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July 11, 2025 44 mins

Tired of swiping? You’re not alone.

Tammy Shaklee—LGBTQ relationship expert and founder of H4M Matchmaking—is here to say what most of us already know: app fatigue is real, and no one’s finding true love buried in DMs and torso pics.

In this episode, Tammy and I talk about how real, lasting connection happens offline—and how you can start being your own matchmaker (without settling or apologizing for your standards).

Tammy’s introduced thousands of LGBTQ singles across the country and built a matchmaking empire focused on compatibility, not algorithms. We’re breaking down her signature method for dating success, especially for gay men who are ready to stop scrolling and start connecting.

You’ll learn:

  • Why dating apps are burning you out (and what to do instead)

  • How to create real connection in real life

  • Why being picky isn’t a flaw—it’s power


Ready to date like a grown-ass gay man? Hit play.

About Tammy

Tammy Shaklee is a leading LGBTQ Relationship Expert and President of one of the country’s top LGBTQ certified matchmaking companies, H4M Matchmaking. Since founding the national offline matchmaking company in Austin, Texas in 2012, Tammy and her team have successfully paired thousands of LGBTQ clients across the country that were seeking long-term committed relationships. Utilizing skills honed in her previous career as a broadcast journalist, Shaklee’s reporter objective instincts, acute listening skills, and same-sex proprietary methodology, provide the ideal foundation for identifying true compatibility. Her unique process focuses on traditional introductions and dating for LGBTQ singles who are interested in achieving relationship success that rivals their professional success. An LGBTQ ally and advocate, Tammy understands the challenges singles face when looking for a suitable mate, as she met her husband through a matchmaking service herself. Tammy and her husband, Clif reside in Daytona, Florida where she runs her national company. When not actively pairing her clients, Tammy is a regular relationship contributor to several LGBTQ media outlets and mainstream publications. She is currently working on the completion of her first book.

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