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I sent this out as an
email, I think, last week, and I
was talking about protectingyour energy, in a sense, and
kind of looking out for thingsthat steal your energy. And you
know, I think it's since socialmedia came out, I think it's
worse than ever. But actually,I'll just get into some
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examples. So what I'm talkingabout is, so let's say you have
you every day, you have, like, afinite amount of energy, and
then you sleep, and then mayberefresh. You know, some things
can build up. So some days,maybe you don't have as much
energy as you did the daybefore, or maybe you have more.
But the fact is, is, like youhave a certain amount every day
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that can be put towards thethings you want to do. And so if
you look at energy and timetogether, they're sort of
interwoven in a way, at least,that's my perception of it. And
I've been thinking a lot aboutthe things that drain at least
my energy. And I think it'sapplicable to everybody to think
about this kind of thing. Solet's just get into this. So I
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think one of the things thatsparked my, my, my sort of
rethinking about this was I wason a post. It was somebody
else's post, but it wasfeaturing me, and somebody made
this comment. It was directed atme, and I was I didn't even
respond because I'm like, Thisjust doesn't look like it's
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going to go anywhere. But someother people responded, and then
the person responded back, andthen, long story short, I think
it ended up being like 3040, Idon't even know at this point,
but it was just as crazy, backand forth over and over and over
again, and the same things waswere being said by both sides,
and there was multiple peoplegoing back and forth on it. And
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I am only looking at it from theoutside, so I don't know how
much energy was being used byany of the parties involved, but
I've seen this happen before,and I've I've never, well, I
can't say that I've never havebut I try to avoid these kind of
things. Arguing on the internetis not something that I'm
interested in, but you couldsort of tell at least my
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perception, when I was lookingat these comments, that it was
creating a response in thepeople that were participating
in this back and forth. And sothat's kind of what I'm getting
at, is like, you know, one,you're spending your time doing
these things that don't reallyhave a return on your time
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investment, I would say, butyou're also using your energy on
this kind of thing, and so Iwould assume that every time one
of the parties involved maybegot a notification, or they may
even have been sitting on thethe app. This is obviously
speculation. I wasn'tparticipating, but they may even
be just sitting there waitingfor responses to come back, and
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then they'd see the response,and that would trigger a
response in them, you know, somekind of they would get pissed,
or something like that, and thenthey would fire back, and then
the other person would fireback, and they just keep going
back and forth. And I know thatI say, you know, like, I don't
participate in this kind ofstuff, but like, I try not to
get affected at all like I wouldlike to be, you know, I think
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I've talked about this yearsago. Maybe I should make an
episode about this. But one ofmy goals in life is to be unfuck
with able, you know, to acertain point where, you know, I
can take everything objectivelyand not, I guess. I don't want
to be completely, you know,unemotional, unemotional about
these things, but I do want tobe able to take in the
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information and just objectivelylook at it and calmly respond,
rather than having things affectme. And so I've tried to keep
that top of mind, especiallywhen I'm participating in social
media, which I do every singleday, pretty much, because I'm
very active with buildingmachines brand and putting out
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information, and, you know,doing shit like this, you know,
so I'm on there, and so I'm,I'm, I'm a target for negative
responses and, and it's kind ofinteresting, because I never
really Excuse me, I didn'treally take Facebook all that
seriously, but lately, our postsare getting pushed out so much
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on Facebook that it's it's veryworthwhile to put them there,
and it's the most negative placeever, ever, you know, and so I
was losing the battle in termsof not letting these things
affect me to a certain extent.And so I found myself when I
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would go check notifications onInstagram, I would do it
optimistic, optimistically,because generally it's positive.
