December 3, 2024 • 64 mins
In Episode 6 of The Gray Hair & Daycare Podcast, hosts Frank and Carlo explore the ins and outs of impending fatherhood. Frank shares updates on his wife's pregnancy, including her growing appetite and the "ear of corn" stage. They introduce a new segment called "I Was Wrong," correcting past inaccuracies and highlighting listener feedback.
The duo also delves into product reviews, featuring a high-priced Lululemon diaper bag, and discusses the financial realities of baby preparation. Frank shares humorous anecdotes about his experiences, including the return of "Fartzilla" and a comical encounter with his pastor.
They emphasize the importance of support, preparation, and cherishing every moment of parenthood. Tune in for more laughs and insights on the Gray Hair & Daycare Podcast.
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(00:12):
This is the gray hair and daycare podcast with a combined age of 111 years and a combined IQ right in that same range.
Your hosts, Frank Sirio and Carlo Russo.
Welcome back.
Welcome back guys.
We're here the episode six.
Six.
(00:33):
Six.
We don't, nobody's even seen four or five, but we're just trying to get ahead.
So we're back for six.
Yes, we are back for six.
Very excited to be back.
This is week 23.
Already.
It's moving.
It's flying by.
(00:53):
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
It is flying by.
Even with thinking back through everything that has happened as a part of this, this whole thing, it absolutely is flying by.
So what's the latest update?
Let's figure it out.
Less appetizing this week than we've had in previous weeks.
It's an ear of corn.
So my little girl is the size of an ear of corn.
(01:14):
I love corn.
I know I keep saying I love everything that you do so far.
You like a lot of vegetables.
Yeah, there's a lot.
You must be very healthy.
No, I'm not, but I love it.
I love it with hamburgers and pizza.
Okay, hamburgers, pizza.
So she's the size of a lean ear of corn, long and lean.
So this is the point, though, where she will start to get chubbier.
(01:41):
So basically she starts to get.
The corn's going to pop.
Yes, cute.
She's going to get cuter from here.
Cuter face.
But also a unique thing right now, still translucent.
Oh, I don't know how that superpower.
She can just disappear.
She's an X-Men.
That's it.
(02:01):
So it's still translucent, but that's where we are.
That's where we are.
Yeah.
23.
23 weeks, ear of corn, long and lean, starting to get chubby, which would be supported by some of the things we're talking.
We'll talk about later with Kelly's new dining habits.
Okay.
Can't wait to hear that.
It's going well.
Going well.
We're going to try out now.
(02:23):
I figured this would come.
We even talked about it a little bit, but more from thinking of Trina in the last episode.
But it is as I go through and edit, Kelly wants to be helpful and she listens and watches and points out as she does throughout my regular life when I'm wrong.
So this is going to be a new segment.
(02:44):
I'm not sure what we're going to call it.
Okay.
Maybe it just, she suggested, uh, because I almost never say it that we just call it.
I was wrong.
I was wrong.
So that's here we are.
I mean, that's right to the point.
Yeah.
I was wrong.
I was wrong.
So at this moment it's called, I was wrong until we come up with a better thing.
It might be the permanent name by the time we get through.
(03:05):
Here's another contest.
No, I'm kidding.
No, no more contest.
So I was wrong.
Here we are.
Okay.
So the few things that we figured out, if you recall back to, I'm not sure what episode we talked about.
Meconium.
Yes.
And I, yes, I thought it was Krypton tonight.
Meconium.
And Kelly thought it was important for me to point out that if they do happen to the Meconium comes out in the womb.
(03:32):
Yeah.
Cause it could happen there or in the birth canal or later.
Cause we said prior to this, we said it's okay.
Anywhere.
Yes.
Right.
And apparently it is not.
No, really.
That's a bit.
Yeah.
So it is basically, if it happens in the womb, it is, it is a sign of, of fetal distress.
(03:52):
So that's not a good thing.
So that, if that happens, not, not a good thing.
So there's my, I was wrong there.
The other thing, just in the last episode, we were talking about mama and dad, and I was wrong there too.
Cause I said, I thought that mama was the easy one, but no Ms are much harder to say than D's.
(04:14):
So was that right?
You're so dot, dot new segment.
I was right.
It's not just that I was wrong.
Carla was right.
So I also said, he also said clock first.
That's right.
Clock.
That's right.
So Dada is the Dada is the easy one, not the mama.
Okay.
And the last thing was when we were talking about, we were talking about the fruit cake and I was saying it was cognac.
(04:37):
It is not cognac.
It is brandy.
Okay.
Brandy equally strong.
So, but so it is brandy, not cognac.
If you're going to try to make, did I say I was going to taste that on the show?
You did.
I told her she was excited at first, but then she's like, I probably won't make any.
Cause I can't eat it.
That's right.
Cause she can't have anything with alcohol.
(04:58):
These are fake brandies and scotches and without alcohol.
Well, you can get the taste without the, that's what I suggested.
I'm like, we could just burn the alcohol off, off of the brandy.
But we'll see.
I think just the idea that you're going to try it might be enough for her to give it a shot.
This pastry of what we were talking about this.
I don't see how that would be possible.
(05:21):
No, maybe, I don't know.
Well, you've got to be able to buy it because usually when you see, when you see the people giving it as gifts, it's like wrapped up and stuff.
So maybe it doesn't, maybe you can buy it.
Yeah.
If she doesn't, if Kelly does not want to make it, we will purchase it.
We're going to buy some, it'll be fantastic.
And okay.
We can give it a try.
(05:42):
It's just, you don't even want to think about it.
It really is.
I like, I just don't like it, but I can't even say I don't like it.
I can't even bring myself to try it.
Like it's like, no, it's not.
But anyway, if you want to go for it, everything else I'm going to do on this.
That's right.
You're going to be like, you're like my stunt man.
Like here, try some of this.
(06:03):
I know what I signed up for.
That'll be it.
Okay.
So that, that is the inaugural episode of you were wrong.
I was wrong.
You were right.
See, I can say, I can say it.
It's once in a great while.
So now we can move on to what has become a fan favorite.
(06:26):
The book report.
My God, people are clamoring for my insight into these literary masterworks.
What do we got this week?
So we're doing two at a time because I'm sick of doing that.
I'm just sick of doing the dog ones.
So this is not, if they're bad, you're going to tell us, right?
I mean, you're going to say, don't read this.
(06:48):
Oh, yes.
Okay.
One of these, I'm going to say exactly that.
Oh, really?
Okay.
The other, I'm going to say, I didn't even read it because I already read three, but I'll say the name because we spent 12 bucks on the thing, I guess.
So first one is dogs, bumps, and babies by Aileen Stevenson.
Love her.
(07:09):
First of all, phoning it in with the cover.
Everybody else has got dogs, babies, cute pictures.
Aileen, okay.
It's not going well.
Get better, Aileen.
So a guide to preparing your dog for life with your baby.
Okay.
This woman's an idiot.
No, it's no good.
So it equals the cover.
It's bad.
(07:29):
I don't like it.
Disappointed.
Do not read.
Is there a reason why?
So all the other books kind of approached it from the standpoint of the way you train a dog.
Fundamental to that.
None of basically didn't come at it from that direction at all.
Very unconventional.
(07:49):
I don't, I just didn't, as I read it, if you're reading something like this and you're like, no, that's bullshit.
Like, you know, it's, it's not worth it.
So yeah, this one, you know, we had one, four stars.
Got three, four rattles.
That's right.
Four rattles for the first one that we did.
And then the second one I like because of the audio link, the link for the downloadable baby sounds.
(08:13):
Good idea.
This one, nah, I wouldn't want one, one rattle only because I don't know why they took the time to print it.
So, so that's it.
So dogs bumps and baby, I wouldn't bother with that.
Sorry, Aileen.
And then the last one, because I read all the others, I didn't read this because neither did Kelly.
(08:36):
She's like, I'm like, did, what are you, can tell me what to say about it?
She's like, I didn't read it.
Okay.
But I like this one because at least the name is good and cute picture on the cover.
Please, please don't bite the baby.
Please don't bite the baby.
And please don't chase the dogs.
Would you now, why did you read that first?
(08:59):
I, I, cause I, I listened to my wife and she handed me the, I just finished that.
She, she'd read it.
She's way ahead of me.
She's ahead of me in the reading list.
I was, yeah.
So this one is by Lisa J Edwards, bestselling author of a dog named boo, not, not familiar with the work, but there's this one.
(09:20):
Can't tell you if you want to try it out or not.
Great name.
Post a, and a cute, really cute, really cute kid.
Look at that hair.
Very cute.
Look at that hair.
And then there's the dog.
So that is, so that's going to be it for, for book report instances about dog books.
We're done with the dog books and now we'll be able to move on to actual.
(09:43):
If we were smart, we would have done like four bones and three bones with the dogs.
That's true.
We could, we could have done that.
But we're moving on now.
Now we're back to rattles.
We are, we are moving on from, from the dog books.
You have learned.
Yeah.
Look, the first, the first book in particular, I think was very worthwhile.
(10:04):
And again, because it was very tactical.
Do this, do this, do this.
Gave you, gave you a stuff that will build your confidence, make you feel more comfortable.
And then the second one was largely the same kind of approach, but it had the downloads of the sounds, which we have not tried yet, but we'll, we'll probably be doing that soon.
So I think, I think it's going to be good.
(10:24):
It was worth it.
Yes, definitely, definitely worth it, but happy to be reading about actual children.
And again, you guys can, if you have these books or you want, and you can tell us that, no, you guys were wrong.
You should have read that book.
That was awesome.
Or let us know, let us know how you guys feel about these books.
Yeah, absolutely.
Or if you have other ways, maybe not books, but other ways.
(10:46):
I would love to hear, I would love to hear more about, you know, I've talked to some people that have brought, you know, brought the baby home.
The funny one was my, the, the girl who cuts my hair, Danielle, great girl.
She has, she has a few children and she has little dogs, like Chihuahua dogs.
And she's like, Oh, don't worry.
(11:06):
Like it just, it's not a big deal.
They'll be fine.
And, you know, just, you know, bring a blanket home, let them smell.
I'm like, Oh, it was like, yeah.
I said, they say that in the books, but you know, we do want to make sure we're, we're not letting the dogs up on the bed anymore.
And we're going to get off the couch.
And she's like, Oh yeah, there was that time when, when whatever her dog's name, I don't remember jumped up on the couch and landed on the baby.
(11:30):
And I'm like, Oh, okay.
So maybe not just completely easy, but it was, uh, yeah.
Your dog is probably a lot bigger than a Chihuahua.
My dog.
Yeah.
He can hurt me if he jumps up on the couch and can't see me.
So, yeah.
So we're going to, so it was good.
Definitely the books are worth it, but yeah, if you have a recommendation for another book, I'll put it, I'll put it in the queue and I'll try to get to it.
(11:54):
But generally the ones we've reviewed, uh, have been pretty, have been pretty good.
Um, except for Eileen.
So that's it for book report and we can move on now to the second episode or second installment of the silver Fox mailbox.
So we said we were getting some feedback from our listeners and hopefully by now viewers on, on Facebook.
(12:22):
Also though, we, I've been out and kind of trying to engage with fatherhood and parenting forums on, on Reddit and on X and different contributors on, on those platforms.
And so I've, I asked a question on Reddit the other day about what do you, I'm cut.
(12:43):
We're kind of coming into the third trimester.
What do the experienced dads remember about that and what are their recommendations?
And you know, what do I need to look out for?
And we got a bunch of good responses, but the one, there was one from a Redditor whose name is Texas Redditor.
And he said, the first thing he said was, and this is very true because it's, it's happening already.
(13:08):
Get good and massages.
It's going to be harder and harder for her to get around and sleep comfortably.
Find some time for her to prop up on the couch and get her back or feet rubbed.
It gives you both a little extra bonding time beyond that.
My best advice in this, I think is a good idea and something that I will be having, having to get to take responsibility for the logistics of delivery.
(13:30):
Make sure the bug out bags are packed way ahead of time.
Make sure you got a birth plan written out.
I don't know if I'll do the birth plan.
Make sure the car seat is installed and ready to go.
Is somebody coming to watch the house or feed a pet?
Because we're going to have to have somebody take care of the dogs while we're doing that stuff.
My kids.
Does family know?
Yeah, that's right.
Does family know when to show up at the hospital and what to do when they arrived?
(13:52):
Do you have food stock, et cetera, et cetera.
Make a list and knock it out.
So I think that's great.
That's great advice.
So thank you to Texas Redditor.
But I did want to ask, so like, did you, it was a while ago, but did you have like a bug out bag ready and packed and all that stuff?
Or you just knew your family was going to be kind of swoop in and take care of everything?
(14:12):
No, this is going back 23 plus years.
I think at this point we did not have it ready.
Okay.
23.
I mean, we, yeah, we got closer and closer.
Yeah.
The doctors will tell you, Hey, get home, get a bag ready.
We knew where we were going.
We knew what vehicle we knew all that.
(14:33):
We would go to the exams and all that to the hospital.
So we knew the route, the best route to get there.
We did that.
It's weird because you think it's going to go one way and it never does.
