A Gay and A NonGay

A Gay and A NonGay

In a time where we're all threatened by a rhetoric of hate from the people in power; A Gay And A NonGay challenges our differences. No matter who you are, or what you're into, gay's and nongay's can & should be friends. 'Highly Recommended' Guardian 'One of the most fundamentally kind and funny podcasts in Britain' RadioTimes 'A hilarious take on love, friendship and sex' TimeOut An independent podcast from James Barr (@imjamesbarr) and Dan Hudson (@DanHudson). Find us on Insta, TikTok, Twitter and Facebook @gaynongay Get bonus content on Patreon, with our super exclusive fan feed

Episodes

Straight Men Behaving Badly...

October 15, 2025 • 17 mins
Why is it that straight men can seemingly never behave themselves in public? That's the discussion on this episode of A Gay And A NonGay! James and Dan are looking at two similarly gross incidents: a concert in New York and a burlesque show in Edinburgh, at both men were ejected because they couldn't keep their thing in their pants. In a debate that ranges from the outrageous to the somewhat facetious, our co-hosts discuss everyt...
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Pride, Refugees & The Politics Of Britishness

October 8, 2025 • 17 mins
We're getting political on this episode of A Gay And A NonGay! Rylan’s controversial comments on immigration - the episode spirals into a fiery debate about misinformation, far-right rhetoric and the way everyday conversations in the UK are shaped by fear rather than facts. From England flags mysteriously appearing on lampposts to Pride merch being vandalised, James and Dan unpack what it really means to be "proud" of your countr...
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Sharing Your Location With A Partner? Think Again!

September 24, 2025 • 27 mins
We're back with a new episode of A Gay And A NonGay! James and Dan are diving into the age-old relationship question: should you share your location with your partner? Dan reveals he doesn't share his location with his girlfriend of 14 years (despite her sharing hers with him)... which James has some strong opinions about! Dan also updates on his viral campaign to rename Birmingham Airport after the late Ozzy Osbourne and we expl...
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Is Liking Pop Music Performative?

September 10, 2025 • 31 mins
James and Dan are back with another hilarious deep dive into gay and non-gay life! Kicking off with a listener question about what gay people really listen to at the gym, things quickly spiral into a heated debate about whether liking Kylie or Madonna is performative — and whether James is secretly pretending to love Drag Race. From there, we head to the rugby, where James (fuelled by Sauvignon Blanc) and Dan find themselves surr...
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Banning Songs At A Wedding?!

September 3, 2025 • 11 mins
James & Dan's Webby Award has finally arrived... and it's going to cost HOW MUCH to get a second one!? They'll be sharing for now! On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James spills the tea about his recent wedding DJ gig that broke the internet because of the banned songs list he was sent! Is this purely straight behaviour? Who has the better taste in music (gays or non-gays)? And should James get into DJing more weddings? All ...
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The Cost of Inauthenticity with Rich Clarke

August 27, 2025 • 38 mins
Get ready for a raw and honest conversation on this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, as James & Dan are joined by broadcaster Rich Clarke to talk about being gay in the public eye. Rich opens up about his decades-long struggle with authenticity - and the breakdown that changed everything. He talks about working on Capital FM in the 2010s and being told he was "too gay"... and ultimately the conversations that led to the deterioratio...
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Regional Gays & Lavender Marriages

August 20, 2025 • 32 mins
We're here for another Summer episode of A Gay And A NonGay. With James at Edinburgh Fringe, we're focusing on the really big questions in life... So, after we debate killing a fly or not, James & Dan are talking about regional gays (who even are they?!), why lavender marriages are making a comeback and the bizarre rules around who gets financial support in relationships. James questions why we don’t just marry our friends, while...
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Wearing A Rucksack With Both Straps

August 13, 2025 • 27 mins
We have our first guest-free episode of A Gay And A NonGay in ages! We're diving into everything from backpack etiquette to Oasis concerts. We kick off with a burning question from their straightest friend: Why did we all believe that wearing a rucksack with both straps was gay? Queue a debate about bags, masculinity and school-era social dynamics. Dan also shares his incredible experience at the Oasis reunion concert, leading t...
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Why History Is Much More Gay Than You Think with Harry Tanner

August 6, 2025 • 43 mins
We're diving in deep with historian and author Harry Tanner on this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay! As a teenager, Harry was an evangelical Christian and came to believe homosexuality was a sin. Now, he lives a fulfilled gay life in London where he writes and teaches ancient languages and history. In his new book - The Queer Thing About Sin - Harry explores how the West invented and weaponised homophobia — tracing its origi...
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Everyone's A Little Self-Obsessed with Eurovision winner JJ

