February 6, 2025 • 40 mins
On this episode of The Karen Kenney Show, I talk about the big impact of asking the little question, "How can I help?"
I share the story behind the inspiration for this topic, and how it can be a valuable tool for deepening both our personal and professional relationships.
We dive into the importance of this question in motivating and supporting others, especially during these wicked challenging times.
I also touch upon the current state of fear and division in the world, and the feelings of helplessness and hopelessness that many people are experiencing.
However, I encourage listeners to start by focusing on what they can control - their own minds and actions.
I emphasize the importance of standing up for what’s right, and for using your voice and resources to make a difference.
I highlight the role of spirituality in guiding our thoughts, words, and actions, the power of shifting from a thought system of fear to one of love, and how intentional thinking and prayer can be transformative tools for change.
Finally, I invite listeners to develop a Daily Spiritual Practice (DSP) to train their minds and become more effective helpers in the world.
KEY POINTS:
• Celebrating 300 Episodes!
• Dr. Max Goodwin
• Shifting From fear to Love
• Daily Spiritual Practice (DSP)
• Training the Mind
• Listening for Inner Guidance
• Small Actions Create Change
• Ask Yourself, "How can I help?"
• The Nest - Group Mentoring Program
BIO:
Karen Kenney is a certified Spiritual Mentor, Writer, Integrative Change Worker, Coach and Hypnotist. She’s known for her dynamic storytelling, her sense of humor, her Boston accent, and her no-BS, down-to-earth approach to Spirituality and transformational work.
KK is a wicked curious human being, a life-long learner, and has been an entrepreneur for over 20 years! She’s also a yoga teacher of 24+ years, a Certified Gateless Writing Instructor, and an author, speaker, retreat leader, and the host of The Karen Kenney Show podcast.
She coaches both the conscious + unconscious mind using practical Neuroscience, Subconscious Reprogramming, Integrative Hypnosis/Change Work, and Spiritual Mentorship. These tools help clients to regulate their nervous systems, remove blocks, rewrite stories, rewire beliefs, and reimagine what’s possible in their lives and business!
Karen encourages people to deepen their connection to Self, Source and Spirit in down-to-earth and actionable ways and wants them to have their own lived experience with spirituality and to not just “take her word for it”.
She helps people to shift their minds from fear to Love - using compassion, storytelling and humor. Her work is effective, efficient, memorable, and fun!
KK’s been a student of A Course in Miracles for close to 30 years, has been vegan for over 20 years, and believes that a little kindness can make a big difference.
KK WEBSITE: www.karenkenney.com
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Karen Kenney (00:01):
Hey you guys, welcome to the Karen Kenney show. Oh my gosh. Is Can you believe it? You guys, this is my 300th episode. Like, 300 shows. It's kind of crazy
because a friend of mine was writing to melast night and she said, 300 episodes like, that's a really big deal. Are you going to celebrate? And I hadn't really thought about
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it, but I mean, I'm really I'm really proudof myself. I'm really happy that I have been wicked consistent, that I've been doing this like six years, like six years I've been
sitting up here in my office like a littleweirdo. See me and Mr. Rogers and Ganesh and my mom and Priscilla and Bob Ross over there, like we've all just been up here in
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my office, like a little weirdo, kind oftalking to myself. I mean, obviously I'm talking to you guys. I record these by myself, just like talking to this screen, so
just, it's a wicked big deal, and I amexcited. I just want to say, the biggest thing I want to say is thank you so much like thank you to every listener. Thank you
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to every person who's ever shared the show.Thank you to my sweetie who, Chris less that right? My husband, my sweetie, who helps me do the audio portion of this show. I do all
the other production, but he does the audio.I could not do it without him. Thank you to my former podcasting team from amplify you and Aaron, who I love, who helped me for
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many years get this show out into the world.Anybody like I said, who's a new listener, a loyal listener. I know some of you have been with me since, like, episode one, so like,
300 300 episodes. Also, congratulations toyou, like for sticking in there with me and going along for the ride. And hey, you know, hopefully, fingers crossed. I'm going to
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continue to feel inspired and guided to keepdoing this for another 300 but I just wanted to take a moment and pause and just really say thank you to each of you, to all of you.
I love you and I appreciate you, and thankyou so much. Okay, so here we are, 300th episode, and this sucker is called, How can I help? And it's so fitting, because I'm
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wearing one of my favorite artists, Batsyheads. I'm wearing my I help you psychiatric help five cents. I help you my little I help you booth. Oh, my God. I love this
sweatshirt so much. It makes me laugh everytime I see it. So I'm wearing this also because, Hello, how can I help you? This is the name of it. And I've been thinking about
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this question for a long time because, for alot of different reasons, for a lot of different reasons, like that is one of, I think, my core values, is that I am a
helper, that if I see somebody in need, if Isee somebody in distress, if I see an animal in need, an animal distress, I am just compelled to try to do something. You know,
I don't consider myself the freaking Saviorof the world. I don't always have all the means or the resources or the knowledge or whatever to help. I'm not here to save
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anybody. It's just I do my best with whatI've got. You know what I mean? But this question, why I've really been thinking about it, is, I don't know if any of you
have ever seen a show called New Amsterdam.There's a main character of that show called Dr Max. Goodwin, okay, his name is not a mistake. When the show writers were like,
when the writers were writing this, theygave him the appropriate name, right? Goodwin, okay. And his character, the very first time that we meet his character, he
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has been made the new medical director ofthis hospital, right? And he comes in and after he basically fires everybody because the old system wasn't working. Like he comes
in, he's like, this is bullshit. This place.This is not working. This is not how we're going to do this. This is a public hospital. Health care is a right. Health care is
deserved for all, even if you can't pay forit. So he totally upturns this old system that is no longer working. And his number one thing that he asked everybody over the
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five seasons of this show is, how can Ihelp? And he uses this question to engage with his patients. He uses this question to talk to his his friends, his the families of
the patients that are like sick or whatever,and he also uses it with his colleagues. So I heard this question over and over and over again as I was watching this show, and I
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believe it's a question that everydaypeople. I mean, of course, leaders, it's a really powerful way for a leader, or anybody who has any kind of power in an industry or
whatever, they can use this as a verypowerful tool to not only create change, but also to motivate people and to support their team members and stuff like that. But I'm
just talking about like everyday people likeyou and me, like going going through our life and asking this very powerful and important question, how can I help? And
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we're going to dive into that a little bitmore. So one of the reasons why I wanted to talk about, like, how can I help, right? How can we kind of take this really big and
broad question and start to apply it tolike, everyday life? Because, right, it's like I was saying, like everyday people. This is a really important question, because
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especially at a time right now when theworld can feel like an absolute show, when the world can feel so scary, so filled with separation, so filled with scarcity, so
filled with sickness, not just like physicalsickness, but sickness in the mind, like there is some shit that is going down in the country right now that is like some Pat I'm
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like, the brains and the minds that arecoming up with all this hateful rhetoric, all this division, all this racist, misogynistic, hateful like, all all the shit
that likes Going down. There's just so muchhatred and division. There's so much a sense of threat. There's, like, really high levels of fear and a sense of threat. And there's
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definitely a bunch of people and communitiesand populations and nervous systems, like, pretty much like across the board, that are feeling a lack of safety, and when
everything starts to feel like it's like,all going to hell in a hand basket, it can be really easy to be thinking like, Well, I'm just one person. My vote doesn't matter,
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my voice doesn't matter my like, mysituation doesn't matter. Like I feel like kind of cut off at the knees, like I can't really, you know, really do anything. And
one of the things that I always try toremind people is this, while we cannot change all the things out there, when you feel like, oh my god, like the world has
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lost its collective mind, like what is goingon, and you start to look around, you get a little more suspicious of everybody, again, lack of trust, lack of safety, all these
things. A lot of dysregulated nervoussystems, right? And even though we can't change the things out there, we do have autonomy, agency, authority and authorship
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of what goes on inside of us. And I knowthat when it starts to feel like all the systems are built against you or built against us, like all the powers that be, all
the things that are happening, it can bereally easy to start to feel hopeless. It can be really easy to start to feel helpless. It can be really tempting to just
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kind of, like, pull the covers over yourhead, stick your head in the sand, throw up your hands and say, like, I'm ineffective. There's nothing I can do. Like, well, I
voted I did this, but look how, or whatever,right? Whatever the story is that we tell ourselves, and this just isn't on a global scale. This can sometimes be in
relationships, in the family dynamic, in thefamily systems, in the school systems. It's not just like the greater government or politics and politicians and all that like
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policy. It's also just like within thesmaller, kind of little systems of like friendships or lovers or marriages or partnerships, or, you know, businesses, or
whatever it is, and when we start to feelthat impending doom of like, well, never, I always talk about, I always talk about this, about the little character on the banana
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split. Some of you might be too young toremember that show, but that show the banana splits, and they had the spin off within that show of gull of his travels. And there
was this one little guy in Gulliver'stravel. He was a little opusion. They called, like a little teeny tiny, teeny, tiny people, and he would always just throw
up his hands and mumble and be like, I'llnever make it. We're doomed. And it can be so tempting sometimes to just kind of give into that state, that kind of Eeyore, right?