You think, oh, this is the day it's going to happen.
I'm going to be sitting home and everybody's going to be ready and I'm going to get to things.
But in general, it can happen at three in the morning and you're just getting up from sleep and you have no idea what's going on and you're freaking out.
(14:59):
And so the more you have the better.
Planned and prepared.
But I'll tell you this.
I know, I think they still do it.
If you bring your car and the seat to AAA, there's a certain time that they will inspect it and make sure it's on correctly.
That you have installed correctly.
Yep.
Yeah.
That makes sense.
Very important.
(15:19):
They do it.
I don't know if it's once or twice a year or you can call them up and ask.
They'll have officers and they'll check your car.
They'll look at it.
And so that's a cool thing that happens.
But being ready.
Yeah, we were ready, but you're never really ready as long as you get your stuff and you know the route you're going.
(15:40):
Reliable car.
That's one thing.
And the worst thing is also, I don't know if you're going to fall into it, but the weather.
Yeah.
You know, yours is in March.
Yeah.
Beginning of March.
So, I mean, it could be here and there.
So I didn't have to deal with that.
But I could just imagine you're already nervous and it's just a storm out there.
Oh, yeah.
That's.
(16:01):
No.
Yeah.
Yeah.
That would be scary.
But we were ready as much as we could.
Sure.
We had the clothes ready.
We had our route ready.
Our family.
Obviously, we didn't have to even ask.
You knew they were going to be around.
Right.
When we got home, both mothers were there.
My mother, her mother, and then with my brothers and everybody.
(16:21):
So we had that support.
But it's going to be nerve wracking as it is.
So if you can get that list down, you're golden.
Yeah.
Being prepared with stuff like that.
Yeah.
It will be something.
The more you're prepared.
I could be excited.
With anything.
The better.
Right.
Yeah.
Yeah.
I think I think that's going to be good.
And you guys, you'll take that to heart, right?
(16:42):
You'll have everything.
Yeah.
Yeah.
There's so much.
I'm wondering how I think things are going to start happening fast and furious.
Right now, there's not a lot going on.
As far as pregnancy and development stuff, we have a scan coming up.
The next big one.
So there isn't a whole lot of that to worry about.
(17:02):
But yeah, I think as we start getting closer, it's going to start coming fast and furious.
Now, I have this to throw in there.
My first was three weeks early.
Really?
So we weren't ready for it.
I did not know that.
So this is just reminding me.
So the day that we went to the hospital for Natali, we were three weeks out.
(17:24):
And my wife and I, Trina and I, were at the mall shopping.
Okay.
And I'm a goofball.
And I was making her laugh.
And I think we had like Hyde's hot dogs or something that day.
Okay.
And she was burping it up.
And she was kind of like, okay.
And at that point, the doctor says, you know, the more walking you might induce, you know.
So we didn't want to do a lot of that because it's still three weeks out.
(17:47):
But we were at the mall and I said something.
We left the mall and we went to, back then there was a store called Ames.
It was like a Kmart.
I remember Ames, yes.
And we were looking at probably more baby stuff, you know, for the room and stuff.
And I probably started dancing in the aisle or saying something stupid.
(18:07):
And Trina laughed.
She was like, oh my gosh.
She's like, and she goes, oh my God, I'm peeing my pants.
Well, she didn't pee her pants.
So we got, and still were so new to this.
We still didn't know we went home.
She thought she peed her pants.
And that's fantastic.
(18:27):
And things started happening.
Unfortunately, her mother, because it's three weeks out, was nowhere to be, nowhere near the hospital.
She already had her day planned and she was not there.
So my mother was in replacing her mother.
So my mom got to be in the delivery room.
(18:48):
So it happened quickly.
Like I said, we were prepared, but we can't be prepared for everything.
So we were three weeks early and everything just went out the window, right?
That's funny.
Yeah.
So he was three weeks early.
From now on, at all your shows, you should be introduced as the labor inducing comedy of Carlo Russo.
That is fantastic.
(19:10):
If you're early, late, just have me come over.
There you go.
Yeah, we'll do that.
I have a, yeah, I have a DVD.
Do your 10 minutes set.
So that was fun.
So I, that just reminded me, Natalia was three weeks early and everything that we planned went out the window.
We're like, oh my God, it's happening now.
That's fine.
So, well, yeah, I think, yeah, being prepared will be important.
(19:33):
So the other one that, that stood out, we asked on Facebook for ideas and advice and like kind of hacks and best practices and Christine, one of our top fans.
Yeah.
We've heard from Christine before.
Yes, we have.
So Christine said, sleep when the baby sleeps, accept help when it's offered, because there's nothing wrong with getting help.
(19:55):
Order takeout, watch, Christine is like one of my favorite people already.
Order takeout, watch a movie, clean the house later, tell your wife every day she's beautiful, enjoy every all caps minute because your kids grow up too fast.
And I think that's.
She is so 100% on the money.
(20:17):
Especially the takeout.
But no, I think that's, that's also great advice.
And it's funny, I have found myself.
I never understood people would say, oh, women, they're so beautiful when they're pregnant.
I never got it.
And now I'm like, look how cute you are.
(20:37):
They're just adorable.
Yeah, she is.
She's adorable.
Yeah, we're over.
Tell your doctor that.
Yeah, yeah.
The one that looked at you nasty when you thought you were making fun of your wife's weight.
There was absolutely.
If you know what we're talking about, we love you.
If you know what we're talking about, you are the OG.
You, you're, you're down.
(20:58):
The it's, we were over at my, we were over at my sister's for, for dinner the other day.
And we're just like getting ready to leave.
I don't know.
I'm like, look how cute she is.
Yeah, I can't help it.
But anyhow.
I'll sleep when the baby sleeps.
Yeah.
But at the same time, it's so hard because it's like you have this moment, like, okay, what do I need to do?
(21:21):
That's tough, right?
Can I get something done?
Yeah.
And what can I catch up on?
It does make sense.
Even though you have things to do, get that sleep.
Take that moment.
Say, you know what?
That can wait right now.
The baby's sleeping.
I have to be sleeping as well because when the baby gets up, then I have to be alert and have energy.
(21:43):
And so that is, nobody wants to do it.
I don't know why.
Maybe because it's like, and the nice thing is with family around.
You can, I remember Trina sleeping even when the baby wasn't because we had her mother or my mother or something or me.
I would come home and she would just hand off the baby.
Yeah.
I remember it was like clockwork.
It was, I mean, we had it down and she would have the baby throughout the day and people come in and out.
(22:08):
And then when I came home, that's when she really slept.
Right.
And she would just hand me the baby.
And yeah, she'd be out.
And the cool thing is there's a period of time when the baby just sleeps.
Right.
Right.
So you just like, that's when you can watch your TV and kind of have like a little normal, like a taste of what it used to be like, I can do this.
(22:29):
And then in six weeks or four weeks, it all changes.
Right.
But at that moment when the baby's sleeping all the time, that's when you can catch up on things.
I can handle this.
This is not bad.
And, and regroup.
And that's what I've learned.
It's just like when she's handed it to me, like, well, you're handing me a baby, but it's going to sleep anyway.
So I would just like get something to eat.
(22:49):
And they always say, you know, take off your shirt, skin to skin.
Skin to skin.
And we did that.
And, and I would just like turn on the TV and just the baby sleeping.
And you watch the baby more than the TV.
You're just like, you're just staring at this child.
You know what I mean?
Instead of watching.
Yeah.
You're not watching it.
And you're just looking going, how did we make this?
(23:10):
How did this happen?
How did, you know, that's the coolest thing.
But yeah, if you can get some sleep.
My, my sister, Lucille, her daughter, she was telling me a story about the being tired thing that she said, if she had had, she had my nephew first and then my niece later.
(23:32):
And if they, she said, if they had been reversed, my nephew never would have been born because she was very, she was one that it was like needed to eat every couple hours.
But my nephew, like he was, I think he was almost 10 pounds at nine pounds, 10 ounces, something like that.
And so you'd stuck a bottle in them, eat it.
(23:54):
That was it.
And then back to sleep with, with her daughter, with Jenna, not so much, right?
Every two hours, wake up hungry, but she would like take her time and not, it would take, it wouldn't, it was like a half hour, 45 minutes, an hour to go through a bottle.
So she was getting absolutely no sleep.
(24:14):
And after a few months, she said, after a few months, people would say, gee, you look like you're a little, and I would just burst into tears.
I know it's tough.
That's gotta be hard.
But as she always also said, time goes by, they grow up so fast.
You, when you're in the moment, you think this is never going to end.
Yeah.
(24:34):
This will never end.
I will always smell like poop and pee.
I will never have any good clothes that doesn't have a stain on it.
But you're in that moment.
And then all of a sudden now, again, I jumped, it feels like it was yesterday.
Mine's 23 and 18, you know, and, uh, take it for what it, everything.
You take it all in, do it all.
(24:55):
You're only going to be tired for a little bit of time.
You're gonna, you're gonna go to sleep.
Eventually it's going to be, eventually your life goes back to normal.
You and the child can take naps because you're an old fart.
Yep.
I like a good nap.
Exactly.
We can tag.
We're going to need naps.
We can do that.
You guys can have that in common.
(25:15):
That's it.
That sounds okay.
Kelly can feed you both.
That sounds like a great evening to me.
I love it.
That's it.
So, so again, thank you to, uh, Texas Redditor and Christine.
Thank you very, very much.
We'll cover some others.
I'm sure as we, as we get more coming in.
Um, so that can I ask you a question about this?
(25:38):
Sure.
Did your parents have help?
Did your mother ever say like, Oh, your grandmother was here or did they have to do this on their own?
Well, I think, I think it depends on what side of the family, which kid.
Okay.
Right.
So I don't, I think when my brother was born, they were, my parents were living upstairs from my grandmother.
(26:00):
Okay.
And my grandmother was no, like, was no help.
She was the one that, yeah, she was miserable.
Like, she was like, basically like once they had the baby, what my brother, she was like, you got to get out.
Like, I can't, like, she was like, couldn't, didn't want to hear the kid cry.
Like, yeah, not a, not a great woman.
Okay.
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No help there.
No, no help there.
But it's funny because my family of, there was my, my aunt and, and my uncle and my dad, my dad was the oldest.
My aunt lived with my grandmother.
Okay.
So she never had, never had a family, never had kids.
My uncle had his family.
So my uncle's kids, my cousins, like they talk about my grandmother in a completely, like they had a completely different experience, completely different.
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Like literally one, one time we were, had a little get together and my cousin was talking about my grandmother and my, my, my wife, Kelly's like, really?
This doesn't sound at all.
Like, I'm like your story.
Yeah.
So she just gave up or she was, she was not, she was one of those people who came to America, but never really wanted to.
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Right.
And she, my father reminded her of her husband who she was not fond of.
And my uncle reminded her of her brother, who she loved.
Gotcha.
Oh my God.
So she, yeah, yeah.
It was all these stories always come back to food.
As a kid, as a little kid, we would go to my grandmother's house and I wouldn't eat.
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And I remember my mother, like, you can't keep doing that.
Like, why won't you eat when you're here?
It is, I was, this was before I was even in school.
And I was like, because I, because when we're there and we eat, when uncle Johnny shows up while we're eating better food comes out.
And just from a fairness standpoint, as a little kid, I wrote, I would see that and be like, no, okay.
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You don't want to, you don't want to give me the good food.
I don't want any of your food.
So, and that's the, but that's the way it would be.
It was literally like, yeah, that kind of, well, like the example with my, with my brother, when my brother was born, get out.
I can't have a kid.
I can't have it.
I can't have a baby upstairs from me.
I can't, my nerves can't take it.
My, my brother, my father and mother move out.
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My uncle moves in with his wife.
She has my cousin.
They live there for years.
Wow.
And it's like, she wasn't even faking it.
She wasn't even trying to hide it.
Absolutely not.
No, she, it was, it was straight up because you didn't have that experience.
You know?
No, I would always get the stories from my siblings about my mom's mother was a wonderful woman.
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They loved, she was great.
They all, they have nothing but good things to say about her, but she passed away before I was born.
So I never had, I never had a nice grandmother.
I had, I had my, Oh, I used to refer to her as my evil grandma, Nani.
That was it.
It's funny to speak about grandparents.
My grandparents, my, my grandfather died before I was born or when I was named after.
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And my grandmother moved here with us when we immigrated, died a year and a half, two years in.
Okay.
So I really didn't know her because I was a child myself.
And then my, my two grandparents on my father's side, they were alive into my teens, but they lived in Italy.
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So I didn't hang out with them.
Right.
You didn't get to see them.
So I had really no grandparent experience.
Yeah.
Um, so my older aunts were my, they were like my grand, my grandmother, my one aunt, my mom's sister was the oldest who brought us here.
Right.
Who was our sponsor.
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She was kind of like my grandmother.
Like your grandma.
Um, but I haven't had, I haven't had that at all.
So I think we have that in common.
Yeah.
Yeah.
We don't know.
I mean, my mom's dad, he passed away when I was very young, but I do remember him and he was, Pappy was fun.
