February 4, 2025 • 63 mins
Join Frank and Carlo for another hilarious episode of The Gray Hair & Daycare Podcast! This week, they're discussing Baby Josephine's latest developments (she's now the size of a pineapple!), Frank's near-meltdown in the waiting room, and the ongoing saga of the childbirth class videos.
Plus, they're testing out baby products again with a bath time temperature challenge that's sure to make you laugh. And finally, they're diving deep into some philosophical dad territory with Frank's "three big rocks" of fatherhood. Tune in for another week of laughter, heartwarming moments, and the madness of dadness!
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(00:00):
Welcome back episode 15 15 15 so Here we are.
Yeah, we are here and As always I am Frank cereal I am 55 years old and my wife is 32 32 weeks pregnant seems like yesterday.
(00:22):
She was 31 it does Just yesterday So the update this time most of the time it's some kind of it's always produce usually it's vegetables this time pineapple Size, I say love a lot of things Apple has to be one of my favorite.
I like pineapple.
I like pineapple.
I got a gift from one of my employees for for the holidays one of those edible arrangement things and there and there was pineapples chocolate-covered pineapple stars I had that we had I had the same ones and was there strawberries as well.
(01:01):
Yep.
They were good.
There's good stuff I like it, but I like regular pineapple, too.
So
Pineapple so the update
Anatomically his her skull is not fused yet
So it's a series of plates that are moving around
They should be and in fact based on our last visit to the doctor
(01:24):
They are head down
Kind of getting ready to ready getting ready to travel lungs and central nervous system are developing nice
She could if she was born now breathe and stay warm with medical help
so even at this point she's there and
eyelashes
(01:45):
Eyebrows and hair are now all visible.
Oh So there's a little little there's a baby there that's that has headplates Floating headplates the lungs developing and she's got some hair and eyelashes and all that.
I remember I think this was last week We were talking about the baby at that point could see focus.
(02:07):
Yep.
Eyes are eyes open Yeah, and yeah, so then can hear sounds Yeah, it's like a little it is like it is it is like a little person and I will say and there is the more And and lots of Interaction now, so and we'll talk more about that movement and stuff, which is really really fun.
(02:28):
Yeah, so that's where we are here in episode 15 and a week 32 and we're going to we did not do this on our last episode, but we will have a slightly different version this this time of I was wrong So I'm Frankie.
(02:48):
This this is kind of an interesting one.
All right, I'm here for you.
I was wrong It's not really I was wrong.
I was wrong.
No.
Oh, I think you've you've been attacked enough.
I Don't wanna and I do have some information I want to pass to you about something so Yeah, okay.
It'll be interesting to see if it may be related.
Okay, that's so this was interesting While we talked about in the last episode I had been on vacation yes, so I was on vacation with my brother and his wife and We have talked on several occasions about my one niece Marie Marie has contributed.
(03:28):
She was the one who suggested the name that ended up being chosen.
So she was the Baby, Josephine was her idea.
My brother has two daughters Marie and Bianca both both listeners and Now and Marie if you recall a couple episodes ago Brought up the idea that we as part of crash test.
(03:50):
Daddy would test the Frida baby.
Oh, geez not sucker Yeah thing.
Yeah now and we've had discussions We talked about whether or not we are willing to do that.
Sure or which of us might Experimentally try this out, but she was very very positive about the product and said it worked well for her and And and felt strongly that we should test it and we thought it would be a good idea Okay.
(04:21):
Now, of course that that suggestion came up during vacation And I was informed reliably By my brother's wife that Marie in fact Never used that product but Forced her husband to do it.
(04:44):
So it was effective, but it had only been used not by Marie But by her husband, okay.
Okay.
Let me break this down Did they ever use it for the baby?
Yes, they used for the baby.
They were using it.
I wasn't using it on her No, what she did she ever use it?
(05:04):
No, she She they used it on her baby, but it was her husband.
So she never really did this.
No Marie Marie Marie now I have to say This might have been an omission But it was a pretty big omission and I was interested to hear this So when when Jane told me I thought it would only be fair For me to bring this to you before we Engage in any testing.
(05:34):
Well, that's My integrity is very important To do it.
I remember you I said, let's do it You were more you were more positive about the project than I thought you would have been Yes, and because I thought because always first entertainment Podcasting information.
(05:58):
Yeah.
Yeah for the product adding value here for the listener, right?
We're here for the listener.
If you don't want to get through it, we will do it ourselves Right will be the guinea pigs, right?
That's what I thought for the business.
Yes now getting that information.
I Want to give you a little bit of my information that I okay.
Okay, so was Okay Yes, yeah, I too Was Okay, my side of the family.
(06:26):
Fantastic.
So I was sitting home, right and as my every night my wife comes home from from work, right and Trina is a Listener, I mean she knows she's like Paul.
She's a super fan.
Right super fan She'll come home.
She'd be like tell me exactly where she's at what she agrees with Right, and it's always a nice conversation.
(06:49):
Sure I don't remember if it happened that way But maybe you know better than I do and in your memory and it's always like an open conversation.
Sure so she comes home and The podcast comes out and she listens to it on the way to work and then if she can't finish it on the way back Okay, she walks in and she comes straight to her TV room Parlor area of the house and she goes there is no Peeping way you're sucking anything out of Frank's nose.
(07:21):
That is where I draw the line Thank you Thank you for not allowing me to play house with this crazy man that because I didn't really want to do it But now I can say my wife won't let me do it I had so that that is that is a woman who loves you.
(07:43):
Yeah, that is I think it's admirable She's she's drawn.
She she's drawn a line.
I would respect that Trina.
I would I understand I I've never talked about what I do for a living You know what I do for a living I do you know what I I get away with I do What I have to lose a lot of things that I think she'll be more worried about right and she's never Questioned anything.
(08:07):
I've done in my job or That's on video and in the public Yeah and this one without putting her work bag down rushed into the room and said there is no way you're sucking anything out of Now and I knew she wasn't kidding this makes me feel I It's interesting.
(08:33):
This makes me feel good for you.
That's a woman who loves you, right?
Yeah now, but it does make me think Now the way I presented it was that we would kind of because I wouldn't be comfortable would just be like hey come on car Right.
It's either it was gonna be one or the other And my wife had no problem Yeah, we might ask so While I'm editing, I'll be I'll be asking my lovely wife about how she feels.
(09:02):
There's there's Trina standing up for her man and Either While she's saying this I'm going through one of the worst colds of Two years But it's you know that I'm already like stuffed up and then she hears that might actually be it might actually be helpful Actually do what we might want to do I guess I can't come on play.
(09:32):
That's my mommy says I can't I'm comfortable and honestly, I feel like I Feel like the whole project has been tainted by the omission of yours of my my niece So Marie a little disappointed.
I'm not sure There's gonna be and I was wrong in the future.
That's right.
The t-shirts over It was her husband who actually did it according to according to Jane now Sure, did we read into this or did she say I used to do this for my baby?
(10:08):
That's why I'm saying there could have been an omission there because she didn't say oh I used it and it was fantastic Tasted like whipped cream.
No, it was but she also didn't say my husband.
No, right Oh, yeah, she did not say yeah, she did not say that No, so there may be some clarification needed, but I thought that was important enough So it wasn't it was a you were wrong or at least a little a little misleading So, thank you to my lovely wife Yes, thank you.
(10:39):
Not only do I know she listens to the podcast.
It's true.
There's food there That's there's proof.
There's no way she's looking out for you.
Yeah.
Yeah, so Okay, well Yeah So since we're there's no way we're doing that we did talk about a bunch of options of things to do Okay for for crash test daddy, right?
(11:14):
So but so what I think we could do if you wanted to I thought this one might be fun Let me call my wife.
It is this one will be a lot less personal.
Okay, but it'll be another kind of a game Little there will be a Gameplay element to it.
All right, so there are two products that I thought we could we could test Mm-hmm.
It is the first is the Fisher price baby to toddler bath four-in-one sling and seat tub So this is a good cat.
(11:43):
It's like a tub with a sling.
You could use it when the baby's really little Now you're not gonna fit in it.
I'm not gonna wash your feet but what I thought we could do is use that in conjunction with the B&H Rubber ducky bath thermometer.
Okay.
So what I'm thinking is we'll have a little challenge We will un off-camera.
(12:04):
We will unpackage We'll take out the the Fisher price Todd toddler bath and maybe we'll go over like oh look This is the stuff that comes with it.
Okay, then what I'll have you do is you'll take the little bath off-camera and Fill it with water that you think is the right temperature for a baby bath And then we'll come right back Cameras on the ducky in and we'll put the ducky in and see how you did.
(12:30):
I like it.
You want to try that?
Yeah, okay Here we are and we are back again with the Fisher price baby to toddler bath four-in-one sling and seat Sling and seat tub.
I'm so glad you did not ask me to I don't know if I could yeah You could probably wear it like a big helmet What's it because it comes with some other little thingy so that that is the sling So I think the sling I have the manual here to try to see what might Be done with these things.
(13:07):
Would this be a sling for like maybe if the baby's when it's smaller, maybe yes
So when the baby's an infant, okay, the sling somehow attaches to this thing and they sit in that
So like a little like a hammock like it clips those clips clip around the edge of the the tubby
Okay, I think it goes the other way
Yeah, so it's that way and then yeah those hooks hook around the end of the lip of the thing
(13:33):
So then the kids in the water, but in the little sling securely, so there's that when they're really little
And then once they get bigger they have the green thing the that tub and there's a little head pad
So they're in that way and then I don't know what that is
So this looks like maybe for over the head a little sprinkler
(13:54):
Yeah, okay
Okay, very nice cute and what else
Maybe a little toy must be
If it details any of this it might do the same thing to wash out the soap, that's it
(14:16):
I don't know.
It just says okay.
It looks like that green thing comes out too.
Okay for when the kids like for oh Okay, so that comes out now becomes bigger.
Yes, so it's very like basically like three sizes a couple toys goes right in the sink and Ready to go It does look pretty yeah, so now we're gonna go you will estimate the temperature and Then we will drop in the ducky and see how well you do.
(14:43):
You know what?
What's that?
You should do it.
Okay, and not know the temperature, right?
And then you should do it and I won't tell you the temperature and see if we both are okay Because you're the one really gonna have to burn the baby if I know what I'm doing.
Okay, right So you want to go first?
I go first doesn't matter.
I think we should both go blindly I think you should do the water and then we'll test it and see what you're what your number is And but you'll know the number and then I will fill it with the water temperature that feels good to me And then I'll test it and then we'll compare notes so we're back and Yeah, Carlo has filled the water by temp by dad hand measurement and we're gonna drop in mr.
(15:30):
Duck and see what digital Digital see what the temperature is.
Oh Carlo on the honor system will make a note of his temperature and We'll see from there.
So is it climbing?
It's okay.
So it's it there's a light going on and off I don't know if it's supposed to if it's taking the temperature.
Is it giving a number on the little number?
But it's still blinking is the is the number.
(15:53):
Oh, it's blinking blue, right?
