280. You’re Not Falling Behind in Life, Here’s The Proof with Kim Rogne

You cannot do big things if you don’t slow down. We're tackling that ever pesky, always present feeling of overwhelm. We live in such a hustle society where the to-do list keeps growing, everything keeps happening, and you can’t shake that hamster wheel feeling.

Kim Rogne is a high performance coach, and she specializes in supporting working moms. The way that Kim approaches this work is she really talks about the phase of life that you're in, understanding what that phase brings to your life, what you can and cannot do in that phase, but also remembering that that phase ends.

Kim started For the Love of, a personal and professional development company where she’s a high-performance coach and keynote speaker. She took up coaching after a traumatic skiing accident forced her to slow and really reflect on what she wanted the second half of her best life to be. Prior to coaching, she’d managed multiple real estate brokerages, but she was burnt out.

She’d given herself two months’ notice to figure out her next move, when a friend told her she’d pay Kim to coach her. She knew then she’d start her own business.

“As much as I coach and I teach and I’ve written about mindset, I don’t always have my own mindset in check, and hearing it from somebody else helped me cross that bridge,” says Kim.

Kim believes overwhelm is based on choices. It’s based on having high standards and comparing ourselves to others. She works with working moms and part of that means acknowledging the phases these working women are going through.

A 30-year-old with young children can’t compare to Kim talking about waking up at 5:15 a.m. to journal and sip her coffee. It’s just not realistic. It’s not that you’re falling behind, you’re comparing yourself to others who aren’t at the same stage in life as you are.

“I think it's really just taking a step back and asking the question, ‘what can I do right now based on the phase of my life that I am in without comparison,’ ” says Kim.

It’s also owning your choices – deciding what you are going to choose. It’s also allowing yourself some rest and recognizing when to have that downtime. There is no right or wrong way to rest, it’s about figuring out what works for you … and doing it.

Kim says one of two of her clients both took a month off. They learned that their business could survive without them and what it meant to be recharged. What you can do right now matters and it’s sufficient.

“[Allow] yourself to be okay and trust yourself when you're like, ‘this is enough. I don't need to do more,’” says Kim.

When Kim started her business, she committed to a few things: her word of the year was “confident” – she would embody confidence internally and externally; she hired a social media director, and she was going to do daily mindset journaling.

January 3, 2023, was her first entry – she had three borrowed prompts: I will let go of, I’m grateful for and I will focus.

She started sharing her entries with a friend. It was their way of holding each other accountable. Somehow, this expanded to her clients sending snapshots of their entries. The journaling was working.

Kim worked with her sister, a publisher, to rethink the journal. They chose new prompts. For the Love of was built from three parts: planning your week for success, mindset prompts and an end of week reflection.

As women, we tend not to brag about our accomplishments; sometimes we forget them. We push through and keep going. Take a moment to recognize what you’ve done.

Connect with Kim Rogne and download her personal growth journal: https://stan.store/KimRogne/p/floself

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