He was in a, he was, he would, he would, I remember as a little kid, we'd go over to his house and I would sit on his lap on his rocker.
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He had a little stickly rocker and we would watch TV and he would, we would watch the prices.
Right.
And he loved the prices.
Right.
And he loved Popeye.
And he would always, he was tough.
He liked Popeye cartoons.
And he would watch Popeye.
I think that was a very European thing.
Cause my, I think my father loved Popeye.
It's interesting.
Everybody knew Popeye.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
He loved Popeye.
Cause he was on a boat and we're all shipped over on a boat.
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I don't know.
They love, they're all fishermen and salesmen.
Pappy loved Popeye.
Nani didn't love anybody.
It was, or at least nobody on my side of the family.
It was, it was, it was comical.
But that's fun.
That's, that's crazy.
The same family having two totally different stories and, and, and experiences with the same woman.
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Well, yeah.
I'm, I, even when, when my uncle was still alive, he passed away a few years ago and he, he, he was great.
My uncle Johnny was, was, was great.
But he would talk about his mother and he would talk about her.
Like she was this delicate flower.
This one.
And I was, obviously didn't see what you guys went through.
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No, she wouldn't show that.
She treated them with kindness and love.
She didn't, they didn't notice how you guys were treated or she wouldn't show that.
I think, no, I think they somehow, they must've understood that it was different.
Yeah.
Cause my, it was just, you know, there was, there was always conflict.
These brothers got along, right.
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Off and on.
They would go, it was so Italian.
Yeah.
Very much so.
Yeah.
I mean, mostly, I mean, they loved each other.
My uncle was when my dad, it was nearing the end of his life and in the home, he was there every Sunday.
He was, he was really focused on family and very supportive of things like that.
He, in a very, very nice, very traditional way.
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No, I think it was just, there was a complete disconnect with how she treated them and how she treated us.
Yeah.
So, yeah.
I mean, getting back to the, the, the, uh, the question, the email though, um, get help when you can.
I, I'm assuming your, your mother didn't get a lot.
No, I don't think so.
Now, by the time I came along, she already had my sister.
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Yeah.
My sisters were, did everything for, yeah, they did everything for me.
Do you look at your sisters?
Do you look at her as like more motherly or.
I think she would like that.
I think it's interesting because.
And I only say this because of age.
Because it's a, yeah, right.
As a little kid, when I would go someplace with my sister, people just assumed I was their mom or they were my mom.
(32:58):
So, so there was that.
I think there's a feeling like that from, from my older sister, Paula, they're both older of the two sisters, but I, I see, you know, we have a very, we're very close to talk to her every day, but I don't feel that way.
I feel like she's my sibling.
(33:19):
Yeah.
But you know, I think weirdly though, with my brother who I did not spend as much time with as a little kid, he's 20 years older, but I think just because of the, uh, being a guy and looking up to your bigger, your big brother, he was a God to me.
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You know, I, he was, I idolized him the way I think most kids idolize their father.
Absolutely.
Yeah.
I mean, I, I told this to my older brother because coming into a family that doesn't speak English and you can't really, you can't really say your feelings.
And as much as we speak Italian, we really don't.
(34:01):
Um, we speak enough where we can, you know, live with our family and get across what we want to get across, but we can't sit down and talk to him one-on-one with your dad.
Cause the language barriers just deep conversations.
Yeah.
You don't, he's not that person anyways.
Right.
So my mother would be great at that, but the language barriers there where you can't really sit down and, and, and confess all your feelings.
(34:25):
And my brother, that was the only parental kind of, uh, parental, uh, person that I was afraid of.
I was like, cause he would check on my school.
He would know all the, he would talk to the teachers.
He spoke English.
So I had to worry about him, like worrying about a father.
Yeah.
And I told him the other day, you know, I was like, I was more worried about you finding out what I did and mom and dad, I don't care less what they thought because they were proud of the problem, you know, with the language and how they, you know, the old school ways of raising us.
(34:59):
Yeah.
Where I was afraid.
I looked at my brother Pete as my father.
Yep.
Yeah.
That's interesting.
I know he's my brother.
I also have that brotherly.
I mean, he's my best friend.
So how much older is Pete?
Not that, uh, he's, uh, I'm 56.
He's, he'll be 59.
Okay.
So he's 23 years older.
Yeah.
But no, yeah, it's, it's interesting with the, with the siblings, uh, how you end up with that, but yeah.
(35:22):
Yeah.
Help wise, what the help we will have is I think, you know, I have my sister here, uh, Lucille, I think is going to probably want to come from Texas to help when the baby's born.
My brother won't do anything, but everything.
Okay.
Well, that's okay.
(35:42):
And that's fine.
But it'll be, it'll be good.
We'll have some, well, you got all of us and, uh, that's right.
And we have the podcast.
Yeah.
When you don't know what to do, you just listen to the podcast.
That's right.
I can call Christine and the Texas Redditor.
Exactly.
And get some more, get some more good advice.
Yeah.
So, well, that is, that is the silver Fox mailbox.
(36:04):
And I guess we're going to take a little break.
Yeah.
Let's do some, uh, we'll take some photos.
I think we're going to need to produce commercials.
So when I say we're going to take a break that it's going to cut to, yeah.
Well, we do have, we do have that commercial of the contest, right?
Yeah.
I was working a little bit.
We might, we might put that in there.
(36:24):
So you might see a commercial next, or we might just transition smoothly into a crash.
Just daddy.
Oh, am I going to have to dress up?
I might have to put something on.
This is, this is where you earn your pay.
The nice, the nice thing about the podcast is I come over.
I don't know really what he has planned until I come here.
I have the sheet or sheets of agenda.
(36:49):
We're going to talk about this.
Put on a cup.
Get into a dog suit.
Oh yeah.
Wear a cup.
Yeah.
But, uh, so we're going to be doing that right now.
Name the baby.
I am Frank Cereo of the gray hair and daycare podcast.
(37:09):
I'm here with my cohost, Carlo Russo.
My wife and I are expecting our very first child, a little girl due in March.
And we've selected a name that I cannot tell you.
Why?
Well, because this relationship is in the internet and you could be a lunatic.
(37:29):
So just for fun, I decided to give you a chance to name the baby.
To name my baby.
In the comments below or in email, submit names and you'll have a chance to pick the name that I will be forced to call my little girl for the remainder of my podcasting career.
(37:51):
Might not be that long.
Fair enough.
Then we'll vote.
We will let democracy run its course, select a clear winner.
And much like elections recently, half of you will be left confused and bitter and deeply disappointed in each other.
So let's name the baby.
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Name the baby.
Here we are returning with crash test daddy.
My favorite.
This should be, this is where you get to do your thing.
Okay.
So I thought this time for crash test daddy, rather than just diving right in.
We'll give you an opportunity to try to guess what it is you're going to tell.
(38:36):
Now the only obvious giveaway is that the box says Lululemon all over it.
But what are your thoughts?
What do you think is in here?
I'm okay.
I know in the previous podcast, we were speaking about Kelly's new love of leggings.
(39:00):
Yes.
Now Lululemon, I believe is part of that.
They are known.
The high end.
The high end of that.
Athleisure for women.
Exactly.
And they do have, I will say, I do, I have not for you, but I have so much respect for Trina.
I won't ask you to wear leggings or try them on.
(39:21):
I don't know if I would do that.
So it is not, we can rule out leggings.
Okay.
Okay.
So I'm going to say maybe it's a, can I connect?
Can I ask questions?
I'll give you three.
(39:42):
First of all, first of all, can I shake the box?
Yes, you can.
That you can shape, do whatever you want to the box and three questions.
Do you do this with people?
Because I love making people guess stuff.
I do it with Kelly.
Kelly hates it.
She's like, I don't want to play the game.
I don't think I do that.
I think Trina might go guess.
(40:02):
Well, I don't know.
I always liked it because I was good at guessing when I was a kid.
Right.
And I like to get, I like the game.
I do it with people that work for me all the time.
I don't know if they ate it, but they won't tell me.
So this feels like there's not a lot of room when I'm shaking.
There's, it's very tight to the box.
Fair enough.
Okay.
It's so like, like some, you would say like a, a pillow or a blanket that is wrapped.
(40:27):
That's, that's filling the box.
So first question, can I wear this?
Not me personally.
I mean, do people wear this?
Yeah.
Technically.
Yes.
Technically.
Yes.
Is this for the baby or Kelly?
Is that a question that you can answer?
I think it is more for the parents than the child.
(40:51):
Okay.
Is this for leaving the house or, or sleeping?
It is for mobile activities for leaving the house.
(41:13):
So you're starting to, you're starting to, I'm, it's interesting watching you at work.
So yeah, but now you only got one left.
Hmm.
So we've established, I think it can be worn and it is for out of the house, not sleeping.
Okay.
I'm going to say that it's some, it's a diaper changing, holding like a baby things, wipes.
(41:40):
What's that called?
A, a, like a backpack or something to hold all the baby stuff.
I think you got it.
It is a diaper bag.
Are you serious?
Yeah, that's what it is.
It is.
Well, now of course, Lululemon, it has to be, you go ahead and dig in.
They call it a, this is called the Lululemon new parent backpack.
(42:03):
Oh my God.
I was 17L is the model.
Oh, 17L, L is for lousy, L is for luxury or Lululemon.
I'm going to move this a little bit.
There you go.
So, yeah, that's a lot of, a lot of evaluation went into the selection of this.
(42:24):
Um, there was some questions on color, um, that, uh, Kelly was trying to get me to, it was trying to get me to weigh in.
I said, do you just pick whatever color you like?
There you go.
So you want me to open it or go right?
Dig right in.
Oh yeah, I want, we want to, you know, you don't have to get up and try it on like you did with the other stuff.
(42:46):
But yeah, take it out of there.
So I don't want to, I like the color.
So it's a backpack obviously, but it has, so this has the two things that Kelly really liked about it is it has a smaller thing.
So take the stuff out, there's other stuff going on in there.
So it has a little extra bag for supplies and things.
(43:08):
Absolutely.
And it has a changing pad that it comes with.
Okay.
Which might be in that other thing.
I don't know, but it has a changing pad.
It has the other kind of little purse thing and it's very nice apparently.
So this is it.
This is the, the Lululemon.
(43:28):
Lululemon changing pad.
New parent backpack 17L.
It is $198.
Excuse me.
Um, yeah.
Just to let you know, unless it's one of those in there or some, maybe it's in that thing.
Maybe it's in that thing.
(43:48):
Yeah.
Give it a try.
Go right.
Get in the purse.
I'm going to get or whatever that is.
So that I feel something in here.
Yeah, there it is.
So there's a little pad.
So we have the, the mat.
So there's a little changing, baby yoga mat.
So they can do Pilates.
(44:09):
This is very cool.
You're going to need this because you'll be changing the baby in many different places that you don't want to use their stuff.
Right.
You don't want your child to touch that.
So you can lift that thing out.
Excellent.
It's really nice.
I want to let you feel how this whole thing feels like that.
Okay.
It's really, really nice.
(44:30):
And it seems, it feels like the kind of material that will clean up very nicely.
Because there will be stuff on this.
All kinds of things.
So $198.
Now, again, again, you guys keep this in mind when I ask you to guess what the new check, please.
It is later in the car, $198, 98, 200 bucks.
(44:50):
Now again, can I tell you what I used?
Sure.
I didn't go $200.
It was a Jan sport.
It was a Wegman's bag, the grocery bag.
So when I got a job at a bank.
Right.
At the time.
(45:11):
Now we're going back.
If you opened an account, you got a backpack.
Yeah, and a baby.
And a baby.
23 years ago.
And then 18 years ago.
Back then, the hottest thing was that man purse over the strap.
Remember the man purse?
I never participated in that fad, but okay.
Now, not a fanny pack.
(45:31):
Not a fanny pack, but a true man purse.
A man purse.
Okay.
So I believe one day, it might've been Christmas.
It might've been a birthday.
My wife thought, you have all this stuff for work.
This looks manly enough, but you're still wearing a purse.
And she gave me one and I would put my paperwork in there and whatever I needed for the bank.
(45:53):
So when I quit the bank and we had our second, I turned that into our carrier.
Okay.
So I had this stuff and then I would put the pad in there, all the stuff in it.
It was great.
So I went from looking weird with this purse.
So I'm the daddy of the year.
I'm walking around, look cool.
(46:14):
I got this thing, Italian look, very European look.
Now see, I appreciate a nice bag.
Like my laptop bag for work.
Gorgeous.
I'm nice.
I like it.
It could be described as a man purse.
I was actually going to say, I remember when we worked together, the nice tan leather, I still use it.
And they hold up very, very well.
(46:35):
What I keep getting pushed in my social media feeds now is all the tactical dad stuff.
So it looks like you're going to the gun range, but it's made for, it looks like you're either going to go to, you know, like a baby with your kid, or you're going to go be deployed to Iraq.
Like you can't tell.
(46:56):
So this is, and the cool thing is with this, it does have the backpack.
And is that for one of the things I only know, like, is it for shotgun shells?
Like what is that for?
Hold that.
Okay.
Yeah.
Let's look at that.
What is that for?
I don't, I don't know.