So I don't know if it's I think the blue blinking is so this is a fairly sophisticated duck The duck has a target temperature and if it gets below a certain temperature that's too cold for the baby It's blue and if it's too hot, it's red.
So you may be You may have this number.
It's okay, or maybe it's just flashing blue because it's way too hot I don't know blue because your child is now dead So you got the number okay, yeah, we'll be back and it will be on me Okay, so we're back.
(16:28):
I have filled the little tubby with my you can see in my wet hands And I'm gonna drop in mr.
Duck and see what it says.
Oh, I got a blue flash.
I'm climbing.
I Might be a little low Is this flashing blue?
Yeah, that's what mine was doing.
I guess we should have read the directions, but we can figure it out Why would we do that?
Well, you know that my number is eighty five point eight Mine was eighty three point four That's pretty so we were close You know what the temperature is supposed to be 72 no Ninety ninety eight point four.
(17:05):
Oh, so we were both in the safety range Okay, but we could have been a little warmer.
Okay now and I know I have looked at the manual So the duck the duck is super cute, right?
So it has a little sensors on the bottom And it does have it you can customize it and set a range So it will tell you as throughout the bath if the water starts getting too cold It'll have a little flash if it's too hot So it's probably flashing blue saying and saying you should be warmer.
(17:36):
That's a cool.
Yeah, cuz we're like 10 degrees under Target now we were being very cautious because we obviously know what cold water.
Yes, and we know what steaming hot water Yeah, but it's hard to believe we're trying to be very yeah, I'm thinking 98 like it's it's got to be basically body temperature That's what but I don't like I felt it felt that way to me there was a point when I had My water chosen right and then I put that in there and it messed with the faucet it did and it got colder Yeah, I thought okay.
(18:06):
Now just I'll just put more water Okay, we probably would have had the same 85 something.
Yeah.
Yeah, it would have been close.
We were we've been very close Yeah, I think yeah as I feel it now it's a it's hard to judge body temperature versus air temperature But that's why you get the the ducky.
(18:28):
Yeah, and he lets you know what you're supposed to do I wish the ducky quacked, but he does not I wish it said I wish it said add more heat Just talk to you.
Hey stupid your kids cold so that was The Fisher price baby to toddler bath four-in-one sling and seat tub, that's right and the B&H Rubber-ducky bath thermometer loved it.
(18:52):
So there there we are.
So there's that's what we haven't done a crash test daddy in a while No, it didn't involve any mucus.
I don't think Trina will mind that one.
That's good.
I'm glad I don't want Trina mad at me No, no, we're good.
So that'll be a little bit more, you know Temperature which you're smart you're smart man, but they're unfortunate.
There are parents out there that have no idea about Checking the temperature of the water or the milk.
(19:19):
Yeah, or the formula.
Well, that's why you go like this And I'm sure a lot of people go by preference to and honestly, that's a thing with me and Kelly We've got a thermostatic Control on our shower.
Sure.
So it's always The same temperature, but she liked that a lot hotter than I do.
Yeah, and so I were Changing it.
(19:41):
I'm always changing it back and forth.
But but yeah, so I get you know good to have It's good to have a ducky.
Yes, that's it.
So there you go.
So there's our crash test daddy and we're gonna move right into What just happened?
So The the latest update we talked last time about our trip and we had a nice time.
(20:04):
We had some travel challenges Yeah, so we're back and it has been just horribly Frigidly cold here.
This has been we've been in something.
We've been in something the snow Honestly the snow in the cold Way more last year.
I only I think I only had to plow our driveway through four times This time there's like tons of snow and drifting snow and just Brutal cold of it.
(20:32):
Yeah, cuz it's no I mean hasn't piled.
No, it's always there But it's just gotten colder and colder and colder.
Yeah.
Yeah, it's been it's been really really really cold and everywhere, too I called my brother the other day and I'm like, well, it's 20 degrees.
It was 20 degrees in Nashville It's 20 degrees into snowing everywhere.
Yeah, that's crazy.
So Jacksonville snowy It's there's no I saw pictures just the other day of Destin with snow on the beach.
(20:58):
It's crazy Miami.
They were skiing
Probably not what yeah, that's right
But so so basically we did that stuff back into the cold settled back in got back to work
Kelly has definitely been in nesting mode getting things ready for the baby
It's exciting and and I think feeling a little
(21:19):
Like I've got we've got a few things we got to get done and one of those things that we have to get done is
The childbirth class video.
Yes.
We spoke about that.
We did so a couple episodes ago We talked about they were a little boring not not great and I admit Through editing and watching and then doing some of our promo videos that we do on social media.
(21:45):
I really did give a hard time To the young man, who is the first no chance I believe This this child has no chance.
Yeah, I saw the parents or the father at least I feel a little bad, but I stand by it But now we have moved on to we have and there's a new example couple I was afraid it was gonna be just these you're stuck with this.
(22:09):
Yes So this very nice very nice couple a little bit older a little Not not a whole other young but a little bit older but much more relatable just a more more relatable couple and they're talking and now They're the focus with this one is more on Preparation techniques.
Okay of massage and You know For me to massage Kelly.
(22:37):
I thought you'd get massage techniques
Breathing techniques
Practicing breathing techniques and why they're supposed to work and I'm just thinking the whole time
I'll say aren't going to work
No
Which was gratifying because at the same time at one point during that video Kelly actually looked at me and said
We'll learn all these but they'll none of this is
(22:59):
Didn't I say that to you three weeks ago or whatever?
Yeah There's not gonna be any of that, but there's a lot of like counter pressure techniques, which I just don't understand How this is gonna help like where I'm bearing down on her hips and And that's how you got here Exactly.
(23:20):
I'm like, I'm like I asked I'm like, how is this going?
And of course my brilliant wife is like well, it's just like it's you're applying pressure because it distracts It distracts your senses your senses Kelly.
You can only So she's focusing on that and not the pressure of the contraction so that makes sense But at the same time I'm thinking I'm worried We just did a test where we're worried about the getting the temperature, right?
(23:46):
Right about the prayer like yeah, I'd be worried.
I struggling with this Because it's personal.
Okay, but it's it's it's it has to be done.
Okay, our first child.
Yep We go to that we go and to get things moving, right they tell the wife the mother Yeah to get into a bathtub And go on Yeah, like fours.
(24:15):
Yeah, and for me, yeah to hose her down really This has not been on the video so far because the relaxation of the water over your body Does the same idea like yeah comes the but the whole time you're just Were you laughing as you did it?
(24:40):
Oh, no Not laughing I was what am I doing?
Why what am I doing?
But I was a good husband because I know at that point.
She also is going what is he doing?
Am I in this situation Now the closest thing she's gonna kill me but I think it's something that the doctors say you have to because the warm water and Relaxes and it was it was it did work.
(25:10):
Who knows it.
Maybe it's in my video.
I just haven't gotten that far yet This thing what the closest thing to that that I thought was interesting remember if you think back all the room the old like there would be black and white videos of like Gymnasiums and and and workout places and there was always a machine that somebody would stand on and there was a strap around their belly It would vibrate their belly how to lose weight.
(25:33):
So the this technique was similar no bathtub involved But the mother on all fours father The husband straddling her with like one of those yoga bands.
Okay a stretchy piece of material Okay, and you just underneath her belly and was doing a back and forth and like moving her belly, you know As much as I don't remember it.
(25:58):
I do remember Seeing something something like that.
I don't know if it's like, you know, if we did it or we saw it, right?
I do remember something something like that because I think I made the joke about the
That's what it made me think weightlifting or a weight loss
I think yeah, but I could be totally making this all up and in my mind just I'm still thinking of my wife
(26:21):
But when there's no hoses yet in the video, it was not
Don't think of it like an outside water hose for the pool
But it was like a shower, you know
They go just run it down her back and right make sense sure
Moment you're both looking at each other going don't ever talk about this unless you have a podcast 18 years later, right?
(26:43):
That's it.
That wouldn't work 20 23 years This is I'm picturing now Trina is listening to this on the way home crashing into what I'm thinking.
Oh my god I mean, yeah, I mean we've talked about worse things.
I was gonna that's true take snots out of your nose She drew the line, yeah, that's okay So but anyway, so so that's where we are.
(27:03):
The videos are improving.
Yeah, but every time it's any time it comes back to the Instructor, it's still the boring.
God.
She's not boring.
Oh that lady.
There was a horrible blouse Boring.
She's just boring.
She's kind of I don't know and it's better that I don't you know after listening to the podcast a couple weeks because she goes did we go a Lot because you forget I mean, it's 20 something years.
(27:26):
Yeah, and I'm like, I thought we went more than I said It had to be more than four or five times and probably an hour each time.
Yeah.
Yeah, so we've probably I don't remember a thing I go we got to know people who came very friendly with a couple.
Yeah, she's like, I don't remember No, so I said get in that bathtub and I started posing her down This will bring it back.
(27:48):
This will remind you this will remind you.
Oh God, okay.
So that was that that is where we at.
We still got more to do We keep saying we got to watch we got to watch more tomorrow and then we watch have you ever seen This is this is a TV show that I personally I love Okay, and I'm gonna I'm gonna guess that you probably have never even heard of it.
(28:09):
Okay, it's called from England.
It is Can I don't it is called toast of London.
Do you know who Matt Barry is Matt Barry?
Yes, why do I know that name from the IT crowd?
He was the he was mr.
Denim the boss I think it was his name.
He's also on He's also not Matthew Perry.
(28:31):
No.
No, he's passed away.
He's gone.
He is He's also on what we do in the shadows that you showed me that.
Yes.
Okay.
Yes, he plays He plays one of the vampires.
Yeah, but this is this is an older series where he plays kind of a crappy actor in London Okay, and it's called toast to lunch, okay, so we always end up watching that toast of London it's hilarious very very funny and instead of watching the video so Yeah, we're gonna have to watch more of that and I'm like that's hilarious that's not good I'm gonna say is it more you Switching it over.
(29:09):
No, it's not know what it is At the end of the day, we're both kind of worth tired from zapped Tired we have dinner we sit down and then we I'm sure we both think we should watch the videos And I think I probably think God, please let her not think of it Yeah, and then she doesn't and I'm happy and I put on toast to London But we'll we'll get through it.
(29:33):
We'll go but at least you're not leaving the home We have to leave our house go to the hospital.
Yeah, I'll do these meetings walk in have the cup coffee, whatever Yeah, you had to do the whole thing, but we were younger I don't like I complain about these videos, but imagine if I was in the room with How many other couples were there with you?
(30:01):
There had to be four to five other couples sometimes more so imagine me Having to focus on the content of a class Surrounded by four or five examples of kid from video number one.
Yeah, right I would the whole time I would be like do you have a job?
Yeah, like let's talk about your life.
Yeah, I would not I would probably interview a lot of them for your Working for you.
(30:25):
What do you work?
I'm like, I'm unemployed right now.
You know what?
Let me save your life.
Come on Yeah It was a full class and the funny thing is it's so funny What we remember don't remember when Trina goes I just don't remember at all.