Every now and then there's alittle sprinkle of negative
stuff. But on Facebook. Look,you know, it's, it's probably
the scales are tilted way morein the negative. So I have
people calling me names andtalking all kinds of shit. And
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so I started being conditionedto expect that when I would,
when I would log into Facebookand see and some people say,
like, I'll just post it andghost it like, don't read that
stuff. But like, I don't feellike that's fair to the people
that are positive. You know, Iwant to be able to interact with
people and stuff. So like, I Mysolution was to try to just go
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into it expecting to see thesethings and and try to, this
isn't a word I use very much,but like, empathize with the
person that's making thosecomments. And so my whole
thought process about that islike, I would imagine that most
people pass things that theydon't like on the internet every
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day and just move on with theirlife. But then there's those few
people that like can't do that.They are, I don't know if they
can't, but there's those fewpeople that like feel the need
to talk shit. And I honestlybelieve that there's something
going on with those people,because I don't think that's
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normal to to want to cutsomebody down like that. I think
it's, I think it's actuallyabnormal and counterproductive
to your own life. And you mightthink that, you know, oh, I'm
gonna make this guy feel badabout himself. And it's like,
maybe for some people, but like,really, I feel like it's
affecting the person making thatcomment more so than anyone,
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because you're sort ofparticipating in this kind of
negative, negative. What's I'mmissing the word. There's a word
that I wanted to use. I can'tremember what it is, but you're
participating in this negativeactivity that I don't think is
good for you. And so I try tolook at those with empathy, and
it's like there must besomething going on with this
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person. And, oh, man, I'm sorryI should have turned that off.
There must be something going onwith this person to not be able
to, you know, just scroll pastsomething they don't like
without talking shit. And sothat makes it a little easier.
But anyway, like, I got a littlebit sidetracked. But so when I
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would log into Facebook, I wouldexpect a lot of shit talking,
and a lot of times I think mostit's probably 70% negative and
30% positive. So I'm not surehow valuable the reach is, but I
looked at the analytics onFacebook, like last week, and we
got 3 million views in 30 dayson Facebook, which I was just
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like, What the fuck that's crazyanyway. So I was losing the
battle, as I was saying, I waslosing the battle in being able
to log on there and not let itaffect me. And so I found myself
when I would just click theFacebook icon, my heartbeat
would speed up a little bit, andI would start getting a little
anxious, because I know I wasgoing to see all of these
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things, you know? And so
back to the point, what that,what that's doing is, is
stealing some of my energy, andI was allowing that to happen.
And so the same thing washappening on that post I was
talking about that there was theback and forth. So like the
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people participating in thatwere using some of their units
of energy for the day toparticipate in something that,
in my opinion, has no return oninvestment on your time or your
energy. So if you think aboutit, along the lines of, you only
have a certain amount of time inthe day and you only have a
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certain amount of energy in theday, why would you spend that on
negative shit? It's you'rewasting both of those things.
And those are very valuablethings you can't get. You can't
get your time back, for sure. Imean, you could, you could
recoup your energy, but, like,once you've, yeah, I guess, I
guess you could recoup yourenergy. And I could try to get
into that as well. Anotherexample that I was thinking of,
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and I've had this happen to mebefore, you know, and it still
does. You have a negativeinteraction with a person, and
maybe it's sort of an argumentor something, and then when the
argument ends and you go yourseparate ways, have you ever
done this where, like you justkept arguing in your mind, like
this person says, I don't know.Maybe I'm crazy, but I feel like
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other people must do this. Letme know in the comments. If
you're on YouTube, if you dothis, I'd be interested to know
or send me an email. But haveyou ever done that where you
know, you you finish theargument and you feel like it's
unresolved, you know, in asense, and then you you continue
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in your own mind, so you'resaying what that person's gonna
say, and then what you weregonna say, it's. Just think
about how ridiculous that is.Like, not only are you wasting
your time, but how much energydo you spend arguing with your
own self? I mean, that's justfucking ridiculous. And I still
do that sometimes it's crazy.It's absolutely crazy, and so I
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don't really know what else totalk well, actually, I got a
couple other things the as faras the concept of recouping your
energy. And I did this one day,and it worked. And so I've been
doing this more often, but therewas one of those days where I
was, I was spending way too muchtime on social media, and I tend
to not consume as much anymore,so I don't get into the Doom
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Scrolling Stuff I do. You know,I look at things, but it's not
the the majority of my time isspent really strangely,
honestly, because I post on somany platforms now and like,
I've created this habit where,where I'm just like, bouncing
around on all the platforms andlike checking comments and
checking all this stuff, andit's just, it's sort of become a
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habit, like, I don't really needto know on a real time basis,
like, what's going on. So I washaving one of those days where I
was like, going and bouncingaround all the the different
platforms that I post on, andsee how things are doing, see
what people are saying, and allthese kind of things. And then I
would get to Facebook, and whenI would go in there, I would
feel the anxiety, and, you know,I would see these negative
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comments, and I'd be like, Ohman, you know, that's annoying.
