Is It Really HER We're So Afraid Of? - SFTS64

=== SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT ===  You've been bombarded with the same old advice for years about how to get over fearing women. Men are afraid of rejection. Afraid of bothering women. Afraid of false accusations. But what if that's not the whole story? If we dig deeper, is there something else--maybe even more potentially damaging--that's we're REALLY afraid of? Prepare yourself, because this episode just might finally give you the answers that most men's dating advice is too, well...afraid to reveal. But once you understand what's going on, you'll never look back. More at https://mountaintoppodcast.com

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Episode Transcript

>> Scot McKay (00:01):
You're listening to Snippets from the Summit
with your host, Scot McKay.
How's it going, gentlemen? This is your main man, Scot McKay, coming at you again with
another snippet from the Summit as part of the Mountaintop
podcast from X and Y Communications.
Today we're going toa talk about fear
of women that a lot of guys have. And I'm gonna give a

(00:23):
whole brand new take on it that I'm sure you've never heard anywhere
else. It might feel like tough love at first, but I
think if you give me a chance to acquit myself
with what I'm going to say, you'll agree with
me. A lot of guys have been
talking about fear of women for years.
We're afraid to approach women. We're afraid we're

(00:44):
going to be bothering them. We're even more afraid
that they're going to reject us.
We're afraid that if we say the wrong
thing, they'll get us in trouble somehow, either
with the authorities or maybe even getting us
arrested. I saw way too many ads during the
pickup artist era that seemed to prey upon that
fear. Telling storylines in the voice of a

(01:07):
man who went to say the grocery store
and just said hello to a woman, and now he's speaking to
you from jail. Storylines like
that. Frankly, I'm not sure what bill of goods
they were trying to sell you guys about how to get better with women.
But on that note, I think it's time to start talking about
getting better with women. Indeed, instead of being afraid of
them. I think it goes without saying that once you

(01:30):
stop being afraid of women, you're going to be
better with women almost immediately. Because, gentlemen,
as I've said around here before, women don't
understand why you would be afraid of them.
In their mind, they're just a girl. What do you have to be so
scared of? You're a man, you're bigger, you're stronger, you're
supposed to lead. Especially if there ever was to

(01:50):
be a romantic relationship between you and
her. So, yes, in a very real way, you have
to quell your fears of how
a woman is going to receive you, what she's
going to do in response to you simply saying hello to her.
And realize that for every bad story
you hear about a guy who blew it, and yes, in most cases,

(02:10):
the guy did blow it. There were a million and one
stories about men and women who had a meet cute just
today. Don't believe everything you read in
the press. Women still want to meet men. They still want
you to approach them. She's not afraid of you meeting
her, Especially if you act civil
and keep your distance and act like a real human
being and show her some respect. So why

(02:33):
on earth are we as men, afraid
to talk to women, afraid to meet women,
afraid to show sexual interest to a
heterosexual woman when she's already flirting with us and
telling her she likes us? Well, here comes
that twist that I promised you.
I think for a lot of us as men, it's not
so much that we're afraid of women, we're

(02:56):
afraid of ourselves. Yes, I told you this was going to
feel like tough love. And gentlemen, listen, I've got
your back here. This is the message I needed to hear
25 years ago. And it's the message that no one else
is going to deliver to you but me here in the year
2025. You see, when we
doubt ourselves, when we doubt our worth

(03:16):
as men, when we doubt the power of our masculine
presence, then we
doubt how a woman's going to receive us.
We doubt our potency as
men, we doubt our worth as humans.
Heck, you may even be so afraid of your own
shadow that you're afraid you'll act reasonably
and she'll somehow react negatively. Just

(03:38):
like those old scripts, the ones from the pickup
artist era, that would prey upon our fears, right? And
that's when we shy away from talking to women.
Most guys are playing it safe, holding
back. They're afraid of messing up and having
that shame reflected back at them by the
woman. Now, sure, we can blame it all on this
idea that, hey, you know, she probably would have rejected me, she

(04:01):
probably has a boyfriend, she wouldn't have been interested. But
it's all excuses. Excuses are fear
based. Excuses are for
losers. What winners do is they step
up. They do what they've got to do because they want to do it and they
know what's best for them. And gentlemen, what's best for
us is to interact with women as
men of character, men who respect

(04:23):
women and watch how women react
and expect the best instead of fearing the
worst. Guys, it isn't so much
that we're afraid of women, is it? We're afraid of what
we're going to say. We're afraid we're going to mess
up. We're afraid of ourselves and inless.
And until we get out of our own shadow
and go do what we were meant to do, which is meet

(04:45):
women, attract them, ask them out
and build relationships with them, nothing's going
to change. You can read all the pickup books you want,
you can watch all the YouTube videos you want.
But until the status quo is flipped and we
start realizing it's our birthright as men
to be the ones women want, and we start

(05:05):
trusting ourselves to be that man, nothing's
ever going to change. Nothing will change until we flip that
script. Like I said, this is going to
be tough love for a lot of guys. But you know what? If I
didn't tell you what you needed to hear, I wouldn't be doing my job. And I'm
raising my hand. I'm the guy who needed to hear this
25 years ago, and once I figured it
out, I was off to the races. And if I can do

(05:28):
it, so can you. Want to talk about this or
anything else? Scott
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