What are you going to stuff in there?
It does look like gun shells.
(47:17):
That's it.
When you need it, when you need it.
I think maybe.
I don't know.
Some buckshot.
But this is cool because you're going to need your hands.
Yeah.
And having this on the, this is awesome.
The backpack.
Yeah.
Feature because your hands have to be free.
So I'm going to, what I'm picturing is that this, the size of this thing and that kind of a shoulder strap, I'm going to look like a, like King Kong with a, with a normal size backpack.
(47:43):
So this is for both of you, of course.
Sure.
Until I get the, the, the tactical dad back.
You're going to, yeah, yeah, yeah.
So that's cool.
So $200, right around $200.
It is the new parent backpack.
I think it's funny that they specify for new parents because experienced parents would never spend $200.
Like I said, I went to my bank man purse and I made it into that.
(48:11):
Well, that was, that's a good buy.
It's good material.
It's good quality.
It seems like, it seems like it is well-made.
And like you said.
And it does, this stuff seems like it's going to hold up.
Yeah.
So that is it.
The mystery box.
I'm kind of, you know, I'm doing pretty good at this stuff.
I guess out of a box.
Yeah.
Yeah.
You do it with three, three questions and a shake and you got it.
(48:31):
That was pretty, especially cause Lululemon.
I, when I saw it arrive, I'm like, what the hell is this?
I mean, at first I said the legging thing.
So when you took that out.
Yeah.
Of course.
No, that was fun.
You're going to use a lot of that.
It's going to come very handy.
That'll be it.
So that's it.
So that is the crash test.
Daddy, the Lululemon new parent backpack 17 L in chartreuse.
(48:54):
I don't know what that color is.
For one 98 us dollars.
So now we will move on to what just happened.
What just happened, Frank?
So the, the news of the week, again, pregnancy wise, not a lot of things, you know, weird things happening, but her, the nice thing is appetite going strong.
(49:17):
Oh, that's good.
Yeah.
So she's, she's eating much better.
Um, the other day we ordered pizza and I was, this was the only time I think ever where Kelly had one more slice than me.
I'm like, wow.
Like that's like normally I typically have two pieces, maybe three, if I'm really hungry and Kelly, never more than a slice of one slice, right?
(49:44):
Like she's not a big eater and she's going back for number three.
I'm like this number three.
Yeah.
I had two slices.
She had three.
I'm like, wow.
So yeah.
Yeah.
I've never seen.
No, I'm excited.
I'm excited.
Like, I like, I know that she still has, has challenges with the, the acid reflux stuff, but it's nowhere near as bad.
And just to see that her, we're doing that.
(50:06):
But I will say the other day, she's on her way to work and she's like, well, I've got to start watching because I gained three pounds in the last week.
And I'm like, so what?
Well, I should be gaining two pounds a week.
I'm like, okay, you need to just give yourself a little room.
Like, first of all, we had gone over to my, my sister and her husband's house and Avi's a great cook.
(50:32):
He did this recipe.
He found a recipe in Italian.
Of course.
Okay.
And it was a lasagna with a bolognese.
Oh, no cheese.
It had a bechamel sauce instead of the cheese, instead of the mozzarella.
It was, it was great.
It was delicious.
We both had two pieces.
Yeah.
I mean, you had two pieces of lasagna last night for dinner.
(50:54):
Like, just take it easy.
Just keep, if you're hungry, you should eat.
Yeah.
So, so that stuff has been, has been really good.
And it also, the other, when we were coming home from somewhere the other day, we're walking in the house, you know, as you know, you come over and it's pandemonium with the dogs.
It's the same thing with us.
They're a little bit more subdued with us.
(51:14):
They're not jumping as much, but still they're scampering around and I'm coming in and I hear this noise.
I don't know.
And I'm like, what was that?
And Kelly goes, it was the return of Fartzilla.
So Fartzilla has returned on occasion, thanks to, thanks to her increased appetite and eating more.
(51:39):
But I'm, I'm very happy.
Well, you got, you got to blame it on the, uh, the baby.
Well, I like, you know what?
That's it.
I'm a hundred percent.
It's all her fault.
Blame it on the corn.
So I'm happy to see her doing that.
So I'm trying to like, yeah, she, she does.
She has sometimes has trouble getting comfortable, but with the, with the special pillow, she does.
(52:02):
Okay.
Generally.
Yeah.
Right.
This, this whole part of, of the pregnancy is, has been pretty, pretty easy compared to the beginning.
So it's good.
It's been good.
And you said she doesn't eat sweets or ice creams or stuff.
That's not her.
No, it's not her jam.
No, she doesn't.
She's not, doesn't it really?
How about you?
(52:24):
It's what, well, it's fun now because I can get her to eat.
Again, Javi made these brownies.
So we went home with, we didn't have any because my sister had made apple, uh, uh, like an apple crumble.
Crumble thing.
Yeah.
And it was delicious and made from apples.
We are apples.
So you put vanilla ice cream with that or whipped cream, a little whipped cream, but it was very good.
(52:48):
She had that too.
But, and then they're like, here, try the, you know, try the brownies.
And I, I was too full, but so the next day I'm like, it's, it's like a novelty for me to like offer.
Cause she would always like, whatever it was, I would take the bigger one.
And now I'm like, go ahead.
And she takes the bigger one.
It's so cute.
So yeah.
So it's good.
And the brownies rack.
(53:09):
Welcome to our side of food.
I know it's just going to go right back.
I know.
As soon as she has the baby, she's already talking about, I got to watch my weight.
No, you don't.
No, you don't.
But hit that baby nice and fast.
Now, now the thing that has come up, cause she's, she's been talking about, we talked about a little bit in the last episode, she's been talking about how she feels it's hard for her to maneuver.
(53:33):
And I'm like, you know, it's not that, you know, your belly's not that big.
And she made the point, look, that's all happening under her ab.
Right.
So her abdominal muscles, her core is very unstable.
And as a result, now I think her, her back is getting real tight.
So the other morning she asked, will you run my back?
(53:54):
I'm like back to Texas, Redditor say, get good at back rubs.
He was spot on.
It's like, I read that.
And like the next day, so I, I start, I start rubbing and smaller back.
It's like, there's knuckle, like she has knots in her back.
Luckily I was able to work them out and, and that's it.
But yeah.
So every once in a while, she's like, you know, give me a background.
(54:15):
Yeah.
And I'm happy to do it.
I think the other thing too, is if she sits like she was doing some work, he's on her laptop, sitting on the couch and she just stayed in the same position too long.
And that throws it out of whack too.
Now last, last one is not a, I'm not ruining anything.
The last episode you felt.
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Yeah.
Something.
Yep.
Any new feelings?
She has, she's feeling stuff all the time.
Of course.
And I have one other time felt a little, the, the thing that she described to me just the other day is there was a foot sighting.
Like, Oh yeah.
We were talking about that.
(54:57):
Yeah.
And so that, that was the first she was excited.
She's like, yeah, I think I saw something.
So there, there was that.
So working on the massages, she's, she's keep trying to keep her back loose.
And then the other funny thing was, so this, this past weekend for about the last year, maybe a little bit longer, I started volunteering at church.
(55:20):
So I do, you know, they have, you fill out the form and what you'll do.
So I volunteered for all three masses and then I do either, either marriage baptisms, whatever you need.
So I volunteered to do either greeter, usher or reader.
(55:40):
And so I never know is most people, they volunteer for like whatever mass they want to go to.
Right.
But they were saying how they, they really need help, especially for us.
So I just, okay.
All three.
And so I get moved around like some, most of the time we're going to 10 o'clock on Sunday, but sometimes floater put me in coach, like wherever you need, wherever you need me.
(56:01):
I'm there.
So, so sometimes most of the time is 10 o'clock.
Sometimes we'll do the Saturday vigil.
But, and most of the time I'm an usher a couple of times I've read, but they had a meeting for all of those ministries.
So all the people who do greeter, usher, reader, or Eucharistic minister.
Sure.
Had a little meeting that we had to go to.
(56:24):
So Saturday morning I get my coffee and I go down and months ago in the very beginning, this would have been week five.
Okay.
Wow.
I was greeting during one mass and there's a three entrances to at Sacred Heart where we go.
And I was at one of the entrances where normally I'm just out there.
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If I'm greeting, it's me, but father see the pastor, he's kind of a new pastor to us.
He's been there about a year, young guy doing a really good job.
And so he happened to be out there and he was greeting people on that entrance.
Normally he would be out front.
And so when I had the opportunity, cause it was very early on, I'm like, Hey father, you know, say a little extra prayer for me.
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And, you know, I told him, and of course he's probably maybe latter thirties, might be 40.
So I'm telling him, yeah, it's our first.
And you could, you could see a little bit of, but we didn't have a lot of time.
So he kind of, that was it.
He was like, Oh yeah, it's first for both of us.
(57:31):
And then, you know, people came in and he's greeting them.
And that was it.
So I haven't had a conversation with him in a while since we talked about that.
So I walk in and there's father's team before the meeting gets going.
And he looks at me and I walk over and say, hello.
He's like, how are things going?
And I tell him that things are going great.
And give him a little update.
(57:52):
I told him the story about the doctor and how they thought I was, he just, he's like, Oh, you know, you kind of chuckled at that.
And then again, he's like, so what's your first?
Don't try to figure that out.
I don't know how many times it is.
Yeah.
Yeah.
That's it.
I didn't forget it.
Like, yeah, no, it's not like, yeah, I misplaced the word and I figured I'd try again.
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But yeah, I thought it was, it was kind of comical with the, with father's first one.
But then we went to mass later that day and we're going up for communion and after mass we're leaving and, and Kelly turns to me and goes, I think father, she wanted to smile at me, but he stopped himself.
(58:34):
That's hilarious.
Yeah.
Thumbs up.
I thought that was, that was cute.
So we, you know, we've been trying to figure out what kind of a design we want for the nursery and what we're going to do.
And, and Kelly found this, I really like, so there's no overhead lighting, the room, the room that we're going to be using as a nursery, the previous owners of the home, it was a little boy's room.
(58:57):
Okay.
And so there's like a track light on the one wall.
It's not, it's got to come out.
There's no overhead lighting.
So that was the overhead.
Yep.
So I've got to do, I'm going to put in a couple overhead lights, but we're trying to find something for a kid's room.
And Kelly found these really adorable, they look like a hot air balloon.
(59:19):
Okay.
But it's a light fixture.
It's like, and then there's two different sizes.
So I'm going to put up two in the corner and, and one, the, one of the larger ones on the other side of the room, because that's the other thing that's weird about this room is in the center of the ceiling is the access for the attic.
So there's, so you can't put it right in the center where it would make sense.
(59:42):
So we, we got, we've done some work and I think we have some solid design ideas.
I immediately am starting to think, I'm trying to think of how far to take the theming, but we'll see about that.
So we got some, some of that stuff on order.
That's what just happened.
And now we are on to check, please.
So if you recall our total as of the last time we did check, please, which was two episodes ago was $370 and 8 cents.
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So in two weeks, we're going to play another guessing game.
Okay.
Where do you think we're going to land?
It took us 21 weeks to get to $370 and 8 cents.
Where do you think we are?
So we did the, we did the backpack.
The backpack.
I'm going to round it off to 200.
Okay.
So that's, so we're already at 570.
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Okay.
You got the baby room kind of going.
Did you buy paint?
You said no.
No.
Okay.
So the balloon things that was probably ordered Amazon-ish probably.
I will, I will say this gives away a little Etsy is where the light fixtures are coming from.
Okay.
I'm going to say some odds and ends 780.
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780 would be a good guess.
The grand total is $1,077 and 98 cents.
I missed a big purchase.
So the Etsy purchase, the light fixtures, they're very nice, but they're like, they make them custom, I think.
So that was like almost 500 bucks just for the light fixtures.
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So now the totals now, Amazon used to be the leader.
Etsy has leapfrogged to the top of the list.
So Etsy's at 494.
Amazon's about 240.
Lululemon with tax comes up to 218 or 213.
Target is still hanging in there at 121.
So, yep.
So we have crossed the first thousand in 23 weeks.
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Okay.
Like at this point, we're still looking at cribs.
None of that stuff.
Lots of other people I've talked to would like the bassinets and the crazy stuff.
Say rent, rent, rent, rent.
If you don't think you're going to have, if you don't, if you're not going to have three more kids, It's a great idea.
Then you rent instead and you get the, you know, you do it that way.
(01:02:10):
That's a perfect.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Cause you're going to have to get rid of them.
I'd rather do that.
Cause the other, the other solution is, as we're doing all this research, there's all these things that are multiple use.
Like it's a bassinet and then it's a changing car and then it's a, yeah.
And then it's a sled and I don't want to do those.
Cause they're never as good.
(01:02:30):
Maybe.
So I don't know where, where do you rent them from?
But I'm sure we can find out.
I'm Kelly probably already has a list.
Yeah.
But yeah.
So that, uh, so what, what's it?
1000, $1,077.98. Okay.
So that is, that is our latest update to check please.
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But that is pretty much everything for this week for episode six, six.
Episode six.
Yeah.
So thank you very much for all of your support.
