136 - Nothing Lasts

It may sound negative to think about things being temporary, but I find it makes me appreciate things much more. If our pets, loved ones, belongings, our lives were not temporary, it would be easy to be complacent. Let's get the most out of the time we have.

 

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Episode Transcript

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So I'm finding, like, the olderI get, the more I think about, like, the temporary, temporary nature of things. Like, I'm about to turn 51 and, you know,

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I just think, like, I don't knowhow much time I have left. And like, do I have time to accomplish all the things that I want to accomplish? I feel like
I do, but I mean, obviously,obviously, nobody knows how much time you have. Like, I could have easily not have made it this far, so who knows? But
like, let's just say I do havemore, you know, a good amount more time. I feel like I can accomplish all my goals, but at the same time, like, this sort

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of temporary nature of things,the more I think about it, and I try to think about it on a positive way, and not like, fucking whatever the term is,
like doom and gloom kind ofthing, but like the idea that everything is temporary, you know, it's a powerful thing when it, when you, when you utilize
it, You know, a certain way, itkind of makes you very grateful for the time that you do have. And I have some examples. I mean, like for my own personal

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goals, you know, like I startedthe graffiti company, Machin studio in 2015 so it's like 10 years has already gone by, and, you know, of course, you can
always look back on things inretrospect, and I'm like, Man, if I knew what I knew now back then, like, how much further along would I be? Like, I didn't

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know anything about marketing orselling products, like, I had a business before that, but it was a service business, and it's that's a different thing. When
you're delivering digitalservices, it's like the, you know, there's a lot of logistics that are just way different. And so, you know, when I think,

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like, now, now I have thisknowledge, and I know what I need to do and all that kind of stuff. So, like, obviously, things will go faster, kind of
losing my train of thoughtalready, but I'll go back to some examples of, like, things being temporary. So like, if anybody had gone to the old
Pedro location, you'd know thatI had a lot of dogs. You know, like, I had five dogs when I was there, so anytime anybody would come in, maybe then, not the

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last year, because I wasn'tthere as much. But before that, like, I actually lived in the back and, like, I lived there with my dogs. So when people
would come in, like, all thedogs would freak out, you know. And I had five of them, so it was kind of a, you know, pretty loud. And now out of those five,
only two are still here and andso the two that are here, one of them is still really young, because somebody found her while I was at the Pedro shop, and

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they said she was really youngat the time, so she's only a few years old, and she's a small dog, so it it's highly likely that she's going to be around
for quite a while. But the otherdog, she just turned 14, so like, you know, losing those other ones, the other three dogs, Hooper, HERBIE and shorty,

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you know, it's made meappreciate the time that I have, excuse me, the time that I have with her, you know, hopefully, hopefully she has a good amount
more time, because she's a smalldog, but you really never know. So like, every day I look at her and I think, like, you know, this is I don't, I don't know. I

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don't want it to sound bad, butI'm like, she's not gonna be here forever. So, like, it really makes me, like, urgent about making sure that the time
that I have with her is good,you know. So, like, I, I try to remind myself to play with her and all these kind of things and like, and also, you know, being
urgent about the the idea thatyou only have these things for a certain amount of time, makes you take care of them more, you know. So, like, I have this

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feeling that, like, if you are,like, conscious of the idea that, like, I only have this for a certain amount of time, I feel like you're gonna take care of
that better than you would ifyou thought that you had forever. It's sort of like, and I was kind of thinking about that on all these levels. So
like, this dog, for example,like, I know that she's not going to be here forever as much as I would want her to. So, like, I'm more urgent about

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making sure she has all thethings that she needs, not that, I mean, like, I love dogs, so not that I wouldn't do that anyway, but it's like, like, an
example is like I was pettingher belly, and like I felt almost like a lump, like, and this probably isn't even a good thing, but I took her to the
vet, and I was like, I was like,she's got a lump on her stomach, and you just look at it. And. Sure it's not something serious. And, like, they couldn't even

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find it, so they called me back.And, like, it was the funniest. I wish I had gotten a video, because she's kind of feisty. So, like, there was two vet
techs kind of like, holding herso, so her her belly was up and she had this little, little muzzle on, you know, she's looking at me like, the fuck is

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going on here? And they werelike, can you show me what, what, what you're seeing? And I was like, I was just pinching this little I was like, this,
what is this? And they're like,that's just fat, you know, but you know. So maybe that's not a maybe that's not the best thing, but maybe it is, I don't really
know, because you know, two oftwo of the other dogs that passed away, they both had lumps, and that contributed to them passing so But then, if you

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think about it, like inrelationships too, like, You know, you never know, like, what's going to happen in a relationship. So like, for me, I
think, like, like, I feel likeI'm in this relationship forever. I mean, obviously it's not completely up to me, but I'm personally not going anywhere,
and she doesn't seem to be tookeen on going anywhere either. But, um, you know, this sort of thought process for me, it makes me not I don't know, I kind of

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hate cliches, but it makes menot sweat the small stuff. And we have, like, a really good relationship, we don't fight or anything like that. But like the
old me would have been annoyedby things that the current me is not annoyed by, and I think it's partially because I have sort of experienced the temporary nature
of everything you know, fromloved ones to relationships to all these kinds of things. So like, the fact that I don't know, I don't want to say

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anything that sounds wrong.Because, like, you know, I don't, I don't want it to sound like I'm annoyed by anything that she does, because that's
that's not the case. But like,the way I used to be, I used to, I used to overthink things a lot, and I would probably put meeting meaning onto things in
the wrong way. And so it would,it would upset me, and I think I ruined relationships by being like that, you know, just being sort of unpleasant to be around,

