A Gay and A NonGay
In a time where we're all threatened by a rhetoric of hate from the people in power; A Gay And A NonGay challenges our differences. No matter who you are, or what you're into, gay's and nongay's can & should be friends. 'Highly Recommended' Guardian 'One of the most fundamentally kind and funny podcasts in Britain' RadioTimes 'A hilarious take on love, friendship and sex' TimeOut An independent podcast from James Barr (@imjamesbarr) and Dan Hudson (@DanHudson). Find us on Insta, TikTok, Twitter and Facebook @gaynongay Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed
Episodes
July 16, 2025 • 29 mins
We have pop royalty on this episode of A Gay And A NonGay as James and Dan are joined by actor, singer and famous brother Frankie Grande!
Frankie's new album Hotel Rock Bottom is out now and covers everything from gay joy to his journey to sobriety.
In this conversation, James, Dan and Frankie talk about sobriety in the gay community, the evolving nature of Pride and queer representation and the significance of chosen family.
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July 2, 2025 • 37 mins
On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are joined by author, comedian and honorary sixth straight guest, Max Dickins!
Max opens up about the inspiration behind his brilliant book Billy No-Mates — a deep-dive into male friendship sparked by the realisation he had no one to ask to be his best man. Together, they unpack the complexities of male friendships, masculinity, vulnerability, and why so many straight men are st...
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June 25, 2025 • 38 mins
We’re joined by Richard Angell, OBE and Chief Executive of the Terrence Higgins Trust, on this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay!
The Terrence Higgins Trust is at the forefront of the fight against HIV, striving for a future where there are no new cases of HIV, where people living with HIV get the support they need and there is good sexual health for all.
Richard joins James and Dan to talk about the ongoing fight against HIV...
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June 18, 2025 • 24 mins
If you can't love yourself, how can you love anybody else? On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are diving into the importance of self-love this Pride season.
From exploring the transactional nature of relationships to discussing how to set expectations and the realities of compromise - we're coming to the realisation that love can look different, and being true to yourself through all of this self-discovery is of ...
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June 11, 2025 • 36 mins
We’re joined by the award winning Elf Lyons on this weeks episode of A Gay And A NonGay!
She has literally been listed as one of the 50 Funniest Comedians of the 21st Century by The Telegraph, one of the ’20 Names of Now’ by British Vogue and is a multi-Edinburgh Fringe award winner – so you know we’ve got a good one!
James, Dan and Elf talk about tackling trauma through comedy, embracing weirdness, flat earth theories, finding c...
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June 4, 2025 • 20 mins
On this week’s episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are having a long overdue catch-up to chat about the recent goings on in their lives.
From running marathons… to walking through tunnels, and the awkwardness of attending awards ceremonies. James and Dan also reflect on winning the Webby Award for Independent Podcast and give an inside peak into the celebrations!
We’ll be back next week with your regularly scheduled prog...
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May 21, 2025 • 33 mins
Gay love stories? We're here for them - especially when they speak to a broader message about the world we live in. Our guest on this episode of A Gay And A NonGay is an expert in this field.
Jeremy Atherton Lin is the author of the National Book Critics Circle Award winner Gay Bar: Why We Went Out. His essays have appeared in the Times Literary Supplement and the Yale Review, for which he was a finalist for the National Magazine ...
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May 14, 2025 • 16 mins
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Yes... you read that right! A Gay And A NonGay officially won the Webby for Best Indie Podcast and it's all because of you, our amazing listeners. Please Note - this episode was recorded before the big win, so we still to talk about being nominated.
On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay,...
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May 7, 2025 • 21 mins
If you could tell your younger self anything... what would you say?
That's the question that journalist Daniel Harding is answering with his new book Letters To My Younger Queer Self, which includes letters written by the likes of comedian Suzi Ruffell, Nadia Whittome MP, Olympic gymnast Andrew Stamp, TV personality Ella Morgan and more as they reflect on their growth of self-acceptance and the human spirit.