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That your state of mind, okay? But here'sthe thing, so when it starts to feel like it's all just like falling apart and spinning out of control and whatever, and I
know that I can't change other people. Ican't change whole governments. I can't change whole, you know, systems of racism and hatred and all this stuff. That's what I
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do, is I look around for what I can change.I take a moment. I use some pattern interrupts that I use right breath, whatever it is. I have a bunch of different tools in
my tool kit, tools that I share and teachpeople in the nest or my one to one clients, right?
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So what I do is I look around for what I canchange. I look around for what I can control. I look around for what I can do. I look around for what I can offer. I look
around for where I can use my voice, for thevoiceless. I look around for where I can take a stand. I look around for where I can say No, not today, not on my fucking watch.
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Not happening in front of me, right? I lookfor those places. It can be really hard though to go into those places of standing in your strength, of using your voice, of
sticking up for your for what you believe isright, for saying no, for being a whistleblower, for writing your congressman, writing your house of representatives, like
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calling whoever right, like doing the rightthing. I always say doing the right thing doesn't mean just because it's right doesn't mean it's always easy, right? Because
there's a lot of fear of like, well, whatwill happen to me if I show up to be helpful, if I show up and take a stand, I show up and do this thing. But I was on a
call the other day with my my friend and myspiritual godmother and my mentor, Marion Williamson, and she basically was saying that the only loving question at this time
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is this, how can I serve? And this issomething I have been asking and doing for a wicked long time. Not surprising, right? Because she's been in my life a long time.
I've been A Course in Miracles student for along time. I've been a yoga student for a long time. I've been a student of like I was a Catholic kid, right? So this idea of like,
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if you look at, and I don't care if youhave, if you come from a childhood religion, or a childhood faith or a way of worshiping, if you're an atheist, if you're aware, it
does not take much, even if you always say,when I look at Jesus, I'm like, you don't have to attach Jesus to a religion. I think he's a free agent. And in fact, we're going
to be talking about, we're going to betalking about Jesus in a whole new kind of mystical way when I have a special guest on my show soon. But I kind of think about
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Jesus as like being a free agent, and youcan even look at him as a mythological figure or a mystical figure, right? You don't have to attach him to any kind of
dogma or doctrine. But when you kind of lookat his living example, and you look at the stories of Jesus, or even, quote, unquote, the Gospels, which, to me, is just the
recordings of the stories of how this personspoke and what they did and how they changed the world in their in their time, Jesus was the number one, how can I help, and how can
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I serve? And so when I think about that, youknow, as through that lens, so from a little kid, right, being raised in the, quote, unquote, the Catholic tradition. It's like,
you know, you heard stories of Jesus and howhe kind of roamed around and, like, hung out with, like, the lepers and the prostitutes and the poorly and the sick, and how he
helped the animals and how he did, you know,all these incredible things. And I think, like, yeah, like, that was a person who was living from a thought system of love instead
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of a thought system of fear. And thatquestion, how can I help? To me, takes root, right? It blossoms. It gives forth, you know, from that place of love. And it's
interesting as a spiritual mentor, you know,so many people think of like I mean, words kind of get, words kind of get taken and then bastardized by like certain cultures
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and groups of people. And I think the wordspirituality, it can, it can have a certain resonance for certain people, like the way that they look at it, or what they what they
assign meaning to that word, okay? And so alot of people think of spirituality as just being all like love and light. I'm doing like little hair, clothes. People think of
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it being all like love and light andthoughts and prayers, right? And they think of it as being really passive, weak, too gentle, too coddling whatever they think
they think of it as kind of like ineffectivebullshit. But here's the thing that I can tell you, love can be fierce, and when you drag the darkness into the light, the
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darkness disappears, because light anddarkness cannot exist in the same place. Fear cannot exist in the same space as love, so love and light, when we use it all like,
Oh, love and light, and you know, that'syour tag, or whatever, that's really different than when you put some power, some intention and some action behind love and
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behind the light. And it's the same thingwith thoughts and prayers, because prayers, and of course, in miracles, says that prayers are the medium of miracles, not
miracles like walking around and patting theRed Sea or walking on water or raising people from the dead, right? But miracles, in this kind of experience of small reality,
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is like a shift in perception in your mind,from a thought system of fear to a thought system of love. When we do that, and we shift our perception, the way that we see
ourselves, see the world, and we start tochoose differently, with a different teacher, with a different point of view. Which a different internal teacher, spirit
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guiding us, divine intelligence, whateveryou want to call it, when we do that, right, it's very powerful. So prayer are the mediums of miracles. It's how we can get
some shit done. But so is thoughts, people,people I think don't realize and so as a spiritual mentor, as a hypnotist, as a life coach, as somebody who is a change worker
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and helps people through kind of finding theintelligence right that lives within them and doing transformational work. One of the things that I can tell you is this, our
thoughts are so powerful. Our thoughts, oh,my god. Oh my god. When you think about how 95% to 97% whatever the number is, of everything that we think, say and do, it
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comes from our subconscious, subconscious islike the realm of where we're holding these old patterns, these old habits, these old neural, deep conditioned and patterned and
habituated neural networks in the brain,things that have been repeated that we've been doing for a really long time. So in A Course in Miracles, we say that there are no
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neutral thoughts. There are no neutralthoughts. And it goes on to say this, it's because everything you see is the result of your thoughts. Ask anybody with IBS, ask
anybody with especially IBS D, ask anybodywith anxiety, ask anybody with like like that that uses their mind to miscreate all the time. I can literally just start to
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think about something. And if I think aboutit enough times with enough emotion and enough intensity, I can start to make myself anxious. You know what I mean? What do we
think happens with anxiety? Right? We have away of thinking. And since the brain loves to save time, the brain loves to go in and say, Oh, I already know this. I know this,
Pat, and I can do this like that. Oh, yeah,getting anxious is really easy. I have a really strong neural network for anxiety. You know what? I mean? We don't. I always
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say, it's not that I'm I'm anxious, but I'mexperiencing anxiety, which is meaning like that old system, excuse me, that old system is kicking on. So our minds and our thoughts
are so powerful because they are causal.They are cause. And what we see everything starts as a thought, and what we see is the result of our thinking. When I look at a
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world that has gone mad, what I realize isthat enough people have left their right mind, and they have taken detours into fear, and they can try to convince themselves
they're doing the right thing, whatever. ButI'm like, hey, if we're going to continue to miscreate from a place of fear, we're going to keep getting exactly what we've got right
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now. So when I think about this, right? Idon't think that thought, thoughts and prayers, like when, when there's a mass shooting or something just awful happens,
then people are like, Oh, thoughts andprayers. That's just bullshit. That's just like words. It doesn't mean anything. But when people are intentional with their
thoughts, when people are intentional andproactive with their prayers, when people are intentional with their thinking thoughts of love and asking the question, How can I
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help from a loving place? Not, oh, I'm goingto swoop in and rescue you because you're so helpless and hopeless. No, when we help from an empowered place where we see the other
person in our mind, when we see them asbeing capable and happy, healthy, healed, whole and holy how they were created, it's It's remarkable. And when I think about this
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concept of the light too, since we'retalking about this love and light, you know Swami Kripalu Bapu g1 of my spiritual grandfathers, right? He always used to say
this, and he would say, Do not fight thedarkness. So we don't have to spend all this time, all this energy, like fighting the systems that I and that be because we don't.