It's just one class.
Maybe she black I'm interested to see if she remembers being hosed down in the bed She'll remember that talk about that We redo it every anniversary every watch the wedding video That's fantastic so Anyway, so we're working on that.
(31:00):
The other big news for this week is we had another scan Yes, and and it was it was kind of it was Another one that was interesting.
So we go in and the first thing is they get you right in the the Ultrasound tax are on point.
Yeah, right we get there our appointments at 230 BAM.
(31:21):
We're in she's on there jelly she's doing her thing taking all her measurements and Everything's great.
Nice and So that all that all went fine and then at the end she tries to do the nice 3d image and She's trying and trying and every time and I love this because my daughter has already figured out how to avoid the paparazzi Oh, Josie does not like Josie's got her hands up.
(31:47):
She's doing these Stuff so she couldn't get a good.
So there's one picture.
That's just like my nose and to me
And I'm literally I'm looking at it in the waiting room because basically you go we go back to the waiting room
To for them to see the doctor after and we're waiting and when the pictures are already on the phone and I'm looking at it
(32:09):
I'm like this looks to me like maybe the Pyrenees Mountains like I have no idea what I'm looking at
And Kelly goes no, it's it's her face when they're her hands.
I'm there's a finger and then you where I'm like show me Smiling she had to explain it like she had done like that's the nose I'm like, oh, are you that person with most things cuz I am when people go see that right there I have to lie.
(32:30):
I have to go.
Oh, yeah, never see anything never in a magazine in a Museum when people go stare at this and you'll see the mountains with George Washington.
I'm like Yeah, never I never I I bring honestly, I feel that way with these scans sometimes Yeah, I'm just like I don't see it and you just go.
(32:50):
Oh, yeah I I don't you go I leave right?
I'm like, what are you talking?
I don't yeah, but with this I she had to explain and then when she like was like, that's not no Then I'm like, oh, okay.
I could see it But it was very it was it was it was cute But she was trying the girl tried a few times to get us a good one and it didn't yeah, but that was okay But I do remember do you remember the 3d pictures?
(33:12):
They used to be in the comic Comic pages.
Hey, there was a thing For some people.
I don't know if you do they see me back then.
It was a Thing it must have been in that it had to be in the 80s.
Okay in the Star reading to like in the fun in the funny papers in the comics that would come in the Sunday paper on The back page would be a thing that just looked like a scrambled Bunch of and you're supposed to see you're supposed to like hold it Talking about I could people would always go don't you see the Statue of Liberty?
(33:44):
I'm like, no, no, I'm not me either Yeah, I could never do it my wife's day.
I sees it try me too.
I'm not I can't no
I don't have any idea how that well, I feel better why we're so
Cuz we can't see
So though that so that's what so we do so we do the scan everything's good
Then we go to the we go and we're waiting
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So it's like a 230 appointment for the scan 330 to talk to the doctor, okay
So that's when you wait we go out now
The fun part is the other fun part from the scan was they give it all the estimated stuff
So at this point they're estimating she has four pounds eight ounces four and a half pounds Wow
So we're you know, and everything measured good.
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Everything's right on right on track like it should be so that was nice But you know the text don't tell you anything.
Sure.
They just like to That's not there so we go out we're sitting and you know, we're hanging out in the waiting room and 330 comes and you know nothing So we're CEO we were done with the scan by about 3 3 30 nobody comes gets us 3 45 4 o'clock they cancel your flight This sounds very familiar for 10 now 10 after 4 Again old Frank, what would you expect?
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Oh just kicking kicking a door open and be like, hey I had an appointment 40 minute.
No new Frank is there's something wrong with the scan and they don't want to tell us.
I Wasn't even thinking that I go and your brains going right I go into fear mode into scared mode And so and of course, I'm not sharing that with Kelly.
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And of course it takes till like 425 We finally get called in and they're just behind Cars, you know and they're like everything's good going all over everything.
But yeah, it's it's like that is my Instinct now before you even Said that I was going to say are you over the next shoe dropping?
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Scenario of what's gonna happen?
And then you after I thought that you said I'm thinking something's wrong I'm like, I guess I'd answer that question.
Yeah, it is still there.
I'm still I think I'm handling it a little bit better.
I'm not longer.
I'm not saying rosaries But I am thinking and I now it's more of a conversation before it was just terror those thoughts now it's There's got to be something wrong.
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Don't be silly.
They're just now you can come I'm self-soothing But the scotch in your hand, I wish I wish they were they should have an open bar Absolutely That was that was another one though where I thought this kid there was there's always couples I'm gonna know and sometimes I feel bad because it'll be just like a girl on a single.
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Yeah Yeah, and I think that's got to be hard to go through all this stuff on their own but there was a couple young couple and I'm thinking this kid is Just a better dressed version of dad number one from the videos.
I'm like, I'm thinking again nice Nice tracksuit, but no future God, I know I shouldn't judge this way.
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I know but I can't help it I just that's all I'm thinking about is this is a this is somebody's father.
I feel I'm worried and I'm you don't even I have all these advantages Right that you know, I just feel sorry for Josie bringing anyone home.
I know this is a while that's down the road that's on the road, but Yeah, oh Daddy's gonna be yeah, you know what?
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I look there's gonna be better though.
You'll be a hundred, right?
100.
Yep, there we do this.
I'm Frank there 97 years old I drooling in the corner.
That's my dad.
Go shake his hand.
It means a lot to him
Yeah, I think there's interesting things I want to be I want to be a good dad and I'm constantly reading things
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different perspectives on
Fatherhood and what it takes what are the but I want to boil it down to a philosophy
I want to boil it down to a few things that I need to focus on and I think I've come across
Like a couple three things that I think are how I'm going to approach it
Okay, there's three and there's a few because with all the reading there's there's things that pop out to me that are important
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The number one thing that has popped out to me, especially being the parent of a daughter
Yeah, I can't help you with that.
The number one thing is
That the most important part of you being a good father for a daughter is how you treat your wife
Absolutely, right that you that you show that you model for her
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What a man how a man should treat her by how you treat your wife without a doubt
So and I want it so I that so that that is a one core thing
I want to do that
The other thing that I think is I think is important and we've talked about faith
I was reading and they've done these studies if a mother is the driving force behind the faith of a family
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Right, let's say if the mother.
Yeah, so let's say let's leave Trina She's the heavy one about is the one who's making it happen and you're staying on the watching football.
Gotcha.
The kids are Have about a 18 to 20 percent chance of carrying that faith forward through their life If it is the father it is 85 85% so I think that's another core thing for me that I want to make sure she has a strong faith that Has to be a thing that I carry forward Hmm, the thing that will be harder.
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I think that I have that I need to work on in some ways is Reading about one thing that terrifies me about having a little girl shot the whole idea of child predators People who abuse children things like that.
Yeah, the number one Inconsistent thing that when they talk to these people when they've been caught about how they how they select their victims As they say if the father is not a threat Those are the ones I go after.
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Oh and the best way the the best so literally the best way that you can keep that ever happening is being a murderous Badass basically like being a threat being somebody who a guy like that is gonna look at and go I'm not I don't want to mess with him because most the time it's happening to people that know the family That's what it is.
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So they know like they're This is I will be on that guy will murder.
I will be underground.
Yep that guy'll murder me I'm not going anywhere near that kid idiot in the corner playing a video game Maybe his kid like at my age I don't want a guy like that to look at my daughter and think he's a pushover.
So it's it's it's fun.
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Not funny It's weird that you say that because maybe because it's 23 years ago or 18 years ago Things have changed gotten worse.
Yeah, what's on with social media and how people are?
Yeah grabbed Before they're even grabbed.
Yeah, so I didn't really have to deal with that But having a daughter is another element that I never even different thing deal with.
Yeah I mean, of course, you're worried about your boys and you know Unfortunately, but you know a whole different ballgame when you're talking about your daughter Yeah, and it's really interesting to know that of course, they're gonna pick weak people, right?
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That's what it is, man.
I'm the child and the parent.
Yeah.
Yeah, you know, right?
Yeah, a vulnerable child and a parent that isn't a threat.
So so those are my so far.
Those are my three big rocks Is Faith so very important for faith So the thing you have to figure out is how do I become that not that that threatening father, but not scary to my own Yeah family.
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Yeah, that's easy enough, right?
I think I mean, that's the part.
Yeah.
Yeah, that's it You know, I think step one I get my I'm looking at I'm gonna buy a pickup I need it to blow the driveway.
Anyway, of course, I'm gonna get rid of my Jeep that I plow with I'm gonna get a pickup to blow with gun rack I mean landmines The funny thing is what you were going through you're set up and you're preparing.
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Yeah, I'm Horrible and I'll tell you why I Read not one book not one.
I'm not didn't even open one.
I don't even know what one is called Yeah, I mean I heard of the what to expect when you're expecting part of it.
Yeah My wife reads she had all the books in the world Yeah, and I'm sitting there going did I do it wrong?
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And my I not picked up one book or Manual or anything as my as my my wife often says while we edit Carlo is very emotionally intelligent She says that and you are you are and then she and then she quickly because I immediately think what am I fucking charcoal?
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I'm really the kid can't open up a book and read it, but he's emotionally a genius But she's always like and she says it and I think it is true.
I never I never I didn't really think of it that way Well the way I would express that is Carlo has a good heart, right?
Like that's that but she looks at it.
She sees it and she and it's true I think that's why we complement each other Well, cuz I'm more in my head and this is a puzzle and I have to think about it You're very you approach it from a very Heart emotional emotional standpoint, which is Something that is a good compliment to my thoughts or and I'm not saying you do this.
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You haven't been a parent yet
So I always think of when I'm doing something
It's more common sense like, you know
The baby needs love the baby needs clean clothes the baby needs this and then when they get older you have to be fair
And do I screw up as I have I screwed up as of course sure, you know, we're treating electrical being goes
Why are you always screaming, you know, why do you think you're mad you have to kind of like, okay
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I guess I guess I do bring that out there, but that's why you and Trina works
She compliments you but it's so funny how you when you go, you know, I've read these things that I'm sitting there going
I didn't pick up a pamphlet.
I didn't I think that's the like that's what it is for me.
I need to think like okay, these are the three big things that I'm gonna focus on and Then once I have that picture in my head, then that's how I then it is common sense and you go there Then it's like, okay, I do it.
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But yeah, there's a lot to think about and it's and it's for you scarier too because a lot of times when you think of Parenting a young child you think of yourself as being younger yourself.
Sure energy.
I can do this I got and then now it's like, you know, we're thinking more and I'll speak for myself I'm thinking more of retirement and you know starting my career Sure, you know in my in this part of life where now you have to be like I still have to be that in my mind That's strong young father.
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Yeah, it has to still provide and and build this, you know, I believe I'm leaning more toward I'm not gonna be the Vin Diesel dad Right.
I'm gonna be the Clint Eastwood in Gran Torino The guy who'd like the grizzled he's scarier Nobody's gonna mess.