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because I was kind of easy to toget. Put it, I was, I was pretty susceptible to being in a bad mood. And it was because I think I was overthinking things. And
so now, every now and thensomething happens where, like, I I feel like I start to overthink things, and then I think, like, that's not, that's not even

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important to think about like,and just sort of, you know, I just sort of brush past it. And I don't even know if that's really related, like, the
temporary idea of things, but Ithink it kind of is because, like, I hmm, back to the original thing. It's like, you just don't know how much time
you have. Like, you don't know,you know, like, every now and then when I get pissed at one of my dogs for doing something, like, I'll be mad at them for

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like, a very brief period oftime, and then I'm like, man, if, if something happens, and this is the last interaction that I have, like, that's gonna
suck forever. So, like, Iimmediately, like, just be like, Alright, whatever you know. So what you took a shit on my carpet or whatever you know. And
I, I try to, I try to snap outof it. Sometimes it's harder, you know. Sometimes I stay pissed off for for a long time. But this the idea of, like, the

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the temporary nature of ofeverything, it just really makes me appreciate everything that I have a lot more and the time that I have, you know, and so I
have a great deal of things thatI would like to accomplish, and I I would like to be further along than I am, but, but it's sort of like, Look, I I still

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have the time that I have, somakes me feel a little more urgent about it. And I guess sort of the problem is like, and what I'm trying to figure out,
and partially, you know, talkingthis out is another sort of trying to help myself feel that urgency, because it's easy to waste time, and especially

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nowadays, like with all thedistractions of of all the shit that's on the phone and social media, and everybody has access to you, and well, if you Let
them, you know, people can callyou and text you and send you DMS and all these kind of things. And then I saw a meme video where this guy was like,

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he was standing there looking athis phone laughing, and the text said, like,
something like, you know. I wassupposed to call this guy an ambulance, but when I opened it up, Instagram was on the phone, and I just started scrolling,
and there's a guy, like, injurednext to him, and I was like, fuck. Like, I mean, obviously not at that extreme, but I do that all the time where I'll be

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like, Oh, I gotta, you know,send so and so a message, or I have to, you know, pay a bill, or whatever it is, and I pick up my phone and I unlock it, and
it's on Instagram, and then Ijust start looking at shit, and I'm like, fuck, what was I gonna do? I don't even know what I was gonna do. And so, like, the

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level of distraction is so highthat it's so easy to waste time. And so I'm trying to get myself to think of this urgency like when I was, when I was a full
time designer running, you know,machine, when it was a motion graphics company, if I was given a deadline, you know, let's say it was two weeks out they want

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To have the first look at amotion graphics job. I have two weeks to do it. I'm definitely not spending the whole two weeks 100% and I'm definitely not
going to start it until, like,at the most, like three days before they're due, and most likely, they were either started the day before they were due, or

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the day they were due, like, I'dget up a little earlier and just crank it out. And the reason, well, I don't know that's like a normal thing in the design
world, is to procrastinate. Whenyou're given a deadline, you procrastinate all the way till the end, until you have just enough time to get it done. It's

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like, very common, but like, I'mtrying to incorporate that sense of urgency that you have when you procrastinate all the way to the last minute, that urgency
that you have right then whenyou start like, how do you apply that to every day. You know what I mean? I think it would be an interesting thing to be able to

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do to a certain extent, becauseit's kind of stressful. So you don't want to, like, completely live your life like that. But there's something about urgency
that really snaps you into thezone, you know, like the flow state. If you're familiar with the flow state, it's like, it's very difficult to get into the

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flow state when you have adeadline, if you start really early. For me and for a lot of people, like, if I have two weeks to get something done, if
I started the day I heard that,and I'm like, I got two weeks, I'm going to start today, I I would not feel any sense of urgency at all, and I don't
think I would really easily beable to get into a flow state. But when I'm doing it the day before or the day of, and I'm like, I just have to get this

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done or, you know, I'm going topiss off my client, and I don't, I don't miss deadlines, you know. So there's just a certain kind of magic that happens in
that time when things are justvery, very urgent. So I'm trying to, I'm trying to figure out how to sort of harness that energy into sort of every day. So when

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I wake up in the morning and Ihave my power list and I have all these things I need to do, you know. And one of those things you know, today was to do
a workout. But I didn't feel anyurgency at all. Like I was, like, I don't have to be at the shop until later this afternoon, so like, I'll get the workout

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done at some point. Buteventually I talked myself into doing it. And then I have other items on my power list, you know, and it's five o'clock
right now, and this is one ofthem, and I have some other things I need to finish, and then I have some shit I have to get to at night. So now I'm
feeling the urgency to get allthese tasks done. So how do you add how do you, how do you, how do you do that when there isn't a deadline. That's maybe, if

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you're watching this on YouTube,and you watched all the way to this point, I would love to hear your feedback. Are you able to to get this sense of urgency,
especially for young people?Like, if you feel like you have all the time in the world, but as we know, like, you don't know that. Like, like, when I started

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this podcast with cub, I did notthink that I would be doing these solo. Like, he was a super healthy guy. He was super positive. Like I didn't think, I
didn't think he would be goneright now. But here we are, you know, like we only got, I don't know, nine months with him on this, on this show. So I wish I

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had that urgency, you know,because we could have got a lot more episodes out. So I'm trying to figure out how to incorporate that, incorporate that. So I'm
gonna, I'm gonna work on it andtry to figure it out. Then maybe I'll record the. Other one, but if you want to leave me some feedback, you know, go on the

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YouTube channel bus MSK andleave a comment on this video, or you can always send me an email, [e-mail] or DM me on Instagram at bus 166
love to hear from you, and Ihope this was helpful. I'll see you next time.

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