She Did WHAT With Him? - SFTS66

=== SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT ===  It has happened to all of us. We break up with a girlfriend (or even get a divorce), then we hear through the grapevine what absolutely depraved and naughty sex acts she's now freely engaging in with the next guy. Sure, although we can be the recipients of such ego-boosting behavior when we're 'the next guy' ourselves, it really does feel like a kick in the crotch when it happens to us. So then, how do we mitigate against ever being subject to this harsh news? Well, it's easy to say you shouldn't care, but you know you do. Thankfully there are real, practical steps to make women feel more comfortable performing 'sexual favors' for you that she may genuinely have never bestowed upon any guy before you...along with clear ways to know she's telling the truth. More at https://mountaintoppodcast.com

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Episode Transcript

(00:01):
You're listening to Snippets from the Summit with
your host Scott McKay.
How's it going gentlemen this is your main
man Scott McKay coming at you again with
another Snippet from the Summit as part of
the Mountaintop podcast from X&Y Communications.
Today we're going to talk about a touchy
topic for a lot of guys and listen

(00:22):
man I'm raising my right hand it has
happened to every single one of us including
yours truly and you know it probably happens
even more than we realize because I'm not
sure we always get the update but the
topic du jour is this why is it
sometimes we can have a girlfriend or even

(00:43):
a wife you know and the breakup or
the divorce happens and the next guy she
goes out with she's having better sex with
or doing things in bed that she just
refused to do with us what's up with
that well let's backtrack a little bit and
realize that sometimes we may be the beneficiary

(01:03):
of such a situation also a woman may
say to us wow that was the best
sex I've ever had or she may perform
oral on us or let us go down
on her or do butt things with us
whereas she wouldn't do that with another guy
or she would do a strip tease or
a lap dance for us and she may
say well that's the first time I've ever

(01:24):
done that now that may or may not
be true because after all the old saying
is yeah that's what they all say right
but generally speaking when a woman is showing
signs of being more vulnerable to perform a
certain sex act with you or to do
something very flirty or very sexy with you
that she clearly doesn't have a lot of

(01:45):
experience with the big clue isn't only limited
to her telling you that of course two
other major tells are that she's either awkward
about it and or frankly not very good
at it those are two tells of her
not having a lot of experience you know
chances are it's pretty reliable when that happens

(02:07):
and she's telling you she either doesn't do
this all this much or you've had some
kind of special effect on her that other
guys never have and she's doing it just
for you and profusely telling you that looking
you in the eye chances are it's pretty
reliable so this can kind of go both
ways you can be the beneficiary of sex
acts and sexual favors if you will that

(02:27):
she doesn't usually bestow on other guys and
hasn't typically in the past or the situation
may be the case where you know you
hear from the grapevine or even from her
herself or God forbid that guy who used
to be your best friend for example who's
now her boyfriend making sure you realize that
hey we're doing all kinds of things together

(02:47):
crazy things in bed that she wasn't about
to do with you that's the situation I
think most of us as guys knowing that
we've seen it happen to us and felt
the impact certainly want to mitigate against it
happening in the future well here's what it
is all about in case you haven't guessed
it's all about her comfort and security level

(03:07):
with a particular guy either you or someone
else depending on which particular direction this conversation
is flowing in right guys first of all
I want to rest you assured that typically
it isn't that some other guy was hotter
or sexier or more attractive physically to her
than you were if she's super attracted to

(03:28):
some superhero looking dude she got after you
but isn't into oral and isn't into butt
sex guess what she's probably still not going
to be into oral or into butt sex
simply because he's better looking another quick caveat
and I've extended this one before in my
newsletters and in other episodes is that guys
the truth is the larger your penis is

(03:49):
the less likely it is she's going to
want to have anal sex with you and
that's a fact okay and that could also
very easily explain why she's having butt sex
with a guy other than you and frankly
why you shouldn't take it so badly so
that needed to be said as well but
not withstanding all of that here is where

(04:10):
the difference is made the guy who is
going to get a woman to perform oral
on him or he's going to be able
to perform oral on her where she thought
it was gross before do anal sex even
certain positions whatever it is that you're going
to be participating in with her sexually where
other guys did not or could not is

(04:31):
all going to be based on how you
make her feel I'm sure we've all met
a woman who said you know I don't
like giving blowjobs because of past experiences that
were really bad okay and maybe she had
anal sex with a guy and he really
made her feel terrible about it or it
hurt or something like that well the only

(04:53):
way any of those sexual favors are ever
going to be granted or any of those
sexual positions ever done ever again is with
your total assurance that you a respect her
boundaries right if she doesn't want to do
this you're not going to force her second
of all you respect the fact that if
it doesn't feel good to her or starting
to hurt you're going to pull back and
you're not going to force anything and third

(05:15):
and most importantly of all in my opinion
you respect her as a human being you
actually want to be with her for reasons
other than sex these are the clear differentiators
between men who get women to relax into
their sexuality and enjoy things they perhaps didn't
in the past versus men who just get
women to close down sexually frankly because of

(05:36):
fear now there's also that factor of after
the first time she has partaken of this
with you can't slut shame her you have
to tell her she's beautiful you have to
tell her it was wonderful and that you
hope you can do it again but don't
make her feel like a dirty whore because
she did it and absolutely positively be careful
in terms of her physical pleasure always actually

(06:00):
no matter what but especially especially when she's
offering a sexual experience she doesn't typically offer
to other men then the next thing you
know her fears will subside and she'll find
it pleasurable and she'll do it with you
again and again and a brag to her
girlfriends about how wonderful you are and what
exotic things you're doing together and you know

(06:22):
she's got it in her she'll make sure
her ex-boyfriend knows as well it may
not be reduced to a revenge porn video
or anything like that that she would send
to the guy I wouldn't plan on that
happening and that's probably for your benefit also
but as you and I both well know
it tends to get down the grapevine that

(06:42):
she's enjoying better sex with her new boyfriend
than her old one right want to talk
about this or anything else Scott at mountaintop
podcast.com be good out there as always
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