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No, I need to get I need to get their stone-faced Grumpy.
No, it's But yeah, it's it's a lot to think about it's funny when um, you know You go through the pregnancy the nine months and and then how fast the first year birthday comes up It's in nine months.
I mean, I know it kind of sped up for us.
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We're doing a podcast and we're always talking about it Measuring this and that but it's so weird like you wait these like for me It felt forever and then it felt like like this in a second years We were doing a birthday party for all your year old.
I'm like, oh my god.
Oh my god.
It does speed up It just it's crazy how that happens even even at my age and I was younger than 55 Sure, my worry was um, I'm almost a 40 year old dad with my second child Yeah, you know I was and I remember, you know coming home and and the baby's crying and I had to you know Be up with it and all that which is great and you do it But and you kind of think like oh my god, I get it.
(46:12):
I get why having children younger.
It's a young man's game, right?
It's like retail Yeah You know, you don't care.
Yeah, I worked 13 hours.
So even at 40, I was like thinking.
Oh my god, you know I can't wait.
I can't wait when they're old enough right on to this But then the time you think I don't want to wish these way either.
(46:34):
Yeah these moments, you know, so
It's weird how fast it goes
It's that is one of the things that I do think about that with
One of the things they say why why time seems to pass so quickly as you get older
Okay is not is because of the way it is our perception
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That you're doing it's because you're doing the same thing over and over and over again
routine it is nothing when you're a kid a
Summer feels like for everybody says that right because I felt like I'll see you next year.
Yeah, and it was a full year because
Everything at that stage in your life is new
So in my my hope is that this stuff as much as it goes by quickly
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That's what everybody says it goes by in the blink of an eye
My hope is that because I'm going to experience all this stuff that will be all new
For me and then it'll seem forever for her that maybe it'll slow down
It'll slow down a little bit
It will for me while it's happening because it does there's I think we talked about we might have I might even said it
(47:38):
there was this quote some actor said that
The only thing bad about getting old is having breakfast every 15 minutes
Because then because that's what it feels like right as you get old
It's like BAM here another week goes by another month goes by that was funny because
Trina just two days ago.
I think she's like same old thing because she goes I'm going to bed, you know And you get in this rut like yeah.
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Oh my god.
We just get up go to work Did it of course time feels like you're just yeah, just yeah You're doing the same thing over and over but it is funny.
I know everybody mentions it like oh my god Do you remember when we were kids summers felt like they were seven months long and then when you realize Remember, it was eight weeks.
You remember when that one when you finally realized wait a minute Summer vacations like eight weeks.
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Yeah, I remember when I finally goes old enough to go.
Oh It was too because I thought was like a half a year old.
Yeah, it felt like yeah There was school and there was summer and they were both about the same, right?
And then when you realize like We'll see you guys in eight weeks.
We're like, well, wait, wait weeks The thing for me that I think about as a kid is also how small at that time I think it's different for kids now, but how small your world was.
(48:51):
Oh, yeah that I remember looking Yeah, again pre-internet pre cell phone.
Yeah, it was I remember there was one comic book store called dream days comics it was I Think somewhere on South Salina Street.
Oh, okay.
Not far now from my house.
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That's I It's nothing yeah, I thought of that place you have like it was Disney.
Yeah, you were traveling.
I don't know.
I never made it I never got to the drill.
I never got it was so far away as a dream It was like my god if I could only get somebody to take me that's great Too but yeah, but you're you're you know, you're your life your life only extends to the end of the block That's funny.
(49:41):
Could did you have family aunt or grandparents that you drove to?
When you were younger, did you have that like me?
I didn't steal your family.
Yeah, we're going to known it We're going to grandpa.
Yeah, you had that.
Yeah, so we had we had my mom's sister, right?
So we grew up in Manitoba Northside.
Yeah, we're not that far man You don't know where I grew up a block or two away from each other.
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Yeah, it's a couple miles Yeah, it's a couple miles and then where my aunt lives is a town called or a village of Liverpool Yeah, not far that felt like they're going to the country probably.
Oh, yeah.
I remember going there.
Yeah As a kid I could nap in the car Nap in the car like I was going on a trip to Florida Have a good sleep have a good nap and then still open my eyes ago.
(50:27):
Are we not there yet?
Still we're not there if it's what a three-mile drive.
Yeah, nothing.
Yeah
It's so like you said
It's so crazy when your mind doesn't have when every day you're learning and you're not filled with all this information we have
Yeah, you that when everything's new because our planet was like a block
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Was our that was our world, yeah
the high school the grammar school that we walked to or whatever that was your world right there and everything else was
Miles and miles and planets away.
Yeah, and it's so crazy How that happens?
And it changes and you want that right you wish you always you know that brain of a Seven-year-old the eight-year-old of everything's new and there's so much.
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I don't know sometimes like right now we have so much shit up there, man
Yeah, it's nice
those the the odd occasions when you are
Really just pleasantly surprised by something that you didn't expect
Yeah, that happens that happens all the time when you're a kid that that doesn't happen very much as an adult
(51:34):
But yeah, it's nice
I'm hoping there'll be
There'll be lots and in the great thing the great thing that I don't think we not
I don't think I know we don't as you get older that whole imagination part of your brain
Yeah, big part like I'm gonna I'm gonna be a rocket thing.
I'm gonna go even you know, I mean Yeah, it goes away because in reality.
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Yeah, and not for me about that.
I still believe I'm gonna be an astronaut But there has to be something about that.
Yeah that that part of your brain that's still doesn't understand that That will never happen or that can't happen.
I do imaginary part of it
That that's another thing that they talk about a lot in the stuff this gentle parenting stuff
(52:18):
And also just development a lot of stuff that I read about developmental
things about kids
Some of the stuff I read and I just think no, it's just not this is not this would be it would be nice
If it was true, right, but they talk about all children are geniuses
And it is this it is at the education system that forces them to think in a certain way
(52:39):
Okay, there was a kid when I was growing up
His name was I think it was
Rob Sutton, I don't know where Rob is.
I'm sure you don't in this conversation probably didn't make it Rob Sutton found a way to break a limb every summer of our childhood.
Okay, and
(52:59):
I refuse to believe he's a genius
He was that kid was never a gene I never broke a thing
There was and I can't even call myself a genius and I didn't break anything
Yeah, like I don't believe I believe all kids are probably more create
I think they kids do lose creativity and they and I think they I think boys in particular now
(53:22):
the energy level that a boy naturally has is is
frowned upon
Now and and kind of controlled in a way that isn't good, but no
Everybody's not a genius.
I don't I remember me and my buddy
Literally thinking we were going to build
Just start digging and we're gonna have like a underground
(53:46):
Yep, same thing warehouse
Lair the bat cave
To us it's like we can do this
It doesn't matter if people walk on top of it
we're gonna be so in that we're gonna be protected and and we
Literally started it one of my friends dad told I think told us a story
(54:07):
That when he was a kid they wanted to build an airplane and they dragged
Railroad ties they made they made an airplane shaped thing out of railroad ties
Dragged it up on top of a garage and pushed it off.
One of the kids almost got killed.
Oh my god Yeah, but that's what you think you don't genius That is the kind of creativity.
(54:30):
That was a genius.
Those are genius.
No, but I guess you know I guess I never let go that imagination thing Yeah, because I think that's what I kind of keeps me.
I don't know young but it's like my job I play house.
I you know, I have to I'm imagining things all the time And and I think a lot of like I said, I don't imagine my father doing what I do, right?
(54:57):
I don't see that.
So there has to be there had to be differences There's some you know Like what we hold on to because I love that feeling on when I was young and that could be anything I wanted I could Imagine anything I wanted and there had to be something that I didn't let go of.
Yeah, that's why I'm doing what I do I guess I don't know being creative.
I think yeah, that's one of the things that that you That does it does not everybody does know not everybody does and I do wonder about that I think some people it comes out and it comes out in different forms in different ways Yeah, and I think there are some people too who do it and then at some point it turns It turns more to reminiscing about the old days.
(55:40):
Got you like but but yeah, that's part of the fun And it does I think it does keep you it keeps you young and energized and and and it's engaging because again back to the The new experience things when you create something like that when you come up with something new idea, it's new It's the first time and in that slows slows things down for you for a little bit.
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Well, there you go We covered all kinds of interesting Thorny subjects, but that is kind of we're kind of coming to the close of what just happened and our last stop Yeah on this episode We are on our way to lullaby land We haven't done lullaby land in a while.
So
The our choice for this time is going to be
(56:23):
stay awake
from Mary Poppins
So this is from the 1964 film from Disney Mary Poppins
Performed by Julie Andrews, of course, and it was written by I didn't know this but I did a little research
Written by Richard and Robert Sherman love those you do you just don't you might not know it
(56:45):
They have more motion motion picture song scores than any other team in history
They wrote almost like all of almost all the Disney movies from our youth
They wrote they wrote to each other
They wrote they were all like your jungle book all those songs all that stuff and their biggest hit
(57:06):
Do you know what if you get this I'll be super impressed the biggest it was the biggest hit everyone has heard this song
Just one song what they did the whole movie.
Well, no that they did multiple movies, but but this particular song I'm talking about is their most I think well-known song was it with the sound of music?
No, no, it is a Disney.
(57:28):
It is associated with Disney.
Oh, I don't know Fantasia It's a small world small they wrote it's Broke, it's a small world after all.
So yeah, so that's it.
So but our our lullaby this time That's town when you could write not that song.
(57:49):
Oh, they were all about it.
Yeah, it's crazy So many so many songs and all kinds of I wrote a hit.
Yeah.
No, I wrote all the hits.
Yeah, I'm free Disney and like a and also because it's like a brother team right like You put you like you and Pete you're gonna sit down and crank out the score for 17 movies Like what are we doing?
(58:12):
What do we do now me and Mike?
Yeah So that's a so up next will be stay awake from the 1964 film Mary Poppins sung by yours truly It's gonna be great and you guys gonna enjoy Thing that you just brought back Please and I know you will the beautiful thing about getting to watch these movies with your kids Chitty Chitty Bang Bang and the Wizard of Oz and Mary Poppins We watched Chitty Chitty Bang Bang on loop, bro.
(58:49):
Yeah, it was The one guy in that movie the Kid would take the children.
Oh, he was I was terrified I was the most scared as a kid of that guy the witch from The Wizard of Oz scared the economy and and Those two the Nazis and sounded I don't know if I ever saw sound of music Yeah, no watching watching all that stuff.
(59:22):
Well, it is it is fun to think about getting to experience those And of course Lord of the Rings When I get to work your mommy, that's what your mommy called you an orc.
But anyway, so that's where we are
So hopefully you hopefully you will enjoy our trip to lullaby land with stay awake
Mm-hmm, and otherwise, we will see you soon
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Don't rest
Don't lie down
Upon your bed while
in the sky
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Stay away
Don't close
Your
Though the world is fast asleep
(01:00:42):
Though your pillow
Is soft and deep
You're not sleep as you see
Stay
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Away
Don't
And
Stay
Oh
(01:01:43):
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Welcome back episode 15 15 15 so Here we are.
