What Good Leaders Can Learn From Bad Bosses with Mita Mallick

Brandon sits down with Mita Mallick, author of The Devil Emails at Midnight, to examine how well-intentioned managers slip into bad-boss behaviors and what leaders can do to course-correct. They discuss stress and personal crises as root causes, the outsized impact managers have on employee mental health, why one-on-ones are a retention tool, and how to prevent cultures of constant urgency. You’ll also hear practical tips for avoiding micromanagement, honoring names, reducing meeting bloat, and inviting real coaching from your team.

Key Timestamps

• 00:00 — Welcome, show purpose, and sponsor message

• 01:00 — Why “bad bosses” are made by circumstances, not born

• 03:00 — Three common triggers: market shocks, trickle-down behavior, personal “earthquakes”

• 06:30 — Managers’ influence on employee mental health

• 07:50 — Time signals care: one-on-ones as a retention tool

• 11:30 — Freeing the calendar: canceling meetings, async options, delegating attendance

• 13:30 — Inclusion in practice: the importance of saying names correctly

• 16:00 — Spotting disengagement and checking in with care

• 18:10 — Addressing the “napper”: direct conversations and recommitment

• 21:00 — Accountability for disengagement and leadership courage

• 22:15 — Escaping micromanagement: show what “done” looks like

• 25:10 — If everything is urgent, nothing is: reducing fire-drill culture

• 27:30 — The overly kind yet incompetent boss vs toxic positivity

• 30:30 — Gossip erodes trust and confidentiality

• 33:00 — Rethinking loyalty and stopping talent hoarding

• 35:00 — AI, time savings, and doubling down on human leadership

• 36:30 — Weekly reflection, reading the room, and asking for coaching

• 38:30 — Where to find Mita and her book

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