there," I want to challenge

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you to think about what is
the currency you're willing to invest?
Because without that, there's no way
to build a fasting muscle by
wishing and hoping it'll just happen.
You have to be willing to invest
what it takes.
And again, oftentimes that is patience.

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It's time.
It's resisting urges.
It's learning new habits.
It's moving to a different part of the house
so that you're not where the food is.
All kinds of things can be
that currency or that 'what
it takes' in order to build that
new habit.

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I often talk in analogies,
and so I was thinking about
an example that many of us could relate
to, even if it's not something we've ever
wanted. But we can imagine it, and we
can picture other people who maybe have
wanted it.
So if you want to drive a
very fancy sports car, let's

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say, if you want to drive a Ferrari.
What is the currency?
What does that cost?
Well, I should have looked this up, but I'm
sure it costs a lot of money.
So, one, to buy it, there is
a financial investment.
But that's not the only investment because
that just means now you own a Ferrari.
But what else does it

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cost?
What else do you have to
invest?
I'm guessing you have to pay money
to maintain it.
You probably don't want to work
on it on your own and change out things
on your own. You might want to actually
invest in a a skilled trades
person who can provide good service

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for that car.
I'm guessing you would probably want
to make sure you get the right fuel for it.
You would not put the cheapest fuel
available. You would invest
in the right fuel, and
that fuel might not be available at the gas
station near you, so you might have to drive
across town or go somewhere to get that

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fuel.
You're going to have to ensure that the
environment won't ruin it.
You know, maybe you don't want to drive your
Ferrari on a dirt
road where there are a lot of potholes
and ruts and things.
You're going to make sure that you drive it
on roads where the quality
of the roads aren't going to damage

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things in the car that are going to help you
maintain it.
So again, it wasn't just the financial
investment to get the Ferrari.
Now, you have to do things to maintain the
Ferrari and live in a
way that suits a Ferrari.
And if that's the body that you want, if you
want a body that is optimal,

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and working well, and free of
pain, and free of excess
health concerns, and excess body
fat, what currency
Will you forgo snacks?
Will you skip some meals
and get some good fasts in there?

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Will you risk other
people commenting that you're fasting
and they don't understand it?
Will you invest
figuring out how to avoid
temptations and urges?
Will you be willing to
sit with your stomach grumbling

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and keep fasting to get to
that healing place?
Will you work on the sleep?
Will you work on movement?
Will you work on the other things that help
make fasting more successful?
Will you choose foods that work for
your body? Again, will you resist
the temptation to eat foods that you know

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caused you inflammation, that caused
you high insulin spikes?
What are you willing to invest
to reach your goals?
Now, the other thing that I wanted to say
about this, and this might be
me being a little bit of a devil's
advocate here, but I think

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this is one of those things we all have to
really consider.
It's easy to want things,
and sometimes we find it hard to
commit to the steps
to invest.
So, for example, I have
for a long time wanted to get back
into doing a form of exercise

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that was more routine and involved
resistance training, weight-bearing
exercises, and things.
So I finally, recently invested
in a personal trainer.
I'm going three times a week.
What is that requiring?
One, it did involve a financial

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investment.
Now, if I were not able to do that financial
investment, there are other ways I could
still get that.
It would be different.
But for me at this time, that
was an investment I was willing to make.
What else does it cost though?
What other currencies?
Time.
I have to show up three days a week at

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8:00 AM.
That means I can't do work things at that
time. I need to drive there.
I need to drive back.
So it actually means taking two hours
out of my day, three days a week.
Now, there have been other times in my life
where I was not willing
to invest that currency.
And you know, to some of us, we might think

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of that as an excuse.
I said I wanted it, but I wouldn't
get up and do it.
I wouldn't drive to the work out.
I wouldn't make the financial
investment.
And that's okay.
It's okay to not be willing to
invest in it, but I think we have
to be really honest with ourselves that

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we can't keep saying
that something is really important to us,
and yet not be willing
to really dig in and figure
out what the exchange is and what
of that exchange we are willing to do.
If we are not willing to do
what it takes, if we're not willing to make

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that exchange, then we have to work
on accepting the results that we
have, rather than
keep wanting something that we're not
actually willing to do the work for.
Now, some of you know, I love to
watch the show My 600-Pound Life.
One of the reasons I like to watch it is

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because I think this point
that I'm talking about in this episode is
so evident there.
These people are willing to do a very
big thing. Some of them have to travel
a thousand miles, and it's very
painful for them to travel
to go see this doctor.
And then in order to have this surgery, they

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have to move there and they have to have
someone move there with them.
So they need to have a friend or family
member or their entire family move
to Houston with them in
order to do this program.
They want for
a second chance in their life is what many of
them describe it, to save their lives,

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because they know that at any
time they could die based on
the severity of their health
complications due to their obesity.
And time and time again, you
watch the struggle.
It is not easy to just
make this exchange and say, "Yes, because

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this is so important, I will do anything."
Well, actually, it's easy to say that,
but it's not so easy to do that.
This is why we have a podcast.
This is why we have a community
of people all working on these
goals together.
This is why TFM has coaches
to help people do this.

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Wanting it is not enough.
Wishing for it is not enough.
We have to dig in and be honest
with ourselves about what
currency are we willing to invest?
So to wrap up Terri's Turbo
Talk for today, I wanted to
just really reiterate the idea

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that this notion
of there being an exchange rate that
we need to invest to get
what we want, it's just a reality.
I have spent so much of my life hoping
and wishing that
I could be at a certain weight,
that I could achieve certain goals, that

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I could conquer some health concerns
just by sheer will
and wanting it.
And I'm here to tell you, I'm sure you've
all figured this out for yourselves, but it
doesn't work that way.
So my hope is that after listening
to this today, you will look at some of
the things you want in your life -

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the weight loss, the health
improvements, the better sleep,
the better mobility, better
relationships, a better relationship
with food, acceptance of your body,
more self-confidence - all of these
things that you want, and start
looking at what do they require?

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What does it cost to have these
things?
Time.
Patience.
Commitment. Discipline.
What does it take and what
And if you haven't heard me or someone else
say this lately, you're worth
it.

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I hope you're willing to invest whatever it
takes, whatever time, whatever effort,
whatever discomfort (obviously,
as long as it's safe).
But I hope that you value
yourself enough that you
recognize it doesn't matter
what the currency is, it doesn't matter
the price.

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You are worth it and you just need to
do it on a daily basis,
one step at a time.
So thanks for listening to my Turbo
Talk today, and please take some
time to reflect on this.
What changes are you going to make?
What mindset shifts do you need to
tackle in order to

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invest in your goals?
And do what it takes.
We will be back next week with another
episode of The Fasting Method podcast.
Until then, take good care.

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