We've had a lot of downloads.
We're on a good trajectory and we're getting good, good feedback and responses from you guys.
Please continue to send in.
We'll hopefully in a couple of weeks, we'll be able to talk about voting for what the name is that you will choose for a name, the baby.
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This is the gray hair and daycare podcast with a combined age of 111 years and a combined IQ right in that same range.
Your hosts, Frank Sirio and Carlo Russo.
Welcome back.
Welcome back guys.
We're here the episode six.
Six.
(00:33):
Six.
We don't, nobody's even seen four or five, but we're just trying to get ahead.
So we're back for six.
Yes, we are back for six.
Very excited to be back.
This is week 23.
Already.
It's moving.
It's flying by.
(00:53):
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
It is flying by.
Even with thinking back through everything that has happened as a part of this, this whole thing, it absolutely is flying by.
So what's the latest update?
Let's figure it out.
Less appetizing this week than we've had in previous weeks.
It's an ear of corn.
So my little girl is the size of an ear of corn.
(01:14):
I love corn.
I know I keep saying I love everything that you do so far.
You like a lot of vegetables.
Yeah, there's a lot.
You must be very healthy.
No, I'm not, but I love it.
I love it with hamburgers and pizza.
Okay, hamburgers, pizza.
So she's the size of a lean ear of corn, long and lean.
So this is the point, though, where she will start to get chubbier.
(01:41):
So basically she starts to get.
The corn's going to pop.
Yes, cute.
She's going to get cuter from here.
Cuter face.
But also a unique thing right now, still translucent.
Oh, I don't know how that superpower.
She can just disappear.
She's an X-Men.
That's it.
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So it's still translucent, but that's where we are.
That's where we are.
Yeah.
23.
23 weeks, ear of corn, long and lean, starting to get chubby, which would be supported by some of the things we're talking.
We'll talk about later with Kelly's new dining habits.
Okay.
Can't wait to hear that.
It's going well.
Going well.
We're going to try out now.
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I figured this would come.
We even talked about it a little bit, but more from thinking of Trina in the last episode.
But it is as I go through and edit, Kelly wants to be helpful and she listens and watches and points out as she does throughout my regular life when I'm wrong.
So this is going to be a new segment.
(02:44):
I'm not sure what we're going to call it.
Okay.
Maybe it just, she suggested, uh, because I almost never say it that we just call it.
I was wrong.
I was wrong.
So that's here we are.
I mean, that's right to the point.
Yeah.
I was wrong.
I was wrong.
So at this moment it's called, I was wrong until we come up with a better thing.
It might be the permanent name by the time we get through.
(03:05):
Here's another contest.
No, I'm kidding.
No, no more contest.
So I was wrong.
Here we are.
Okay.
So the few things that we figured out, if you recall back to, I'm not sure what episode we talked about.
Meconium.
Yes.
And I, yes, I thought it was Krypton tonight.
Meconium.
And Kelly thought it was important for me to point out that if they do happen to the Meconium comes out in the womb.
(03:32):
Yeah.
Cause it could happen there or in the birth canal or later.
Cause we said prior to this, we said it's okay.
Anywhere.
Yes.
Right.
And apparently it is not.
No, really.
That's a bit.
Yeah.
So it is basically, if it happens in the womb, it is, it is a sign of, of fetal distress.
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So that's not a good thing.
So that, if that happens, not, not a good thing.
So there's my, I was wrong there.
The other thing, just in the last episode, we were talking about mama and dad, and I was wrong there too.
Cause I said, I thought that mama was the easy one, but no Ms are much harder to say than D's.
(04:14):
So was that right?
You're so dot, dot new segment.
I was right.
It's not just that I was wrong.
Carla was right.
So I also said, he also said clock first.
That's right.
Clock.
That's right.
So Dada is the Dada is the easy one, not the mama.
Okay.
And the last thing was when we were talking about, we were talking about the fruit cake and I was saying it was cognac.
(04:37):
It is not cognac.
It is brandy.
Okay.
Brandy equally strong.
So, but so it is brandy, not cognac.
If you're going to try to make, did I say I was going to taste that on the show?
You did.
I told her she was excited at first, but then she's like, I probably won't make any.
Cause I can't eat it.
That's right.
Cause she can't have anything with alcohol.
(04:58):
These are fake brandies and scotches and without alcohol.
Well, you can get the taste without the, that's what I suggested.
I'm like, we could just burn the alcohol off, off of the brandy.
But we'll see.
I think just the idea that you're going to try it might be enough for her to give it a shot.
This pastry of what we were talking about this.
I don't see how that would be possible.
(05:21):
No, maybe, I don't know.
Well, you've got to be able to buy it because usually when you see, when you see the people giving it as gifts, it's like wrapped up and stuff.
So maybe it doesn't, maybe you can buy it.
Yeah.
If she doesn't, if Kelly does not want to make it, we will purchase it.
We're going to buy some, it'll be fantastic.
And okay.
We can give it a try.
(05:42):
It's just, you don't even want to think about it.
It really is.
I like, I just don't like it, but I can't even say I don't like it.
I can't even bring myself to try it.
Like it's like, no, it's not.
But anyway, if you want to go for it, everything else I'm going to do on this.
That's right.
You're going to be like, you're like my stunt man.
Like here, try some of this.
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I know what I signed up for.
That'll be it.
Okay.
So that, that is the inaugural episode of you were wrong.
I was wrong.
You were right.
See, I can say, I can say it.
It's once in a great while.
So now we can move on to what has become a fan favorite.
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The book report.
My God, people are clamoring for my insight into these literary masterworks.
What do we got this week?
So we're doing two at a time because I'm sick of doing that.
I'm just sick of doing the dog ones.
So this is not, if they're bad, you're going to tell us, right?
I mean, you're going to say, don't read this.
(06:48):
Oh, yes.
Okay.
One of these, I'm going to say exactly that.
Oh, really?
Okay.
The other, I'm going to say, I didn't even read it because I already read three, but I'll say the name because we spent 12 bucks on the thing, I guess.
So first one is dogs, bumps, and babies by Aileen Stevenson.
Love her.
(07:09):
First of all, phoning it in with the cover.
Everybody else has got dogs, babies, cute pictures.
Aileen, okay.
It's not going well.
Get better, Aileen.
So a guide to preparing your dog for life with your baby.
Okay.
This woman's an idiot.
No, it's no good.
So it equals the cover.
It's bad.
(07:29):
I don't like it.
Disappointed.
Do not read.
Is there a reason why?
So all the other books kind of approached it from the standpoint of the way you train a dog.
Fundamental to that.
None of basically didn't come at it from that direction at all.
Very unconventional.
(07:49):
I don't, I just didn't, as I read it, if you're reading something like this and you're like, no, that's bullshit.
Like, you know, it's, it's not worth it.
So yeah, this one, you know, we had one, four stars.
Got three, four rattles.
That's right.
Four rattles for the first one that we did.
And then the second one I like because of the audio link, the link for the downloadable baby sounds.
(08:13):
Good idea.
This one, nah, I wouldn't want one, one rattle only because I don't know why they took the time to print it.
So, so that's it.
So dogs bumps and baby, I wouldn't bother with that.
Sorry, Aileen.
And then the last one, because I read all the others, I didn't read this because neither did Kelly.
(08:36):
She's like, I'm like, did, what are you, can tell me what to say about it?
She's like, I didn't read it.
Okay.
But I like this one because at least the name is good and cute picture on the cover.
Please, please don't bite the baby.
Please don't bite the baby.
And please don't chase the dogs.
Would you now, why did you read that first?
(08:59):
I, I, cause I, I listened to my wife and she handed me the, I just finished that.
She, she'd read it.
She's way ahead of me.
She's ahead of me in the reading list.
I was, yeah.
So this one is by Lisa J Edwards, bestselling author of a dog named boo, not, not familiar with the work, but there's this one.
(09:20):
Can't tell you if you want to try it out or not.
Great name.
Post a, and a cute, really cute, really cute kid.
Look at that hair.
Very cute.
Look at that hair.
And then there's the dog.
So that is, so that's going to be it for, for book report instances about dog books.
We're done with the dog books and now we'll be able to move on to actual.
(09:43):
If we were smart, we would have done like four bones and three bones with the dogs.
That's true.
We could, we could have done that.
But we're moving on now.
Now we're back to rattles.
We are, we are moving on from, from the dog books.
You have learned.
Yeah.
Look, the first, the first book in particular, I think was very worthwhile.
(10:04):
And again, because it was very tactical.
Do this, do this, do this.
Gave you, gave you a stuff that will build your confidence, make you feel more comfortable.
And then the second one was largely the same kind of approach, but it had the downloads of the sounds, which we have not tried yet, but we'll, we'll probably be doing that soon.
So I think, I think it's going to be good.
(10:24):
It was worth it.
Yes, definitely, definitely worth it, but happy to be reading about actual children.
And again, you guys can, if you have these books or you want, and you can tell us that, no, you guys were wrong.
You should have read that book.
That was awesome.
Or let us know, let us know how you guys feel about these books.
Yeah, absolutely.
Or if you have other ways, maybe not books, but other ways.
(10:46):
I would love to hear, I would love to hear more about, you know, I've talked to some people that have brought, you know, brought the baby home.
The funny one was my, the, the girl who cuts my hair, Danielle, great girl.
She has, she has a few children and she has little dogs, like Chihuahua dogs.
And she's like, Oh, don't worry.
(11:06):
Like it just, it's not a big deal.
They'll be fine.
And, you know, just, you know, bring a blanket home, let them smell.
I'm like, Oh, it was like, yeah.
I said, they say that in the books, but you know, we do want to make sure we're, we're not letting the dogs up on the bed anymore.
And we're going to get off the couch.
And she's like, Oh yeah, there was that time when, when whatever her dog's name, I don't remember jumped up on the couch and landed on the baby.
(11:30):
And I'm like, Oh, okay.
So maybe not just completely easy, but it was, uh, yeah.
Your dog is probably a lot bigger than a Chihuahua.
My dog.
Yeah.
He can hurt me if he jumps up on the couch and can't see me.
So, yeah.
So we're going to, so it was good.
Definitely the books are worth it, but yeah, if you have a recommendation for another book, I'll put it, I'll put it in the queue and I'll try to get to it.
(11:54):
But generally the ones we've reviewed, uh, have been pretty, have been pretty good.
Um, except for Eileen.
So that's it for book report and we can move on now to the second episode or second installment of the silver Fox mailbox.
So we said we were getting some feedback from our listeners and hopefully by now viewers on, on Facebook.
(12:22):
Also though, we, I've been out and kind of trying to engage with fatherhood and parenting forums on, on Reddit and on X and different contributors on, on those platforms.
And so I've, I asked a question on Reddit the other day about what do you, I'm cut.
(12:43):
We're kind of coming into the third trimester.
What do the experienced dads remember about that and what are their recommendations?
And you know, what do I need to look out for?
And we got a bunch of good responses, but the one, there was one from a Redditor whose name is Texas Redditor.
And he said, the first thing he said was, and this is very true because it's, it's happening already.
(13:08):
Get good and massages.
It's going to be harder and harder for her to get around and sleep comfortably.
Find some time for her to prop up on the couch and get her back or feet rubbed.
It gives you both a little extra bonding time beyond that.
My best advice in this, I think is a good idea and something that I will be having, having to get to take responsibility for the logistics of delivery.
(13:30):
Make sure the bug out bags are packed way ahead of time.
Make sure you got a birth plan written out.
I don't know if I'll do the birth plan.
Make sure the car seat is installed and ready to go.
Is somebody coming to watch the house or feed a pet?
Because we're going to have to have somebody take care of the dogs while we're doing that stuff.
My kids.
Does family know?
Yeah, that's right.
Does family know when to show up at the hospital and what to do when they arrived?
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Do you have food stock, et cetera, et cetera.
Make a list and knock it out.
So I think that's great.
That's great advice.
So thank you to Texas Redditor.
But I did want to ask, so like, did you, it was a while ago, but did you have like a bug out bag ready and packed and all that stuff?
Or you just knew your family was going to be kind of swoop in and take care of everything?
(14:12):
No, this is going back 23 plus years.
I think at this point we did not have it ready.
Okay.
23.
I mean, we, yeah, we got closer and closer.
Yeah.
The doctors will tell you, Hey, get home, get a bag ready.
We knew where we were going.
We knew what vehicle we knew all that.
(14:33):
We would go to the exams and all that to the hospital.
So we knew the route, the best route to get there.
We did that.
It's weird because you think it's going to go one way and it never does.
You think, oh, this is the day it's going to happen.
I'm going to be sitting home and everybody's going to be ready and I'm going to get to things.
But in general, it can happen at three in the morning and you're just getting up from sleep and you have no idea what's going on and you're freaking out.
(14:59):
And so the more you have the better.
Planned and prepared.
But I'll tell you this.
I know, I think they still do it.
If you bring your car and the seat to AAA, there's a certain time that they will inspect it and make sure it's on correctly.
That you have installed correctly.
Yep.
Yeah.
That makes sense.
Very important.
(15:19):
They do it.