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It's like, it's not about going backwards.It's about what do I want to create from a place of love? Not what do I want to fight out of fear? So he says, Do not fight the
darkness. Just turn on the light. Turn onthat light that is within you.
Shine that light so bright. And one of theways that I turn on the light when it feels like the world has gone dark is I ask myself, How can I help? How can I help? And
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one of the ways that I can first be helpfulto everybody else, humans, animals, the environment, eventually myself right, is I start with me. I. Doing a DSP, a daily
spiritual practice. Because, to me, a DSP,what it really is is mind training. It is training your mind. It is being able to put your mind where you want to put it, when you
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want to put it there, so that we're notdistracted, so that we don't just surrender critical thinking, so we don't all of a sudden get like influenced by all these
influencers who don't even know most of thetime what they're talking about. So we don't give our authorship and our autonomy and our agency right away. So to me, having a
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practice that is mind training is reallypowerful. And just like you would go to the gym right cross fit, strength training, power lifting, workout, whatever you do for
a workout to strengthen your muscles, rightyour cardio, your running, like all the things that you do to get stronger physically. We also have to do this
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mentally. I say have to You're grown adults.I can't make you. You can do whatever you want. That sounded a little bossy, but I highly encourage you. I highly encourage you
to have a DSP, to have a daily spiritualpractice of some time, some kind that actually trains your mind. Because just like we have to strengthen our physical muscles,
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we have to strengthen our mental muscles,our spiritual muscles, we gotta do it. And of course, in miracles, there's a line that I love that says an untrained mind can
accomplish nothing an untrained it's anotherway of saying an undisciplined, an undisciplined, an untrained mind, can accomplish nothing, nothing. And there's
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another passage where it says something likeyou get you know, you accomplish so little because you are untrained. Your mind is untrained. When we have an untrained mind,
we become really gullible. When we have anuntrained mind, we stop questioning things. When we have an untrained mind, we start to just get helpless and hopeless and throw up
our hands and be like, there's nothing I cando. When we have an untrained mind, we get highly hypnotized by other people's propaganda and rhetoric and bullshit and
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hatred and racism and like all the systems,just all the systems you grow up in. I always say, little kids don't come out of the womb hating. Little kids are taught to
hate. Little kids are taught to start to docomparison and better than right. Little kids are taught like, I always say, like, Aristotle, or whoever I should probably
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just, I gotta stop saying, was I the playPlato or Aristotle? I'm like, it was one of the stoics. It was one of those guys. I gotta figure out who it was, but they would
say, give me the boy or the girl, right?Give me the child. But we'll say, just use boy. In this case, give me the boy until he is eight, and I will show you the man so so
much of how people are acting in their adultlife. And this is why I do the work that I do. Right is because of the conditioning and the patterns and the habits the Hypno the
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way they were hypnotized, as I would callit, quote, unquote, as children. And it's acting itself out. And if we don't, at some point, stop, start to question some things,
and slow down and get intentional andregulate our nervous systems. All the things that I do for the work that I do with people, right? Had to do it with myself
first and continue to do it for myself firsttoo, because I don't want to be I'm already we're all a little crazy. Just accept it. We're all a little insane, but I don't want
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to be so insane and go off the rails thatI'm contributing, that I'm contributing in a massive way to like the hatred and the insanity. Okay, so to me, a daily spiritual
practice. It primes us. It primes us. Itprimes our brain. It primes us to take responsibility. A DSP, a good daily spiritual practice. I always say the five ds
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of DSP, daily dedication, determination,discipline and devotion, right? These are the qualities that we want to bring to our daily spiritual practice. But having a DSP
of contemplation, meditation, prayer,journaling, whatever it is, right, reading your daily devotional like being present, taking some quiet time for you and the God
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of your own understanding, to be in nature,to be with the universe, however you see that perfect Oneness, however it is that you relate to the love that is right. When we
have a DSP, it primes us to, first of all,start to discipline our mind. It also helps us to take responsibility. It helps us to listen for guidance, inner guidance, not out
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there, not not all the chatter, not all theinfluencers, not all the memes, not all the stuff coming at you, in towards you. What is coming from inside of you? What is the radio
station? Dial? I would say we gotta theassignment is alignment. So aligning to the Holy Spirit, spirit, intuition, instinct in a teacher. I don't care what you call it.
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Uh, listening for that guidance, and then,and then, once you get your assignment right, and we all have our own individual curriculum, we all have our own individual
assignment, and then we got to go out thereand take action. And this question, how can I help? Is one of the questions that we can ask in our DSP. And then we get quiet enough
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and we listen for the next, right, smalleststep. Because when we ask the big question, how can I help, we get overwhelmed. It's like, oh my God, there's so many animals
suffering, right? California, just like,burned to the ground. Oh my god. And these are, like, fire away things. Like, there's like, oh my god, they're stabbing children
over here. There was a tsunami over here.There was a plane and helicopter crash over here. There was a mass shooting over here. Oh my god, they're threatening to deport
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citizens over here or people over here.We're doing this, we're doing that, and it can all feel like, so big, so much. And like, here's the thing, we can't all hop on
planes and like, go to California and bringgoods, whatever. So we ask right where, where I am with what I have, the resources I have, what's available to me, my mental
power, my energy, my love, my thoughts, myprayers, my love, my light, my bank account, my skills, my talents, whatever resources you have, how can I use them? And we can't
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always do something far away, unless maybethere's a donation link or a GoFundMe, or you can make a phone call to help somebody out who's local, whatever, right? So, but we
can look really close to home and say, firstthings first, what can I do? Well, first things first is I can get my own mind right, so that I'm actually creating, co creating
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with the divine from a place of love and aplace of intelligence, so I'm not being hijacked. My amygdala is like pumping out, right? Like all these chemicals I'm going
into fight and flight. My sympatheticnervous system is turned on. It's like, oh, shit, Danger. Danger Will Robinson, right? It's like, okay, first of all, I gotta get
my own head on straight. I gotta get out ofmy detour into fear, and I need to come back. Number one, well, how do we do that? Well, there's breath work, there's
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meditation, there's prayer, right? There'ssomatic exercises, havening, tapping, EFT. There's like 1000 things that we can start to do to bring ourselves back online, to
shift out of that fight or flight or thattrauma response number one. But here are some prayers here. And if you don't like the word prayers, just think of them as helpful
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words. But if the only loving question wecan ask at this time is, how can I serve, or how can I help? One of the things that I found incredibly helpful, several things
there. There are, there are several prayersthat I say every day again, take em or leave em. I don't care. I don't like the words prayer. Call it something else. Call it
prose, call it helpful words. I don't carewhat you call it. Don't get hung up on it, okay? But there's a prayer from A Course of Miracles that is sometimes called the
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miracle workers. Prayer, excuse me, that issometimes called the miracle workers prayer, I've heard it called other prayers. But here it is, and this is a really powerful
reminder to yourself when things start toget like shit scary, out of control. Okay, here it is. I am here only to be truly helpful. You could you could probably just
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see you could even stop there I am. Remindyourself I am here only to be truly helpful. Now. Don't let the pronouns of the next line get you weird. Say her, say it. Don't get
weird about the word him. Some people do.That's why I'm right. So just going to say that, okay, I am here only to be truly helpful. I am here to represent Him who sent
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Me. It's another way of saying I'm here torepresent love. I'm here to represent the love that sent me right. I don't have to worry about what to say or what to do,
because He who sent me will direct me. Thisis about getting quiet, going within, listening for your next right. Smallest step is it, I should write my representative. I
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should call my congressman. I should donateat the food bank. I should volunteer at the animal shelter.