Yeah, we are here and As always I am Frank cereal I am 55 years old and my wife is 32 32 weeks pregnant seems like yesterday.
(00:22):
She was 31 it does Just yesterday So the update this time most of the time it's some kind of it's always produce usually it's vegetables this time pineapple Size, I say love a lot of things Apple has to be one of my favorite.
I like pineapple.
I like pineapple.
I got a gift from one of my employees for for the holidays one of those edible arrangement things and there and there was pineapples chocolate-covered pineapple stars I had that we had I had the same ones and was there strawberries as well.
(01:01):
Yep.
They were good.
There's good stuff I like it, but I like regular pineapple, too.
So
Pineapple so the update
Anatomically his her skull is not fused yet
So it's a series of plates that are moving around
They should be and in fact based on our last visit to the doctor
(01:24):
They are head down
Kind of getting ready to ready getting ready to travel lungs and central nervous system are developing nice
She could if she was born now breathe and stay warm with medical help
so even at this point she's there and
eyelashes
(01:45):
Eyebrows and hair are now all visible.
Oh So there's a little little there's a baby there that's that has headplates Floating headplates the lungs developing and she's got some hair and eyelashes and all that.
I remember I think this was last week We were talking about the baby at that point could see focus.
(02:07):
Yep.
Eyes are eyes open Yeah, and yeah, so then can hear sounds Yeah, it's like a little it is like it is it is like a little person and I will say and there is the more And and lots of Interaction now, so and we'll talk more about that movement and stuff, which is really really fun.
(02:28):
Yeah, so that's where we are here in episode 15 and a week 32 and we're going to we did not do this on our last episode, but we will have a slightly different version this this time of I was wrong So I'm Frankie.
(02:48):
This this is kind of an interesting one.
All right, I'm here for you.
I was wrong It's not really I was wrong.
I was wrong.
No.
Oh, I think you've you've been attacked enough.
I Don't wanna and I do have some information I want to pass to you about something so Yeah, okay.
It'll be interesting to see if it may be related.
Okay, that's so this was interesting While we talked about in the last episode I had been on vacation yes, so I was on vacation with my brother and his wife and We have talked on several occasions about my one niece Marie Marie has contributed.
(03:28):
She was the one who suggested the name that ended up being chosen.
So she was the Baby, Josephine was her idea.
My brother has two daughters Marie and Bianca both both listeners and Now and Marie if you recall a couple episodes ago Brought up the idea that we as part of crash test.
(03:50):
Daddy would test the Frida baby.
Oh, geez not sucker Yeah thing.
Yeah now and we've had discussions We talked about whether or not we are willing to do that.
Sure or which of us might Experimentally try this out, but she was very very positive about the product and said it worked well for her and And and felt strongly that we should test it and we thought it would be a good idea Okay.
(04:21):
Now, of course that that suggestion came up during vacation And I was informed reliably By my brother's wife that Marie in fact Never used that product but Forced her husband to do it.
(04:44):
So it was effective, but it had only been used not by Marie But by her husband, okay.
Okay.
Let me break this down Did they ever use it for the baby?
Yes, they used for the baby.
They were using it.
I wasn't using it on her No, what she did she ever use it?
(05:04):
No, she She they used it on her baby, but it was her husband.
So she never really did this.
No Marie Marie Marie now I have to say This might have been an omission But it was a pretty big omission and I was interested to hear this So when when Jane told me I thought it would only be fair For me to bring this to you before we Engage in any testing.
(05:34):
Well, that's My integrity is very important To do it.
I remember you I said, let's do it You were more you were more positive about the project than I thought you would have been Yes, and because I thought because always first entertainment Podcasting information.
(05:58):
Yeah.
Yeah for the product adding value here for the listener, right?
We're here for the listener.
If you don't want to get through it, we will do it ourselves Right will be the guinea pigs, right?
That's what I thought for the business.
Yes now getting that information.
I Want to give you a little bit of my information that I okay.
Okay, so was Okay Yes, yeah, I too Was Okay, my side of the family.
(06:26):
Fantastic.
So I was sitting home, right and as my every night my wife comes home from from work, right and Trina is a Listener, I mean she knows she's like Paul.
She's a super fan.
Right super fan She'll come home.
She'd be like tell me exactly where she's at what she agrees with Right, and it's always a nice conversation.
(06:49):
Sure I don't remember if it happened that way But maybe you know better than I do and in your memory and it's always like an open conversation.
Sure so she comes home and The podcast comes out and she listens to it on the way to work and then if she can't finish it on the way back Okay, she walks in and she comes straight to her TV room Parlor area of the house and she goes there is no Peeping way you're sucking anything out of Frank's nose.
(07:21):
That is where I draw the line Thank you Thank you for not allowing me to play house with this crazy man that because I didn't really want to do it But now I can say my wife won't let me do it I had so that that is that is a woman who loves you.
(07:43):
Yeah, that is I think it's admirable She's she's drawn.
She she's drawn a line.
I would respect that Trina.
I would I understand I I've never talked about what I do for a living You know what I do for a living I do you know what I I get away with I do What I have to lose a lot of things that I think she'll be more worried about right and she's never Questioned anything.
(08:07):
I've done in my job or That's on video and in the public Yeah and this one without putting her work bag down rushed into the room and said there is no way you're sucking anything out of Now and I knew she wasn't kidding this makes me feel I It's interesting.
(08:33):
This makes me feel good for you.
That's a woman who loves you, right?
Yeah now, but it does make me think Now the way I presented it was that we would kind of because I wouldn't be comfortable would just be like hey come on car Right.
It's either it was gonna be one or the other And my wife had no problem Yeah, we might ask so While I'm editing, I'll be I'll be asking my lovely wife about how she feels.
(09:02):
There's there's Trina standing up for her man and Either While she's saying this I'm going through one of the worst colds of Two years But it's you know that I'm already like stuffed up and then she hears that might actually be it might actually be helpful Actually do what we might want to do I guess I can't come on play.
(09:32):
That's my mommy says I can't I'm comfortable and honestly, I feel like I Feel like the whole project has been tainted by the omission of yours of my my niece So Marie a little disappointed.
I'm not sure There's gonna be and I was wrong in the future.
That's right.
The t-shirts over It was her husband who actually did it according to according to Jane now Sure, did we read into this or did she say I used to do this for my baby?
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That's why I'm saying there could have been an omission there because she didn't say oh I used it and it was fantastic Tasted like whipped cream.
No, it was but she also didn't say my husband.
No, right Oh, yeah, she did not say yeah, she did not say that No, so there may be some clarification needed, but I thought that was important enough So it wasn't it was a you were wrong or at least a little a little misleading So, thank you to my lovely wife Yes, thank you.
(10:39):
Not only do I know she listens to the podcast.
It's true.
There's food there That's there's proof.
There's no way she's looking out for you.
Yeah.
Yeah, so Okay, well Yeah So since we're there's no way we're doing that we did talk about a bunch of options of things to do Okay for for crash test daddy, right?
(11:14):
So but so what I think we could do if you wanted to I thought this one might be fun Let me call my wife.
It is this one will be a lot less personal.
Okay, but it'll be another kind of a game Little there will be a Gameplay element to it.
All right, so there are two products that I thought we could we could test Mm-hmm.
It is the first is the Fisher price baby to toddler bath four-in-one sling and seat tub So this is a good cat.
(11:43):
It's like a tub with a sling.
You could use it when the baby's really little Now you're not gonna fit in it.
I'm not gonna wash your feet but what I thought we could do is use that in conjunction with the B&H Rubber ducky bath thermometer.
Okay.
So what I'm thinking is we'll have a little challenge We will un off-camera.
(12:04):
We will unpackage We'll take out the the Fisher price Todd toddler bath and maybe we'll go over like oh look This is the stuff that comes with it.
Okay, then what I'll have you do is you'll take the little bath off-camera and Fill it with water that you think is the right temperature for a baby bath And then we'll come right back Cameras on the ducky in and we'll put the ducky in and see how you did.
(12:30):
I like it.
You want to try that?
Yeah, okay Here we are and we are back again with the Fisher price baby to toddler bath four-in-one sling and seat Sling and seat tub.
I'm so glad you did not ask me to I don't know if I could yeah You could probably wear it like a big helmet What's it because it comes with some other little thingy so that that is the sling So I think the sling I have the manual here to try to see what might Be done with these things.
(13:07):
Would this be a sling for like maybe if the baby's when it's smaller, maybe yes
So when the baby's an infant, okay, the sling somehow attaches to this thing and they sit in that
So like a little like a hammock like it clips those clips clip around the edge of the the tubby
Okay, I think it goes the other way
Yeah, so it's that way and then yeah those hooks hook around the end of the lip of the thing
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So then the kids in the water, but in the little sling securely, so there's that when they're really little
And then once they get bigger they have the green thing the that tub and there's a little head pad
So they're in that way and then I don't know what that is
So this looks like maybe for over the head a little sprinkler
(13:54):
Yeah, okay
Okay, very nice cute and what else
Maybe a little toy must be
If it details any of this it might do the same thing to wash out the soap, that's it
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I don't know.
It just says okay.
It looks like that green thing comes out too.
Okay for when the kids like for oh Okay, so that comes out now becomes bigger.
Yes, so it's very like basically like three sizes a couple toys goes right in the sink and Ready to go It does look pretty yeah, so now we're gonna go you will estimate the temperature and Then we will drop in the ducky and see how well you do.
(14:43):
You know what?
What's that?
You should do it.
Okay, and not know the temperature, right?
And then you should do it and I won't tell you the temperature and see if we both are okay Because you're the one really gonna have to burn the baby if I know what I'm doing.
Okay, right So you want to go first?
I go first doesn't matter.
I think we should both go blindly I think you should do the water and then we'll test it and see what you're what your number is And but you'll know the number and then I will fill it with the water temperature that feels good to me And then I'll test it and then we'll compare notes so we're back and Yeah, Carlo has filled the water by temp by dad hand measurement and we're gonna drop in mr.
(15:30):
Duck and see what digital Digital see what the temperature is.
Oh Carlo on the honor system will make a note of his temperature and We'll see from there.
So is it climbing?
It's okay.
So it's it there's a light going on and off I don't know if it's supposed to if it's taking the temperature.
Is it giving a number on the little number?
But it's still blinking is the is the number.
(15:53):
Oh, it's blinking blue, right?
So I don't know if it's I think the blue blinking is so this is a fairly sophisticated duck The duck has a target temperature and if it gets below a certain temperature that's too cold for the baby It's blue and if it's too hot, it's red.
So you may be You may have this number.
It's okay, or maybe it's just flashing blue because it's way too hot I don't know blue because your child is now dead So you got the number okay, yeah, we'll be back and it will be on me Okay, so we're back.
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I have filled the little tubby with my you can see in my wet hands And I'm gonna drop in mr.
Duck and see what it says.
Oh, I got a blue flash.
I'm climbing.