I don't know if it's once or twice a year or you can call them up and ask.
They'll have officers and they'll check your car.
They'll look at it.
And so that's a cool thing that happens.
But being ready.
Yeah, we were ready, but you're never really ready as long as you get your stuff and you know the route you're going.
(15:40):
Reliable car.
That's one thing.
And the worst thing is also, I don't know if you're going to fall into it, but the weather.
Yeah.
You know, yours is in March.
Yeah.
Beginning of March.
So, I mean, it could be here and there.
So I didn't have to deal with that.
But I could just imagine you're already nervous and it's just a storm out there.
Oh, yeah.
That's.
(16:01):
No.
Yeah.
Yeah.
That would be scary.
But we were ready as much as we could.
Sure.
We had the clothes ready.
We had our route ready.
Our family.
Obviously, we didn't have to even ask.
You knew they were going to be around.
Right.
When we got home, both mothers were there.
My mother, her mother, and then with my brothers and everybody.
(16:21):
So we had that support.
But it's going to be nerve wracking as it is.
So if you can get that list down, you're golden.
Yeah.
Being prepared with stuff like that.
Yeah.
It will be something.
The more you're prepared.
I could be excited.
With anything.
The better.
Right.
Yeah.
Yeah.
I think I think that's going to be good.
And you guys, you'll take that to heart, right?
(16:42):
You'll have everything.
Yeah.
Yeah.
There's so much.
I'm wondering how I think things are going to start happening fast and furious.
Right now, there's not a lot going on.
As far as pregnancy and development stuff, we have a scan coming up.
The next big one.
So there isn't a whole lot of that to worry about.
(17:02):
But yeah, I think as we start getting closer, it's going to start coming fast and furious.
Now, I have this to throw in there.
My first was three weeks early.
Really?
So we weren't ready for it.
I did not know that.
So this is just reminding me.
So the day that we went to the hospital for Natali, we were three weeks out.
(17:24):
And my wife and I, Trina and I, were at the mall shopping.
Okay.
And I'm a goofball.
And I was making her laugh.
And I think we had like Hyde's hot dogs or something that day.
Okay.
And she was burping it up.
And she was kind of like, okay.
And at that point, the doctor says, you know, the more walking you might induce, you know.
So we didn't want to do a lot of that because it's still three weeks out.
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But we were at the mall and I said something.
We left the mall and we went to, back then there was a store called Ames.
It was like a Kmart.
I remember Ames, yes.
And we were looking at probably more baby stuff, you know, for the room and stuff.
And I probably started dancing in the aisle or saying something stupid.
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And Trina laughed.
She was like, oh my gosh.
She's like, and she goes, oh my God, I'm peeing my pants.
Well, she didn't pee her pants.
So we got, and still were so new to this.
We still didn't know we went home.
She thought she peed her pants.
And that's fantastic.
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And things started happening.
Unfortunately, her mother, because it's three weeks out, was nowhere to be, nowhere near the hospital.
She already had her day planned and she was not there.
So my mother was in replacing her mother.
So my mom got to be in the delivery room.
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So it happened quickly.
Like I said, we were prepared, but we can't be prepared for everything.
So we were three weeks early and everything just went out the window, right?
That's funny.
Yeah.
So he was three weeks early.
From now on, at all your shows, you should be introduced as the labor inducing comedy of Carlo Russo.
That is fantastic.
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If you're early, late, just have me come over.
There you go.
Yeah, we'll do that.
I have a, yeah, I have a DVD.
Do your 10 minutes set.
So that was fun.
So I, that just reminded me, Natalia was three weeks early and everything that we planned went out the window.
We're like, oh my God, it's happening now.
That's fine.
So, well, yeah, I think, yeah, being prepared will be important.
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So the other one that, that stood out, we asked on Facebook for ideas and advice and like kind of hacks and best practices and Christine, one of our top fans.
Yeah.
We've heard from Christine before.
Yes, we have.
So Christine said, sleep when the baby sleeps, accept help when it's offered, because there's nothing wrong with getting help.
(19:55):
Order takeout, watch, Christine is like one of my favorite people already.
Order takeout, watch a movie, clean the house later, tell your wife every day she's beautiful, enjoy every all caps minute because your kids grow up too fast.
And I think that's.
She is so 100% on the money.
(20:17):
Especially the takeout.
But no, I think that's, that's also great advice.
And it's funny, I have found myself.
I never understood people would say, oh, women, they're so beautiful when they're pregnant.
I never got it.
And now I'm like, look how cute you are.
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They're just adorable.
Yeah, she is.
She's adorable.
Yeah, we're over.
Tell your doctor that.
Yeah, yeah.
The one that looked at you nasty when you thought you were making fun of your wife's weight.
There was absolutely.
If you know what we're talking about, we love you.
If you know what we're talking about, you are the OG.
You, you're, you're down.
(20:58):
The it's, we were over at my, we were over at my sister's for, for dinner the other day.
And we're just like getting ready to leave.
I don't know.
I'm like, look how cute she is.
Yeah, I can't help it.
But anyhow.
I'll sleep when the baby sleeps.
Yeah.
But at the same time, it's so hard because it's like you have this moment, like, okay, what do I need to do?
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That's tough, right?
Can I get something done?
Yeah.
And what can I catch up on?
It does make sense.
Even though you have things to do, get that sleep.
Take that moment.
Say, you know what?
That can wait right now.
The baby's sleeping.
I have to be sleeping as well because when the baby gets up, then I have to be alert and have energy.
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And so that is, nobody wants to do it.
I don't know why.
Maybe because it's like, and the nice thing is with family around.
You can, I remember Trina sleeping even when the baby wasn't because we had her mother or my mother or something or me.
I would come home and she would just hand off the baby.
Yeah.
I remember it was like clockwork.
It was, I mean, we had it down and she would have the baby throughout the day and people come in and out.
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And then when I came home, that's when she really slept.
Right.
And she would just hand me the baby.
And yeah, she'd be out.
And the cool thing is there's a period of time when the baby just sleeps.
Right.
Right.
So you just like, that's when you can watch your TV and kind of have like a little normal, like a taste of what it used to be like, I can do this.
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And then in six weeks or four weeks, it all changes.
Right.
But at that moment when the baby's sleeping all the time, that's when you can catch up on things.
I can handle this.
This is not bad.
And, and regroup.
And that's what I've learned.
It's just like when she's handed it to me, like, well, you're handing me a baby, but it's going to sleep anyway.
So I would just like get something to eat.
(22:49):
And they always say, you know, take off your shirt, skin to skin.
Skin to skin.
And we did that.
And, and I would just like turn on the TV and just the baby sleeping.
And you watch the baby more than the TV.
You're just like, you're just staring at this child.
You know what I mean?
Instead of watching.
Yeah.
You're not watching it.
And you're just looking going, how did we make this?
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How did this happen?
How did, you know, that's the coolest thing.
But yeah, if you can get some sleep.
My, my sister, Lucille, her daughter, she was telling me a story about the being tired thing that she said, if she had had, she had my nephew first and then my niece later.
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And if they, she said, if they had been reversed, my nephew never would have been born because she was very, she was one that it was like needed to eat every couple hours.
But my nephew, like he was, I think he was almost 10 pounds at nine pounds, 10 ounces, something like that.
And so you'd stuck a bottle in them, eat it.
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That was it.
And then back to sleep with, with her daughter, with Jenna, not so much, right?
Every two hours, wake up hungry, but she would like take her time and not, it would take, it wouldn't, it was like a half hour, 45 minutes, an hour to go through a bottle.
So she was getting absolutely no sleep.
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And after a few months, she said, after a few months, people would say, gee, you look like you're a little, and I would just burst into tears.
I know it's tough.
That's gotta be hard.
But as she always also said, time goes by, they grow up so fast.
You, when you're in the moment, you think this is never going to end.
Yeah.
(24:34):
This will never end.
I will always smell like poop and pee.
I will never have any good clothes that doesn't have a stain on it.
But you're in that moment.
And then all of a sudden now, again, I jumped, it feels like it was yesterday.
Mine's 23 and 18, you know, and, uh, take it for what it, everything.
You take it all in, do it all.
(24:55):
You're only going to be tired for a little bit of time.
You're gonna, you're gonna go to sleep.
Eventually it's going to be, eventually your life goes back to normal.
You and the child can take naps because you're an old fart.
Yep.
I like a good nap.
Exactly.
We can tag.
We're going to need naps.
We can do that.
You guys can have that in common.
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That's it.
That sounds okay.
Kelly can feed you both.
That sounds like a great evening to me.
I love it.
That's it.
So, so again, thank you to, uh, Texas Redditor and Christine.
Thank you very, very much.
We'll cover some others.
I'm sure as we, as we get more coming in.
Um, so that can I ask you a question about this?
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Sure.
Did your parents have help?
Did your mother ever say like, Oh, your grandmother was here or did they have to do this on their own?
Well, I think, I think it depends on what side of the family, which kid.
Okay.
Right.
So I don't, I think when my brother was born, they were, my parents were living upstairs from my grandmother.
(26:00):
Okay.
And my grandmother was no, like, was no help.
She was the one that, yeah, she was miserable.
Like, she was like, basically like once they had the baby, what my brother, she was like, you got to get out.
Like, I can't, like, she was like, couldn't, didn't want to hear the kid cry.
Like, yeah, not a, not a great woman.
Okay.
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No help there.
No, no help there.
But it's funny because my family of, there was my, my aunt and, and my uncle and my dad, my dad was the oldest.
My aunt lived with my grandmother.
Okay.
So she never had, never had a family, never had kids.
My uncle had his family.
So my uncle's kids, my cousins, like they talk about my grandmother in a completely, like they had a completely different experience, completely different.
(26:51):
Like literally one, one time we were, had a little get together and my cousin was talking about my grandmother and my, my, my wife, Kelly's like, really?
This doesn't sound at all.
Like, I'm like your story.
Yeah.
So she just gave up or she was, she was not, she was one of those people who came to America, but never really wanted to.
(27:13):
Right.
And she, my father reminded her of her husband who she was not fond of.
And my uncle reminded her of her brother, who she loved.
Gotcha.
Oh my God.
So she, yeah, yeah.
It was all these stories always come back to food.
As a kid, as a little kid, we would go to my grandmother's house and I wouldn't eat.
(27:37):
And I remember my mother, like, you can't keep doing that.
Like, why won't you eat when you're here?
It is, I was, this was before I was even in school.
And I was like, because I, because when we're there and we eat, when uncle Johnny shows up while we're eating better food comes out.
And just from a fairness standpoint, as a little kid, I wrote, I would see that and be like, no, okay.
(28:04):
You don't want to, you don't want to give me the good food.
I don't want any of your food.
So, and that's the, but that's the way it would be.
It was literally like, yeah, that kind of, well, like the example with my, with my brother, when my brother was born, get out.
I can't have a kid.
I can't have it.
I can't have a baby upstairs from me.
I can't, my nerves can't take it.
My, my brother, my father and mother move out.
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My uncle moves in with his wife.
She has my cousin.
They live there for years.
Wow.
And it's like, she wasn't even faking it.
She wasn't even trying to hide it.
Absolutely not.
No, she, it was, it was straight up because you didn't have that experience.
You know?
No, I would always get the stories from my siblings about my mom's mother was a wonderful woman.
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They loved, she was great.
They all, they have nothing but good things to say about her, but she passed away before I was born.
So I never had, I never had a nice grandmother.
I had, I had my, Oh, I used to refer to her as my evil grandma, Nani.
That was it.
It's funny to speak about grandparents.
My grandparents, my, my grandfather died before I was born or when I was named after.
(29:13):
And my grandmother moved here with us when we immigrated, died a year and a half, two years in.
Okay.
So I really didn't know her because I was a child myself.
And then my, my two grandparents on my father's side, they were alive into my teens, but they lived in Italy.
(29:34):
So I didn't hang out with them.
Right.
You didn't get to see them.
So I had really no grandparent experience.
Yeah.
Um, so my older aunts were my, they were like my grand, my grandmother, my one aunt, my mom's sister was the oldest who brought us here.
Right.
Who was our sponsor.
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She was kind of like my grandmother.
Like your grandma.
Um, but I haven't had, I haven't had that at all.
So I think we have that in common.
Yeah.
Yeah.
We don't know.
I mean, my mom's dad, he passed away when I was very young, but I do remember him and he was, Pappy was fun.
He was in a, he was, he would, he would, I remember as a little kid, we'd go over to his house and I would sit on his lap on his rocker.
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He had a little stickly rocker and we would watch TV and he would, we would watch the prices.
Right.
And he loved the prices.
Right.
And he loved Popeye.
And he would always, he was tough.
He liked Popeye cartoons.
And he would watch Popeye.
I think that was a very European thing.
Cause my, I think my father loved Popeye.
It's interesting.
Everybody knew Popeye.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
He loved Popeye.
Cause he was on a boat and we're all shipped over on a boat.
(30:43):
I don't know.
They love, they're all fishermen and salesmen.
Pappy loved Popeye.
Nani didn't love anybody.
It was, or at least nobody on my side of the family.
It was, it was, it was comical.
But that's fun.