July 30, 2025 • 10 mins
We’re joined by Eurovision royalty on this episode of A Gay And A NonGay — the winner of the 2025 Eurovision Song Contest, JJ! Fresh from Vienna, JJ chats with James and Dan about everything from broken trophies and bubble wrap fails to navigating unrequited love in the queer community. They open up about the struggles of dating when everyone seems a little self-obsessed, the importance of listening to your friends’ red-flag warn...
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Pride, Protest, and Politics with Eva Echo

July 23, 2025 • 29 mins
We have a record-breaker on the podcast this week! It's Eva Echo's third appearance on A Gay And A NonGay, which puts her in a class of her own! Eva is a trans activity, NHS campaigner and is the Director of Innovation at Birmingham Pride. On this episode, James, Dan and Eva talk about pride as a protest amid rising transphobia in UK politics, the recent UK Supreme Court ruling on gender identity and the Download Festival toilet ...
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Staying Sober In The LGBTQ+ Community with Frankie Grande

July 16, 2025 • 27 mins
We have pop royalty on this episode of A Gay And A NonGay as James and Dan are joined by actor, singer and famous brother Frankie Grande! Frankie's new album Hotel Rock Bottom is out now and covers everything from gay joy to his journey to sobriety. In this conversation, James, Dan and Frankie talk about sobriety in the gay community, the evolving nature of Pride and queer representation and the significance of chosen family. Fr...
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Why Do So Many Men Have No Mates? with Max Dickins

July 2, 2025 • 35 mins
On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are joined by author, comedian and honorary sixth straight guest, Max Dickins! Max opens up about the inspiration behind his brilliant book Billy No-Mates — a deep-dive into male friendship sparked by the realisation he had no one to ask to be his best man. Together, they unpack the complexities of male friendships, masculinity, vulnerability, and why so many straight men are st...
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Fighting HIV Stigma with Richard Angell

June 25, 2025 • 36 mins
We’re joined by Richard Angell, OBE and Chief Executive of the Terrence Higgins Trust, on this week's episode of A Gay And A NonGay!  The Terrence Higgins Trust is at the forefront of the fight against HIV, striving for a future where there are no new cases of HIV, where people living with HIV get the support they need and there is good sexual health for all. Richard joins James and Dan to talk about the ongoing fight against HIV...
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Love Yourself Before You Love Another

June 18, 2025 • 22 mins
If you can't love yourself, how can you love anybody else? On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are diving into the importance of self-love this Pride season. From exploring the transactional nature of relationships to discussing how to set expectations and the realities of compromise - we're coming to the realisation that love can look different, and being true to yourself through all of this self-discovery is of ...
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What Is The Male Equivalent of Brunch? with Elf Lyons

June 11, 2025 • 34 mins
We’re joined by the award winning Elf Lyons on this weeks episode of A Gay And A NonGay! She has literally been listed as one of the 50 Funniest Comedians of the 21st Century by The Telegraph, one of the ’20 Names of Now’ by British Vogue and is a multi-Edinburgh Fringe award winner – so you know we’ve got a good one! James, Dan and Elf talk about tackling trauma through comedy, embracing weirdness, flat earth theories, finding c...
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From Awards Ceremonies to Marathons!

June 4, 2025 • 18 mins
On this week’s episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are having a long overdue catch-up to chat about the recent goings on in their lives. From running marathons… to walking through tunnels, and the awkwardness of attending awards ceremonies. James and Dan also reflect on winning the Webby Award for Independent Podcast and give an inside peak into the celebrations! We’ll be back next week with your regularly scheduled prog...
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Gay Bars, Ghosts & Politics with Jeremy Atherton Lin

May 21, 2025 • 31 mins
Gay love stories? We're here for them - especially when they speak to a broader message about the world we live in. Our guest on this episode of A Gay And A NonGay is an expert in this field. Jeremy Atherton Lin is the author of the National Book Critics Circle Award winner Gay Bar: Why We Went Out. His essays have appeared in the Times Literary Supplement and the Yale Review, for which he was a finalist for the National Magazine ...
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We Won A Webby Award!

May 14, 2025 • 14 mins
SEE US LIVE! We're doing a live show at the Kings Head Theatre in London on May 23rd. Visit ⁠⁠⁠wizardradio.lnk.to/tickets⁠⁠⁠ for tickets now. Yes... you read that right! A Gay And A NonGay officially won the Webby for Best Indie Podcast and it's all because of you, our amazing listeners. Please Note - this episode was recorded before the big win, so we still to talk about being nominated. On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay,...
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Letters To My Younger Queer Self with Daniel Harding

May 7, 2025 • 19 mins
If you could tell your younger self anything... what would you say? That's the question that journalist Daniel Harding is answering with his new book Letters To My Younger Queer Self, which includes letters written by the likes of comedian Suzi Ruffell, Nadia Whittome MP, Olympic gymnast Andrew Stamp, TV personality Ella Morgan and more as they reflect on their growth of self-acceptance and the human spirit. On this episode of A ...
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