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April 30, 2025 • 22 mins
Does gay love always need to be shown as a weird power play in the media? Well, when major TV shows like The White Lotus portray a major gay romance as... keeping it in the family... these are the questions we're left asking!
On this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James & Dan talk about the scene that has been on everyone's lips and reflect on their feelings.
Later in the episode, we hear about Dan's story of his late moth...
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April 16, 2025 • 25 mins
On this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay, we're talking about all things marriage! But, not how you would think...
James & Dan are talking about how marriage impacts your physical appearance, and the differences in that between gay and straight men. This leads onto a bigger conversation around the societal perceptions of sexuality based on your look.
Along the way, they explore the implications of male loneliness, the importa...
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April 9, 2025 • 19 mins
Can comedy ever be homophobic? Well, of course it can, but on this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay we're talking about the complexities of making jokes that involve sensitive topics like transphobia.
James and Dan discuss whether the power of laughter can sometimes be a privilege and the impact that their identity has on their comedic approaches.
Plus, stay until the end to get a teaser of next weeks episode!
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March 29, 2025 • 36 mins
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March 26, 2025 • 28 mins
We're joined by the creators of two of the theatre world's most successful new musicals of recent years! Toby Marlow and Lucy Moss are the creative minds behind the hit musicals Six and Why Am I So Single.
On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan chat to Toby and Lucy about their journey from university theatre productions to global success - including their motivations and creative processes.
They chat about the unexpe...
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March 19, 2025 • 27 mins
Do you know what a 'war pig' is? Dan's friend Olga thinks that James might! On this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay, we're talking all about cultural references and critiques, including the importance of criticism.
From debating whether we should be offended by the 'war pigs' term, to seeing how the community critiques art (look to Lady Gaga's new album) and the subjectivity of reviews and journalism... should you support art ...
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March 12, 2025 • 19 mins
It's another week of A Gay And A NonGay and we're got a bunch of catching up to do!
James has just returned from Australia, whilst Dan has returned from New York... we find out all about what they have been getting up to and their views on the political climate under President Trump. What is the potential impacts on the cuts to DEI initiatives and the rights of the LGBTQ+ community?
We also tackle a listener's question about the pr...
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March 5, 2025 • 39 mins
Trigger Warning: This episode contains multiple mentions of suicide and suicidal thoughts as well as themes that some listeners may find triggering.
In many ways, Caroline Litman was the type of supportive Mum that any trans child could dream to have. She was supportive of her daughter, Alice, who was on the waiting list for gender affirming care.
Alice was on the waiting list for a gender identity clinic appointment for 1,023 day...
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February 26, 2025 • 24 mins
She's the name on everybody's lips... but what does the rise of Bonnie Blue tell us about societal double standards?
In a society that is increasingly sex positive, it seems that opinions differ amongst the A Gay And A NonGay community. Dan (representing the NonGays) feels like maybe this has all gone too far... whilst James (representing the Gays) believes that the outrage exposes some hypocrisy in society. Through-out the debate,...
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February 19, 2025 • 20 mins
We're throwing it back this week on A Gay And A NonGay as we revisit James & Dan's episode with Jack Rook, from Channel 4's Big Boys.
Recorded live at Edinburgh Fringe in 2019, James and Dan chat all about the acclaimed TV show, plus they talk about dealing with homophobia at school, overcoming internalised shame, redefining mental health within the queer community and the dynamics of their own identities.
Jack also highlights the ...
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February 12, 2025 • 29 mins
Don't worry, we haven't just time travelled back to 2021! This week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay is recorded virtually... but Dan & James are still the same (even if they do speak over each other a bit).
Once the hilarious technical bits get ironed out, we're asking: What makes you a 'massive gay'? We're digging into the stereotypes found in everyday conversations and debunking them, one gay and nongay at a time.
Plus, James and...
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