That's, that's crazy.
The same family having two totally different stories and, and, and experiences with the same woman.
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Well, yeah.
I'm, I, even when, when my uncle was still alive, he passed away a few years ago and he, he, he was great.
My uncle Johnny was, was, was great.
But he would talk about his mother and he would talk about her.
Like she was this delicate flower.
This one.
And I was, obviously didn't see what you guys went through.
(31:25):
No, she wouldn't show that.
She treated them with kindness and love.
She didn't, they didn't notice how you guys were treated or she wouldn't show that.
I think, no, I think they somehow, they must've understood that it was different.
Yeah.
Cause my, it was just, you know, there was, there was always conflict.
These brothers got along, right.
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Off and on.
They would go, it was so Italian.
Yeah.
Very much so.
Yeah.
I mean, mostly, I mean, they loved each other.
My uncle was when my dad, it was nearing the end of his life and in the home, he was there every Sunday.
He was, he was really focused on family and very supportive of things like that.
He, in a very, very nice, very traditional way.
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No, I think it was just, there was a complete disconnect with how she treated them and how she treated us.
Yeah.
So, yeah.
I mean, getting back to the, the, the, uh, the question, the email though, um, get help when you can.
I, I'm assuming your, your mother didn't get a lot.
No, I don't think so.
Now, by the time I came along, she already had my sister.
(32:33):
Yeah.
My sisters were, did everything for, yeah, they did everything for me.
Do you look at your sisters?
Do you look at her as like more motherly or.
I think she would like that.
I think it's interesting because.
And I only say this because of age.
Because it's a, yeah, right.
As a little kid, when I would go someplace with my sister, people just assumed I was their mom or they were my mom.
(32:58):
So, so there was that.
I think there's a feeling like that from, from my older sister, Paula, they're both older of the two sisters, but I, I see, you know, we have a very, we're very close to talk to her every day, but I don't feel that way.
I feel like she's my sibling.
(33:19):
Yeah.
But you know, I think weirdly though, with my brother who I did not spend as much time with as a little kid, he's 20 years older, but I think just because of the, uh, being a guy and looking up to your bigger, your big brother, he was a God to me.
(33:39):
You know, I, he was, I idolized him the way I think most kids idolize their father.
Absolutely.
Yeah.
I mean, I, I told this to my older brother because coming into a family that doesn't speak English and you can't really, you can't really say your feelings.
And as much as we speak Italian, we really don't.
(34:01):
Um, we speak enough where we can, you know, live with our family and get across what we want to get across, but we can't sit down and talk to him one-on-one with your dad.
Cause the language barriers just deep conversations.
Yeah.
You don't, he's not that person anyways.
Right.
So my mother would be great at that, but the language barriers there where you can't really sit down and, and, and confess all your feelings.
(34:25):
And my brother, that was the only parental kind of, uh, parental, uh, person that I was afraid of.
I was like, cause he would check on my school.
He would know all the, he would talk to the teachers.
He spoke English.
So I had to worry about him, like worrying about a father.
Yeah.
And I told him the other day, you know, I was like, I was more worried about you finding out what I did and mom and dad, I don't care less what they thought because they were proud of the problem, you know, with the language and how they, you know, the old school ways of raising us.
(34:59):
Yeah.
Where I was afraid.
I looked at my brother Pete as my father.
Yep.
Yeah.
That's interesting.
I know he's my brother.
I also have that brotherly.
I mean, he's my best friend.
So how much older is Pete?
Not that, uh, he's, uh, I'm 56.
He's, he'll be 59.
Okay.
So he's 23 years older.
Yeah.
But no, yeah, it's, it's interesting with the, with the siblings, uh, how you end up with that, but yeah.
(35:22):
Yeah.
Help wise, what the help we will have is I think, you know, I have my sister here, uh, Lucille, I think is going to probably want to come from Texas to help when the baby's born.
My brother won't do anything, but everything.
Okay.
Well, that's okay.
(35:42):
And that's fine.
But it'll be, it'll be good.
We'll have some, well, you got all of us and, uh, that's right.
And we have the podcast.
Yeah.
When you don't know what to do, you just listen to the podcast.
That's right.
I can call Christine and the Texas Redditor.
Exactly.
And get some more, get some more good advice.
Yeah.
So, well, that is, that is the silver Fox mailbox.
(36:04):
And I guess we're going to take a little break.
Yeah.
Let's do some, uh, we'll take some photos.
I think we're going to need to produce commercials.
So when I say we're going to take a break that it's going to cut to, yeah.
Well, we do have, we do have that commercial of the contest, right?
Yeah.
I was working a little bit.
We might, we might put that in there.
(36:24):
So you might see a commercial next, or we might just transition smoothly into a crash.
Just daddy.
Oh, am I going to have to dress up?
I might have to put something on.
This is, this is where you earn your pay.
The nice, the nice thing about the podcast is I come over.
I don't know really what he has planned until I come here.
I have the sheet or sheets of agenda.
(36:49):
We're going to talk about this.
Put on a cup.
Get into a dog suit.
Oh yeah.
Wear a cup.
Yeah.
But, uh, so we're going to be doing that right now.
Name the baby.
I am Frank Cereo of the gray hair and daycare podcast.
(37:09):
I'm here with my cohost, Carlo Russo.
My wife and I are expecting our very first child, a little girl due in March.
And we've selected a name that I cannot tell you.
Why?
Well, because this relationship is in the internet and you could be a lunatic.
(37:29):
So just for fun, I decided to give you a chance to name the baby.
To name my baby.
In the comments below or in email, submit names and you'll have a chance to pick the name that I will be forced to call my little girl for the remainder of my podcasting career.
(37:51):
Might not be that long.
Fair enough.
Then we'll vote.
We will let democracy run its course, select a clear winner.
And much like elections recently, half of you will be left confused and bitter and deeply disappointed in each other.
So let's name the baby.
(38:13):
Name the baby.
Here we are returning with crash test daddy.
My favorite.
This should be, this is where you get to do your thing.
Okay.
So I thought this time for crash test daddy, rather than just diving right in.
We'll give you an opportunity to try to guess what it is you're going to tell.
(38:36):
Now the only obvious giveaway is that the box says Lululemon all over it.
But what are your thoughts?
What do you think is in here?
I'm okay.
I know in the previous podcast, we were speaking about Kelly's new love of leggings.
(39:00):
Yes.
Now Lululemon, I believe is part of that.
They are known.
The high end.
The high end of that.
Athleisure for women.
Exactly.
And they do have, I will say, I do, I have not for you, but I have so much respect for Trina.
I won't ask you to wear leggings or try them on.
(39:21):
I don't know if I would do that.
So it is not, we can rule out leggings.
Okay.
Okay.
So I'm going to say maybe it's a, can I connect?
Can I ask questions?
I'll give you three.
(39:42):
First of all, first of all, can I shake the box?
Yes, you can.
That you can shape, do whatever you want to the box and three questions.
Do you do this with people?
Because I love making people guess stuff.
I do it with Kelly.
Kelly hates it.
She's like, I don't want to play the game.
I don't think I do that.
I think Trina might go guess.
(40:02):
Well, I don't know.
I always liked it because I was good at guessing when I was a kid.
Right.
And I like to get, I like the game.
I do it with people that work for me all the time.
I don't know if they ate it, but they won't tell me.
So this feels like there's not a lot of room when I'm shaking.
There's, it's very tight to the box.
Fair enough.
Okay.
It's so like, like some, you would say like a, a pillow or a blanket that is wrapped.
(40:27):
That's, that's filling the box.
So first question, can I wear this?
Not me personally.
I mean, do people wear this?
Yeah.
Technically.
Yes.
Technically.
Yes.
Is this for the baby or Kelly?
Is that a question that you can answer?
I think it is more for the parents than the child.
(40:51):
Okay.
Is this for leaving the house or, or sleeping?
It is for mobile activities for leaving the house.
(41:13):
So you're starting to, you're starting to, I'm, it's interesting watching you at work.
So yeah, but now you only got one left.
Hmm.
So we've established, I think it can be worn and it is for out of the house, not sleeping.
Okay.
I'm going to say that it's some, it's a diaper changing, holding like a baby things, wipes.
(41:40):
What's that called?
A, a, like a backpack or something to hold all the baby stuff.
I think you got it.
It is a diaper bag.
Are you serious?
Yeah, that's what it is.
It is.
Well, now of course, Lululemon, it has to be, you go ahead and dig in.
They call it a, this is called the Lululemon new parent backpack.
(42:03):
Oh my God.
I was 17L is the model.
Oh, 17L, L is for lousy, L is for luxury or Lululemon.
I'm going to move this a little bit.
There you go.
So, yeah, that's a lot of, a lot of evaluation went into the selection of this.
(42:24):
Um, there was some questions on color, um, that, uh, Kelly was trying to get me to, it was trying to get me to weigh in.
I said, do you just pick whatever color you like?
There you go.
So you want me to open it or go right?
Dig right in.
Oh yeah, I want, we want to, you know, you don't have to get up and try it on like you did with the other stuff.
(42:46):
But yeah, take it out of there.
So I don't want to, I like the color.
So it's a backpack obviously, but it has, so this has the two things that Kelly really liked about it is it has a smaller thing.
So take the stuff out, there's other stuff going on in there.
So it has a little extra bag for supplies and things.
(43:08):
Absolutely.
And it has a changing pad that it comes with.
Okay.
Which might be in that other thing.
I don't know, but it has a changing pad.
It has the other kind of little purse thing and it's very nice apparently.
So this is it.
This is the, the Lululemon.
(43:28):
Lululemon changing pad.
New parent backpack 17L.
It is $198.
Excuse me.
Um, yeah.
Just to let you know, unless it's one of those in there or some, maybe it's in that thing.
Maybe it's in that thing.
(43:48):
Yeah.
Give it a try.
Go right.
Get in the purse.
I'm going to get or whatever that is.
So that I feel something in here.
Yeah, there it is.
So there's a little pad.
So we have the, the mat.
So there's a little changing, baby yoga mat.
So they can do Pilates.
(44:09):
This is very cool.
You're going to need this because you'll be changing the baby in many different places that you don't want to use their stuff.
Right.
You don't want your child to touch that.
So you can lift that thing out.
Excellent.
It's really nice.
I want to let you feel how this whole thing feels like that.
Okay.
It's really, really nice.
(44:30):
And it seems, it feels like the kind of material that will clean up very nicely.
Because there will be stuff on this.
All kinds of things.
So $198.
Now, again, again, you guys keep this in mind when I ask you to guess what the new check, please.
It is later in the car, $198, 98, 200 bucks.
(44:50):
Now again, can I tell you what I used?
Sure.
I didn't go $200.
It was a Jan sport.
It was a Wegman's bag, the grocery bag.
So when I got a job at a bank.
Right.
At the time.
(45:11):
Now we're going back.
If you opened an account, you got a backpack.
Yeah, and a baby.
And a baby.
23 years ago.
And then 18 years ago.
Back then, the hottest thing was that man purse over the strap.
Remember the man purse?
I never participated in that fad, but okay.
Now, not a fanny pack.
(45:31):
Not a fanny pack, but a true man purse.
A man purse.
Okay.
So I believe one day, it might've been Christmas.
It might've been a birthday.
My wife thought, you have all this stuff for work.
This looks manly enough, but you're still wearing a purse.
And she gave me one and I would put my paperwork in there and whatever I needed for the bank.
(45:53):
So when I quit the bank and we had our second, I turned that into our carrier.
Okay.
So I had this stuff and then I would put the pad in there, all the stuff in it.
It was great.
So I went from looking weird with this purse.
So I'm the daddy of the year.
I'm walking around, look cool.
(46:14):
I got this thing, Italian look, very European look.
Now see, I appreciate a nice bag.
Like my laptop bag for work.
Gorgeous.
I'm nice.
I like it.
It could be described as a man purse.
I was actually going to say, I remember when we worked together, the nice tan leather, I still use it.
And they hold up very, very well.
(46:35):
What I keep getting pushed in my social media feeds now is all the tactical dad stuff.
So it looks like you're going to the gun range, but it's made for, it looks like you're either going to go to, you know, like a baby with your kid, or you're going to go be deployed to Iraq.
Like you can't tell.
(46:56):
So this is, and the cool thing is with this, it does have the backpack.
And is that for one of the things I only know, like, is it for shotgun shells?
Like what is that for?
Hold that.
Okay.
Yeah.
Let's look at that.
What is that for?
I don't, I don't know.
What are you going to stuff in there?
It does look like gun shells.
(47:17):
That's it.
When you need it, when you need it.
I think maybe.
I don't know.
Some buckshot.
But this is cool because you're going to need your hands.
Yeah.
And having this on the, this is awesome.
The backpack.
Yeah.
Feature because your hands have to be free.
So I'm going to, what I'm picturing is that this, the size of this thing and that kind of a shoulder strap, I'm going to look like a, like King Kong with a, with a normal size backpack.
(47:43):
So this is for both of you, of course.
Sure.
Until I get the, the, the tactical dad back.
You're going to, yeah, yeah, yeah.
So that's cool.
So $200, right around $200.