I should make a post on Facebook and use myvoice. I should raise my hand at that town hall. I should go to the next town meeting that's happening. Maybe I should register to
vote like whatever the next step is. It'snot for me to tell you what it is. You will know. Oh, I should do an in person, whatever. I should do a podcast episode
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about that. Whatever it is, okay. I don'thave to worry about what to say or what to do, because he, because He who sent Me, will direct me. And then it says this, I'm
content to go wherever he wishes, knowingthat he goes there with me again. You. Just insert the word love. I'm content to be wherever love wishes, knowing that love goes
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there with me and I will be healed as I lethim teach me to heal. So here it is again, full full thing. I'm here only to be truly harmful. I am here to represent Him who sent
Me. I don't have to worry about what to sayor what to do, because He who sent me will direct me. I'm content to be wherever he wishes, knowing he goes there with me and I
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will be healed as I let him teach me toheal. I say this prayer before I do a podcast. I say it when I wake up in the morning. I say it before I step on the
stage, before I guest teach in somebody'sprogram, before I have one of my clients, before I do a nest call, before I teach a yoga class. Anytime that I feel like this is
an opportunity where my words are going toland upon somebody else, and I'm thinking in my head, may they be loving, may they be helpful, may they be be effective. Maybe
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they be used in service to love. This iswhat I'm always asking. It's a very powerful prayer, another prayer, excuse me, excuse me. Also adapted. Adapted from A Course in
Miracles, is simply this. And you can saythis at any time. You can say this at any time when you're like, Oh my God, I don't know what to do, or you're like, oh my god,
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the world is going so crazy, and you juststart to feel like, I need to do something. I want to do something. What can I do? How can I help? When you're asking that
question, here's a great prayer. Get veryquiet. Simply say this. Please have me go where you would have me go. Have me do what you would have me do. Have me say what you
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would have me say, and to whom I also add,please have me be who you would have me be. Please use me. Please use me. Please use me. And I always end with and so it is Amen say
that or don't say that, right? But we'reasking for that guidance of, how can I be helpful? We don't decide how we can be helpful first and then try to go and inflict
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our help in ourselves on people. I ask forthat guidance, and we often know. It's like, how do I know if I'm listening for the voice of ego versus the voice of love, the voice
of Spirit? It's like, well, the voice ofSpirit, you feel more at peace. You feel peaceful instead of feeling anxious and agitated, and I got to and like, whenever
we're coming from that place of fear, likewe can stop, we can slow down, pattern, interrupt, right? And then say this, and then listen deeply, listen deeply for where
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you feel guided to go and to who and whatare you going to say? Who are you going to say it to without an agenda, but really, truly asking, like, how can I serve with my
set of skills, with my talents, with mygifts, with my insight, with my perspective, with my experience, with my resources, with my team, with my community, how can we show
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up and make a difference? Okay, I mean, youlook all, all you have to do is look around you. And it's not always just in times of crisis. I mean, there are people like Mr.
Rogers and people like Bob Ross. There arepeople like some of my heroes, right? Yeah. You have the extremes, like Martin Luther King Jr, who is out there, like, just, oh,
talk about being a change maker and a worldchanger, like Gandhi too, like Jesus, you have these people who really, just in this lifetime, are given the assignment of, like
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you are going to do some heavy lifting forhumanity. You know what I'm saying. And we might not get that kind of call to action, but each one of us can do something. And you
know, it reminds me of you know SaintFrancis sain Francis is prayer again. I don't care if you're religious. These are not, these are like mystical words. These
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are like alchemizing words. This is alchemy,right? It's powerful stuff. That's what love to fear is. I mean fear to love is, it's, it's alchemizing. It changes. It takes this
stuff and transforms it. It's my wholeprocess. Like, your story to your glory. That's what this is. But when, when Saint Francis says, you know, he says, like, make
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me an instrument of peace, where there'shatred, let me sow love where there's injury, pattern, where there's doubt, faith, where there's despair, hope, where there's
darkness, light, where there is sadness,joy, like oh, like Divine Master grant that a I might not be like seeking to be consoled, but to go out there and console
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not Sitting around hoping to be understood,but going out there and trying to understand, not waiting around to be loved, but to go out and to love, because it's in
giving that we receive. It's when we pardonpeople and forgive them that we are pardoned ourselves. And it's in dying to. This idea of the small self, this ego self, this
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separation, all this bullshit, so muchbullshit right now. It's just such a racket right now. It's in dying to all of that that we are born into eternal light, internal
life, and into into the the people that weactually are, which is love. So to me, right now, this is what we should be asking, right? We can't like we gotta feel our
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feelings. Of course, you gotta. You gottatake good care of yourself. You gotta process your grief. You gotta feel all the part of this whole human experience, and
then we have to get back to the business oflove. And it also reminds me something else that is also said in like 12 step programs. There's a line. I don't know if it's aa or
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one of them, but I know I've heard it, andit's this. It's called, it says, get into the solution. Get into the solution, because it's really easy to get distracted by all
the despair and all the news and all thenegativity that is being pumped, pumped, pumped onto the internet and social media and in the news and all that stuff, right?
Be really easy to get distracted by, like,all the like, bad shit. Get for me, get into the solution. So like in recovery, it basically means to actively focus on right
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the steps and the practices that are goingto lead to you staying sober, like that's what that's about, rather than dwelling in all the problems and all the negative
aspects that come with, you know, havingaddictions and blah, blah, blah. So it basically encourages you to shift your mindset, to get out of the issues and the
problems and instead to start to activelyengage in the thought system and the behaviors of the recovery process. And it can be really easy right now, I think, as a
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nation, as a world, we need to recover moreand more and more of our humanity, of our brothership, our sisterhood, of our oneness of our compassion, our mercy, our grace, our
goodness, our strength, because we areBetter Together, right so right now, we are trying to recover a powerful and transformational thought system of love
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instead of One of fear. And we need you. Weneed you. We need you to show up with your gifts and your talents and your words and your power and your resources and your
people and your love and your light and yourthoughts and your intentional prayers. We need you to show up as well. So on this 300th episode, that's what I'm asking you
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right now. How can you help? You don't haveto know the answer right this second, but take a little time. Get quiet. Listen deeply. If you don't have a DSP, you need
help with the DSP, consider joining thenest. Just go to Karen kenney.com you'll see it. Karen kenney.com work with me, the quest, the nest, whatever, if you need
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support and help doing that, but you canjust do this right now. Just stop. I mean, not if you drive in or whatever. Be safe, right? Be smart. But like, how can you help?