I Might be a little low Is this flashing blue?
Yeah, that's what mine was doing.
I guess we should have read the directions, but we can figure it out Why would we do that?
Well, you know that my number is eighty five point eight Mine was eighty three point four That's pretty so we were close You know what the temperature is supposed to be 72 no Ninety ninety eight point four.
(17:05):
Oh, so we were both in the safety range Okay, but we could have been a little warmer.
Okay now and I know I have looked at the manual So the duck the duck is super cute, right?
So it has a little sensors on the bottom And it does have it you can customize it and set a range So it will tell you as throughout the bath if the water starts getting too cold It'll have a little flash if it's too hot So it's probably flashing blue saying and saying you should be warmer.
(17:36):
That's a cool.
Yeah, cuz we're like 10 degrees under Target now we were being very cautious because we obviously know what cold water.
Yes, and we know what steaming hot water Yeah, but it's hard to believe we're trying to be very yeah, I'm thinking 98 like it's it's got to be basically body temperature That's what but I don't like I felt it felt that way to me there was a point when I had My water chosen right and then I put that in there and it messed with the faucet it did and it got colder Yeah, I thought okay.
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Now just I'll just put more water Okay, we probably would have had the same 85 something.
Yeah.
Yeah, it would have been close.
We were we've been very close Yeah, I think yeah as I feel it now it's a it's hard to judge body temperature versus air temperature But that's why you get the the ducky.
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Yeah, and he lets you know what you're supposed to do I wish the ducky quacked, but he does not I wish it said I wish it said add more heat Just talk to you.
Hey stupid your kids cold so that was The Fisher price baby to toddler bath four-in-one sling and seat tub, that's right and the B&H Rubber-ducky bath thermometer loved it.
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So there there we are.
So there's that's what we haven't done a crash test daddy in a while No, it didn't involve any mucus.
I don't think Trina will mind that one.
That's good.
I'm glad I don't want Trina mad at me No, no, we're good.
So that'll be a little bit more, you know Temperature which you're smart you're smart man, but they're unfortunate.
There are parents out there that have no idea about Checking the temperature of the water or the milk.
(19:19):
Yeah, or the formula.
Well, that's why you go like this And I'm sure a lot of people go by preference to and honestly, that's a thing with me and Kelly We've got a thermostatic Control on our shower.
Sure.
So it's always The same temperature, but she liked that a lot hotter than I do.
Yeah, and so I were Changing it.
(19:41):
I'm always changing it back and forth.
But but yeah, so I get you know good to have It's good to have a ducky.
Yes, that's it.
So there you go.
So there's our crash test daddy and we're gonna move right into What just happened?
So The the latest update we talked last time about our trip and we had a nice time.
(20:04):
We had some travel challenges Yeah, so we're back and it has been just horribly Frigidly cold here.
This has been we've been in something.
We've been in something the snow Honestly the snow in the cold Way more last year.
I only I think I only had to plow our driveway through four times This time there's like tons of snow and drifting snow and just Brutal cold of it.
(20:32):
Yeah, cuz it's no I mean hasn't piled.
No, it's always there But it's just gotten colder and colder and colder.
Yeah.
Yeah, it's been it's been really really really cold and everywhere, too I called my brother the other day and I'm like, well, it's 20 degrees.
It was 20 degrees in Nashville It's 20 degrees into snowing everywhere.
Yeah, that's crazy.
So Jacksonville snowy It's there's no I saw pictures just the other day of Destin with snow on the beach.
(20:58):
It's crazy Miami.
They were skiing
Probably not what yeah, that's right
But so so basically we did that stuff back into the cold settled back in got back to work
Kelly has definitely been in nesting mode getting things ready for the baby
It's exciting and and I think feeling a little
(21:19):
Like I've got we've got a few things we got to get done and one of those things that we have to get done is
The childbirth class video.
Yes.
We spoke about that.
We did so a couple episodes ago We talked about they were a little boring not not great and I admit Through editing and watching and then doing some of our promo videos that we do on social media.
(21:45):
I really did give a hard time To the young man, who is the first no chance I believe This this child has no chance.
Yeah, I saw the parents or the father at least I feel a little bad, but I stand by it But now we have moved on to we have and there's a new example couple I was afraid it was gonna be just these you're stuck with this.
(22:09):
Yes So this very nice very nice couple a little bit older a little Not not a whole other young but a little bit older but much more relatable just a more more relatable couple and they're talking and now They're the focus with this one is more on Preparation techniques.
Okay of massage and You know For me to massage Kelly.
(22:37):
I thought you'd get massage techniques
Breathing techniques
Practicing breathing techniques and why they're supposed to work and I'm just thinking the whole time
I'll say aren't going to work
No
Which was gratifying because at the same time at one point during that video Kelly actually looked at me and said
We'll learn all these but they'll none of this is
(22:59):
Didn't I say that to you three weeks ago or whatever?
Yeah There's not gonna be any of that, but there's a lot of like counter pressure techniques, which I just don't understand How this is gonna help like where I'm bearing down on her hips and And that's how you got here Exactly.
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I'm like, I'm like I asked I'm like, how is this going?
And of course my brilliant wife is like well, it's just like it's you're applying pressure because it distracts It distracts your senses your senses Kelly.
You can only So she's focusing on that and not the pressure of the contraction so that makes sense But at the same time I'm thinking I'm worried We just did a test where we're worried about the getting the temperature, right?
(23:46):
Right about the prayer like yeah, I'd be worried.
I struggling with this Because it's personal.
Okay, but it's it's it's it has to be done.
Okay, our first child.
Yep We go to that we go and to get things moving, right they tell the wife the mother Yeah to get into a bathtub And go on Yeah, like fours.
(24:15):
Yeah, and for me, yeah to hose her down really This has not been on the video so far because the relaxation of the water over your body Does the same idea like yeah comes the but the whole time you're just Were you laughing as you did it?
(24:40):
Oh, no Not laughing I was what am I doing?
Why what am I doing?
But I was a good husband because I know at that point.
She also is going what is he doing?
Am I in this situation Now the closest thing she's gonna kill me but I think it's something that the doctors say you have to because the warm water and Relaxes and it was it was it did work.
(25:10):
Who knows it.
Maybe it's in my video.
I just haven't gotten that far yet This thing what the closest thing to that that I thought was interesting remember if you think back all the room the old like there would be black and white videos of like Gymnasiums and and and workout places and there was always a machine that somebody would stand on and there was a strap around their belly It would vibrate their belly how to lose weight.
(25:33):
So the this technique was similar no bathtub involved But the mother on all fours father The husband straddling her with like one of those yoga bands.
Okay a stretchy piece of material Okay, and you just underneath her belly and was doing a back and forth and like moving her belly, you know As much as I don't remember it.
(25:58):
I do remember Seeing something something like that.
I don't know if it's like, you know, if we did it or we saw it, right?
I do remember something something like that because I think I made the joke about the
That's what it made me think weightlifting or a weight loss
I think yeah, but I could be totally making this all up and in my mind just I'm still thinking of my wife
(26:21):
But when there's no hoses yet in the video, it was not
Don't think of it like an outside water hose for the pool
But it was like a shower, you know
They go just run it down her back and right make sense sure
Moment you're both looking at each other going don't ever talk about this unless you have a podcast 18 years later, right?
(26:43):
That's it.
That wouldn't work 20 23 years This is I'm picturing now Trina is listening to this on the way home crashing into what I'm thinking.
Oh my god I mean, yeah, I mean we've talked about worse things.
I was gonna that's true take snots out of your nose She drew the line, yeah, that's okay So but anyway, so so that's where we are.
(27:03):
The videos are improving.
Yeah, but every time it's any time it comes back to the Instructor, it's still the boring.
God.
She's not boring.
Oh that lady.
There was a horrible blouse Boring.
She's just boring.
She's kind of I don't know and it's better that I don't you know after listening to the podcast a couple weeks because she goes did we go a Lot because you forget I mean, it's 20 something years.
(27:26):
Yeah, and I'm like, I thought we went more than I said It had to be more than four or five times and probably an hour each time.
Yeah.
Yeah, so we've probably I don't remember a thing I go we got to know people who came very friendly with a couple.
Yeah, she's like, I don't remember No, so I said get in that bathtub and I started posing her down This will bring it back.
(27:48):
This will remind you this will remind you.
Oh God, okay.
So that was that that is where we at.
We still got more to do We keep saying we got to watch we got to watch more tomorrow and then we watch have you ever seen This is this is a TV show that I personally I love Okay, and I'm gonna I'm gonna guess that you probably have never even heard of it.
(28:09):
Okay, it's called from England.
It is Can I don't it is called toast of London.
Do you know who Matt Barry is Matt Barry?
Yes, why do I know that name from the IT crowd?
He was the he was mr.
Denim the boss I think it was his name.
He's also on He's also not Matthew Perry.
(28:31):
No.
No, he's passed away.
He's gone.
He is He's also on what we do in the shadows that you showed me that.
Yes.
Okay.
Yes, he plays He plays one of the vampires.
Yeah, but this is this is an older series where he plays kind of a crappy actor in London Okay, and it's called toast to lunch, okay, so we always end up watching that toast of London it's hilarious very very funny and instead of watching the video so Yeah, we're gonna have to watch more of that and I'm like that's hilarious that's not good I'm gonna say is it more you Switching it over.
(29:09):
No, it's not know what it is At the end of the day, we're both kind of worth tired from zapped Tired we have dinner we sit down and then we I'm sure we both think we should watch the videos And I think I probably think God, please let her not think of it Yeah, and then she doesn't and I'm happy and I put on toast to London But we'll we'll get through it.
(29:33):
We'll go but at least you're not leaving the home We have to leave our house go to the hospital.
Yeah, I'll do these meetings walk in have the cup coffee, whatever Yeah, you had to do the whole thing, but we were younger I don't like I complain about these videos, but imagine if I was in the room with How many other couples were there with you?
(30:01):
There had to be four to five other couples sometimes more so imagine me Having to focus on the content of a class Surrounded by four or five examples of kid from video number one.
Yeah, right I would the whole time I would be like do you have a job?
Yeah, like let's talk about your life.
Yeah, I would not I would probably interview a lot of them for your Working for you.
(30:25):
What do you work?
I'm like, I'm unemployed right now.
You know what?
Let me save your life.
Come on Yeah It was a full class and the funny thing is it's so funny What we remember don't remember when Trina goes I just don't remember at all.
It's just one class.
Maybe she black I'm interested to see if she remembers being hosed down in the bed She'll remember that talk about that We redo it every anniversary every watch the wedding video That's fantastic so Anyway, so we're working on that.
(31:00):
The other big news for this week is we had another scan Yes, and and it was it was kind of it was Another one that was interesting.
So we go in and the first thing is they get you right in the the Ultrasound tax are on point.
Yeah, right we get there our appointments at 230 BAM.
(31:21):
We're in she's on there jelly she's doing her thing taking all her measurements and Everything's great.
