170 | Attachment, Shame, and Identity: The Sacred Work of Embodiment & Self-Devotion with Yarrow Kae
In this potent conversation, I sit down with Yarrow Kae—a mentor, spiritual guide, healer, and clinically trained therapist who bridges ancient wisdom with modern psychology—to explore what it really means to embody the truth of who you are. Yarrow’s story is nothing short of extraordinary: at 19, she downloaded enlightenment on the dance floor of a rave, setting her on a decades-long journey of integration, nervous system healing, and self-mastery. Her work now blends somatics, depth psychology, energetics, and spirituality to help others shift at a cellular level and live from their unique magnetic vibration.
Together, we dive deep into the subtle ways our attachment patterns, shame stories, and identity constructs keep us bound—often in ways that feel “productive” or “good.” From perfectionism and people-pleasing to the spiritual bypassing that hides beneath our self-development work, this conversation unveils the unconscious habits that keep us safe but small. Yarrow shares how nervous system regulation and secure attachment create the foundation for true embodiment—and how the willingness to be radically honest with ourselves is the real portal to freedom.
If you’ve been craving deeper self-trust, or if you’re ready to stop performing the “healed” version of yourself and start living as the embodied one—this episode will speak straight to your soul. You’ll walk away feeling both challenged and seen, with new language for your own evolution and practical wisdom to anchor your healing in your body.
In this episode, we explore:
- How attachment wounds subtly shape your nervous system, identity, and relationships
- The link between shame, anxiety, and perfectionism—and how these patterns keep us stuck in control
- Why even “productive” habits like personal growth or cleaning can become addictions rooted in shame or avoidance
- The importance of nervous system safety in receiving love, abundance, and regulation
- How to identify the hidden ways you sacrifice authenticity for attachment
- What it really means to worship at the altar of you—and how self-devotion becomes the ultimate act of sovereignty
- The power of radical honesty and self-compassion in releasing control and embodying freedom
- How to alchemize rage, grief, and shame into embodied truth
- What happens when you finally allow yourself to be seen, safe, and free—on your own terms
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- Instagram: @yarrowkae
- YouTube: Yarrow Kae Academy
- The Composer: heal-with-yarrow.teachable.com/p/the-composer
- The Portal: heal-with-yarrow.teachable.com/p/the-portal
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