Ask yourself, how can I help? And then Ihope you go about the business of listening deeply, once you ask the question, listening for your own right in a teacher, the voice
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of your own in a teacher, the voice for loveand that you are courageous enough and brave enough and confident enough to just take the next right smallest step. And I believe in
you, and the world needs you, and youmatter, and you are good enough right now to be helpful. You are worthy enough right now to be helpful. You are loved. You are
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loving. You are capable of extending love,and that's what's required right now. How can I help extend love? What does that look like? I don't know. Go inside, get quiet and
wait for your further instructions, becausethey're coming. All right, you guys, thank you so much for tuning in to my 300th episode. I love you. I appreciate you so
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much. I hope, I hope we get to spend moretime together.
If you found this episode helpful? Pleaseshare it with somebody that means so much to me. Have you found it helpful in some way and you want to support the show, feel free
to use the tip jar. Just go to Karenkenney.com/tip, ja, one word, and wherever you go, wherever you go, out there, right? May you leave yourself and the animals and
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the other people in the environment and theplanet better than how you found it wherever you go, may you and your presence and your energy and your love and your help be a
blessing. Bye, you.
Hey you guys, welcome to the Karen Kenney show. Oh my gosh. Is Can you believe it? You guys, this is my 300th episode. Like, 300 shows. It's kind of crazy
because a friend of mine was writing to melast night and she said, 300 episodes like, that's a really big deal. Are you going to celebrate? And I hadn't really thought about
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it, but I mean, I'm really I'm really proudof myself. I'm really happy that I have been wicked consistent, that I've been doing this like six years, like six years I've been
sitting up here in my office like a littleweirdo. See me and Mr. Rogers and Ganesh and my mom and Priscilla and Bob Ross over there, like we've all just been up here in
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my office, like a little weirdo, kind oftalking to myself. I mean, obviously I'm talking to you guys. I record these by myself, just like talking to this screen, so
just, it's a wicked big deal, and I amexcited. I just want to say, the biggest thing I want to say is thank you so much like thank you to every listener. Thank you
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to every person who's ever shared the show.Thank you to my sweetie who, Chris less that right? My husband, my sweetie, who helps me do the audio portion of this show. I do all
the other production, but he does the audio.I could not do it without him. Thank you to my former podcasting team from amplify you and Aaron, who I love, who helped me for
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many years get this show out into the world.Anybody like I said, who's a new listener, a loyal listener. I know some of you have been with me since, like, episode one, so like,
300 300 episodes. Also, congratulations toyou, like for sticking in there with me and going along for the ride. And hey, you know, hopefully, fingers crossed. I'm going to
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continue to feel inspired and guided to keepdoing this for another 300 but I just wanted to take a moment and pause and just really say thank you to each of you, to all of you.
I love you and I appreciate you, and thankyou so much. Okay, so here we are, 300th episode, and this sucker is called, How can I help? And it's so fitting, because I'm
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wearing one of my favorite artists, Batsyheads. I'm wearing my I help you psychiatric help five cents. I help you my little I help you booth. Oh, my God. I love this
sweatshirt so much. It makes me laugh everytime I see it. So I'm wearing this also because, Hello, how can I help you? This is the name of it. And I've been thinking about
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this question for a long time because, for alot of different reasons, for a lot of different reasons, like that is one of, I think, my core values, is that I am a
helper, that if I see somebody in need, if Isee somebody in distress, if I see an animal in need, an animal distress, I am just compelled to try to do something. You know,
I don't consider myself the freaking Saviorof the world. I don't always have all the means or the resources or the knowledge or whatever to help. I'm not here to save
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anybody. It's just I do my best with whatI've got. You know what I mean? But this question, why I've really been thinking about it, is, I don't know if any of you
have ever seen a show called New Amsterdam.There's a main character of that show called Dr Max. Goodwin, okay, his name is not a mistake. When the show writers were like,
when the writers were writing this, theygave him the appropriate name, right? Goodwin, okay. And his character, the very first time that we meet his character, he
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has been made the new medical director ofthis hospital, right? And he comes in and after he basically fires everybody because the old system wasn't working. Like he comes
in, he's like, this is bullshit. This place.This is not working. This is not how we're going to do this. This is a public hospital. Health care is a right. Health care is
deserved for all, even if you can't pay forit. So he totally upturns this old system that is no longer working. And his number one thing that he asked everybody over the
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five seasons of this show is, how can Ihelp? And he uses this question to engage with his patients. He uses this question to talk to his his friends, his the families of
the patients that are like sick or whatever,and he also uses it with his colleagues. So I heard this question over and over and over again as I was watching this show, and I
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believe it's a question that everydaypeople. I mean, of course, leaders, it's a really powerful way for a leader, or anybody who has any kind of power in an industry or
whatever, they can use this as a verypowerful tool to not only create change, but also to motivate people and to support their team members and stuff like that. But I'm
just talking about like everyday people likeyou and me, like going going through our life and asking this very powerful and important question, how can I help? And
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we're going to dive into that a little bitmore. So one of the reasons why I wanted to talk about, like, how can I help, right? How can we kind of take this really big and
broad question and start to apply it tolike, everyday life? Because, right, it's like I was saying, like everyday people. This is a really important question, because
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especially at a time right now when theworld can feel like an absolute show, when the world can feel so scary, so filled with separation, so filled with scarcity, so
filled with sickness, not just like physicalsickness, but sickness in the mind, like there is some shit that is going down in the country right now that is like some Pat I'm
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like, the brains and the minds that arecoming up with all this hateful rhetoric, all this division, all this racist, misogynistic, hateful like, all all the shit
that likes Going down. There's just so muchhatred and division. There's so much a sense of threat. There's, like, really high levels of fear and a sense of threat. And there's
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definitely a bunch of people and communitiesand populations and nervous systems, like, pretty much like across the board, that are feeling a lack of safety, and when
everything starts to feel like it's like,all going to hell in a hand basket, it can be really easy to be thinking like, Well, I'm just one person. My vote doesn't matter,
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my voice doesn't matter my like, mysituation doesn't matter. Like I feel like kind of cut off at the knees, like I can't really, you know, really do anything. And
one of the things that I always try toremind people is this, while we cannot change all the things out there, when you feel like, oh my god, like the world has
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lost its collective mind, like what is goingon, and you start to look around, you get a little more suspicious of everybody, again, lack of trust, lack of safety, all these
things. A lot of dysregulated nervoussystems, right? And even though we can't change the things out there, we do have autonomy, agency, authority and authorship
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of what goes on inside of us. And I knowthat when it starts to feel like all the systems are built against you or built against us, like all the powers that be, all
the things that are happening, it can bereally easy to start to feel hopeless. It can be really easy to start to feel helpless. It can be really tempting to just
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kind of, like, pull the covers over yourhead, stick your head in the sand, throw up your hands and say, like, I'm ineffective. There's nothing I can do. Like, well, I
voted I did this, but look how, or whatever,right? Whatever the story is that we tell ourselves, and this just isn't on a global scale. This can sometimes be in
relationships, in the family dynamic, in thefamily systems, in the school systems. It's not just like the greater government or politics and politicians and all that like
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policy. It's also just like within thesmaller, kind of little systems of like friendships or lovers or marriages or partnerships, or, you know, businesses, or
whatever it is, and when we start to feelthat impending doom of like, well, never, I always talk about, I always talk about this, about the little character on the banana
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split. Some of you might be too young toremember that show, but that show the banana splits, and they had the spin off within that show of gull of his travels. And there
was this one little guy in Gulliver'stravel. He was a little opusion. They called, like a little teeny tiny, teeny, tiny people, and he would always just throw
up his hands and mumble and be like, I'llnever make it. We're doomed. And it can be so tempting sometimes to just kind of give into that state, that kind of Eeyore, right?