Nice and So that all that all went fine and then at the end she tries to do the nice 3d image and She's trying and trying and every time and I love this because my daughter has already figured out how to avoid the paparazzi Oh, Josie does not like Josie's got her hands up.
(31:47):
She's doing these Stuff so she couldn't get a good.
So there's one picture.
That's just like my nose and to me
And I'm literally I'm looking at it in the waiting room because basically you go we go back to the waiting room
To for them to see the doctor after and we're waiting and when the pictures are already on the phone and I'm looking at it
(32:09):
I'm like this looks to me like maybe the Pyrenees Mountains like I have no idea what I'm looking at
And Kelly goes no, it's it's her face when they're her hands.
I'm there's a finger and then you where I'm like show me Smiling she had to explain it like she had done like that's the nose I'm like, oh, are you that person with most things cuz I am when people go see that right there I have to lie.
(32:30):
I have to go.
Oh, yeah, never see anything never in a magazine in a Museum when people go stare at this and you'll see the mountains with George Washington.
I'm like Yeah, never I never I I bring honestly, I feel that way with these scans sometimes Yeah, I'm just like I don't see it and you just go.
(32:50):
Oh, yeah I I don't you go I leave right?
I'm like, what are you talking?
I don't yeah, but with this I she had to explain and then when she like was like, that's not no Then I'm like, oh, okay.
I could see it But it was very it was it was it was cute But she was trying the girl tried a few times to get us a good one and it didn't yeah, but that was okay But I do remember do you remember the 3d pictures?
(33:12):
They used to be in the comic Comic pages.
Hey, there was a thing For some people.
I don't know if you do they see me back then.
It was a Thing it must have been in that it had to be in the 80s.
Okay in the Star reading to like in the fun in the funny papers in the comics that would come in the Sunday paper on The back page would be a thing that just looked like a scrambled Bunch of and you're supposed to see you're supposed to like hold it Talking about I could people would always go don't you see the Statue of Liberty?
(33:44):
I'm like, no, no, I'm not me either Yeah, I could never do it my wife's day.
I sees it try me too.
I'm not I can't no
I don't have any idea how that well, I feel better why we're so
Cuz we can't see
So though that so that's what so we do so we do the scan everything's good
Then we go to the we go and we're waiting
(34:06):
So it's like a 230 appointment for the scan 330 to talk to the doctor, okay
So that's when you wait we go out now
The fun part is the other fun part from the scan was they give it all the estimated stuff
So at this point they're estimating she has four pounds eight ounces four and a half pounds Wow
So we're you know, and everything measured good.
(34:28):
Everything's right on right on track like it should be so that was nice But you know the text don't tell you anything.
Sure.
They just like to That's not there so we go out we're sitting and you know, we're hanging out in the waiting room and 330 comes and you know nothing So we're CEO we were done with the scan by about 3 3 30 nobody comes gets us 3 45 4 o'clock they cancel your flight This sounds very familiar for 10 now 10 after 4 Again old Frank, what would you expect?
(35:09):
Oh just kicking kicking a door open and be like, hey I had an appointment 40 minute.
No new Frank is there's something wrong with the scan and they don't want to tell us.
I Wasn't even thinking that I go and your brains going right I go into fear mode into scared mode And so and of course, I'm not sharing that with Kelly.
(35:30):
And of course it takes till like 425 We finally get called in and they're just behind Cars, you know and they're like everything's good going all over everything.
But yeah, it's it's like that is my Instinct now before you even Said that I was going to say are you over the next shoe dropping?
(35:52):
Scenario of what's gonna happen?
And then you after I thought that you said I'm thinking something's wrong I'm like, I guess I'd answer that question.
Yeah, it is still there.
I'm still I think I'm handling it a little bit better.
I'm not longer.
I'm not saying rosaries But I am thinking and I now it's more of a conversation before it was just terror those thoughts now it's There's got to be something wrong.
(36:19):
Don't be silly.
They're just now you can come I'm self-soothing But the scotch in your hand, I wish I wish they were they should have an open bar Absolutely That was that was another one though where I thought this kid there was there's always couples I'm gonna know and sometimes I feel bad because it'll be just like a girl on a single.
(36:42):
Yeah Yeah, and I think that's got to be hard to go through all this stuff on their own but there was a couple young couple and I'm thinking this kid is Just a better dressed version of dad number one from the videos.
I'm like, I'm thinking again nice Nice tracksuit, but no future God, I know I shouldn't judge this way.
(37:04):
I know but I can't help it I just that's all I'm thinking about is this is a this is somebody's father.
I feel I'm worried and I'm you don't even I have all these advantages Right that you know, I just feel sorry for Josie bringing anyone home.
I know this is a while that's down the road that's on the road, but Yeah, oh Daddy's gonna be yeah, you know what?
(37:29):
I look there's gonna be better though.
You'll be a hundred, right?
100.
Yep, there we do this.
I'm Frank there 97 years old I drooling in the corner.
That's my dad.
Go shake his hand.
It means a lot to him
Yeah, I think there's interesting things I want to be I want to be a good dad and I'm constantly reading things
(37:50):
different perspectives on
Fatherhood and what it takes what are the but I want to boil it down to a philosophy
I want to boil it down to a few things that I need to focus on and I think I've come across
Like a couple three things that I think are how I'm going to approach it
Okay, there's three and there's a few because with all the reading there's there's things that pop out to me that are important
(38:13):
The number one thing that has popped out to me, especially being the parent of a daughter
Yeah, I can't help you with that.
The number one thing is
That the most important part of you being a good father for a daughter is how you treat your wife
Absolutely, right that you that you show that you model for her
(38:34):
What a man how a man should treat her by how you treat your wife without a doubt
So and I want it so I that so that that is a one core thing
I want to do that
The other thing that I think is I think is important and we've talked about faith
I was reading and they've done these studies if a mother is the driving force behind the faith of a family
(38:59):
Right, let's say if the mother.
Yeah, so let's say let's leave Trina She's the heavy one about is the one who's making it happen and you're staying on the watching football.
Gotcha.
The kids are Have about a 18 to 20 percent chance of carrying that faith forward through their life If it is the father it is 85 85% so I think that's another core thing for me that I want to make sure she has a strong faith that Has to be a thing that I carry forward Hmm, the thing that will be harder.
(39:31):
I think that I have that I need to work on in some ways is Reading about one thing that terrifies me about having a little girl shot the whole idea of child predators People who abuse children things like that.
Yeah, the number one Inconsistent thing that when they talk to these people when they've been caught about how they how they select their victims As they say if the father is not a threat Those are the ones I go after.
(40:01):
Oh and the best way the the best so literally the best way that you can keep that ever happening is being a murderous Badass basically like being a threat being somebody who a guy like that is gonna look at and go I'm not I don't want to mess with him because most the time it's happening to people that know the family That's what it is.
(40:26):
So they know like they're This is I will be on that guy will murder.
I will be underground.
Yep that guy'll murder me I'm not going anywhere near that kid idiot in the corner playing a video game Maybe his kid like at my age I don't want a guy like that to look at my daughter and think he's a pushover.
So it's it's it's fun.
(40:47):
Not funny It's weird that you say that because maybe because it's 23 years ago or 18 years ago Things have changed gotten worse.
Yeah, what's on with social media and how people are?
Yeah grabbed Before they're even grabbed.
Yeah, so I didn't really have to deal with that But having a daughter is another element that I never even different thing deal with.
Yeah I mean, of course, you're worried about your boys and you know Unfortunately, but you know a whole different ballgame when you're talking about your daughter Yeah, and it's really interesting to know that of course, they're gonna pick weak people, right?
(41:22):
That's what it is, man.
I'm the child and the parent.
Yeah.
Yeah, you know, right?
Yeah, a vulnerable child and a parent that isn't a threat.
So so those are my so far.
Those are my three big rocks Is Faith so very important for faith So the thing you have to figure out is how do I become that not that that threatening father, but not scary to my own Yeah family.
(41:44):
Yeah, that's easy enough, right?
I think I mean, that's the part.
Yeah.
Yeah, that's it You know, I think step one I get my I'm looking at I'm gonna buy a pickup I need it to blow the driveway.
Anyway, of course, I'm gonna get rid of my Jeep that I plow with I'm gonna get a pickup to blow with gun rack I mean landmines The funny thing is what you were going through you're set up and you're preparing.
(42:11):
Yeah, I'm Horrible and I'll tell you why I Read not one book not one.
I'm not didn't even open one.
I don't even know what one is called Yeah, I mean I heard of the what to expect when you're expecting part of it.
Yeah My wife reads she had all the books in the world Yeah, and I'm sitting there going did I do it wrong?
(42:34):
And my I not picked up one book or Manual or anything as my as my my wife often says while we edit Carlo is very emotionally intelligent She says that and you are you are and then she and then she quickly because I immediately think what am I fucking charcoal?
(42:55):
I'm really the kid can't open up a book and read it, but he's emotionally a genius But she's always like and she says it and I think it is true.
I never I never I didn't really think of it that way Well the way I would express that is Carlo has a good heart, right?
Like that's that but she looks at it.
She sees it and she and it's true I think that's why we complement each other Well, cuz I'm more in my head and this is a puzzle and I have to think about it You're very you approach it from a very Heart emotional emotional standpoint, which is Something that is a good compliment to my thoughts or and I'm not saying you do this.
(43:29):
You haven't been a parent yet
So I always think of when I'm doing something
It's more common sense like, you know
The baby needs love the baby needs clean clothes the baby needs this and then when they get older you have to be fair
And do I screw up as I have I screwed up as of course sure, you know, we're treating electrical being goes
Why are you always screaming, you know, why do you think you're mad you have to kind of like, okay
(43:51):
I guess I guess I do bring that out there, but that's why you and Trina works
She compliments you but it's so funny how you when you go, you know, I've read these things that I'm sitting there going
I didn't pick up a pamphlet.
I didn't I think that's the like that's what it is for me.
I need to think like okay, these are the three big things that I'm gonna focus on and Then once I have that picture in my head, then that's how I then it is common sense and you go there Then it's like, okay, I do it.
(44:21):
But yeah, there's a lot to think about and it's and it's for you scarier too because a lot of times when you think of Parenting a young child you think of yourself as being younger yourself.
Sure energy.
I can do this I got and then now it's like, you know, we're thinking more and I'll speak for myself I'm thinking more of retirement and you know starting my career Sure, you know in my in this part of life where now you have to be like I still have to be that in my mind That's strong young father.
(44:51):
Yeah, it has to still provide and and build this, you know, I believe I'm leaning more toward I'm not gonna be the Vin Diesel dad Right.
I'm gonna be the Clint Eastwood in Gran Torino The guy who'd like the grizzled he's scarier Nobody's gonna mess.
(45:12):
No, I need to get I need to get their stone-faced Grumpy.
No, it's But yeah, it's it's a lot to think about it's funny when um, you know You go through the pregnancy the nine months and and then how fast the first year birthday comes up It's in nine months.
I mean, I know it kind of sped up for us.
