We Are Lonely
Join us as we tackle the growing issue of loneliness, and our deeply human need to belong alongside huge topics like mental health, autism and discrimination. We’re seeing the issue of loneliness grow all around the world, and while we may think of loneliness as something that mainly impacts older generations, research shows that 18-34 year olds are most likely to be affected. And yes it’s sometimes to do with phones and social media, but there’s more to it than that. It’s about how we interact with the world around us. So we’ve found nine very different young adults who are searching for connection in their lives. We’ve paired them each with a mentor who’ll give them insights and strategies to combat loneliness and navigate their way beyond. From ADHD and times of transition; to migration and childhood grief; each participant will explore an area of their lives that is causing them to feel lonely. Our mentors include Ru Paul superstar, Kween Kong; Counsellor and Artist Tessa Blenclowe; Academic and Fire Dragon Feminist Dr Quah Ee Ling; and Psychologist and Podcaster James Van Cuylenburg. Our host is Human Connection Scientist, Dr Ali Walker and we also speak with World Health Organisation and University of Sydney Researcher Dr Daniel Surkalim. We Are Lonely is funded as part of Medibank’s ten year initiative to combat loneliness.
Episodes
How do social media and our interaction with our phones impact our loneliness? In this special episode of We Are Lonely, our host Ali Walker talks to Dr Daniel Suraklim about the positives and negatives of social media in our search for connection.
Daniel works for the World Health Organisation's commission on social connection and discusses some burning questions we all want to know about the impact of ...
Living with physical disability can be isolating both physically and emotionally. What can we do to stay connected to other people when we’re facing physical barriers? In her early twenties Rhiannon developed a disability that had far reaching impacts on her life experience. Being bedridden and unable to connect with friends in person saw her struggle to maintain a lifestyle she’d loved as a teenager.
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Being a musician, an artist or a writer is a beautiful thing, but the hard road to creative success can also become lonely. Josie’s a singer songwriter who’s excited to be following her passion. She’s also experienced the loneliness that can come with creating something personal. When this is mixed with a chronic illness, finding the energy to constantly push yourself out there can be daunting.
In this e...
Being neurodivergent isn’t the same for everyone. For Orin, the experience of Autism (ASD) has meant that social connection has always been challenging. As a non-binary and polyamorous person, Orin always felt the need to mask and ‘play the game’ in order to fit in. Their struggle with trusting people has also created more barriers to connection.
In this episode of We Are Lonely, Orin talks to psychologi...
If your friends have different values to you, you may love them, but still feel a sense of loneliness. Gurnoor spent most of her teenage years seeking out people who were like her culturally, even if they didn’t connect on a deeper personal level. Now in her early twenties, Gurnoor is studying psychology and she’s ready to find her people.
In this episode of We Are Lonely, Gurnoor meets with Dr Quah Ee ...
Living with ADHD and experiencing mental health challenges can have huge impacts on our sense of loneliness. After being diagnosed with ADHD in high school, Will realised that his struggle to connect was closely related to his mental health. Further diagnoses of Borderline Personality Disorder and Anxiety kept him isolated at a time when he needed to connect the most.
In this episode of We Are Lonely, Wi...
People in the LGBTQIA+ community are at higher risk of loneliness than others. Curtis grew up in a regional country town, hiding his sexuality. His experience with loneliness was compounded by his simultaneous struggle with obesity. Now in his twenties, Curtis is a school teacher back in his hometown.
In this episode of We Are Lonely, Curtis meets up with mentor and psychologist Dr James Van Cuylenburg. ...
Living between cultures can have impacts on our self identity which can reinforce loneliness. Sonali migrated from India to Australia as a child. Ever since arriving she felt like she was stuck between two cultures - on one hand she was not Australian enough and on the other, not Indian enough.
In this episode of We Are Lonely, Sonali meets with mentor Dr Quah Ee Ling, an academic who has her own immigra...
A trauma or sudden life change can trigger loneliness, but there are ways we can ease the impacts. After being given a skydiving voucher for his twenty-first birthday, a parachute malfunction saw Brad fall fifteen thousand feet and miraculously survive. Dealing with the trauma from the accident was made more complicated by the fact that Brad had only recently come out as a gay man.
In this episode of We ...
How does experiencing grief or trauma as a child impact loneliness later in life? Tayla’s dad died when she was nine years old. Experiencing trauma at such a young age distanced her from her friends and the world around her. For Tayla, it felt easier to isolate herself than having to constantly explain the source of her grief.
Now in her twenties, Tayla wants to face her loneliness. In this episode of We...
In this trailer of We Are Lonely, we’ll meet nine young Australians who are keen to understand loneliness and find connection in their lives, and we link them up with mentors like Ru Paul superstar Kween Kong. It’s normal to feel lonely, but when we stay lonely it can be worse for us than obesity, smoking and substance abuse, so let’s find out how to reconnect. We Are Lonely is funded as part of Medibank’s ten year initiative to co...
Grief is something we will all experience, but it’s also something that can feel very lonely. Supported by Medibank, ‘We are Lonely’ is a podcast that seeks to demystify loneliness and this bonus episode shares participant Charity’s experience with
We’ve had a chance to get to know our participants pretty well by now, but they still haven’t met each other. So we do the thing that is most practical when it comes to loneliness - bringing people together.
Charity, Tim, Aleks and Holly all head to Melbourne to meet and share their experiences with each other.
Host: Jemma Sbeg
Participants: Charity, Aleks, Tim and Holly
It’s pretty common to blame our blooming loneliness on technology. In this episode we tease out that theory and look at the ways technology is both helping and hindering our connection with other people.
Tim also meets with a psychologist who is part of a gaming research program to talk through the impacts gaming has on our brains and how to control our relationship with technology.
Host: Jemm...
Reaching into where you feel joy, where you feel accepted and happy is a powerful way to build connection. Holly does something she would never have faced just months ago and heads to a yoga retreat alone. Tim reignites his passion for drag and Charity steps into the world of study.
Sometimes connection doesn’t have to be with people just like us, it can be with people who like the same things as us.
How does our relationship with the world and the people around us make us lonely? And how do we fix it? Aleks, Charity, Holly and Tim are getting ready to step into the world, and find their people.
During our 20’s our relationships are changing a fair bit. Only a few years ago we were at school, we each had our school identity - sporty, academic, musical, popular. Then we left school and the world felt a...
What does your relationship with yourself have to do with being lonely? When you think about loneliness it’s easy to focus on how many friends you have, how connected you are with the outside world. But loneliness isn’t that simple - you can feel lonely in the company of others and you can feel content alone. In this episode our participants and their mentors take a moment to look inwards and work out who they are, and...
Why are we lonely? Holly found herself in a habit of being alone after experiencing years of illness; Tim moved into a studio apartment in Melbourne just as the second lockdown hit; Charity is working through generations of disconnection forced on her family through Stolen Generations; and Aleks finds the pressure of managing a multi-faceted career and study life can overtake his downtime and peace. We join our partici...
It seems as quickly as we’re filling this planet we’re each becoming more isolated. One in three people in Australia are experiencing high levels of loneliness. The UK now has a Minister of Loneliness and the US Surgeon General has declared loneliness a health epidemic. And whilst it can seem like a simple human emotion, loneliness can have serious health implications. Being consistently lonely can be as bad for us as ...
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