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That your state of mind, okay? But here'sthe thing, so when it starts to feel like it's all just like falling apart and spinning out of control and whatever, and I
know that I can't change other people. Ican't change whole governments. I can't change whole, you know, systems of racism and hatred and all this stuff. That's what I
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do, is I look around for what I can change.I take a moment. I use some pattern interrupts that I use right breath, whatever it is. I have a bunch of different tools in
my tool kit, tools that I share and teachpeople in the nest or my one to one clients, right?
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So what I do is I look around for what I canchange. I look around for what I can control. I look around for what I can do. I look around for what I can offer. I look
around for where I can use my voice, for thevoiceless. I look around for where I can take a stand. I look around for where I can say No, not today, not on my fucking watch.
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Not happening in front of me, right? I lookfor those places. It can be really hard though to go into those places of standing in your strength, of using your voice, of
sticking up for your for what you believe isright, for saying no, for being a whistleblower, for writing your congressman, writing your house of representatives, like
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calling whoever right, like doing the rightthing. I always say doing the right thing doesn't mean just because it's right doesn't mean it's always easy, right? Because
there's a lot of fear of like, well, whatwill happen to me if I show up to be helpful, if I show up and take a stand, I show up and do this thing. But I was on a
call the other day with my my friend and myspiritual godmother and my mentor, Marion Williamson, and she basically was saying that the only loving question at this time
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is this, how can I serve? And this issomething I have been asking and doing for a wicked long time. Not surprising, right? Because she's been in my life a long time.
I've been A Course in Miracles student for along time. I've been a yoga student for a long time. I've been a student of like I was a Catholic kid, right? So this idea of like,
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if you look at, and I don't care if youhave, if you come from a childhood religion, or a childhood faith or a way of worshiping, if you're an atheist, if you're aware, it
does not take much, even if you always say,when I look at Jesus, I'm like, you don't have to attach Jesus to a religion. I think he's a free agent. And in fact, we're going
to be talking about, we're going to betalking about Jesus in a whole new kind of mystical way when I have a special guest on my show soon. But I kind of think about
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Jesus as like being a free agent, and youcan even look at him as a mythological figure or a mystical figure, right? You don't have to attach him to any kind of
dogma or doctrine. But when you kind of lookat his living example, and you look at the stories of Jesus, or even, quote, unquote, the Gospels, which, to me, is just the
recordings of the stories of how this personspoke and what they did and how they changed the world in their in their time, Jesus was the number one, how can I help, and how can
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I serve? And so when I think about that, youknow, as through that lens, so from a little kid, right, being raised in the, quote, unquote, the Catholic tradition. It's like,
you know, you heard stories of Jesus and howhe kind of roamed around and, like, hung out with, like, the lepers and the prostitutes and the poorly and the sick, and how he
helped the animals and how he did, you know,all these incredible things. And I think, like, yeah, like, that was a person who was living from a thought system of love instead
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of a thought system of fear. And thatquestion, how can I help? To me, takes root, right? It blossoms. It gives forth, you know, from that place of love. And it's
interesting as a spiritual mentor, you know,so many people think of like I mean, words kind of get, words kind of get taken and then bastardized by like certain cultures
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and groups of people. And I think the wordspirituality, it can, it can have a certain resonance for certain people, like the way that they look at it, or what they what they
assign meaning to that word, okay? And so alot of people think of spirituality as just being all like love and light. I'm doing like little hair, clothes. People think of
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it being all like love and light andthoughts and prayers, right? And they think of it as being really passive, weak, too gentle, too coddling whatever they think
they think of it as kind of like ineffectivebullshit. But here's the thing that I can tell you, love can be fierce, and when you drag the darkness into the light, the
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darkness disappears, because light anddarkness cannot exist in the same place. Fear cannot exist in the same space as love, so love and light, when we use it all like,
Oh, love and light, and you know, that'syour tag, or whatever, that's really different than when you put some power, some intention and some action behind love and
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behind the light. And it's the same thingwith thoughts and prayers, because prayers, and of course, in miracles, says that prayers are the medium of miracles, not
miracles like walking around and patting theRed Sea or walking on water or raising people from the dead, right? But miracles, in this kind of experience of small reality,
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is like a shift in perception in your mind,from a thought system of fear to a thought system of love. When we do that, and we shift our perception, the way that we see
ourselves, see the world, and we start tochoose differently, with a different teacher, with a different point of view. Which a different internal teacher, spirit
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guiding us, divine intelligence, whateveryou want to call it, when we do that, right, it's very powerful. So prayer are the mediums of miracles. It's how we can get
some shit done. But so is thoughts, people,people I think don't realize and so as a spiritual mentor, as a hypnotist, as a life coach, as somebody who is a change worker
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and helps people through kind of finding theintelligence right that lives within them and doing transformational work. One of the things that I can tell you is this, our
thoughts are so powerful. Our thoughts, oh,my god. Oh my god. When you think about how 95% to 97% whatever the number is, of everything that we think, say and do, it
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comes from our subconscious, subconscious islike the realm of where we're holding these old patterns, these old habits, these old neural, deep conditioned and patterned and
habituated neural networks in the brain,things that have been repeated that we've been doing for a really long time. So in A Course in Miracles, we say that there are no
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neutral thoughts. There are no neutralthoughts. And it goes on to say this, it's because everything you see is the result of your thoughts. Ask anybody with IBS, ask
anybody with especially IBS D, ask anybodywith anxiety, ask anybody with like like that that uses their mind to miscreate all the time. I can literally just start to
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think about something. And if I think aboutit enough times with enough emotion and enough intensity, I can start to make myself anxious. You know what I mean? What do we
think happens with anxiety? Right? We have away of thinking. And since the brain loves to save time, the brain loves to go in and say, Oh, I already know this. I know this,
Pat, and I can do this like that. Oh, yeah,getting anxious is really easy. I have a really strong neural network for anxiety. You know what? I mean? We don't. I always
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say, it's not that I'm I'm anxious, but I'mexperiencing anxiety, which is meaning like that old system, excuse me, that old system is kicking on. So our minds and our thoughts
are so powerful because they are causal.They are cause. And what we see everything starts as a thought, and what we see is the result of our thinking. When I look at a
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world that has gone mad, what I realize isthat enough people have left their right mind, and they have taken detours into fear, and they can try to convince themselves
they're doing the right thing, whatever. ButI'm like, hey, if we're going to continue to miscreate from a place of fear, we're going to keep getting exactly what we've got right
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now. So when I think about this, right? Idon't think that thought, thoughts and prayers, like when, when there's a mass shooting or something just awful happens,
then people are like, Oh, thoughts andprayers. That's just bullshit. That's just like words. It doesn't mean anything. But when people are intentional with their
thoughts, when people are intentional andproactive with their prayers, when people are intentional with their thinking thoughts of love and asking the question, How can I
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help from a loving place? Not, oh, I'm goingto swoop in and rescue you because you're so helpless and hopeless. No, when we help from an empowered place where we see the other
person in our mind, when we see them asbeing capable and happy, healthy, healed, whole and holy how they were created, it's It's remarkable. And when I think about this
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concept of the light too, since we'retalking about this love and light, you know Swami Kripalu Bapu g1 of my spiritual grandfathers, right? He always used to say
this, and he would say, Do not fight thedarkness. So we don't have to spend all this time, all this energy, like fighting the systems that I and that be because we don't.