It is the new parent backpack.
I think it's funny that they specify for new parents because experienced parents would never spend $200.
Like I said, I went to my bank man purse and I made it into that.
(48:11):
Well, that was, that's a good buy.
It's good material.
It's good quality.
It seems like, it seems like it is well-made.
And like you said.
And it does, this stuff seems like it's going to hold up.
Yeah.
So that is it.
The mystery box.
I'm kind of, you know, I'm doing pretty good at this stuff.
I guess out of a box.
Yeah.
Yeah.
You do it with three, three questions and a shake and you got it.
(48:31):
That was pretty, especially cause Lululemon.
I, when I saw it arrive, I'm like, what the hell is this?
I mean, at first I said the legging thing.
So when you took that out.
Yeah.
Of course.
No, that was fun.
You're going to use a lot of that.
It's going to come very handy.
That'll be it.
So that's it.
So that is the crash test.
Daddy, the Lululemon new parent backpack 17 L in chartreuse.
(48:54):
I don't know what that color is.
For one 98 us dollars.
So now we will move on to what just happened.
What just happened, Frank?
So the, the news of the week, again, pregnancy wise, not a lot of things, you know, weird things happening, but her, the nice thing is appetite going strong.
(49:17):
Oh, that's good.
Yeah.
So she's, she's eating much better.
Um, the other day we ordered pizza and I was, this was the only time I think ever where Kelly had one more slice than me.
I'm like, wow.
Like that's like normally I typically have two pieces, maybe three, if I'm really hungry and Kelly, never more than a slice of one slice, right?
(49:44):
Like she's not a big eater and she's going back for number three.
I'm like this number three.
Yeah.
I had two slices.
She had three.
I'm like, wow.
So yeah.
Yeah.
I've never seen.
No, I'm excited.
I'm excited.
Like, I like, I know that she still has, has challenges with the, the acid reflux stuff, but it's nowhere near as bad.
And just to see that her, we're doing that.
(50:06):
But I will say the other day, she's on her way to work and she's like, well, I've got to start watching because I gained three pounds in the last week.
And I'm like, so what?
Well, I should be gaining two pounds a week.
I'm like, okay, you need to just give yourself a little room.
Like, first of all, we had gone over to my, my sister and her husband's house and Avi's a great cook.
(50:32):
He did this recipe.
He found a recipe in Italian.
Of course.
Okay.
And it was a lasagna with a bolognese.
Oh, no cheese.
It had a bechamel sauce instead of the cheese, instead of the mozzarella.
It was, it was great.
It was delicious.
We both had two pieces.
Yeah.
I mean, you had two pieces of lasagna last night for dinner.
(50:54):
Like, just take it easy.
Just keep, if you're hungry, you should eat.
Yeah.
So, so that stuff has been, has been really good.
And it also, the other, when we were coming home from somewhere the other day, we're walking in the house, you know, as you know, you come over and it's pandemonium with the dogs.
It's the same thing with us.
They're a little bit more subdued with us.
(51:14):
They're not jumping as much, but still they're scampering around and I'm coming in and I hear this noise.
I don't know.
And I'm like, what was that?
And Kelly goes, it was the return of Fartzilla.
So Fartzilla has returned on occasion, thanks to, thanks to her increased appetite and eating more.
(51:39):
But I'm, I'm very happy.
Well, you got, you got to blame it on the, uh, the baby.
Well, I like, you know what?
That's it.
I'm a hundred percent.
It's all her fault.
Blame it on the corn.
So I'm happy to see her doing that.
So I'm trying to like, yeah, she, she does.
She has sometimes has trouble getting comfortable, but with the, with the special pillow, she does.
(52:02):
Okay.
Generally.
Yeah.
Right.
This, this whole part of, of the pregnancy is, has been pretty, pretty easy compared to the beginning.
So it's good.
It's been good.
And you said she doesn't eat sweets or ice creams or stuff.
That's not her.
No, it's not her jam.
No, she doesn't.
She's not, doesn't it really?
How about you?
(52:24):
It's what, well, it's fun now because I can get her to eat.
Again, Javi made these brownies.
So we went home with, we didn't have any because my sister had made apple, uh, uh, like an apple crumble.
Crumble thing.
Yeah.
And it was delicious and made from apples.
We are apples.
So you put vanilla ice cream with that or whipped cream, a little whipped cream, but it was very good.
(52:48):
She had that too.
But, and then they're like, here, try the, you know, try the brownies.
And I, I was too full, but so the next day I'm like, it's, it's like a novelty for me to like offer.
Cause she would always like, whatever it was, I would take the bigger one.
And now I'm like, go ahead.
And she takes the bigger one.
It's so cute.
So yeah.
So it's good.
And the brownies rack.
(53:09):
Welcome to our side of food.
I know it's just going to go right back.
I know.
As soon as she has the baby, she's already talking about, I got to watch my weight.
No, you don't.
No, you don't.
But hit that baby nice and fast.
Now, now the thing that has come up, cause she's, she's been talking about, we talked about a little bit in the last episode, she's been talking about how she feels it's hard for her to maneuver.
(53:33):
And I'm like, you know, it's not that, you know, your belly's not that big.
And she made the point, look, that's all happening under her ab.
Right.
So her abdominal muscles, her core is very unstable.
And as a result, now I think her, her back is getting real tight.
So the other morning she asked, will you run my back?
(53:54):
I'm like back to Texas, Redditor say, get good at back rubs.
He was spot on.
It's like, I read that.
And like the next day, so I, I start, I start rubbing and smaller back.
It's like, there's knuckle, like she has knots in her back.
Luckily I was able to work them out and, and that's it.
But yeah.
So every once in a while, she's like, you know, give me a background.
(54:15):
Yeah.
And I'm happy to do it.
I think the other thing too, is if she sits like she was doing some work, he's on her laptop, sitting on the couch and she just stayed in the same position too long.
And that throws it out of whack too.
Now last, last one is not a, I'm not ruining anything.
The last episode you felt.
(54:36):
Yeah.
Something.
Yep.
Any new feelings?
She has, she's feeling stuff all the time.
Of course.
And I have one other time felt a little, the, the thing that she described to me just the other day is there was a foot sighting.
Like, Oh yeah.
We were talking about that.
(54:57):
Yeah.
And so that, that was the first she was excited.
She's like, yeah, I think I saw something.
So there, there was that.
So working on the massages, she's, she's keep trying to keep her back loose.
And then the other funny thing was, so this, this past weekend for about the last year, maybe a little bit longer, I started volunteering at church.
(55:20):
So I do, you know, they have, you fill out the form and what you'll do.
So I volunteered for all three masses and then I do either, either marriage baptisms, whatever you need.
So I volunteered to do either greeter, usher or reader.
(55:40):
And so I never know is most people, they volunteer for like whatever mass they want to go to.
Right.
But they were saying how they, they really need help, especially for us.
So I just, okay.
All three.
And so I get moved around like some, most of the time we're going to 10 o'clock on Sunday, but sometimes floater put me in coach, like wherever you need, wherever you need me.
(56:01):
I'm there.
So, so sometimes most of the time is 10 o'clock.
Sometimes we'll do the Saturday vigil.
But, and most of the time I'm an usher a couple of times I've read, but they had a meeting for all of those ministries.
So all the people who do greeter, usher, reader, or Eucharistic minister.
Sure.
Had a little meeting that we had to go to.
(56:24):
So Saturday morning I get my coffee and I go down and months ago in the very beginning, this would have been week five.
Okay.
Wow.
I was greeting during one mass and there's a three entrances to at Sacred Heart where we go.
And I was at one of the entrances where normally I'm just out there.
(56:46):
If I'm greeting, it's me, but father see the pastor, he's kind of a new pastor to us.
He's been there about a year, young guy doing a really good job.
And so he happened to be out there and he was greeting people on that entrance.
Normally he would be out front.
And so when I had the opportunity, cause it was very early on, I'm like, Hey father, you know, say a little extra prayer for me.
(57:09):
And, you know, I told him, and of course he's probably maybe latter thirties, might be 40.
So I'm telling him, yeah, it's our first.
And you could, you could see a little bit of, but we didn't have a lot of time.
So he kind of, that was it.
He was like, Oh yeah, it's first for both of us.
(57:31):
And then, you know, people came in and he's greeting them.
And that was it.
So I haven't had a conversation with him in a while since we talked about that.
So I walk in and there's father's team before the meeting gets going.
And he looks at me and I walk over and say, hello.
He's like, how are things going?
And I tell him that things are going great.
And give him a little update.
(57:52):
I told him the story about the doctor and how they thought I was, he just, he's like, Oh, you know, you kind of chuckled at that.
And then again, he's like, so what's your first?
Don't try to figure that out.
I don't know how many times it is.
Yeah.
Yeah.
That's it.
I didn't forget it.
Like, yeah, no, it's not like, yeah, I misplaced the word and I figured I'd try again.
(58:13):
But yeah, I thought it was, it was kind of comical with the, with father's first one.
But then we went to mass later that day and we're going up for communion and after mass we're leaving and, and Kelly turns to me and goes, I think father, she wanted to smile at me, but he stopped himself.
(58:34):
That's hilarious.
Yeah.
Thumbs up.
I thought that was, that was cute.
So we, you know, we've been trying to figure out what kind of a design we want for the nursery and what we're going to do.
And, and Kelly found this, I really like, so there's no overhead lighting, the room, the room that we're going to be using as a nursery, the previous owners of the home, it was a little boy's room.
(58:57):
Okay.
And so there's like a track light on the one wall.
It's not, it's got to come out.
There's no overhead lighting.
So that was the overhead.
Yep.
So I've got to do, I'm going to put in a couple overhead lights, but we're trying to find something for a kid's room.
And Kelly found these really adorable, they look like a hot air balloon.
(59:19):
Okay.
But it's a light fixture.
It's like, and then there's two different sizes.
So I'm going to put up two in the corner and, and one, the, one of the larger ones on the other side of the room, because that's the other thing that's weird about this room is in the center of the ceiling is the access for the attic.
So there's, so you can't put it right in the center where it would make sense.
(59:42):
So we, we got, we've done some work and I think we have some solid design ideas.
I immediately am starting to think, I'm trying to think of how far to take the theming, but we'll see about that.
So we got some, some of that stuff on order.
That's what just happened.
And now we are on to check, please.
So if you recall our total as of the last time we did check, please, which was two episodes ago was $370 and 8 cents.
(01:00:14):
So in two weeks, we're going to play another guessing game.
Okay.
Where do you think we're going to land?
It took us 21 weeks to get to $370 and 8 cents.
Where do you think we are?
So we did the, we did the backpack.
The backpack.
I'm going to round it off to 200.
Okay.
So that's, so we're already at 570.
(01:00:37):
Okay.
You got the baby room kind of going.
Did you buy paint?
You said no.
No.
Okay.
So the balloon things that was probably ordered Amazon-ish probably.
I will, I will say this gives away a little Etsy is where the light fixtures are coming from.
Okay.
I'm going to say some odds and ends 780.
(01:01:01):
780 would be a good guess.
The grand total is $1,077 and 98 cents.
I missed a big purchase.
So the Etsy purchase, the light fixtures, they're very nice, but they're like, they make them custom, I think.
So that was like almost 500 bucks just for the light fixtures.
(01:01:22):
So now the totals now, Amazon used to be the leader.
Etsy has leapfrogged to the top of the list.
So Etsy's at 494.
Amazon's about 240.
Lululemon with tax comes up to 218 or 213.
Target is still hanging in there at 121.
So, yep.
So we have crossed the first thousand in 23 weeks.
(01:01:48):
Okay.
Like at this point, we're still looking at cribs.
None of that stuff.
Lots of other people I've talked to would like the bassinets and the crazy stuff.
Say rent, rent, rent, rent.
If you don't think you're going to have, if you don't, if you're not going to have three more kids, It's a great idea.
Then you rent instead and you get the, you know, you do it that way.
(01:02:10):
That's a perfect.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Cause you're going to have to get rid of them.
I'd rather do that.
Cause the other, the other solution is, as we're doing all this research, there's all these things that are multiple use.
Like it's a bassinet and then it's a changing car and then it's a, yeah.
And then it's a sled and I don't want to do those.
Cause they're never as good.
(01:02:30):
Maybe.
So I don't know where, where do you rent them from?
But I'm sure we can find out.
I'm Kelly probably already has a list.
Yeah.
But yeah.
So that, uh, so what, what's it?
1000, $1,077.98. Okay.
So that is, that is our latest update to check please.
(01:02:51):
But that is pretty much everything for this week for episode six, six.
Episode six.
Yeah.
So thank you very much for all of your support.
We've had a lot of downloads.
We're on a good trajectory and we're getting good, good feedback and responses from you guys.
Please continue to send in.
We'll hopefully in a couple of weeks, we'll be able to talk about voting for what the name is that you will choose for a name, the baby.
(01:03:20):
So we have that coming up.
So please keep sending those in email, comment on our socials, share the podcast with your if you think they'll like it and we'll look forward to talking to you again soon.
Well folks, that's another episode of the gray hair and daycare podcast in the books.
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(01:03:42):
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