(45:33):
We're doing a podcast and we're always talking about it Measuring this and that but it's so weird like you wait these like for me It felt forever and then it felt like like this in a second years We were doing a birthday party for all your year old.
I'm like, oh my god.
Oh my god.
It does speed up It just it's crazy how that happens even even at my age and I was younger than 55 Sure, my worry was um, I'm almost a 40 year old dad with my second child Yeah, you know I was and I remember, you know coming home and and the baby's crying and I had to you know Be up with it and all that which is great and you do it But and you kind of think like oh my god, I get it.
(46:12):
I get why having children younger.
It's a young man's game, right?
It's like retail Yeah You know, you don't care.
Yeah, I worked 13 hours.
So even at 40, I was like thinking.
Oh my god, you know I can't wait.
I can't wait when they're old enough right on to this But then the time you think I don't want to wish these way either.
(46:34):
Yeah these moments, you know, so
It's weird how fast it goes
It's that is one of the things that I do think about that with
One of the things they say why why time seems to pass so quickly as you get older
Okay is not is because of the way it is our perception
(46:54):
That you're doing it's because you're doing the same thing over and over and over again
routine it is nothing when you're a kid a
Summer feels like for everybody says that right because I felt like I'll see you next year.
Yeah, and it was a full year because
Everything at that stage in your life is new
So in my my hope is that this stuff as much as it goes by quickly
(47:18):
That's what everybody says it goes by in the blink of an eye
My hope is that because I'm going to experience all this stuff that will be all new
For me and then it'll seem forever for her that maybe it'll slow down
It'll slow down a little bit
It will for me while it's happening because it does there's I think we talked about we might have I might even said it
(47:38):
there was this quote some actor said that
The only thing bad about getting old is having breakfast every 15 minutes
Because then because that's what it feels like right as you get old
It's like BAM here another week goes by another month goes by that was funny because
Trina just two days ago.
I think she's like same old thing because she goes I'm going to bed, you know And you get in this rut like yeah.
(48:00):
Oh my god.
We just get up go to work Did it of course time feels like you're just yeah, just yeah You're doing the same thing over and over but it is funny.
I know everybody mentions it like oh my god Do you remember when we were kids summers felt like they were seven months long and then when you realize Remember, it was eight weeks.
You remember when that one when you finally realized wait a minute Summer vacations like eight weeks.
(48:23):
Yeah, I remember when I finally goes old enough to go.
Oh It was too because I thought was like a half a year old.
Yeah, it felt like yeah There was school and there was summer and they were both about the same, right?
And then when you realize like We'll see you guys in eight weeks.
We're like, well, wait, wait weeks The thing for me that I think about as a kid is also how small at that time I think it's different for kids now, but how small your world was.
(48:51):
Oh, yeah that I remember looking Yeah, again pre-internet pre cell phone.
Yeah, it was I remember there was one comic book store called dream days comics it was I Think somewhere on South Salina Street.
Oh, okay.
Not far now from my house.
(49:13):
That's I It's nothing yeah, I thought of that place you have like it was Disney.
Yeah, you were traveling.
I don't know.
I never made it I never got to the drill.
I never got it was so far away as a dream It was like my god if I could only get somebody to take me that's great Too but yeah, but you're you're you know, you're your life your life only extends to the end of the block That's funny.
(49:41):
Could did you have family aunt or grandparents that you drove to?
When you were younger, did you have that like me?
I didn't steal your family.
Yeah, we're going to known it We're going to grandpa.
Yeah, you had that.
Yeah, so we had we had my mom's sister, right?
So we grew up in Manitoba Northside.
Yeah, we're not that far man You don't know where I grew up a block or two away from each other.
(50:03):
Yeah, it's a couple miles Yeah, it's a couple miles and then where my aunt lives is a town called or a village of Liverpool Yeah, not far that felt like they're going to the country probably.
Oh, yeah.
I remember going there.
Yeah As a kid I could nap in the car Nap in the car like I was going on a trip to Florida Have a good sleep have a good nap and then still open my eyes ago.
(50:27):
Are we not there yet?
Still we're not there if it's what a three-mile drive.
Yeah, nothing.
Yeah
It's so like you said
It's so crazy when your mind doesn't have when every day you're learning and you're not filled with all this information we have
Yeah, you that when everything's new because our planet was like a block
(50:48):
Was our that was our world, yeah
the high school the grammar school that we walked to or whatever that was your world right there and everything else was
Miles and miles and planets away.
Yeah, and it's so crazy How that happens?
And it changes and you want that right you wish you always you know that brain of a Seven-year-old the eight-year-old of everything's new and there's so much.
(51:14):
I don't know sometimes like right now we have so much shit up there, man
Yeah, it's nice
those the the odd occasions when you are
Really just pleasantly surprised by something that you didn't expect
Yeah, that happens that happens all the time when you're a kid that that doesn't happen very much as an adult
(51:34):
But yeah, it's nice
I'm hoping there'll be
There'll be lots and in the great thing the great thing that I don't think we not
I don't think I know we don't as you get older that whole imagination part of your brain
Yeah, big part like I'm gonna I'm gonna be a rocket thing.
I'm gonna go even you know, I mean Yeah, it goes away because in reality.
(51:55):
Yeah, and not for me about that.
I still believe I'm gonna be an astronaut But there has to be something about that.
Yeah that that part of your brain that's still doesn't understand that That will never happen or that can't happen.
I do imaginary part of it
That that's another thing that they talk about a lot in the stuff this gentle parenting stuff
(52:18):
And also just development a lot of stuff that I read about developmental
things about kids
Some of the stuff I read and I just think no, it's just not this is not this would be it would be nice
If it was true, right, but they talk about all children are geniuses
And it is this it is at the education system that forces them to think in a certain way
(52:39):
Okay, there was a kid when I was growing up
His name was I think it was
Rob Sutton, I don't know where Rob is.
I'm sure you don't in this conversation probably didn't make it Rob Sutton found a way to break a limb every summer of our childhood.
Okay, and
(52:59):
I refuse to believe he's a genius
He was that kid was never a gene I never broke a thing
There was and I can't even call myself a genius and I didn't break anything
Yeah, like I don't believe I believe all kids are probably more create
I think they kids do lose creativity and they and I think they I think boys in particular now
(53:22):
the energy level that a boy naturally has is is
frowned upon
Now and and kind of controlled in a way that isn't good, but no
Everybody's not a genius.
I don't I remember me and my buddy
Literally thinking we were going to build
Just start digging and we're gonna have like a underground
(53:46):
Yep, same thing warehouse
Lair the bat cave
To us it's like we can do this
It doesn't matter if people walk on top of it
we're gonna be so in that we're gonna be protected and and we
Literally started it one of my friends dad told I think told us a story
(54:07):
That when he was a kid they wanted to build an airplane and they dragged
Railroad ties they made they made an airplane shaped thing out of railroad ties
Dragged it up on top of a garage and pushed it off.
One of the kids almost got killed.
Oh my god Yeah, but that's what you think you don't genius That is the kind of creativity.
(54:30):
That was a genius.
Those are genius.
No, but I guess you know I guess I never let go that imagination thing Yeah, because I think that's what I kind of keeps me.
I don't know young but it's like my job I play house.
I you know, I have to I'm imagining things all the time And and I think a lot of like I said, I don't imagine my father doing what I do, right?
(54:57):
I don't see that.
So there has to be there had to be differences There's some you know Like what we hold on to because I love that feeling on when I was young and that could be anything I wanted I could Imagine anything I wanted and there had to be something that I didn't let go of.
Yeah, that's why I'm doing what I do I guess I don't know being creative.
I think yeah, that's one of the things that that you That does it does not everybody does know not everybody does and I do wonder about that I think some people it comes out and it comes out in different forms in different ways Yeah, and I think there are some people too who do it and then at some point it turns It turns more to reminiscing about the old days.
(55:40):
Got you like but but yeah, that's part of the fun And it does I think it does keep you it keeps you young and energized and and and it's engaging because again back to the The new experience things when you create something like that when you come up with something new idea, it's new It's the first time and in that slows slows things down for you for a little bit.
(56:00):
Well, there you go We covered all kinds of interesting Thorny subjects, but that is kind of we're kind of coming to the close of what just happened and our last stop Yeah on this episode We are on our way to lullaby land We haven't done lullaby land in a while.
So
The our choice for this time is going to be
(56:23):
stay awake
from Mary Poppins
So this is from the 1964 film from Disney Mary Poppins
Performed by Julie Andrews, of course, and it was written by I didn't know this but I did a little research
Written by Richard and Robert Sherman love those you do you just don't you might not know it
(56:45):
They have more motion motion picture song scores than any other team in history
They wrote almost like all of almost all the Disney movies from our youth
They wrote they wrote to each other
They wrote they were all like your jungle book all those songs all that stuff and their biggest hit
(57:06):
Do you know what if you get this I'll be super impressed the biggest it was the biggest hit everyone has heard this song
Just one song what they did the whole movie.
Well, no that they did multiple movies, but but this particular song I'm talking about is their most I think well-known song was it with the sound of music?
No, no, it is a Disney.
(57:28):
It is associated with Disney.
Oh, I don't know Fantasia It's a small world small they wrote it's Broke, it's a small world after all.
So yeah, so that's it.
So but our our lullaby this time That's town when you could write not that song.
(57:49):
Oh, they were all about it.
Yeah, it's crazy So many so many songs and all kinds of I wrote a hit.
Yeah.
No, I wrote all the hits.
Yeah, I'm free Disney and like a and also because it's like a brother team right like You put you like you and Pete you're gonna sit down and crank out the score for 17 movies Like what are we doing?
(58:12):
What do we do now me and Mike?
Yeah So that's a so up next will be stay awake from the 1964 film Mary Poppins sung by yours truly It's gonna be great and you guys gonna enjoy Thing that you just brought back Please and I know you will the beautiful thing about getting to watch these movies with your kids Chitty Chitty Bang Bang and the Wizard of Oz and Mary Poppins We watched Chitty Chitty Bang Bang on loop, bro.
(58:49):
Yeah, it was The one guy in that movie the Kid would take the children.
Oh, he was I was terrified I was the most scared as a kid of that guy the witch from The Wizard of Oz scared the economy and and Those two the Nazis and sounded I don't know if I ever saw sound of music Yeah, no watching watching all that stuff.
(59:22):
Well, it is it is fun to think about getting to experience those And of course Lord of the Rings When I get to work your mommy, that's what your mommy called you an orc.
But anyway, so that's where we are
So hopefully you hopefully you will enjoy our trip to lullaby land with stay awake
Mm-hmm, and otherwise, we will see you soon
(59:55):
Don't rest
Don't lie down
Upon your bed while
in the sky
(01:00:18):
Stay away
Don't close
Your
Though the world is fast asleep
(01:00:42):
Though your pillow
Is soft and deep
You're not sleep as you see
Stay
(01:01:04):
Away
Don't
And
Stay
Oh
(01:01:43):
Well folks that's another episode of the gray hair and daycare podcast in the books
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