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It's like, it's not about going backwards.It's about what do I want to create from a place of love? Not what do I want to fight out of fear? So he says, Do not fight the
darkness. Just turn on the light. Turn onthat light that is within you.
Shine that light so bright. And one of theways that I turn on the light when it feels like the world has gone dark is I ask myself, How can I help? How can I help? And
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one of the ways that I can first be helpfulto everybody else, humans, animals, the environment, eventually myself right, is I start with me. I. Doing a DSP, a daily
spiritual practice. Because, to me, a DSP,what it really is is mind training. It is training your mind. It is being able to put your mind where you want to put it, when you
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want to put it there, so that we're notdistracted, so that we don't just surrender critical thinking, so we don't all of a sudden get like influenced by all these
influencers who don't even know most of thetime what they're talking about. So we don't give our authorship and our autonomy and our agency right away. So to me, having a
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practice that is mind training is reallypowerful. And just like you would go to the gym right cross fit, strength training, power lifting, workout, whatever you do for
a workout to strengthen your muscles, rightyour cardio, your running, like all the things that you do to get stronger physically. We also have to do this
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mentally. I say have to You're grown adults.I can't make you. You can do whatever you want. That sounded a little bossy, but I highly encourage you. I highly encourage you
to have a DSP, to have a daily spiritualpractice of some time, some kind that actually trains your mind. Because just like we have to strengthen our physical muscles,
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we have to strengthen our mental muscles,our spiritual muscles, we gotta do it. And of course, in miracles, there's a line that I love that says an untrained mind can
accomplish nothing an untrained it's anotherway of saying an undisciplined, an undisciplined, an untrained mind, can accomplish nothing, nothing. And there's
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another passage where it says something likeyou get you know, you accomplish so little because you are untrained. Your mind is untrained. When we have an untrained mind,
we become really gullible. When we have anuntrained mind, we stop questioning things. When we have an untrained mind, we start to just get helpless and hopeless and throw up
our hands and be like, there's nothing I cando. When we have an untrained mind, we get highly hypnotized by other people's propaganda and rhetoric and bullshit and
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hatred and racism and like all the systems,just all the systems you grow up in. I always say, little kids don't come out of the womb hating. Little kids are taught to
hate. Little kids are taught to start to docomparison and better than right. Little kids are taught like, I always say, like, Aristotle, or whoever I should probably
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just, I gotta stop saying, was I the playPlato or Aristotle? I'm like, it was one of the stoics. It was one of those guys. I gotta figure out who it was, but they would
say, give me the boy or the girl, right?Give me the child. But we'll say, just use boy. In this case, give me the boy until he is eight, and I will show you the man so so
much of how people are acting in their adultlife. And this is why I do the work that I do. Right is because of the conditioning and the patterns and the habits the Hypno the
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way they were hypnotized, as I would callit, quote, unquote, as children. And it's acting itself out. And if we don't, at some point, stop, start to question some things,
and slow down and get intentional andregulate our nervous systems. All the things that I do for the work that I do with people, right? Had to do it with myself
first and continue to do it for myself firsttoo, because I don't want to be I'm already we're all a little crazy. Just accept it. We're all a little insane, but I don't want
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to be so insane and go off the rails thatI'm contributing, that I'm contributing in a massive way to like the hatred and the insanity. Okay, so to me, a daily spiritual
practice. It primes us. It primes us. Itprimes our brain. It primes us to take responsibility. A DSP, a good daily spiritual practice. I always say the five ds
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of DSP, daily dedication, determination,discipline and devotion, right? These are the qualities that we want to bring to our daily spiritual practice. But having a DSP
of contemplation, meditation, prayer,journaling, whatever it is, right, reading your daily devotional like being present, taking some quiet time for you and the God
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of your own understanding, to be in nature,to be with the universe, however you see that perfect Oneness, however it is that you relate to the love that is right. When we
have a DSP, it primes us to, first of all,start to discipline our mind. It also helps us to take responsibility. It helps us to listen for guidance, inner guidance, not out
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there, not not all the chatter, not all theinfluencers, not all the memes, not all the stuff coming at you, in towards you. What is coming from inside of you? What is the radio
station? Dial? I would say we gotta theassignment is alignment. So aligning to the Holy Spirit, spirit, intuition, instinct in a teacher. I don't care what you call it.
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Uh, listening for that guidance, and then,and then, once you get your assignment right, and we all have our own individual curriculum, we all have our own individual
assignment, and then we got to go out thereand take action. And this question, how can I help? Is one of the questions that we can ask in our DSP. And then we get quiet enough
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and we listen for the next, right, smalleststep. Because when we ask the big question, how can I help, we get overwhelmed. It's like, oh my God, there's so many animals
suffering, right? California, just like,burned to the ground. Oh my god. And these are, like, fire away things. Like, there's like, oh my god, they're stabbing children
over here. There was a tsunami over here.There was a plane and helicopter crash over here. There was a mass shooting over here. Oh my god, they're threatening to deport
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citizens over here or people over here.We're doing this, we're doing that, and it can all feel like, so big, so much. And like, here's the thing, we can't all hop on
planes and like, go to California and bringgoods, whatever. So we ask right where, where I am with what I have, the resources I have, what's available to me, my mental
power, my energy, my love, my thoughts, myprayers, my love, my light, my bank account, my skills, my talents, whatever resources you have, how can I use them? And we can't
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always do something far away, unless maybethere's a donation link or a GoFundMe, or you can make a phone call to help somebody out who's local, whatever, right? So, but we
can look really close to home and say, firstthings first, what can I do? Well, first things first is I can get my own mind right, so that I'm actually creating, co creating
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with the divine from a place of love and aplace of intelligence, so I'm not being hijacked. My amygdala is like pumping out, right? Like all these chemicals I'm going
into fight and flight. My sympatheticnervous system is turned on. It's like, oh, shit, Danger. Danger Will Robinson, right? It's like, okay, first of all, I gotta get
my own head on straight. I gotta get out ofmy detour into fear, and I need to come back. Number one, well, how do we do that? Well, there's breath work, there's
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meditation, there's prayer, right? There'ssomatic exercises, havening, tapping, EFT. There's like 1000 things that we can start to do to bring ourselves back online, to
shift out of that fight or flight or thattrauma response number one. But here are some prayers here. And if you don't like the word prayers, just think of them as helpful
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words. But if the only loving question wecan ask at this time is, how can I serve, or how can I help? One of the things that I found incredibly helpful, several things
there. There are, there are several prayersthat I say every day again, take em or leave em. I don't care. I don't like the words prayer. Call it something else. Call it
prose, call it helpful words. I don't carewhat you call it. Don't get hung up on it, okay? But there's a prayer from A Course of Miracles that is sometimes called the
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miracle workers. Prayer, excuse me, that issometimes called the miracle workers prayer, I've heard it called other prayers. But here it is, and this is a really powerful
reminder to yourself when things start toget like shit scary, out of control. Okay, here it is. I am here only to be truly helpful. You could you could probably just
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see you could even stop there I am. Remindyourself I am here only to be truly helpful. Now. Don't let the pronouns of the next line get you weird. Say her, say it. Don't get
weird about the word him. Some people do.That's why I'm right. So just going to say that, okay, I am here only to be truly helpful. I am here to represent Him who sent
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Me. It's another way of saying I'm here torepresent love. I'm here to represent the love that sent me right. I don't have to worry about what to say or what to do,
because He who sent me will direct me. Thisis about getting quiet, going within, listening for your next right. Smallest step is it, I should write my representative. I
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should call my congressman. I should donateat the food bank. I should volunteer at the animal shelter.