And so I found that, I foundmyself being incredibly anxious
after doing that for a littlewhile, I don't remember how long
it was, maybe like 45 minutes,just sort of bouncing around and
looking at shit. And so I putthe phone down, and I was like,
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Man, I gotta fucking I gottachill out on this. This is,
like, negatively affecting me,and I have all these other
things that I need to do, andthose other things take time and
energy, and I'm wasting both ofthose things bouncing around and
creating this anxiety, you know?And so what I did was I said,
Okay, fuck this. I'm gonna I'mgonna put the phone down and I'm
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gonna go sit on the couch andI'm just gonna meditate for 20
minutes. So I have this littlemeditation timer, and I just put
that on and did a 20 minutesession. And right after the 20
minute session, I worked outbecause that, you know, releases
endorphins, and also, like isanother way of redirecting the
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energy. Now that I'm thinkingabout it, it might have been
reversed, I can't remember, butit doesn't really matter. Both
of those things together is verypowerful. And once I was done
with both of those things, youknow, I was like, Man, I just
feel great. Like I felt like allmy energy came back, you know,
like I distanced myself from thething that was creating the
negativity and channel that intosome positive things. And so one
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thing I would I could wrap upwith is, is learning to redirect
that energy. So whether it'spositive or negative, or
draining or or energizing, Iguess you could say that there's
still energy being spent. Solike, if you're in a in a place
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where you're participating inthese back and forths, or, like
doing it in your own mind, oryou're, you're actually doing it
online or or something likethat, or through text messages,
having some kind of argument.There's, I think, Andy for Sella
talked about this. I think itwas called a production pivot or
something. And it's, there's, Iguess there's two, two things
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you could say about it. One,it's, uh, recognizing the
feeling that you have when thatstuff is happening, so that that
could be your trigger thatreminds you to do something
positive. So if you're, ifyou're participating in some
kind of activity that's creatingthat negative energy and and you
learn to recognize it as a as atrigger to say, oh, you know
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what, I'm in this cycle of ofnegativity. And that's going to
trigger, trigger my memory. Ican have a trouble right now.
It's, it's, it's a reminder, youknow, to pivot that energy into
something positive. And so youcould do a whole number of
things. And the meditation andworkout thing is, is obviously
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something you could do, or youcould, you know, tackle some
tasks, you know, some naggingtasks that you may have, that
you know, those kind of tasksthat every time you think about
it, you get a little pit in yourstomach and you're like, Man, I
don't want to do that. I don'twant to fill out that paperwork,
or do, you know, make that phonecall or whatever. Maybe you
could do those things. And youknow how that is, like those
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things, you always feel betterafter you do that. You always
feel better after you work out.You always feel better after.
After a meditation session. Sothose could be little triggers
for you. So that's about it.That's all, that's all I can
really think of. I think it's apretty, pretty straightforward
concept. So in parting, justthink about this, like our
energy is ours to manage in thesame way you manage your time.
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So managing your energy, Ithink, is at least as important
as manage managing your time. SoI would say, start being mindful
about it, because I know when Iwas actually conscious of where
my energy was going and whereit's being sort of stolen from.
It made it easier to deal withthese kind of things, and made
it easier to not kind of feedinto it and end up wasting, like
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a whole day, doing this wholeback and forth shit in your
mind. So think about what'sdraining you, what's fueling
you. You know, how can you bemore productive with the energy
that you have, rather thanletting it get sucked away by
some negative shit? So
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all right,
appreciate each and every one ofyou guys who are supporting the
cause and continue to spread thelove and yeah, stay up.