I should make a post on Facebook and use myvoice. I should raise my hand at that town hall. I should go to the next town meeting that's happening. Maybe I should register to
vote like whatever the next step is. It'snot for me to tell you what it is. You will know. Oh, I should do an in person, whatever. I should do a podcast episode
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about that. Whatever it is, okay. I don'thave to worry about what to say or what to do, because he, because He who sent Me, will direct me. And then it says this, I'm
content to go wherever he wishes, knowingthat he goes there with me again. You. Just insert the word love. I'm content to be wherever love wishes, knowing that love goes
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there with me and I will be healed as I lethim teach me to heal. So here it is again, full full thing. I'm here only to be truly harmful. I am here to represent Him who sent
Me. I don't have to worry about what to sayor what to do, because He who sent me will direct me. I'm content to be wherever he wishes, knowing he goes there with me and I
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will be healed as I let him teach me toheal. I say this prayer before I do a podcast. I say it when I wake up in the morning. I say it before I step on the
stage, before I guest teach in somebody'sprogram, before I have one of my clients, before I do a nest call, before I teach a yoga class. Anytime that I feel like this is
an opportunity where my words are going toland upon somebody else, and I'm thinking in my head, may they be loving, may they be helpful, may they be be effective. Maybe
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they be used in service to love. This iswhat I'm always asking. It's a very powerful prayer, another prayer, excuse me, excuse me. Also adapted. Adapted from A Course in
Miracles, is simply this. And you can saythis at any time. You can say this at any time when you're like, Oh my God, I don't know what to do, or you're like, oh my god,
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the world is going so crazy, and you juststart to feel like, I need to do something. I want to do something. What can I do? How can I help? When you're asking that
question, here's a great prayer. Get veryquiet. Simply say this. Please have me go where you would have me go. Have me do what you would have me do. Have me say what you
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would have me say, and to whom I also add,please have me be who you would have me be. Please use me. Please use me. Please use me. And I always end with and so it is Amen say
that or don't say that, right? But we'reasking for that guidance of, how can I be helpful? We don't decide how we can be helpful first and then try to go and inflict
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our help in ourselves on people. I ask forthat guidance, and we often know. It's like, how do I know if I'm listening for the voice of ego versus the voice of love, the voice
of Spirit? It's like, well, the voice ofSpirit, you feel more at peace. You feel peaceful instead of feeling anxious and agitated, and I got to and like, whenever
we're coming from that place of fear, likewe can stop, we can slow down, pattern, interrupt, right? And then say this, and then listen deeply, listen deeply for where
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you feel guided to go and to who and whatare you going to say? Who are you going to say it to without an agenda, but really, truly asking, like, how can I serve with my
set of skills, with my talents, with mygifts, with my insight, with my perspective, with my experience, with my resources, with my team, with my community, how can we show
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up and make a difference? Okay, I mean, youlook all, all you have to do is look around you. And it's not always just in times of crisis. I mean, there are people like Mr.
Rogers and people like Bob Ross. There arepeople like some of my heroes, right? Yeah. You have the extremes, like Martin Luther King Jr, who is out there, like, just, oh,
talk about being a change maker and a worldchanger, like Gandhi too, like Jesus, you have these people who really, just in this lifetime, are given the assignment of, like
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you are going to do some heavy lifting forhumanity. You know what I'm saying. And we might not get that kind of call to action, but each one of us can do something. And you
know, it reminds me of you know SaintFrancis sain Francis is prayer again. I don't care if you're religious. These are not, these are like mystical words. These
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are like alchemizing words. This is alchemy,right? It's powerful stuff. That's what love to fear is. I mean fear to love is, it's, it's alchemizing. It changes. It takes this
stuff and transforms it. It's my wholeprocess. Like, your story to your glory. That's what this is. But when, when Saint Francis says, you know, he says, like, make
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me an instrument of peace, where there'shatred, let me sow love where there's injury, pattern, where there's doubt, faith, where there's despair, hope, where there's
darkness, light, where there is sadness,joy, like oh, like Divine Master grant that a I might not be like seeking to be consoled, but to go out there and console
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not Sitting around hoping to be understood,but going out there and trying to understand, not waiting around to be loved, but to go out and to love, because it's in
giving that we receive. It's when we pardonpeople and forgive them that we are pardoned ourselves. And it's in dying to. This idea of the small self, this ego self, this
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separation, all this bullshit, so muchbullshit right now. It's just such a racket right now. It's in dying to all of that that we are born into eternal light, internal
life, and into into the the people that weactually are, which is love. So to me, right now, this is what we should be asking, right? We can't like we gotta feel our
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feelings. Of course, you gotta. You gottatake good care of yourself. You gotta process your grief. You gotta feel all the part of this whole human experience, and
then we have to get back to the business oflove. And it also reminds me something else that is also said in like 12 step programs. There's a line. I don't know if it's aa or
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one of them, but I know I've heard it, andit's this. It's called, it says, get into the solution. Get into the solution, because it's really easy to get distracted by all
the despair and all the news and all thenegativity that is being pumped, pumped, pumped onto the internet and social media and in the news and all that stuff, right?
Be really easy to get distracted by, like,all the like, bad shit. Get for me, get into the solution. So like in recovery, it basically means to actively focus on right
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the steps and the practices that are goingto lead to you staying sober, like that's what that's about, rather than dwelling in all the problems and all the negative
aspects that come with, you know, havingaddictions and blah, blah, blah. So it basically encourages you to shift your mindset, to get out of the issues and the
problems and instead to start to activelyengage in the thought system and the behaviors of the recovery process. And it can be really easy right now, I think, as a
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nation, as a world, we need to recover moreand more and more of our humanity, of our brothership, our sisterhood, of our oneness of our compassion, our mercy, our grace, our
goodness, our strength, because we areBetter Together, right so right now, we are trying to recover a powerful and transformational thought system of love
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instead of One of fear. And we need you. Weneed you. We need you to show up with your gifts and your talents and your words and your power and your resources and your
people and your love and your light and yourthoughts and your intentional prayers. We need you to show up as well. So on this 300th episode, that's what I'm asking you
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right now. How can you help? You don't haveto know the answer right this second, but take a little time. Get quiet. Listen deeply. If you don't have a DSP, you need
help with the DSP, consider joining thenest. Just go to Karen kenney.com you'll see it. Karen kenney.com work with me, the quest, the nest, whatever, if you need
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support and help doing that, but you canjust do this right now. Just stop. I mean, not if you drive in or whatever. Be safe, right? Be smart. But like, how can you help?
Ask yourself, how can I help? And then Ihope you go about the business of listening deeply, once you ask the question, listening for your own right in a teacher, the voice
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of your own in a teacher, the voice for loveand that you are courageous enough and brave enough and confident enough to just take the next right smallest step. And I believe in
you, and the world needs you, and youmatter, and you are good enough right now to be helpful. You are worthy enough right now to be helpful. You are loved. You are
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loving. You are capable of extending love,and that's what's required right now. How can I help extend love? What does that look like? I don't know. Go inside, get quiet and
wait for your further instructions, becausethey're coming. All right, you guys, thank you so much for tuning in to my 300th episode. I love you. I appreciate you so
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much. I hope, I hope we get to spend moretime together.
If you found this episode helpful? Pleaseshare it with somebody that means so much to me. Have you found it helpful in some way and you want to support the show, feel free
to use the tip jar. Just go to Karenkenney.com/tip, ja, one word, and wherever you go, wherever you go, out there, right? May you leave yourself and the animals and
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the other people in the environment and theplanet better than how you found it wherever you go, may you and your presence and your energy and your love and your help be a
blessing. Bye, you.
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